willowmurmur Archive

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3	BF (26M) that I (26F) have been dating for 7 years says he should have more say in the relationship than I do. How would you react? I am sorry but my comment was based on her initial post only, I certainly haven't read any of her later comments so no idea about her upbringing, the flight/hotel thing and all that. Either way, they both sound immature in different ways, she is acting like a teenager in a relationship where it's all about fun, and it seems he can only speak about these problems when he's either drunk or things have accumulated and reached a point where he cant stand it all. They're in their 20s yes, but they're…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/07/24 04:59 PM
8	BF (26M) that I (26F) have been dating for 7 years says he should have more say in the relationship than I do. How would you react? Dear, I've been following the RP theory for years, but many people use it to excuse shitty behavior. In order to follow a man who leads, he first needs to create an environment in which the woman feels safe. A man who is happy providing and leading, wont start rubbing that in her woman's face whenever there is a heated argument, let alone when he is drunk, she will start losing respect for him and it will build even more resentment. Cant imagine a more horrifying thought than getting married to …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/07/24 07:13 PM
2	BF (26M) that I (26F) have been dating for 7 years says he should have more say in the relationship than I do. How would you react? To me this dynamic sounds unhealthy. I don't know if what he said was because he was drunk or what but I personally would consider it a red flag if a man tells me he brings more to the table because he takes care of things financially, he rubbing that in your face and resenting you because he doesn't charge you for rent? that sounds really really bad. I once dated a man who would do that, whenever we had a heated argument he would rub in my face he spent more money on this or that, but I was jus…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/07/24 05:48 PM
8	Provider mindset This. There is nothing worse than having to explain men what being a provider means, it just never works. If it doesn't come out from him naturally then it's most likely nothing you tell him is gonna make him do it. A provider provides for the woman he considers worthy from the very beginning. Also what you mention about his father, I am of the idea that it really helps to see the dynamic between his parents. My father-in-law really set the example for my husband. I dated men who didn't have a f…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/07/24 09:42 PM
1	I ‘40F’ think I have chosen money over dignity after 24 years of verbal disrespect. In my opinion the most serious part about this is how you say your kids are very well aware of how he treats you and insults you all the time, this is a terrible example for children to the point it may affect the way they see relationships in the future, and may even influence their choices when they start dating. I know it is against the sub to suggest leaving and my comment may get deleted, but you should seriously consider starting planning your escape route, he doesn't want you to work and …	/r/RedPillWomen	11/06/24 08:14 PM
1	Do men intentionally look for a wife like women look for a husband? Is this rare? What age are these kind of men? Agreed with all you said, except the part that men who want marriage are not on dating apps. This may be true for apps that tend to be more hookups oriented, e.g. Tinder, but not the case for many others. I speak from experience, I mainly focused on OLD when I was actively dating, and I met PLENTY of men who were looking for a serious relationship/marriage, the issue here is that they usually tend to go unnoticed because women's hypergamy is like super boosted on dating apps. I met my husband on…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/05/24 02:08 AM
14	Well.. this is easier said than done! Whew. Something I have realized is that on average, men and women have different expectations about what is considered clean/organized, for women it often comes to having the house as tidy as an Instagrammable house, for men it's more about practicality. Not saying it is the case here and maybe he does need to put more work on it, but it's always good to have a bit of self-reflection on the matter: am I exaggerating? For instance, I know my husband will often leave things around the house, not put the…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/05/24 05:02 PM
1	I found my bf on Reddit making girl friends for talking games From my experience, this is a huge red flag. I was in a long distance relationship for almost 5 years with a man who would do the exact same, he would tell me he just wanted to make friends online, either male or female, but would always end up chatting more with the women in their 20s who were clearly good potential partners for him. The intentions were evident but he would always deny everything. In the end we broke up due to how immature he was and could never close the distance. The last thi…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/05/24 11:51 PM
6	boyfriend keeps giving me mixed signals and criticizing people for wanting to settle down at an "early" age, we're still new, am I overthinking ? to not being bothered if he never marries Sorry but this could indeed be telling you something. I personally think 4 months isn't early at all to talk about it, In fact I believe more people should be talking about serious subjects early on. I mean, if marriage is very important to you I would suggest mentioning it as soon as possible. My husband and I talked about it on our very first date, he was 29 and I was 24. When people are looking for marriage and a family, I strongly hold the opinion th…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/05/24 03:15 PM