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| 7 | My personal projectSecond this, am here to help! Love this post so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 04:20 AM |
| 6 | Dating in your 30sI'd expect more from a relationship in terms of meeting / getting to know eachother. This. If he doesn't fulfill your expectations, then that is a full sentence. I wouldn't be able to meet more than once or twice a week, but I'd expect a casual dating partner to stay engaged and make me feel sufficiently confident about their interest in me the whole time. | /r/askFDS | 29/04/21 03:14 PM |
| 4 | Four stages of denial, aka "you should have CoMmUniCaTeD"I saw it on a forum for (narcissistic) parents with estranged children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 08:55 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inFDS applies for wlw too (no coffee date). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:49 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check InHating women is 100$ and you can’t get a digital copy Is this the book? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 08:21 PM |
| 16 | Don't complain, Don't explain -Kate Moss"Yes, price increases are insane!" Here, queen, you dropped your 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 01:31 PM |
| 30 | Don't complain, Don't explain -Kate Mossan opportunity Glad you turned your back on this trap-opportunity! accused me of being "angry" Other people will project all day long. If it does not apply, "okay" is such a great answer. Good job! ETA: I was a chronic explainer too. A Notes app novelist! I still sometimes write a lot. But I make myself condense my response down to one line. Keep the rest as a personal journal entry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 09:13 PM |
| 2 | How to not be a LV person in generalI'm with you on this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 06:43 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check InThought this fit here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 06:09 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check InCan you DM me too plz! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 05:32 PM |
| 2 | "I don't believe in awkward conversation, I believe in deselection"Right here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 02:47 PM |
| 13 | "I don't believe in awkward conversation, I believe in deselection"Insert baby yoda sipping tea emoji | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 03:13 AM |
| 18 | "I don't believe in awkward conversation, I believe in deselection"economy tickets Sips tea 🥲😂🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 02:45 AM |
| 22 | Emma: "Men don't like girls who argue!"From the snippet alone, my take is Emma is advocating for Harriet to shoot above her station because Harriet is seen as desirable to many men. Whereas the scrote is saying because Harriet's birth is not noble, she should settle for a farmer. Emma is not saying Harriet is intrinsically better than other women because of a specific personality, only that she has X traits that men value and so, she can pick and choose, in the game of deciding on a suitor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 02:09 PM |
| 5 | Low bar song"courtesy can sweep you off your feet" ☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 10:36 PM |
| 3 | Much of F. Scott Fitzgerald's writing was actually plagiarized from his wife Zelda. He barred her from publishing her writing under her own name because he insisted they would make more money if a man published it. Then he committed her to an insane asylum where she died.I know about this history, and I am grossed out by the history but intrigued by the show- do you recommend it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 10:22 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI'm dating again. It's a woman I had met two years ago. I didn't want to take things further then, so we stayed friends. This year we rekindled things. It's been three weeks. Whenever she comes over, she brings something she's cooked. Whenever she leaves, she takes out my trash and recycling. We went on a mini trip and I wanted to drive my car. She offered to Uber over so I didn't have to pick her up. On the way back, I was going to drop her off, but I got very tired, so she drove me home in my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 01:24 PM |
| 8 | Sex posi women are not our friends. You cannot change my mindWow this clip is amazing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inThank youuuu! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 09:21 PM |
| 22 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI still love and miss him, but know he won’t ever make me happy. It's not him you love and miss, it's the feeling of being wanted and sprinkles of affection, which means you can get those feelings elsewhere! From safer places. Such as therapist, friends, volunteering activities, and so much more! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 05:31 PM |
| 31 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inSome time ago I recall someone posting a mega questionnaire for compatibility, either for a serious relationship or marriage, that has at least 300+ questions. I tried searching but nothing came up. Anyone has any idea? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Almost burnt out🥺🥺🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 05:09 PM |
| 9 | An Essential FDS Read ("Cat Person" by Kristen Roupenian)Fun fact, the author got a $1mil advance for her collection of short stories after this story came out in the new yorker. The collection is pretty good as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 12:01 PM |
| 15 | Today You Care, Tomorrow You Don’t: Differential Roles of Responsiveness Variability and Average Responsiveness in Romantic Attachment - Gul Gunaydin, Emre Selcuk, Betul Urganci, Sumeyra Yalcintas, 2020I saw this and thought of you all too! It's why sticking to our boundaries are so important. We don't get sucked into the intermittent reinforcement of hot/cold behavior, and mistake the anxious emotions as love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 04:03 PM |
| 4 | A household with a LVM father and a pickme mother is a terrible environment to raise children. So many people have unresolved childhood trauma from being raised in this dynamic.Nothing but thirty :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 03:18 PM |
| 3 | A household with a LVM father and a pickme mother is a terrible environment to raise children. So many people have unresolved childhood trauma from being raised in this dynamic.Nothing but thirty! I made a post about it recently :P I really love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 03:18 PM |
| 15 | A household with a LVM father and a pickme mother is a terrible environment to raise children. So many people have unresolved childhood trauma from being raised in this dynamic.If they're old enough, the children may even know that their parents hate each other and are only staying together "for the kids" so they may even feel responsible for the fact that everyone is miserable. This! Spoilers for a cdrama I just finished watching (and absolutely love): A woman leaves her cheating husband. He begs her to stay, using the classic "think of our 5-year-old, how could you break up our home?" She said, "It's because of our son that I have to leave. I won't be able to face hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:38 AM |
| 8 | They never change! Abusive husband on fetlifeYou are so brave, and I am so proud of you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 03:50 AM |
| 14 | Wife Accidentally Burned By Scrote Husband Claims He Split Because He Couldn't DealWhat the fuckkkkkkkk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 03:47 AM |
| 1 | And here’s why we get our men ladies. 😬😬😬Thank you for hearing me out! Yeah, I grew up being spoken to by my parents this way, which led me to growing up into relationships that looked like this. My mom had outbursts that would end with her rolling on the ground. It took years of therapy to have a clear understanding of what abusive behavior looks like. And I feel lucky I can now see something like this and have all my alarm bells go off. It didn't use to be like this :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:19 PM |
| 14 | And here’s why we get our men ladies. 😬😬😬But this woman is putting herself at risk by frustrating this guy. Blaming her for his reaction is a form of victim blaming. If she's been in an abusive relationship for a long time, this behavior might already seem normal to her. For all we know he flies into a rage with her just in the room, PS5 right there. Maybe he lost a game. Maybe he was hungry and she didn't make him a sandwich. Would you say not making him a sandwich is "putting herself at risk by frustrating the guy"? She is figuring o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:02 PM |
| 7 | The decency: “I have a wife and a gorgeous kid but you’re georgous”This is grounds to throw a glass of water in his face. If he screams, then the whole bar knows he was trying to cheat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 12:51 AM |
| 12 | Ex-Husband Contacted Me to "Catch Up" After 6 Years of SilenceI never blocked him because if he makes threats, I want to know about it. If you don't share kids, block. You deserve peace. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 09:30 PM |
| 12 | Not a ring but a commitment gift to myself anyways. 2021 I cherish and put myself first.Omg so beautiful!!!! I am now shopping for a watch 😅😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 09:28 PM |
| 12 | It all started with a walk dateThis pairing made me think of the Batman/joker subplot. Joker was the psychopathic murderer villain who got put in jail, and his jail assigned therapist was Harley Quinn, who fell in love with him and broke him out. They went on to a life of crime and murder, but he was also an abuser toward her, so she wound up killing him to set herself free. Harley had that same "quirky" vibe, too. Sounds about right, lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 07:13 PM |
| 26 | It all started with a walk dateI was more thinking of "the bar is in hell" as the phrase that kicked it off. Interesting that they basically...agreed. Then again, OLD apps profit on ppl spending money to buy "premium" access. Which means they are motivated to make the most ineligible candidates think they will find true love too. Sign up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 05:54 PM |
| 65 | It all started with a walk dateAlso. This ad basically repelled me from Match. Imagine Peloton made an ad that said using it would cause you to gain weight, or if BMW made an ad that said driving it would lead you to a deadly accident. 🤣🤮🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 05:26 PM |
| 8 | "Meet Your Second Wife"...This is still gold!!Holy shit this was good ☠️☠️☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 06:09 AM |
| 26 | Tales from the Vault III: When my cousin used to bully me, I went crying to my mom for help. She was sitting with my aunt and grandmother, and they all laughed and accused ME of having a crush on HIM. This is just one example of how female socialization grooms girls to tolerate abusive relationshipsThat made me so angry to read. It's horrible. I am also NC with my mom and things from my childhood still come back and hit me hard. She did the same, except replace your cousin with my older brother. Earlier this week, there was some malware thing happening with my computer, and I had a panic attack, fearing I was being hacked and my keys logged. Because all those years ago, my brother did exactly this, logged my keystrokes to spy on my IM messages, and reported them to my mom, who slutshamed m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 05:52 AM |
| 46 | Ryan Phillippe's Scrote momentWow, the disdain on his face and the eyeroll. Why is it so normalized to hate your wife | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Busy business woman always choose lvm on hallmark movies.lmao this is upsetting 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 03:24 AM |
| 29 | Azimuth Check in dating scenarioYour gut is right. It is last minute. Why not just see him on the next planned day (Friday)? Even if it's not his fault per se to cancel last minute, he still needs to manage his contingencies respectfully, and you should not be on call for his ex's schedule, or be guilted by his commitment to his children to become dictated by his/their needs. This level of enmeshing is potentially a red flag, especially if you are still early dating. The bottom line is, the more he cancels, the fewer his chanc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 02:01 AM |
| 4 | What are they even thinking when they send messages like this??Happened to me. I was a journalist a long time ago. This stuff was incessant. Not just over text but in person, too. I would interview someone and it ends with them asking me out. I could not handle it and it pushed me out the field | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 01:49 AM |
| 57 | The last time I dated anyone who wasn't my husband was 16 years ago, a man come over from spain (I'm mexican) just to see me and we didn't had sex, and now men think you don't need dates? Ok...I mean. He looks 17 with no money, so anyone who listens to this "advice" is already out of my dating demographic. I prefer grown men who make enough to not blink at nice dinners, enjoys them with or without a woman, and therefore a "dinner date" with him is just a normal, bare minimum activity. And all that is before even scrotes get to consider whether or not women (or I) "love sex," would consider it with him, or any sort of display of interest on my end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 10:47 PM |
| 24 | I love the “Here’s my hand with my new ring I bought myself” pics. This is my “here’s my hand with the keys to my new house I bought myself!” pic. Resolve to evolve, sis! Here’s to our new year!I love these stories. I grew up with negative financial literacy, as in, my family of origin gambled, squandered, normalized deep debts. I like to say everything I know about finances I learned from books and the internet. You deserve to feel proud and accomplished! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 09:52 PM |
| 15 | I love the “Here’s my hand with my new ring I bought myself” pics. This is my “here’s my hand with the keys to my new house I bought myself!” pic. Resolve to evolve, sis! Here’s to our new year!Glad to see this comment bc I agree!! And congrats op! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 09:37 PM |
| 93 | I can’t believe how the comments are encouraging this guy to ask for “consent”, he attempted to rape his GF when she was asleepI am still so mad. It's the crying for me. How dare...!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 08:18 PM |
| 31 | I can’t believe how the comments are encouraging this guy to ask for “consent”, he attempted to rape his GF when she was asleepThe timer is disgusting and it shows intent. Also, it is already an assault + battery case, and in civil court she is entitled to damages. Assault does not even need p-i-v penetration. Just crossing boundaries and mere presence of threat. Battery would be the harm done. Human rights, who would have thought? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 07:57 PM |
| 2 | How HVM treat your boundaries"As you wish" sounds a little passive aggressive to me...also why should it be something you need to bring up in advance? In my experience, I used to do that when I fear I can't hold my own in real time. Aka had a hunch the guy will try to push. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 07:50 PM |
| 56 | I can’t believe how the comments are encouraging this guy to ask for “consent”, he attempted to rape his GF when she was asleepLawsuit time, confession right there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 07:47 PM |
| 3 | Hey I just want to say I've stopped letting people intimidate me over having high standards. Sometimes their comments that I expect too much would make me question myself... but now I realized I either stay genuine to my needs, or get in a relationship that will not last.If I lower my standards that's my fate. Is that what I want? Also I'm educated, fit, have money, meditate, go to therapy, bilingual, the list goes on. Why would a man not be able to also bring as much as I bring to the table? Expect nothing less, queen 🥂🥂🥂🥂❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 01:27 AM |
| 14 | 🤮 this is the way he speaks about his wifeI saw this too and almost posted here. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 01:21 AM |
| 13 | Beware the "rescuer": Harrison Ford's affair with Carrie Fisher began like the plot of Promising Young WomanThank you for this detailed breakdown. This is so vital. I am going to check out some of those books. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 12:51 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 20 2020Def mute the mutuals if it's a trigger. And remember that he doesn't have to be LV for you to not work out. My therapist had a habit of asking me "what do you miss about _____?" when we were working through my attachment issues to past people/situations I could not let go off. Most of the time, it led me to realize I was missing a certain component (could be anything from "feeling special," "feeling safe," "less lonely," "security," etc) and not the unhealthy situation or person that was not rig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 11:45 PM |
| 13 | 2021 is for me and me onlyI wish you all an incredible year filled with happiness, health, self-love, self-awareness, and most importantly safety and comfort! I wish you the same! I also spent 2020 browsing the catalog and whew, am glad to be closing the year out free and single. 🥂🥂🥂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 11:05 PM |
| 22 | What in Fresh PickMe Hell is This?In the case of that woman in her 50s, she seems so codependent to the point of not being able to live without a man to agonize over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 10:59 PM |
| 16 | Being angry at men is not "counterproductive." It is an essential component of your level-up journey. Properly recognizing abuse and having an appropriate emotional reaction to abuse is essential to the healing process.Don't hesitate to hit the report button when it happens again! The rules lay out clearly no gaslighting, 'both sides' argument, or derailing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 10:50 PM |
| 4 | I'm only a couple episodes into "Nothing But Thirty" but so far, this character is full FDS! She excels at work, has financial + character standards for a partner, says her time spent being single is not "wasted" bc she works on herself. Meanwhile, pickme mom negs that her "standards are too high"You are right! I am not far in yet, but the women in the show face different pressure from their families, and so far the overbearing parents is realistically overbearing enough, but the daughters still hold their own while trying to keep the peace. Here's a promo poster: https://i.imgur.com/zUYS1Wv.jpg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:25 PM |
| 14 | If a man says they are ______. They aren't."I'm straight" (literally heard this IRL "I'm straight I just have a penis fetish don't tell my wife") "I love you" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 06:39 PM |
| 8 | To a lifetime with myself 🥂💍🎉Congrats!!! When's the party 🥂🥂🥂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 06:35 PM |
| 76 | What in Fresh PickMe Hell is This?Oh MAN. I am reminded of an article written by a woman in her 50s about her husband's string of affairs. She detailed her pain, her exhaustion (with a mental breakdown during which she was hospitalized for a couple weeks), her trying to manipulate him back, all the whole raising kids together, but ultimately she felt pride that she "kept their family together" despite it all, and looked forward to retiring with her cheating man because she predicts he's done with affairs after being free to tast… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 06:31 PM |
| 47 | Ladies this guy is on to your games! He knows you want to dig his gold and he will NOT stand for it.LMAO server but Ok hear me out at least he is 6 feet tall? Tall men are hot commodity and they need to protect themselves from exploitation /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 03:15 AM |
| 34 | I'm only a couple episodes into "Nothing But Thirty" but so far, this character is full FDS! She excels at work, has financial + character standards for a partner, says her time spent being single is not "wasted" bc she works on herself. Meanwhile, pickme mom negs that her "standards are too high"It's on Viki Rakuten, another streaming app, and it's free! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 09:13 PM |
| 57 | Do him dirty in front of his squad 💅🏻 don't sugar coat sh*tI watched this wayyyy too many times 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 07:36 PM |
| 3 | Anyone grew up with families whose parents treated their male siblings better?Yes! I saw that same meme and y'know what, it def hit home too. I sent it to my younger brother. My mother very openly favored her eldest son, my older brother. As a result, he became a bully to me. She excused every boundary he crossed. He and I are now estranged. But as an adult, he is not living a good life because he's so generally awful to be around. I have a relationship now with my younger brother. He was more the ignored child than the golden child, so he and I never had obvious conflict… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 06:09 PM |
| 6 | What’s your dating experience in nyc like?I second this! Had my fair share of Peter Pan boys too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 01:35 AM |
| 35 | Almost everything a man says is projection and/or self-serving. It's time we stop accepting their word at face value.I have been through this. I was in media. I was 19 and working as a journalist. I got r*ped by a member of my crew. I never told anyone, and only felt so much shame and manually requested a different crew member every time I saw he was assigned to me (there's a board you check daily). I remember the feeling of dread so vividly even though that's over a decade ago. The field was male dominated, the crew I managed was largely male. The harassment was daily, unstoppable. If the subject I interviewe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 06:37 PM |
| 8 | Forever gf offers to move in, pay half his bills and do all the chores. Instead of thanking his lucky stars, this scrote throws a mantrum, trying to force her into a ‘real job’, because he wants to make her life even more miserable and is jealous of her succes.Eh. They may even turn out to be hiding/lying. My LVM ex "best friend" orbiter who tried to get in my pants made a hugeeee deal about class and money. Aka, I was bougie. Turns out, he came from a way more middle class fam than I ever did, who supported him and gave him a car. He has class critiques because he was an aRTiSt. They just project, project, project! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 12:27 AM |
| 19 | Forever gf offers to move in, pay half his bills and do all the chores. Instead of thanking his lucky stars, this scrote throws a mantrum, trying to force her into a ‘real job’, because he wants to make her life even more miserable and is jealous of her succes.I work hard, but aim for a life of ease and travel as well. But even when I was juggling a master's degree, full time teaching fellowship, and second part-time job, while I planned elaborate Europe trips with him, my ex simply told me, "things come easier for you." The resentment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:05 PM |
| 14 | Forever gf offers to move in, pay half his bills and do all the chores. Instead of thanking his lucky stars, this scrote throws a mantrum, trying to force her into a ‘real job’, because he wants to make her life even more miserable and is jealous of her succes.This too! This year I did a lot of research on rental properties, and no amount of "cash flow!!!" could make me overcome the fact that I did not want to do this work. I prefer the stock market due to this emotional hurdle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 05:24 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 20 2020That's a good point. I mute some accounts that truly bother me, but probably not as extensively as I can. Going to vet more now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 05:14 PM |
| 33 | Forever gf offers to move in, pay half his bills and do all the chores. Instead of thanking his lucky stars, this scrote throws a mantrum, trying to force her into a ‘real job’, because he wants to make her life even more miserable and is jealous of her succes.Writing is a real job that pays. She is already contracted for three books. She could be at home watching TV and "doing nothing" after she collects rent. The issue here is the bf minimizing her career 3 years into the relationship, even insisting she changes career. If he had an issue with trust fund kids, he did not need to date her at the start. Sure, she got a leg up that I never did. But I would love to be able to provide for my future generations so they may chase their dreams. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 04:59 PM |
| 1 | This is why you NEVER travel ANYWHERE for a man, especially not a professional jet skier, in the middle of a PANDEMIC 🙄. This is just next level stupidity.He got the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 03:33 AM |
| 3 | This is why you NEVER travel ANYWHERE for a man, especially not a professional jet skier, in the middle of a PANDEMIC 🙄. This is just next level stupidity.There are two whole professional jet skiers in this breaking news 🤣 dad and bf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 03:28 AM |
| 1 | FDS is changing how I view the beginning of my relationship with my husbandWhile I agree that you can't force someone to go to therapy, I disagree that there is no reason for your husband to consider it. There is. You said it. His LVM behavior toward you at the start of your relationship. Even though he's changed, you are absolutely entitled to have trust issues, or fear that the behavior may return, or feeling uncertain of your own feelings. You have responsibly sought therapy yourself to work on those. It is perfectly fair for you to request that he get therapy as we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 03:19 AM |
| 6 | ZVM Martin Shkreli manipulates pickme, ruins her life, then ghosts her from prisonThis shook me to my core... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 11:33 PM |
| 18 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 20 2020I am not going to see family because covid. It's funny how seeing people's social media still brings up feelings of unworthiness. And I have to put my phone down, run a mental tab, and backpedal. Then I remember this was a year of me actively leaving, turning down dates, relationships, people wanting to 'claim' me, and 20 minutes later, "come back to my senses" and feel truly glad every decision I made this year had been to not sell myself short long term. But, single for the holidays. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 07:50 PM |
| 14 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 20 2020But at the same time, love and sense of belonging are a literal need for the human species, as listed in Maslow's hierarchy of needs for instance. It's encoded into our being. I would start by catching yourself justifying pickme ways and flip the script. For instance, a LV fucboi is the opposite of 'love and sense of belonging,' and he will actively lead you away from love and sense of belonging. And if you continue to expose yourself to LV men before you build up the inner clarity to set bounda… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 07:33 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I agree with you. I am currently reading a lot on women who lost it all to LVM gold-digging husbands ('fortune hunters'). Barbara Stanny wrote about it in "Prince Charming isn't coming" (her husband lost her inheritance and put her in ruins). Sarah Breathnach also wrote about marrying a man who abused her and took everything. I'm even less inclined to marry after reading all that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 07:27 PM |
| 5 | A lesson from my 90yo Grandmother’s boyfriend.oh, my heart | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:59 AM |
| 41 | To counter the video I just had to endure, so GLAD to see sane women thriving!!I chuckled imagining this Me, straight faced, focused, staring into the mirror, furiously contouring, and a man pumping me up like he was born to be a cheerleader, while I make an impatient grunt barely acknowledging his presence 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:40 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I feel like the strategies would still mostly overlap. The biggest power FDS taught me is "be prepared to walk away." And this is lifelong! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:34 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Or the 'please be able to string a sentence together' "I will like you if: you can throw it back at me!" 😑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:32 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I think similarly to you, and I feel like this means we even more so should vet per FDS? I will want a prenup for myself, and as for future assets- a HVM should be earning according to his potential and age, right? This means he should match you financially. Or at least be close. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:30 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Me three! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:25 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Speaking from my own experience, I never post the people I am only casually interested in. I have also known men who are married or partnered whose social media indicate they are single- they cheat. My guess is you feel you can't ask because he's going to shut you down, and it won't change a thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:25 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I finally made the decision to spend Xmas with myself, and I am mildly relieved. (I was on the fence about seeing relatives). Anyone in my same boat? What do you plan to do? 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:21 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020It's a little better than other subs. I just unfollowed last week though, because it's still not fds enough 😂 I keep getting annoyed by the men there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:20 AM |
| 13 | Man deceives GF to gain access to private conversation not meant for his ears, and humiliates her grandparents openly, because the fact that he is fluent in her native language simply "never came up"The older generation coming off rude when trying to fend off a man is not a new thing. I think of the trope of a beefy father coming face to face with a new boyfriend asking him "can you provide?" or straight up setting hoops for the man to jump through. It's the classy thing for the man to be ready to face resistance and have good answers. The family even code-switched to spare his feelings. This was considerate. If he did NOT speak the language, it's fair for him to express frustration. But he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 05:34 PM |
| 3 | Just assaulted and need to vent without having to protect male feelings.We got you. Vent away ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 01:56 AM |
| 5 | Patriarchy uses a bizarre combo of monogamy + sex positivity + equality to limit women's standards and potential.This is so good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 01:53 AM |
| 13 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Now that I have made the decision to quit dating until at least mid-2021, Whack Memories of My Dating Past sometimes float back to my consciousness, just to mock me. This one guy. Showed up 30 mins late 🚩. I accepted his excuse that he just moved to town a week ago. He made a giant gesture of "order anything, this one is on me to make it up to you," like if he showed up on time I was just going to order a miso soup and split the bill? Then he bragged 🚩 about his faang job. Waxed poetic and misty… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020You did the right thing. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 12:49 AM |
| 23 | How FDS changed my perception of my male friendshipsI feel this. Every single one of my male "friends" have tried to get in bed with me. When I was younger, I would oblige even though I did not feel the same way, failing to recognize that was literally rape culture. Most recent one was last year, when I was solo hanging in my own home with a friend who I had known for maybe 8 years. He turned to me and said, "I can't help but feel something between us. Want to kiss?" My brain said "nope," but I still did not feel safe or free to reject him in per… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 12:01 AM |
| 8 | How dare a mother try to protect her daughter! Read the comments for some more 🤮Can you link me to the post? I couldn't find it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 05:34 AM |
| 79 | Being gaslit and manipulated so much that your SO talking about murdering you doesn’t look like a 🚩They met on tinder and his first line to her was "don't worry ha-ha I don't have bodies in my basement sorry I'm bad at this stuff 👉👈" Serial killer and murder jokes are never ever funny to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 05:07 AM |
| 58 | A realization hit me today, and I'm actually very much disgusted at myself.I'm sorry this happened to you! And I hope you work through the sense of self-disgust or self-blame. You were a child being bullied and you did not cause that behavior. ❤️ Edit to add: I really don't think this is pickmeishaism. You were a victim and a minor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 11:54 PM |
| 38 | Be THAT KIND of direct, lol!It's in no way the woman's fault or responsibility, it's just another way they're predators. Ok? So we are in agreement? I laid all this out in my comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 11:25 PM |
| 213 | Be THAT KIND of direct, lol!Exactly! They dgaf if you have a bf, husband, dead mom, ten kids, wtv. Now I'm reminded of getting "asked out" at freaking starbucks by a scrote and I smiled sweetly and said yes and suggested a shopping mall, and asked him to bring his wallet. Weird, he wasn't into me after that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 11:18 PM |
| 556 | Be THAT KIND of direct, lol!🤣 They got the audacity to disturb our peace, but feel appalled when we also act audacious? 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 11:03 PM |
| 91 | Be THAT KIND of direct, lol!Hm okay, that's not my point. My point is the act ("what if the man wants sex?") is not my concern, and him insisting on it would be wrong. Just in general, a man is responsible for his actions. Asking for money from a man who is harassing you is not what causes a man to "want sex". They want sex even if you ignore them, tell them no, dress like a nun, are sick, disabled, and the list of "strategies" goes on. I am simply sharing that I have done that (ask them to pay my bills) to get them to lea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 10:58 PM |
| 146 | Be THAT KIND of direct, lol!Rape is illegal? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 09:14 PM |
| 29 | I feel like this easily could have been me if not for FDS omg, just why!!This is highly unlikely. We take people by their words and actions, not fantasies. In the 1% chance your fantasy scenario is indeed the case, he planned something, then the appropriate thing to do would be for him to break the "surprise" and clue her in right away. Because the basis of loving surprises is happiness, appreciation, and love. It is not to withhold while we watch our loved ones suffer, feel rejected, hurt, and then coming back to say "gotcha!" That becomes gaslighting, controlling, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 08:41 PM |
| 1186 | Be THAT KIND of direct, lol!I always joke-seriously say this! If a man (catcaller, ex, fkboi) won't leave you alone, simply ask him for money. It's a man repeller. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 08:35 PM |
| 99 | How can anyone possibly think that buying your coworker a sex toy is ok?Please tell me the comments inform them it's workplace sexual harassment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 04:00 PM |
| 92 | Husband tries to convince wife to let him buy a sex doll. Wife’s self esteem is low due to people in his social circle criticizing her appearance. A lot to unpack here. I think we have a rescue mission.Every. Time. By the second sentence. "Overall, I'd say our life is pretty great. But--" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 08:36 PM |
| 281 | “I don’t even like banana laffy taffys”I howled 🤣🤣🤣🤣 and that laffy taffy reference! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 08:32 PM |
| 14 | Being bad at giving thoughtful gifts is a red flag. Stay away from any man like this. The comments are full of women buying their own presents because their partner doesn’t get them anything at all or gets them something they don’t want. 💀I was looking for this comment 😵😫😫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 04:03 PM |
| 5 | So glad he is her exWow this ENRAGES me and it didn't even happen to me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 03:22 PM |
| 26 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020One more subtle FDS change I noticed: Past me, when an OLD stranger talks about their busy schedule/hectic week blablawowwow: express empathy and inevitably give attention Current me: "Good luck with managing that hectic schedule!" (Sounds like a personal time management problem) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 06:42 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I've considered taking a big cardboard box and just throwing everything sitting on and around my desk in there and worry about it later. :) What's wrong with this? If it clears a space. I also keep my different projects in separate boxes too as a means of organization. I throw in the relevant papers, note cards, scraps of paper, sticky notes, etc. Now, I have a bunch clear plastic bins from Muji instead of a cardboard box, but the idea is the same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 06:35 AM |
| 61 | So glad he is her exhe was always not even close, then he would get this fake down on himself for getting it wrong, and I would feel bad for him. Ugh this hit so close. When you suddenly find yourself trying to console his failed effort. 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 06:17 AM |
| 8 | HVM or nah?Wow 30s. This changes everything. Your feelings about being a "placeholder gf" due to his lack of self-initiated affection are superrrrrrrrrrrrr valid. It may not be a dealbreaker for you, or it might, but in any case, listen to your gut and don't gaslight yourself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 04:54 AM |
| 12 | HVM or nah?Am I looking for emotional depth and connection in men that just doesn't exist I think you answered your own question in the next sentence- a man who is secure about his feelings does not shy away from speaking about them. He is not only reluctant, it actually irritates him. I would not be able to trust someone like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 04:41 AM |
| 13 | CraftswomanshipThis sent me down a rabbithole! She's gotten super wealthy (not surprised if it's in the millions) to boot 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 I subscribed to her channel too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 01:44 AM |
| 28 | Remember when everyone called her a gold digger for getting a huge payout from her divorce..I also remember Jeff made a "good for her! That's our girl Mackenzie" comment when he was asked what he thought of her joining the Giving Pledge to give away her wealth 😪😡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:03 PM |
| 39 | Ladies, is it true love if you settle for the boring man of your dreams who hated you when he first met you, after you beg him to consider dating you for a third time?This made me feel very sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 09:18 PM |
| 7 | Sisters, reminder to be extremely careful about whomever you're exposing your vulnerabilities to. This leaves me speechless.I have no words | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Another example of sunk cost fallacy... 'but its been two years!'🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 04:02 PM |
| 54 | An appreciation meme for all the relentless work that FDS mods do to keep unwanted comments from such people at bay. You're the real MVP.Thank you for the safe space ❤️🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 03:03 PM |
| 9 | This is why we shouldn’t meet a LVM who puts less effort than how much this guy does to his real doll.Hm psychopaths can have a hobby too, I guess? I don't see it any different from a man tinkering a car, hosting a podcast, or going hunting and skinning his prey affectionately. The object/act is to flex his power here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 12:36 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I would still suggest vetting with a video first. The handbook recommends this. After you find him okay during the video, you can mention you are open to having a social distanced picnic. It's his cue to jump on it and offer to plan it, ask your preferences, etc. If he doesn't, that tells you what you need to know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 11:18 PM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Wait, a park? Park dates and walk dates are low-effort. Just stick to a short video if that is the case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 10:56 PM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Just a random shower thought about a past man I went on two dates with. He was incredibly self important about his incredibly important corporate leadership job, and was venting that he preferred going to the office because he missed telling people what to do (cue ha-ha). I "bantered" back that he could perhaps use his free time to volunteer at the SPCA and give motivational speeches to the captive audience of stray puppies? He looked so shook and in disbelief, and the tables were turned when he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 10:52 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Handbook suggests letting him show effort and picking. You could say you recently went to (a similar restaurant) and enjoyed it, and are excited to try out what he has in mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 10:40 PM |
| 30 | Don't worry, they'll try to screw you over when they're older and *seem* stable and like HVM, too.Please read the handbook. He lies, communicates poorly, feed you constant excuses, and doesn't respect your time or emotions. A man's HV isn't in what he has materially (PhD's, a million dollars in the bank, CEO job title, chiseled abs). It isn't in what he has as personality traits (funny, adventurous, loves to try new things, enjoys cooking). It is in how he specifically demonstrates that he values you, and over time, demonstrates that he values you over others. Obviously having good material … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 08:41 PM |
| 68 | This is why we shouldn’t meet a LVM who puts less effort than how much this guy does to his real doll.I think you mean well, but I think this framing is dangerous. A man who does this for his sex doll would NEVER do the same for a human woman, because a human woman has autonomy. If a man is doing all these things for you, contingent on your agreeableness and provision of sex, please run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 08:14 PM |
| 10 | Pretty much the exact response I expected. That’s a no from me, dawg.Always with the fking "haha" too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 02:03 PM |
| 15 | Another example of sunk cost fallacy... 'but its been two years!'Exactly! Not just the specificity of preferring her finger and toes (OP added that detail in a comment), but also just, he would eat her if "a freak accident" happened to her. I wonder who could cause said freak accident. Everyone in the comments telling her to calm down is refusing to see that this is zero percent related to "hypothetical we are both in a life or death plane crash in a snowstorm" scenario. I feel sick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 01:59 PM |
| 6 | I can’t believe she said this! 🤢Revenge is like a very rich, chocolatey dessert... It's nice to consider but most times I'll skip the calories and move on. Other times I want that bitch served on some fine china with a big glass of merlot. 👑👑👑👑👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 01:27 PM |
| 3 | Mom is a pickmeisha - please help me learn to forgive her and prepare for the worst.Yes, if you can, start looking for new roommates. Don't tell your mom any of this. And I agree with what other people have said. Your mom's actions consistently show that she does not and is not capable of caring for you. You have a whole life ahead of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Mom is a pickmeisha - please help me learn to forgive her and prepare for the worst.I have nothing but pride and admiration for you. Please help yourself get out of this, and that really includes letting your mom go. You deserve so much better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:03 PM |
| 17 | FKA twigs Sues Shia LaBeouf, Citing ‘Relentless’ Abusive RelationshipHoly shit. This made me tear up. Just her bravery validates my experiences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 09:21 PM |
| 5 | Need to rant about NVM and therapyFirst off, I am so sorry to hear about your terrible, terrible, terrible therapists. The examples you gave are egregious and you should not have had to undergo that. I have trauma from previous terrible therapists too, and nearly gave up. I am so glad I didn't, because I found my way to my most recent one, who stands by me and has worked wonders. Please don't give up. Please also VET your therapist according to stringent criteria. It is arguably even more important to vet them because you will b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 05:30 PM |
| 15 | This is why we don’t make concessions! Keep leveling up queensAlso "no pressure"! I'm committed to removing these phrases from my vocab | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 05:22 PM |
| 5 | My (32M) girlfriend's (23F) family literally hates my guts because of the age difference?I do think age gap is one thing the libfems agree with us on! The power dynamic imbalance is palpable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 04:26 AM |
| 29 | My latest match on hinge.. I have no words. I have never encountered something like thisI would search for movers online and insurance quotes, and put in that phone number. His phone will blow up and maybe he will be less audacious about distributing his phone number like passing out flyers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 12:58 AM |
| 39 | Trying to "save" a relationship with a cheating NVMThey mistake martyrdom for love | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 11:29 PM |
| 11 | My (32M) girlfriend's (23F) family literally hates my guts because of the age difference?And he's basically blaming it on her! I hear the same line coming out ("I could not help myself") when he cheats. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 09:35 PM |
| 143 | Have any of you ever left a serious relationship because the man lacked ambition?Dump him. Should you find yourself desperate and unhappy at age 30 (you won't), simply stroll out to your street and pick up a stone, throw it and the first man it hit would be able to give you this same level of "partnership," and you can pick up where you left off | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 04:21 AM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Your plans sound like a smashing good time with a best pal! Here's a line from one of my fave YouTubers who did a Q&A about living alone: "Living alone feels like coming home to my best friend every day." I haven't planned my holidays yet or who I want to be with. But if I choose myself, I hope you don't mind if I steal some of these ideas of yours :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 07:39 PM |
| 8 | Pay attention to men with abusive patterns of behaviour, they may just be intentionality trying to to induce a Stockholm Syndrome response in their target.What a F*ckhead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 11:50 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Omg never believe the lie that you intimidate men. So true. I have only been told this to my face by LVMs. They are intimidated, not I am intimidating. My social affect is girly and silly most of the time. I just also happen to be smart, make money, and ignore most men 😉 and yes I am early 30s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 11:47 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I think 3rd date is fine, if anything it gives you more info in your vetting. You get to see him in his element, his friends, and attending a holiday party as a date feels appropriate. It isn't gf status, it's an event. That said, only do it if you are comfortable. Feel free to decline if you don't feel you will enjoy yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 11:44 PM |
| 38 | Pay attention to men with abusive patterns of behaviour, they may just be intentionality trying to to induce a Stockholm Syndrome response in their target.Abuser ex has directly said it to my face, that he enjoyed comforting me from the hurt he had caused (that he did not mean), and then wondered aloud, "does that make me a sociopath?" I was too blinded to realize he was outing himself and I should have heeded. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 06:11 PM |
| 57 | I don’t know how to escape BDSMI recommend therapy, finding new communities, and seeking new knowledge to refute and rewire your previous frame of experience. Childhood experiences are formative and enduring, so also give yourself lots and lots of time. Even if you feel like giving up, take a break instead, until you can continue again. The part of you that is softly questioning your current BDSM community is asking to be listened to and given space. Don't shut it / her down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 10:16 PM |
| 7 | My new exit music for men who say “Did you cum, babe?”😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 05:01 PM |
| 16 | How to receive a compliment 👑That's when we know they said it to be manipulative! Put in some compliment coins and a girl falling head over heels comes out! 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 01:19 AM |
| 34 | As soon as I hear he watches porn, I'm no longer interested nor attracted.I never connected it and never pushed because I thought I sensed his "embarrassment" and wanted to be considerate. I remember he said offhand once he did not watch porn and rarely jerked off. I never asked further, and thought I would be rude to press the issue, especially since he was so clearly also embarrassed by it, and compensated by pouring attention onto me, often never finishing himself. Looking back, I am all suspicious now!!!!!! You are right that it took a toll, in the sense that I al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 11:07 PM |
| 90 | As soon as I hear he watches porn, I'm no longer interested nor attracted.I have received those lines too 😮 I never connected it to porn, because if he didn't wanna finish, it was his problem. I sometimes tried to "work harder," but sometimes I also didn't care. I felt bad more for him than about myself. I also thought my libido was "just higher" and was often glad or relieved he took care of me sexually. He was LV in other areas as well, but reading your post now, everything clicked 😮 I just thought he was very giving in bed, and cared about my pleasure over his own … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 10:52 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020If a trash bag isn't black but gold and wrapped with a Louis Vuitton bow, is it no longer trash inside? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 06:42 PM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020If it is in person, silence + look bemused/unmoved. Online, block | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 06:40 PM |
| – | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Just wanted to discuss/gossip this age gap YouTuber!! https://youtu.be/0NZSTJ0VLg0 She was a flight attendant (33) and he was a passenger (24) who works in the British army. He initiated and asked her out. Their dating life was meeting in different cities according to her flight schedule. He proposed 4 months later, and soon after they married. She quit, and moved to be with him. Leaving the job is not ideal, but long-haul flight attending is demanding and transient, and she wanted to pivot her … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 06:37 PM |
| 4 | Millionaire Matchmaker Patti StangerI agree with you, I don't think she charges women though. Quality matchmaking I think bills the men ETA: she still doesn't pass imo bc she doesn't vet the men well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 06:17 PM |
| 18 | Millionaire Matchmaker Patti StangerShe's entertaining herself as tv material, but her matches don't have track record of lasting, and the men she brings on are sooo low quality! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 04:37 PM |
| 28 | A piece of my soul died knowing she hasn't even considered leaving this shitbag.Of course the advice says "hE iS JuSt cLueLeSs" The way he stated it as a command with no room for discussion is JuSt CLueLeSs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 01:21 AM |
| 23 | Clueless scrote in the dating over forty whining about how his "date" wasn't an "adult" because she didn't want to talk about his dick after only 1 "date". Then has the NERVE to advise the rest of us that he did HER a favor and DOING US a favor by putting PSA in the subject line.Those walk dates man, they getchu like this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 12:58 AM |
| 57 | “Love yourself first, because that’s who you’ll spend the rest of your life with”This is literally my life on the regular 🤣 it is also why I expect a man to pay for a date, bc if I am paying, I might as well just take myself out? It's hard to overstate how bland and dreary most men are as date company | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 12:56 AM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Ugh. That is manipulation and borderline abusive. I have literally gone on actual dates and a whole man appears mid-date. My revenge was to order ten more things off the menu but it sucks to even experience that. I live in a major city and this problem occurs still. Or I run into old dates, which makes the scene feel weirdly small. Who a person likes to bang =/= guarantee of a radical mindset, so I no longer make statements like it's easier to be gay anymore! It sure is easy to be manipulated no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 10:17 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Omg, literally looking on Amazon now for a pink tree 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 10:09 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I am femme & bi and I got gaslighted pretty heavily on the lgbtq apps for stating no open relationships. I was told if I didn't lower "the bar" I would find no one. The cultural misogyny transcends sexuality, in some ways get disguised and warped and blown up in even worse ways (lesbian intimate partner violence stats are higher), and I'm ruthless across the board now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 10:00 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020The thing is you can't gaslight yourself into being less disappointed about men. That would require you to forget all your experiences? As for judging women harshly, I wonder if you are projecting some of your own judgement you hold toward yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 09:53 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020If you want to quarantine, then the best bet is still virtual friend dates! Movie nights etc, with a glass of wine. Making IRL friends in a new city takes time, so factor that in if you feel pressured. I am 2 years into a new city and my IRL friends have come from mutual friends who know someone else in the same city, a neighbor, a few acquaintances I met at bookstore events, and a book club I started. Even then, I still feel closest to the older friends who are in a different city. I might try … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 09:17 PM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Looking back to all my abusive and toxic relationships, a big red flag at the start was blatantly ignoring important occasions. "The abuse test" to see if you will lie down and accept it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 07:51 PM |
| – | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I was today years old when I realized men perceive non-drinkers as less fun and harder to manipulate. So I started saying "Unfortunately, I don't drink :(" on OLD. The hook-ups or wannabe manipulators vanish, the 1% left that is interested, but made the mistake of not starting with suggesting dinner off the bat (one strike), will come up an alternative option (I don't suggest anything, I just say my line). When we eventually hang out and I decide I want to drink, I just say, earlier, I was in a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 07:46 PM |
| – | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I have been celibate a while too! I joke that I am a secondtime virgin, a late bloomer who found the Lord. My friends joke back with me 😂 "her virginity only to the highest bidder!" (Gavel strike) You keep living your best life, celibate or not 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 07:45 PM |
| 9 | Why FDS doesn't talk about Man-Pleasing.Thank you for laboring with the links! Man pleasing is so, so deep seated. It catches me off guard even though I thought I had done a lot of work to get it out of my system. Most recently, I called a man out for a 'joke.' He responded with 'Disagreements are ok to have!' and added that he still wanted to carry on a date with me. Nowhere was there an apology. I initially even thought it was cool that he didn't get mad, proud that he wanted to continue with me. Yay, I did not displease him! Then F… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Reminder why kinkmishas are a thingA year feels long, but it is also just a year. Take your time. It's ok to not be ok. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Reminder why kinkmishas are a thingI weep for my younger self. I know so much now. I have so much self love now. But I still weep for my younger self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:44 PM |
| 4 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...I agree with you 100%. My coping mechanism is to pour myself into my work, it's almost like I can't see the mess until shit hits the fan and I am suddenly overwhelmed with shame over my living space! I have a cleaning lady that I call now. I still FEEL guilt about it, and actually put it off calling her and try to tell myself I can't afford it (when I can), or it somehow doesn't count if I am not the one doing it, like I am supposed to be a housekeeping whiz on top of everything else. I think I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 04:44 PM |
| 10 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...phone in her left hand posting to FDS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 04:23 PM |
| 8 | Why does this sub get misinterpreted? The place where I found this comment is dedicated to calling out and bashing misogyny btw. I tried to have genuine discussion with this user but they simply down voted me.Not just ok, but we should build them out a man cave and never disturb them when the meetings are in session! Don't be a nag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 04:00 PM |
| 25 | 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄Imo it's less that they don't fear being a rape victim. They fear being a perpetrator or rapist. Any advancement in discussion of consent, rape culture, trauma, and consequences and rights of a rape victim shifts the responsibility more and more to them. They must ask. They must make sure. They must cover all gray areas. They must drink less. They must check their actions every single minute of the day. They don't want to do that. Better just say that woman made it all up and carry about my day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:45 PM |
| 4 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...CONGRATS on the move! We love to see it 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:39 PM |
| 280 | People who say their partner is HV before 6 month in, and people in here supporting it?Yep. Lots of upper middle class men are raised with basic decency, which means manners, education, monied job. The vetting process is literally longer bc it masks their misogynistic worldviews. Sometimes it takes after marriage for the mask to drop. I went to a uni that had this demographic and almost all the men I met had fathers in high powered jobs and a mistress. They inherit that as a norm. And this is just one example. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:34 PM |
| 6 | I wish I had been taught to be unconcerned instead of nice. And isn’t this proof?They don't like it when you're like that in the relationship. Spot on. They want to be The One. The One who tamed you. There's a whole narrative of 'my wife was SPICY af when we first met.' Even just writing this reminded me of the cheating, abusive husband in the show Dr Foster. He was eternally proud that his doting mom boring doctor wife used to be FIERY before marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:19 PM |
| 4 | I wish I had been taught to be unconcerned instead of nice. And isn’t this proof?I draw on my memories of getting severely mistreated by them. If you don't have those, you could imagine having a daughter or a little sister. If they acted direct and spoke their mind, you would think of them with a smile and be proud. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:14 PM |
| 57 | Tell him you want a relationship and then ghost HIMI am triggered lmaooo My last tinder casual turned hookup that swore me off the app and casual forever literally did this- came over, sexed, fell asleep, woke around 3am, yelled my name repeatedly while i was next to him 'hydra hydra HYDRA what TIME IS IT?' ten mins later 'HYDRA IT'S SO WARM IN HERE' fifteen mins 'HYDRA IM WARM' by the whine you could replace my name with 'mom' by the crack of dawn I kicked him out so fast he couldn't find his underwear and was scrounging around my bedroom as I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:05 PM |
| 19 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...My apartment has looked like this (minus the animal) in a depression spiral or work bender with no energy left for anything else. It's not 'cute.' I also definitely do not date during this time. When energy returns, it goes to myself (cleaning, self care) first! I have often gaslighted myself to push myself to date when I simply have no capacity for it (and my living space is often the first to reflect that) because 'oh well it's normal,' but seeing the responses here made me feel validated! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:00 PM |
| 9 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotYou can put me in a dumpster, but I won’t ever act like trash. 😂 They turn it on you So fast too. This guy tried it. Told me I was inflexible. Until I remembered I was flexible twice. I told him everyone has errands to run? and he needs better time management. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 02:51 PM |
| 6 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotYou want EVIDENCE of someone trashy I swiped left on? Because you won't believe me and the countless others who shared their experience of profile text like this? But you don't think you're gaslighting? what? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 01:56 PM |
| 0 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotThat's funny, because I thought lvm generally do trolling, gaslighting ("can't read into this without more info folks!"), devil's advocate, feel above from the rules of a community (read the handbook), and various mind bending mental gymnastics. They also perceive calling any of those out = attacking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 01:41 PM |
| 11 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotYou are gaslighting. A man stating he wants a classy woman is a sign he knows how to treat a woman? FDS says actions only. For the record, the rest of his profile is him posting with half naked girls from music festivals. But I don't need to know that to know this is fuck boy language. Rape culture, bro culture, casual sex culture can be perpetuated by people who dress well and work good jobs. Were you sleeping through the whole metoo movement? But you stay being the cool girl out to give him th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 01:16 PM |
| 40 | I wish I had been taught to be unconcerned instead of nice. And isn’t this proof?Her responses are spot on. Men like these make me wanna hurl. I get it a lot myself. That I am "brutal," "straight shooter," "hold no punches," if I so much as don't grin back at an unfunny attempt of a joke. And they say "I like it!" like it's a mountain they wanna summit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:42 AM |
| 30 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotYup. My regular hair and nail appointments take so. much. time. Full skincare routine. Makeup station. I enjoy them. But the upkeep is very time consuming. Not even counting fashion, dressing, styling, shopping for them. And then there's exercise and food planning and cleaning? There's a difference between a man appreciating these in a woman he cares about and invests in, vs requiring them up front! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:23 AM |
| 61 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotI had a guy reschedule twice and then the day of a video date, tried to push it back with short notice. Because...he was going to run errands. I said bye, and he tried to school me with "idk how long you have been online dating here, but this is normal, pushing things around"- like him doing extra time on the market gives him authority, and not a sign that...yike, no one wants him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:19 AM |
| 11 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotDing ding | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:15 AM |
| 17 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotHahhaha he tried the grocery store it was a no go | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:13 AM |
| 7 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotI'm not pressed if anyone "trusts" the snippet or not. I was annoyed at the whole "I don't understand" trolling tone or the "equality" angle. Check the handbook for OLD red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:12 AM |
| 8 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotHm. What don't you understand? Did you read anything other people said? Who said anything about not allowing anyone to have standards? Do you really put all that on your profile? "Looking for someone over 6'2, lifts over 200, with a good career, pays for all the dates, is actually funny, texts me back within 24 hours, etc etc"? Next to a pic of you grinning and partying with half-naked hunks? Is it black and white? Either have zero standards, or list them everywhere, might as well iron them onto… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 04:59 AM |
| 15 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotNo one is saying don't be excellent? I mean this is the 21st century equivalent of a man declaring he wants a woman who cooks and cleans- the problem is having a laundry list of requirements of a woman is dehumanizing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 02:39 AM |
| 10 | Grimes talking about having unprotected sex with Elon Musk is horrifying yet painfully relatable: a "sort of tragedy", "sacrificing your body and your freedom", "capitulation", profound commitment"Same and I go with he dicknotized her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 02:08 AM |
| 0 | Grimes talking about having unprotected sex with Elon Musk is horrifying yet painfully relatable: a "sort of tragedy", "sacrificing your body and your freedom", "capitulation", profound commitment"What | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 02:07 AM |
| 85 | Men Caught Catcalling Their Mothers in Disguise. Y'all ever doubted?Lady ripped her wig off so fast and did the hand bag attack 🤣😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 01:43 AM |
| 46 | It’s a pandemic of LVM men everywhere!! Another story of an LVM man taking a woman out on a date. PandemicHahaha this made me laugh!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 01:37 AM |
| 23 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotSad to say he looks fairly good in the pics 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 01:24 AM |
| 144 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotSad thing is this is so common in my city. The early 30s corporate/tech bros thinking they are the shit, pics of them going to EDMs, smirking fakecute grins | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 01:21 AM |
| 4 | Building a family alone?Thanks for these! I joined the group. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 11:16 PM |
| 20 | Grimes talking about having unprotected sex with Elon Musk is horrifying yet painfully relatable: a "sort of tragedy", "sacrificing your body and your freedom", "capitulation", profound commitment"Yep. I file her under radfems who speak about disgust toward their infants (postpartum depression), feeling at a loss after being a mother (cultural misogyny), and so on. She just gives off an unbothered vibe most of the time and it's easy to hate on an unbothered woman. She does not share any struggle pickme tales like justifying a bad man or sobbing over not being able to pay rent and still refusing to leave a bad man who did not marry her while leaving her destitute. Like, she is living her l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 10:01 PM |
| 41 | Grimes talking about having unprotected sex with Elon Musk is horrifying yet painfully relatable: a "sort of tragedy", "sacrificing your body and your freedom", "capitulation", profound commitment"Grimes is such an easy target imo. I am shocked at the hate Grimes gets from other women across all spectrums. Men hate her too. And even though I want children and will do that some day, I see this fear she speaks so clearly about, the feeling of capitulation, giving up power. And it's not because of one bad sperm donor that is Elon, it's because the world (culturally) hates women, and they hate mothers even more. I, like her, do not see motherhood as eternally empowering or sunshine. I will st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 09:47 PM |
| 35 | Grimes talking about having unprotected sex with Elon Musk is horrifying yet painfully relatable: a "sort of tragedy", "sacrificing your body and your freedom", "capitulation", profound commitment"it wouldn't surprise me if she were on the spectrum Can I ask what signs she showed that made you think this? please don't promote the misogynistic view that she only had a baby with him for the connection/money/etc. because this is an MRA talking point. I also agree with this. It's so wrung out to the point where she came out to insist that they split costs and made it a thing to not take his money....smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 09:25 PM |
| 6 | Building a family alone?🙌 We might need to start a support group specifically for this :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 07:57 PM |
| 97 | I hope her divorce lawyer has a wonderful time with the public photographic evidence of his cheating.Omg lol reminds me of that clip where the woman said with a straight face "It was a tragedy, my husband fell... into his co-workers vagina" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 06:54 PM |
| 33 | New Yorker criticizes Queen’s Gambit actress as too good looking for the role. Because being smart must = being ugly even after any glowup.I see you and my past resonates with yours. Glad you are still here 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:10 PM |
| 115 | New Yorker criticizes Queen’s Gambit actress as too good looking for the role. Because being smart must = being ugly even after any glowup.The biggest irony is the actress, Anya Taylor Joy, thinks she is ugly because she isn't classically beautiful and she was bullied through school. She has disproportionate features, wide set eyes, and when she was cast to play Emma, she cried and tried to quit because she would be the "first ugly Emma." I don't care if the book SPECIFIED Beth was SUPPOSED to be ugly. It was still written by a man and any time a man makes a big deal about a woman's looks, as a lazy built-in mechanism for her chara… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 04:27 PM |
| 61 | New Yorker criticizes Queen’s Gambit actress as too good looking for the role. Because being smart must = being ugly even after any glowup.I found the spiral believable, even though I can't say I know many women who grew up in an orphanage nursing deep traumas, psychosis, an opiate addiction, and coming into age with a protege level talent in an exclusively male field. All that makes the spiral seem tepid, even. And I am nowhere near Beth's level of genius, but in my troubled youth I have definitely shacked up with dudes the way she did, seeking validation, love, or a combo of whatever. Considering how isolated she was, and having … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 04:17 PM |
| 31 | New Yorker criticizes Queen’s Gambit actress as too good looking for the role. Because being smart must = being ugly even after any glowup.I do like that her love interest is in the same league looks wise though. The other crusty chess geniuses never managed to move her. She used them to cope etc but it was clear Townes was the one who had her heart. Edit to add: Beth is a regular woman. There is no "regular" woman to pit her against. That's like saying women wearing makeup is scamming a man, they prefer "regular/natural". Obviously she wears makeup and has nice hair. The media is full of "ugly" women with low self esteem- they can… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 04:13 PM |
| 101 | It should be that simple. I’ve had a guy literally do all of these things, then proceed to say he doesn’t want us to be “official”.I had a LVM "best friend" orbiter who did all of this, short of sex. I initiated a conversation about dating several times. But he only viewed me as a friend, though he thought I was hot. Sorry, girl. We carried on as friends for a year or so. After he tried to have sex with me, I demanded either we date, or he leave me alone. He did not want to date. I blocked his phone. Three months later, I got an email that he was in love with me and was sorry he did not know it earlier. In that email, he de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:20 AM |
| 26 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityYES Or they think it belongs, and it's an edgy opinion that makes them a pariah | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 09:13 PM |
| 8 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.This is an inspiration. I was nodding along with mental fistbumps and straight up went "heck YEAH" when I got to the most recent rich man and she left after "tiring of his depressed ass." 👑👑👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 09:08 PM |
| 56 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityOmg so trueeee. Might I add: "The BIGGEST risk I have taken is! [...relocate for a job]" "My best friend in the world! [An animal]" "I want to know: do you have a sense of humor?" "I don't take myself too seriously" "I'll fall for you if: you like pizza and are easy to get along with" ...there's so much more | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 08:50 PM |
| 53 | This was the second time he had talked to me this way while drunk and angry. THIS is when you leave ladies. Like my last post said, leave the first time.I'm so proud of you. It's not easy to leave, but this behavior will only escalate. Physical violence begins with emotional/verbal violence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 08:42 PM |
| 18 | LVM movie red flags! 🚩I'll add Good Will Hunting and any kind of 'misunderstood male genius' trope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 05:07 PM |
| 3 | The "phone thing"My answer is I won't give up codes to my tech. I would want his. But I would not be interested to check up on him. I don't care to read a man's diary. I see it as for contingency, not a regular habit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 07:35 PM |
| 2 | OMG I couldn’t help myself. He shouldn’t have snooped and he should communicate. And stop being so insecure! All women do this."you are just as wrong as her" 😂😂😂✌️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:09 PM |
| 2 | 👑insert spitting water laughing gif | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:00 PM |
| 5 | The "phone thing"My Bestie thinks "I trust my husband and I don't need to mess with his stuff or see his phone because I trust him" IMO there's a difference between trusting someone and fearing the possibility of confronting evidence that trust is betrayed. The guy may or may not cheat, but if you never have to confront it, it will never be a problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 05:48 PM |
| 83 | “its pretty cool cuz she doesnt care if i fuck up my life”Wow nice catch. He really did. What the fuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 05:42 PM |
| 345 | “its pretty cool cuz she doesnt care if i fuck up my life”"She's a downgrade from my ex I love her" Oh. My. God. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 05:32 PM |
| 70 | Success storiesI agree with checking with the success flair. Also want to add that "success" in the terms of this sub isn't to "end up" in a relationship. I found value in learning strategies to date men / deal with men to add value to my life. To recognize that a life worth living isn't pegged to a man's valuation of my worth or fuckability or wifeability. So sometimes, that means leaving them, or not marrying them. I have turned down two proposals in my life, diamond ring and all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 05:26 PM |
| 388 | What are your thoughts on this ladies, would you divorce him?I'm so proud of her. The hot tub pee is one infraction. He snowballed it by gaslighting her ("you are making a big deal") instead of appreciating her honest communication and taking the chance to apologize and change. So she threw the whole person away. Edit to add: the word "ultimatum" is also a gaslighty word for taunting someone who has limits and boundaries. In my younger days I have been guilted so many times about my "ultimatums" before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 04:55 PM |
| 19 | And guys wonder why they are getting ignored. I deleted the match already but I'm dumbfounded. My bio talks about my hobbies, things i like to talk about, my current goals etc. Him: 🚘🏎️🖥️✌️🤪Doing anything fun this weekend? Planned any adventures? Where are you going for the holidays? What you up to? Anywhere in the city you like? Any fun things you like? I used to jump to prove to these ppl I had an interesting life (lol 🤡). That was the old me. Then I asked myself if I would answer if someone stopped me on the way to CVS to buy tampons to ask stupid things like this. Because it's literally a stranger asking about my whereabouts or plans hoping to be included or get some excitement… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 04:50 PM |
| 4 | Dang, really was hoping he would say "oh haha just to clarify, I was being cheap"There are restaurants that are outside under a covered patio, or have heat lamps. Covid testing is also free and widely available so I recommend both of you testing beforehand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 05:11 AM |
| 8 | Florence Pugh defends her age gap relationship with Zach BraffI have been this girl, making this mistake. Thankfully, I was not a celebrity 😣 my clownery stayed in the private sphere.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 01:34 AM |
| 11 | Yooo. Had a close brush with a psycho that seemed HQ."It just feels good to manipulate someone into doing what I want by pretending I am what I'm not" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 01:02 AM |
| 6 | Have you noticed that men aren't funny?Spot on. Even men comedians who do it for a living aren't funny. I struggle to find one good one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 12:48 AM |
| 11 | I rejected a LVM and he had a nervous breakdown. We remained friends but he is somewhat manipulative and is trying to use a sexual/intimacy issue he has to get me to feel sorry for him.I had someone like this eerily similar and I spent countless hours "talking" until things escalated to the point of me blocking. It's toxic. The anxiety, the love declarations, the uneending talks. Enmeshing to the point of incessantly hashing out the contents of his therapy should be a sign to gtfo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Pandemic Dates?I am aware :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 07:12 PM |
| 0 | Pandemic Dates?Your virtue signalling is hurting my internet ears. FYI- and I know you didn't ask because that would defeat making assumptions- I turned down the antibodies guy. He was ugly. As for restaurant reopening policies. I suggest writing a letter to your governor? I can't help with that I'm sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 03:39 PM |
| 16 | Dang, really was hoping he would say "oh haha just to clarify, I was being cheap"This! Suggesting walks brings serial killer in the woods vibes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 02:10 PM |
| 21 | NOTHING will “keep a man”, and it’s not your job!I tell myself she's keeping him around to not break up her empire or split her wealth! She def blasts him to hell and back in her music. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 02:07 PM |
| 8 | Dang, really was hoping he would say "oh haha just to clarify, I was being cheap"If I want to chill and have a drink, I go with friends. If they are not available, I go alone to my favorite bars where I know the bartenders or people who run it. There's no need to give my company to a rando stranger who can't sit down for the duration of a dinner and be interesting, it's a waste of time imo and becomes negative value for my evening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Pandemic Dates?Sure. All are considerations to weigh out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 06:37 AM |
| 0 | Pandemic Dates?You could get them to test, and also test yourself. It's pretty easy to do it regularly. Proper / fine restaurants also have socially distanced dividers and outdoor seating with heat lamps. I wouldn't say HVM don't date at all, but it can be part of the vetting process to see if they take precautions and care about their health. I got asked out by someone who caught covid, recovered, and has antibodies, for instance. But definitely no walks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 06:06 AM |
| 202 | NOTHING will “keep a man”, and it’s not your job!Yup, you could literally be Beyonce and he'll cheat if he wanna cheat. Wait... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 04:17 AM |
| 105 | Dang, really was hoping he would say "oh haha just to clarify, I was being cheap"it's your privilege to accompany him to a chore! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 03:53 AM |
| 26 | Dang, really was hoping he would say "oh haha just to clarify, I was being cheap"😂 usually i just ignore but i'll tell this one that's sweet of him to be considerate i'm happy to wait till the vaccine comes out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 03:50 AM |
| 80 | Dang, really was hoping he would say "oh haha just to clarify, I was being cheap""oh mr darcy, I only walk dogs at the park, teehee!" 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 03:11 AM |
| 13 | Exhibit #59269428 proving men are unable to handle rejection 😂Men always think they can reject you back after being rejected first! Like, that's not how this works... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 04:08 AM |
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