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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Clothing is a language, no? You are correct that clothing is a language, BUT like any language, it comes with wildly different dialects and interpretations. I suppose that might be where the anger from your gf came from. Language is less than precise and the language of clothes can be very imprecise, so repeatedly asserting that "clothes are language" makes it seems as if there is one "clothes" language spoken by everyone, everywhere in the world, when there really is not.	/r/MensRights	08/09/14 11:46 PM
3	I circumcised my son, now I regret it. Seconded. A lot of what you do as a parent is high stakes. You make the best decisions you can at the time that decision must be made. Beating yourself up over it after the fact won't help you or your kid. Try to focus on learning from this experience. Maybe try to think of the long term implications of your decisions rather than the short term or status quo the next time you face a big decision. Also, as a kid of non-perfect parents, I DID feel angry with some of the life decisions they made fo…	/r/MensRights	11/06/14 10:18 PM
0	After three waves of feminism why are men still obligated to spend three months of salary on expensive engagement rings? We may not be a large group, but there are women who truly do not want a big, expensive ring. I bet most women want SOME ring for the sentimental value, but that doesn't need to be a diamond or something worth 3 months salary. My husband proposed to me with a two dollar bill (change from the meal we shared on our first date) oragami folded in to a ring. That meant more to me than any fancy ring. I have a wedding ring, but that was pretty cheap because we used stones from my grandmother's old jew…	/r/MensRights	03/04/14 08:06 PM
1	Noted author on feminism acknowledges that men face double standards when it comes to gender role expectations. (near end of article) Amen. Let people do what they are best at as individuals. I would make a shitty mother, housewife or caregiver, but I'm one hell of a book publisher. My neighbor down the block is an awesome stay at home dad to three little girls and can school most women in the kitchen any day. Our ability to work to our respective strengths makes the world a better place for everyone.	/r/MensRights	28/03/14 10:45 PM
1	Elderly White Men Afflicted by High Suicide Rates [These men are also eight times more likely to kill themselves than are women of the same age group] Yeah, it all comes down to the individual's situation. In another comment, I talked about how my dad has leukemia and his initial reaction was that he should just die rather than continue treatment. Our family has good insurance and is fairly well off, so it's not like he's going to be a financial burden to anyone. He also has a big, loving family who are ready to provide physical/ emotional support. Now that he has had time to come to grips with his diagnosis, he's all about living and is excit…	/r/MensRights	04/03/14 11:37 PM
0	Elderly White Men Afflicted by High Suicide Rates [These men are also eight times more likely to kill themselves than are women of the same age group] I agree that it's important to have dignity in death, but it's also important to be making a death with dignity decision in a reasoned manner. To me that means not a spur of the moment decision or one that is made just after the loss of a loved one or diagnosis of a disease. I don't think suicide is necessarily part of being a man, but I do think that men don't get (or are socially discouraged from using) the sort of help they need in making those decisions. I see posts on here all the time abou…	/r/MensRights	04/03/14 10:10 PM
3	What should I say to this? The phrase "unwanted sexual advances" is FAR too vague. An unwanted sexual advance could be anything from saying "Hey, let's hang out sometime!" to grabbing someone's hair and saying "Suck my dick!" That's just too much to all be counted as the same thing.	/r/MensRights	04/03/14 09:53 PM
0	Elderly White Men Afflicted by High Suicide Rates [These men are also eight times more likely to kill themselves than are women of the same age group] One quibble: is there such a thing as a "typical housewife" anymore? This isn't the 1950's. A large portion of women still work, even when they are married and have kids and they're subject to the same hierarchical structures you list as limiting the control men have over their lives. We can play the oppression Olympics all day long, so I guess that point is a wash. In answer to u/topjimmy100 I tried to be more clear about personal control of your own body as it relates to aging: I'm only talkin…	/r/MensRights	04/03/14 09:39 PM
-2	Elderly White Men Afflicted by High Suicide Rates [These men are also eight times more likely to kill themselves than are women of the same age group] I'm only talking about in terms of aging/ self-sufficiency. Men seem like they have had less periods in their life where they allowed themselves to rely on others/ get help with basic tasks. When they age and need help driving or walking or whatever, they don't learn to cope - they give up and die. *Also: I don't mean that as a judgement on people who choose suicide. Sometimes the challenges are too much to face.	/r/MensRights	04/03/14 07:55 PM
-6	Elderly White Men Afflicted by High Suicide Rates [These men are also eight times more likely to kill themselves than are women of the same age group] I posted a wall of text below and gave my theory on that question: My point here is that maybe white men are people who have had the most control over their lives up until they hit old age and when the inevitable problems of old age hit, they aren't well prepared to deal with them. Women in that same age group have had to deal with bodily malfunctions/ inconveniences since puberty (monthly periods, pregnancy, breastfeeding, miscarriage, hormonal shifts with birth control, menopause, hormone repl…	/r/MensRights	04/03/14 07:43 PM
2	Elderly White Men Afflicted by High Suicide Rates [These men are also eight times more likely to kill themselves than are women of the same age group] The section about lack of resilience/ coping skills is very interesting, especially when you talk about aging. As you age, you experience LOTS of new and terrible situations that you must learn to cope with. Your friends and spouses die. Your body breaks down. You look death in the face. Example: My 68 year old father (white) was recently diagnosed with an acute form of leukemia. Even with the best treatment, there's only a 20% chance that he will be alive by this time next year. If he does live…	/r/MensRights	04/03/14 07:39 PM
6	As a single guy, I'm really not interested in pursuing someone who wants to be a SAHM. Are there any other single guys that feel the same? I second the idea of finding a woman with a career she is passionate about. Not a job - a career. Something that she would still be interested in following (maybe not working in) even if y'all won the lottery or something. I'm a married woman working in publishing and I the only way I would give up my career would be to care for a critically ill family member or my husband. My husband was un/under employed for about two years and I supported our household. It was no fun and money was tight, but …	/r/MensRights	26/02/14 09:01 PM
1	Woman struggles with a heavy bag on airplane, is surprised when man doesn't offer to help. Welcome to equality. Yeah, when I'm traveling for my own reasons, I have all kinds of tricks like the backpack thing. The trouble is when I have to travel for work and need to keep all my heavy/bulky tech crap with me lest it get delayed or lost with in checked baggage. If the airlines loses my presentation equipment, then I will have flown from San Diego to Singapore for no reason.	/r/MensRights	25/02/14 06:46 PM
2	Woman struggles with a heavy bag on airplane, is surprised when man doesn't offer to help. Welcome to equality. Don't forget about us height-challenged folks. I'm right around 5 feet tall and even though I can lift my bag, I'd need Harlem Globe Trotter level dunking skills to get it up in the overhead cabin. That said, I always ASK for help from a tall person (male or female) when I need it.	/r/MensRights	24/02/14 11:34 PM
1	60 Minutes admits feminism has stifled scientific research which is now showing the genders are very different on a cellular level. Also, a lot of initial studies require that the participant be on NO other prescription medications - that includes hormonal birth control of any type. In an era when a large number of women are using either the pill, an implant or an IUD with hormones, that excludes a lot of female participants. Trust me, I needed extra cash in college, but I couldn't be a lab rat unless I was willing to risk pregnancy in order to get a few extra dollars.	/r/MensRights	18/02/14 11:30 PM
2	Watch DOGS (Dads of Great Students) is a program promoting father involvement and male role-models in elementary schools nationwide. Resources inside for those interested in getting involved with/creating a local group. Yes, I think this is more of a generational thing. More younger men are interested in elementary education and being trained to move in to those jobs. It will just be a few more years before we can see the shift in the classroom.	/r/MensRights	18/02/14 11:08 PM
1	From woman to man to red pill It's not evidence some kind of systemic, planned oppression (honestly, I don't think there is organized, systemic oppression of women in developed nations today), but it is evidence that some guys believe screaming sexual demands at women is good thing to do - and that's a problem for everyone. It increases the paranoia and fear women have around their physical safety, especially their sexual safety and the social perception of their sexuality. That paranoia leads to problems for men - some of t…	/r/MensRights	11/02/14 08:39 PM
1	From woman to man to red pill I'm not complaining that he drove off - I'm confused as to why he yelled at me in the first place or what he hoped to get out of that interaction. If he wanted to let me know how much he likes my tits, so what? I don't care what he thinks. I don't want his unsolicited opinion. The fact that he yelled and drove off tells me he doesn't care what I think either, so why is he yelling at me? I doesn't make sense. Also: tits are not sacred objects, but I don't think it's unreasonable to feel a little …	/r/MensRights	11/02/14 08:23 PM
2	From woman to man to red pill Sorry, if but I'm walking down the street and a truck drives by me with a guy leaning out the window who screams "SHOW ME YO TITTIES!" I'm not accepting that as a reasonable display of sexual interest. And yes, that happened. It was 8pm. I was walking my dogs and wearing jeans and a tee-shirt. *edit: I'm not saying I was a victim in that scenario or that I was particularly upset by it. I just wanted to point out that some of the unwanted advances women complain about are completely outside the r…	/r/MensRights	10/02/14 11:53 PM
3	From woman to man to red pill It depends on the woman (if you're young and hot, it's far more likely) and on the location (country/ city/ neighborhood), but it does happen fairly regularly. It's difficult for guys to see because catcalling comes from a small number of vocal jerks. Also, women don't get catcalled/ honked at if they have a man with them, so it's pretty easy for a guy to have never witness this phenomena.	/r/MensRights	10/02/14 08:56 PM
1	From woman to man to red pill I agree that displaying yourself in a sexually desirable way is indiscriminate, but the water gets a little murky when you try to define that "sexually desirable display." Most of us could agree that fuck me pumps + mini skirt + cleavage = sex display. But what about wearing yoga pants (post work out/ no time to change) to pick up some milk at the market? What about wearing shorts and a tank top when it's 100+ degrees outside? What about wearing a regular (non-string bikini) bathing suit at the …	/r/MensRights	10/02/14 05:42 PM
5	I'm exhausted with being the breadwinner. I feel for you. I'm in a similar situation and I'm female. On paper, my husband looks like the guy who should have all the earning potential our household (Computer Science degree, programmer, PMP certified), but he was laid off by Boeing a few years back and has had a lot of difficulty finding a similar level of job. He's working, but earning way less than his potential. I've been at the same company for 13 years, learned a lot of new skills and kept climbing. Now I make almost twice what my hu…	/r/MensRights	01/02/14 12:13 AM
3	Fourth consecutive year: I have been drafted to organize a Women in Science program (to promote STEM). Sorry. Thanks for the thoughtful answer, u/guywithaccount. I agree that growing the movement is the first concrete step to being taken seriously. The smaller your numbers, the more easy it is to dismiss a group as "fringe." Part of the problem seems to be that very few people (male or female) want to be associated with the mens rights movement. There's a lot of anger (a lot of it justified) and it doesn't feel very welcoming. I've got a thicker skin than most, so I can participate in discussion in this…	/r/MensRights	18/01/14 12:27 AM
2	Fourth consecutive year: I have been drafted to organize a Women in Science program (to promote STEM). Sorry. Already here and advocating!	/r/MensRights	17/01/14 11:54 PM
2	Fourth consecutive year: I have been drafted to organize a Women in Science program (to promote STEM). Sorry. Say you are right that the sole factor at work here is feminism. What would you propose as something that can be done to counteract the feminist agenda? I ask because in reading this sub I hear a lot of anger, but not many ideas about how to change things. I'd like to see progress in mens rights, but I can't really see a path as to how we get from here to there.	/r/MensRights	17/01/14 11:08 PM
3	Fourth consecutive year: I have been drafted to organize a Women in Science program (to promote STEM). Sorry. I'm with you on that anger. The best reason I can see I for this sorry lack (other than the misguided idea that men don't require help) is that a lot of the fields that are woman dominated are low paying and low prestige, even for women. What politician would want to be associated with a program to get men in to a field where the average salary is 30k a year? Or a field (like childcare or elementary education)where the common assumption is that they must be homosexual, a child molester or BOTH i…	/r/MensRights	17/01/14 10:40 PM
6	Intresting point made on Disney's Frozen Don't forget that halfway through the number the trolls (?) start noticing the problems with Anna - starting with the fact that she has a fiance - and start calling her a "fixer upper" too. I thought they were also trying to do a pun on the whole idea of "fixing up" couples to date/ marry. Like, not taking any notice of what two individuals actually want or who they are and just operating on the "He's a boy! She's a girl! They should get married!" logic that some families have.	/r/MensRights	17/01/14 09:57 PM
6	Fourth consecutive year: I have been drafted to organize a Women in Science program (to promote STEM). Sorry. First, I'm 100% on board with the idea of programs to help men advance or get a foot in the door in areas that are woman dominated (elementary education, nursing, dental assisting, med tech). It's sorely lacking and hurts everyone. It also allows old stereotypes about what appropriate "men's work" to flourish. The women outnumbering men in college stat you cite is correct (at least by my research), but that is for overall college programs. What is it for women in STEM programs? My understanding …	/r/MensRights	17/01/14 09:38 PM
6	Can Male Birth Control Save Humanity? Reversible male birth control would help the male gender immensely Not all women want children and not all women who do want children want to (or need to) force a man in to procreating.	/r/MensRights	16/01/14 10:42 PM
7	All due apologies to the "men are unnecessary" crowd, having too many women in proportion to men is bad for a community The Deseret News is a Mormon owned newspaper that serves as a mouthpiece for the Mormon church. I'm kinda surprised that no one has noticed the source on this.	/r/MensRights	15/01/14 09:04 PM
3	So you think he's cheating? ( xpost r/shitcosmosays) I'm not advocating for ANY of the actions listed in this stupid piece, but honesty, would a cheating partner actually tell you if you confronted them? I doubt it. I suspected something was up with my cheating ex-boyfriend (3 years in to the relationship) and offered a kind of trial separation (I'd move out of the shared apartment, give him space or whatever) and he got down on his knees and begged me to stay. Now I know it wasn't because he cared - it because he couldn't afford rent on his own.	/r/MensRights	15/01/14 06:46 PM
1	Woman compares working in tech to being African-American slave Yeah, she's certifiable but an EXCELLENT cook. All her business is take-out because no one makes the mistake of sitting down at her place more than once. Sometimes we just come in and ask for a to go plate of whatever she feels like making. Last time we did that she gave us fresh tilapia grilled with sweet chili paste and some kind of fried rice with seaweed and sesame flavor.	/r/MensRights	05/01/14 07:09 PM
4	Woman compares working in tech to being African-American slave If you know how to do more than log in to Netflix you're a "hacker" to like, 75% of Americans.	/r/MensRights	03/01/14 10:38 PM
7	Woman compares working in tech to being African-American slave I'll bite on that first question. I'm a woman who is unable to have children due to cervical cancer. Here's trick - I didn't want to have kids even before the cancer. I don't think anyone aside from my mother and mother-in-law are actively judging me for not having kids. The hard part is that so many people feel free to comment or advise on a woman's childbearing status. Sure women can have careers and be in academics and politics and sports but it's just assumed that we all want babies too. Eve…	/r/MensRights	03/01/14 10:36 PM
3	I hear "all men are rapists" so much that I don't even want to have sex anymore Yeah, my first question on reading your post was, "Who the hell is this guy hanging out with?" When you have a choice, choose to be around people who are sane, supportive and fun.	/r/MensRights	03/01/14 10:09 PM
1	TIME: 2nd and 3rd wave feminism hurts society Hmm. I guess we have a different definition of "social change." When I use that phrase I mean a change to: laws, social institutions, social behaviours, or social relations. Basically, the regulations around daily life that are enforced by the government and society. To me, "community building" is great, but doesn't do much for you if that community is still not treated equally under the law and in practice. Yes, there is always a rebound to social change - we see the pendulum swing from grantin…	/r/MensRights	17/12/13 06:46 PM
-1	TIME: 2nd and 3rd wave feminism hurts society Aannnnnddd... Nazis. Do you really think the millions of women (and good number of men) who still think feminism is a good thing in general are on par with murderers, torturers and terrorists? Do you really think fighting them is necessary when persuasion is cheap, easy and effective? This sort of inflated rhetoric can make you feel good, but it doesn't do much to change anything. Honestly, I'd rather see things change for the better. *Edit: Wow, I hope the downvotes don't really represent this …	/r/MensRights	17/12/13 03:11 PM
-1	TIME: 2nd and 3rd wave feminism hurts society How old are you? I ask because I'm curious about your experience with trying to accomplish big goals in the real world. Any kind of change, especially societal change, takes some level of agreement between the participating agents. Not everyone has to agree, but enough people have to agree to enact the change and make it stick. Your willingness to discard anyone who doesn't 100% agree with your cause because "they are not worth convincing" makes it hard to get enough people on board to make chan…	/r/MensRights	17/12/13 03:03 PM
2	PINK IS NOT THE PROBLEM (The Big Picture) It seems like it hurts men, in that it closes off "feminine" things to men. Men can't be emotional (emotions are girly and weak), men can't be stay-at-home dads (child rearing and homemaking are not what smart or talented people choose to do), men can't teach/ mentor/ coach young kids (spending time with kids is low-paying, work for underachievers. The only reason a man would want to do it is 'cause he's a pedophile). Stop demonizing the feminine and boys have more options in life.	/r/MensRights	16/12/13 11:45 PM
20	TIME: 2nd and 3rd wave feminism hurts society Do you realize that the most effective way to convince a person to change their behavior is to convince the person that a change will benefit them? The argument "value men and masculinity because it benefits everyone (including important benefits to women)" is more persuasive than "value men and masculinity because it benefits only men" or "value men and masculinity because I said so."	/r/MensRights	16/12/13 11:11 PM
1	Found this in /r/pics I sometimes can't believe people get away with this shit I'd write in the pages and put it back on the shelf for the next customer to find. Subvert the shit out it. Write questions like "Is this assumption fair to men?" "Do you SERIOUSLY think your dad, grandfather, brother, husband or friends think about nothing but sex?"	/r/MensRights	12/12/13 03:59 PM
1	The feminism club at my school is hosting a discussion on sexism against males. I'd like to bring some strong examples, preferably very reliable statistics. Anyone have any ideas? Keep in mind that the ACA or "Obamacare" is not the service provider for insurance nor is it the service provider for medical treatment or prescriptions. The ACA is a law to regulate insurance and mandate minimum coverage levels and mandate that individuals purchase coverage. ACA = the law. Insurance providers (including Medicare and Medicaid) = who creates policies and pays out on policies. Doctors/ Clinics/ Hospitals = who provides medical care. Also keep in mind that laws about what insurance…	/r/MensRights	10/12/13 10:58 PM
1	I'm Very Proud of My Niece Right Now I understand that this subreddit is a place to bring MR issues to light and talk about what should be done to address them. That necessarily means bringing up unpleasantness (because hey, if it was pleasant there would be no problem!). I just worry about some of the comments/ threads here that take the bad behavior/ attitudes of some women and hold them up as standard for all women. That's exactly what feminism does and what inhibits progress.	/r/MensRights	10/12/13 07:23 PM
6	On the right of men to show affection I was annoyed by the same post, but not for the exact same reason. I thought it was stupid to assume that there was friction between the female prime minister of Denmark and Michelle Obama. I like Michelle, but she does have a case of "resting bitch face." A lot of times she looks stern in photos when she's probably feeling fine. It's really simple-minded to assume that the first lady of the United States is so insecure and petty that she can't handle her husband greeting an attractive foreign l…	/r/MensRights	10/12/13 06:41 PM
2	The feminism club at my school is hosting a discussion on sexism against males. I'd like to bring some strong examples, preferably very reliable statistics. Anyone have any ideas? Viagra. Gender specific cancer testing and treatments (prostate, testicular), higher rates of workplace injury and catastrophic injury (as tied to manual labor). There's never going to be an equal 1 for 1 general womens health care cost vs. general mens health care cost. If you buy insurance, you're always paying for someone else and someone else is always paying for you.	/r/MensRights	10/12/13 06:27 PM
2	Men who prefer slim women are called shallow. 98.8% of women won't message a short man because of "biological preference." This sort of discussion doesn't seem very productive to me. We're talking sexual preference here - that's a very complex issue that's difficult to change and certainly something that's not to be legislated. What real progress can we hope to gain by pointing out that people of both genders prefer a certain physical ideal? Why not focus on immediately actionable issues like job discrimination and unfair family law statutes?	/r/MensRights	10/12/13 06:24 PM
3	I'm Very Proud of My Niece Right Now I'd argue that there are more of these women in the world than you realize. They don't get noticed, especially by this community, because they're not doing something vile or outrageous.	/r/MensRights	10/12/13 06:08 PM
1	I'm Very Proud of My Niece Right Now Also, "I want to have my own money" can mean "I don't want to live at the mercy of someone else." People (of either gender) who don't work, have no work history and no assets are in a bad position because they depend on friends and family to care for them financially. This sort of dependence means you can't leave an abusive situation or take steps to improve your financial independence unless your family approves of it.	/r/MensRights	10/12/13 06:04 PM
13	The "Separate but Equal" Bathrooms At My High School I can't speak for every space, but I know that I've worked at and frequented places where the couch/ ante-chamber area serves as a nursing or breast pumping station. It's close to the sinks (for hand washing/ bottle washing) and it's away from the toilets ('cause no one wants their baby to eat on a toilet).	/r/MensRights	09/12/13 07:16 PM
2	Why do feminists always accuse "nice guys" of being entitled? I think a lot of the "nice guy" bashing/ name calling is unfair to men. The vast majority of it, in fact. It still doesn't change the problem that girls have with rejecting a guy. If you try to let him down easy, you're "friendzoning" him. If you're direct with him, you're a bitch for stomping on his heart and/or a stuck up bitch if you answer his questions about "Why not? What's wrong with me?" Oh, and lord help the girl who is approached by a guy and is uncertain of his intentions. If she ment…	/r/MensRights	09/12/13 05:42 PM
3	"How to date a feminist". Read the comments - the facade is is crumbling. Yeah, that whole "Guys don't care about romance/ affection" idea always seemed dumb to me. All humans like affection - why wouldn't guys be different? It was just hard for me to find a way to demonstrate that without coming across weird.	/r/MensRights	06/12/13 06:45 PM
3	"How to date a feminist". Read the comments - the facade is is crumbling. I think you hit the nail on the head with your answer. It's what I learned after years of being with various guys. Affection counts for so much, especially after being with your partner for a long time. Husband and I have been together for 6 years, married for 4 and it's the little acts of affection that mean the most to both of us. Edit: In my initial example, I was thinking of romance when a relationship is fairly new and you're trying to demonstrate how much you like that other person. Guy ha…	/r/MensRights	06/12/13 06:38 PM
1	A woman's brutally honest response/rant against all of the "real men" posts all over the internet. So, what IS a woman to do in order to treat you fairly? I hear a lot of complaints about what is wrong with the world and what is wrong with women and we're a bunch of privileged, demanding princesses who are parasites on society. I'm not hearing a whole lot of what any one woman can do to make things better?	/r/MensRights	06/12/13 06:35 PM
0	A woman's brutally honest response/rant against all of the "real men" posts all over the internet. I'm not trying to play the oppression Olympics here. Both men and women face constrictive gender norming. Genders enforce norms on themselves and on the opposite genders as well. Neither gender lives in a paradise. Making this in to a competition doesn't solve anything or get us closer to an egalitarian society. I was just pointing out that while women don't experience as much gender norming from men now (Pre WWII, however, it was socially acceptable for men to make value statements on what a "r…	/r/MensRights	06/12/13 06:31 PM
9	"How to date a feminist". Read the comments - the facade is is crumbling. Honestly, I struggled with this while dating. I wanted to do something nice for by bf, something unexpected that showed I was thinking about him. When I asked other guys (keep in mind this was about 10 years ago), most of the responses were jokes about how I should give him a BJ. I ended up making him his favorite kind of cookies, but that felt kinda lame and unromantic, since it was the same thing I would do for my mom or dad...	/r/MensRights	06/12/13 12:54 AM
63	A woman's brutally honest response/rant against all of the "real men" posts all over the internet. I think women are busy enough trying to tell each other what a "real woman" is. I say that as a woman who has been told (by other women) that I am not a real woman because I am not: "curvy" enough (read: fat enough), "nurturing" enough (I prefer a career over family), "considerate" enough (I don't care to look at baby pictures or attend baby showers), and "friendly" enough (I don't want to hang out with you just because we are the only two people with vaginas in this room. I may, in fact, prefer…	/r/MensRights	06/12/13 12:37 AM
4	"What Happily-Married Women Need to Know About Divorce" - #2 nauseates me EVERYONE know how much it costs them, monthly and annually, to live their life (it doesn't take a financial professional to do that) because a) we're goddam adults and b) we should be planning our spending, saving, emergency funds and other financial responsibilities. The idea that it's only important to know that stuff so you can bill someone else for it is so stupid.	/r/MensRights	05/12/13 12:53 AM
5	[COMIC] Male body/image shaming Agreed. Can you think of any movie, TV show or graphic novel/ comic book that has a couple where a frumpy girl is with an attractive guy and it's NOT played for comedy? Now think of all the movie, TV show or graphic novels/ comic books where it is normal (not comedic) that a shlubby looking guy has an attractive wife or girlfriend. Just check out TV Tropes for copious examples of both situations: http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/UglyGuyHotWife and http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/…	/r/MensRights	03/12/13 08:47 PM
5	"Girls Who Read" - posted by a self-proclaimed feminist on FB, everyone keeps saying how "cute" and "true" it is. I guess it's okay to be sexist as long as it's against men. I called them out for it and they started on a rant about "privilege" and "oppression." Videos like this one are embarrassing because they are so far off base. They don't promote empowerment at all. This video seems to say that other people have the right to define your self-worth, be it by your looks or by your brains. Real empowerment is confidence in yourself and your own skills and positive attributes. If someone (male or female) doesn't like you because of who you are, fuck 'em! Don't plead with them to like you.	/r/MensRights	19/11/13 12:08 AM
2	Record Number of Women in U.S. Workforce, Men Fall Behind in Recovering Jobs Lost During Recession, Labor Department Survey Shows I'd also be interested to know if the jobs are full-time and, given that two of the major fields are "hospitality and retail" whether or not the jobs are seasonal work only positions. I live in San Diego and I know many people (men and women) who are trapped in the low-wage hospitality/ tourism/ retail cycle of being picked up for seasonal work, but unable to be hired on full-time or permanently.	/r/MensRights	18/11/13 09:02 PM
2	Essentially how it goes. I think it might be more accurate to say that the American government is requiring employers to subsidize birth control. Saying that health care "covers" birth control just means that the plan allows you to purchase birth control (whether it be pills, shots or IUD) at a lower price than you would as a non-insured person. Of course, some better plans may cover the whole cost but I've never seen that before.	/r/MensRights	11/11/13 11:55 PM
1	Brian Beutler thinks the ACA is great, but admits "...[Obamacare] effectuates a billion-dollar transfer of wealth from men to women..." Agreed - first the opportunity, then the equal outcome based off having the opportunity available. On a personal note: It took me 3 years to get my husband to see a doctor and get diagnosed with/ treatment for a with a thyroid problem. He's a smart man. I have no idea why it took that long.	/r/MensRights	05/11/13 09:08 PM
1	Brian Beutler thinks the ACA is great, but admits "...[Obamacare] effectuates a billion-dollar transfer of wealth from men to women..." I think men should have wellness visits covered too - that's only fair - but the other half of the problem is getting men to go to the damn doctor even if there isn't anything obviously wrong with them. Women's reproductive life cycles force us to visit the doctor more often (pap smears, exams for birth control, pre-natal and obstetrics visits, menopause symptoms as well as problems like PCOS and fibroids) in order to maintain good health and productivity. I don't think that should be used again…	/r/MensRights	05/11/13 07:04 PM
1	“Girl behavior is the gold standard in schools,” says psychologist Michael Thompson. “Boys are treated like defective girls.” That is a good site - be sure to keep sharing it around! I don't work in education anymore but I do try to help dispel the myth that college is some kind of golden ticket to the good life.	/r/MensRights	01/11/13 02:25 PM
2	Why does breast cancer receive so much attention while prostate cancer goes virtually un-noticed? The "Save the Boobies" campaign and others like it are actually painful for a lot of breast cancer survivors who LOST THEIR BREASTS to the disease. Those campaigns focus on healthy, young boobs and how appealing they are. What does that do for the woman who lost hers other than make her more self conscious about her loss?	/r/MensRights	31/10/13 09:07 PM
1	Why does breast cancer receive so much attention while prostate cancer goes virtually un-noticed? There's no brown ribbons for butt cancer because no one wants to talk about butt cancer. It's not sexy. Butt cancer don't sell no NFL jerseys. There are, however, yellow ribbons for BCAN - the bladder cancer society (http://www.bcan.org/). It's a disease that is three times more common in men than in women, though it occurs in both sexes. I participate in their events because I lost a good friend to bladder cancer. As you can imagine, it's not as easy to raise donations when you're wearing a yel…	/r/MensRights	31/10/13 09:04 PM
2	Why does breast cancer receive so much attention while prostate cancer goes virtually un-noticed? I honestly think that the only reason corporations are on board with breast cancer research is because it gives them an excuse to slap boobs on everything and boobs sell. Notice that no one is lining up to put cervical cancer, uterine cancer or bladder cancer awareness stickers all over their product. Those all kill far more women that breast cancer does because they are harder to detect and not as easy to treat.	/r/MensRights	31/10/13 08:59 PM
23	“Girl behavior is the gold standard in schools,” says psychologist Michael Thompson. “Boys are treated like defective girls.” Having worked in a high school, specifically in a program geared to help underachieving kids graduate (not go to college - just graduate), I have a BIG problem with college being the gold standard. College smart is one kind of smart. There's a lot of other kinds of smarts that kids possess that can make for great careers. One of the kids I worked with loved cars and was a great mechanic, even though he was functionally illiterate. After a lot of help and a lot of hard work, he graduated, went on…	/r/MensRights	31/10/13 08:53 PM
1	Gut-check: Double Standards that Men benefit from The main one I run in to in the business world is that behavior that would be called "assertive," or "persistent" in men is called "bitchy" or "nagging" in women. I'm not talking about interpersonal issues; I'm talking about being assertive and persistent to achieve a business goal. Both male and female members of my office reinforce this double standard. Fortunately I'm persuasive, so I can achieve most of my goals by convincing the other party that my idea is best for everyone. Sometimes there…	/r/MensRights	30/10/13 08:18 PM
0	How can I properly explain what's wrong with my gf's comment? It took me a while to accept the idea that men should have a voice in the abortion debate, possibly because I was having some of the same ideas your girlfriend does. In my mind, women were the only ones being "forced" to have a baby when denied access to contraception or abortion. With that mindset, men have no stake a pregnancy. They have the option of leaving and never having contact with the mother again. The pregnant woman can't just get in her car and drive away from the baby in her belly. …	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 06:35 PM
3	The world needs to stop assuming the biological mother has custody. I totally get that. I'm just pointing out that sometimes schools or other groups have a hard time coming up with addresses for kids. Where I worked we had kids miss registration and just show up on the first day of school because we couldn't find a valid address for them or any adult that might be their caretaker. I'm sure we mailed the wrong parent (the non-custodial parent) by accident plenty of times. It wasn't due to bias, just due to a lack of information. In this case, however, it sounds l…	/r/MensRights	23/10/13 09:26 PM
3	The world needs to stop assuming the biological mother has custody. Ok then, that's definitely not right.	/r/MensRights	23/10/13 06:55 PM
5	The world needs to stop assuming the biological mother has custody. That is annoying, but I'm not 100% that it's intentionally sexist. Having worked for a school, I know that we had very few resources to devote to updating databases (which were just rolodex or spreadsheets) and doing mailings. Often times we went with whatever name/address we could get for a student, regardless if it was the mom, the dad, the grandma, uncle or foster home. I'm glad to hear that they're being helpful now that you've pointed out the error.	/r/MensRights	23/10/13 06:41 PM
1	Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaks Historically speaking, it's usually a more empowered segment of a population (be it women, minorities, gays) that has the time, money and social access necessary to agitate for change. The women's suffrage (voting) movement was led by upper-class white women because they were the only women who had the time, money and social standing (access to politicians, religious leaders and lobbyists) to get anything done. I'm not saying that today's brand of college white girl feminism is right, but it's n…	/r/MensRights	23/10/13 05:48 PM
1	Gynocentrism and its cultural origins \| Gynocentrism was invented in the Middle Ages (12th century) with the cultural practices of romantic chivalry and courtly love. It continues today relatively unchanged from the original. The code of chivalry was also class based. It was not extended to the majority of peasants (women or men).	/r/MensRights	23/10/13 04:47 PM
1	Parenting: treat girls likes boys or boys like girls? It does fill a niche. There are lots of coupled, but unmarried adults in the world now. These adults feel ridiculous with calling their S.O. "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" because that seems awfully junior high for someone in their 30's, 40's or 50's. It also fills a niche for same-sex couples, as most are NOT legally married (even if they have a ceremony or whatnot). Saying "husband" or "wife" in their case is inaccurate, since their union is not recognized as marriage by the law.	/r/MensRights	21/12/12 04:56 PM
1	It upsets me when men think I'm silly for wanting a pre-nup agreement. Amen to that. A pre-nup is insurance. If you have significant monetary or property holdings or own a business, it only makes sense to insure them against loss through the dissolution of a marriage. They're only silly when neither party has anything of value or any prospect of owning things of value. I'm not sure if you can do a pre-nup that specifies child custody or child support payment plans, but that's the only case I could think of that would make a pre-nup useful to all married couples.	/r/MensRights	21/12/12 04:47 PM
13	I don't know why, but there is something about this gif that is male-positive on so many levels. (repost from r/funny) The woman is talking to someone on her right when the gif starts and she keeps her hand on that person's arm through most of the gif. I thought the person on her right was her husband/ boyfriend. That would explain why she leaned away from the guy she didn't know - she didn't want to kiss a stranger with her SO sitting right there.	/r/MensRights	21/12/12 04:28 PM
2	Hey, I just have a quick question! This is a very well articulated answer - thank you!	/r/MensRights	20/12/12 04:38 PM
1	This seems to be an unfortunate image, particularly during these times. I can see how it would be an inflammatory image to some people, but on the whole it's not really that offensive. They're trying to get clicks/ readers and controversial topics or images do the trick.	/r/MensRights	20/12/12 04:36 PM
6	This seems to be an unfortunate image, particularly during these times. It looked to me like someone (can't really tell if the hand is supposed to be male or female) is saying "No" to having a baby. I'm not really sure why that's unfortunate... Some people don't want to have kids and that's perfectly okay.	/r/MensRights	19/12/12 06:36 PM
2	xpost from /r/funny I'm friends with plenty of new parents (my friends are breeding like goddam rabbits) and I've seen plenty of innocent, cute photos bath time or playing in a sprinkler. Not a one of my friends has ever pointed out their kid's genitals - male or female. It makes me wonder if the "Look at his willy!" comment isn't something limited to an older generation. At least I hope it is!	/r/MensRights	19/12/12 06:30 PM
2	Male privilege. As a wife of a veteran, daughter of a veteran and sister of a veteran - fuck this. Give this man the dignity he deserves and don't use his face to press whatever agenda this picture is trying to promote.	/r/MensRights	19/12/12 06:25 PM
1	I am putting this here because I will be ridiculed elsewhere Sadly a lot of workplace reporting doesn't do shit for the victim on the first offense. Companies only take action when it's clear that a employee has become more of a liability than an asset.	/r/MensRights	14/12/12 07:56 PM
3	I am putting this here because I will be ridiculed elsewhere You should report it. If HR calls you "gay" that's a MAJOR problem with your company. I agree with other posters that it's unlikely much will come of your complaint (unfortunately), but HR has to at least listen to you without ridiculing you. Also, by reporting this you're starting to build a file against her. If she does it again to you or anyone else, it will be harder for the company to ignore when it's obvious she's a repeat offender.	/r/MensRights	14/12/12 07:49 PM
3	Out of curiosity: Are there any women here? If so, what brought you here, or why are you here? I'm female and I lurk here, mostly because I'm interested in hearing different viewpoints. Part if it is that I'm an author and in order to write realistic characters, I need to be able to portray people who think and feel differently than I do. That can be difficult sometimes, especially when trying to write for the opposite gender. Lurking on this subreddit allows me to hear men talking about the difficulties in their life, specifically the difficulties or limitations that are caused by gender…	/r/MensRights	13/12/12 11:25 PM
2	Why are feminist against a male birth control pill? There are plenty of women I know who are super pumped about the idea of male BC pills. Sometimes the female version of the pill has more side effects than a gal can handle -not deadly or even long term, but just frequent and uncomfortable. I don't know much about the male pill, but hopefully it would have fewer side effects since it doesn't have to battle with a monthly ovulation cycle. How great would it be if guys could take the pill, have little to no side effects and gals could enjoy a non-j…	/r/MensRights	13/12/12 11:17 PM
1	feminist groups call for a european-wide ban on paying for sex Ha! I'd love it if it was mandatory for a partner to give history upon request, but I don't think that kind of legislation would solve anything. People usually ask (if they have the guts to ask at all) at the start of a relationship, not 3 years in. Legalizing prostitution would be step in the right direction - away from Puritanism and criminalization of activity that poses little to no danger to anyone - but I like to get people thinking about the practical requirements of legal prostitution, n…	/r/MensRights	05/12/12 12:53 AM
1	feminist groups call for a european-wide ban on paying for sex I'm not saying it's a reason to keep prostitution illegal - I'm just saying it's a factor to consider in the discussion on how to regulate it as an industry. Regulation is never 100% so it's important plan for and mitigate collateral damage in that inevitable % where regulations are not adhered to. In this case, possibly in the form of increased access to free STD testing for everyone and work to de-stigmatize testing and asking for your partner's status. Thanks for the understanding. I know wha…	/r/MensRights	04/12/12 11:45 PM
3	feminist groups call for a european-wide ban on paying for sex Thanks for the C-Section suggestion. My husband and I (fortunately I found a dude who loves me STD and all) are starting the adoption process, so I may become a mother by other means :) I had never thought about how cheating (prostitution or otherwise) is an STD risk to unknowing partners/ unborn children before my experience. That's why I wanted to add it to the conversation on legalized prostitution!	/r/MensRights	04/12/12 11:12 PM
0	feminist groups call for a european-wide ban on paying for sex I agree. The only thing some people have to sell/ make a living off of in this life IS their body. Usually men can do it by selling their body for physical labor. Attractive women can leverage their looks through marriage, modelling, performance or other looks-oriented careers. Plain to ugly women with no other skills in this world are left to sell sex. I'm not saying that's how all women end up in prostitution - I'm just saying that's the lowest economic view. Taking away a woman's ability to s…	/r/MensRights	04/12/12 09:55 PM
12	feminist groups call for a european-wide ban on paying for sex It only makes sense to legalize prostitution. It's the oldest profession AND it's not going anywhere as long as there's a segment of our population (male, female or in-betweeners) who can't get laid for free. My only issue is the disease risk. As much as hard as you try to enforce health codes, there's always going o be some dirty dick/ vag involved in prostitution. That's a known risk for the buyer and seller. It's NOT a known risk for the buyer's spouse. How many Johns (male or female - I'm ju…	/r/MensRights	04/12/12 09:48 PM
3	The Day I Acted Like a Sexist Jerk to a Stay-at-Home Dad I'm curious how "unusual" it is to see fathers out and about with their kids (stay at home dad or not) in different cities. I've lived in San Diego and San Francisco, so I guess my personal experience isn't a good measure of normalcy. In both places I've seen plenty of men who look like they could be stay at home dads or just be dads with weird schedules (security guards, bar tenders, wait staff, night nurse) that make them available to care for their kids during the day. It's not even worth a s…	/r/MensRights	21/09/12 12:22 AM
2	I need the men's rights movement because.. You make an important point about citation. It seems the men's rights movement struggles against conventional "wisdom" that had been handed down through generations. If you're asking people to eschew everything they were told by their parents, friends, church, school and the media, you better have some kind of proof to back up your facts. The better you can make a case that there is a problem, the more likely people are to accept the solutions you propose.	/r/MensRights	01/08/12 05:50 PM
2	Anyone else feeling a little "why didn't this come up on Mother's Day"? It's not for Mother's Day, but there's a "bad moms" thread in TwoX: http://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/uwtfu/my_mom_sucks_twox_tell_me_about_your/	/r/MensRights	18/06/12 09:36 PM
2	Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg changed his status to “married” Saturday and received over one million “likes” from his followers. But the site he founded isn’t always so marriage-friendly. In fact, lawyers say the social network contributes to an increasing number of marriage breakups. Totally agreed. Also, I think facebook is yet another forum for immature people to hang themselves with evidence of infidelity or other such shenanigans.	/r/MensRights	23/05/12 09:16 PM
1	What do Men Want in a Wife, and Why Won’t Wives Oblige? I've been in the business world for 10+ years and I've learned that being nice to coworkers goes a LONG way. I've also learned that when I stop being nice - for example, pointing out in a clear, factual manner that someone has not delivered on promises - the response is usually something along the lines of "don't know why she's being such a bitch about this..." It's a double-edged sword: be nice and be walked on or be assertive and get the bitch treatment.	/r/MensRights	09/03/12 09:38 PM
1	I would like to thank this guy for wearing a skirt (kilt) without shame. You are making it easier for other men to express themselves. A guy at my office wears his kilt on casual Fridays every now and then. Looks good on him. Our office (mostly female) gave him nothing but compliments on it.	/r/MensRights	09/03/12 09:26 PM
1	The diamond engagement ring My husband and I had the same concerns about "blood diamonds" and "Why is this hunk of rock so fucking expensive?" gems. We used some little heirloom stones for our wedding rings. It was especially nice because they were stones from the necklace my great uncle gave my great aunt for their 50th wedding anniversary. Tl;Dr a ring only holds the meaning you give it	/r/MensRights	09/03/12 09:24 PM
2	Educated women quit work as spouses earn more Don't be so sure of how the world works! I make more than my husband and we HAVE considered whether or not it would be worthwhile for him to keep working. He wants to pursue a career as a novelist (has one book published already) and needs that time to write. Unfortunately, we aren't at the point where we can run the household on one income, so it just isn't possible yet.	/r/MensRights	09/03/12 09:04 PM