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You want to be married so badly you’re willing to have your future husband be a man who’s intimidated by educated women?
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/26 02:07 AM
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I’m sorry but the title and your first sentence has me cracking up. Cleanse your algorithm sis.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 12:20 AM
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Yup, a marriage makes you business partners. Be very observant of defensiveness, avoidance, vagueness, evasiveness. Financial transparency is a reasonable expectation in a marriage, especially given that you’re financially dependent on him.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/25 02:10 AM
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While I won’t tell you what to do, it sounds like your current financial set up is stressful for you, you’ve expressed concerns about finances, and you’ve been met with defensiveness. It being all he talks about and does, having adhd (in treatment? Untreated?), his crypto deals interfering with responsibilities around the home, you not having financial transparency and access to finances, and his minimizing of your concerns all leads me to wonder about financial infidelity; could he be hiding a …
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/25 01:10 AM
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Where is your family’s income coming from if all his business revenue goes back into the business? Also I come from a country where all assets are combined in marriage so I find it very strange you don’t know what his business and investment account numbers are like. Where’s the proof his business isn’t producing income beyond what needs to be reinvested? If you asked to see real numbers, what would his response be? Sorry if I’m not very helpful, something just seems fishy.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/25 12:40 AM
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There’s no financial transparency? So your family could be thousands in debt and you wouldn’t know? A separate account, unwilling to open a joint account, all revenue from business “going back into operations,” I’d be suspicious too. I think it’s reasonable to ask for an overview of where the family is at financially. If he’s transparent, you can ask yourself whether this instability is something you can live with. If he’s not transparent with financial documents, you likely have bigger problems…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/25 12:25 AM
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Go babcia lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 11:57 PM
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That would be enabling his addiction imo
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/25 04:31 PM
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Not the right guy lol
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/25 01:36 PM
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Very true! I wish you well in learning different ways to handle strong emotions.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/24 02:20 AM
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Throwing things and breaking things is abusive, not being passionate.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/24 02:12 AM
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Saying you’ll never find anyone better IS insulting you. Saying you’d agree if you were thirty, as if being thirty turns you into an old hag, is MEAN and demeaning. You say he’s just blunt, I say he’s emotionally abusive. I suggest you go nun mode for a bit, see this subreddits guide for more info.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/24 06:41 PM
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Well first off he can’t give you extra attention as the third condition is to observe complete equality. Sounds like he’s already saying those conditions are more like suggestions. Second off it’s quite abusive to try to manipulate someone into a lifelong commitment by saying you’ll never find anyone better (how does he know you won’t?). Third, does polygamy match your values? Fourth, are you willing to pursue hypergamy at the expense of romantic love? Fifth, are you content living with a lifeti…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/24 01:00 PM
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I thought this thread had some interesting dbt related ideas: https://www.reddit.com/r/dbtselfhelp/s/zOiBmvEJ2T
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/24 01:38 AM
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Might I suggest dialectical behaviour therapy? It can help people experiencing identity crises and rigid black/white thinking. Good luck op!
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/24 08:11 AM
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You’ve implied that everyone on this sub is an American woman by saying “you guys”… and then insulted American women’s connection to their families and loyalty to their husbands. This comes across as aggressive. Meanwhile, your comment to your boyfriend that started this argument seems passive aggressive. If you’re open to suggestions, I’d suggest working on communication style and possibly managing anger as well, either with someone you trust, a therapist, or even with self study.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 03:31 AM
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Because you’re grieving the relationship while still in it. Every time you notice your mind drifting back to him, refocus on yourself and how you can be kind to yourself in that moment. Meditation helps with awareness of the mind and how your thoughts can push you around. If I might make another suggestion: start regularly reaching out to your old friends, even if they seem busy. Start conversations with other people in public spaces where you can. Put yourself out there. Your main person is emo…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/24 02:15 PM
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Full time job is forty hrs a week, sahm with no support is 24/7.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/24 02:08 PM
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How romantic. Why don’t you try detaching? He’s your husband in name only, do the housewife things, but otherwise live your life how you damn please.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/24 02:05 PM
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Etiquette wise, it can be less embarrassing for all to confront someone one on one versus in front of the group. If your husband or friend are assertive with this woman, perhaps they could ask her to speak privately for a second before doing it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/24 01:05 PM
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First guy made passive aggressive comments, second guy made rude comments… don’t let people who talk down to you stay in your inner circle.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 09:10 PM
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Ah, thanks for explaining. To be honest, I don’t give a shit either way haha who am I to say I know what’s best for all couples? All I know is what’s been working for my relationship. I try my best not to impose my values on others.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 06:11 PM
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Depends on what you consider the features of a destroyed society.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 01:22 PM
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So youd be less prone to being overwhelmed by your emotions and you’d be more trusting of your partner? That makes sense. How might you act differently? Try to be specific!
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/24 09:52 PM
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How would your life be different if you weren’t thinking about your looks so much?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/24 05:27 PM
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Because according to him, if she asks him to trust her, she’s showing that she doesn’t trust him! What a bind.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 04:45 PM
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Knew it was money related. So basically he doesn’t trust you.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 03:23 PM
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One drink is too many, a thousand is never enough. If you’re determined to stay, I highly recommend an Al-Anon meeting, they’re meetings for the loved ones of alcoholics.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/24 12:37 PM
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And just because he admitted it (drunk as a skunk), that doesn’t mean he’s ready for change. And just because someone talks about changing, that doesn’t mean they’re ready to take actions towards change.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/24 12:34 PM
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That emotional catharsis serves as positive reinforcement, so it’s harder to leave next time it gets bad because you’re anticipating that pleasurable release.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/24 12:28 PM
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Oof, purposefully hurting someone’s feelings to get what you want out of them isn’t cute, loving, or graceful. I think you owe him an apology and a commitment to better yourself, whether that be through counselling (with someone who specializes is relationship issues and self esteem) or other means. Also. You wrote this post an hr ago, one person (not an endorsed contributor I might add) said an hr ago, “maybe walk back your relationship?” Which by the way is disastrous advice, and you’ve alread…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 03:36 PM
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More of in a, “yknow, I was thinking…” kinda way. Personally I’d wait for a time you’re in person, you don’t have anywhere to go or do, and you’re both chilling in a good mood. I’d then bring up that past conversation, mention how you’ve been really enjoying being with him, and explain how your perspective on marriage and kids has changed. Ask him what he thinks of this change of heart. Then see how he responds! This is just what I’d do, and I can be pretty blunt (subterfuge is lost on me) so ta…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/24 03:46 PM
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You’re 22, you’re going to change your mind on all sorts of things in life. Put on your big girl pants and tell him, then figure it out from there.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/24 11:13 AM
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Why don’t you ask him?
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 11:42 PM
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We met in January 2024, moved in together august 2023, and he proposed January 2024. He would have proposed earlier but I asked him to wait a year so we weren’t rushing. We talked early on about us both wanting to be married (in general in the beginning and eventually we talked about our desire to marry each other). Since we agreed to wait a year to get to know each other before he proposed, I basically knew when to expect it. I had faith that he was being serious and he showed it in his actions…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 09:47 PM
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Well, this sub has taught me that if I have a problem, go to my captain about it and then (and this is key) let him lead. He hasn’t steered me wrong so far, that’s why I’m marrying him. When I’m not controlling life, life has a way of unfolding in better ways than I ever could’ve planned.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/24 01:27 AM
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Ah perhaps I misunderstood. You holding onto your job but not needing to is what I got from your posts, as you said it was hard to let go and accept financial help, and that he wants you to get a part time job instead until you graduate. Would he be willing to support you before marriage so you can get a part time job instead?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 09:21 PM
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Sounds like your own pride is getting in the way. Nothing changes if nothing changes.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 07:22 PM
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Is this love or is this attachment?
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 02:30 PM
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If home making and homeschooling are work (and they are), when is your time off?
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/24 12:43 AM
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Let us know how it goes!
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 02:27 AM
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Alison Armstrong can stuff it so far as this topic goes. This is domestic violence babe.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/24 04:47 AM
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Funny how our brains jump to blaming ourselves. I hope you don’t take these thoughts too seriously. They’re probably the result of deeper issues (although I’m not sure if that’s comforting lol).
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 04:04 PM
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My previous comment stands though. How does that make you the one who’s not enough?
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 03:56 PM
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I’m not sure how you jumped to the conclusion that you’re not enough.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 03:51 PM
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Maybe don’t yell at people. If he’s disrespecting you by not listening, emotionally detach. Tell him you need space, take a bath, call a girlfriend and rant, do your nails, take a walk, write a poem, whatever. But don’t give these dudes your precious energy, give it to yourself. Also, don’t date financially irresponsible dudes if that’s something you value. Only date guys you respect. I think you miss him because you spent so much time with him so fast and you liked the attention of a “simp” lol…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 01:32 AM
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Would’ve been nice to know sooner, too, so you don’t keep wasting your time with someone who isn’t that into you. Unfortunately it’s always a risk when we open our hearts up. But it can also be so worth it. There’s plenty of resources for dating to reduce risk of being used in this subs wiki.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 01:07 AM
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I think it’s valid to establish they’re looking for marriage. Obviously it’s not realistic (nor something I’d encourage) for you to establish they’re looking to marry YOU, but at least nailing down that they’re in the market for marriage in general is important.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 12:55 AM
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Tell him this
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 01:05 PM
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What’s going on with you being mean to him?
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 01:04 PM
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No. Credit cards make for high interest payments, which makes for more hopelessness and feeling trapped. What are you going to get for five grand, seriously? Travel and beauty procedures are expensive. Many things with looksmaxxing require upkeep (ie they become regular expenses). You’re better off finding ways to increase your income with all that time and energy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 12:22 AM
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In different words: Going into debt is NOT the same as being able to afford what you want. Financial stability is sexy, being in debt is not.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 06:31 PM
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This needs to be stickied or something, it’s so key.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 06:28 PM
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Me too, I worked on education, making strong friendships with strong women I respect, got involved in my local alcohol recovery community. So worth it to take time to work on yourself, otherwise we just attract equally or worse unstable men. Just got engaged yesterday to a wonderful, peaceful, kind man :) life has so much to offer when I’m not getting in my own way, and that’s true for you too OP!
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 06:20 PM
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“Pumped and dumped” “ran through” “ugly fat whore” “slampig” I suspect you’re a target for men who prey on women with low self esteem.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 06:16 PM
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Another betrayal. It makes sense to be hurt after that, especially when they seem like it’s no big deal. Of course it’s a big deal, being positive will change how you approach dating and pregnancy. But it’s also not a death sentence. No matter how the test results come back, it’s not because you’re a bad person, it doesn’t make you less than. I have a friend who has HSV2. In her youth she went through a period of not caring about casual sex (or herself) and she ended up getting HSV2. Now she has…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 06:11 AM
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It sounds like you’ve experienced a lot of betrayal and your beliefs around safety, trust, power/control, esteem, and intimacy have been impacted. STDs/STIs aren’t punishments for “amoral” behaviour. You aren’t less of a person because of your past, how you treated yourself, or how others treated you. HSV1 isn’t technically an STD like HSV2. Testing beyond visual inspection requires an active breakout to swab, blood test can work but its not a perfect science so it’s not generally recommended. O…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 05:45 AM
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I had COVID a few months ago and it was awful! He kept me fed, cleaned up after us both, bought me medicine and popsicles, took care of the dogs, grocery shopped… basically everything. He works seven 24 hr shifts in a month but he also picks up overtime as much as he can. So he was gone while I was sick but because he left me food in the fridge and medicine in the cabinet I was well taken care of :) im not sure that I expected him to care for me this way, although I did ask him for the extra hel…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 10:30 PM
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Then walking away from you isn’t a reflection on you or your worth.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 09:05 PM
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Your description sounds awful. Help me understand why you stay with him? Not every man raises their voice, mocks their partners, and blames their lack of emotional control on their partner… so help me understand why you’ve decided he makes a good leader.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/23 09:47 PM
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It’ll still be meaningful because he’ll be your freaking husband. You’re two different people but are taking his sexual history personally. Enmeshment doesn’t make for happy marriages.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 06:39 PM
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Meh, you’re already self sabotaging, imo. You have the belief that once a couple starts living together, intimacy dies. No wonder you wanted a ring before living together, it sounds like that was your way of getting some validation that he loves you and some control over your anxiety. Yet here you are, everything is lining up, he’s planning a proposal, he’s moving the date forward, he’s ready to talk to your family about it… and you’re doom scrolling, comparing yourself to his previous partners,…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/23 04:08 AM
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Amen
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 04:21 AM
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He sort of forgets you exist!? Girl, what?? I think you’d do well to read our wiki, we have info for vetting which I think you should learn so you don’t end up getting played by guys like him again. Relationships don’t have to be this chaotic.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 08:08 PM
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Who cares though? Don’t you want to be with someone who shows you, without any doubt, that he’s interested?
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/23 04:37 AM
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Ah, two dates 1.5 years ago. That’s MUCH different /s You don’t know him well enough to say whether he’s the kind of guy who swipes right on everyone.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 11:33 PM
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That it’ll get better if only I did x, y, x. For some reason I was taking responsibility for his issues, and all it ever got me was more pain. I learned about the power and control wheel to see all the ways I was being hurt, so many things I straight up didn’t see before. I learned about the cycle of abuse and started to recognize his behaviour as it was happening. But it still took time and pain. I really believed I could change him because he told me I could. I parroted what he said. If only I…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/23 03:14 PM
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He didn’t beat you to the point of serious injury yet. Violence always escalates.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/23 03:05 PM
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No. Do you want a captain you can trust?
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/23 01:34 AM
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Why do you feel awkward in front of his friends? Of course we want to put our best foot forward to attract our partner, but none of us are perfect.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/23 06:28 PM
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Agreed, that part surprised me too because op said she’s been using rpw content to guide her.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 08:24 PM
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When do you think he changed?
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 05:49 PM
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It’s incredibly shallow to think that one must put less effort into their appearance in order to be less shallow.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 03:56 PM
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Interesting that despite him saying the relationship is going in the direction of commitment, which wasn’t what you wanted to hear, you decided to detach “to not get too hurt when things don’t work out”. This sounds related to attachment styles, do you recognize disorganized attachment in yourself? https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/disorganized-attachment/
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 01:37 AM
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You weren’t explicitly exclusive yet and he’s getting his knickers in a knot over you being active on a dating site. It sounds like this guy had baggage from being cheated on and you set off his alarms. In the future, I’d be more vulnerable and communicate clearer if I were you. If you were feeling disappointed that he couldn’t go to your birthday party, tell him how you felt (“aww, I was looking forward to celebrating with you” or something else cute) and let him come up with a solution, like m…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 03:28 PM
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Oof, you sound like his maid. I feel bad for you. Yesterday I started a new video game and played for approximately three hours. Today I wanted to play it, but I prioritized giving the bathroom a deep clean and spending time with my boyfriend instead. I really don’t think you’re asking for a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 12:36 AM
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You have no idea how much this has helped me! Thank you for your contribution!
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 01:21 AM
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Yup, look up the cycle of abuse OP. You’re in it. Also, know that physical abuse often starts with hitting other things. It’s a threat, take it seriously. Abuse tends to get worse with time.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/23 12:48 AM
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Good for you! You sound very self aware.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 03:55 PM
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I was just reading an excellent post in our wiki that might be helpful: the heirarchy of men and it covers just this issue! I agree with others to ask your doctor about anxiety around certain points in your cycle, too.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 03:53 PM
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So you resent your husband for your wedding night, assume he knows what you want for your anniversary, and told him you don’t want a hotel anymore even though you do. Stop playing games with him, if you’re going to spend a lifetime together you’re going to have to learn to communicate what you want and be grateful for his efforts. He bought you a gold necklace, but he didn’t give it you the way you wanted it. Have you considered that you might have control issues? You are absolutely overreacting…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 03:39 AM
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I think after a month you should be a lot less sure about him being your future husband and father of your children.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 12:45 PM
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You’ve already received excellent advice. My experience has taught me that I want to be with someone enthusiastic about being with me, and not someone who has doubts in the back of their mind. We’re not dumb, we can tell when men have doubts and have baggage from past relationships interfering. If he’s not ready to jump in with both feet, he’s not ready. He’s not the only man on the planet who shares your values on marriage and family.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 12:23 PM
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Don’t.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 12:10 PM
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Gals gotta cry sometime
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 12:06 PM
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That poster’s advice wasn’t bad, but you saw that his morals aren’t aligned with yours and served his cheating ass on a dinner plate to him lol now go to that to your boyfriend. Your intuition is screaming at you right now for a reason, you feel uncomfortable with your boyfriend right now for a reason, just like you feel uncomfortable getting advice from a guy who wants to flirt (without consent, meaning emotional infidelity) outside of his marriage. Trust your gut, not just with strangers on th…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/23 01:04 AM
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Ok
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 03:24 AM
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Why do you think?
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 03:18 PM
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This is the way. That other poster sounds immature and lacking communication skills. Or even the desire to communicate respectfully, because as you’ve said, the high from fighting and making up is undeniable. Id rather tell my partner I need space and I’ll be back in ten minutes to talk about it. Id rather use “I feel… when you… and I’d prefer…” statements. Id rather have a conversation about something that’s bugging them. Id rather use girl game in navigating conflict. Anything is better than f…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 09:24 PM
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Ahh, see I don’t do online dating. If the app asks you to say whether you’re a widower or not, I can see why this could be dishonest if he didn’t assign himself as a widower when asked.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 09:04 PM
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Your opinion contrasted a bit with mine, but I loved reading what you have to say because of that!
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 07:57 PM
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Tbh I think you were a bit dramatic over him “keeping” his widower status from you. You haven’t known him for long and waiting to share traumas until the relationship is more established is a green flag. The man lost his wife and unfortunately there are people out there who look for vulnerable folk to exploit them. It sounds like he’s ready for a new relationship, but that doesn’t discount how painful losing a partner is. Him sharing this with you is an act of trust. In terms of mental illness, …
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 07:47 PM
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Yup, straight up icky
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/23 03:33 AM
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You sound pretty attached to him already, and him not giving the answer you were expecting was disappointing to you. Perhaps you should be more specific in your profile? Advocate for what you want. If someone doesn’t like it, they’ll swipe left or however that works on your app. Find someone who thinks your desire is exactly what they’re looking for while he’s praying on it lol or who knows, maybe he just needs some space for prayer and contemplation. Either way, I wouldn’t wait around wallowing…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 09:12 PM
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Jesus fucking Christ
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 09:16 AM
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Love the short term and long term advice here! I’m terms of taking the hamster off the wheel, I would practice deep belly breathing before (and sometimes during) my dates when I was first with my boyfriend. I wanted to be relaxed and alert around him. Relaxed so we could enjoy ourselves and the flow of the date, but alert so I know I’m in tune with my feelings. If anything did go “wrong”, or in other words I was triggered, it was easier to tap into intuition in a relaxed but alert state. I found…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 04:46 PM
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I especially love what you said about laughing at the things we can’t change. You couldn’t go back in time and un-burn your house, so you laughed. What would nagging your husband accomplish? It was an accident and he was apologetic. Instead of getting upset and causing tension, you laughed and it turned into a bonding moment. Our things aren’t more important than our relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 04:18 PM
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Sounds like you both love each other but your timelines are different. He told you he wants to emulate his parents, who got married in their late twenties. That’s his timeline. You want it now. Up to you what you want to do with that. Frankly I empathize with a man who isn’t sure about marriage given him being in his early twenties, just finished school and searching for a job, living with parents, and with a peer group where it’s the norm to not be married yet. He doesn’t sound like he’s ready …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 07:53 PM
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Good for you! Taking the time and space to care for yourself is huge, especially with your energy reserves being easily depleted. Difficult experiences with parents is no joke, it can really impact everything about a person. I hope you’re able to find relief on your journey. In my own experience, I needed to take a LOT of time off, regularly do therapy, tweak meds with a psychiatrist, and I’m seeing a naturopath to make sure my low energy isn’t caused by any physical issues, like vitamin deficie…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 09:18 PM
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Are you happy? Are you having fun with your life? You said you like your job and you like your lifestyle but you sound miserable. Have you considered therapy?
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 02:38 PM
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I’m sorry that happened to you, I experienced something similar when my parents divorced. It takes a lot of courage to explore the impacts of adversity, this internet stranger is rooting for you!
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 11:24 PM
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There’s no bigger issue, but you freeze up over it and can’t talk about it? So you keep it from him and hope he gets the hints you aren’t giving? I’m not saying your relationship is doomed, you two sound like you’re building a life together and that’s wonderful. But I also think that stewing over no proposal when you’ve told him on multiple occasions you don’t like marriages is backasswards and worth looking deeper at. Possibly with a therapist or trusted friend.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 05:06 PM
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If you’re talked about marriage and you both concluded you want more stability before it… what’s the problem? It sounds like you agreed you want more stability, but secretly resent that you’re not married yet despite not having that level of stability. If you agreed to wanting stability first, I’d bet he has no clue it bothers you to not be married yet. It could be an opportunity to get vulnerable with him. It could also be an opportunity to do some internal work about how media is influencing y…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 12:36 PM
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But then you’re keeping a part of yourself secret from him. Plus you’re giving him a shit test after four freaking years. Do you think he loves you or not? Do you think he wants to make you happy or not? This sub teaches women to be the first mate, if there’s a change in weather conditions that could impact the ship, we let the captain know so he can decide how to navigate best. Ideally, you’d feel secure enough to ask for what you want and you’d trust your intuition to tell you if anything is “…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 12:26 PM
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That’s codependency for ya unfortunately
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/23 04:58 PM
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That does sound kinda controlling…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/23 01:10 PM
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Agreed, I dislike the label red pill… especially considering we suggest women don’t go for rp men lol
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/23 05:21 PM
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I’ve got a psyc undergrad and am halfway through a masters program to be a therapist. My advice is to work backwards from what you want. Do you want to work in schools, private practice, etc? Figure out what credentials you need. Research different paths to get those credentials. For example, with a bachelors in social work I could have gotten the accreditation I couldn’t have with a psyc undergrad degree. If I’d pursued that path I could’ve been paid more and found more competitive employers de…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 06:03 PM
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spits coffee laughing
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 07:49 PM
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Wanting to get married before having kids is a pretty common ideal, i think most people think that way?
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 07:34 PM
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Meh, depends on your personal values. I don’t think we have a “right” to know our partners body counts. I’d be weirded out if my boyfriend asked me how many people I’ve been sexually active with, and thankfully I’m with someone who doesn’t ask those kinds of questions. I have no desire to ask him that question either. If that’s something that’s important to you to know, you do you. Our values differ.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 06:09 PM
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Setting the boundary: “I’m not comfortable talking about that” and maybe changing the topic. He keeps pushing? Repeat the boundary and introduce a consequence: “I told you I’m not comfortable talking about that, if you continue to ask me about that I’m going to leave”. He keeps pushing, or is otherwise continuing to be disrespectful? Follow through and leave. Your moms idea to break up with him as “punishment” so that he’ll treat you better in the future will probably just teach him that he can …
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 11:05 PM
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Yup. You avoided telling him about who you kissed because you didn’t want to say. He continued insisting you not have this boundary. You gave in after an hour of him disrespecting you? This was an opportunity for you to vet. Why tolerate an hour of disrespect? You’re worth more than that kind of treatment, you have to protect yourself. How much disrespect are you going to tolerate in the future? If he disrespects you, what are you going to do about it?
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 04:43 PM
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… so don’t drive fast down heavily populated sidewalks in GTA games? Oops.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 11:56 AM
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Go to the doctor or naturopath and get some blood work done to rule out if it’s a lack of vitamins or whatever. Rule out other physical ailments. If all is good on that front, seek psychological care. Nothing wrong with asking for help understanding what’s going on with mood changes.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/23 01:41 AM
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We can’t make the decision for you. I think you know what’s going to be best for your sanity, your parenting, and your child’s future.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 05:49 AM
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I know beautiful, I didn’t mean that as an insult. I’ve been there too, trying to change so that I can appease him so he’ll stop hurting me. But we need to take people at face value. If they hurt us, there’s someone out there who won’t. If we’re so attached to someone that we stay despite them hurting us (and make no mistake, it’s attachment not love), then obviously they suck… but why did we stay? It’s not an easy question because it comes across like we’re blaming the victim, to be honest it m…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 04:53 PM
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It sounds like some part of you thought that by trying to appease him, you could change his mood and behaviour. In a codependent way, this is controlling too.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 03:59 PM
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Uh, I think you’re projecting or at least filling in a lot of blank spaces. One of my deal breakers is disrespect. People can fight but still be respectful.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 03:50 PM
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Thank you for explaining how things get done in your family, it sounds like each person uses their natural strengths but you did a great job at highlighting how strengths change with life circumstances. A good partnership adapts together to life circumstances, then. Beautiful!
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/23 12:12 PM
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Yay, I’m happy for you both!
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/23 04:41 AM
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Lmao hand over the notebook you weirdo!! No just kidding, I wouldn’t think twice if I saw something writing in their notebook or tapping away on their phone in public. You do whatever makes sense to your brain as you learn new skills. My only suggestion is to spread the love and give compliments when the inspiration strikes! I found my favourite coat by striking up a conversation with a stranger over how fabulous their fashion is. They even let me know it was on sale, bless them.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/23 03:56 AM
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Why did you decide to embrace your feminine side? How has it impacted your life for the better? Maybe the answers to those questions could be useful for him to know. It can be quite the change and some people are programmed to worry about when the other shoe is going to drop instead of enjoying the moment. Maybe sharing parts of your journey would help him feel more secure about this being something you’re doing for you and him, instead of something to trick him. For example, you could share som…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/23 03:49 AM
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Ah, verbal abuse. Look up the “cycle of abuse” and the “power and control wheel”. Great things to start educating yourself on so you can decide for yourself whether this relationship is a good choice. A deescalation phrase I use in my work: “I’m happy to talk to you when you’re able to speak respectfully to me, I can’t have a conversation when you’re calling me names” The point is to identify the harmful behaviour (name calling), ask for what you need (calm, respectful communication) so that he …
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/23 04:43 AM
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Low self esteem, putting others on a pedestal
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 02:28 PM
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Oof, I think we found the problem.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/23 03:36 PM
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Keep up or make friendships. Have women in your life who have healthy relationships and can be role models for you. Be as authentic to yourself as possible. Don’t act a certain way or try to be perfect out of fear of rejection. See rejection as a blessing in the dating phase, it stops you from investing any more in someone who’s incompatible. Be mindful of your values (for example, I value straight forwardness, integrity, and tolerance, among others) and observe whether you share values with the…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/23 02:51 AM
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Good for you, beautiful! My dignity wasn’t intact lol I begged for him to take me back. Don’t make the same mistake as me! Thank god he didn’t because it feels so different and so much better when someone really wants to be with you and grow with you. I’m proud of you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 11:47 PM
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Lol he sounds like he’s breaking up with you in that quote, except because he’s not actually breaking up with you I guess he’s sticking around because he likes what you give him. I’ve definitely been in your situation where I’ve been with someone who just wasn’t that into me. We saw each other at most twice a week and I asked for three but he wasn’t willing to do that. I had a lot of issues so I took some time to be by myself and developed my spirituality and friendships. Eventually someone deci…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 09:46 PM
4

He said he’s more secure than you? Even if that’s true that seems rude to say.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 05:03 PM
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Join r/leaves! Great group. Edit: for the record I’ve been clean and sober for 11 months and my spiritual connection has never been stronger. I attend aa and do the 12 steps to help develop spiritually as well (marijuana anonymous is a thing too). With weed it was super hard to stay stopped. Impacted my dating life for sure, including turning off a perfectly decent partner from me. Feel free to msg if you’ve got any questions.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 02:26 PM
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We’ll have to agree to disagree.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 08:50 AM
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When women stay with men who hurt them, it’s usually because they lack self respect. You haven’t said your husband is keeping you locked up in the house, so I assume you’re staying because you lack self respect. If you respected yourself, maybe you’d see how much you have to offer and be more hopeful about a future without your current husband? Or maybe you’d stay with him but accept him for who he is and not let his actions have so much power over you. It’s not meant to be an insult, it’s just …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 01:57 AM
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Thanks for saying what I was thinking. I’ve never had the experience of a man forgetting my birthday, I just can’t imagine someone being so careless.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 05:31 PM
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I don’t think you were denigrated just because they assumed you have trauma.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 11:11 PM
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Nothing sexier than being gaslit. But seriously, save yourself the heart and headache. It sounds like he’s lovebombing you now.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 11:29 PM
1

Here we go with the generalizing...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 06:14 PM
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Yeah, bend time why don’t you, don’t you know you’re only valuable when you’re young and naive?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/20 04:54 AM
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The confirmation bias is strong with this one
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/20 04:53 AM
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Depends on the incentive to interact. I’m not necessarily talking about looks. RBF isn’t genetic. I use it when I want to keep others at arms length (which isn’t often, usually I’m feeling threatened and need to look like I don’t want to engage/am uninterested). If you look friendly, I’m more likely to be friendly. If you share an interesting thought with the class, maybe it’ll inspire me to talk about that with you. Also it’s a two way street. If I ask you for a pen and all you do is shake your…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/20 04:47 AM
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As a tattoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:38 AM
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B-b-but it wasn’t ViOLeNt!!1!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 12:56 AM
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I wouldn’t regret reporting if I actually got justice. Imagine reporting and being told it was your fault, or that it’s not your fault but it’s also not his (wtf). And then being sent along to live day by day with the knowledge that rapists live in your society alongside you, consequence free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:59 PM
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The “justice” system is more trauma, a second rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:54 PM
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My bad I forgot only tall and strong men rape
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 02:05 AM
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You’re pissed at women treating you like shit but instead of raising your standards to attract someone who cares about you (say no to being cucked), you assume all women are going to treat you like shit and isolate yourself. Who hurt you bro
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 02:04 AM
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So incels rationalize putting women in danger cause it gets them what they want? /shocked pikachu
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 02:02 AM
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Google the difference between anecdotal evidence and empirical evidence, then google which one is better for scientific research
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 01:27 AM
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If you think that’s a straw man argument are you’re getting cucked by an underwear model who doesn’t even care about the girl you want... maybe you’re the one who needs higher standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 01:24 AM
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It’s only impossible to breed incels out because they seem most likely to commit rape
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 01:23 AM
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Pretty sure women had that idea long ago
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 01:22 AM
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The rape threats in this thread are palpable
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 01:19 AM
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Us women aren’t capable of critical thought silly, we were made to serve the status quo. Women with opinions are denying their true desire: to be exploited! /sssss
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 01:13 AM
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Personally I’d rather be alone than be raped by some entitled manchild so go fucking nuts with the robot pussy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 01:09 AM
2

So why don’t femcels and incels just get together?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 01:05 AM
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Men who think they’re entitled to sex with women, abusive!? Say it ain’t so!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 01:03 AM
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Quoting three men proves what point about feminism exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 01:01 AM
1

Google confirmation bias
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 05:50 AM
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Your break up must have been tough and she sounded like a shitty person for having you as her side piece while you were into her... but she’s not every woman who ever was, is, or will be
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 05:44 AM
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... sounds like you’re the one who needs standards and you’re projecting tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 05:42 AM
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When I think of value, I think of my catholic upbringing: if you have premarital sex you’re a whore. Nobody will love you because you’re used up, loose, damaged goods, etc. When I think of risk, I think of the emotional impact of having sex with someone who isn’t as invested as you are, the emotional/physical impact of STIs, and of course the emotional impact from an abortion or financial/emotional impact from being a single mother Just my take on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 02:24 PM
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It depends what you mean by looking. Making eye contact while talking to me is obviously fine. Staring at my ass/boobs/waist is creepy, I don’t fucking know you. Consider environment and relationship status. Are you my husband? My coworker? Are we having dinner with my mother? Passing by each other on the street? Making small talk at the water cooler? Play it safe and just make eye contact. Better to be accused of being overly polite than being a pervert. Ps: If you encounter a lady complaining …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 02:13 PM
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I always assume staring = objectifying, but here you’ve proven me wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 01:51 PM
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From what I’ve observed, fds sees sex as a greater risk to the female than it is to the male. Different than value imo
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 01:18 PM
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