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| 18 | Cut off “friend with benefits” of three years five months ago and he contacted me again - what’s his motive?You're putting up with crap by unblocking him. No amount of wishing and hoping and decyphering his texts will make him care about you. He knows you're hung up on him and he's hitting you up to line up some easy sex. That's it. Read the handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 04:02 PM |
| 26 | Why are LVM so obsessive! Small d*ck energy to the maxHe sent her 2 voice recordings to reject her? Well that's a new one. 😂😂 What a classless loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 10:40 AM |
| -12 | iM nOt LiKe OtHeR gIrLsThis hasn't been satirized a thousand times before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 11:14 PM |
| 71 | We matched and he messaged me within 10 seconds. He really thought he ✨did something✨ hereThis is literally a maneuver straight from the seduction sub. First he sends a time sensitive offer that fosters a sense of adventure, unpredictability and a ticking clock. The success of this method depends on the girl not wanting to turn down his offer and offend the guy. After all he's being spontaneous and fun! If you said yes, this tells him you're agreeable and he can do other maneuvers on you once you meet, like going to multiple locations to force a sense of intimacy and make it seem lik… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 09:39 PM |
| 40 | Found this in r/divorceSounds like she's on her way to a third divorce. What advice is she looking for exactly? Why do these women tap dance around wanting to DO SOMETHING without actually doing anything? She's fresh off a divorce, she told him and herself she's not ready, but here she is repeating the same mistake with a guy who lives a state away who she's never even met. I can already tell she's the sort of friend who's going to be bitching endlessly about her bf/husband like "Ugh I knoooow I should do xyz but I ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 03:03 AM |
| 1 | How to leave/turn down a guy or say STOP? HELP!You're not in a place to be dating if you're unable to identify, state and enforce your boundaries. It's not cute or funny to go along with a guy you don't know. You can end up seriously hurt. You had at least 2 opportunities to leave the situation (at the end of the date and when you got into separate cars) and you chose to continue interacting with him. You have to start putting yourself first instead of some guy who showed you nothing but disrespect. Next time set a firm time block for the fi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 02:59 AM |
| 11 | The comments are full of Porn Sick men desperately trying to assure her that this is normal behavior!!!!!Pickme realizes that he's not dating her because she's so amazing and mature for her age and he'll be looking for her replacement soon if he's not already. 🙄. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 10:48 PM |
| 51 | Make his pockets hurt sis🤪💸This is so cringy and not classy. Bragging about shopping trips to Forever 21 and H&M like she's getting something special? All that stuff in the backseat maaaybe amounts to $1k. The guy has literal stacks of cash? Is he a drug dealer? And he's just hanging her bags completely dead faced. Lately there's been so many cringy tiktoks being posted here. It's fine to want a man to spend money on you but putting that online is beyond embarassing. Just keep it on the down low. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 02:31 AM |
| 40 | Scrote pretty much ignores a date and then texts oh hey how are you! out of no where. #menactdumbtogetawaywithshitHe's testing you to see if you'll be ok with him ignoring you and popping up when it's convenient for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 06:07 PM |
| 257 | Women having any kind of basic standards makes men hate OLD and lamenting it on Reddit gets you 70k upvotes.This is a pretty good example of what not to do. Coming out and stating your requirements like that is pretty tacky and off-putting. It's better to suss out the guy through his photos (is he doing things that cost money?), bio and conversation. And she's got pickme tendencies because she started qualifying herself to him and sent him a pic of her pushing out her boobs. Cringe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 03:35 AM |
| 7 | Legit, first conversation and already talking about “cuddling”. This can’t be real life!Some pointers based on this convo: 1) Send same or fewer number of words than he does. You're writing twice as much as him. It makes you look desperate to have a conversation with him. 2) If he doesn't send you an interesting question or comment I would not reply. His second message was very brief and didn't even have a question for you to answer. Yet you wrote 2x+ as much as he did. His messaging does not convey that he is at all interested in talking or getting to know you. 3) He can't type in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 11:46 PM |
| 27 | So I just signed up for okcupid and got this 2 seconds after I signed up, before I could even upload a picture or write a bio. Funny how this copy pasta scrote “read my profile” when I literally had no profile 🙄🙄🙄This reminds of the card the Joker showed people in the movie that described his medical condition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 02:09 AM |
| 3 | After stringing me along in a situationship for three months, fuckboy is now angry and upset I’m dating someone else (LONG, sorry)What made you consider him a friend? He was terrible to you while dating and terrible to you when you were supposed to meet as supposed friends. I don't think you've learned your lesson at all from the comments you've posted. Someone who is disrespectful toward you as a date get removed from your life, not demoted to a friend. Also tagging a post as story time does not mean everyone has to sit back and clap for you for making mistake after mistake. Other people have posted really thoughtful brea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 12:31 AM |
| 27 | NO CONTACT but dont forget to BLOCKYou are projecting your feelings onto men. Men don't agonize about whether or not they should text you months after you stopped seeing each other. They just fire off a bunch of texts to ex-gfs, random women they had dates with, and whoever else's number they have saved and see who bites. Men know that when they text you it's going to trigger you to paragraph yourself and your friends and wonder what to do, do you text back, do you ignore, what if he's changed, blah blah blah. Meanwhile he's just… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 12:21 AM |
| 23 | My boyfriend sent me this...he knows I am not trying to live together until marriage. Ladies am I trippin or is this a potential proposal?👀He sounds rather dismissive of your previously stated boundaries on living together. "I know and I'm fine with it". Did you know he is buying a house? And what is his plan for it? He's going to live in it himself? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 07:54 PM |
| 9 | “Well if you believe a man should be a provider...”I would block if this was on OLD but if it was real life I'd reply sweetly "But women already do the majority of the housework and child raising." And then block after the date. These men will happily watch your run yourself ragged going 50/50 financially while handling all the traditional women's responsibilities. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 07:41 PM |
| 21 | This man is a joke, and gross, and I don't know why I'm wasting my time explaining things to him.I think that's one of the pros of OLD. The guy who seem borderline ok to the point where they could hide their weirdo personality and saying things like "you seem fresh and clean" IRL for a few months tend to show their red flags relatively quickly on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 06:12 PM |
| 10 | Ugh just totally turned off right away 🙄You're the one posting duds from OLD. If you're not open to discuss or suggestions, why are you creating posts? Or are we supposed to only be condescending toward the man? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Ugh just totally turned off right away 🙄It does not mean yes but it does suggest she is open to sexual encounters which will reflect in the kind of men message her and the kind of messages she will get which she is apparently not pleased with given her OP. You read my reply which is against thoughtlessly using loaded words like "shaming" instead of a well-thought out argument or rebuttal and bulldozed in to warn me again shaming a poor woman omg quelle horreur!!! In the future you might try something like "She can post whatever photos… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 06:03 PM |
| 25 | Ugh just totally turned off right away 🙄Men respond to what you put out there. Post provocative photos, you will get men who take it that you're on there for hookups. FDS is against posting revealing photos online. Instead of resorting to kneejerk rhetorical defense to shut down any logical discussion, consider if what you're doing now is benefitting your OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 02:44 AM |
| 20 | Ugh just totally turned off right away 🙄Is the photo he liked in your dating profile? It really doesn't convey anything good. You've got a provocative pose showing your entire bare legs in what looks like your bedroom?? Unless you're looking for hookups I would take it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Someone please tell me to block this LV piece of trash... apologises for not making enough effort 2 weeks ago, already back to pushing me away when I'm trying to make plansHe's obvious garbage but what's worrying is how even after this conversation where he is literally hostile towards you you still can't find the strength to block him. Your self-love, self-interest and self-preservation should come before any man, particularly a shit-tier one like this. If you don't look inward and do some work on your self to a) stop entertaining men who have shown you they don't give a shit about you and b) stop chasing men and giving them the option to see you Thurs-Sun at the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 04:03 PM |
| 49 | Hit it off with a man I thought had excellent potential. Messaged him a few days later and told me he was not interested in seeing me because he was looking for someone with more balance. Does anyone know what it is to be “balanced?”You consider a 32 y/o man with 2 kids who didn't message you first after a date and who turned into a negging passive aggressive little bitch a catch? I see a lot of heartbreak and wasted years in your future if you don't smarten up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 08:53 AM |
| 9 | Blocking = Peace of mindNicely done! Following FDS is so freeing. No heming or hawing. No "Poor baby, he just go out of a relationship, maybe if I fuck him commitment-free for 3 months, he'll be healed!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 10:16 PM |
| 10 | Guys who ask to be FWBs while expecting the girl to see no one else. Be careful of these types out there ladies, especially if you’re young or working on becoming more assertive.100% This is why it's important to NEVER give men the benefit of the doubt or wonder if maybe his actions don't mean what you think they mean or second chances blah blah blah. Low effort, "let's see where it goes" = block. Don't debate. Don't explain. All you will end up is looking like a fool, especially if you let him string you along for months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 09:42 PM |
| 10 | Why are men so willing to let a great woman go and not make any effort? I can’t wrap my head around it.It doesn't matter how beautiful or creative, etc, etc you are. If you do not have strong boundaries and high standards, you will get walked all over. If a LVM/NVM/ZVM has a beautiful woman that lets him disrespect her, in his mind he thinks he can get another and another beautiful woman. And why not? Is he wrong? If you're letting him disrespect you, why wouldn't another woman? There is no shortcut to having and enforcing high standards for how others treat you. A lot of women seem to think if t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 07:07 PM |
| 10 | Jeff Bezos only follows one person on twitter, his ex-wife who does not follow him backYeah, this is a pickme post. I doubt he gives it a second thought who he's following meanwhile a pickme will write essays about how he's secretly still in love with his wife (ie would prefer to stay married and cheat on the side). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 04:50 PM |
| 20 | What do you think of youtuber graham Stephen ?I watch him too sometimes although his content has gotten repetitive. I would never date a guy like that though. He's the type to work you to the bone and expect you go 50/50 while he makes 20x as much as you. He will probably ask his gf to go 50/50 on his mortgage if she ever moves in to build up his equity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 11:51 PM |
| 10 | 11 year relationship and the only proposal is a threesome — “My[31F] long term boyfriend [45M] refuses to marry me unless I have a threesome with his friend.”"but he didn't hit me or anything" What a saint. Truth is her BF should have been ready to get married at 34, when they got together. Instead he chose to prolong his adult adolescence by getting with a 20 y/o. Now she's aged out of the "let's see where it goes, but let's have extremely kinky sex in the meantime" stage because she was a young adult when they got together and matured. But he was fully formed so I don't know why OP expects him to change. He is who he was when they got together. The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 09:29 PM |
| 38 | I have an issue with "I like a woman who takes care of herself" on dating profiles...I agree. Men can easily see by profile pictures and on dates if the woman matches what they're looking for in terms of appearance/fitness. No need to state it especially since what that means varies so much man to man. It's a sign that the guy is not very sophisticated or observant and does not want to do any vetting of his own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 09:23 PM |
| -2 | New Ways to Help Out ProtestorsCan we stop it with calling a guy who does one good thing HVM? It's really embarrassing. Most likely this guy did it so he'd look good to the women at the protest and have more of a chance to get more numbers and build a harem of Pickmes. This is literally against everything the handbook teaches. One action does not make a HVM. How a man behaves in public does not depict how he behaves in private and toward his SO. ALWAYS REMAIN SKEPTICAL until a man has shown consistently over months and years … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 08:55 PM |
| 138 | He charges her for coffee at his home."Is this something I will have to accept?" How is she asking a forum this instead of herself? She really needs to step back and question what she got herself into and if this is how she wants to be treated in a relationship and then walk away and block. This kind of cheapskate behaviour is extremely troubling and controlling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 05:32 PM |
| 15 | Guys who half ass 1st meetingBlock them. ALWAYS pay attention to men's actions. They tell you everything! And always ask yourself: is this how I want to be treated? Do I want to not receive any concrete plans for a meetup? Do I want a guy who just disappears for days? If that's not how you want to be treated, nothing else needs to be sad. You don't need to investigate why he's like this. It doesn't matter. Block and move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 01:32 AM |
| 19 | Addressing the 'tough love' commenting in the FDS community.I agree with what you wrote regarding OLD and women dropping out of dating altogether. Re OLD I think it's a good tool to have in your arsenal. Many many men online date because not everyone has a big social circle that lends to dating. Normal people online date. I think the problem arises when women don't do enough self-improvement to max their attractiveness and (profile) presentation and/or don't have good vetting skills. As evidenced by the many posts that show conversations with men whose p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 01:21 AM |
| 55 | Why You Need To Pay For Russian Women// the whiny men on the comments LoL, it's the time to stop fetishizing us eastern european women!!I would be cautious with fully siding with Russian men. I'm not Russian but from a nearby country that's culturally similar. In most cases they just aim to isolate you at home and be able to beat you at will. But the YouTuber is a NVM through and through. Exactly the kind of guy you don't want. Whiny pussy who wants to bottom feed and expects a full-time bangmommy. This is why it's important to step back and observe a date and judge his actions. The sooner he reveals his true colours and starts … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 12:34 AM |
| 3 | They know, ladies. Two boys dissecting and laughing at the predictability of a fuckboi speechI agree with your boyfriend and friend. And this whole thread has some pickme energy. I don't understand what is being argued even. Hurtbae is being a Pickmeus Maximus. She's not making sacrifices for love. She's being a willing punching bag for a guy who wants to come home to her and hang out and likely go 50/50 or 100/0 and still out and cheat. She's caught him cheating on her and he told her to go away and she stuck around. That is antithesis of FDS. A lot of women who still want to squash th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 10:22 PM |
| 7 | How do you not get attached so quickly when dating?This is such an amazing way of describing it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 06:34 PM |
| 3 | LVM is unhappy that his girlfriend isn't 'open minded' enough to do anal and have a threesome involving him and her 'cute friends.' 🤮The way he writes is the most off-putting thing. And what exactly is he offering her that improves her life? What a sex pest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 04:59 PM |
| 3 | Your thoughts ladies?I don't consider dudes who have gross, unkempt beards in the first place. I'm very much against this arms race to see who can be grosser and nastier. I have standards for my self-maintenance and for the men I date. Anyone who doesn't meet it does not get my attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 04:50 PM |
| 5 | Came across this profile on Tinder - these type of men think they're funny, but it's honestly just very disturbing!It's a pasta. Swipe left and go on with your life. I don't see the point on giving these slugs a second thought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 07:36 PM |
| 18 | Ahhh emotionally abusing your wife for tiktok clout. How romantic!😍A man who can do this to you does not respect you or appreciate you. Putting up with this will only lead to a sad life where you are constantly taken for granted. A red flag in the dating phase is a man who is constantly joking around, or making little jabs especially if you have high standards for yourself and for how others treat you or treating your hobbies and interests like they're stupid and unimportant. It's not cute, he's not just being silly. Watch what a man says and how he says it. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 04:33 PM |
| 19 | What kind of man gets off on beating his wife until she’s unconscious? A pornsick one.My god this is horrifying to read. She needs to leave before he kills her. This is why I roll my eyes at women who use BDSM to "explore their sexuality teehee." It's nothing but a pass for dysfunctional entanglements and abuse. How much do you wanna bet he's also wearing down her self-esteem so she'll have a more difficult time leaving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Reminder: you don't need a man to buy you flowers, buy them for yourself because you deserve it!I'm working on incorporating flowers as part of self maintenance and beautifying my space. I've received flowers from men back when I was pickmeish but once I start dating again I want to have flowers as part of the standard for how any man should treat me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 01:47 PM |
| 2 | You’re so low maintenanceStaying inside dates should be an outlier and not the norm especially in the first year. And even then if he brings take out and starts going to collapse on the couch, you should be indicating that you'd prefer to eat at the table with proper plates and utensils. It keeps a sense of decorum and prevents you falling into a complete slob rut. At the same time if he's always suggesting staying in, that's not a good sign. You don't want to be harranging him constantly into going out. In terms of out… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 06:43 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 20th 2020)Thank you! I saved it so I don't lose it again. It's a gem of a post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 08:18 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 20th 2020)Is anyone able to link me to the post someone made a few weeks/months ago about "dating like a fox"? Being light and a little naive outwardly while vetting everyone ruthlessly? For the life of me I can't find it. TIA! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 06:29 AM |
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