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I wouldn't worry about it being "weird" as much as I would just make sure it is respectful, honest, and friendly. You are worried about her saying no, or feeling like she can't say no, and then your presence in her workplace gets awkward. That's normal, we've all dealt with that. The fact that you acknowledge that is already a big step in respecting the whole situation. Just speak and carry yourself in a way that allows her to be comfortable making an honest reply of yes or no. An honest and com…
/r/seduction15/10/19 05:20 PM
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Yeah, you're right about it mattering eventually. I'm telling him to go after these women, because they'll be the ones who help him grow and improve. I can also see how I made it seem like it's bad for women to want performance out of men. It's not. We all want it out of our partners. Cheers
/r/seduction26/09/19 03:58 PM
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Well, if that's what she's looking for then I don't have an answer. That's the point of my post. Different women are looking for different things. Plenty of women out there that don't judge the intimacy or worthiness of a man simply by experience and mechanics in bed alone. The women I've been seeing just tell me straight up that they were really attracted to me, and it really didn't matter that much what happened in bed, they just wanted me. I'm telling OP to go out and find THOSE lovely ladies…
/r/seduction26/09/19 03:22 PM
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You really have to find women that aren't going to be shallow enough to reject you because of a lack of experience. This may sound weird, but this was a huge component in changing my personal game and more importantly, my confidence. When I started to get a whiff that a woman might mock me or make fun of me, I'd get turned off by it. I started to become attracted to women based on their behaviors rather than purely out of how hot or pretty they were. Women that proved themselves to be kind and u…
/r/seduction26/09/19 02:58 PM
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Sometimes looking doesn't even do it for me. I have to send a digit or two in for reconnaissance
/r/seduction25/09/19 03:25 PM
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All of that sounds like, in one way or another, you are trying to project confidence. 'I'm not that interested in you, because I've got options, and this makes me confident.' Some women would respond to that, but they've got options too, and their options list is probably a lot longer than yours. I just think that "not interested" approach is a bit dishonest especially if you don't have "options." I think direct interest can be many things. You can be direct with your intentions and at the same …
/r/seduction23/09/19 07:18 PM
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Well, like everything it would just have to come naturally. I think the situation OP is describing is a choice. She asks you what you do, what makes you tick. You have two options: Bleh, OR something that shows you've got a pulse and some sort of drive. Coming into a date with "I love this, I'm passionate about that. Here's all of this awesome stuff I do" isn't natural. I think that's what your point exposes, but as long as the topics of passion and hobbies come up naturally, giving a "bleh" ans…
/r/seduction13/09/19 03:29 PM
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Just a friendly reminder, you can flip this around on women, too. I get my fair share of "bites." Women making moves and showing interest. I realized I was doing the same thing women have to do: I started selecting. I still don't really know what I'm looking for right now, and my selection criteria is . . . confusing at best, but some women really just . . . bore me. So I don't pursue them as much. As a man, the same thing is happening to you, just on a larger and more competitive scale.
/r/seduction06/09/19 07:11 PM
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My guess as well
/r/seduction03/09/19 06:40 PM
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Just this week I had an attractive woman text me "Hi, you're cute" This . . . this was news to me, haha
/r/seduction23/08/19 08:36 PM
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My goodness, thank you. I decided to take this mentality a few months ago, and I was scared that I was doing something wrong, because a lot of people in this community rejected the idea. But it worked. I chose my own standards in women. I don't oggle and drool over them any more, I SELECT them and they must meet my criteria. One of those criteria is being a decent human being, and as a result I don't do shit tests. It's been going great ever since, and I've had more success than I could have ima…
/r/seduction19/08/19 09:00 PM
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It sounds like you are about to make some great progress. One other big break for me (that I still think I'm going through) is to not let women's' opinions get to you. Ask yourself if THEY meet your standards before worrying about if you meet theirs. As you improve yourself, your standards for women will grow, and being denied by certain kinds of women won't mean anything to you anymore.
/r/seduction08/08/19 05:01 PM
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Yeah, it's basically like: Talking to girls is hard, but if you have the balls to talk to one girl, you also have the balls to talk to many others, so do it.
/r/seduction22/07/19 06:25 PM
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Amen Thanks for the confidence boost
/r/seduction17/07/19 08:01 PM
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Finally, someone gets it. I see post after post about how playing the shit game test is a measure of how confident you are. You let her treat you like shit, because you're confident enough for it. But what if I'm confident enough to decline being treated like shit? What if I respect myself too much to let other people use their looks and attractiveness against me? Doesn't that count?
/r/seduction17/07/19 07:43 PM
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All of these I understand, but the first one. What exactly are some ideas for a first date that isn't "formal"? A movie? IDK Sometimes I ask them if they want to come and see me perform at a local bar. Before and after my (quick) set there are drinks and a relaxed atmosphere.
/r/seduction09/07/19 08:27 PM
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Sounds like it's time to learn escalation. There are loads of videos on eye contact, platonic touching, and mildly sexual touching that can charge the interaction with sexual tension. You'll have to get good at reading her body language to make sure you are not crossing any uncomfortable boundaries. Be super respectful with it and try not to go into it with the mentality that it is only you who is being judged/examined. Have standards of your own, and only go after those who meet them.
/r/seduction25/06/19 05:31 PM
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After this point, you need to start attempting to close the deal. If you've already had conversations about how you fancy him, then the dialogue is ready for an escalation. This should end the ambiguity quickly, either by setting up a date, or him declining to see you. Be prepared for both.
/r/seduction17/06/19 05:01 PM
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I basically take it and leave it as needed. Before I "knew seduction" if a girl was into me, I wouldn't exactly know what to do with it, but now I know how to handle it and steer it to the way that we both want it to go. Sometimes I pull out all of the stops with escalation, and other times just being in a nice conversation is enough for the attraction to shine through. Either way, I'm still just me, and whatever I've learned about "the game" is just a set of tools to tweak out the situation.
/r/seduction17/06/19 04:42 PM
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Well, attraction is going to have multiple variables. Maybe her escalation was unattractive to him. It happens. You get an image of someone that you are attracted to, then they do something that changes that image. It's totally possible he's not attracted to her, yes, but you can't throw my theory out. That kind of thing happens a lot.
/r/seduction07/06/19 05:55 PM
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I mean I can't speak for anyone else, but I prefer to treat the whole situation with respect. It turns out better that way. I've had opportunities with women where the attraction was there but for some reason something didn't seem right, so I didn't go forward.
/r/seduction07/06/19 05:52 PM
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Let's all take a moment of silence for our dear sister in the friendzone . . . OP: Take a look at throwawaydeletepenor's comment below, I think if this dude is still texting you he's interested but wants to feel you out. It goes back to the respect thing I mentioned earlier. He may feel like you are low hanging fruit now that you've thrown your cards out on the table, and that might make him feel like he doesn't respect either you or himself if he just dives into this. So, welcome to the guy sid…
/r/seduction06/06/19 06:06 PM
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IDK, he might be in shock, haha I've been mutually kinky in texts with women, and it usually involved a gradual escalation. The difference is that being a woman (I assume that's what you are) there is this expectation for you to not be slutty. It's rather unfair. On the other side, there is an expectation for men to be experienced. I can tell you, first hand, this sucks for guys as well. So maybe this guy was expecting you to be more reserved, then you threw on too big of an escalation that made…
/r/seduction06/06/19 05:45 PM
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I always state that I appreciate their honesty. I understand that it can be difficult sometimes to tell someone "no." I've had to do it,and it's not fun.
/r/seduction03/05/19 05:27 PM
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I don't really have intentions to take my ball and go home, but that's mainly because I don't think the game has to be played this way. Not going to lie, I haven't had a relationship in a while, but the relationships I've had in the past have had their variations of vagueness. I know there are women out there that don't like the game as well since I've dated one or two of those type. One would think that blatantly ignoring the bullshit rules and going after what I want in a tasteful and respectf…
/r/seduction26/04/19 08:14 PM
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The comments on this thread I've seen so far are actually men realizing that women are humans with faults, just like men. "Creepiness" according to this thread has blame for everyone. Men can be genuinely creepy, and women can overreact. Both are faults, both done by humans. I don't know if it's the healthiest outlook on women, but it's certainly healthier than holding them up on a pedestal.
/r/seduction26/04/19 07:49 PM
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Exactly, and I'm not into shit tests. I don't give them shit tests, because that would be dishonest and disrespectful.
/r/seduction25/04/19 04:02 PM
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You can imagine how frustrating it is for a woman who constantly lays hints for a guy who's too unsure of himself to make a move. This is by and far my biggest complaint about "the game" Jesus Fucking Christ, would it kill them to make an actual move? I know I sound butthurt or whatever, but seriously, this is just insanely childish. If you actually like someone, you should make it clear. Laying a hint? Why does it have to be cryptic? Why can't they just be as honest about it as men are?
/r/seduction25/04/19 06:05 AM
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A date I went on a few weeks ago did this to me. I saw her in pictures before the date, so I knew she was attractive to some degree. But then, Jesus Christ, she walked into the restaurant, sat down, started talking, smiling, and looking me in the eye, and I just lost it and blushed. I was actually embarrassed. I hadn't known this lady for all but 90 seconds, and here I am explaining to her that she made me blush.
/r/seduction23/04/19 07:03 PM
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I'm not interested in shit tests
/r/seduction04/04/19 07:53 PM
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Then I guess at this point you just have to judge her sense of humor. She could find it either offensive or just down right funny that you thought you had a shot with her. Obviously you want the latter.
/r/seduction27/06/18 07:20 PM
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I've had older women flirt with me, an I knew that ANY flirting back would have given them the green light to escalate. Does it seem like she's flirting with you at all? Flirting back will pretty much seal the deal if she's into you, but if you flirt back and it goes a bit wrong (she's not into you), you can always say that there was a miscommunication "oh my goodness, I'm so sorry, I thought you were flirting with me." I think that will smooth everything over and allow the both of you to laugh …
/r/seduction27/06/18 07:01 PM
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So, as far as trying to be impressive or show off, what happens when the topic of the conversation moves to something about you that she might find cool, interesting, or impressive? Her: "I really like Queen. They're my favorite band." Me: "Oh, yeah, I like them, too. I recently picked up a gig as the guitarist for a Queen show down at the local theater. It's been really fun." Would that be too pushy?
/r/seduction07/06/18 07:24 PM
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Reverse it on her. "Oh, I'm flattered, but I'm not looking for a relationship either." It's a little bit of a dick move, but it kind of gets her back for assuming she's hot shit by implying that you're hot shit as well. If you really want to be friends with her and hang out like a dude, then consider this little jab as the first joke you two can rag on each other and bond over. Friends grill each other all the time.
/r/seduction07/05/18 08:41 PM
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Totally agree with this. My problem, however, is the most interesting thing (in my opinion) that I do is skiing, and a picture of me skiing involves most of my face being covered and a jacket that makes me look like the Michelin Man. Maybe a picture with my bad-ass guitar instead.
/r/seduction21/03/18 04:21 PM
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I wouldn't say that the introvert/extrovert thing is a lie, but I would say that learning the benefits of both can help a lot. Introverted behavior really helps focus your mind. Extroverted behavior gives you access to other people's attention. I can be introverted all I want for my own sense of peace, but I've learned that if I want attention of any kind, I need to act extroverted from time to time.
/r/seduction21/12/17 06:50 AM
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"Outside Woman Blues" - Blind Joe Reynolds "That's Alright" - Arthur Crudup "Little Maggie" - Stanley Brothers
/r/seduction21/12/17 06:45 AM
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As an introvert, I feel your pain. One thing I'd say is don't think of being extroverted as being a loud and busy center of attention. Just see it as opening up to people and being inviting. Being an introvert at a social gathering is stressful, because you don't want attention attracted to you, which I understand, as I live it every day. But if you can find some way to open up to people on an individual level, that can go a really long way. For example last week I was at an open mic night (musi…
/r/seduction21/12/17 12:26 AM
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they have the same concerns you do when interacting with the opposite sex. Thanks, I'll try to keep that in mind.
/r/seduction20/12/17 09:11 PM
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Directions unclear: Murdered my date
/r/seduction20/12/17 03:54 PM
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online dating is a wasteland of platitudes and "curvy" Holy shit, if that ain't the truth. They're all "social drinkers" too, right?
/r/seduction20/12/17 03:51 PM
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Man have the power (if done right) of always leading the interaction, leading where it is going (this takes a little skill to learn). That's one way to look at it. I'll try to work on that. Is there usually a progression of topics, emotions, or situations that men use to "lead" a conversation, or is it just mostly off the cuff (takes a while to learn)?
/r/seduction20/12/17 04:36 AM
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I second this. I've got problems with my "life" just as much as your average person, but that really isn't the thing I'm after. If a woman is going to think less of me, as a person, because of my pay rate then that tells me all I need to know about her. I'm not asking for a bombshell successful lawyer who speaks nine different languages, and I think most women know I'm not a male model. I just want someone I can connect with and I find attractive. I feel like there are plenty of those women out …
/r/seduction20/12/17 04:32 AM
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Fair enough
/r/seduction20/12/17 04:23 AM
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