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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
22	Men: A Story Of Hope		whist1e	/r/Divorce_Men	13/06/20 04:01 AM

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2	Is it wrong that I want my kid to prefer me over his mom? You can want that all you want, but their childhood isn’t your ego boost. It’s THEIR childhood and THEIR psychological well being that’s important and above your ego. Yes it feels amazing (I’m a single dad and have primary custody) but I don’t want my kids to feel like crap when they aren’t with me. Plus kids learn how to get on mom and dads good side; yes it feels good, but you could also be reinforcing manipulative behavior on their part and yours. Glad you have an awareness of it, but keep yo…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/12/20 09:26 PM
1	Men: A Story Of Hope Man just be ready; I went through some of your post history, lots in common with my ex. Divorce changes people; you get to see sides of them you never thought were possible. Unless it’s totally amicable, don’t mediate. Another tactic used is to draw things out with meaningless and empty moves, which makes it most costly for you, and is a way for her to “get back” at you (if she’s knows for playing emotional and possibly vindicate games). The shit or get off the pot is basically her calling you o…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/06/20 08:57 PM
1	Men: A Story Of Hope Lol... I’ll sort that one out later	/r/Divorce_Men	14/06/20 03:12 PM
2	Men: A Story Of Hope Thanks man; and your right, no one does.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/06/20 10:27 AM
2	Men: A Story Of Hope It’s tough man! But I promise you the work you put into smiling and waving does pay off in the long run. Keep strong! Appreciate the sentiment!	/r/Divorce_Men	13/06/20 10:26 AM
3	Men: A Story Of Hope Appreciate that! Yes keep going! Congrats on your renewed sense of self!	/r/Divorce_Men	13/06/20 10:24 AM
2	Men: A Story Of Hope Thanks my dude!	/r/Divorce_Men	13/06/20 10:23 AM
4	How long till you came to terms with divorcing? This 100% dude you summed it all up; it’s the manual, everyone should follow this. Make a post for others to see; solid advice!	/r/Divorce_Men	11/04/20 08:12 PM
3	What is it like initially filing on a SO? You have to be prepared, focused, and know exactly why you are doing this. This is for yourself and your kids It took me almost a year to get it all done; and yes she will go nuts when she finds out. She’s blamed you for everything, this will just be more things that are your fault. Keep cool, don’t antagonize, and just hang in there. Make sure you have a plan and stick to it. Find a GOOD lawyer, one that has worked with helping dads, especially military dads in your case. A good lawyer is worth…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/03/20 01:56 PM
3	Wifey left me a day before Valentine’s Day! This is awesome! Good riddance! Get an attorney ASAP; one that has gotten custody for fathers in the past, change the locks, and see this as a good thing! Don’t get caught up in emotional baggage; she left her kids, that’s not a good person. You won!	/r/Divorce_Men	15/02/20 03:27 PM
2	Tough morning for me. Hang in there my dude; they can’t process what this all means, but stay the course and be consistent. You will ALWAYS be dad; that will never change, ever And resist the urge to talk smack against her, no matter what she says or does, raise the bar for your kids, as you are the male blueprint of what a father/husband is. They will look back and appreciate how you held yourself to a higher standard; I’ve spoken with many adults who were raised in a situation like yours, and they all have said the…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/01/20 06:54 PM
8	Cohabitating during process? Agree with everything he said; your marriage is over. Get a lawyer, move into a spare room, document everything, DO NOT TRUST HER. Unfortunately, her whole world is about to crumble, and she is going to hold onto the illusion of what she thinks is going on, instead of what actually is. If you think she’s bad now, she’s going to get worse. Get a lawyer, get a separate bank account, and change all the passwords of your accounts. She is going to be nasty, and it will not get any better. You can’t l…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/20 01:37 AM
1	End of the cycle A lawyer is a must; have to	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/19 08:45 PM
2	End of the cycle Happy to hear you recognize it and acknowledge it for what it is. Can’t fix what you don’t perceive. Get out: be true to yourself. Protect your daughter... there’s more to life than what you are experiencing. You owe her nothing, and you owe your daughter better, and most important of al, you owe yourself the best life possible Go for it	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/19 02:49 PM
4	End of the cycle You have power; your power is in your restraint to not give in and lower yourself to her “antics”. Get a lawyer, one that is on your side and has some experience and wins getting men custody. document the irrational behavior, and DONT GIVE INTO HER BEHAVIOR You are not a victim; your power is in your ability to control yourself. She doesn’t have it, which is why when you do, it triggers her. Stay cool, it a rough road, but you have rights and as long as you keep your cool, you will prevail. Let …	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/19 08:43 AM
2	I have a question There are some situations where the back pay on the child support still needs to be caught up; so for example if he owed 1000 in child support when you adopted, even though he no longer owes chid support as of when he terminated rights, he still owes the 1000, and is still legally required to pay it.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/11/19 04:33 AM