whitepillman Archive

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2	How to prevent fear of cold approach Desensitization therapy - ie. get comfortable one step at a time. You need to be having conversations every time you leave your house. Start by talking to the people who have to talk to you - waiters, store clerks, etc. Try to have non-work related conversations by asking about them. Then, start approaching EVERYONE. Guys, girls, old people, etc. Remove the fear of talking to strangers. You will realize that vibe is everything (smile) and openers don't matter much. Do this and you will never nee…	/r/seduction	23/08/22 02:51 AM
1	If you are attractive, how much effort should put in? You should never show too much interest no matter what you look like. Game is about getting her to like you (NOT impress her - that's the wrong frame of mind), sexual communication, and conveying you have other dating options. Acting aloof doesn't work either. You want to show interest in her that she is an OPTION for you, nothing more. Sounds like you are showing way too much interest beyond that.	/r/seduction	23/08/22 02:45 AM
1	Started Seeing Girl I Really Like. When Do We Talk About Relationship? Haha that’s awesome man! Congrats	/r/seduction	20/08/22 03:24 AM
1	Any quick tips on attracting women? You're in a seduction subreddit. Learn game and social skills.	/r/seduction	19/08/22 04:01 AM
1	I feel like I am broken inside, and when I try to fix it, it gets worse 1 - been there man. It sucks. It's called limerance. You need to meet and date more women. 2 - you haven't talked to nearly enough women. 10X that. 3 - work on your self-esteem. You should feel good about yourself regardless of your dating life.	/r/seduction	19/08/22 04:00 AM
-1	How to ‘take it slow’ with women? Why would you take it slower? Fast intimacy leads to more investment on her part. If you want a relationship, just take the girl more seriously and show that.	/r/seduction	19/08/22 03:58 AM
3	Dating for 30+ men who want to get married and have a family. What are the chances to meet a single woman who's not a single mother when you're 30+ ? What is your market value in general ? ^^^^Same as all the others. With game you can date women of ANY age you want. Where do you meet them ? What places ? (social circles are closing the older you get) ^^^^Cold approach and dating apps. Much prefer cold approach. Where? Literally anywhere. Should you move to join a bigger dating market? ^^^^Definitely helps. M/F ratio is by far the most important though. Wha…	/r/seduction	19/08/22 03:56 AM
1	Started Seeing Girl I Really Like. When Do We Talk About Relationship? Woman needs to be the one to ask for the relationship (she wants to from an attraction standpoint). That said, you don’t want to risk her thinking you’re not serious about her (the opposite problem I’ve made). You bridge the gap with clues/action (not words) that you are open to a relationship if she asks. Take her on a nice date to a nice place and tell her to dress up and wear something nice and pay for everything on the date - guys who don’t want a relationship don’t do this. Don’t do flowers…	/r/seduction	19/08/22 01:53 AM
2	30 year old (M) advice for where to meet women. 37 here. I do cold approaches everywhere. Cafes, grocery store, gym, any place really. Online dating - but it takes knowing the right approach. Women are still around, just a bit harder to engage with.	/r/seduction	17/08/22 03:05 AM
1	Is it ever too late to start dating and stuff if you have no experience? I’m approaching thirty and getting a bit worried about it being too late It's never too late for anything in life as long as you're still alive.	/r/seduction	17/08/22 02:57 AM
1	Rejection gets me down! 1 - treat it like a video game. You don't lose self-esteem losing at a new video gameZ 2 - understand that much like a video game she is rejecting HOW you are approaching her not you as a person (ie. your skill level like a video game) 3 - keep practicing. You wouldn't expect to beat a video game after only 5 reps. 4 - learn from someone who knows how to play the game. like a video game you would play with people better than you to learn how they do it.	/r/seduction	17/08/22 02:54 AM
1	Why can't I talk to women? "Sometimes I long to eavesdrop what others are saying in their conversations." ^^^do this exactly. Find a charismatic guy and listen to him talk to girls when he's not 1 on 1 with a girl, so you can stand with the group and it's fine - ie 2 girls, you, and the guy.	/r/seduction	17/08/22 02:50 AM
1	Help guys The GAME by Neil Strauss Mystery Method by Mystery Models by Mark Manson I would read ALL of these (they offer different things). And nothing else. I got very good off these plus putting in tons of practice.	/r/seduction	17/08/22 02:47 AM
1	What is the best way to learn simple flirting? Most youtube daygame videos are awful - I wouldn't watch them. Focus on the concepts - for flirting it's teasing, banter, sexual innuendo, role playing, cocky/funny. For what to watch, I'm not sure. I'm thinking of doing TV/movie characters showing this on my YT channel. So far, two of my favorites are Harvey Specter from the TV show suits (he uses cocky/funny a lot) and Shia LeBouf in the movie Peanut Butter Falcon (he uses teasing, dominance, and frame control).	/r/seduction	17/08/22 02:44 AM
1	How to initiate a sexual interaction with a woman (Need advice) Use tinder or go to bar/club. Start talking to women. Get good at having conversations minimum 5-10 minutes (this shows you're good at getting them to talk). Then, learn sexual communication - flirting, teasing, innuendo, touching, body language, etc. You want to skip the steps of dates and texting - which is fine. But you can't skip ALL the steps. Also, during the learning process, you need to put in more work than you do later. I've pulled a girl to hookup in the bathroom within 10 minutes of …	/r/seduction	17/08/22 02:40 AM
1	Need help keeping women. Give more details on each situation	/r/seduction	13/08/22 07:46 AM
1	Where to meet women in early 20s? Should I give up? No “place” will ever help you. If the women are there it’s up to you to get good at meeting and attracting them.	/r/seduction	11/08/22 07:36 AM
1	Where to meet women in early 20s? Should I give up? You will feel out of place gaming at a college where you don't go, so find a way to feel in-place. Make guy friends at the college. Audit classes. Join groups. Just say you live nearby and you are thinking of transferring there. Sounds like you're still young enough to fit in. Just say you're a grad student.	/r/seduction	11/08/22 04:38 AM
1	Get one match every 3 months, and when i do they ghost Meet women IRL like you said. There are many places to meet them other than clubs. Go to those places.	/r/seduction	11/08/22 04:36 AM
1	Dealing with loss of confidence/not knowing what to say? How did you get good in the first place? Repeat that process. You just need to shake off the rust and get your old mindset back. So, do the things you used to do to get into that mindset.	/r/seduction	11/08/22 04:35 AM
1	Need help keeping women. Yes, you're doing something wrong. Blaming them gets you nowhere. Way too little info here though. Need all the details.	/r/seduction	11/08/22 04:34 AM
1	Online dating is dead A) there’s a good chance your profile isn’t as good as you think it is and your messaging is boring. B) online dating is much worse than cold approach C) complaining won’t help you. Go cold approach	/r/seduction	11/08/22 12:31 AM
1	Is it a bad thing for girls to see me approach other girls after closing with them ? Day game, no. Move to a different area. Night game is fine cuz its expected, but ideally move to a different part of the bar/club.	/r/seduction	09/08/22 08:55 AM
1	Can therapy help with my fear of approaching? Possible social anxiety issues? Yes, but it's through action (desensitization therapy), not talk therapy that will actually work. I do desensitization therapy.	/r/seduction	09/08/22 06:45 AM
1	any good resources for someone trying to get into the dating scene Since subs like these are often blind leading the blind, I started a subreddit to give actual coaching: https://www.reddit.com/r/whitepillman/	/r/seduction	09/08/22 06:43 AM
2	I've had this "nice guy" or "very kind" problem ever since my divorce, pandemic, and now continues even despite major weight loss. Sounds like she broke you down and trained you to be compliant and docile. Train yourself out of it back to your formal self. You've been there before, you can get there again.	/r/seduction	09/08/22 06:41 AM
2	How to approach without giving out a thirsty vibe? Start approaching everyone and having conversations. Then, a woman becomes just another approach, but you ask for her number at the end.	/r/seduction	08/08/22 04:21 AM
1	Advice for starting out with zero experience 26 M Talk to everyone until you get really good at conversation. Make conversations interesting with guys, old people, women you aren't attracted to - this translates well over to conversations with women you want to date. Then, just learn how to tease/flirt to actually attract them.	/r/seduction	05/08/22 04:48 AM
3	How to stop putting women on a pedestal? Everyone poops. Women have their flaws too and you need to see that. Ask yourself WHY you feel this way? It's usually because you feel inferior yourself. Target that. You should feel you are good enough for anyone. Recognize that women are insecure too. They put on makeup to look better. They need to put in the work to stay in shape, etc. Also, you need to get out more and talk to more strangers, not just your friends. Meeting strangers is scarier, which is why meeting women is scarier. Talk to …	/r/seduction	05/08/22 04:46 AM
1	Why do girls lose interest in me so quickly? Sounds like by trying to be "mysterious" you're actually being aloof instead and they think you're not interested. I would stop doing that and instead show interest without pedestalizing them. That's usually where guys get stuck trying to find the balance.	/r/seduction	05/08/22 04:43 AM
1	How do I stop making excuses to myself not to approach Approach everyone sober. I mean everyone - guys, girls, old people. Make approaching second nature to you in general and then approaching attractive women will get a lot easier. Even if you are nervous you will still do it bc you've practiced approaching so much.	/r/seduction	05/08/22 04:41 AM
1	25m trying to get back out there. Uber	/r/seduction	05/08/22 12:46 AM
1	I’m so afaraid of being a creep You’ll always be able to come up with excuses. Go up to 10 people and ask them how their day is going and wish them a good day and then report back how many seemed bothered by you. Until you do that, you’re just theorizing pointlessly in your head.	/r/seduction	04/08/22 07:04 AM
1	How to keep going after cold approaching? Learn how to flirt/tease. Talk to EVERYONE so you have more interesting conversations in general and get the practice. Don't just cold approach women.	/r/seduction	04/08/22 04:09 AM
1	How can I get a girlfriend? You hate cold approaching bc you're not good at it and you think it's unnatural bc you're not good at it. Stop avoiding it and get good at that. Asking friends friends is a coward way out and will always lead to you waiting around instead of dating the women you actually want to.	/r/seduction	04/08/22 04:07 AM
2	I’m so afaraid of being a creep Approaching is not creepy. Approaching creepy is creepy. Start by approaching EVERYONE. Guys, girls, old people. Get comfortable with it and you will see most people don't mind being approached. It's HOW you do it and what you say. Don't startle them. Don't trap them (like on a bus or train). And don't open with something weird or too forward. Outside of that, your fears are way overblown.	/r/seduction	04/08/22 04:05 AM
1	25m trying to get back out there. Not sure what your question is. Just do it and get back out there. Meet women in person and on apps. Uber as needed.	/r/seduction	04/08/22 03:35 AM
1	How should I start conversations with girls? 1 - start conversations with EVERYONE so you get good at conversations and feel less pressure when there's a girl you're attracted to 2 - women don't talk to guys they don't want to talk to. If a woman talks to you first, ALWAYS ASSUME she wants you to continue the conversation. 3 - Apps can be a crutch, but at least test them out since you can put 6'6 in your bio like another commenter said.	/r/seduction	04/08/22 03:34 AM
40	What do you guys think about Andrew Tate? Genius marketer/scammer. Built a very successful pyramid scheme in a very short period of time.	/r/seduction	04/08/22 03:24 AM
5	Which one? That’s total fluff nonsense. Men lead, women follow. Use compliance. Don’t wait for her to make it easy (which rarely happens).	/r/seduction	03/08/22 09:23 AM
2	I feel Vey frustrated right now Play the numbers game and just get the a bunch of numbers - girls at the clubs are ADHD AF. Just make a good impression, get numbers, and move on until you hook a girl that wants to cling to you for the night. Also, do day game and bar game which is often more fruitful than club game.	/r/seduction	03/08/22 05:23 AM
3	What do I do once I get her number? 1 - Message within 24 hours to maintain interest 2 - Have a short fun/flirty conversation 3 - Then ask her out for something simple like coffee/ice cream (no dinner and you can't legally drink) 4 - If you're doing well on the date, invite her back to your place 5 - If you don't get her back on first date, suggest second date at your place sharing a bottle of wine or cooking dinner together 6 - Once your text game gets good enough you can ask her to come over for the first date and cook dinner or…	/r/seduction	03/08/22 05:22 AM
3	How to keep a woman's attention/interest until the date (Tinder)? 1) are you talking only on the app? or getting her number to message off the app? You're going to lose a lot of women by staying on the app. Phone numbers have way less competition for her inbox than apps or IG. 2) Send her a few memes or funny statement to keep interest during that week. Nothing in depth, nothing serious, and nothing fancy. Just make her laugh once or twice. 3) if all else fails, call her to make the connection more solid. If she won't get on a call, send her a voice message - …	/r/seduction	03/08/22 05:19 AM
3	How to get over low self esteem and social anxiety? Getting success with dating won't fix your self-esteem issue. I know guys that easily attract women, but struggle in relationships because they rely solely on external validation from the women. Low self-esteem will also cause massive self-sabotage even when you're doing well. Social anxiety can be fixed by taking baby steps and practicing. Start talking to everyone who is forced to interact with you (like waiters and waitresses, store clerks, etc). Raise your self-esteem through finding success…	/r/seduction	03/08/22 05:15 AM
2	Good in opening - screw up in keeping the interest Practice having interesting conversations with everyone - guys, old people, women you're not interested in - it will naturally translate over time. Try changing basic questions to something more interesting. Like instead of "what are some fun places you've traveled?" ask "Whats your worst or most ridiculous travel experience?". Also, take improv classes - this will help you think on your feet. Last, write down all the boring statements or questions you want to avoid so you remember to avoid them…	/r/seduction	03/08/22 03:02 AM