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Communicate you're disappointment to him. Period. He might just not want to make decisions that you wouldn't be cool with, or he might be a low effort guy. Regardless of him being nice or not, what do you want? If you want a man that takes initiative then tell him that, if he can't do that, he's not a good fit for you. You're not that invested in the relationship yet (3 dates), it's easier to depart now once you understand what you need and what he can or cannot give you. "How do I politely tell…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/25 05:34 PM
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Correct. If he's worried about bystanders judging that his woman is paying for him than it seems like he has a very narrow view of what it means to be a man and at that point masculinity for him is just a performance (the whole slipping your card to him under the table) for everyone rather than being authentically who you are. This would be a red flag for me because caring that much about what others think on such a trivial topic seems like he would be a very insecure man which is not attractive…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 09:05 PM
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It's also what both partners sacrifice to be in an exclusive relationship. Inherent in being in a committed relationship is the fact that BOTH people are sacrificing their opportunities to be with someone else and tbh women have WAY more options.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 04:56 PM
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Yep. I got banned from xxchromosomes...how dare I be curious about another POV!
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 05:03 AM
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Yeah, unfortunately big lips are now synonymous with a porn star face. Although, if you're still dressing the same way and you were cute/innocent before, it seems like adding the lip fillers made you more intimidating to men cuz now you're cute and sexy, and that's a package all men want, but VERY few get. If you're personality is warm and friendly, you just got to find a guy confident enough to be with you without putting you down or making you feel bad about yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 05:31 AM
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He was just insecure and trying to make you feel shitty. If your features make you stand out, he was probably feeling inferior. Don't let this fool doubt yourself. If one man's terrible opinion made you feel like you need to change your look or adjust it at all what you should really be working on is your self-esteem. Know your worth. The most important thing is that YOU like how you look.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 05:15 AM
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I mean from her story we can at least deduce that he does NOT respect femininity and feminine things like doing your make up. He clearly looks down on it and what's worse is that he's teaching their sons to disrespect femininity. " I know there is something I can do differently to help or to make myself not feel bad when he does this." There is something you can do. You can talk to him and tell him how those comments make you feel. As your husband who loves and cares about you, your feelings sho…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 06:00 AM
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Good God. Girl, he is walking all over you. He literally does not have the ability to say "sorry" because he's emotionally immature and no amount of giving him what he wants or needs will change that fact, that's something he needs to come to terms with on his own, but the only way he will is if he's forced and honestly if you left him tomorrow, it still wouldn't force him because he already knows he has you wrapped around his little finger. This man is not going to change for you. What you need…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 08:25 PM
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Sorry to hear about the lacking of love from your parents. Kudos to you for being self-aware and working on it!
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 05:28 PM
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Sounds like he's had a mother or father who's abandoned him and this is how his abandonment wound is manifesting. Instead of being vulnerable and reaching out to you, which feels dangerous to him, he wants you to be needy with him because that is what will make him feel safe and secure and give him the reassurance he needs that you won't abandon him too. If this is the case, I'm sure he's unaware of all of it. Unfortunately, this is something he'll have to work on himself cuz it's his trauma and…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 04:58 AM
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This could be helpful for you: https://www.instagram.com/p/CbA53X9Pw3d/ But sounds like he is a narcissist with some effective gaslighting skills that's making you feel like you're the problem. With narcs you can't have a discussion, they will never admit they're wrong and try to change.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 05:46 AM
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Yes, they are aware of what they're sacrificing, but I wonder about their "why" they choose to sacrifice. Is it because they are truly altruistic or have they deluded themselves into thinking that so they don't have to think about the opposite which is that perhaps maybe they aren't brave enough to truly be vulnerable with someone? Also, instead of being subservient to motherhood, it seems like this woman is subservient to her charity. In either scenario, it would seem as though women/people fin…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/20 08:45 PM
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I always offer to split the bill when it comes, but whether or not he takes me up on the offer is what tells me all I need to know. It's what paying for me symbolizes which is that you're serious about me and have good intentions. I don't expect him to pick up the bill all the time and if there is a second date I always insist on picking up the bill to also show that I'm serious about him. At the end of the day, I want a partnership where we both take care of each other.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/20 08:50 PM
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Oh, I just mean to validate, recognize and accept the femininity they hold within themselves. I don't think it's men learning to be a bit more feminine, I think it's men permitting themselves the freedom to express the femininity they already hold within themselves.I say this because it's the men who typically feel shame for their feminine qualities.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/20 06:36 AM
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Agreed. I've thought about this a lot and I'm not sure what the answer is here. I think feminists got it wrong. Instead of saying look, femininity is this beautiful strength that lies in all of us and while it's different from masculinity it does not mean that it's any less equal; they said we're just as equal as the men and we will show them we are just as equal by emulating and emphasizing our masculine traits. By doing this, feminists subconsciously rejected their own femininity and pushed it…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 08:37 PM
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I think men learning to accept and value their femininity as a strength would would signal to society that femininity has it's place just like masculinity and while they're different, they are equal. It's a trickle down effect, if more men accept and value and are proud of their femininity, especially if it were the stereotypical alpha men, then other men would then also be able to do accept it and value it in themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 08:20 PM
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Interesting. Definitely ideas worth entertaining here. Paul wrote in Ephesians 5:33 that a husband must love his wife and a wife must respect her husband. As a woman, I used to feel annoyed at this idea, but through my experience, I know that in order for me to really be attracted to and fall in love w/ a man, I have to respect him first. But maybe that's just me. Femininity has really been demonized by our society which is partly why I think feminists are out for vengeance. Masculinity was/is r…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 07:05 AM
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"It just hurts that I can get along so well with my older male professors and that they love talking to me, but my own dad doesn't even want to get to know me. " It isn't about you. It's about him. The fact that "Jingle All the Way" is his favorite movie speaks volumes. I'd imagine have a domineering wife makes him feel belittled, so he probably holds a lot of insecurities about not being good enough for you. I'd assume that's why he doesn't engage with you, he's probably terrified you think he'…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/20 06:30 AM
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Honestly, it doesn't sound like you guys are dating, there's no physical affection, but it's exactly physical affection that makes two people more than friends. She clearly has a lot of red flags, but if you feel like God is calling you to help her through her trauma that's great, do it. But perhaps do it in a friend context, not in a "dating one." For a trauma victim, I think the word "dating" sets up a lot of expectations that she is probably not remotely able to handle or comprehend. You shou…
/r/RPChristians17/04/20 08:51 PM
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Or in China during the one child policy where they were murdering baby girls because boys are more desirable/valuable. There are lots of example of men and women being de-valued all over the world because of their gender. However, this shouldn't be a competition of which sex has it worse (if that's what it becomes than everyone will lose), it should be one of unity where both sexes work together for equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 08:21 PM
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So, you have a plan to get pregnant in the next 2 years? Is it concrete? Is there a specific timeline? If not, talk to the hubby, make a plan with a specified timeline. Specifying the year/ month should help you by allowing you to let go of your sadness now. Just a suggestion...I was reading a book with a woman in your same predicament and that helped her immensely and put her mind at ease in the present, so just thought I'd throw it out there.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/20 07:49 AM
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I love how your response addresses the why behind this domineering behavior. We're all susceptible to this false belief that only perfection is worthy of love and it's something we must learn to let go of. Once we accept the flaws in ourselves (that we're hopefully working on), we'll be able to have more compassion for others and their flaws. Such a wise, yet compassionate response :) Although, I must confess that I still detest the word "submissive," and instead like to use "go with the flow." …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/20 04:29 PM
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Based on what you said earlier about how men find the child-like aspect attractive in their spouse, it sounds like you're scared of being forced into the disciplinary role and in so doing, losing the attractive child-like aspect which then makes you question how he'll feel about you then.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/20 08:28 PM
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Oh I see. Well, hopefully he'll learn that sometimes you'll have to disappoint them or not give into them because as a parent you know what's best for them in the long run. I will say that I think same sex parents tend to be harder on their child just because unlike their opposite sex parents they have to teach them how to be a female or male in the world. Congrats on starting your family! Sounds like you'll both make lovely parents, he might not be a disciplinarian, but he'll adore her and have…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/20 08:11 PM
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The way that you wrote this out had me thinking that YOU feel worried about the role in your husband's life when your daughter arrives, almost as if you will be competing with her for his attention/ special place in his heart. I could be completely off (it's just an intriguing observation) but it is interesting that when you listed the similarities you'll have with your daughter you put yourself in the child-like role instead of a partner like role (who has equal power/importance) you listed: bo…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/20 07:44 PM
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Wow. That is so judgmental and hurtful. Those opinions invalidate your truth which is that you feel that your life would be most meaningful if you were to have a husband and family. Please don't allow their opinions to dim your path to fulfillment or make you feel shameful for not wanting a high paying career. You know yourself better than anyone. It's perfectly acceptable to prioritize having a family over a career. There are so many people who don't know what they want, so feel blessed that yo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/19 11:45 PM
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Exactly. That's what I was pointing out. Both need to enjoy the activity and can't hold the other hostage to doing what they want to do, that's selfish. So, find a common interest.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/19 06:27 PM
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I was in a long term relationship and felt the same way about him as you do your husband. And like you I felt guilty about it, I felt bad because I knew he didn't feel wanted, but my body rejected all of his advances (like physically, at one point I thought I might have vaginismus and then I thought oh I don't want to have sex with him because of that...WRONG!). I think it takes our minds (or at least mine) a long time to catch up to what our bodies are feeling. My bf eventually broke up with me…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/19 06:23 PM
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Tell him you'll play video games then you guys can go get your nails done or do something YOU like to do. Fair is fair.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/19 05:43 PM
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Follow your heart. You're going to be a wonderful mother! Hope, you and the hubby build a beautiful family :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 05:04 AM
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Yes, JP explains the "why" behind simple actions/behaviors.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/19 06:07 PM
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Most guys I know, don't care what their significant others do/earn. In fact, in most cases, they could care less as long as they like the girl. I think they might actually take joy in knowing they out earn you, I suspect it probably makes them feel manly, like they have the means to support you if need be, and I think a lot of guys take pride in that. As for the much better at conversation than you, I assume this is in a group setting, since he likes you and obviously finds your convo's engaging…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/19 06:51 AM
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Why do you feel like he's better than you?
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/19 02:06 AM
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That seems like such an over reaction to such a small transgression. He knows you didn't do it intentionally, so is it REALLY what triggered him or is it something else and this is what set him off?
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/19 03:50 AM
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This is so sad to read :( Being born a man isn't a sin! I'm glad this sub is helping you. Don't know if you've been introduced to Jordan Peterson, but I feel like his ideas and perspective would really resonate with you. Here's a short video of him discussing the role of men with feminist Camillia Paglia: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s1tS7ylRVHw
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/19 07:43 PM
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Out of curiosity, what would you rate him in the looks category?
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 04:20 PM
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I think watching this would be super helpful..... tread lightly with this type of mother. Good luck! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=50FbeazFkgs
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 04:24 AM
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That totally makes sense, but this sounds like a self-worth issue, not a submissive issue. You're trying to protect yourself and you don't want to risk being open/vulnerable with someone who might not love you back. It sounds like you have to get to a place where you don't just think you're valuable and worthy of love, you KNOW you are. Once you get to that place, it won't matter if they love you back, you'll know you're worthy of love, so you'll move on to someone who does love you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 03:31 PM
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Why do you think you have to be submissive? Why can't you both be equal partners? I agree with you, submissiveness implies a child like relationship. I don't think real men want a child, and vice versa for women. It's not easy for me to be emotionally vulnerable either. In fact, it scares the sh$* out of me. I've always had a problem with the idea of women being submissive and I think that's the wrong way to think you (or anyone else) needs to be in a relationship. For me, it's not about being s…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 03:14 PM
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If there is no such thing as a female and male brain then why do trans people exist?
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 09:42 PM
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