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white_gelt/r/seduction29/09/15 06:20 PM
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The general rule is that if you think it might be creepy, you are going to say it in a creepy way, and it will come across creepy. If another guy compliments you on something, do you find it creepy? I almost never do. I almost never even wonder if he is sexually attracted to me. I just appreciate the compliment, say thank you, and move on. Even when I do think the guy is hitting on me, it makes me smile and I take it as a great compliment. Don't overthink this.
/r/seduction01/03/16 07:14 PM
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lol, not exactly social engineering. TL;DW on getting into venues: Hop fences and climb walls.
/r/seduction25/02/16 10:19 PM
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"Amazing"
/r/seduction25/02/16 06:20 PM
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The one thing that I heard a long time ago and that I keep in mind when doing pickup in crowded situations is: Everybody is rooting for you. Think about if you were the other person. If you saw/heard some guy approach a girl next to you and get her number, wouldn't you be stoked for him? I'd probably want to high five him. Let's say he didn't get the number. You'd respect the effort and probably want to tell him to keep it up and not get discouraged. You wouldn't believe how many times a guy has…
/r/seduction23/02/16 07:05 PM
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I prefer the stop from behind with a tap on the shoulder, but to each his own. I think this video is really good on the subject: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aaI3Srkd9tY
/r/seduction18/02/16 09:17 PM
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Dude, read the second to last paragraph. You know what you need to do. Nobody is going to hold your hand through this, so just get your ass up and do it. Stop wasting time and money on "entertainment and multi media systems" and start spending that time and money on getting a job, boosting your wardrobe (find a famous and fashionable guy's style, like David Beckham, and emulate his style), getting your own apartment, taking up a hobby or two (outside of your house, and preferably one that involv…
/r/seduction28/01/16 07:04 PM
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This is more than just oneitis. At the very least it's also approach anxiety. "even if I get rejected I wouldn't care, just prefer to know I gave it a try" Sooooo...go fucking talk to her. Just remember, the regret you will have for being too much of a pussy to talk to a girl is ALWAYS worse than being shot down.
/r/seduction27/01/16 08:54 PM
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Assuming you mean pickup podcasts, here are a few I will listen to from time-to-time. AoC and DSR are my favorites on the list. The Art of Charm Dating Sex Relationships How to Talk to Girls The Sexual Life
/r/seduction15/12/15 07:27 PM
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I feel like my jump shot is the best it has ever been but I can't make a basket. Any ideas why that might be?
/r/seduction15/12/15 07:15 PM
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Can't hurt to have your testosterone checked by a doctor. If it's low then your doc can help you out with that. Some people are just less motivated by sex than others. Doesn't mean there is anything wrong with that. Just do what makes you happy. Consider whether you are happy in other areas of your life though, because maybe you're dealing with some depression. There's also the possibility that you are subconsciously rationalizing why aren't pursuing girls. You may have some underlying fears or …
/r/seduction11/12/15 08:01 PM
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In no particular order my 3 current faves: Yves St Laurent La Nuit De L'homme Chanel Egoiste Gucci Guilty I still think Jean Paul Gaultier Le Male is one of the best fragrances of all time but it is soooooo popular and such a distinct scent that it doesn't stand out in the crowd. Although my friends that still wear it will still get plenty of compliments on it.
/r/seduction07/12/15 10:41 PM
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Really like this one too. My other go-to colognes are: Yves St Laurent La Nuit De L'homme and Chanel Egoiste.
/r/seduction07/12/15 10:37 PM
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None of this has to do with seduction. That being said, look into self hypnosis for your anxiety. It can work wonders.
/r/seduction27/11/15 11:20 PM
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I think your best bet is going to swinger specific places. There are websites and clubs where like minded people can meet up. You're going to have a much better shot doing that than trying to pick up a couple who has probably never thought about or discussed swinging before.
/r/seduction27/11/15 10:56 PM
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Most people are saying about the same thing I was going to say, which is go very slow and delicate at first with very little to no tongue. If she starts going more aggressive than you can increase to match her. I agree with what others are saying about the hands too, so I won't go into that. HOWEVER, my new thing that is getting a lot of positive feedback is: I like to pull their hair a little bit on the first kiss. When your hand is caressing the side of her face/neck, slide it around and gentl…
/r/seduction12/11/15 08:40 PM
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Abundance isn't really any of those things. The idea of the abundance mentality was, I believe, first stated in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It is the opposite of the scarcity mentality. An abundant mindset rejects the notion that we are playing a zero sum game - i.e., the idea that all people can't be successful. Scarcity mentality = if someone else wins, I lose. Abundance mentality = If someone else wins, there is still plenty out there for me. As it applies to pickup, abundance me…
/r/seduction10/11/15 05:40 PM
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I don't follow. My success is based on my height? Other's lack of success is because they're not as tall as me? Shorter guys can't game as well as taller guys? Guys that are 6'4" must get alllllll the pussy. It's not even fair to me. Waaah. I get it that the vast majority of women would prefer a taller man over a shorter one. I have plenty of physical traits that are not ideal - I don't let them hold me back. Shit, look at Owen from RSD. He's a short, balding redhead. It's obvious that height is…
/r/seduction06/11/15 10:33 PM
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6'3"
/r/seduction06/11/15 06:28 PM
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No, I don't worry about it. I have actually approached the same girl twice a couple of times. Once I recognized her right away and once I didn't. On the one I didn't, I luckily didn't use the same opener as the first time. I do a very standard direct daygame approach.
/r/seduction06/11/15 12:24 AM
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I daygame a lot and go to bars/clubs. I don't and wouldn't (at my age) go to college campus (they're not that young anyways). I have had great success daygaming downtown in the major city where I live. To be honest, anywhere I go if I see a girl that I'm attracted to I will almost always approach. I think younger girls tend to find me attractive because I have a good professional job, am a business owner in a cool industry, and generally have my shit together (appear to, anyways). Combine that w…
/r/seduction05/11/15 10:57 PM
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Not sure what you want us to share but I'm in my late 30s and am dating three girls aged 24, 25, and 26. In that past six months, I've fucked two 21 year old girls as well. I date and hook up with older women too, but that's not really on point for this topic.
/r/seduction05/11/15 10:32 PM
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It's anxiety and fear, and it's totally irrational. Our brains are wired for us to avoid uncomfortable things. Your brain is perceiving this as an immediate threat and causing you to avoid it, even though you know you will feel worse later. There is no magic sentence or easy work around that will get you to overcome it. If you can't figure out how to push through that fear on your own, then start studying how to break through anxieties, fears, and phobias. Go on Amazon and get some books on the …
/r/seduction04/11/15 11:51 PM
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I didn't say it wasn't enjoyable. I said it has a place in the order of things. What it sounds like you're saying is that it's place is only useful as a step towards immediate sex. I disagree. And I'm not talking about "kissing," I'm talking about making out. Don't reframe the discussion. Meanwhile, in the two comments I replied to, you almost exclusively used the word "kiss," not making out. So I don't believe I'm reframing anything. Regardless, you can replace "kissing" with "making out" if yo…
/r/seduction21/10/15 05:20 PM
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I guess I'm missing why kissing in itself isn't enjoyable to you. I mean, if her and I didn't end up having sex last night, I wouldn't consider the night wasted. I still would've had a great time with her. We've had sex before and we'll have sex again. The way you wrote it, it seemed you were saying that there is no point in kissing a girl if it wasn't leading to sex right then and there. I wholeheartedly disagree. There are a number of times that for whatever reason a girl and I can't or don't …
/r/seduction21/10/15 04:25 PM
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This is odd to me - maybe I don't understand your point. Is kissing not fun and enjoyable for you? I thoroughly enjoy kissing and making out with girls and they enjoy it too. It's not the end all be all - I still love having sex with them and many other things, but I don't see why kissing and making out should be frowned upon. Last night I had a girl over. We ate dinner, watched tv, and started making out on the couch. We went to the bedroom and had sex. Then we came back out and kept kissing an…
/r/seduction21/10/15 03:38 PM
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Yup. Just remember, no matter what happens, nothing feels worse than not going for it. Trust me.
/r/seduction19/10/15 09:33 PM
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Dood. She was throwing all kinds of giant, bright, flashing signs at you. Next time = make. the. move.
/r/seduction19/10/15 09:07 PM
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Google results will be better at describing details etc, but my set up is that basically I only eat from the time I get home from work (6ish) until I go to bed (11ish, M-Th). So from the time I wake up until I get home from work the only thing I ingest is water, black coffee, and diet soda (every now and then). On a keto diet, where your blood sugar remains stable, it is actually pretty easy to do.
/r/seduction19/10/15 08:10 PM
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I'm not sure why you're doing nofap but if you think you need to stop fapping than you probably should at least cut back. I think quitting porn is more important psychologically than quitting fapping but that's neither here nor there with respect to your post. Regarding not being able to approach - there are no shortcuts. There are no secrets. You just have to swallow your fear and fucking do it. It may go horribly the first few times. Maybe. Maybe not. But even if it does, so what? Even if it g…
/r/seduction19/10/15 01:37 PM
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I do a keto diet (all the time) with intermittent fasting (M-F). I try supplement with fish oil and vitamin D, but honestly, I forget to take them more often than not.
/r/seduction19/10/15 01:27 PM
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So much this.
/r/seduction17/10/15 07:34 PM
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I didn't think the book was good either. In fact, I when I clicked on this link I was thinking, "Oh god, why do people love this damn book so much?" However, it appears that it was eye opening for a lot of guys which I find strange but, whatever helps them achieve their goals, I guess.
/r/seduction17/10/15 07:33 PM
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I daygame for about an hour a day M-F and, depending on how many cute girls are out that day, I get 4 or 5 approaches per day on average. Nightgame for me is different. If my first approach is a home run I might stick with that girl all night. So nightgame is a little different than daygame that way (in daygame you're obviously much less likely to pull).
/r/seduction16/10/15 03:27 PM
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The first thing you should know is that you need to get comfortable with it. Truly comfortable. Anything you do that you're not comfortable with will also be uncomfortable for the other person. People can just sense it. So that is your goal - become actually comfortable with it (versus faking it or just forcing yourself to do it). I don't know how uncomfortable you are with touching but I'm sure you can think of baby steps yourself. Shaking hands with everyone you meet. Shaking hands and touchin…
/r/seduction13/10/15 05:37 PM
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Ugh...not you again.
/r/seduction12/10/15 10:46 PM
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Daygame and nightgame (bars/clubs) Almost every single one has slept with me within 2 dates. The only one remember that didn't turned out to be against pre-marital sex for religious purposes. Before I filled up my rotation, I would go out every day. I have a couple of friends who I regularly game with at night. They're my friends that I met socially - I was not specifically looking for "wings" I had to get past my approach anxiety but I had decent success early on and it really boosted my confid…
/r/seduction12/10/15 10:43 PM
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The only people who wear sunglasses at night are blind people and assholes. BTW, those are not good looking sunglasses even during the day. Look at pictures of men who are considered universally attractive - I'm willing to bet you can't find a single one wearing those types of sunglasses.
/r/seduction09/10/15 03:37 PM
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You're coming off kinda douchey, so you've been downvoted into oblivion, but the truth is you can live that life at any age. It is difficult to fit it all in between job, gym, hobbies, partying, and dating. I hold a respected professional position, party all weekend plus another night or two during the week, workout every day (sometimes twice), and date about 4-5 top-notch girls. I don't have a lot of free time to just sit around and do nothing, but I like it that way. You can't let your partyin…
/r/seduction05/10/15 04:49 PM
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Sounds to me like she's fucking with you - she's teasing you for her enjoyment. I, personally, wouldn't put up with it. Next time you're with her, make your moves. If it doesn't work, then move the fuck on. She sounds like a pain in the ass.
/r/seduction01/10/15 05:10 PM
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Knowing the scenario here would help. Sexual talk is unnecessary and often uncomfortable for girls. Many people would rather engage in sex than talk about it, especially with someone they don't know all that well. Asking her out, asking for her number, escalating kino, pulling to another location, etc. These are all obvious signs that you are interested in them sexually. If she is complying, then the two of you are on the same page. Complimenting her on her lips or legs or whatever is fine but w…
/r/seduction30/09/15 09:23 PM
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22 upvotes (when I got here) for staring contest game as a way to kiss a girl? Up next: If you wanna touch her breasts, you can play a game called Tune in Tokyo...
/r/seduction30/09/15 08:38 PM
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So what you wanted was just one of the three? Either I don't understand your point or we have different situations/wants. I thoroughly enjoy all of them and am not looking to have an exclusive relationship with anyone right now. I'm just curious about what other guys do game-wise when they are at their limit for the number of girls they can date at one time.
/r/seduction29/09/15 10:57 PM
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"Lets get outta here, i've got some awesome music to show you" " Lets bounce, I've got a great bottle of wine back at my place" This is the type of thing I use but I like to bring up whatever the "draw" is early and sometimes often in the night and then use it for the pull at the end. For instance, I have a great home bar and when I'm out having drinks with a girl I will mention how I have some interesting/rare bottle at home and I used it make the best [insert relevant cocktail here]. Then when…
/r/seduction29/09/15 06:40 PM
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I have never seen it but I find the promo videos for it to be so douchey and cringey that would never watch it.
/r/seduction29/09/15 06:32 PM
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Ridiculously stupid. Won't even click on that link.
/r/seduction29/09/15 06:27 PM
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I think one easy way to do it is ask follow up questions directly involving their emotions/feelings. Questions like: "What was that like?" "What does that feel like?" "How did that make you feel?" etc. You can use statements rather than questions too. "I bet that made you feel so __________" "Tell me more about that"
/r/seduction29/09/15 06:25 PM
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Text her today and set up a date.
/r/seduction25/09/15 04:53 PM
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I think that's fine. It's funny and if you think it's funny then go for it. But don't drag the joke on. After she responds, ask her out. Be specific with a time and a place. Make it a statement, not a question ("Lets grab some drinks at..." or whatever) How long has it been since you got this number? Also, slow down on seeing "a relationship with this girl." Date her for awhile before you start thinking like that.
/r/seduction25/09/15 04:26 PM
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Saying you were rejected is just introducing a negative thought into a positive situation. It had nothing to do with "you." She doesn't know you based on one short interaction. It sounds stupid, but honestly, it's this type of thinking and understanding that is necessary to build the confidence necessary to do approach after approach after approach no matter what the result is.
/r/seduction16/09/15 11:11 PM
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You weren't rejected, she just can't date you right now because she has a boyfriend.
/r/seduction15/09/15 10:33 PM
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I feel like you emphasized the wrong word.
/r/seduction11/09/15 09:02 PM
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Advice: don't puss out next time. Seriously, though, when you first start approaching girls and you push past your fears you will feel really good no matter what her response is. The fact that you did it and overcame your fear should feel very good to you and no rejection feels worse than having to admit to yourself that you were terrified to talk to a girl.
/r/seduction11/09/15 05:24 PM
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I don't like the particular video you linked to, but after looking at some of the other videos on his channel, I agree - dude is pretty good.
/r/seduction02/09/15 11:38 PM
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That's a panty dropper for any woman that has lived with a guy before.
/r/seduction02/09/15 11:08 PM
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They're terrible and total RSD ripoffs. Every video this guy or group of guys post is god awful. They have to be upvoting their own posts. No other explanation for it.
/r/seduction02/09/15 11:05 PM
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You want to be like that guy? You thought that was good stuff? He litterally suggested two "your mom" comebacks for when women give you shit tests. That was fucking horrible.
/r/seduction25/08/15 10:56 PM
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How I would handle this depends a lot on what the vibe of the interaction is and the girl's self confidence. If she's a really hot, high status girl then I might tease her with something like [smiling] "Oh, how presumptuous to think I was talking about you." Or if she's a girl with less self-perceived status, I could say something along the lines of what you said "I was talking about the mountains but actually you're pretty cute too." Either way, what you said seems fine. Don't sweat it.
/r/seduction25/08/15 04:55 PM
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That was pretty cool. I had never seen that before. Thanks.
/r/seduction24/08/15 10:34 PM
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Any progress is a success. Be proud of it and keep progressing.
/r/seduction24/08/15 10:09 PM
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I seriously doubt this happened, at least the way you describe it. However: "And don't think I didn't try to hit it, cause I did." Actually, you didn't. You're naked, she's in a bra and panties, and the two of you are laying in your hotel bed...what the fuck are you talking to her about? At the very least, you were scared to seal the deal. The only reason you need to be holding any type of conversation in that situation is if she is showing resistance. "groped my junk all to high hell" What the …
/r/seduction19/08/15 08:22 PM
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You sound similar to me when I started actively changing my game. I'm in my late-30s now and I close girls in their 20s on a regular basis. What can you do to "fuck these 22 to 30 year olds"? Start learning game and immediatly start implementing it. Don't try to wait until you have it all figured out. Go out today and tonight and approach girls. The truth is that if you are in your 30s with solid income, decent looks, and some game, you will be very attractive to a lot of these younger girls.
/r/seduction18/08/15 04:22 PM
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No single free video on youtube or the rsd website alone will convey everything you need to know. Remember, they're trying to get you to buy their products. So watch a lot of them. Once you watch a bunch of the videos and piece the ideas together, a clearer picture comes into focus. You don't have to be glued to the screen for an hour at a time, play it in the background - there will be a lot of overlap, especially in the infield footage. Todd, Owen, and Max are my favorites.
/r/seduction17/08/15 11:08 PM
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A lot of times it is just an issue of comfort. She wants to know that you're not going to treat her like an asshole, you're not going to think she's a slut, or tell other people who will then think she's a slut. Try to be more reassuring and sweet with her. She wants to feel safe with you. You need her to know you're on the same team headed towards the same goal. You're not competitors. Don't come across too agressive or eager. Take. It. Slow. It could be an order of progression issue too. If yo…
/r/seduction14/08/15 10:19 PM
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What I suggested was bringing something that will get him and his friends up and having fun and parenthetically stated that it is also attractive to women. I'm not sure why you think that's validation seeking. I didn't say anthing about faking having fun or doing so just for the image so that girls pay attention to you.
/r/seduction14/08/15 04:44 PM
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It's completely normal to not feel the same - there is a chemical response when you are in the earlier stages of a relationship that eventually fades. Most long term relationships go through a number of different phases. The initial feeling of love and lust can usually only last up to 2 years. After that initial phase, they transition into something a little different. It can be deeper and more meaningful, etc but it is different. You just have to decide what will make you happy and go for it. Y…
/r/seduction14/08/15 04:21 PM
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I generally agree with this but I also think bringing something fun to do is a good idea. It can get you and your friends up and doing stuff and having fun (which is attractive) and it can also be used to get the girls into your group (asking them to join).
/r/seduction14/08/15 04:11 PM
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Uh...wat?
/r/seduction13/08/15 10:36 PM
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I actually prefer to approach from behind, even when we are walking towards each other. I let her pass and then I turn around, catch up to her, tap her on the shoulder and/or say "exucse me" and direct open. I think the mistake was trying to stop a girl that was running. I'm not sure if she was exercising or running to get somewhere but either way, I think you should let a running girl go.
/r/seduction13/08/15 10:33 PM
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The seduction is the same. You date different women until you find the one (or more) you want something long term with. If you're saying that you already know which woman you want to get into a long term relationship, then you are putting the cart in front of the horse. Take her out and date her for awhile. Date other women too. Find out if she is really the person you want to be in a relationship with or whether you're just chasing some childish crush. I think you're missing the entire point of…
/r/seduction13/08/15 09:58 PM
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I don't know all the interactions you have had with her, so I can't honestly say exactly how I would approach it. Do you know her name? If not, then that is a good way to start a convo too. Something like "Hey, we've said hi to each other a few times but I don't think we've ever officially met, I'm bluePMAknight." Then shake her hand and have a conversation. If you can't have a real conversation in that environment then after a few sentences back and forth giving names, what you do there, etc. y…
/r/seduction13/08/15 08:04 PM
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Don't phrase it like that, though. It's fine that you just want to get to know her better - that IS the point of a first date/meet. However, phrase it how /u/mal97 did.
/r/seduction13/08/15 05:48 PM
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"Would you mind if I joined you sometime when you're taking Ruppie for a walk" is not a good way to ask a girl out. You sound like a needy tag-a-long IMO. I don't know your history with this girl but if that was the first time you spoke to her, you should've just chatted her up for awhile and then asked if she'd like get some coffee or drinks sometime. What you should do now is forget about her and go meet other girls. Maybe you will run into this girl again, maybe you won't. If you do, talk to …
/r/seduction13/08/15 05:45 PM
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I think the 2 or 3pm plan sounds fine. If I were you, I wouldn't suggest that she have a snack before meeting - that just sounds weird to me. Another idea is you could go out more around 4 or 5, hang out for a couple hours doing the coffee and walking thing and then use food + wine as the pull around dinner time. Tell her that you're starting to get hungry. If there is a restaurant very close to your place then suggest that you go there to eat. Just before you two get to the restaurant you have …
/r/seduction13/08/15 04:15 PM
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Hope is not lost at all. You're only 29 years old, don't sweat it. As far as where to start, I'm going to guess that most people here will tell you to read Models because everyone here seems to think it is an amazing, eye-opening book. I don't happen to hold the same opinion, but I am in the minority so maybe go read it. When I started out, I think I got the most out of watching RSD videos on youtube and on RSD's website (rsdnation). I watched as many of them as I could. Todd, Max, and Owen (Tyl…
/r/seduction12/08/15 06:18 PM
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The funny thing is that next time I'm getting resistance trying to pull a girl to my house, I may actually add this. "something something...after party...something something...full bar...something something...pineapple bread...but we're not having sex tonight because I'm too shy."
/r/seduction12/08/15 05:57 PM
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The ol' pineapple bread move.
/r/seduction11/08/15 10:21 PM
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Dude, I think you're crazy if you think the sister 3-some will be easier than just hooking up with the younger one. You'll have to get alone time with the younger one, run some game, and see if she's down. I'm thinking it will have to be a sneak-behind-her-sister's-back type of situation, but I don't know these chicks so it's hard to say. God speed, young man!
/r/seduction11/08/15 10:13 PM
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You met in January, went on a great date, but she wasn't returning your calls back in January? I'm guessing she doesn't think your date went as well as you did or she met someone else shortly thereafter. You can call or text her again to ask her out. Just say something like "Hey! I heard you are back in town, let's meet up." But, from what you've said it is probably a hail marry. If she doesn't respond, MOVE ON.
/r/seduction11/08/15 10:09 PM
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There is a fine line here between being a flirty/sociable guy and being an asshole. Being a flirty/sociable guy that other girls are attracted to will definitely help. I often will do things like flirt and dance with other girls on the dance floor, etc to let the girl I'm with see that the other girls are in to me. Just be careful not to over do it. Always come right back to the girl you're with and make her feel secure and comfortable that you're definitely with her.
/r/seduction10/08/15 09:30 PM
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The fuck does it matter what WE think of this guy?
/r/seduction10/08/15 09:24 PM
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Depends on how/when you go the number. In a daygame situation, I will wait a couple hours and say something like "Hey [girl's name], it was nice meeting you today. Let's grab some drinks at [location] on [day]." If it's a nightgame, I often hit her later that night to see if she wants to come with me to an "after party." Or, I will wait until the next day to set it for another day using the same type of text as for daygame.
/r/seduction10/08/15 09:22 PM
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The underlying assumption is that the girls are available to see him again but are deciding not to. If they are tourists who leave the country the next day, then I don't think it would be upsetting that the girls aren't meeting up with him again. Even if they are leaving the next day, he could be closing on the insta-date or setting up a second date for later that night. For some reason he's not building the attraction on the insta-date. Too many unknowns to figure out where it's going wrong, th…
/r/seduction06/08/15 09:13 PM
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You're doing something wrong on these insta-dates if they aren't wanting to see you again and it doesn't sound like it has anything to do with the girls' looks. You're getting the insta-dates, which isn't easy to do, but you're losing them during that date.
/r/seduction06/08/15 08:43 PM
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I think these concepts help: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5O9Ml6QNius
/r/seduction31/07/15 09:25 PM
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Wait, you asked for her number and didn't have a working phone? Bold strategy, Cotton. As far as what to say, just set up a date. "Hey, let's get together Friday for drinks" should work. Or anything like that.
/r/seduction31/07/15 09:20 PM
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LOL. That was an unnecessarily detailed story to ask a random question. Personally, anytime some finds me attractive I take it as a compliment. I was just recently out at the bars with friends for a gay pride parade and was getting hit on like crazy. Even though I'm straight, it's flattering, I guess. BTW - it turns out gay pride events are a great place to meet girls.
/r/seduction31/07/15 04:37 PM
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What's worrying about that going to do for you? Text her to set up the date. She will either agree and meet you or she won't. No big deal. Everything else is irrelevant - including what she was talking about in the back room. You should be proud that you had the guts to ask. Good job. Now go get another number.
/r/seduction30/07/15 10:02 PM
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You've already made out, so there really isn't anything to be anxious about. The thoughts about what are you going to say/do are just anxiety, probably based on the fact that you're going to fuck her tonight. As far as what to do physically, it will come naturally. Move slowly, though. Don't rush right into sex. Take your time and enjoy it. As far as what to say, I know it's cliche but talk about almost anything - just say with emotion. I think the key is to try to just stay present in the momen…
/r/seduction30/07/15 09:54 PM
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I'm not sure why people are advising you to do these weird, passive moves. Pass her your number as you get off the bus? Wink? LOL, that isn't going to get you anywere. Just go over and open the group like you would anywhere else. If you think it's awkward, it will be awkward. So recognize that it is totally normal to start a conversation with someone (or a group of people) on the bus.
/r/seduction29/07/15 04:42 PM
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Don't sweat it, man. You made your first approach - that's a big step. You should feel good about it but don't sit around patting yourself on the back. Keep approaching. You will build momentum and reference experience. After doing it over and over you will be completely comfortable and will be able to handle any situation because you've likely been in something like it before. Each approach work on something else - so maybe next time try to get a phone number or facebook. Strong work. Seriously…
/r/seduction29/07/15 04:34 PM
0

I don't like using the apologetic thing because (1) I'm not sorry and (2) I don't assume I'm disburbing her. Saying "excuse me" is okay but I will typically acknowledge that it is an unusual situation by saying something like "I know this is completely random..." I agree with taking a step back. I usually tap them on the shoulder and step back.
/r/seduction28/07/15 06:07 PM
1

I'm curious - where did you get the number of partners an average woman has had? At what age are we talking about? Every woman I'm with has had more than 4 - and that's just talking about the ones that they count. There's a lot of non-intercourse partners and I think a lot of women have had intercourse partners that they don't really count, etc.
/r/seduction21/07/15 08:52 PM
2

I would stop thinking about girls on a scale of 1-10 and start realizing that there are girls that give you a higher or lower level of sexual excitement. It's not external, it is internal, and therefore completely within your control.
/r/seduction20/07/15 04:31 PM
2

Well just remember that you don't HAVE to do anything. If you like them both keep dating both - but it's MUCH easier (internally and externally) if you're honest.
/r/seduction17/07/15 05:31 PM
7

Like...a frankenstein thing?
/r/seduction17/07/15 04:26 PM
1

You've posted here before and got the same type of responses, if I recall correctly. So, I'm guessing none of this is going to sink in (Again). You obviously have serious "inner game" issues you need to work on. Work on your confidence. As far as looks, you physically look fine. Your issue is you're not doing anything to attempt to look handsome. Handsome and good looking are not necessarily the same thing. I'm not especially good looking but I do think I'm handsome. Get a good haircut, work on …
/r/seduction16/07/15 06:14 PM
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There are probably women is the world that will be attracted to you even if you don't change, but the majority probably won't. From the sounds of it, you don't even seem to like yourself very much. Don't you see why it's important for you to change that? Once you start making those changes, others will be more drawn to you as well. Otherwise it might be late, for them. What does that mean?
/r/seduction14/07/15 02:47 PM
4

So you don't want to be emotional, sociable, or friendly and can't figure out why girls don't want to be with you? Why the fuck would anyone want to be around you? Anyways, I can see you are putting on a tough guy front because it makes your lack of success (to date) easier for you to swallow. Grow up. Stop throwing a temper tantrum and claiming you're joining the French Foreign Legion. I mean, seriously, you sound like a god damn child. You know that what you've been doing isn't working - accep…
/r/seduction14/07/15 02:30 PM
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Between this and your other posts, I honestly think you have some serious issues that you need to work out. I'm not saying that to put you down, but you seem very confused about what you want and who you are. You seem angry but can't express why. I'm guessing it's because you don't know what you want and therefore are frustrated, spinning in circles. Stay away from PUA stuff for now and work on yourself - therapy, self help books, etc. You've said you're not an emotional guy yet your posts ooze …
/r/seduction14/07/15 02:25 PM
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I don't. Educate me.
/r/seduction14/07/15 02:02 PM
1

You have to learn that they aren't rejecting you - they don't even know you. They are rejecting your approach at that moment.
/r/seduction13/07/15 04:55 PM
2

You can't just walk around looking for girls to throw you IOIs during the day (or ever, frankly). Unless you're really attractive, girls aren't usually throwing those types of vibes out during the day. These girls are going somewhere and doing something. You need to approach them and snap them out of whatever it is they're doing. After the approach and a little bit of convo, you will be able to pick up on whether or not she is feeling you. The vast majority will give you an opportunity to talk t…
/r/seduction10/07/15 05:55 PM
2

Yeah, I was going to include that. 1. I would love for one of my friends to not drink every time we went out. It would save me a lot of $ on Uber. 2. You can drive once you pull the girl.
/r/seduction09/07/15 09:40 PM
2

I'm not the morality police, so I won't go down that road...I will just answer your question. It can be done but it's not easy and it takes a special kind of girl to willingly be just your side piece. This often turns into a nightmare anyways, when the side piece becomes attached and wonders what your GF has that she doesn't. Then comes the drama. You're better off just banging out the other girl, not telling her you have a GF, and then cutting it off with the other girl. In other words, don't t…
/r/seduction09/07/15 09:26 PM
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Why encourage someone to drink if they don't want to? The better advice is for him to go out where other people are socializing, which often happens to be where people drink. Drinking and socializing go hand-in-hand, but you don't have to drink to go to bars. OP - If your friends go to bars, then go with them. You don't have to drink - you could be the designate driver, with the caveat that you might be pulling some girls, in which case they will have to cab it home. If anyone asks why you're no…
/r/seduction09/07/15 09:00 PM
4

I agree with this. Stop the nofap. Still stay away from the porn, but rub one out every now and then. In fact, you should probably consider rubbing one out before you go out with a girl. If you're getting hard-ons from touching a girl's hands, then you're not in any danger of not being able to get one when you need to, even if you jerked earlier in the night.
/r/seduction07/07/15 11:36 PM
1

I lost a significant amount of weight in college. It made a huge difference - I looked better to the girls and I had more confidence. I even ended up having sex with a couple of the girls that shot me down when I was fat. Even though it isn't necessarily a healthy mindset, that felt really good and really boosted my confidence. I'd say I have an average face too but once I started wearing nice clothes that fit me well (a good fit is a problem with a lot of guys, especially guys that used to be f…
/r/seduction06/07/15 09:19 PM
1

Not sure if you're asking if I am in Toronto or if I think you can daygame in a suit in Toronto. I am not in Toronto and I would think there are a number of places in Toronto that you can.
/r/seduction02/07/15 01:51 PM
1

Chuck E. mother-fucking-Cheese. Cheap beer, pizza, and corny games. It's relatively cheap, funny (in an ironic way), fun, and air conditioned. There's tons of shit going on to keep the convo flowing (between the kids, parents, games, employees, mechanical band of rodents, etc) and opportunities for easy kino. Crush her in skeeball and then buy her a cheesy teddy bear or some shit with the tickets. Tell her you're such a Chuck E Cheese fan that you turned your bedroom into one of those ball pits …
/r/seduction01/07/15 09:54 PM
1

Clothing options are apparently limited in the land of no hair conditioner.
/r/seduction01/07/15 09:44 PM
5

Why are you worried about what your dick looks like when you're conversing? Are you running game a nudist resort? By the time she gets a look at your dick, you've pretty much got the deal sealed and by the time your pants come off, you'll probably be aroused enough to have it plumped up a little bit. You gots to chill, man.
/r/seduction01/07/15 05:28 PM
2

I daygame in a suit all the time. I wear a suit for work and I daygame during my lunch and after work. I haven't noticed any difference between days when I wear a suit and days I'm business casual or casual. I think if it makes sense to see people in a suit at that particular location (e.g., downtown during the work week), then nobody will bat an eye. I don't think it's a great idea to get dressed up in a suit just to go daygame, though. That seems a little odd and unnecessary.
/r/seduction01/07/15 05:07 PM
1

I defer to you because you obviously have put way more time and thought into this than me.
/r/seduction30/06/15 06:45 PM
1

No, I don't have a scientific study - it was mostly just what I recall learning about in school. The first google result turned up this from the University of Maryland Medical Center; however, I didn't look for a particular cite to their "studies": Everyone is at risk for oral herpes from HSV-1. In fact, studies suggest that by adolescence, 62% of Americans are infected with HSV-1. By the time people are in their 60s, up to 85% have been infected. http://umm.edu/health/medical/altmed/condition/h…
/r/seduction30/06/15 05:45 PM
1

HSV1 numbers are much higher than that, if I recall correctly. Maybe that is an average of all people of all age groups, but if you live an average lifespan, your chances of contracting HSV1 are probably closer to 90%.
/r/seduction30/06/15 05:25 PM
1

What's the other option, to not have sex?
/r/seduction30/06/15 05:23 PM
3

Was that you? Nice work. Definitely going to try this.
/r/seduction30/06/15 05:18 PM
25

Pull your dick out and say, "What're we going to do about this?"
/r/seduction30/06/15 05:14 PM
1

Try to remember that everyone is rooting for you. Seriously. You are, she is, and everyone around is. Litterally everybody wants to see you do well in that situation.
/r/seduction25/06/15 03:13 PM
1

I'm not sure I understand what you mean. She doesn't show for your date, you text her, then she says that she forgot but you should meet her where she is currently at? I don't think I've ever had that happen before but I might say something like "Nah, I'm having fun here. Next time pin a note to your shirt so you don't forget."
/r/seduction24/06/15 11:02 PM
2

Even if we assume that your premise, that it's hard to f-close on a first date, is true, then your point is that anything hard isn't worth trying?
/r/seduction24/06/15 08:21 PM
8

Agreed. She's not saying "no" she's saying "not yet."
/r/seduction24/06/15 04:07 PM
1

I think you're probably fine. If it were me, I would shoot her a text and try to set up the next meet. Her response to that should let you know where her head is at.
/r/seduction23/06/15 03:15 PM
3

Daygame.
/r/seduction21/06/15 11:26 PM
2

Anxiety is stress about things that haven't happened yet and might not happen at all. To get over anxiety you have to learn how to be in the moment. Remind yourself that at this very moment you are perfectly fine and safe. You don't have any real control over things that may happen beyond that, so you have to let it go and take what comes next. As far as the idea that you have to kiss or fuck on a date - that's an outcome oriented mindset. With women, it's not about the destination, it's about t…
/r/seduction19/06/15 06:13 PM
1

My suggestions: Exercise: http://www.powerliftingtowin.com/greyskull-lp/ or http://startingstrength.wikia.com/wiki/Starting_Strength_Wiki Diet: /r/ketogains (if doing Starting Strength) and/or /r/keto Style: /r/malefashionadvice, /r/frugalmalefashion, www.stylegirlfriend.com/, www.primermagazine.com Hair: Go to a real barber and bring pics of what you want. I usually recommend a medium skin fade with a combover or undercut. Read: http://www.amazon.com/Flow-Psychology-Experience-Perennial-Classic…
/r/seduction19/06/15 06:05 PM
1

Reasons to come back: meet your dog/cat/bird/turtle, cook her food, show her the __________ that you talked about earlier, swim in the pool, hot tub, cocktails ("I make the best margaritas. I use this almond tequila you can't even find in this country" or some shit), the view from my apartment/rooftop, etc. Just think of something unique and cool to do there. I like to plant the seed earlier in the night so I can bring it up later (In my example, mention that you make a killer margarita), and ma…
/r/seduction18/06/15 11:16 PM
1

doing poorly with women lowers your confidence, which leads to doing worse with women, which leads to even worse confidence. This begs the question and the premise is false in many people.
/r/seduction16/06/15 08:30 PM
1

I don't use Tinder, mostly daygame but I will text them a couple hours after getting the number and say something like "Hey, [name], always great to make a new friend! [Insert a playful tease if our previous conversation opened a door]. Let's get together for [happy hour, coffee, etc] on [day] at [place]." I will usually send a confirmation text the day before or the day of to reduce flaking, but I make it a statement, not a question. Something like "See you at 5:00!" Or "We're still on for tomo…
/r/seduction15/06/15 03:12 PM
0

I literally can't imagine anything that would dry up a hot girl's pussy faster than some dude busting out a pack of tarrot cards or pulling a quarter out of her ear.
/r/seduction04/06/15 05:34 PM
2

If her place isn't an option and your place isn't an option, it gets a little tricky. I've used my car and my office before. I also have the Hotel Tonight app which allows you to book discounted hotel rooms for that night only. If things are going well you can pull up the app and book a room at a nearby hotel.
/r/seduction04/06/15 05:29 PM
4

ಠ_ಠ
/r/seduction04/06/15 05:26 PM
3

Probably best to try to avoid rape jokes with a girl you just met. That's a tough one to pull off.
/r/seduction04/06/15 05:24 PM
13

You're insecure. It's not uncommon, but who cares whether it's "normal" because it isn't a good trait to have. I think it comes from a combimation of a lack of confidence and failing to have an abundance mindset. You have to learn to let go. Trust yourself and trust her. If she ends up with another guy, so be it. There are a million other girls that would want to be with you. (If you can't read that last sentence and truly believe it, it's because you are lacking in confidence and/or don't have …
/r/seduction02/06/15 05:41 PM
4

I will offer my advice on a few of things you said: If you know what to do and aren't doing it, then you're just too afraid to break out of your comfort zone. Why didn't you touch your date? It's probably because you were afraid of getting a bad reaction from her. Subconsciously you decided that was more uncomfortable than going home without having made any progress. It's a comfort zone thing. Even though you hate it, it's what you're used to so it's less painful than trying something new and be…
/r/seduction28/05/15 05:56 PM
0

"Just one?"
/r/seduction27/05/15 03:50 PM
1

Everybody has scars from past relationships. You just have to suck it up, move on, and talk to new girls.
/r/seduction26/05/15 04:03 PM
4

I think you are scared. You are making up reasons to not approach and telling yourself "I'm not scared." That usually a good indicator of someone who is scared. It's not a bad thing but you have to recognize it and move past it. Why do you think you aren't approaching them?
/r/seduction22/05/15 08:29 PM
1

Do you shave your head? If not, you might want to do that. A guy your age would probably look much better totally shaved than with male pattern baldness. Dating sites are not great for guys that are not classicly good looking, because people judge on appearance. That being said...on a dating site profile, you don't have to put head shots up, in fact it's probably better if you don't. Post pics of you doing cool shit that make it seem like you live a fun, interesting life. Don't face the camera. …
/r/seduction22/05/15 05:21 PM
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