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Removed: No Beginner Topics/Too Broadwhiplash81/r/seduction22/05/21 10:19 PM
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Main reason very unattractive dudes that don’t have money get gorgeous women? Logic would imply that money or physical attractiveness aren't major factors when attracting gorgeous women, wouldn't it? Calling her "wicked witch of the West" is a tease. He's flirting with her, not being mean. Sounds to me like you are misunderstanding what your friend is doing
/r/seduction21/04/25 03:38 AM
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Of course. Real life happens to everyone, and it's perfectly reasonable to back out of any date when emergencies arise. A mutual interest in each other means a rain check will be cashed. If there's no interest from one person though, then they will have 10 sick grandmas, if that makes sense.
/r/seduction20/04/23 03:05 AM
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Your yield increases with the right mindset. Chasing approval decreases that yield.
/r/seduction19/04/23 09:36 PM
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The point is that women will most likely never flake on a guy like Brad Pitt. Because the chances of a woman not being interested in a guy like him are very low. In other words, higher interest level will decrease flakiness, despite any excuses. Would a highly attractive man like Brad Pitt put up with flakiness? Or would he move on?
/r/seduction19/04/23 07:18 PM
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"Once you see this as a natural thing, and there is no shame in the process, that's a good start as it normalizes the process." This has really been a sticking point for me.
/r/seduction27/03/23 10:23 PM
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Telemarketing and email spamming is not the same as seduction. "Cold approach" is that you attract by interacting. Nobody likes telemarketers or spam. Everyone likes mingling with people they enjoy.
/r/seduction25/08/22 05:00 AM
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You managed to attract one attractive woman. You can do it again. In the meantime, focus on your life pursuit.
/r/seduction23/08/22 11:35 AM
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"getting strung along" Are you in a relationship or fucking this girl? How long have you been with her?
/r/seduction20/08/22 12:03 PM
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Worst thing that'll happen is she says "no." Then you just adopt a "no big deal" mentality and move on with your life.
/r/seduction17/08/22 06:54 PM
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Embarrassed? No. I'd rather shoot my shot and know for sure if she's interested or not. If not, well, then I know she's just being friendly, and I'll be friendly back. :)
/r/seduction17/08/22 06:51 PM
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Look stupid to who?
/r/seduction17/08/22 06:46 PM
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The truth is that the opinions of others don't mean anything when it comes to your self worth. Ironically, the more you stop caring about others opinions of you, the more those same people will actually have a positive option about you. March to the beat of your own drum.
/r/seduction16/08/22 12:25 AM
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Rejection is not a determination of your self worth. Measure your self worth based on your personal achievements. Not by someone else's opinion about you. View rejection as an opportunity. It enables you to save your valuable time instead of wasting it on someone who doesn't see your worth. The quicker you get the rejection out of the way, the quicker you can try again with someone new. There are literally billions of women in this world. Even if you met a new woman every hour of your life for t…
/r/seduction16/08/22 12:06 AM
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Culture has nothing to do with it.
/r/seduction15/08/22 10:47 PM
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Trial and error. Don't become dependent on the outcome. Just learn from it and adapt. Don't make the goal "to get laid." Make it smaller, easier to understand steps. In this case, you don't know what to talk about, or more specifically, how to hold an interesting conversation that will draw her in. So practice socializing with everyone, men and women, until you start to fill comfortable socializing. Once you gain that skill, then learn how to pick up on body language, and learn what "indicators …
/r/seduction15/08/22 08:22 PM
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No girl is going to show up at your home and start talking to you. So if your goal is to meet women, you're going to have to approach them.
/r/seduction15/08/22 08:11 PM
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I've had a girl instantly turn me on by simply kissing me while groping my package. You don't have to get imaginative beyond being sexual.
/r/seduction14/08/22 11:20 PM
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People date at all ages. There's no such thing as "starting late."
/r/seduction11/08/22 04:18 PM
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Then move. The only person who can change your social situation is yourself. No one is going to show up to your door and ask you to hang out.
/r/seduction08/08/22 08:13 PM
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I'm from a town of less than 40k, and my Meetup events are 30-45 mins away, at most.
/r/seduction08/08/22 08:06 PM
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Use Meetup to find events in your area that may be interesting to you. Go to those and make friends.
/r/seduction08/08/22 08:04 PM
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Your life starts the day you want it to. There's no time like the present!
/r/seduction08/08/22 08:01 PM
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I'm currently going through this as well, so I understand. Stop all communication with this girl. Allow yourself to process the emotional heartbreak, but DO NOT GIVE IN and try contacting her when you feel lonely. This will only prolong the heartbreak. If you have to, block her number and anything that will remind you of her. This is for your own mental health, not hers. Focus your attention on your own self improvement, and other women. Don't limit yourself to just one person. Let go of the ide…
/r/seduction01/08/22 06:03 PM
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She was sexually attracted to you, but not emotionally attracted to you. You probably escalated too quickly. Next time, try push/pull
/r/seduction30/07/22 01:46 PM
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Don't chase. Attract.
/r/seduction29/07/22 10:49 AM
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We aren't taught the importance of social interactions.
/r/seduction22/07/22 10:53 PM
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You can always do something about mental health. It's treatable, and it'll change your life once you make it a priority.
/r/seduction21/07/22 04:02 AM
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Thanks, Gandhi bot.
/r/seduction21/07/22 03:40 AM
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Your posting history indicates that you are suffering and not treating it. You can be as selfless as Ghandi, but that won't bring you happiness if you neglect yourself in the process.
/r/seduction21/07/22 03:39 AM
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The best thing you can do to change your life is to embrace mindfulness and therapy. You won't attract someone if you don't feel good about yourself. No amount of seduction tactics, theory, workout routines, or reddit posts will help if you have low self-esteem. Prioritize your mental health, man. Trust me.
/r/seduction21/07/22 02:06 AM
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He's sane
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:44 PM
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The hard advice is that getting sex won't address all of your issues. Be willing to improve your mental health by talking to a therapist. Getting your mental health in order will do wonders for every part of your life, including socializing and getting laid.
/r/seduction01/07/22 02:24 PM
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Those aren't negs. Those are either insults or badly timed teases. Basically you were trying too hard, and she could easily sense it. The goal of a neg is to bring a highly attractive woman's ego back to earth. A real neg comes from asking a question or making a comment that seems innocent at face value, but makes a woman question her "I'm attractive and all men want me" ego. It's intentional, but comes off like it isn't. I hope that makes sense. I think the biggest issue guys have with negging …
/r/seduction29/06/22 12:12 AM
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Your issue isn't that you are invisible to women. If they look at you as you pass them, they are paying attention to you. That's your "in" to initiate conversation. Your issue is your approach anxiety. If you tell yourself that a woman simply making eye contact with you is an invitation to chat with her, then you can use that to build confidence as you approach. Society has conditioned many women to be passive in the courting process. This means it is on you to lead the interaction, which includ…
/r/seduction02/06/22 11:55 PM
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Your issue isn't the topic of conversation.
/r/seduction06/05/22 10:54 AM
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Don't whine when you can only pull gold diggers.
/r/seduction30/04/22 11:25 AM
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Confidence comes from repeated success. A hoe phase can help facilitate that.
/r/seduction28/04/22 08:05 PM
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Rule #1: Attraction is not a choice. In other words, you will NEVER convince someone to "change their mind" about being attracted to you. Simultaneously, if she's attracted to you, then this rule works in your favor. If you want to be successful with women, then you need to adopt this mindset.
/r/seduction20/04/22 05:27 PM
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Dating apps are meant to keep you using them so that you'll eventually pony up money. They are also a great way to destroy your self esteem, especially when you aren't used to being social with women. You'll always have better chances meeting people organically through being social and making friends (and then meeting their friends, etc.) than you will with dating apps. You'll have the opportunity to express a more genuine version of you than you would with pictures and text.
/r/seduction21/03/22 02:35 PM
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"Relationship?" At best, you've been friendzoned. Move on.
/r/seduction14/03/22 01:23 PM
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If you've already paid, then you're a John and that's not going to change.
/r/seduction08/03/22 10:28 PM
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How many people are "faking" being normal could you identify? If it's difficult for you to identify people like that, then it's difficult for others to identify you in that way as well. People typically worry more about the judgement from others than they do about judging others. Think of that context the next time you're in a public setting.
/r/seduction01/03/22 12:36 AM
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9/10 people aren't even going to notice you correcting it. Here's a secret when interacting with other people - they are more likely to be worried about what others think of them as well.
/r/seduction28/02/22 11:38 PM
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However long it takes your subconscious to absorb it. Everyone's brain is different. Just don't beat yourself up if you catch yourself slouching. Acknowledge that you consciously noticed it and subsequently corrected it. Eventually you catch yourself "correcting" it less and less.
/r/seduction28/02/22 09:42 PM
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You have consciously practice correcting it until it becomes habit. At that point, it becomes subconscious.
/r/seduction28/02/22 09:02 PM
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I'd say it's more of an authentic attitude. When your self esteem is dependent on what others think of you, you will naturally become needy towards those people. You'll likely change your normal behavior in an attempt to win the approval of others. Because you need their approval in order to feel good about yourself. The "Models" approach is to fulfill that need from within. This allowed you to accept yourself as you truly are, and to live unafraid to be yourself around others. In order to find …
/r/seduction19/02/22 02:51 PM
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What you describe is pounded into your brain in the book "Models" by Mark Manson. Essentially, the key is to live more authentically by allowing yourself to be "vulnerable." In other words, not being afraid or timid to say or do things out of fear of what that person thinks of you. If you are truly confident in yourself, then how you think others perceive you is irrelevant, and shouldn't dictate how act around them. March to the beat of your own drum and others will follow.
/r/seduction17/02/22 09:56 PM
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Great post. I love it. I've got a sexual drive for women as well, but I've been treating my mental health lately. I'm trying the same thing you are in terms of ignoring the need for sex and instead trying to connect with other human beings. I'm starting to notice a ton of pressure slipping away, and my desire for sex is really rooted in validation from women. It's pretty eye opening. The side effect of not pursuing sex directly is more sex, ironically. I'm happy that I'm not alone in this self r…
/r/seduction17/02/22 05:21 PM
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I'm a 40-year old 300 lbs IT nerd. I've fucked 3 women this year already. Get outta here with that "looks matter" bullshit. It's your attitude that matters, and if it's anything like this post, it reeks of neediness and false beliefs.
/r/seduction16/02/22 09:40 PM
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What are you doing, right now, to bring women into your life? Where do you find them? What's does your conversations with them look like? When you live in scarcity, you focus on others' success. Try focusing on improving your own instead
/r/seduction10/02/22 03:29 AM
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Therapy. Get it. This means expressing this exact paragraph to your therapist to analyze and discuss. You can't "think" you way out of a bad mindset using only the tools you've created with that mindset. You need an external viewpoint in order for you to break your negative thoughts. That's the job of a therapist. Your issue is deeper than just getting laid. You've pinned a lot of false and negative beliefs on the concept of having sex, which isn't healthy -- even if you do manage to get your di…
/r/seduction09/02/22 03:24 AM
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I weigh 300 pounds and I work in IT. I've also gotten laid by 2 different women this year. I plan on adding 3 this weekend. Physical appearance isn't nearly as important as you think it is.
/r/seduction03/02/22 07:56 PM
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This guy gets it
/r/seduction03/02/22 07:48 PM
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A lot of incels think that their whiny comments = advice.
/r/seduction03/02/22 04:32 PM
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Stay angry, pumpkin. 😘
/r/seduction03/02/22 01:25 PM
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Absolutely clueless. 😂
/r/seduction03/02/22 01:17 PM
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No I'm just wondering what part of your routine is even remotely successful? Or do you just get mad that women exist and come cry your incel tears on Reddit?
/r/seduction03/02/22 01:07 PM
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Let me know how being mad at women helps you interact with them. Let's hear it, Mystery
/r/seduction03/02/22 01:03 PM
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Lol well my fedora and I get laid. Do you?
/r/seduction03/02/22 01:01 PM
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If you were experienced, you wouldn't have such a terrible view of women. ¯_(ツ)_/¯
/r/seduction03/02/22 12:59 PM
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With a mindset like this, it's no wonder why you and OP are afraid of girls.
/r/seduction03/02/22 12:55 PM
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You've got a very distorted and unrealistic view of reality. Good luck with that.
/r/seduction01/02/22 02:00 PM
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Because they do what you're trying to do -- side step dating and get married to someone they aren't compatible with.
/r/seduction31/01/22 07:34 PM
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I live in Utah, and it's normal for 18-25 to get married. It's also normal that those same people are divorced before they are 30.
/r/seduction31/01/22 07:32 PM
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Because if you want a successful, long lasting marriage, you'll need people skills.
/r/seduction31/01/22 07:27 PM
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Don't hold out on dating. View dating as a trial and error experience. Learn what works, and what does not. Don't set your goal for "marriage." Instead, set it towards learning social skills, like how to maintain a conversation, how to read social queues and body language, how to make a woman laugh, etc. These are skills you can take into other parts of your life as well. The book "Models" by Mark Manson does an excellent job at conveying the mindset and approach you should have to be a better h…
/r/seduction31/01/22 07:17 PM
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Of course! Part of the beauty of dating in your 30s is experience. More sexual experience = better sex. As far as good relationships go - I had 2 serious relationships (1 year and 5 years) that could've turned into marriage, but I simply wasn't ready for that.
/r/seduction31/01/22 07:09 PM
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You're already thinking about stepping out of the dating pool to get married at age 18. And you're willing to move to another continent based on a bad stereotype in hopes that will "solve" your dating problem. What that tells me is you are terrible with dating, and think you can side step it to avoid learning it. If you want to land a great woman worth marrying, then your best bet is to learn how to filter through them. Dating is a skill you have to practice to get good at. There's no magic pick…
/r/seduction31/01/22 07:02 PM
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I had more sex and girlfriends in my 30s than I could even imagine than I did in my 20s.
/r/seduction31/01/22 06:55 PM
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Advice? Gain a mentally healthier perspective on yourself and women.
/r/seduction31/01/22 06:38 PM
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Social proofing = attraction, so yes. However it needs to be conveyed in an indirect way. It's not attractive to brag.
/r/seduction27/01/22 02:49 AM
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You're chasing sex instead of being your authenticate self. I'm sorry to say, it won't be fulfilling, and you'll damage others along the way. This isn't a healthy way to address loneliness.
/r/seduction27/01/22 01:12 AM
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Tired of get this, get that. Women like this women like that. Behave like this. Be more confident. Be well dressed. Get some good status. Get a great job. Get a social life. Be passionate about things. Flirt like this. Play sports. Behave like this. Be a gentleman. All of that stuff points at one thing - appearing less needy. Don't worry about the "do xyz and then say this" crap. Just understand what actually attracts women - confidence and non-neediness. Don't ever chase for the approval of a w…
/r/seduction15/01/22 05:22 PM
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Most men would welcome a direct advance from a woman they find physically attractive.
/r/seduction15/01/22 04:24 AM
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Drop her like a bad habit. Make it a personal rule to yourself that you will not sext without verifying age first ever again.
/r/seduction06/01/22 04:38 PM
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I relate to this very much. Same situation - meet a girl at the beginning on 2020. Got friendzoned after a few months and I stayed hanging on her every word. I'm cutting her out of my life and focusing on bettering myself.
/r/seduction06/01/22 12:06 PM
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Looking down - doesn't want eye contact but attracted to you.
/r/seduction04/01/22 02:50 AM
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This is the view of a needy man who doesn't understand how attraction works.
/r/seduction01/01/22 11:07 PM
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The paradox is that the moment you try convincing others that you are an "alpha," you simultaneously demonstrate that you are not one.
/r/seduction29/12/21 06:15 PM
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You did. Lol Or do you only fuck the ugly ones, as per your own post earlier?
/r/seduction26/12/21 07:48 PM
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This mindset is precisely why you don't get laid.
/r/seduction26/12/21 07:47 PM
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Seduction isn't about being someone you are not. It's about maximizing your attractiveness. Being the best version of you.
/r/seduction22/12/21 03:51 PM
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This sounds like you have an insecurity problem, which is not an attractive male trait. Instead of trying to change her, ask yourself why you are pursuing her?
/r/seduction11/12/21 01:33 AM
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You don't subconsciously become better at game without first consciously thinking about how to improve. New subconscious thought patterns occur after consciously repeating the patterns first. This is how the human brain works with learning ANY new still, not just seduction.
/r/seduction26/11/21 07:35 PM
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Quality post.
/r/seduction13/11/21 07:47 PM
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Ask on seddit, not here
/r/seduction13/11/21 05:45 PM
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This isn't a shit test. Shit tests happen when a woman is testing your congruencey. When she's trying to see if you're actually a high value guy, or a pretender. You've already had sex with her, and she wants you to be her exclusive boyfriend. What she's doing is trying to game you using jealousy. She really wants that exclusivity with you, and if you're jealous of another guy, then you might give it to her, even though the vibe you've given her is non-committment ("I'll think about it", unphase…
/r/seduction06/11/21 01:49 PM
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"sad" By who's standards? The people who say you HAVE to be married with kids by your 30s are also the same people who are complete shit at game and give you bad advice like "buy her a drink" and "women only care about looks and money."
/r/seduction05/11/21 07:14 PM
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I don't care what her number is as long as she practices safe sex
/r/seduction05/11/21 05:16 PM
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This is a seduction forum. Hiring an escort is the opposite of that.
/r/seduction05/11/21 02:09 PM
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This guy gets it
/r/seduction04/11/21 05:04 PM
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It's not immoral. Though you won't find many fulfilling relationships pretending to be someone you are not.
/r/seduction04/11/21 02:06 PM
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It's a shit test, and it means you're doing something right. Read all about it here - some really good responses by Todd V https://www.toddvdating.com/pass-shit-test/
/r/seduction01/11/21 11:15 AM
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You failed once and gave up? Instead of throwing your hands up in the air, analyze and see what you learned. Which interactions got you positive feedback? Which ones didn't? How will you adjust for your next night out? A common mistake that lots of beginners do is they consider anything short of getting laid is a failure. For now, the key for building your own skill will come from where you set the goal. I think you should set your goals to address your sticking points. Approach anxiety? Approac…
/r/seduction31/10/21 04:53 PM
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When you don't lead the conversation, it's easy for her to fall back into boring topics (work, exes, etc.). The problem with just nodding along is that now the experience has turned into boring encounter, and now you are associated to that feeling. You are now the friend she complains about her life to, and no longer the cute guy she's interested in fucking. Next time this happens, acknowledge it ("that sucks") but change the subject to something more interesting and engaging. She's with you and…
/r/seduction31/10/21 09:56 AM
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So what is the point of this post? If you want advice, ask in r/askseddit Otherwise, there is no learning or teaching happening here. Just you making excuses why you're scared to talk to girls.
/r/seduction31/10/21 01:33 AM
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Sounds like buyer's remorse and she just got caught up in her feelings. This can happen if you escalate too quickly. Your bathroom break probably gave her time to actually think about having sex, and whether or not she should still do it. Best thing you can do is roll with the punches and don't get baited into explaining why her feelings are wrong to her. Nothing wrong with you. Just use it as a learning experience and move on if you need to.
/r/seduction28/10/21 01:52 AM
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Set the frame instead of letting her take control of it. If women approach you, then you will probably be able to approach women with little rejection.
/r/seduction27/10/21 12:45 AM
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Thanks, Karen.
/r/seduction25/10/21 08:18 PM
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Get outta your head. Most people in society have this exact same thought when they interact with others (coming across as "creepy"). If you could read minds, you'd realize that everyone you meet with has this same fear. Take a moment to realize how ironic the whole thing is. A room full of people worried what the room full of people thinks of them. The fear comes from an dependence of the outcome of a situation. Once you realize that you don't need to depend on a positive outcome, you'll be a lo…
/r/seduction25/10/21 06:52 PM
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It can be difficult to see it from that perspective when you don't live in abundance. You will find yourself grasping a little tighter on relationships and friendships that stay past their welcome. Get yourself into a mindset of meeting new people in general. Cultivate those friendships and meet their friends. You don't have to date or hookup with every person you interact with, if that helps alleviate the pressure. This girl won't really know the difference, other than you seem to be a pretty c…
/r/seduction25/10/21 06:42 PM
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She misses the connection you guys had, and thought she'd lose it if you started dating. Personally I'd still reiterate that you want to date, and whether or not she wants to be in that mix is up to her. The thing that will push her to consider dating you would be seeing you with other women.
/r/seduction25/10/21 06:35 PM
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Do something that will test that investment. Tell her you are interested beyond pen pals and suggest a meet up. Perhaps you can buy a plane ticket. If she's not invested, she will come up with excuses. If you don't convey your intentions, how do you expect to learn hers? Don't avoid the possibility of rejection out of fear.
/r/seduction25/10/21 05:16 PM
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You can't read minds, so the best way is to make a move. Her reaction will tell you where you stand. Don't fear rejection. Be proud that you made the move instead of doing what most guys do - think about it too much without actually making a move.
/r/seduction25/10/21 03:50 PM
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Attraction is not a choice. If you aren't feeling it, then you aren't feeling it.
/r/seduction25/10/21 03:40 PM
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Cocky/funny is a balance. If you're too cocky, you come across as too self absorbed to form a real connection. So it might be attractive for the short term, but it won't last, especially if your cockiness isn't congruent with your actions. If you're too funny-guy, you won't be taken seriously. You'll be the clown that makes everyone laugh, and can make great long lasting friendships, but you won't get laid. Your goal is to make them feel good simply by being in your presence. You build attractio…
/r/seduction25/10/21 03:32 PM
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Incorporate some humor/funny guy vibe into your routine. You've got the confidence, but you need to build trust. Humor does this easily.
/r/seduction25/10/21 03:12 PM
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Make friends with their friends.
/r/seduction25/10/21 02:42 PM
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Focus less on approval seeking and more on just enjoying the beat of your own drum.
/r/seduction25/10/21 02:11 PM
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The number one thing women are attracted to is confidence. Identify aspects of your life that you want to feel more confident in. Does your body lower your self confidence? Hit the gym and take care of it. Would you like to feel more confident with carrying on an interesting conversation? Make some friends, and practice chatting up strangers. Confidence comes from building upon a belief in yourself and your capabilities. If you feel that you have low confidence in anything, then practice that th…
/r/seduction21/10/21 02:22 PM
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That's not a shit test. A shit test is a test to see if your frame can be disrupted. In this case, she's being playful. Just run with it and be playful back. It could also be that she just likes watching sports aka sports fan. Take her to a game :)
/r/seduction20/10/21 01:29 PM
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This^
/r/seduction20/10/21 12:04 PM
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No one of arguing that the number of women you've slept with is "bad." The question is - why do you get up in arms when you're told that the actual number doesn't really matter? Edit Oh, downvote me instead of answering the question? Lol
/r/seduction19/10/21 08:55 PM
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Play a game with yourself where you will take a mental note of their eye color. This will change your focus to eyes, which is where it should be.
/r/seduction17/10/21 03:13 PM
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I got this same feeling at about the 30 mark.
/r/seduction16/10/21 07:11 PM
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Make eye contact with her and smile. Then walk over and introduce yourself.
/r/seduction16/10/21 12:31 PM
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Her friends cockblocked you. Next time try to win them over as well before you escalate with her.
/r/seduction15/10/21 06:37 PM
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An out of shape guy with game will be more successful than a fit guy with no game -- yes that is correct. However.. A fit guy with game vs an out of shape guy with game? The fit guy wins ;) Simply by getting in shape, you are at an advantage, so why short yourself? Easier to game with a full deck than it is playing with non-face cards.
/r/seduction15/10/21 05:11 PM
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You increase your self esteem by improving both your body and mind. You shouldn't be working out just for appearance reasons - you should be doing it for health reasons.
/r/seduction15/10/21 04:35 PM
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So you fapped and played video games in your teenage years? Believe it or not, that's pretty normal teenage boy behavior, so don't beat yourself up over it. It's much more common than you think. In fact, most of your "competition" well be other men who did this exact same thing growing up. With that in mind, the single most important thing you can do is to focus on self improvement. Talking to girls and getting laid is just a side effect of being a man of high value. Start a workout routine Make…
/r/seduction15/10/21 04:32 PM
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Most of the nudes I've received were either in the context of the conversation (when meeting in real life wasn't an option, but we were both turned on by each other) or just straight up unsolicited. The key is to not make it obvious that's what you want to see - that's just creepy and one sided. Instead, create a safe and comforting space for her to open up. Flirt. Keep it interesting. Feel the energy. Space out your responses to match the time frame it takes for her to respond to you. Be fun. Y…
/r/seduction15/10/21 03:40 PM
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Getting laid is a side effect of being social. You've got to be willing to make an idiot of yourself in order to start improving. The point is to let go of what others think of you, and to start building confidence. We all gotta start somewhere. What matters is the willingness to start. Start off with just trying to make friends. Put the desire for sex off to the side and just focus on getting better at talking to people. Once you get good at holding a conversation, then you can start paying att…
/r/seduction05/10/21 08:16 PM
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Your define what your "league" is in your own world. I used to believe that there was this invisible class of attractive people who only interact with other attractive people, and my "league" was people below that line. The truth is that attraction is subjective, and not a choice. This means women you find "attractive" may actually feel the same about you despite the "league" rules. Learn how to be the best version of yourself, and it'll feel like magic when these "out of your league" women star…
/r/seduction24/09/21 08:32 PM
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You hired a PI because she wasn't obsessed with you anymore? This sounds a bit narcissistic and controlling. I suspect there's more to this story that you aren't telling us. Also, this is probably not the best subreddit for marriage advice.
/r/seduction21/09/21 06:39 PM
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You are trying waaaaay too hard to earn her approval. Ask less questions trying to predict her response (this is an approval seeking behavior). The frame for want to set is one where you are inviting her into your world, not one where you are trying to earn a spot in hers.
/r/seduction14/08/21 02:15 AM
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Not being honest about your intentions is "nice guy" energy.
/r/seduction10/08/21 05:04 PM
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I feel ya. It's confusing as fuck. But it's also a reality we have to accept.
/r/seduction06/08/21 04:46 PM
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Try connecting with guys at events outside of bars and friends. Apps like Meet Up have a great system for finding groups of people based on similar interests as your own. This way, you'll have a better chance at meeting new guys who will text back instead of looking for a one night stand.
/r/seduction05/08/21 08:25 PM
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Work on letting go of the dependency of the outcome. In other words, divorce your need to gain her approval, or fear of not receiving it.
/r/seduction28/07/21 04:54 PM
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There's a lot missing from this story. Like they just unexpectedly and magically followed you back to your house, and then you just continued talking to them when they showed up?
/r/seduction25/07/21 07:47 PM
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I've had similar happen recently. Stopped talking to her and spent my time with other girls. Suddenly she has a renewed interest in my time starts messaging me every day, at least until I give her a little of the attention she's seeking, and now she's "busy" again. The lesson is not to chase. If she flaked, then she needs to work for your attention. Don't give it away freely. Your time is important.
/r/seduction18/07/21 03:51 PM
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No. I didn't say "stay alone." I said seek therapy. Dependency on the approval of women and and other people means your mood and feelings aren't in your control -- they are in someone else's. This will cause you to feel fear, depression and misery anytime you feel rejection. You become dependent on what you "think" others want in order to avoid being outcast by them. You become afraid of rocking the boat because you need approval. In the process, you lose your sense of self, as you can't control…
/r/seduction18/07/21 01:12 PM
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Trust me man. I feel this. And unfortunately, a dependency on a woman to make you happy will also make you unattractive to them. It comes across as needy and desperate. You have to find and pursue a purpose that's more important than the SO/GF. You have to establish goals and pursue them. You need a life that she can join, not lead. Therapy can help you establish good mental health, which can help with finding that happiness.
/r/seduction18/07/21 04:43 AM
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Therapy. No really. You can't expect a woman or other people to make you happy. You have to find it in yourself. A trained professional can get you there.
/r/seduction17/07/21 10:06 PM
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I hate to be the bad guy, but chances aren't that great with this girl. She's probably just enjoying her new singleness and flirting with whoever she feels like. The issue here is that you've known her for 3 years and developed a crush for her, with absolutely no effort on her part. Now, if you're still willing to try, and you don't mind burning that bridge with your friend (because you will) then be very direct with her with what you want, and be ready to accept an outcome you won't like. I'm n…
/r/seduction07/07/21 01:14 PM
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Women hanging with other dudes doesn't mean she's hooking up with them. Lots of single girls have "orbiter" men. Don't let that intimidate you into not talking to them.
/r/seduction06/07/21 02:09 PM
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Getting laid is a side effect of getting better at inner game.
/r/seduction06/07/21 01:36 PM
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What are activities you want to be confident in? Practice those. You will suck at first, just like every other new skill you're trying to learn. You've gotta be willing to crash and burn, even if for nothing but the learning experience itself. Don't rely on the outcome. As time passes, you will become more confident in those skills. I used to be terrible at socializing. I was the guy at parties who would stand in a corner or sit alone in a couch, waiting for people to approach and talk to me, an…
/r/seduction05/07/21 12:39 AM
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You build confidence. No one single post is going to suddenly teach you this life skill, because this skill takes time and practice. If you've spent most of your life in the same negative feedback loop, then understanding and building confidence just simply won't feel "normal" to you because it's out of your comfort zone. Confidence comes from repetition of activities that increase it.
/r/seduction04/07/21 11:46 PM
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You're 1 in 10,000 followers. At that point, she's probably not going to pay attention to any of them for longer than mere seconds. That being said, forget her IG. It's really unimportant, especially if she's already digging you IRL.
/r/seduction02/07/21 08:36 PM
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If you are looking to get practice at cold approach, it's best to start at bars/clubs. These places are considered the most difficult, but also give you the most opportunities. Get good at that, then approaching during the day won't feel nearly as nerve-wrecking.
/r/seduction22/05/21 10:14 PM
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