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| 46 | Does the FDS attitude apply to male friends as well? How might it differ? | wildprincessxxx | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 02:52 PM | |
| 18 | What to think about a man whose close male friends have bad reputations? | wildprincessxxx | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 07:29 PM | |
| 4 | FDS, how do I subtly change the behaviour of the person I'm seeing re: slipping in comments about sex? | wildprincessxxx | /r/askFDS | 25/02/21 06:23 PM |
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| 12 | What would be an example of HVM potrayal in media?Maybe Richard from The Bold Type? I can't remember really clearly but in general I recall being impressed. Though he is a director in the company his gf is a low-level employee (just above intern) at, he treats her with respect, supports her career despite how different her goals are from his, makes time for her when he can, helps her friends too, and is generous. Though in the later seasons he gets written badly. Commenting to see if anyone has purer examples. | /r/askFDS | 04/09/21 01:27 PM |
| 9 | JealousyI've definitely felt this way before but instead of going to jealousy, I like to look at people's successful relationships and try to understand how they find that, because that's what I want as well. Just because your friend has many "options" doesn't make any of them valuable, and if you don't have a line of suitors at the moment, that doesn't make you undesirable. I think it's worth observing successful relationships to learn what makes two people work so well together, and set that as the st… | /r/askFDS | 30/08/21 02:03 PM |
| 9 | To those completely new to FDS. You cannot "communicate" your way out of this patriarchal system. Level up and never settle.I thought it was "generous" to give chances and hope that people can do better. But this comment could not have put it any better. Thank you for opening my eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 01:53 PM |
| 7 | How to manage expectationsHey there, I definitely relate to this. My attachment style is secure, but even then, I'm quite the overthinker and possibly as someone who is looking for security, I tend to envision things settling down quicker than people are actually willing to. I don't think, however, that it is really a solution to have a rotation of men - sure, it helps your self-esteem in the short run, but that doesn't improve your prospects of finding someone right for you. As per FDS, dating apps are not recommended e… | /r/askFDS | 12/05/21 12:54 PM |
| 1 | FDS, how do I subtly change the behaviour of the person I'm seeing re: slipping in comments about sex?All great points. I'm still trying to find my way around since discovering FDS recently. A lot of strategies on here resonate with me but it's sometimes not so simple to reconcile those with my personality/interactions with others (eg. 3). But I'm definitely treading slowly and making him prove he's HV, otherwise am happy enough to move on with no loss! | /r/askFDS | 26/02/21 04:04 AM |
| 2 | FDS, how do I subtly change the behaviour of the person I'm seeing re: slipping in comments about sex?Totally understand this and will bear your advice in mind to open the conversation instead of coming out with my opinions too soon, at risk of giving him the opportunity to lie. Thank you. | /r/askFDS | 26/02/21 04:02 AM |
| 0 | FDS, how do I subtly change the behaviour of the person I'm seeing re: slipping in comments about sex?Felt like I had to clarify that kinks came up in conversation, not just out of the blue, so I didn't feel like it came out of left field. But you're right and I'll keep in mind to flip the script and seek their truth, not just a mirror of what I said. | /r/askFDS | 26/02/21 04:01 AM |
| 14 | Potential Red Flag QuestionsThis! When I first started OLD (have long given up on finding anybody worth my time on there) I kept getting slightly older men asking me for my body count, kinks, sex life with my ex etc. One (mixed-race, half Asian half white) even had the audacity to suggest that my ex (full Asian) probably had a small dick because of his ethnicity. There is soooo much toxicity and looking back, being interrogated about and judged for my sexual history made me feel inexperienced and vulnerable. But the real p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 02:43 PM |
| 3 | Ho to get over direct/indirect rejection?Understood, thanks for the clarification! | /r/askFDS | 20/02/21 03:21 AM |
| 10 | What to think about a man whose close male friends have bad reputations?Definitely food for thought and well said. It's hard when there are few opportunities to really get to know the guy's history and relationships with old friends though :( | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 07:55 PM |
| 6 | Ho to get over direct/indirect rejection?Caveat: I'm new here, just trying to learn as well! :) I've come out of a long relationship with an LVM and wanted to jump into dating, my self-esteem was on the floor but I wanted to seriously date someone... I don't know how to respond to being denied in a healthy way because my recent disappointments started to affect my self-esteem at this point. What I've learned from FDS is that you also need to be a HVF to attract a HVM and for him to see you as commitment or relationship material. And th… | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 06:52 PM |
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