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| 849 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet) | PICKME CULTURE | wolfshadow1995 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 05:08 PM |
| 421 | Ladies, let's stop texting guys paragraphs when we're upset/angry with them | How-To High Value | wolfshadow1995 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 05:00 PM |
| 388 | Realizing the “cool girls” you used to be friends with were just total pickme’s | PICKME CULTURE | wolfshadow1995 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:04 AM |
| 323 | Some LV men get a high just by flirting with women outside of their marriage | SCROTATION REPORT | wolfshadow1995 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 09:36 PM |
| 13 | Saw this on another sub I’m in….I can’t decide if her man is that dumb, is extremely manipulative, or both. | NAH, SIS | wolfshadow1995 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 07:11 PM |
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| 2 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet)Hahah but really, what narrative? You mean morals? Values? 🤔 The killer is that every one of them would feel the EXACT same way as Susie if they were being played like that. It’s basic human nature! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 02:13 AM |
| 4 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet)I agree there is nothing special at all about him. He seemed to have a very bland “chameleon” personality. Every convo he’s like “yes I love that!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 05:21 PM |
| 5 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet)Pickme’s love nothing more than to taking the man’s side and reaching to find any minor faults in the female victim. I hate it. And any man siding with him is just LV. Also cracks me up that people are now gatekeeping the term “gaslighting” lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 05:17 PM |
| 4 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet)Given your words here, I’m confused why you’re a part this sub to start with. So because she’s attractive and wore a bikini to a SWIM date she can’t speak up for herself…? I didn’t create this thread so people can degrade Susie and victim blame. You can go on the bachelor nation sub to do that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 05:12 PM |
| 3 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet)I don’t think you understand the assignment. This just reminds me of the people saying that Susie “knew what she was getting herself into”. We’re not here to victim blame | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet)I agree for sure. I think it’s so weird how these women put the bachelor on a huge pedestal before they even meet him. These guys are so average and damn they get SO cocky... which of course is a result of him seeing so many beautiful women loose sleep over him. You never see a woman go into it with a neutral “I’ll get to know him and then see how I feel” type of attitude. I know it’s a reality show but I’m starting to really notice how even though producers try sooo hard to be “progressive”, it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 04:55 PM |
| 25 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet)Not only did he tell all 3 he loved them, he attempted to lie to Susie at first. He kept saying “another person” as if it was just 1 other girl and finally he admitted it was 2 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 01:46 AM |
| 20 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet)Heard that. I can’t tell if the other 2 finalists are pickme’s or if they genuinely assumed he would only sleep with 1 girl. Susie putting her foot down shows so much about her character and I love it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 01:45 AM |
| 16 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet)I agree, I watch it solely for entertainment. I can’t convince myself that any of it is true love | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 01:41 AM |
| 22 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet)Right? His parents were also terrrrible. Being the bachelor isn’t a free pass to be a scum bag 😷 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 01:39 AM |
| 38 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet)Mhm. She was really smart to sit back and see what he does. He screwed all 3 of those women over terribly. It’s a rule I see here on FDS alllll the time: let him do what he wants, so you can see what he’d rather do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 01:36 AM |
| 102 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet)Right? That was full on verbal assault on Clayton’s part. And then there’s the people going “well Susie should’ve come to him earlier & said how she feels!”….the bar is literally set so low lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 08:34 PM |
| 272 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet)Sorry if this was already talked about/posted. I just find it hilarious that so many girls all over twitter are excusing a man’s flat out disrespectful & gross behavior. Then gaslighting another female by saying she can’t be upset because that’s how the show works. It just screams “I’m not like other girls!! I’ll let you sleep around behind my back up to a certain point because I’m a cool unbothered girl!! Boys will be boys 🤷🏼♀️” If he truly loved and respected Susie, he would not have been abl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 05:13 PM |
| 3 | He wants to move in togetherGood for you for being very self aware and not suppressing your uncertainty. I think moving to a whole new (and large) city with him is a big step as is. I would not disregard these feelings, because you know yourself better than anyone else! How he responds to you will be very telling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 06:08 PM |
| 41 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?I def agree on finding a man's refusal to eat vegetables solely because he just doesn't like them a big red flag and turn off. Like grow up? I briefly dated a guy who was like this. He ate complete junk food all the time (boxed mac and cheese, pizza, oreos, hamburger helper), but was in good shape because he was a college athlete at the time and worked out for 2 hours a day. It grossed me out bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 09:52 PM |
| 46 | Reminder: never chase men, this is what they actually think when you initiateThis just confirms my #1 frustration with men. They say they want a woman who makes them feel hot, successful, strong etc. but more so they want someone who is rather unimpressed with them because that means she’s high value? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 09:46 PM |
| 55 | What are the most ridiculous pick-me opinions you had before reaching the age of reason?Same girl. For years, I used to tell myself “if he pulls away it’s okay to chase/pursue him for a little until he starts to come back. If you do nothing when he pulls away, he’ll think you just don’t care about him at all”. Which I know now makes zero sense 🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:01 AM |
| 17 | Thanksgiving blues..Know that you are not alone in this ♥️ my mom does the same thing to me around the holidays. Remember that being single and picky will ALWAYS triumph settling and marrying a man who is lazy, or lies, or cheats, or abuses you, or just plain doesn’t do it for you. I cannot tell you how many women I know from college/high school who married the first serious-ish relationship they had purely out of worrying they won’t find anyone else. Even if the guy was completely average or scummy. I will never e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 02:32 AM |
| 10 | Advice for grey rocking/not responding/not entertaining LV people that you can’t avoid and/or just anytime an LV person comes your way?I don’t care if anyone finds this mean, this is actually great advice. You can also think of it as arguing with a young child, like there’s no point | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 06:11 PM |
| 13 | Reminder: You have worked too hard to be dragged down by a LVMI struggle with this too. That feeling is called shame, and it’s debilitating. I highly suggest the book “daring greatly” by Brenee Brown! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 12:58 AM |
| 4 | No. FDS is not about clapping back at men who neg youThis. Been there. It’s frustrating seeing women go to efforts to seem like a “bad bitch” by telling a scrote off. No, you’re not his mother and it’s not your place to “put him in his place”. You are literally only feeding his ego. Where your attention goes, energy flows. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 06:20 PM |
| 123 | Reminder: You have worked too hard to be dragged down by a LVMCan’t tell you how much I needed to hear exactly this today. Thank you 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 06:15 PM |
| 44 | Some LV men get a high just by flirting with women outside of their marriageI agree. My brother is one of the best men I know and when he got a serious girlfriend last year (he ended up proposing to her recently!), he disabled his Instagram maybe 2 weeks into dating her. He said he didn’t post pictures much anyways, and so now that he was taken he didn’t have a reason to be scrolling on it. 👏🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:41 AM |
| 26 | Some LV men get a high just by flirting with women outside of their marriageHonestly you’re right, I remember when I saw his follow request I thought it was a little odd. His was on private too and his profile pic was just him so of course i was like eh ok sure. But now I’m like ha, as if the dude just innocently followed me to see what I’ve been up to after 10+ years 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:39 AM |
| 15 | Amazing response by a woman who was prepositioned by an LVM to be his side pieceThe biggest/worst red flag to me was him saying he’s still married but “only for legal purposes”. But then he has the audacity to convey that she is soOoO lucky to have been “selected” by him, & as a SIDE PIECE. How insulting. This all just screams narcissistic asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 09:08 PM |
| 8 | Kinds of men that should be a deal-breaker but aren't, for majority of women, idk why. Note: some are a mix of all these.Please do! If you can relate to things like this I highly suggest the book “why does he do that”. Knowledge is your best defense against their manipulation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 01:27 AM |
| 15 | Kinds of men that should be a deal-breaker but aren't, for majority of women, idk why. Note: some are a mix of all these.It’ll fuck with your mind. They know how to come off innocent-ish but they say just the right words to make you suspicious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 01:14 AM |
| 46 | Kinds of men that should be a deal-breaker but aren't, for majority of women, idk why. Note: some are a mix of all these.This tactic is commonly used by abusive and/or narcissistic men. I think it’s called triangulation (love triangle). They manipulate you into suspecting there’s someone else or that he has females lusting after him left and right. It’s him trying to make you jealous and see him as more desirable/HV but it’s an act. The worst of them know how to do it so passively & will label you as jealous or paranoid if you ever call them out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 09:26 PM |
| 32 | Kinds of men that should be a deal-breaker but aren't, for majority of women, idk why. Note: some are a mix of all these.Men who act like they’re above calling women “sluts” and “whores” but when it’s a woman he or one of his homeboys feels scorned by, it’s all of a sudden acceptable. Or really any men who use that word. But most of us know a guy that’s all “I’d neverrrr call a girl a slut because I hate that word, but trust me she was terrible so it’s justified! Pretty sure she cheated on my buddy all the time!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 09:19 PM |
| 3 | Saw this on another sub I’m in….I can’t decide if her man is that dumb, is extremely manipulative, or both.Please no debates about the Covid vaccine, that’s beside the point….the main point is that she made a choice to protect herself by getting vaccinated and he literally told her to go sleep on the couch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 07:14 PM |
| 115 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.Ugh. People should not be praising him for having basic human decency towards a girl he spent time with and had sex with. The bar is literally on the floor for men, once again. Sigh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 02:52 AM |
| 3 | Realizing the “cool girls” you used to be friends with were just total pickme’sCan also relate! I’m close with my brother but that is just about the only male friend of mine. I get along with my friends’ husbands/boyfriends but obviously I am not close friends with them individually. Everyone acts like guys are sooo easy to be friends with yet 98% when you open up to them they just blankly stare into your soul. Their pride and ego controls every move they make. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 01:07 PM |
| 5 | Realizing the “cool girls” you used to be friends with were just total pickme’sYes! I feel women are so much more empathetic and try to understand things from multiple angles rather than just looking for a solution | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 01:04 PM |
| 1 | Realizing the “cool girls” you used to be friends with were just total pickme’sAgreed 100%! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 01:02 PM |
| 47 | Pick mes like this are the reason bisexual women have to hide our sexuality.Yes. It’s the obnoxiousness. You’re acting like you’re romantically and/or sexually into women….to clearly get male attention….lol. I feel like this goes hand in hand with girls who agree to threesomes just to please their male partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 04:39 AM |
| 5 | Realizing the “cool girls” you used to be friends with were just total pickme’sWell said, thank you! I feel like 95% people who commented understood my point and agreed, but unfortunately some that took it a whole different way. There are many times where i read posts on FDS and I’m like “oh yikes yeah I’m guilty of doing that with men and it’s not cute” but I never feel “attacked” lol. I actually look at it as a friend trying to help me level up and become more HV. I’m honestly shocked people upvoted that comment where in all seriousness she says “I’m not like other girls… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 04:33 AM |
| 4 | Realizing the “cool girls” you used to be friends with were just total pickme’sBy “proof” you mean did they ever explicitly/verbally tell me they didn’t enjoy these things? Yes. I agree it’s not absurd or crazy to genuinely like those things but these 2 were close friends of mine and i know for a fact they didn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 04:10 AM |
| 8 | Realizing the “cool girls” you used to be friends with were just total pickme’sI didn’t say that at all. But pointing fun at other females for liking feminine things in order to make yourself look better in front of men is a very pick me trait. As you said, when you base most of your personality traits off of what will get you male validation and make you seem “different” it becomes a problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 01:33 PM |
| 2 | Reminder: Never Pay for Anything on a Date. Ever.Agreed, unfortunately at the time I was pretty naive but learned my lesson! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 03:08 PM |
| 18 | Reminder: Never Pay for Anything on a Date. Ever.A few years ago I went out with a seemingly great guy. Took me to a nice dinner the first date (nothing super crazy expensive but still nice) and when I was leaving I said thank you for dinner. He goes “yeah of course! Next time it’s on you” i chuckled and thought he was kidding. Texts me the next day and when he brought up us going out again, he told me he was actually serious about me buying….this dude was 27 and an engineer. Major yikes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 07:40 PM |
| 33 | I'm so tired of seeing 'demisexual' tossed around like it's some sort of aberrant practice when really, it's just HEALTHY to want trust & a connection with intimate partners.YES. I didn’t even know “demisexual” was a term until recently when I was explaining to my friend that I hate hookup culture. I only feel comfortable with sex if I have deep feelings for the person, otherwise it just feels so awkward to me. She goes “oh, you’re demisexual!”…..why does that have to be a preference? Isn’t that how most people feel before the world started shoving down our throats the belief that you should just have sex with anyone decently attractive whenever you feel the urge? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 02:50 AM |
| 29 | Apologizing for or sympathizing with "cancelled" woman-abusers is big time Pick Me behaviour - From Vanity Fair: 'Dakota Johnson Calls Cancel Culture "Such a Downer"It really is sad because what she’s saying is a prime example of how abusers get away with their behavior. Not every man who’s abusive abuses literally anyone woman he comes into contact with. The most charming ones know specifically which women to target and which ones to act like a perfect gentleman toward. Her saying all of this is probably so upsetting to the women who these men did abuse. It’s like saying “Brian Laundrie was so nice to me! There’s no way he murdered his fiancee!” I’m sure m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 03:15 PM |
| 89 | The IckMy most recent ex was like this, spot on! It’s like that meme where the girl says she enjoys baseball and the guy makes her name every team that’s won the World Series in the last 30 years. People like this are the WORST | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 05:53 PM |
| 12 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?Lol yes!! Tired of people being all “go for the guy who’s average looking they don’t cheat” uhhhh? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 10:55 PM |
| 59 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?I’d say don’t let some friend or tik tok or BS internet article convince you to be all ~unconventional~ by pursuing a man you have interest in. No, they don’t respect being pursued. He’s not ignoring your texts because he wants you to send more. Showing some interest back at a man who is actively working to get you, and chasing him when he’s slacking or showing indifference are 2 totally different things. Second, no woman can “steal” a man who is truly meant to be your man. If he cheats, or leav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 03:08 AM |
| 163 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?YES. Once you give them an ounce of attention and interest they’ll think they’re hot shit & be all “huh if I can get her, I could probably get a lot of even hotter/better girls” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 03:05 AM |
| 17 | How often is he responding to you? Does he only talk to you when bored? If he isn't actively planning a date with you drop him. You aren't a back burner option.I do think it's safe to assume that if he works a busy 9-5 job, he might not be very responsive during that time period. But if he's only texting you in the evenings, to me that's a red flag. I don't expect a text back every hour and I myself don't even have time for that most week days, but I won't be someone a guy only cares to reach out to in his free time. Or if he's only hitting you up when Friday night rolls around, that's a hard no and a sign that he only sees you as a weekend hobby. Boy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 02:39 PM |
| 9 | Beware of neggingExactly. They think they’re fooling us like wow so ~creative and thoughtful~ Kevin did you come up with that line??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 02:26 AM |
| 11 | How to you feel about the idea that "most men don't marry the woman they love the most. They marry the woman that’s around when they’re ready to marry."Sadly I think there’s a lot of truth to it. A lot of women go through heartbreak being with a man who says she’s everything to him but won’t marry her, then or ever. Bottom line is, a man will usually push back on marriage until he’s ready and that’s nothing the woman can change or should ever try to. It makes me so sad when I see couples date for 8+ years and the man still isn’t ready. Meanwhile the woman sits by and wastes so much valuable time. I just want to know what excuses he’s telling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 03:17 PM |
| 43 | Beware of neggingLol yes! It’s like stop trying to act all cute. I’m all for interesting/non surface level conversations but it’s like dude, you are a virtual stranger. Chill. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 03:10 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, let's stop texting guys paragraphs when we're upset/angry with them1000%. It’s just basic psychology at this point. Long drawn out texts are just a way for guys to pick out one minuscule detail and focus on that to derail the argument. Which just makes me even more mad at them than I was originally lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 03:16 PM |
| 23 | How do you feel when people say “ a man needs to feel needed”?Yes to all of this. A high value man will be attracted to a woman who has her shit together and can walk away at any moment if she feels disrespected and undervalued! She won’t stick around and tolerate it because everything she needs she can do on her own | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 10:35 PM |
| 5 | How do you feel when people say “ a man needs to feel needed”?I’m so glad you posted about this. It really irritates and confused me, especially when it comes from a man himself. So you dudes want to complain about women being needy for asking for pretty simple things and say how independence is what’s most attractive. But then you also have to feel needed to feel like a man? Just seems like a moving target. I think you’re so right in how you put it that it’s a control thing. I think only men with very low self esteem and high egos say this type of stuff. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 10:29 PM |
| 9 | Whenever I think men cannot possibly get worse…That’s beyond disgusting and honestly traumatizing. I’m so sorry that happened to you. That’s 100% assault and I hope you’re able to report it if you decide you want to. Don’t let anyone tell you it was not a big deal. Maybe the club got it on camera? He sounds like a total predator. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 11:37 PM |
| 3 | ladies whats some red flags that tell you a man is low key sexist?Lol but really. I knew a guy in highschool who was the biggest scrote & probably thought he’d be the CEO of google by age 30. Talked down to girls constantly. Thought he was God’s gift to humanity. Nope. High school football coach/teacher who moved in with his parents after barely graduating college. yikes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 11:34 PM |
| 11 | ladies whats some red flags that tell you a man is low key sexist?“I mean, you just wouldn’t imagine the pressure we guys are under when we’re in college….because we just know that we’re going to be the top supporter/breadwinner in our future families” I’m like ok Kevin last time I checked you’re going to be a highschool math teacher so chill | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 02:10 AM |
| 9 | Ladies, let's stop texting guys paragraphs when we're upset/angry with themI was the same way in the past! Texting can only be helpful because it hides any vulnerability. You can be sobbing your eyes out and still write up a text like you’re totally fine. But for LV men who don’t really give af and think all women are problematic, it’s a way for them to put in little to no effort | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:35 PM |
| 9 | Ladies, let's stop texting guys paragraphs when we're upset/angry with themAgreed. Texting lets you carefully prepare a response and hide your emotions because the person can’t hear your tone of voice or see your face. It’s like talking to a wall | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:28 PM |
| 12 | Ladies, let's stop texting guys paragraphs when we're upset/angry with themI like the idea of saving screenshots of times where you felt you had to pour your heart out in order for them to simply just see your side of things. I can also relate to having bits in pieces where I’m reassuring them “I’m not mad at you I just….”…only to receive an “ok” or the worst fkn response of all time “I don’t understand”. Or they just left on read for hours/days lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:22 PM |
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