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wigglyshark/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 03:29 AM
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I lost 40lbs in one summer after my dad gave me a bit of tough love about my weight, haha. I was complaining about being fat and he was pretty much like “well get your ass outside on a walk everyday and stop eating so much, it’s easy” (in kinder words) and it was the wake up call I needed. There was no sense in complaining about being fat when I spent everyday on my computer eating potato chips. My entire understanding of food and diet changed and I started doing CICO, even some fasting here and…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 04:00 PM
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Exactly. “Losing” guys to girls who put out right away is exactly how I ended up with a marriage and children-minded guy at a young age, built a life with him (marriage, vacations, house, kids, dogs, the works) without ever being pumped and dumped or having my heart broken. I’m not surprised that many men here resent this filter system. Some of the men here always bring up the point of “losing” high value men when the topic of this post gets brought up, it gives me a really funny mental image of…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 03:36 PM
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My husband and I are both ex-fatties. We were overweight as kids and lost weight in our teens, just before meeting each other. His entire family is obese whereas mine was just poor and I only ever ate unhealthy cheap food growing up. I’ve been happy with my weight ever since and have managed to keep myself in shape, even after two pregnancies, but my husband seems to have some lingering body dysmorphia and insecurity over how he used to look (he wasn’t even that fat tbh, but acts like he was mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 02:57 PM
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My husband was a virgin when we began dating in high school. I was too, and virginity was a requirement for me. Neither of us are religious. He’s the only guy I know who was abstinent for non-religious reasons; he has no hang-ups about sex, he just felt strongly about waiting for the right person, like I did. Sex has remained an important and frequent part of our marriage after eleven years of being together. It’s a bond we share that we haven’t shared with anyone else. I know this probably isn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 06:30 PM
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My husband has a way of being with me that I like that makes me feel “small” and cared for the way a father cares about their daughter. I know it sounds weird and I’m probably not explaining it well. But I think the actual ddlg lifestyle with like the pacifiers and bottles and all of that is pure cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 10:03 PM
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My husband makes it clear every year that Valentine’s is his day to treat me. He left early for work this morning but I woke up to my kitchen covered in balloons and flowers, my favorite chocolates and a couple of gifts (things I’ve been wanting for a while). After the kids go to bed I’ll probably smoke a little weed to get rid of my gag reflex. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 07:29 PM
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History of casual sex, having FWBs, etc. was a hard no for me. I’ve been with the same guy since high school, though, and we were both virgins. If anything were to happen to him and if I were able to get over it and start dating again, I know that this would pose huge issues for me. I’ve never done the casual thing and really would prefer to be with a man that hasn’t done it, either, but I also don’t want to be with a sex-negative guy because I have a high libido. The current dating world freaks…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 06:58 PM
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I’ve only ever experienced one dick so I’m not an expert. PIV sex with my husband feels really good, but the physical sensations are not nearly as intense as direct clitoral stimulation. I’d say he’s average length and above average girth based on what I’ve heard and read. I’m guessing his girth is enough to put pressure on the internal clitoral structure. Putting anything besides his dick inside of me pretty much feels like nothing. I don’t even masturbate with any “internal” toys, I’ve only ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 02:07 AM
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I stay at home with our two girls, both under two years old. I worked a ton during the beginning of our relationship so that my husband could focus on getting his degree instead of having to juggle his demanding course load and a job. I didn’t return to work because the both of us preferred that I stay home instead of sending them to daycare, which is insanely expensive where we live anyways. He makes double the average income for our state, but there is a high cost of living here. No student lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 10:55 PM
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Personally I just wanted the marriage. My husband and I both have families that typically do the large celebration thing, but at the time neither of us wanted to spend a ton of money on a wedding. My parents are broke and his parents have many narc-tendencies and accepting money from them would have resulted in a lot of fighting to make our own choices about our day. My grandmother paid for my dress, which was under $300 but I can’t remember the exact amount. Around 20 people, friends and family…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 09:55 PM
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Insisting on 3 months seems kind of arbitrary, but I generally think that waiting is a good strategy for girls who are looking for long-term commitment. My husband and I didn’t have PIV sex until 6 months into our relationship, which wasn’t a pre-designated amount of time. We were both virgins who had personal (non-religious) morals about reserving sex for the person we wanted to be with forever. Our relationship had gotten to the “I love the absolute shit out of you and want to spend the rest o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 10:17 PM
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Personal morals, for the both of us. Our high school was rampant with casual sex/FWB culture and neither of us were ever into that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 03:56 AM
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Zero. I kissed one other guy before dating my husband. He has all of my other “firsts”, and I have his.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 12:47 AM
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When my husband and I were in high school, he was still in his awkward, gangly teenaged boy phase. I’ve always been attracted to him but people would constantly point out the difference in our looks. His friends would tell him to not “screw it up” (in regards to our relationship) because I was the “hottest he’d ever get”. People would also tell me that I could do better than him, which really annoyed me because we had a very serious relationship from the start. It’s been 10 years since then and …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 08:49 PM
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We’ve been together for 10 years, been having sex for 9.5 years. We started dating as teenagers (and virgins) and didn’t have penetrative sex until 6 months into the relationship. In the beginning, we were absolutely wild. We didn’t have much parental supervision and were able to get away with sex multiple times a day after school. During this time, we tried a lot of new things and were figuring each other out sexually. Then, after moving in together as young adults, things got even crazier. Not…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 01:53 AM
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When I was 5-6, my dad was holding me at our local fair and a random guy came up behind me and put his cigarette out on my back. I distinctly remember turning around to look at him and he gave me this really creepy perv grin while flicking his tongue. My dad passed me to my mom and promptly beat him to near death when he realized what had happened. Up until the age of 13, I had some other experiences with men trying to lure me to their cars, leering at me at the park and then following me home, …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 02:02 AM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 02:30 PM
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My husband is a Good Man. He is physically attractive to me and places importance on staying in good shape and keeping our physical chemistry alive. He is sexy, and sexual, with what I can only describe as a traditional kind of masculine energy where I know he is always down to throw me over his shoulder and carry me off somewhere, but I’ll never have to worry about him becoming some kind of pornsick degenerate weirdo with gross fetishes. The attention and care he takes in pleasing me physically…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 10:04 PM
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This was me as well. I was EXTREMELY young when I learned that rubbing against things felt nice, and did it as often as I could. I thought that I was the first human being in the world to “discover” it, lol. My parents were eventually able to explain to me in a really chill way that I had to keep it in the privacy of my bedroom, but man it must have been embarrassing for them to be constantly talked to by my elementary school teachers.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 12:20 AM
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I went to a Catholic all-girls high school for two years. Honestly, I loved it. There was very little bullying, no cliques, barely any drama. I remember walking into lunch and being able to sit down at any table, because the girls were so friendly. It sounds cheesy but there was definitely a strong feeling of “sisterhood” among us. Most of the girls were Catholic but were very welcoming to the non-Catholic students such as myself. We had a “brother school” too that we had combined events with, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 02:31 PM
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I’ve never fucked a Chad but I was friendly with the captain of my high school’s football team during high school. He was in my Latin class and seemed to be very interested in mythology and learning the language; we were the only two people in the class who actually enjoyed it. We ended up pairing up for any group work that was assigned. He was very good looking, funny and smart and I could see why so many girls were attracted to him. He also was pretty friendly; his friends had been bullying my…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 09:50 PM
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A girl I went to middle school with. She was white, overweight, raised by a working class single mother. Also a huge bully with major behavioral problems. She showed up at a party my friend threw when we were all in high school and asked a room full of guys, “who here needs their dick sucked?” and basically worked her way through the room while people cheered and recorded. The videos were all uploaded to the internet and she became a legend, of sorts, in my home state. I always heard nasty stori…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 09:28 PM
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Low SMV. The 80/20 rule definitely seemed to apply in my high school, in which the vast majority of sexually active girls were sleeping with the same few jocks and popular guys. My husband is/was really cute but was also pretty traditional, and was way too shy and insecure to break into that space. Unpopular. I thought he was pretty cool when I first met him so it bewildered me that so many people made fun of him. We had an honest conversation about it during our friendship and it turned out he …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 08:24 PM
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Female: My mom My mom has cheated in every single relationship she has ever been in. I highly suspect that she had undiagnosed borderline personality disorder. She cheated on my dad because she decided that he was the worst person on the planet the moment a somewhat-popular DJ expressed interest in her. All of a sudden, my dad was “psychologically abusive” and “holding her back” and “neglecting his family” (she demanded that he work 3 jobs so she could stay at home and not lift a finger). She de…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 02:59 PM
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High school, we started dating at the beginning of my senior year and have been together ever since.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 04:13 PM
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We started dating when we were 16. We’re both in our 20s now.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 03:53 PM
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I had an N-count of zero and wanted a man who also had an N-count of zero. My husband was also a virgin when we started dating, and he was pretty much exactly what I wanted; a good-looking, intelligent, quiet guy who generally kept to himself. He had a lot of ambition career-wise and wanted a big family. He treated me like gold and it was just evident from the very beginning that we were crazy about each other; there were no games, no unkindness, no indecisiveness. I feel incredibly lucky that i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 01:54 PM
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High N-count is a turnoff. I have always been viscerally disgusted by casual sex as well. My romantic decisions have been consistent with my standards (husband and I were virgins before we met) so unless he were to die, I won’t ever be in a situation again where I have to vet a man and his N-count.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 11:32 PM
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For context, I’ve only ever had sex with my husband. We are both HL. Before I lost my virginity to him, I was getting by just fine with what some would probably consider excessive masturbation (clitoral orgasms). For me, orgasms from direct clitoral stimulation are far more pleasurable than orgasms resulting from PIV alone, but the entire experience of PIV is preferable to just getting myself off, if that makes sense. But I never felt that “need” for PIV until I met my husband; before that I oft…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 03:10 PM
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When I was working full time, my husband and I split the housework pretty evenly. Now that I stay at home with our baby, I take care of it all except for outside stuff like mowing the lawn. Our sex life did not suffer when he was doing half the housework.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 02:58 AM
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Woman. I’ve never had casual sex and have never been interested in it. I permanently partnered off at the age of 16. We had sex for the first time 6 months into our relationship, giving us time to build a strong emotional connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 02:30 AM
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My husband and I began dating with N counts of 0 each. I’m very happy that it happened this way and wouldn’t change a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 04:41 PM
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A couple of months ago, my husband and I brought our infant daughter to a popular chain arcade. We suspected a man was following us around, and tested our theory by walking in circles around the entire place and zigzagging randomly. He closely followed us the entire time. It was clear that he was trying to get as close to our daughter as possible. While playing a game next to us, he randomly stopped in the middle of it and pretty much shoved his phone inside her stroller, taking pictures of her.…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 04:36 PM
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Same, sort of. I was nuts for my husband when we were just in the “talking” stage, so on our first date to the movies, I arrived embarrassingly early and bought both of our tickets before he arrived. He insisted on buying the popcorn and soda, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 06:33 AM
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Never. When I was single, a simple “no”, “no thanks” or simply walking away was sufficient enough. Now that I’m married, I usually employ the walking away method. Explaining that I’m married has resulted in 90% my approachers countering with some dumb PUA line about how my marriage doesn’t matter or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/19 03:47 AM
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I stay at home with my 9 month old so most of my day revolves around her. But I do get to enjoy some free time here and there: I like to read when she naps, or play a one player RPG video game. We go to the library together during the day, or go for walks around the neighborhood. When she’s awake, I love to mess around with cooking and trying new recipes while she watches me from her high chair. If my husband is home from work, I like to swim at the local indoor pool or take my dog to the dog pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 08:02 PM
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In some ways I do break the mold, in others I don’t. My husband was a kissless virgin when we started dating in high school. His lack of experience was not a turn off for me; I was a virgin as well. We had quite a lot of fun teaching each other everything we liked sexually, trying new things out, etc. The fact that he has only ever had physical contact with me has not resulted in a dead bedroom for the 10+ years we’ve been together. I’m still insanely attracted to him and our average rate is 5 t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 05:43 AM
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Yes. I wouldn’t have even considered dating my husband if he wasn’t a virgin, like myself at the time. We met in high school and the both of us had turned down other people for having reputations for sleeping around. For me, there’s just a lot of ick factor around it. I knew that I wanted to save my virginity for my husband, so why should I have to be possibly be exposed to HPV or herpes if I had done the “honorable” thing of waiting? It just made sense to screen for fellow virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 02:09 AM
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In high school, I was an overly shy, unfeminine fatty up until my senior year. I had no interest in dating for the majority of my teenage years, but when I started to become more interested in boys, I took complete responsibility for my unattractiveness and made changes. Lost forty lbs. over one summer, learned how to apply makeup and redid my wardrobe, learned to stop being so shy and self conscious...arrived to my senior year as a new gal and had a boyfriend within two weeks. Everything that h…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 03:57 PM
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Anal. I really wanted to enjoy it because I was under the assumption that it was something that ALL men wanted (thank you, porn) so I suggested it to my husband. I'm someone who really doesn't get any pleasure out of pain during sex, but I still wanted to give it the old college try. We prepped with lots of lube, and I was surprisingly still able to relax myself because everything I read said that it was sOoOoOo pleasurable for women if you follow all of the right steps. Holy shit (lol), never a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 08:56 PM
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Yeah, I know. Maybe I misunderstood, but I don’t think the OP of the original comment meant to imply that antivirals are for just any kind of virus in the same way that one type of antibiotic can be used to treat a multitude of different infections. I think they were just using a question to point out that viruses are treated differently than infections.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 07:58 AM
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Antivirals are a thing, such as Tamiflu (influenza), Valtrex (herpes virus), and Truvada (HIV) are all antivirals.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 04:13 AM
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Yep. Many of my patients came into the office demanding antibiotics for their common colds.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 04:09 AM
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An antibiotic will not cure your virus. It’ll probably make you vomit and give you diarrhea, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 09:19 PM
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No. The only male friends I have are the mutual ones between my husband I. I neither need nor want emotional support from a guy unless I'm in a relationship with them. As for companionship, I'm not entirely convinced that a friendship with a guy, in which he is not being taken advantage of for favors, strung along, used as an emotional tampon, would still make him an orbiter. I have had male friends in the past and our friendships looked like this: order pizza, play video games, watch funny/shoc…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 02:47 AM
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I’m a reserved person and always preferred more introverted men. In high school, my husband was definitely known as the quiet guy. Most of the guys in our school were obnoxious vulgarians, so his aloofness was attractive to me. However, on the flip side of that, our one-on-one interactions introduced me to a side of him that literally nobody else knew, because he did open up to me. He was a diamond in the rough and only I was lucky enough to know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 10:02 PM
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If it seems like a guy is just agreeing with whatever I say for the purpose of approval, it comes across as either desperate or not genuine. Sometimes I can tell when a guy is not really informed about something we're discussing, and if he's just parroting back whatever I say, I respect that a lot less than if he just said something like, "I don't know enough about that to have an opinion about it". I also don't like it if a guy is incredibly condescending about our difference in opinions. This …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 07:22 PM
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There is an obvious explanation for why a couple of these non-sexual things never fail to turn me on, but there are others that I can't explain. These are all specifically about my husband: When he carries around his gun. Concealed, of course. How American of me~ His uniform when he was on patrol. Watching him do something he is good at, or listening to him speak about something he is knowledgeable about. Watching him from across the table while he drinks his coffee. Watching him be sweet and ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 07:13 PM
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3 weeks since losing my virginity at 17. I'm married to the guy. The only reason why I went 3 weeks without PIV is because I had a c-section.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 06:32 PM
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Mostly psychological ways with my husband. All of his time is spent either at work or at home with me and our daughter, so the only place he gets other female attention is at his job. He works in law enforcement and has a female coworker who started becoming flirty with him after he began climbing the ranks. When he was just on patrol, it was well known in his precinct that she was sleeping with one of the sergeants and she was given a position in his specialized unit. She was a new cop and she …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 06:14 PM
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I don’t know. Women want different things, which is why I really don’t think I can answer this question if we’re talking about my exact “strategy” step by step. It would obviously be a net negative for women who don’t want to limit themselves to one person from a high school relationship for the rest of their lives, but it seems like many women here have at least avoided being pumped and dumped by doing some of the things that I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/18 12:51 AM
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Here's how I did it, but I snagged my husband young and all of these steps were followed in high school: No sex without commitment. My reputation of being a prude already did most of the work of screening out the guys who just wanted to dump a fuck into me. Met a traditional-ish virgin guy that I was attracted to and went on two dates before we became exclusive. He didn't have many options at the time (high school girls are stupid and brutal and he was far from the popular type) but I had a susp…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 10:03 PM
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I think people make the mistake of assuming that men just stumble upon the manosphere and align themselves with those beliefs completely unprompted. More often that not, those men are looking for advice and solutions to a range of shared experiences/issues they have faced with women, such as difficulty in finding/keeping sexual partners, infidelity, increasing their SMV, or MRA related things like divorce and child custody, and they find the manosphere that way. Meaning, it isn't so much that me…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 06:42 PM
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I'm not a guy, so guys please feel welcome to chime in and correct me if I'm way off about anything, but this is what I've gathered based on personal experiences and from what many, many men have described on Reddit and beyond. The issue doesn't seem to be the high standards alone, unless they are dramatically overestimating their own worth, it's that the double standard of suddenly expecting more from their partners while they themselves offer less (usually sexually) is incredibly frustrating t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 04:49 PM
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I don't comment often but I really do enjoy reading through the posts and comments here. Some of you are absolutely hilarious. I am pretty shy and I find myself wanting to comment on things but balking at the last minute. And I have to acknowledge that my input on the topics discussed here is coming from a rare situation (married young to high school sweetheart, both are each others first and only sexual partners) and that it probably isn't relevant and won't resonate.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 02:41 PM
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5’2, weight fluctuates between 120-130 lbs. Natural blonde, long hair (almost all the way down my back), blue eyes. I’ve been told I look kiddish; I’m hoping I inherited my mom’s genes because she’s approaching 50 and looks like she’s in her early 30s. I have an hourglass shape with C cup breasts and a butt that isn’t huge but it definitely isn’t small. My worst feature is my huge calves, which bulked up immensely when I was overweight and I’ve so far been unable to shrink them back down. I’ve b…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 04:49 AM
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Yes. Before I had sex with my husband for the first time, I made it perfectly clear that I would never consider abortion if we had an accidental pregnancy. If something were to happen to my marriage and I ended up back in the dating pool, I would never start a sexual relationship without giving the "no abortion" disclaimer, which I know would probably drive most guys away. This is why I have never had casual sex and why I waited until marriage (with a guy who has talked for years about having lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 02:19 AM
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Dadimir Putin 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 05:42 PM
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No to both.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 09:31 PM
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SUPREME COURT IS UNFAIR! 👏 BRETT KAVANAUGH IS IN THERE! 👏 STANDING AT THE CONCESSION! 👏 PLOTTING HIS OPPRESSION! 👏
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 04:43 AM
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He was my childhood best friend and him and I were going through that pre-teen melodrama of “liking” each other at different times, getting jealous if the other developed a crush on someone else, etc. Fast forward to our freshman year of high school and we finally seemed to like each other at the same time, we kissed a couple of times but that was the extent of our “romantic” relationship. One day he randomly blew me off when we had plans to go to the beach together. A random girl added me on My…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 02:13 PM
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No. I aspire to be unrapeable and hope that rape will never happen to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 05:01 AM
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You might like francisco lachowski too lol. I just looked him up and you are absolutely right. 😍 What does this even mean? I have a small nose and a small mouth which I’ve been told gives me a baby face. I’m 25 but still get mistaken for a teenager. The looks and comments I received when I was noticeably pregnant earlier this year were pretty funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:36 AM
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White. Not gonna lie here. Taller than me. I’m 5’2 so guys never needed to be super tall to catch my attention. I’m a sucker for pretty boys. I love soft/feminine facial features on a man. Not a huge fan of facial hair. I love green eyes as well. Cole Sprouse is a good example. Ottermode/boyish/swimmer’s build. A little chub on a guy doesn’t bother me too much though. If they’re gonna be bald then they should at least rock an epic combover like this. Average I guess? Not looking to get my cervix…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 03:34 AM
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This is partially true. A lot of them were also shamed as homosexuals, losers and what not. As you have seen here too, even though probably i have more experience with women than anyone who commented here. Given that most men who GTOW probably don’t talk about it IRL, I doubt that they are shamed IRL much besides idle gossip between the dumb cunty busybodies that exist in every community. Even if they are shamed, why would a MGTOW care if he is shamed when he is living happily without women? Eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:01 AM
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I’ve noticed that this “sell me on women” phenomenon only happens on the internet. I know plenty of men living as eternal bachelors and none of them have gone around asking people to sell them on women IRL. The millions of men throughout time who placed zero value on women and either lived as wizards or perpetual pump’n’dumpers most likely went to their graves having never posited this to anyone, because they truly went their own way and didn’t feel the need to debate about it. Just like how you…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:46 PM
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A little horrifying, but not in the way you’ve described here. I had this realization when I was about 14 and was being hit on by guys significantly older than me. Being so young, I understood sex as something that only happens within a loving relationship. Being outwardly asked for sex by men with whom there was no chance of having a relationship with (age difference and the fact that I was disgusted by their casual regard for sex) was a learning experience and sort of forced me to grow up in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 04:22 PM
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He’s 5’11 and I’m 5’2. I definitely like the fact that he’s taller than me and it contributes to my sexual attraction to him. Before I met him, however, I wasn’t strictly attracted to guys that were as tall or taller than him. I like it when a guy is taller than me, even if just by a little tiny bit, which is easy because almost everyone I meet is taller than me. I’ve asked my husband if he is specifically attracted to petiteness and he says that my height doesn’t really make a difference to him…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 05:13 PM
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I’m a natural blonde. I was an ugly duckling up until my senior year, when I lost some weight and learned to embrace my femininity, so I was invisible for most of my high school experience. I have never been popular nor was I a cheerleader. I had like three friends who were as introverted as I was, and one who was a major party girl. I went to some of her parties but I didn’t enjoy it and haven’t revisited the party scene since. I’m attracted to his personality and his looks. He hits practically…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/18 03:42 AM
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Not at all. Because of this, I can’t get down with the BDSM or rough stuff. Light hair-pulling and spanking is OK, but light enough so that it wouldn’t cause pain even in a non-sexual situation. I’m not pain tolerant at all and pain is an instant turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/18 03:24 AM
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I have higher standards of household cleanliness than my husband, but he will gladly live in absolute filth and chaos. He will throw his garbage on the floor wherever he is standing. He will put a plate full of food in the sink and let it sit there, even once the maggots and flies and mold start appearing. Yes, I expected him to change when we moved in together, but it has taken him nearly eight years of frustration to stop living like an animal. My standards for cleanliness are not even that hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/18 02:54 AM
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My husband is 5’11 and while I’ve always thought that he’s hotter than hot, I’ve been shocked by how other people view him. I had female friends in high school who would straight up tell me that he wasn’t super good looking, but he’s exactly my type and I have always found him to be incredibly physically attractive. High school girls can be brutal and have ridiculous standards, and I don’t think it helped that he had a reputation of being shy/awkward and the whole crying thing. I don’t really se…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/18 02:46 AM
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Probably myself and my husband. We're married high school sweethearts, been together since we were sixteen. Both virgins when we met. I was a virgin because I was an ugly duckling with massive body issues. I lost a ton of weight the summer before my senior year, improved my wardrobe and started wearing makeup for the first time, which definitely improved my confidence socially. Sexually, I still had MASSIVE hangups. It didn't even matter that I was receiving all kinds of attention from boys who …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/18 06:03 PM
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I married my high school sweetheart at 23 years old.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 06:30 AM
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Physical touch yes, quality time can sometimes be an issue with his very demanding work schedule. But he's always willing to hear me out and make time for us when I express that I need some time to just hang out with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/18 04:05 PM
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Physical touch and quality time. Female and purple pill. If I had to guess my husband's, I think it would be physical touch and acts of service.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/18 04:19 AM
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Hi ladies! I'm currently a homemaker after going to college and working in healthcare. My husband and I are both 25 and have been together since high school. After growing up in a very liberal area and going to schools (public school system and college) ridden with leftist/feminist influences, it took me a while to reconcile that I am actually much happier living a more "traditional" life. My husband works a very demanding, traditionally-masculine job, and I take care of everything at home. We'v…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 06:19 PM
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Yes, with my husband. I was crazy for him from the moment I saw him. We knew each other for less than two weeks before we went on our first date, and then we had the "we're in a relationship and exclusive" talk on our second date. However, we didn't have sex for the first time until we had been dating for 6 months, which was a mutual decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/18 04:24 PM
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Congratulations!! Your ring is absolutely beautiful!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/18 12:39 AM
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Yeah. My husband doesn't care. It does sort of surprise me that he doesn't care though, I can completely understand men not wanting to partake in period sex. I've never done the FWB thing, but I honestly wouldn't want any part of a "FRIENDSHIP" with benefits where the guy would just outright ignore me for the 5-7 days he couldn't get a nut off. I want more out of my sexual relationships so this is probably a key reason why I've never done the casual/FWB thing in the first place. Also, the spread…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/18 12:32 AM
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I'm very lucky to have him!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 01:12 AM
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cole sprouse young leo river phoenix young eddie vedder It's the pretty boys, man. The pretty boys always get me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 01:00 AM
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Ex-friend #1 was not slick about it at all. After my husband proposed to me, she beginning messaging him on social media wanting to "reconnect" (they were only "friends" during our high school years to the extent that he was my boyfriend and sometimes hung out with me and my friend group) and straight up offered to be his "little secret" if he were able to meet up with her outside of my knowledge. My husband immediately screenshotted the messages and sent them to me like "lol sorry to break it t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 12:46 AM
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I stopped believing in girl code a long time ago, but I fully realized what a crock of shit it was when two of my friends tried to seduce my husband...I've known them since high school, and they always tried to tell me that I was stupid for dating him and that I was "out of his league", etc. They changed their tune when he moved me out of our crummy hometown and into the city, started making great money, and actually put a ring on my finger whereas they couldn't keep guys around for more than a …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 04:45 PM
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Female, mid 20s, purple pill. I wouldn't leave him. I spent a solid chunk of our relationship being the sole breadwinner. We moved out of state away from our families; his family is very wealthy, but they financially cut my husband off when he wouldn't adhere to their "plan" for us, which was to live in their house forever and give his sexually abusive/pedophilic father full access to our future children. My family had no money at all, so we really had to do everything on our own. I worked more …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 03:53 PM
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I spent a long time thinking I would never get married, but my vision of never getting married certainly did not include giving up my career and having kids out of wedlock, living in/contributing to a house that wasn't also "mine" on paper, etc. No thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 07:28 PM
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No. Sex outside of a committed relationship is a huge no for me, personally. It took six months of dating my now-husband before we had PIV sex for the first time. Purple pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 08:48 PM
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Female, 25, 1. I've been asked about it a couple of times, and while I've never lied about it, I've learned to stop volunteering that kind of information to certain types of people. My husband had also asked me about it when we first stated dating; he was a virgin and wanted his partner to be a virgin, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 07:47 PM
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I was an ugly duckling in middle school/high school but underwent a transformation one summer. Novel incoming. The difference in the treatment I received by my peers was staggering. The bullying in middle school regarding my weight was relentless and harsh. Kids that age also have a way of being searingly brutally honest even when they're not intending to be mean, and that hurt too (although today I am thankful for this, because I think it helped me develop a rather thick skin). When I wasn't be…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/18 05:01 PM
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Even though I generally get along with most people I meet, I'm not really one to place a lot of importance on maintaining many friendships. Because of this, I've never really been "one of the girls" within a female friend group, but I have developed very close friendships with individual girls/women throughout my life that have lasted for years. They are all very similar to me (introverted, not-typically-feminine interests, etc.) so these few friendships that I've actually cared to hold on to br…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/18 05:26 AM
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I feel a slight sense of annoyance and usually think to myself, "What's THIS going to be about?" when any stranger, male or female, approaches me in public. I wasn't always like this, it only started after moving to a major city and learning the hard way (many times over) that strangers will usually not approach you unless they are going to ask you for money, try to sell you something, hit on you, harass you, or rant and rave about something incoherently because they are emotionally disturbed. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/18 05:44 PM
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I wouldn't mind. I was actually very surprised that my husband didn't ask me for one. He works in law enforcement and will retire with a very nice pension, but in the event of divorce, I'd be entitled to a sizeable chunk of it. When he was on patrol (promotions have taken him off of it, thankfully) he went through hell earning that pension; being spat on, having bodily fluids thrown on him, kicked, scratched, punched, threatened with weapons, wrestling people with guns and knives to the ground, …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/18 03:57 AM
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Married woman to a man. I feel like I could talk about oral sex for ages, lol. Giving and receiving. I find it incredibly physically arousing, my husband doesn’t even have to touch me while I’m doing it for me to become all wet, hot and bothered. For me personally, it’s my favorite way to display my feminity and submission to him. Knowing how much he likes it makes me happy to do it. My husband is also very giving in this regard, and due to me having absolutely no hang-ups about communicating wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/18 04:02 PM
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Same! I'm not, in general, critical of men who value low n-count in women. My husband probably wouldn't have even started dating me if I wasn't a virgin...but he was a virgin, too. It's the hypocrisy that I often encounter on TRP about n-count that rubs me the wrong way, especially because I think it misleads men to think that there will be an abundance of young, low n-count/virginal women waiting for them once those men are done sleeping around. I've turned down many guys that I knew had slept …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/18 12:03 AM
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I don't think it is. All of the things you listed are completely reasonable and similar to how I preferred to conduct myself around my male coworkers when I was working in a corporate setting. I'm not even too worried about male higher-ups being reluctant to "mentor" females if it means being alone with them. I was able to climb the ladder in my old career without ever actually working side-by-side with upper management or receiving private mentoring from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/18 11:17 PM
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I'm 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/18 07:54 AM
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I've never had it, nor have I ever had an interest in trying it. I've just always known that it wasn't for me. My husband is my first ever sexual partner (as I am his, we started dating as teenagers) and I think he was the only guy he knew who got condomless sex nearly every day at that age (I was on the pill and neither of us had fear of STDs given our virgin status). My friends' stories of their casual sex encounters always sounded so awkward and impersonal to me, and not nearly as fun as the …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/18 07:29 AM
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Yup. I'm 25 and have never been attracted to huge muscles/body builder types. My husband is tall/slender, like a less-ripped swimmer's build. His body has always reminded me of certain Greek sculptures.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/18 04:12 AM
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1) Should it be done automatically? In theory, I really like this idea. It would be difficult to make it a "mandatory", state-run and funded practice, especially due to the amount of babies that are born outside of hospitals in home births, etc. I've wondered if something like this could work: hospitals/pediatricians hold onto blood samples taken either immediately after childbirth or during newborns' first series of check-ups. Fathers have an option to discretely request paternity testing on su…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/18 06:45 PM
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Not ALL of the women here were as you described. "Every single women" certainly did not scream insecurity. Yeah, there were some comments that discussed holding it over their husbands' heads forever, considering such a question as a deal breaker, and I don't agree with any of that, at least not in my own relationship. I'm speaking from a 10+ year relationship, where my partner has been my SOLE sexual partner, and vice versa. I don't think many here (if any at all) are in this situation and can u…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/18 06:35 PM
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Do you agree with this? Is it OK, acceptable, whatever, for men to DNA test their putative spawn like this, and lie about it/not tell the moms? I have no objection to a man getting a paternity test without the mother's knowledge, given that it's done after the child is born and he isn't stealing some kind of sample from the woman, lol. The idea that a woman needs to give a man permission, or even be aware of, a private medical decision as simple as a cheek swab or blood test for himself and his …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/18 08:50 PM
1

I don't see where rape or even sexual assault happened in this FR. I don't see why women cannot use an adult-level of agency and say "STOP" or "I don't like this!", or at least try to pull away in scenarios like this if they are truly uncomfortable. A very small percentage of terrible men would ignore those kind of protests. If she had done those things, and he continued and/or escalated violence, then we would be discussing an actual crime. I don't buy this rhetoric that men have to be mind rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/18 08:18 PM
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I agree that paternity tests can remove power/control from a small subset of despicable women who would commit paternity fraud, which is a great thing. But I disagree that this is a power/control issue for ALL women. I do not perceive agreeing to a paternity test as a loss of power in my particular circumstances; as I've stated, it would simply be out of character for my husband to start questioning paternity during my current pregnancy, and I would have some concerns.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/18 07:59 PM
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Let me be clear: If my husband were to, out of the blue, ask for a paternity test, I wouldn't think that he is wholly insecure as a person. As someone who is pregnant (and hormonal), and who has watched my husband cry after hearing his child's heartbeat for the first time, it would raise huge red flags that he would suddenly suspect possible paternity fraud, and would give me reason to want to get to the bottom of his insecurity around THIS ISSUE. Remember, OP is asking women for their feelings …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/18 07:40 PM
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It's a matter of seeing so many situations like this happen. And not to mention men don't have a gurantee the kid is theirs. Women always do because the child comes out of them. If society is truly about making both sexes having equal opportunity then I don't see why someone would be so extremely opposed to a paternity test. Something very important that I forgot to take into consideration during this discussion is that there have been cases where men were still held responsible by family courts…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/18 05:05 AM
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However what it you have more kids and he still wants to know? I suppose it would depend on whatever came up in therapy in terms of his reasoning behind wanting the first paternity test in the first place. What if he gave you a justified reason that was not in correlation with you or who you are but simply principle of what he's observed in society. So even if this came up in therapy as his sole reason for wanting the test, I would still feel uncomfortable because I personally don't see a way to…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/18 03:08 AM
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I'm currently pregnant and have been thinking about this topic a lot, only because I recently read an article posted here with a study regarding paternity fraud (wish I saved the link). My husband has not mentioned paternity testing, but I've been thinking about what my response would be on the very off chance that he would ask for one. 1) If you tell your SO you're pregnant and he asks you for a Paternity Test how would you feel? I would gladly give him the paternity test (I've only ever had se…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/18 02:39 AM
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The majority of time that my husband initiates, I'm equally as interested in having sex right off the bat. However, there have been times that he has brought it up and I haven't been in the mood for whatever reason, but I still say yes because I know that it will only take thirty or so seconds of foreplay to put me in the mood. To this day, I have never had sex that I felt was only a "favor" to him, even if I was completely uninterested in the very beginning of the interaction. I don't fake orga…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/18 11:46 PM
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I'm currently a SAHW and pregnant, but my husband and I got our golden retriever as a puppy when we were both working. I don't know if we just got lucky with his temperament, but he is incredibly mellow and can amuse himself/sleep for hours while home alone. We have nannycams in our house and can access them via an app while we're away from home, all he does is curl up in his bed and chew his bone or toys and then take a nap. We leave the TV on for him for background noise and we'll even catch h…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/18 07:57 AM
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My husband and I follow this rule, and him and I also grew up thinking that this was just the norm in relationships. Neither of us are religious. His job so far has never required him to be alone with women, nor is it a field where he will ever be required to travel or go on "business trips". My job used to make it difficult as I previously worked in healthcare, but outside of work, I have never texted/called/hung out with a non-relative male since I began dating my husband. We're both completel…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/18 07:46 AM
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Hope you don't mean you were solely taught to cook and clean up after male relatives while they didnt have to do those things. I should have been more specific, I always cleaned up after my father (who was always very appreciative and didn't expect it) and my grandfather (way more old school and expected this behavior to be compulsory, he'll still to this day just expect me to fetch him something to eat or drink). It never bothered me and I never saw it as unfair. Cleaning my grandfather's dishe…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/18 03:45 AM
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I received the "instead" kind of upbringing that you listed here. Most of what I learned growing up came from my dad, who raised me by himself for most of my life. We hiked, played soccer, swam in our local lake, rock climbed, played guitar, and played video games. He was big on teaching my younger brother and I how to defend ourselves, how to be assertive and confidently establish boundaries with other people (due to something I experienced in early childhood). This served me greatly in my adol…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/18 03:24 AM
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Women can be just as shallow as men when it comes to placing importance on looks. It's so common on both sides that I don't think we should even be calling it shallow anymore, nor should anyone be framing it as an exclusively male issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 03:55 AM
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When we were in high school and dating, my husband was the one who first approached me with the idea of marriage, stating that it was his intention to "date to marry", not to date for fun or experience, and he that he wanted to marry me after we graduated. I came from a divorced family, and he came from an ultra-traditional one where I don't think a single one of his relatives didn't get married. No divorces, either. So, as a guy, being a "forever-boyfriend" did not sound awesome to him at all, …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 01:01 AM
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^ This. I currently live in a major city where I bump shoulders with models, actresses, and other wealthy women who may not be knockouts but have the means to acquire cosmetic surgery. Fitness is also a way of life here, most women are waiflike or are in very good shape. I moved here from a small town with a lot of poverty and obesity. The fit, hot girls get the most attention, but they are far and few in between. So the overweight girls still do pretty well for themselves in terms of receiving …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/18 11:37 PM
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No one and nowhere IRL, at least not that directly.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/18 10:30 PM
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It's how he's always described his company and what he does there. I don't know the complete background, the only reason why I mentioned his career in the first place is because it is very clearly not within the service industry, and again...your specific word regarding visible tattoos was "verboten". I'm just trying to say that "verboten" is hyperbolic. Also, the Netherlands is not Norway.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/18 10:15 PM
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They were "normal" by high school social standards. They weren't in the weird, outcast crowd. They were on sports teams, in student government, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/18 09:50 PM
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It wasn't the fact alone that he, himself couldn't see that his behavior was creepy that shocked me. In the first paragraph and last paragraph of my comment, I mentioned that these creepy men sometimes get support from other people around them, even in situations like mine. The guy in my example had a group of friends (who were considered "normal" in my school, not weirdos like he ultimately turned out to be) who continually harassed me for being a prude, stuck up drama queen all because I didn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/18 09:45 PM
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You aren't going to end up plated if you don't want to be. I don't read TRP much as I find MRP is more relevant to me but it seems to me that you'd get dropped pretty quickly if you didn't want to move to a casual sex relationship. Complete sexual incompatibility based on my stance on casual encounters is why I would rather just avoid these types of men if possible, even if they had no intention of plating me but had engaged in a lot of ONS, FWB or plate situations in the past. Presumably your r…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/18 10:40 AM
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I'm married and have been with the same person since high school but if something were to happen to my marriage and I ended up in the dating pool, I would probably try to avoid certain types of RP guys for a couple of reasons. I've never had casual sex (lost virginity to my husband) and I am not interested or willing to a be a ONS, FWB or a plate. I know that there are some over there that are interested in marriage or LTRs, but they seem to be the minority. It would frustrate me to be lumped in…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/18 09:36 AM
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This is such a great comment. My dad always comes to mind when I think about this topic; he's a pretty scary and intimidating looking guy (huge muscles, tatted up, piercings) and I've even seen him take down a group of four guys that were trying to rob him at an ATM (while my 12 year old self frantically called the cops from the car). He's just not the kind of guy that you cross and I've known from a very young age to not even take an unkind tone to him. This same man cried at every homemade bir…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/18 09:05 AM
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Even though I personally do not give a shit about tattoos (they don't make a guy more/less attractive in my eyes, unless it was a terrible tattoo lol), I have always associated tattoos with "edgier" men and made assumptions about them in that regard. I can see how tattoos would be found attractive among women who are attracted to "edgier" types of guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/18 07:45 AM
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It's not really an activist-type environmental company from how he describes it, it's an environmental engineering company that deals with a lot of manufacturing (photolithography systems), and employee safety around nuclear and biohazard waste. They weren't doctors in individual private-practice settings. They were hired by a large urgent care facility corporation that owned and operated about a hundred facilities, not unlike a major hospital system. They did have other "uniform" policies to ad…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/18 07:26 AM
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These were actually three different men! None of them were foreigners, but I believe number 1 was a first-generation American from an Irish family. All three are major creeps in my book.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/18 06:58 AM
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I don't doubt that this is the case for some companies, but it seems to be a less of a wide-sweeping "general rule", especially in some areas in the US. My dad has a high level position in an environmental company based out of the Netherlands and they're super lenient about tattoos. He has them on his wrists, which he never hides, and also has gauged ears (although small). Never stopped him from being promoted or being trusted to work with international clients. I previously worked in healthcare…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/18 06:51 AM
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I don't think that the word "creep" should be limited to situations where it seems a man is capable of committing physical harm. There have only been a couple of times that I have called men creepy (to their faces or to other people), none of whom made me feel as though they would hurt me, but displayed creepy behavior nonetheless: He incessantly called my house and refused to take no for an answer when I didn't want to go on a date with him. He also had a foot fetish, which I wouldn't have had …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/18 06:25 AM
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There are certainly situations where women use "creep" where it isn't warranted, but I also find myself shocked by how some men who engage in creepy behavior (and those who support/agree with those men) refuse to admit that creepy behavior actually happened. Here's a situation I had: A guy in high school who was older than me was calling my house obsessively (over five times a day) because I wouldn't go out on a date with him. I have an unusual last name so he easily found my home number in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/18 02:50 AM
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