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I don’t understand the oversimplified argument you and another is making here. -Yes, a good bit of women can get sex whenever they want, but they do not experience sex the same way men do- they don’t just get turned on out of nowhere and go seek it out/want it. -They’re also biologically hardwired to vet potential partners more closely than we men, to end up with the best potential caretaker for their children. -I’ve traveled all over the entire world, meeting thousands of people, and I’m tellin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 11:26 PM
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The guy thinks we don’t have options because women aren’t ’trained to approach us’ The problem is he doesn’t get nun
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 11:12 PM
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It’s actually just going right over your head like a bird.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 11:11 PM
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This guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 11:08 PM
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Premature selection is a big problem. It’s even more problematic that many people too can play a serious long game of wearing masks. It’s shocking how many stories are out there of people who dated for a good while, things were fine, then as soon as marriage came the guy or woman turned abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:12 PM
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Yes. But his point is that we can only go so far to discern a good mate for life. Emotionally mature people also can end up left, cheated on, miserably married, etc. Your point still holds it’s full weight too though, that emotionally weaker people have a greater chance of failed marriage and vice versa. Emotional weakness can go in hand with poor impulse control, lack of patience, empathy, and things like codependency and unhealthy attachment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:27 PM
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Are you being serious? When boundaries are set that goes BOTH ways. I would never ask something from anyone that I wouldn’t follow myself. But yeah, we men don’t have to make any sacrifices we just demand demand demand from women. Wake up dude
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 01:10 PM
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Yes but there have to be vastly different boundaries with male friends once in a relationship. When someone still disagrees with this because they just need such a complete sense of freedom- they probably shouldn’t be in a committed long term relationship. There are sacrifices we have to make
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 10:47 AM
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Yeah but why? Kidding lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:04 AM
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lol don’t set yourself up for disappointment, every previous generation missed out on something ahead. In the case of millennials there was a lot of self growth understanding and mental health services that Gen Z now has. Not saying that ruins all of them, or any of them, but rather that a lot of them never explored that avenues to become aware of their traumas and mechanisms. And it’s not like Gen Z actually fucking uses them as much or as accurately as they should anyway. We just have that now…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:02 AM
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They’re a little sensitive about explaining so we may never know
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 05:16 PM
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Can you calm your little ass down. I don’t know you, I’m asking you to explain YOUR brain to me, because it’s a waste of time for me to assume what you mean by the very ambiguous “voting against genocide.” Do you mean you chose a candidate you believe falls in line with that? Do you mean you didn’t vote at all? Use your brain to give an answer
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 05:06 PM
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How does that work? You voted against genocide? Are you aware that both Kamala and Trump both support Israel? It’s not even questionable on both sides. Israel has the US in their back pocket no matter what
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 04:51 PM
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People don’t care, they just want to see change. That’s what you guys don’t understand. Kamala is viewed by the average person as nothing more than an extension of the Biden administration
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:34 PM
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You’re trusting data that is explicitly beneficial for the opposing party. It’s no different than the censorship of Trump’s assassination photo in Google search for many days. There are incredibly intelligent people who like Trump. Millions of people are all low IQ? I don’t think so. The OP is definitely correct, as there is still an enormous population of women who have positive views of men and want them to be able to thrive so they can thrive with them. There are people who simply don’t trust…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:33 PM
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That’s a good point. But I will say that women seem to think they want to find a loyal man yet they themselves want to party and live a lifestyle that invites infidelity. A lot of men just hear their wants and think “yes! Me too” then she says “I don’t even go out,” the one-liner that sucks es all in, and he once again thinks “great! This is exactly how our relationship will go!” Not all women, but it is really common in my experience to see more women like this than women who are not nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 01:43 PM
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💯
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 01:41 PM
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Yes in our deserved rights. No in most other ways
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 01:38 PM
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lol you’re a textbook feminist
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 01:37 PM
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You nailed it. The manic pixie dream girl always goes for a bad boy at some point then he just becomes more bad by the end of it all lol. Speaking from experience
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:14 PM
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Yes. It’s this simple and it’s not uncommon at all
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:13 PM
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But there were almost certainly aspects of her personality that were a result of bipolar that you were drawn to- unaware of how much those aspects of her were red flags. It’s like people with colored hair and tons of piercings and tattoos. I’ve met some people this way who just like the expressions, and genuinely are stable and sane, but it’s far more common to be a signal of what’s deeper
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:11 PM
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Not true. Speaking as guy
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 10:41 AM
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At that point just get married
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:59 PM
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I just think that’s a cop out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:57 PM
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I agree. I honestly just went on a sociology tangent. Reality is very different, like how the same mental illness will be very different for every person. It’s the frameworks that fascinate me. Cycles of pain and rejection that create hate and desperation. The things I mentioned I see very often, but it’s never one way- just patterns
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:53 PM
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Yeah there’s just a lot of nuance around the term “nice guy.” It’s problematic because nice guys used to actually mean nice guys, and they ‘finished last’ after the ballsy sorts took what they wanted. Nowadays, ‘nice guys’ are those same people but now they’re mad, they’re desperate, and they’re trying really hard. Creepy, because they’re also just as much a part of the oversexualization of society, so their solution to the lack of success with women has gone from hitting the gym to simply objec…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 07:13 PM
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Those stats? Really? I’ve already seen those stats and they had no impact on my belief here. Yes, Gen Z as a whole is having less sex, but who is having the most sex out of that? And despite it being less than prior generations, my generation does not have that comparison to make. We didn’t see the sex drugs and rock and roll our parents lived. I definitely don’t see ONLY this, as incels like to push, but yes it is significantly more common for women to be the pickers and choosers in any given s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 04:50 PM
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How old are you? I’m Gen Z, and this IS becoming pretty common… women are taking full advantage of the sexual freedom society has opened up to them. On the flip side, a smaller percentage of men are taking advantage of that, whom have no intentions of settling down with them. It’s not a just women problem. But the actual advocacy for sexual liberation for EITHER gender is wrong in my opinion. The problem was men not being taught wide scale sexual discipline, NOT women being sexually repressed. Y…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:50 PM
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I was on her side, now I’m reconsidering lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 06:32 AM
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The other person was right lol, I was agreeing with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 06:30 AM
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Because when you spend all day on the internet your whole life you don’t have exposure to real life
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 04:36 PM
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And that is not going to change in the current social climate. Everything is too consumeristic. We have severe dopamine deficiencies due to TV, phone, porn, materialism, substances, etc. there’s no way to get the vast majority of people to develop self control, true discipline, and faith in self. The current generation won’t even be able to own a home. Most of us are just trying to survive. We’re all concerned about the future. Very slim chance you can create real discipline and motivation with …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 03:55 AM
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Interesting. I’m not sure where I stand on that nowadays, but 100% I agree outside of societal changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:48 AM
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I’m a piece of shit..
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:44 AM
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100%. Dated a girl who was this way and lo and behold all her friends were, caddy self absorbed types too. When it was over they all turned on me and I was suddenly hated lol. Just let it end. We broke up peacefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:44 AM
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I never understand these statistics. 70% of women are dating 40% of men ?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:31 AM
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It’s like 80% of society… shallow people. Both men and women. It’s insane how many people lack depth when you’re a deeper person who seeks out other intuitives. You don’t realize it until you look at stuff like current politics, trends in music and social media. It’s extremely hard to find a woman who not only knows proper communication and understanding but also is looking for more than surface level boxes to check.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:29 AM
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You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there will still be a lot of people who don’t like peaches. Such is life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:25 AM
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It’s not about what’s inside the peach that matters, it’s about the seed and they can’t see it lol never will
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:24 AM
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It’s right in front of them and they can’t see it. Not every peach has the is but they’ll never realize that it’s about that big seed inside the peach that matters it’s about the seed inside of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:22 AM
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Lmao are you sure it’s not the other way around
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 01:46 AM
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I really don’t think it’s a minority anymore. A lot of players just become cheaters in relationships. You’re still a player if you’re in a committed relationship but are sneaking around with 3-4 other women on that damn phone
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 07:55 PM
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Because their emotions, which are being played, are overpowering their reasoning skills. As a dude have you never been with a girl that it just wasn’t working out but lied to yourself and hoped for change or believed there was a chance? It’s those same emotions
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 07:37 PM
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Definitely jokes, and some hilarious ones at that
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 08:39 PM
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Last paragraph was stone cold truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 12:09 PM
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What men are you talking about? I think there are major issues with how men perceive women but I don’t see half of men feeling manipulated by women just existing. Lol most men aren’t even aware of the control their lust has on them. More often I see women being manipulated by men for sex. Far more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 12:08 PM
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I didn’t assume that’s what he meant at all. I stated it to elaborate on the difference between opening up and doing THOSE things. And on the note of assumptions, funny for you to say that i think opening up is PERFECT emotional regulation and being emotionless. That describes emotional unavailability. If you put on your glasses you would see that I’ve said there is a balance, that creates true emotional maturity. If you can’t see the difference between whining and complaining versus having dece…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 03:43 AM
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Offworld? What does this term mean
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 04:48 PM
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Yeah but there is a line. Often I see men hear women want a vulnerable, compassionate man and take the opportunity to unload the enormous amount of feelings they’ve bottled up their whole life because of toxic masculine standards. This is draining, and it should be handled in therapy. Alas, too many men are scared to ask for help, despite the fact that becoming who you need to be requires doing whatever you need to do. There is far more shame in being stuck, unwilling to change, then complaining…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 01:28 PM
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To your first paragraph, this is why it’s important to learn what an emotionally intelligent man looks like. It sounds like you’ve achieved this already, but the vast majority of my generation (Gen Z) has no idea what that looks like anymore because of new societal norms and more polarized options (nice guys, or assholes.) To your second paragraph, I don’t believe that we can go backwards as a society. This is where it’s important as individuals to work on this and be fully prepared to be more a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 01:24 PM
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Because you’re not fully grasping the “open up” part. That doesn’t mean complain, grovel, moan, overreact, or turn your woman into a therapist. The more you can stabilize, get your life in order, and get your mental health in order, the better your prospects will be. You won’t waste around with women that gaslight or manipulate you. I have been there. I went through four relationships with women like that. Then, #5 would do the same thing when provoked, but by that time I had learned how to be. …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 01:18 PM
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You’re 100% right as I can say from many experiences lol. But there’s a certain level that should be expected from women, like needing reassurance and more open insecurities. These things don’t fly too well from a man in a relationship. Women appreciate emotional maturity and compassion in a man but it gets far too often misinterpreted as an opportunity for a man to turn a date into a therapy session. Call me old school, or toxic masculine, whatever, but I’ve never in my life seen a good outcome…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 11:32 AM
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Dude. This is where we have to take accountability if we’re going to address the problem at hand here. You can’t change other people, including women. Or their biological attraction. They can change you, for better or worse, but it’s your choice if you’re going to allow it to stick. There are 8 billion people in this world, there is not even the slightest chance that every single woman is unhealthily neurotic- And if you want to find one who isn’t? You best be taking this time to work on not emb…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 09:43 AM
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Good point on the neuroticism. As a man with bipolar, it’s far more difficult to uphold the expectations placed on us as men within relationships. I’m medicated now but my PTSD doesn’t go away regardless. The reality is, neuroticism is not an attractive trait in men. It’s the opposite. I am over 6 foot, good looking, make good money, but that has nothing to do with the emotional space in a relationship. Those things only help me personally or help me get laid, they don’t drive a lasting relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 05:51 AM
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It’s truly a catch 22. They can’t see that if you quit feeling sorry for your current self and focus on becoming the future self you want, you’ll also get what that future self deserves.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:35 AM
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