wintermittens32 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
74	Men are farrrrr more sensitive than women Lundy also says something like they don’t want us to be able to express or get to know our anger because they know it’s women figuring out our abuse and starting to take back our power. Something like that.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 07:18 PM
35	If he wanted to, he would I think that’s the thing -it’s about the attitude of generosity. Tbh I think a lot of people get caught up with the splitting the bill issue when imo it’s just about, does this guy have that generous attitude or is everything transactional. Because some guys will pay but it’s still transactional-it’s how they act about it and treat you when do they do, e.g. paying and expecting use of your body. A generous attitude in the beginning is a big clue for whether he’s generous with his time and energy…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/21 03:15 PM
18	Block early. Block often. Save yourself from brain damage, ladies. Therapy to manage learned stress responses, including EMDR and exposure therapy (prolonged imaginal or in vivo exposure therapy). Mindfulness - MBCT or MBSR are great if you can, they are scientifically validated. Physical exercise including walking helps normalize the stress response and stimulates neuroplasticity and regeneration in the hippocampus. Healthy social connections and learning new things are also helpful. This damage is not necessarily permanent, but one does need to leave the abus…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/04/21 06:46 PM
21	Something my coworker said that git me thinking ( upset) Ugh this makes me so upset. Her dad is like my dad. Never mind that a huge reason for developing my eating disorder was internalizing my father’s constant commentary on how women should be, views on women, and having him comment on my body and what I was eating for as long as I can remember. Once I went on my first diet it was over, I was in the grip of the emotional numbness and sense of control that gave me peace for the first time in my life. Part of it I think was also the mistaken belief th…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/04/21 03:05 PM
2	What are some physical/“sex-life” related red flags you’ve developed after encountering FDS? Thanks for the recommendation! It’s on my list! Nanette was amazing. I guess I know what I’m watching this weekend :) Also lol to Karen’s handful	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/04/21 09:15 PM
62	What are some physical/“sex-life” related red flags you’ve developed after encountering FDS? I don’t know... I also really hate the word vagina considering that it comes from the Latin word for sheath or scabbard...essential just a place for a mans sword. Especially during sex I refuse to use a word that defines my genitals in relation to a violent male weapon. I don’t care how long it’s been called a vagina, the history matters and it sucks. I hate that men named all the things, even things that are ours. Just a history of possession. Also personally I’m not sure mentioning genitals is…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/04/21 01:45 AM
99	Have you ladies seen this? This gorgeous, married woman has been fighting her EX in court because he wants their embryos from the time they were in love, to be born. I still think about that post and how he still wouldn’t leave her tf alone, coming back to continue to harass her and get her to pay him more money because she got a better job. I assume he was just trying to get back at her for living her life and trying to be happy. Like, how dare she be happy without me?? I hope she finds some peace somehow.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/04/21 02:43 AM
31	Would love to flip this around and ask sons of fathers who visited prostitutes, how do you feel about what your father did? Omg thank you! In addition to a ton of other BS NV behaviors, my dad threatened to leave and “separated” three times from my mom while I was in HS only to show up for lunch or whenever he wanted to talk (at us). It was so stressful but we had to pretend to be so fucking happy he was around. Your comment has helped me figure out what a lot of my rage was about.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/04/21 01:05 AM
17	Uh-oh, the scrotes found our podcast Patreon and are BIG MAD. "How DARE those evil bitches monetize their own podcast!!!" Misogynists don't see any value in anything a woman does, so when women receive money in any way shape or form, they freak out and call it "scamming" "grifting" "a cult" etc. Not to mention since joining FDS I am less lonely than I have ever been because I am putting less effort into LV male relationships (they are everywhere) and more into the relationships that provide emotional intimacy and genuine support. My relationships with my HV husband, my sister, and my friends are all thriving and deepening and I feel so much less lonely!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/03/21 10:33 PM
12	Almost half a million likes - this ain’t cute 🤢 They’ve just envious and won’t admit that they value being with a man over being free and happy.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/02/21 09:13 PM
25	I just felt like this belonged here To add onto this...they feel entitled to those expectations from women and these are ridiculous, dehumanizing, and demoralizing expectations. So they are angry when you break character from pretending to be the imaginary fantasy cool girl they want to serving them their every whim and act like a human being with feelings.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/02/21 02:36 AM
10	Mom praising son-in-law for the bare minimum 👏🏻 I am the same! I am currently in the process of changing both my name to my husband’s and changing the middle name (my maiden name) that I gave both my kids. I realized I only kept my maiden name and then gave it to my kids (wtf!!) to please my dad who is a total LV emotionally and verbally abusive narcissist asshole and doesn’t deserve the honor. I really regret going as far as giving my kids his name and seeing that name on them makes me so fucking sad, like I’m letting my dad own them too. So…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/02/21 03:33 PM
6	Why cOmMuNiCaTe simply doesn't work. Extras is from "Men who hate women and the women who love them" by Susan Forward and Joan Torres Right? My husband is HV and I’m on FDS healing from all the BS I learned from shitty previous relationships and figuring out how to not carry my old unhealthy pickmeisha behaviors into my current healthy relationship because they will only weaken it. Like I can tell my husband things and he listens and asks questions and asks what I want that would be helpful. Hiding what I want from him would weaken our relationship because he wants to know what I want so we can be a better partnership and both…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/02/21 04:26 PM
11	Why cOmMuNiCaTe simply doesn't work. Extras is from "Men who hate women and the women who love them" by Susan Forward and Joan Torres I think guys are often ignorant of the fact that being a good communicator means being a good listener. If the receiver on a phone is not working, you call call out but not hear what people are saying back to you, would you call that a good communication device? I think mostly the guy doesn’t want to hear or acknowledge what you’re saying (or acknowledge you as a person) but also wants to shift the blame and make you feel like it’s your fault for not getting the message across. Which is total BS…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/02/21 04:09 PM