whatduzthefoxsay Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
4	Wife No Longer In Love Me, Wants Out She can’t move the kids away unless you agree (don’t agree!). Court should award you half custody. Hopefully you can arrange an amicable arrangement, but importantly, don’t give up your children. This too shall pass. Avoid booze, and work out/walk as you are able. Get sunlight. Breathe. You’ll get through it.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/10/24 08:32 AM
3	I don't know if I can do it anymore There are ups and downs. This sounds like a down time. Things will get better— see if you can get a dog or play with your parents pet. Walk outside and get some sun. Workout if you are able (even walks around the block). Get antidepressants if you need them (recommend cymbalta or Wellbutrin, for a lift). Try to do 2 new things each week. Eventually something will stick. It’s hard— but you’ve got this.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/10/24 08:27 AM
2	Medication and Seperation It sounds to me like she may have met someone else at work and is blaming you so the focus isn’t on her. Bug upswings when meds are added can make people get kind of revved up. I would ask her (or even investigate a bit to see if you turn anything up). Good luck to you. Tough situation.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/09/24 06:54 AM
1	“I’m hurt” - wait, seriously? 100%. She should be mildly bitching to her friends about it but not choking back tears… seems off.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/24 07:03 PM
1	“I’m hurt” - wait, seriously? Personally, I think you should disclose the divorce early (building it up by waiting only gives it more power/makes it a bigger bomb). That said — her reaction is all red flags for me. She’s an adult, no one died — she’s actually testing you (probably unconsciously). At this point if you want her to move past it, apologize once, then stop contacting her for awhile and she will absolutely come back. Keep in mind that women need a moment to give up their fairytale marriage dreams… But honestly, if…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/24 07:02 PM
1	Mediation cost Crazy high. Find a different mediator, but also be prepared to go to court a few times if “reasonable” isn’t in your stbx’s vocabulary.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/24 06:55 PM
1	How do I tell her? You just tell her you can’t move forward with the relationship. You have done all you can and need a change. You can NOT control her responses — that is your wife’s role. You just let your wife know you are through with working on the relationship and now need the two of you to work toward divorce. That’s it. Your wife may be fragile, but you can’t let that keep you from what you know you need. Edited typos.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/24 07:08 AM
2	Wife cheating These comments are your sign. Your son needs you now more than ever. Don’t abandon him this way. You are operating on a lot of assumptions — make sure you have all the facts before doing something so drastic and permanent and devastating for your son. He’s innocent here. Link to Veterans crisis line information here (you can choose to talk, text, or chat). https://www.veteranscrisisline.net	/r/Divorce_Men	18/05/24 06:40 AM