weseekharmony Archive

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4	Any other Fascinating Womanhood wives out there? I could be entirely wrong about all of this, of course! But in my opinion/experience, people get very defensive when they're called out publicly. Is she a good person at heart with good intentions, do you think? If so, I think it would be kinder to avoid shaming her, at least in the beginning. If she totally mocks you and refuses to acknowledge your feelings even after it's been brought up privately a few times, then maybe the same strategy in public might work? Just saying that a specific comme…	/r/RedPillWives	12/05/22 12:09 PM
2	Any other Fascinating Womanhood wives out there? Thank you, it's something that I'm definitely striving to be better at! I went through childhood and early adulthood being self-aware but catastrophizing other people's reactions due to severe anxiety ("I made a joke that was a little rude, now they'll NEVER SPEAK TO ME AGAIN" type of thing), so I'm trying to level it out to where I'm actually aware of others' feelings instead of just imposing my own anxiety-based terror onto them. We're all works in progress! I'm sorry that you're going through…	/r/RedPillWives	11/05/22 11:01 PM
19	Any other Fascinating Womanhood wives out there? I'm trying my best! I have been reading through the book the last few weeks, and am trying to really step back and think about how I talk to my husband. He already handled all the finances and works full-time while I stay home and do some craft work here and there, so that part of our lives was fairly in line with the book already. But my goodness, the specific examples that she gives about communication and support are really helping me. I realized that while I was good at complimenting my husb…	/r/RedPillWives	11/05/22 03:35 PM
2	Tea Time Thank you so much for your perspective on Proper Care! I definitely think you're right that it could be a good intro. Suffering verbal abuse during my parents' nasty divorce has always made me very conscious of how I express my negative emotions to other people, as I never want to repeat that cycle or make others feel the way I felt then. So I happen to be very lucky that I already have that perspective on things, even if comes from negative experiences. As far as Fascinating Womanhood goes, I'm…	/r/RedPillWives	05/05/22 09:06 PM
2	Tea Time I finished reading "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" today and was... underwhelmed, overall. I feel like it could maybe be a good jumping-off point for people who are struggling in their relationship and need nudging towards the RPW toolkit. I came at it as someone who is new to the RPW terminology but who had been unknowingly living my relationship in a fairly RPW-friendly way, and it just didn't add very much for me. I'm onto "Fascinating Womanhood" now and enjoying that quite a bit mo…	/r/RedPillWives	05/05/22 05:33 PM
2	Tea Time I hope you feel better soon! Enjoy your Instacart, you deserve it.	/r/RedPillWives	05/05/22 05:25 PM
3	Hubby/Boyfriend/SO gratitude chain? What a nice thing for your boyfriend to do! That's so sweet of him. I had shown my husband a dress I wanted ages ago, but it's so far out of our budget at the moment (one of those lovely cottagecore linen dresses that costs around $200). But he's been working a lot of overtime lately so he'll qualify for an end-of-year bonus, and when I asked him what he was planning to do with the money, the first thing he said was that I should get "one of those dresses, or two if you want it in different colo…	/r/RedPillWives	03/05/22 03:06 PM
6	Tea Time This post hurt my heart; I'm new to RPW, but it's so clear from your post that you are hurting. My husband and I are childfree, half by circumstances and half by choice, so I could never understand the pain of what you're going through. I have been a teacher of a wide group of ages, so my comments later on in the post are very much based around that experience. I do think that stating your desire and then relinquishing control of the situation to your husband sounds like a positive one. The expe…	/r/RedPillWives	02/05/22 06:15 PM