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I saw a Tweet, "60% of male managers now say they're uncomfortable mentoring women." I believe this. My husband works a higher up position in the Department of Defense and absolutely dreads working with women for this very reason. The things he has heard women in the workplace saying when they think no one is listening are truly heinous. I’ve never met a man more cautious of the things he says and how he says them, and personally, I don’t blame him one bit. It takes one bad word from one woman t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 10:43 PM
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I don’t understand how women take being wives and mothers so seriously. I can only speak for myself when I say this, but a big part of how I can take my role as a wife and mother so seriously is due to my faith. As a Catholic, I believe marriage is a vocation and something God specifically gave to me. Motherhood of course stems from that. There is no higher calling for me, and I would be a fool to not take it as seriously as one would take any other career. Shaping the minds, hearts and souls of…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/21 08:22 PM
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Two of my closest friends did this after I got engaged. I tried talking to both of them about it, and they both acknowledged they were acting weird because they felt I couldn’t relate to them anymore and said they would work on it. It continued though, and after about four months of it, I ended the friendships. Friendships, like any relationship, must serve both people. If they are only reaching out to vent and are no longer truly there for you then it might be time to consider why they are stil…
/r/RedPillWives09/08/21 01:18 PM
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Meet new friends - Sure, as much as I can given that we live in a small town. I meet others mostly through church, Bible studies and homeschool groups (I homeschool my oldest). Male friends - I don’t have any nor do I intentionally try to meet/make them. The male acquaintances I have are the husbands of my friends and my husband’s coworkers. This is a marital boundary that I have in my marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 09:30 AM
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Women, what about you? How do you feel about men wanting a working woman? What about wanting a highly ambitious woman? Balancing any type of “badass” career and raising children is next to impossible, at least from what I have seen and experienced. My mom was (and still is) a criminal defense lawyer, so I grew up with the “boss babe” environment practically from day one. My brother and I were dropped off at daycare every morning before school at 6:30AM so she could go to work (after having froze…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:47 AM
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the whole “hot for teacher” phase seems to be much more common among boys Where’s the proof for the statement? Personally, I’ve been it worse among girls, and they are shameless about it. I completely agree with the OP. You can find so many news articles now about “sexual relations” between a female teacher and male student or even a female many and younger male. It’s very rarely called what it truly is though: rape and sexual assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 12:54 AM
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No, it’s not inevitable, but it depends on what forms the foundation of your relationship. If it’s purely based on lust and physical attraction, but maybe she gains weight or stops caring about her appearance, then I would argue that the relationship probably wouldn’t last long. If your relationship is based on commitment, similar values, etc WITH the understanding that both people strive to maintain their physical health and appearance, then there are normal ups and downs. Pregnancy can be a ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 06:23 PM
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That’s your viewpoint, fair enough. Have a nice day!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 11:33 PM
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I’m not sure what nonsense you are referring to. My husband and I vetted each other well and knew, based on our values and faith, that a traditional marriage was both what we wanted and what would work. Sure, we both have flaws, we both at times get frustrated with each other, and we both at times make mistakes, but I truly don’t know what nonsense you are talking about. Maybe because I chose my husband well? Lastly, what is the difference between teaching this lifestyle to my children versus th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 07:43 PM
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By definition, a traditional marriage can’t truly be egalitarian if the husband is the sole breadwinner for his family. My husband is the provider for our family while I am a homemaker and homeschool our children, and I know I am completely dependent on him for all things from basic needs to anything extra. I don’t think it’s a bad thing at all, nor do I think it’s a bad thing that I manage the home and do majority of childrearing. I think our culture is hyper focused on what’s considered equal …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:27 PM
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I’m not sure where you are getting those numbers from as there are plenty of online sources showing differently. In either case, I’ve been reading your responses to comments and have no desire to get into it with someone who speaks the way you do. Have a nice day!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:00 PM
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That’s great! No one is saying you can’t meet a spouse when you are older, but all some of us are saying is that the OPs narrative that waiting to get married until your 30s, especially if you are a woman, isn’t always the best choice and isn’t the choice a lot of women make.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 08:37 AM
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learn what you want in your 20s and marry in your 30s. This usually comes with a lot of mental and emotional baggage from having various partners (sexually) and failed relationships, especially for women. This also doesn’t take into account having children, especially if you want a large family. While a woman can still get pregnant into her 30s, it becomes increasingly difficult and it’s not without risk to her and her children. I married in my mid 20s (my husband was in his mid 30s), and I have…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 07:28 PM
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I’m going to answer this as a married woman and say that what I offer my husband has actually changed over time as I get to know his unique wants and needs. In general, I will say I offer him love, loyalty and commitment, emotional support. I’m naturally more submissive (and he more dominant), so a submissive heart and attitude that gives him the space to lead while also offering my input when it’s asked, especially with regards to financial decisions. I offer to be his soft place to land when h…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 04:49 PM
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Absolutely the direct approach. I also agree that it exudes confidence and masculinity, and it was a trait I found and still find incredibly attractive in my husband. We didn’t date for very long (by the world’s standards) before he proposed because he was very forthcoming with his intentions and feelings right from the beginning, and it helped me to feel more secure in our relationship when I knew right away where he wanted this to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 04:19 PM
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I second all the resources and advice mentioned by 1987 above. He’s likely as cold as you say he is because of how he’s been treated, so changing your behavior is going to be your biggest help. I can’t recommend the Codependent No More book by Melody Beattie enough. I’m reading it now and honestly didn’t know that some of the behaviors I was/am showing stem from codependency, and it has already helped my marriage so much.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/21 07:34 PM
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I got pregnant this time around (27 weeks along) when my son was 10 months old, and I was practicing intermittent fasting at the time. I was steadily losing weight and felt amazing! My other tip would be to get your husband on board with your nutritional/fitness goals while you are pregnant. With my last pregnancy, every time I said “Oh that looks good!” my husband would go get it for me lol. We had to have a heart to heart this time, and I said I didn’t want to gain more than the recommended 25…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 06:00 PM
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We met on a Catholic forum online of all places! We had been discussing Church doctrine but ended up just talking more and more. We met in person three months later and did long distance for 18 months (him in the US and me in Canada) before we got married :) I like the advice above about how to meet someone. Things like Meet-up where you meet other people with similar hobbies and interests could be something too. Good luck, and don’t give up hope!
/r/RedPillWives29/07/21 09:00 PM
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Personally, I think you might be surprised by how much your tone and attitude will change once you find the right man if you are truly trying to follow the RPW principles. When you meet a man who exudes healthy masculinity by providing for, protecting and guiding you, it will (if you are actually applying the principles) naturally bring out your feminine side that delights in caring for him even if it means tidying his space, doing his laundry, etc. I married my husband when he was 34 years old,…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 05:26 AM
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It is. I’m finding I have to read through it somewhat slowly though and journal as I read since so many things are resonating with me.
/r/RedPillWives26/07/21 03:23 PM
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I forgot about Wandavision! My husband wanted to see that. Thanks for the reminder :)
/r/RedPillWives26/07/21 03:22 PM
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I will look all of those up. I’ve heard really great things about those sermons! Thank you for sharing ☺️
/r/RedPillWives26/07/21 03:21 PM
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I’m currently reading The Secret Keeper by Kate Morton (fiction) and Codependent No More by Melody Beattie (nonfiction). I’m really enjoying both of them! I’m listening to a series of homilies by Father Ripperger on YouTuber about marriage and family as well as slowly going through The Modern Lady’s podcast playlist. My husband and I are watching the new Superman and Lois show and loving it. I’m excited to get more ideas on here of what we could watch as we find it hard to find quality shows we …
/r/RedPillWives26/07/21 01:31 PM
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Do you mind if I ask what you books you read that inspired all the change? I’m on a reading kick right now and looking for ideas :)
/r/RedPillWives26/07/21 01:27 PM
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Yes! My husband and I are Catholic and open to life :) We are both hoping for two or three more.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 04:08 AM
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I don’t have that many lol, just two and one on the way. Everyone fits in somewhere. I hope you find where that is for you.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 03:28 AM
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I find your posts interesting :) You sound very lost and like you are trying to find out where you fit in.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 03:11 AM
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I dislike the assumption that SAHMs give away their freedom to be at home with their kids. I think you would be shocked to find how intelligent, happy and freed a lot of SAHMs feel. For my husband and I, we believe no one could do a better job raising our kids than me as their mom. I intuitively know their needs and can teach/guide them in ways that we don’t trust others to do. I don’t think for one second I would be a better mom if I was working, and I know I wouldn’t be giving my husband and m…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 02:52 AM
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My suggestion is to date with intent, meaning after the first few dates you can usually get a feel for if a man has the same values and life goals as you, and only date with the end goal of marriage. Personally, I would worry a bit less about the age gap as there are plenty of men who are mature in their mid to late 20s and plenty of immature men in their 30s and 40s. Focus on their values and intentions instead. My husband and I were dating long distance (Canada and the US) for 18 months when h…
/r/RedPillWives26/07/21 02:35 AM
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Cliché suggestion, but if you are religious have you tried your local church or parish? You will likely find more wholesome and “normal” women there. Social media and feminism has completely ruined women otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 05:08 PM
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It’s interesting you mentioned YouTube because I would have thought more women watch it now given the “mommy vlogger” culture that has sort of invaded that platform. These women make huge amounts of money by vlogging their kids and lifestyle, and you can tell that for the larger named ones it’s very much about flaunting their large homes, family vacations, etc and quite literally profit off of their kids being put all over the internet. Their husbands quit their jobs and work with them on their …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:46 PM
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Agreed, but I can only imagine how hard this is to actually do. My husband and I both worry about this and the quality of women our sons will be dating when the time comes. These types of women can’t be pleased and are only looking for what they can gain from the relationship. The FDS sub is a prime example; women posting about the fact they are able to stay home with their children but that it comes as the cost of marrying a “shitty, worthless man.” There are still quality, non-feminist women o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:06 PM
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I agree, and I think this is just the natural consequence of women pushing to be able to work and have the same types of jobs men have traditionally held. I will say that I think social media plays a huge role in this as well. Women, more so than men, constantly compare their lives with those they see on Instagram or Facebook. The luxury trips, large houses, expensive wardrobes, etc. Most women are no longer content with the simple life and simple material goods that comes along with being a ful…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 11:46 AM
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Of course they know and get self conscious about it, and it gets even worse once a woman has had children. Having babies is not excuse to get fat and lazy, but unfortunately many women use it as such and then harp on their husbands for spending too much time at the gym or say their husbands are verbally abusing them by suggesting and encouraging them to eat healthy and make time for exercise. When women get self conscious about this it comes by way of trying to control their husbands and becomin…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 03:59 PM
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Usually one big vacation a year and a few smaller ones throughout. We did a two week trip to California at the beginning of June and have a fall camping trip planned early October.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 10:38 PM
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I don’t really get “days off” lol, but I never really feel the need to have one either. If I have a couple hours one afternoon to myself I will usually see friends, read at a coffee shop, or go thrifting :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 02:27 AM
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We didn’t live together until after we got married. I came to the USA on a K1 (Fiancée) Visa so we had to get married within 90 days of me crossing the border. I stayed with a friend of his from church when I came over and we got married 3 weeks after I crossed. We saw each other at least every three months, although he came to see me more than I came to see him. There weren’t really any special challenges for our relationship. He works for the Department of Defense and has to travel often both …
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 11:02 PM
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My husband and I did long distance (me in Canada and him in the USA) for 2.5 years before we got married due to all the immigration paperwork and stuff (we were engaged after 18 months of dating). Personally, I think you are playing with fire by staying with him in the same house or room if you are hoping to not be intimate with him. My husband and I are both Catholic so this was extremely important to us, and we would each stay somewhere else when we would visit each other just so the temptatio…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 08:51 PM
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I hope you find what you are looking for here ☺️ I think it’s Mrs. Midwest (check out her YouTube channel if you don’t know who that is) who says that women have different flavors of femininity. While the major pillars of traditional women and femininity are the same, we all practice it a little differently. I think it’s best for women to be home with their children if it’s possible. It provides security and stability for them among other things. I have two already (10 year old son and a 16 mont…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 04:14 PM
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I really like what ManguZa had to say about evaluating what makes you so deserving and what you bring to the table. There are always ways we can improve ourselves. Secondly, a man doesn’t necessarily NEED you, and I think keeping that in mind can help you be humble in the areas you yourself fall short. My husband is extremely educated and was successful (two masters degrees and works for the Department of Defense) well before we met. He’s established with good moral values and is the type of man…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 01:55 PM
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I think this is why so many men feel lost and purposeless sadly, and I’m even going to go so far as to say it’s a contributing factor to the high rates of suicide among men. Society has completely stripped them of what God has designed them to do. I’m not sure if you are asking because you aren’t married, but there are still many traditional women out there who value the leadership, protection and provision of a man. My husband and I are traditional Catholics, and traditional gender roles are hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 11:07 AM
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I dislike the overgeneralization that it’s modern fathers (there are many good ones), but I mostly agree. I do however think it’s a combination of things causing so many women to be promiscuous and absent fathers are just the tip of it. The sexual revolution has completely normalized promiscuity and all that comes with it (birth control, abortion, premarital sex, etc). My question is more when are women going to start taking personal accountability for this instead of blaming “daddy issues?”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 11:13 PM
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This is probably a very cliche answer, but if you are religious, I would suggest trying to meet someone at church (young adults group, etc). Meeting someone online isn’t necessarily a bad idea, but it depends on where you meet them I suppose. I met my husband on a Catholic forum of all places! We were discussing Catholic teachings, and it grew from there...18 months later, he proposed ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 09:38 PM
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I’m not going to keep arguing with you over things I’m clearly not saying. I’m not at all saying that it’s only one way and only his needs and desires matter. Hence why I said that a good man even knows his sexual needs are not more important. My husband is a great example of this; I’m 25 weeks pregnant and there are times I am exhausted and he doesn’t push me to do anything. We cuddle and talk instead, and he adjusts himself to my needs. Honestly, I hear about more men sacrificing in this area …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 06:20 PM
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I don’t know which traditional, conservative men you are referring to when you claim that. I know many, especially considering I am a traditional Catholic, and not one of them portray femininity or submissiveness as enslavement. Over generalizations like that are very problematic. Secondly, I don’t remember saying that my husband’s sexual needs or ambitions are more important than my own (and I don’t recall any comments in this thread saying that actually). I’m going to even argue that majority …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 05:50 PM
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Yes, I was a social worker. I stopped working within a month of getting married as my husband and I both wanted me to be home instead. Absolutely. I think children grow up feeling more secure when they know they have someone consistently at home. I homeschool my oldest son (9), and I have a 16 month old son (and 25 weeks pregnant with number three) so they are never not home with me ☺️ My husband loves that I am home. He takes a lot of pride in how well he provides solely for our family, and I f…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/21 05:05 AM
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This is a great post, and it’s something I hope to teach my daughters about in the future. My husband and I each operate in traditional gender roles and have for our entire dating relationship and marriage thus far, and it brings me so much joy to be his soft place to land and that feminine presence in his life. He frequently comments on the joy it brings him to have a peaceful, content and joyful wife at home, as well as one who works hard to maintain her appearance for him. I will say that his…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 04:19 AM
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Without knowing the ins and outs of how it would work, I think it would be nice for families to have an option to vote that way. I’m not saying that’s practical as it sounds like an all-or-nothing kind of voting system, but for families who feel it would work for them, I think it could be available.
/r/RedPillWives15/07/21 01:12 PM
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I don’t honestly see that changing given the moral implications from the Church for voting a certain way (ie. voting for a pro-abortion candidate), but there have been decisions he’s made that I didn’t like or want and still supported anyways. Also, the article was suggesting the head of the household has the final say; assuming you are married to a good man (like I am) who cares about your thoughts, opinions, and views (like mine does), you would still share those with him before he’s made his …
/r/RedPillWives15/07/21 01:11 PM
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Personally for my household and marriage, I would absolutely be in favor of this. My husband and I have the same values and beliefs, especially as traditional Catholics, so I would trust him completely with having the final say of the vote in our home.
/r/RedPillWives15/07/21 10:51 AM
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I’ve been really wanting to dive into this book with a group of women. Thank you so much for starting this series off again! 🥰
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 12:14 PM
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Definitely!
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 08:48 PM
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I know some will say being a SAHW or SAHM is not realistic in our current times, but it is doable if you and your (future) husband have the right priorities. My husband and I didn’t live together before getting married, and I had a career and was college-educated, but I stopped working when we got married so we never were accustomed to the lifestyle that having two incomes can bring. We both drive modest vehicles, live in a modest but safe and family-friendly community, and I homeschool our olde…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 11:52 PM
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• Real Simple • Taste of Home • Good Housekeeping (my fave!)
/r/RedPillWives18/06/20 06:39 PM
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Being a full-time homemaker and SAHM is still a career, and there are plenty of successful, driven men who would like to be marry women who are focused on being at home raising children. I worked full-time as a social worker prior to getting married then became a housewife and SAHM all within the same year. I couldn’t imagine juggling a career outside the home and still being able to give my husband and baby the best version of me as well as maintaining a home. My husband and I are both Catholic…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 01:48 AM
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FlyLady is fantastic, and there’s even an app for it :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/20 07:49 PM
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I also tried to live up to this ideal in high school. Girls who displayed any ounce of femininity were ridiculed mercilessly by the other girls and would frequently call them snotty or stuck up. I’m SO glad I outgrew that phase and now embrace being feminine :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/20 12:44 AM
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What about preparing some freezer meals (lasagna, pot pies, etc) that he can just pop in the oven after work while he showers? I’m married now, but my husband loved when I did this for him so he didn’t need to think about cooking :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/20 09:53 PM
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This month I’m thankful for the shopping spree my husband took me on to get some nursing-friendly dresses and skirts. I’m thankful that our son is finally sleeping through the night so I’m able to get some much needed rest!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/20 09:45 PM
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I would maybe add shoulder width (broad shoulders) as an important physical trait. I can’t remember where exactly, but I read once that there’s a certain shoulder to hip (I think that’s what it was) ratio that women tend to be naturally drawn to. My husband has broad shoulders, and I find it extremely attractive. I think to me it represents some sort of sense of physical strength that he has. Height and facial hair are also important, but a beard and the skin underneath it need to be properly cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/20 02:55 PM
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I’m considering it part time when we are done having children and they are all in school full-time (if we don’t homeschool).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/20 05:48 AM
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I was a social worker.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/20 05:35 AM
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Sure! I definitely feel satisfied in those areas. Intellectually speaking I actually feel more satisfied and stimulated now than I did when I was working because I have the time to explore topics that interest me and learn a variety of things. In the emotional and personal sense, I’m happy to be at home and grateful that I can explore hobbies and interests I’m passionate about. I think the one area I still struggle with is social, but I’m new to the area I live in and haven’t met a lot of other …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/20 05:31 AM
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Thanks! My situation is a bit unique, but I stopped working about a month before I got married actually. I moved to the US shortly before our wedding, and I got pregnant during the same month we got married. I was home full-time my entire pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/20 05:24 AM
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He cooks dinner once a week and will make us lunch once or twice a week if he is working from home. I handle all the other cooking. For dishes he unloads the dishwasher in the morning, and I load it and wash any remaining dishes at the end of the day. As for laundry, the only time he has done laundry was during the week immediately after our son’s birth so I didn’t need to lift the basket. I take care of all the laundry and ironing. He takes out the trash every night, handles all the yard work (…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/20 03:48 AM
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Does RP come naturally to you? Yes and no. I felt different from the women in my family who were all very career-driven (grandma was a nurse, mom is a lawyer) from a fairly young age and always wanted to be a wife and mother. I never subscribed to some of the things my mother tried to teach me, like women can do anything men can do and better. I knew I was different, but I couldn’t quite put my finger on what it was until years later. Did you grow up with a RP mindset, or have you had to cultiva…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/20 08:50 PM
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How (or whether) do you expect him to take responsibility for relationships? Within the context of our marriage, he takes full responsibility for it (and our family as a whole), but I believe this is more due to our religious beliefs (Catholic) rather than RP. He does expect me to take responsibility for my behaviors in our marriage though. If you're comfortable with discussing it, what about sexual roles? My husband is much more dominant in the bedroom than I am (which I love). There are times …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/20 11:57 AM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/20 10:43 AM
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I agree wholehearted with this! I worked full-time up until my wedding then became a stay at home wife and less than a year later, a stay at home mom. I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Remembering how exhausted I was at the end of each work day, I really believe I would have only been giving my husband and children whatever leftover energy I had at the end of the day (which was basically none) rather than being able to give them my very best each day like I am able to do now. Personally, I don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 04:50 PM
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I’m not sure if I’m considered an older woman (29), but I’ve been “red-pilled” for almost four years, even prior to meeting my husband (also red-pilled), and I’m a mama :) I can try to answer any questions or offer advice!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/20 04:10 PM
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I was only in one other relationship prior to dating my now husband, but due to the age I was when that relationship ended (early 20s) and all the “firsts” I’ve been able to experience with my husband, I find my marriage much more exciting and enjoyable than the relationships my female friends are in (at least from the discussions we have had). When I was dating I dated with the intent of getting married so casually dating and getting emotionally attached to multiple men was never something I ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 01:15 AM
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It sounds like you may have an addiction issue with pornography. Feeling empty and even ashamed are key emotions when dealing with addiction. There is a lot of info online about it with some great tools like Fight The New Drug (and it’s app called Fortify) that you could look into. Porn can really effect your ability to be intimate and bond with any partner you have so it’s definitely something to deal with!
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/20 05:48 PM
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It may just be how I’m reading this, but it sounds as if you are wondering if there is someone better for you and that you are settling with your partner due to familiarity and the number of men you have already been with. Do you respect him as he is now? If you only see the potential man he could be rather than the man he is now then I would think that’s a red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/20 04:40 AM
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When I was dating my husband, respecting him came very naturally to me and I don’t recall ever asking myself if I respect him. You mention liking his long hair but not being sure if you can respect him for having it; does that mean you would try to change him? Same with his job. You mention it’s suitable to you, but would you try to encourage him to change jobs? If you are already identifying ways you would change him then I think that may be a huge sign you don’t respect him.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/20 04:35 AM
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Some simple feminine habits that I’ve been honing in on are: • Being more relationship oriented than task oriented - That’s not to say that focusing on my tasks as a wife, mother and homemaker is not important, but I look at them through a relational lens (or try to) rather than through purely a task-driven lens to get it done. This allows me to slow down and savor the aspects of all those roles from tending to my husband’a needs to changing my baby’s diaper and folding laundry, and I’ve noticed…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/20 01:09 AM
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Can your husband help with the kids for a little while before he goes out tonight? Even 20 minutes might help! I agree with the other comment about turning on a show or a movie just for some peace and quiet while you rest. I also find listening to podcasts or audiobooks with my headphones in while I do some housework helps me to relax a little bit.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 05:04 PM
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• Lose 8 lbs - continue to track calories and go for daily walks (still losing pregnancy weight at 10 weeks postpartum) • Finish 1 book - I just started The House at Riverton by Kate Morton, and it’s amazing so far! • Complete Assignments 1-4 from Fascinating Womanhood book • Finish organizing and then celebrating my husband’s first Father’s Day • Keep my newly planted hydrangeas alive (new to gardening)
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/20 06:28 PM
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I know this website is designed for men, but I find this article really helpful and I still reference it frequently when I’m needing to bring something up to my husband. Good luck! https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/how-to-communicate-your-needs-in-a-relationship/
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/20 11:51 AM
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Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! The book that really helped me in the area of homemaking is called “A Mother’s Rule of Life.” The author goes into a lot of detail of how to plan your day as a homemaker and focuses on five main priorities which she calls the 5 Ps: Prayer, Person (which is yourself), Partner, Parent, and Provider (your role as a homemaker). It does have a religious aspect to it, but it’s extremely helpful!
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/20 11:47 AM
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