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Yyeeaahh... Sexism cuts both ways. My husband's family won't praise his cooking because it's "women's work," so they're too irritated that he cooked at all to appreciate his cooking.
/r/MensRights31/03/18 06:22 PM
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That's why I don't think it's just bitching for the sake of bitching. They want help.
/r/MensRights21/02/18 02:28 AM
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I believe this subreddit has been increasing it's moderation which is why I've perceived it as less hostile over the years. It is a fine line. It is important in a support group for people to feel heard and express their feelings. It is common for someone to get hurt and then fear everyone like the person who hurt them could do it, too. And in a support group like this, that can end up with a lot of misogynistic views. But you don't want to outright silence them as that will make them feel even …
/r/MensRights20/02/18 11:37 PM
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That was what hit me the most when I watched "Making a Murderer." It seemed like with their family they communicated mainly in emotion rather than words. It really is a huge difference.
/r/MensRights20/02/18 10:39 PM
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I'm trying to find the right words. I think one metric on the term "maturity" may be "less divisive." There are people who don't feel they are getting the "men's rights" support from one community nor the other. I have been following this sub for many many years. Many years ago there was a bit of a hostility problem.
/r/MensRights20/02/18 10:37 PM
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If this is assuredly not a thing, why would there be an attempted to charge Tyson assault with a deadly weapon...?
/r/MensRights20/02/18 08:47 PM
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It is hard. It should be worked on. And if it is continued to be worked on change can happen -- we've seen it time and time again. But it is also depressing as hell to have to fight for some of these things that seem like a fundamental right to exist, and hearing arguments against what seems like a fundamental right to exist. And facing that sometimes is just even fucking harder.
/r/MensRights20/02/18 07:51 PM
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Gah, I got into MRA because I hate the "othering" effect. I hated as a woman being "othered" as this separate being, or species, or whatever. But then feminism grows and grows and grows, and what do they do? They turn around and "other" men! ARGH!! HULK SMASH!! I don't want ANY of us to be "othered". Can't we just be fucking human beings??? After all these years, I still haven't come up with a better word to describe this phenomenon than "othering". But it's this "us and them" perspective. They'…
/r/MensRights20/02/18 07:45 PM
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Hopefully both MensLib and Men's Rights will eventually grow and mature enough so that they can support each other. This sub definitely has over the years, so there's hope those in MensLib can, too. I started following r-MensLib because I felt things were a little too hostile here (that has since changed). But I got annoyed because things seemed too passive over there (not the best description of how I felt but can't think of something better). I tried to figure out what was so different between…
/r/MensRights20/02/18 07:38 PM
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Hopefully both MensLib and Men's Rights will eventually grow and mature enough so that they can support each other. This sub definitely has over the years, so there's hope those in MensLib can, too. I started following /r/MensLib because I felt things were a little too hostile here (that has since changed). But I got annoyed because things seemed too passive over there (not the best description of how I felt but can't think of something better). I tried to figure out what was so different betwee…
/r/MensRights20/02/18 07:30 PM
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Ahh, English getting in the way of clear communication ;)
/r/MensRights20/02/18 07:12 PM
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The problem is getting someone who can afford that :( and unfortunately at that crime level, there are tremendously more people who can't afford to appeal it than there are people who can. And mind you, "affording" is more than just cash on hand. Court cases also cost time, social capital, and opportunities.
/r/MensRights20/02/18 07:10 PM
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Yes, actually, trained fighters are held to a higher standard. They are basically considered weapons. I first found out about this because I knew a woman who was a trained fighter and had a much harsher punishment because she beat up some guys who were harassing her. The argument I was told was, "You're trained. You should have known better and held back and not sent them to the hospital." It was also the back story for ConAir - he was in jail at all because he was a trained fighter and should h…
/r/MensRights20/02/18 07:04 PM
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Continuing to use sexist terminology can lead to excluding the other sex. "Parent's love" is a suitable gender-neutral replacement.
/r/MensRights08/12/17 09:28 PM
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I never interpreted the title as a complaint. I interpreted it as a symbol that the mother doesn't care enough about her child to assist with financial support.
/r/MensRights08/12/17 09:24 PM
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That's so horrible.
/r/MensRights12/07/17 04:17 PM
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This isn't a gendered issue. Male, female, and transgendered people all have this problem.
/r/MensRights12/07/17 11:57 AM
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Understanding why people do the things they do is not excusing the things they do. Understanding why is the first step towards figuring out how to prevent or encourage something.
/r/MensRights12/07/17 11:56 AM
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The culture we're raised in shapes our impulses. We don't break out of it until we become aware enough to realize what's happening, and then work hard to break those bad habits.
/r/MensRights11/07/17 10:14 PM
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My husband and I have these discussions all the time. He keeps trying to overwork himself and I keep trying to get him to pull back a bit and take care of himself. Sometimes I'll go so far as to dragging him to the couch and putting his favorite TV show on! He can't resist and it gets him to relax for a few hours. We talk about what he's working on and why and try to explore ways he can pull back, or point out what isn't that important, or how I can step in and help him out. Unfortunately, our s…
/r/MensRights11/07/17 07:34 PM
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People seem to default to try to "force" their way through aggressive tactics. It's sadly a pervasive phenomenon across society. But a lot of times approaching an issue more gently or from a different direction altogether is actually more effective.
/r/MensRights11/07/17 07:27 PM
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Humans have a natural survival instinct. We don't kill ourselves within an hour of the first sign of adversity.
/r/MensRights05/06/17 03:47 PM
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I think you'd wait longer than 30 minutes to kill yourself, though. In comparison, it took weeks/months for one of the Reddit founders to kill himself after that prosecutor kept threatening him with trumped up charges. This boy not only had a zero sense of safe haven, he had zero sense in justice. At his age, that complete distrust in justice came from his parents.
/r/MensRights05/06/17 03:09 PM
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I had more sex at 16 than I do now at 36!
/r/MensRights31/05/17 05:53 AM
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Psychologically speaking, the boy's experiences with consequences was more likely the opposite than these commentors are assuming. If the boy had been raised in a secure environment, he would feel safe in the hope that his parents would help him figure this out and navigate his way through this problem. But his immediate suicide occuring moments before his parents arrival demonstrates an insecure feeling regarding his parents. They were not a safe haven for him. Death felt more safe than his par…
/r/MensRights31/05/17 05:50 AM
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The issues coming up around using sobriety for consent is because it's approaching the problem in the wrong direction. Or just the laziest path. The problem society is attempting to address is predators using a lack of sobriety to take advantage of people. Culturally we think it's wrong to purposely target people who are not of sound mind for your own advantage (hence elder rights, for example). Now, a predator can still be a predator while drunk, so we don't want to outright dismiss the actions…
/r/MensRights24/05/17 02:38 AM
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Eehhh, we don't have enough information to call the guy a tit. We have no idea what happened in their relationship. He has total rights to say he doesn't want to have a child with her, and the court agreed. EDIT: just realized you're the same poster who said you actually know the guy in question. Therefore, yes, yes you do have enough information to call him a tit ;)
/r/MensRights12/04/17 07:36 PM
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Aww, I feel for the woman. The courts made the right decision, though. The couple really shouldn't have used 100% of her eggs for embryos. When I was 31 I was going to freeze eggs (but my OB talked me out of it saying I was too old. Besides, it is crazy expensive). He immediately said it would be better to store embryos not eggs because frozen embryos have better longetivity than eggs. In my romantic perspective, it never occurred to me to do anything other than to fertilize them all. My partner…
/r/MensRights12/04/17 06:54 PM
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What if there actually was a micro payment system out there? Like a company who handles the payment systems, then content providers integrate it into their websites, and customers were automatically billed 1 to 10 cents for access to the article. It could probably cost people $10-$30 per month, which might be worth it for higher quality content across the internet.
/r/MensRights13/03/17 12:36 AM
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First, don't talk to the police. Second, get a lawyer. Get a good one. Take out a loan if you have to because it'll be worth every penny. Third, go to your doctor and try to get some anti-anxiety meds. Work on calming meditation techniques. Look up and try DBT techniques to help you keep calm.
/r/MensRights01/03/14 08:21 PM
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A huge gender gap is that women can look to their future and see lifestyle choices, while a man looks to his future limited to only a career-based lifestyle.
/r/MensRights01/03/14 08:16 PM
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prison rape is a feature and not a bug Perfect analogy.
/r/MensRights01/03/14 06:59 PM
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Its not psychological rape, its just sexual harassment. Fuckin'a, not everything is a shade of rape.
/r/MensRights28/02/14 07:11 PM
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Simply because it was odd. Regardless of what we want to exist, there does still exist a strong current towards men making sure they are courteous to women (even though it should not be gender specific). A thought I had while writing it but didn't express was the possibility of a "courteousness backlash" where if "chivalry is too gender specific" that it could mistakenly swing from "no need to be chivalrous" to "no need to be courteous." Americans just don't cut in line, for example, regardless …
/r/MensRights24/02/14 09:17 AM
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You do realize common courtesy can exist without taking gender into account, right?
/r/MensRights24/02/14 08:43 AM
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Ok, there ARE some creepy men out there who are against you just for being a woman, but THEY ARE RARE. No need for all men to kow tow to the insecurities you developed from the one or two you encountered in your life. These are also the same type of people who put off other men, too, so it isn't that hard to get them out of your life if you're actually civil about it and don't paint all of one gender with the same brush.
/r/MensRights24/02/14 08:40 AM
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I've found the best way to find out the honesty of a partner is to be entirely unrestrictive. It's worked for me!
/r/MensRights24/02/14 07:30 AM
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I help anyone struggling regardless of gender. Just recently I helped a male construction worker pick up a bunch of rods that fell off his cart while crossing the street. Admittedly, he seemed a bit shocked that a small woman was the one who helped him out of all the people who passed us by. Somewhat relatedly, I had a weird episode of several different men "taking" a seat I should have had the right to take on a bus. I'm by no means saying women first! I'm talking common courtesy in respecting …
/r/MensRights24/02/14 05:10 AM
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Generally I find the best way to get something I want is to take proactive action myself rather than try to get someone else to do it. It can also be more effective to use your action to effect the psychology of someone to motivate them to do something rather than outright asking or ordering. In short, I don't find it offensive for an advise column to suggest you taking action to fix something.
/r/MensRights21/02/14 04:38 PM
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I don't like being on top too long 'cause my knees start to hurt.
/r/MensRights21/02/14 04:34 PM
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It's interesting, but I do believe that ensuring there is not a gender disparity was not previously focused on. For example, my grandmother's doctor told her that her knee replacement would be a lot better since they actually make female knees now. Previously they assumed that what worked for men would automatically work for women. I don't blame that assumption because, hey, joints are joints and we're all human, right? Plus the advancement of joint care has been pushed by the professional sport…
/r/MensRights09/02/14 04:21 PM
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Sounds to me like a gay rights issue :/
/r/MensRights06/02/14 06:59 PM
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Because you apparently think I don't understand what a woman can or cannot understand. At this point you seriously appear to be arguing for the point of arguing. I explained an experience. You responded that I was making an invalid comparison (that was not the comparison I was making). I explained the point I was making. You said my point wasn't the point… clearly going off topic trying to talk about the point of victim blaming rather than the point of my comment. I explain that I should know th…
/r/MensRights03/02/14 04:42 PM
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Uh huh. You do realize I'm a woman, right? Not everything that comes out of a man's mouth is automatically wrong… especially when you didn't realize you weren't talking to a man.
/r/MensRights03/02/14 04:16 PM
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That's just what you think the point is. Not just what I think, that's what it is. I was explaining the point I was making, because you clearly didn't get it. But, you're just proving my point anyways.
/r/MensRights03/02/14 04:08 PM
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Grr you're giving me flashbacks. So, my friend suddenly breaks up with her boyfriend and doesn't say why. Shortly after, I break up with my boyfriend because he raped me - we weren't having sex in the relationship, and then he tied me up, kneeled on my thighs to minimize my flailing and the raped me. I tell her he raped me, but she never asked details and I never volunteered. Then she gets REAL CLOSE with my now ex. Whenever there is a conflict between hanging out with me or him, she chooses him…
/r/MensRights03/02/14 06:49 AM
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Reddit fudges vote counts. We can't actually know if there have been downvotes from anything other than mistakes and bots.
/r/MensRights03/02/14 05:48 AM
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The point is not about a comparison of the crime. The point is the difficulty explaining that people have a degree of responsibility to protect themselves from crime. If it was so difficult to have that discussion with regards to theft, it will be magnitudes more difficult to have that discussion in regards to rape.
/r/MensRights03/02/14 05:32 AM
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The issue is black and white thinking. All or nothing. It is as if any crime can ONLY be one person's fault,100%. I was standing on one of the most dangerous street corners in the city reading my tablet. Some guy came up and snatched it from me. When I later said it was dumb that I had my tablet out, some people said it was wrong that I was victim blaming. I told them just because I did nothing to protect myself did NOT take away any of the wrong from the thief. This was difficult for people to …
/r/MensRights02/02/14 08:27 PM
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Yes, I know there exists people who have hellish communication issues with their spouse. I don't personally know any of them, but I know they exist in abundance. But having hellish communication issues NOW doesn't mean someone has to let the trend continue! Granted, it will take nuance and patience to fix the problem, but it isn't an impossible situation.
/r/MensRights01/02/14 02:07 AM
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The assumption that you need to go to school for a career is very limiting. I haven't worked in any career that I got my BS in, and yet I make 6 figures. I am now yet again moving into a different career and starting my own business. There are many options out there. Just have to be creative to figure them out.
/r/MensRights01/02/14 01:59 AM
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I don't get it. Children are children, why would anyone care about what gender they are? I don't see any value in an NGO limiting their assistance to one gender.
/r/MensRights31/01/14 02:56 PM
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Well, rape had a much tighter definition before the women's rights movement. Things like dating someone, making out with them, etc, were considered forms of consent and revoking consent not a valid reason for defining rape. So, the cultural policy started with disbelief and has moved towards belief and a wider definition of rape - too wide in many cases. But yes, police are on the front lines and will face many more false rape cases than most other demographics.
/r/MensRights31/01/14 02:47 PM
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I think you need to be honest with your wife and tell her that your job is making you miserable. The two of you need to talk and work together to figure out an alternative means of income. You need to work on this sooner than later because you have many more options when you can take years to transition rather than months. With the way it is making you feel now, you WILL burn out so you need to take action. I brought in 60% to 70% of our income for the past several years. But for reasons that do…
/r/MensRights31/01/14 02:28 PM
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I think it is a hold over from what caused the original societal discrimination against women: they're weaker, meaker, motherly, too busy. I don't think these people realize that the opinion that men are worse than women comes from a thinking that women are too weak/meak, and is just as discriminatory an opinion against women.
/r/MensRights28/01/14 08:32 PM
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Its a known phenomena caused by narcissism. When the mask is aimed towards their family and the identity becomes irrevocably damaged there is a drive to kill the family so they don't see past the cracks in the mask. Often they kill themselves, too, but not always.
/r/MensRights05/01/14 04:41 PM
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This all sounds like trolling to me. I can't imagine anyone seriously believing that with the gall enough to state it publicly in association with men's rights.
/r/MensRights03/11/13 04:31 PM
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Purely voluntarily is right. I am a woman and don't do any of this. I rarely wear makeup, and god forbid trying to fake a tan. I buy some new clothes probably once every other year, and they fit so I can be comfortable both physically and self consciously. Any work put into looking good has a large impact on all areas of life, the most important being at work. That gives a much more cost benefit return than merely looking good to attract men. As for having a baby, the costs are shared between th…
/r/MensRights18/08/13 03:03 PM
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Well, that's nice to think when I let guys have the seat and open doors for them that they could appreciate it.
/r/MensRights22/07/13 06:17 AM
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1) It is a financial sink hole. Although monthly costs may be less, there are instances of very large expenses. 2) It binds you to that location. It is difficult to offload a property so you can relocate. The lack of relocation then cuts the person off from opportunities that can help their lives. When a person needs to relocate the most, they will likely be unable to afford it due to their money being caught up in the house. The big problem here is really the young buying homes and locking them…
/r/MensRights12/07/13 06:01 AM
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Interesting... My first question was going to be whether or not this information is made available on the user's public profile. I could see how someone making a lot of money may seem more attractive -- such as how they look, effectively how they are groomed. They may have more access to activities that require more free cash and will then have more to discuss. Their careers may convey the person has an interesting trait, like lawyer or doctor being believed to be smart and worldly. But, anecdot…
/r/MensRights12/07/13 12:54 AM
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I don't understand this blanket hatred of a gender. Of males in particular, one would only have to look at my boyfriend to see someone who's life is virtually devoid of any motivation around sex or power or greed. And he isn't alone. The vast majority of the men who are close to me are similar. Complex human beings who love and desire to be loved. We're ALL complex human beings with many facets to ourselves. And it is unbelievable to me how many people are blinded to that.
/r/MensRights20/06/13 05:49 PM
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I was totally agreeing with the sentiment here that this accusation is coming out of left field and totally unfounded... But then I watched the video. I have to say, the comment did actually trigger an intense anxiety burst in me. So, in that regard, I can understand why these people think that something inappropriate occurred. However, I don't think it was as wrong as they are making it out to be. It really just simply warrants discussion: why is it triggering? What is the meaning of this phras…
/r/MensRights11/06/13 06:36 AM
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I'm sorry this has happened to you. I've felt this level of pain and anger for years as well. I hope that you'll be able to recover from it, too. It took me a long time and a lot of work, though. I looked through your comment history to see if I could find the answer to my question and I seem to have found it. I understand this seething anger, and you're likely going to have to push right through it. It isn't these specific people who have wronged you, its just people in general. Its the way hum…
/r/MensRights02/05/13 05:17 PM
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We're not talking about an entire industry. We're talking about two people with two large different incomes. In this specific case, the woman earns significantly less than the man. Therefore, in this very specific instance of these two people with very different incomes, the man just has to buy one set of very nice winter boots and coat to outspend her. I have no idea why you are pulling this into a global industry comparison when we are clearly comparing individuals with very different incomes.…
/r/MensRights01/05/13 03:15 PM
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The original argument is that since she pays less than 50/50 she doesn't deserve to complain since she clearly has "more money" already since she has less expenses, hence my break down that I believe she's playing damn close to 50/50 if not possibly more so. I've already gone in depth with you about the general money issue. Additional spending cash, actually, since she's getting "incidentals" covered as well. Again, we don't know what "incidentals" mean. I still wouldn't call it spending cash be…
/r/MensRights30/04/13 10:14 PM
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Nope, yours is more negative. Instead of one partner who isn't capable of managing finances and another who is trying to compensate, we have the "abusive husband" go to. Really? I didn't consider it an abusive husband scenario. I really see it as a misunderstanding all around. Its a conflict of theory in addition to a conflict of emotional needs. These are very common situations that occur in all relationships of all sorts, and I wouldn't consider that abusive. Incidentally, why should his money…
/r/MensRights30/04/13 10:05 PM
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Your link does not show "hell would have to freeze over". And... with a spending disparity as is exampled by this entire topic, it is entirely possible. Throw in a nice set of winter boots and coat and you've quickly outspent someone who is on a tight budget.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 09:34 PM
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All is fair in love and war. What I think is critical is that the emotional needs of each partner need to be met in order to the relationship to maintain a healthy status over the long term. As long as each partner feels satisfied and content then all is well. Once either of them is unsatisfied and discontent then it is not well -- it doesn't really matter why. If they can be happy in something I might personally think is unfair, I can't fault them for that or demand that they should change. It …
/r/MensRights30/04/13 07:53 PM
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I think hell would have to freeze over for the average husband to spend more on clothes than his wife. It may be because I live in a city, or because I hang out in some affluent circles or affluent-wannabes... but... yeah. I meet men who know their brands. Ok, the engineer who knows his brands is TOTALLY unrealistic ;) But, the doctors, lawyers, businessmen, salesmen, designers -- oh hell yeah.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 07:44 PM
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Its the difference in spending money that is the issue, not the difference in bills paid. A "few hundred" in spending money is a huge difference than a "few thousand" in spending money. Huge. And depending upon the behaviors involved, can make someone feel quite inferior in their own home. Additionally, we do not know if the husband in the OP is spending "the majority of the bills" or not given the unknown variable of the mortgage amount. My household spends $3k per month on joint expenses. $190…
/r/MensRights30/04/13 07:35 PM
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Are you saying that the higher earning partner is unfairly treated when partners share? That is the fundamental component of sharing something -- you do not have it while the other does. In the case of perishable items when used -- food, money -- that means you don't get it back. If the higher earning partner feels something is unfairly taken from them when they share then... well... there's an emotional conflict there that isn't going to be quite so easy to resolve.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 07:16 PM
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My set up is very similar, except that we consider gas (anything transportation-related) and eating out together as a joint expense. I also include vet bills, vacations, etc, under these sorts of expenses. I used to maintain a spending debit card, but I've since switched it over to a dedicated joint credit card. I then pay it off every month.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 06:53 PM
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I think this theory is jumping a little too far into the negative. In contrast, this is my theory. I'm actually seeing many different scenarios here based upon the many different personality types I've encountered.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 06:41 PM
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except the costs aren't split 50/50 she takes care of mortgage, and he takes care of the rest, it may be 50/50 but it may not be. i'd imagine that if car payments are included in "everything else" than it's not 50/50 either way he provides an allowance of sorts. 50/50 or not, the rest of my comment stands as is -- a few hundred vs a few thousand of spending money per month is huge and can cause difficulty. If they have one car, it is his car. If they have two cars, then, yes, he would have bough…
/r/MensRights30/04/13 06:28 PM
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Yes, yes and yes. And it is all understandable. However, this is not an issue for "MRA people" but for "people". People frequently disregard emotional aspects to situations and will prefer to pull back to facts and logic. Examples of this can be seen right here in almost every subreddit. It makes total sense. Emotions are complicated and it is unclear about what is right and what is wrong, so it makes a situation so much simpler to resolve by clearing out the emotional parts. People will also go…
/r/MensRights30/04/13 05:58 PM
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We have no idea what the earning difference here is. It could easily be a social worker earning $25k and an engineer earning $70k. With something like that while they're trying to split expenses 50/50, the social worker can easily end up with only $100 to $200 of spending money a month, while the engineer has closer to $2000 (I've had both incomes, so I'm going off memory). The more I think about this, the more I think the "discount stores" reference is about clothing. The engineer looks great w…
/r/MensRights30/04/13 04:05 PM
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They didn't agree in advance that this was how they were going to manage their finances. She said they got married having not discussed the arrangement. I get the impression she feels she has been swept along and found herself in this uncomfortable situation. BTW, paying a specific bill does not specify ownership. Often time people will share expenses by having one person pay one big bill, while another pays the smaller bills. Both their names can be on the mortgage, or even just his. Who pays w…
/r/MensRights30/04/13 03:27 PM
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As an American woman, I prefer uncut men. I, too, will not circumcise my son if I were to have one.
/r/MensRights27/04/13 09:46 PM
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Those dogs have something seriously wrong with them. I have done research on this training. They shouldn't be randomly biting people and tearing flesh out. It is seriously a bite and hold, they do not move around the body tearing out chunks, as what happened to one guy. And who is tearing the flesh out? The dog. A human isn't going to move themselves enough to tear large chunks of flesh, it is the dog pulling the flesh out of the human. One of these dogs even bit a police officer while he was ap…
/r/MensRights04/03/13 03:38 PM
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I am saying that the argument to restrict X due to its access to the mentally ill because its use by the mentally ill is dangerous to society is not an appropriate argument for the restriction of X. If the discussion you're having is about the restriction of X, using the mentally ill argument is not valid and should be taken off the table. If your discussion is about dangerous mentally ill people, using the restrict X argument would be like putting bubble gum in a hole on a dam that is going to …
/r/MensRights27/02/13 09:07 PM
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Ohhh, I see. My original comment was not intended to convey how I think she should be punished. I wanted to express how I felt. I was agitated at this woman when I had only read the title, but when I opened the article and saw her age was 22 it was like all the air was let out of the balloon. I had no more agitation or anger and just felt incredibly sad about the entire situation that she is at the center of. Yes, she is still a child in my eyes, yet she has entered adulthood and has had for sev…
/r/MensRights27/02/13 08:49 PM
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I do believe that even without the worry of punishment from police or God that people do not intend to harm others but rather to work with them. Based on us being social animals, our default intentions would lean towards behavior that would enhance social cohesion. Although this is definitely a core part where opinions are going to diverge -- do humans have morality because we are moral, or are we moral because we were instructed in the concepts of morality? I believe in the former.
/r/MensRights27/02/13 08:33 PM
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No, absolutely not. I believe that murphymc was referring to the recent push to control guns because mentally unstable people can use guns to harm people. However, this mentally unstable person did not use a gun and greatly harmed 11 people. I agree with that sentiment and believe that falsely accusing someone of rape can possibly be worse than killing the person. Basically, society shouldn't try to restrict the usage of tools that mentally unstable people use but rather treat the mentally unsta…
/r/MensRights27/02/13 04:33 PM
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When does it start? We become outraged when a 6 year old is labeled a sex offender because it is obvious they are too young. Additionally, it is obvious that they can learn and move beyond that behavior and be better people. If a 13 year old date raped their 13 year old partner, should we send that person to jail for the remaining part of their childhood? No, I don't believe so. Jail is enormously psychologically stunting to a young person and so rehabilitation really must be the primary focus f…
/r/MensRights27/02/13 04:27 PM
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Maybe, or maybe she's kept doing it because she got away with it when she was a kid. Despite "getting away with it" doing that sort of damage to another human being is still a form of sociopathy and shows significant focus on only the self and not enough attention to the effects of our actions on others, or the care to not want to harm others. People can "get away" with stealing from a nameless-faceless big box store, but crying rape on someone you know is a very different type of mentality. If …
/r/MensRights27/02/13 04:18 PM
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I find it interesting how different relationships work in regards to initiating sex. I've had relationships where you'd never ask and just go for it, and relationships where literally one always verbally says, "wanna have sex?" even after foreplay. I find the ubiquitousness of condoms to be an excellent means to verify consent. You grab the package and smile and your partner smiles, too, and there is this intense moment of mutual anticipation as the condom is applied. But, there are people who a…
/r/MensRights27/02/13 03:11 PM
1

I'm rather unbias gender-wise with my analysis about people's behavior. I've also recently written my analysis on Chris Dorner and the guy who threatened to sue the woman who got his dog back. I wouldn't have been nearly as lenient on this woman if she weren't 22. At 22 she's still a child in my eyes. I feel the system failed not only her, but us as well because she was let free to go on and hurt people. The more I have been understanding how much mental illness contributes to people's rages and…
/r/MensRights27/02/13 01:26 AM
2

However, manslaughter has a statue of limitations, which had long since passed in this case. She had only agreed to plead guilty to murder 2 in order to receive punishment in the face of the law saying that its been too long for her to be reasonably punished. Overall, the circumstances of this plea bargain are odd all around from both sides.
/r/MensRights26/02/13 06:06 PM
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This behavior starting at 13 and persisting throughout her teenage years is a pretty glaring clue she has severe problems caused by some trauma in her early childhood.
/r/MensRights26/02/13 06:02 PM
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Thing is it was likely manslaughter and not murder 2 in the first place. So its in the states favor they could jail her at all. The woman probably has borderline personality disorder.
/r/MensRights26/02/13 04:56 PM
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EXACTLY! She didn't use a gun, and she potentially destroyed 11 people's lives in a means worse than death. EDIT: There are most certainly times I am confused about public opinion. I thought this was a valid point, so I don't understand the downvotes. The mentally ill can wield unconventional weapons and they can be just as damaging.
/r/MensRights26/02/13 04:15 PM
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I was saddened when I found out this started when she was 13. I was expecting someone to at least be in their 40's or mid 30's. Its clear she has deep seated mental problems. And all this time that she has been doing this she has never received the mental health care she desperately needs which enabled her to do it again and again and again. Now she's just being tossed in jail yet again where her mental problems will be compounded, and she'll be released and probably go back to her old behaviors…
/r/MensRights26/02/13 02:49 PM
3

Oh, and the extra men die in combat.
/r/MensRights24/02/13 09:41 PM
1

In a star trek episode, they calculated that for a tiny colony to have enough genetic diversity to survive, all the women needed to bear children from three different men. The matriarch was quite amused at the idea of having three husbands.
/r/MensRights24/02/13 09:40 PM
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Exactly. It sucked for me as a tomboy because I had all these "crap toys" because no one could possibly fathom that I wanted a car set or legos or other "boy" toys. It was beyond their understanding of how the world worked.
/r/MensRights24/02/13 03:54 PM
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Geeze man, have a heart.
/r/MensRights24/02/13 03:26 PM
1

See my other comment as a reply to a sibling of your comment.
/r/MensRights24/02/13 02:50 AM
2

Hang out with people who are more your style, then you'll be more likely to meet women who are more your style. It may take longer, but more satisfying in the long run.
/r/MensRights23/02/13 06:19 PM
1

I do question that theory. Testosterone seems to "run a body harder" which causes it to expire sooner, but in a more abrupt fashion. I am doubtful that testosterone has a major influence on the chronic degradation of the body caused by age which is ultimately the main reason why older people lose their ability to work. Using that as my basis, my theory is that men and women chronically degrade at an equal rate, while men abruptly degrade at a higher rate. This increased likelihood of abrupt degr…
/r/MensRights23/02/13 05:12 PM
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My point is that they don't necessarily have the capability to even work a few years longer.
/r/MensRights23/02/13 04:32 PM
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Living longer doesn't mean mental and physical capabilities also last longer.
/r/MensRights23/02/13 03:59 PM
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I do not believe it is a crime level harassment, however, it could be against HR rules to spread false information for the intention of discrimination. In the least, she has demonstrated that she is poisonous to the work environment. Try to deal with it internally rather than externally. And next time, don't date in the workplace. You have already demonstrated that you can attract unstable people which means you have a high likelihood of having this or worse happen again.
/r/MensRights23/02/13 03:47 PM
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Its a little late explaining why I posted this, but what the hell. This is about hope. These are two people who put aside their differences and did something wonderful just for their kids. I wanted to show the other side of the divorce spectrum where both parents are honored equally. These types of relationships are out there, and we can achieve this. There is hope.
/r/MensRights22/02/13 04:04 PM
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'People SHOULD be afforded anonymity in rape trials - it's a human right.'
/r/MensRights20/02/13 07:28 PM
2

I suffer from severe phobias that perhaps a lot of these women are also suffering from. It is very possible that they are unwilling to accept that the problem is with themselves and instead believe that the fear originated from outside of themselves. And because they believe their fear is justified it makes it impossible to recover from.
/r/MensRights15/02/13 03:07 PM
2

For a long time, studies in heart disease featured male-only experimental groups and focused exclusively on the risk factors for men. Relatedly, this occurs in other medical research as well. My grandmother was told by her doctor that for a long time they did not understand why women did worse on knee replacements then men. Then they realized that artificial knee construction was not compatible for both sexes. They designed another artificial knee specifically for women and now women have compar…
/r/MensRights02/02/13 09:58 PM
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Ah ha... The key here is that they weren't married.
/r/MensRights24/01/13 12:35 PM
1

I've been thinking about this. So far I have come up with, "Forced genital-to-genital or genital-to-orifice contact, including forced penetration of an orifice by any means." This would cover PiV, PiA, fellatio, cullinugus and grinding, and it wouldn't matter who initiated or sexes involved.
/r/MensRights24/01/13 12:08 PM
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I don't agree with what you say, but I will defend with my life your right to say it.
/r/MensRights23/01/13 08:31 PM
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Yeah, really! I was so delirious and my male roommate took me to the ER. He said everyone was staring daggers at him and it was making him really nervous.
/r/MensRights22/01/13 06:27 PM
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Blech. I was running to catch the bus and tripped and fell and broke my arm, my eye socket and split my chin open. It was such a fucking PITA to get through any medical appointment without dealing with some asshole trying to convince me that someone beat me and I was lying about falling. What, a woman can't get hurt by any other means?! Ggrr.
/r/MensRights22/01/13 02:06 PM
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The big problem here is his question wasn't answered. He has every right to ask questions and pose theories, but no one even attempted to address any of his theories. Just as there are patriarchal societies where they see men as strong and women weak, there are matriarchal societies where they see women as strong and men weak (just found out the natives of Taiwan are that way!). The problem comes when this perspective becomes enforced, and at times forcefully and brutally. That's the issue. And …
/r/MensRights13/01/13 03:09 AM
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A person creating an image to their community of having a traditional family in the hope they will achieve happiness is the problem, and consumption plays right into it. Buy X to appear better, next step ????, then happiness! The commercial makes it seem easy, but real life isn't a TV show, movie, or commercial, and they can end up reinforcing unhealthy societal directions making progress slower (e.g. Why this sub thinks about ads at all). But that's practically ALL advertising - appealing to th…
/r/MensRights31/12/12 06:37 AM
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I don't think this one is a big deal. It isn't ideal, but isn't terrible. They are targeting a very specific market, stay-at-home moms (which is a different market from stay-at-home dads). When you target a specific market you are going to naturally exclude the other markets, so it is a fine line to not be too exclusive as to turn them off. Unfortunately, the mom market has a problem of turning off the dad market, and vice versa. And unfortunately, what appeals to women is different to what appe…
/r/MensRights30/12/12 06:39 PM
1

I saw a picture that said, "Welcome to California" and thought the same thing!
/r/MensRights23/12/12 09:02 PM
1

Actually, the phenomenon she is referring to is narcissism and a narcissistic rage. Both men and women of all class and background are susceptible to this.
/r/MensRights19/12/12 10:52 AM
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Yup, there are a ton of factors to consider. I just came across this example - it is a feminine quality to have less tolerance for that behavior. Take the case of the town that called in a well respected black researcher to study why black students were falling behind. The researcher concluded the black parents did less at-home support than white parents. The researcher was condemned. Sometimes people don't want to know. I think taking a look at the punk rock community to see why it is skewed is…
/r/MensRights15/12/12 06:49 PM
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Yes, I believe genders have a tendency to gravitate towards tasks and environments. I also believe gender is on a scale and that a single individual can be composed of bits and pieces of traits from either gender. As such, forcing conformity is wrong, and keeping spaces welcoming to people of either set of genitals, or mixes thereof, is important. This brings up the issue of female coders. Stereotypically coders are male. In the open source community, the Drupal project has the most female coder…
/r/MensRights15/12/12 05:26 PM
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I've heard examples of both genders, I believe, fairly equally.
/r/MensRights15/12/12 04:06 PM
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<sigh> This is utterly exhausting to me. You just cannot have one group be the sole responsibility to stand up for the rights of another group. Its silly. Feminism can say they want to move towards egalitarianism (which I find impossible with such a slanted term for the name of the movement) but it honestly baffles me that people keep saying repeatedly they are already standing up for everyone's rights. I haven't seen this all inclusiveness. At all. I'm a cis-woman, I've been invited into these …
/r/MensRights13/12/12 11:35 PM
1

Yes, getting a well paying job without a relevant degree or no degree is neigh impossible. And PHP is a lower paying language.
/r/MensRights08/12/12 06:55 PM
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I am a web developer and am rather well versed in the pay grades since I've done a fair amount of hiring in several parts of the US. If you can tell me which state and rural vs city you are in I can give you a better idea of the ranges in that location. Web development and design is a GIGANTIC range of skill sets and it all depends upon which skills you have. It goes from $20K to $90k in low-class metro areas (eg not New York or San Francisco) to $50k to $180k in the the mega class metro areas. …
/r/MensRights08/12/12 06:00 PM
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I'm glad to hear this.
/r/MensRights21/11/12 02:26 AM
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It's hard for me to read this because I've been in your shoes. To be told someone like you doesn't exist when you're sitting right there, to be watched over by someone who is supposed to support you and is doing nothing to help you, to feel alone, and isolated and ignored. It's traumatizing. I'm sorry you're going through this, and I can only hope that knowing that someone else understands what you're feeling can somehow make you feel less isolated.
/r/MensRights20/11/12 09:24 PM
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It is an incredibly offensive thing to say that reduces the complexity of men as humans to a trivial nature. That is the most misandry-laced statement I have heard in a long time. Fuck, not even my mobile-keyboard-autocomplete has misandry in its database.
/r/MensRights13/11/12 04:29 PM
1

That old? Wow. Doesn't surprise me, I've been doing research and making friends in the transgender community since 2003.
/r/MensRights12/11/12 06:46 AM
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Don't remember :-( I have another personal anecdote about how a MTF was furious with how a salesman was treating her when she was trying to buy a grill. The guy apparently kept dismissing her feature requests as if she didn't know what she was talking about. She couldn't believe it because she had not been treated like that before by a salesman.
/r/MensRights12/11/12 06:45 AM
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The experience of transgender and transexual individuals is incredibly enlightening as to the social and physical effects of gender. Not only does it bring to light the cultural differences but also the effect hormones have on our behavior. The writer in this article mentioned how after HRT it was easier to stop crying, and I have spoken to MTF who mention that estrogen makes it hard to not cry. That is a physical difference that has large social ramifications. To provide a contrast to the FTM p…
/r/MensRights11/11/12 04:15 PM
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I am not a mother. I think I've been influenced by being raised in a matriarchal women-superior-feminist family and noticed too many illogical and self-centered arguments.
/r/MensRights11/11/12 09:02 AM
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In this year before he has to start school, you could experiment and with each option for a few months at a time. If the non-custodial is getting all holidays, it would be good for you to feel the difference between having him every day vs a holiday. How would you feel missing most of Christmas break? Summer? Once he starts school it will be important for him to stay in that school system. Is one better than the other? Where would you be moving after your schooling? If into the father's district…
/r/MensRights11/11/12 08:30 AM
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Reminds me of the time when I was walking as a child, and this man was slowly driving down the street. He would go aways, stop, lean out of the car, smile at me, then slowly drive forward and repeat. He did it at least four times. I freaked and ran home. Turns out it was just some dude dropping off flyers in mailboxes. D'oh.
/r/MensRights10/11/12 12:15 AM
1

because obviously the man has worse communication skills than the woman Actually, I would disagree with this because women are more likely to be passive aggressive and use the silent treatment, or in the least beat-around-the-bush. Men are more likely to say straight up their thoughts.
/r/MensRights08/11/12 09:21 PM
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Yeah, I got angry about the spending-too-much-time-on-the-PC thing after talking about it ad nauseum. But I just hid the PC rather than destroy it.
/r/MensRights08/11/12 09:07 PM
1

On a related topic but to a much more minimal degree, my boyfriend and I have been noticing something "odd" with our counselor. My boyfriend keeps saying, "It seems like he just focuses on how I'm the perfect guy and a great person to be with." The OP has made me kind of reflect on this a little deeper. So, a big portion of our talks have been my emotional instability and how stressful that is for my boyfriend. We've talked about how I've been struggling for years to get myself into a stable sta…
/r/MensRights08/11/12 09:04 PM
1

Blatantly ignoring the social contract gets you ostrichsized from the culture you're interacting within. Now, figuring out WHAT the social contract entails is the hard part. Some are adept at grasping its intricacies (people person), while others have to work hard and study it (socially awkward), and others still have an inability to comprehend it (austistic). There are cases when people acknowledge some seemingly required activity which does not have an obvious logic to support it. Some will re…
/r/MensRights06/11/12 06:13 AM
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I live in San Francisco where random nudity is common. It seems to me that the social contract is to not stare, that if I am within 3 feet of a guy, I should not look obviously down at his cock. Its swinging in the breeze for all to see, but it would be inappropriate to look at this distance. I think it is not so much as don't look at people's sexual bits or good form, its more of that when you are within so many feet of someone, the focus is supposed to be on their eyes (people also get offende…
/r/MensRights05/11/12 03:56 PM
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That anecdote does not relate to my use case. I'm talking purely in a case where someone expects or believes they are owed something due to something else (e.g.: I just bought you dinner on our first date, we're supposed to have sex now). There are of course also cases where people just take whatever they want, irregardless to whether or not they expected it or felt owed (e.g.: you're in a vulnerable position that I can take advantage of with little risk). Its really a difference between people …
/r/MensRights04/11/12 11:37 PM
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Yes, I still hear of cases where someone expected sex due to XYZ condition (one of which being clothing). Although I didn't hear of rape in those cases, so I'm making the jump that there are people who exist who feel strongly when they expect something and will take it if not given (which I believe is a big source of date rape). edit: typo
/r/MensRights04/11/12 08:53 PM
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At my last office we had the opposite - - a unisex (formally women's) and a men's room. I didn't like it because men used the unisex as the "shitting bathroom" and so I frequently couldn't get into a stall for 15 min or so! Personally, I wished they had just made both unisex. I imagine they didn't, though, because the men's room had urinals.
/r/MensRights03/10/12 05:32 PM
1

I felt that way as a child. Today, as an adult, I'm trying to build a relationship with my father from scratch.
/r/MensRights26/06/12 05:05 AM
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I can tell you as a child I said I did not want visitation with my father ONLY to make my mother stop crying.
/r/MensRights25/06/12 03:56 PM
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I think humans are naturally self centered and most people don't put in the effort to think about these things. ALSO, humans learn social interaction unconsciously rather than consciously, so it would not only require someone to think outside of themselves, but to also think through social behavior.
/r/MensRights15/05/12 04:11 AM
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Yes. My biggest problem with admitting to myself that I was raped was the fear I had of my identity being altered to that of "victim". I still keep it under wraps, though, 'cause its just one of those things that paint you a different color in the eyes of others.
/r/MensRights12/05/12 06:33 AM
1

Yeah, it takes talent to mask your frustrations during an argument, but its a good talent to foster.
/r/MensRights30/04/12 05:48 PM
1

Gender-based door holding drives me nuts. I don't expect it, so we end up in the wrong positions for having the guy I'm with easily open a door for me, so then we end up tripping over each other. Really awkward. THEN, I finally learn how to properly position myself so I don't trip over a guy I'm with, and it ends up being second nature to position myself properly after a few months in a row of continuously having a guy I'm with insist on opening the door for me... and I go out with a new guy, an…
/r/MensRights30/04/12 05:45 PM
1

I think your wording was too strong for trying to get someone to change their worldview. It doesn't take much for a narcissist to enter a narcissistic rage, so in situations like that it would be best to minimize inflammatory wording.
/r/MensRights30/04/12 05:33 PM
2

I definitely knew something was wrong when my grandmother said that she would disown her own grandson and treat his wife as her real flesh and blood if they were to ever divorce.
/r/MensRights27/04/12 09:22 PM
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I grew up in a family of misandrists. Their logic made no sense, causing me to think a lot about men and their place in the world. I eventually saw the misandry for what it was and basically became a MRA before I even knew the movement existed.
/r/MensRights27/04/12 05:55 AM
0

I want to provide 5 more upboats, but I only have one.
/r/MensRights02/04/12 01:35 AM
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Sheesh, I've been trying to get people to understand the "tribe" mentality they are stuck in for years. So refreshing to see someone else point it out!
/r/MensRights10/03/12 05:00 PM
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Women's rights activists have their share of misandrists, too. Its human nature, some people take things too far with the bad things they have experienced. Just as Women's rights movement should not be painted over by the few misandrists, the Men's rights movement should not be painted over due to the few misogynists. There are just so many times I just want to scream at people, "We're all just fucking human beings, suffering from fucking human emotions, and we cannot all be expected to be fucki…
/r/MensRights10/03/12 04:56 PM
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This is a long way to say, yes, another supportive XXer. I used to be wary of prenups, until a friend of mine who was getting one said, "We want to agree on these terms while we still love each other." It blew me away, and has stuck with me. Having this reddit keep me informed of the loopholes men fall through makes me feel for my boyfriend (and hopeful husband) both that he is lucky to have someone like me, and concerned about him potentially ending up with someone else who doesn't have fairnes…
/r/MensRights10/03/12 04:30 PM
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I was raised by two female parents (mother and grandmother), and I may have come out OK. I am a bit crazy, though. OK, maybe I didn't come out OK. But who's to tell? My whole family is crazy, and I'm the most sane. I had several positive male figures in my pre-teen childhood, and then my grandmother served as a stabilized rational resource for my teenage years and 20's.
/r/MensRights08/03/12 06:18 PM
3

One theory I heard is that mothers/women help children with internal and family life, while fathers/men help children with external and social life. Which parenting style is best depends upon the stage of development the child is in, with younger children benefiting more from motherly parenting, and older children benefiting from fatherly parenting.
/r/MensRights08/03/12 06:11 PM
2

Unfortunately, testosterone makes you more angry (hence yelling) while estrogen makes you more weepy (hence meltdowns). Neither are good situations, though, so its just better for everyone in a work place to stop those situations before they get heated.
/r/MensRights11/02/12 03:38 PM
0

Another thing to think about is not just about non-STD protection, but also purposely damaged STD protection. I have heard of cases where both men and women have purposely damaged a condom and passed on STDs and gotten pregnant.
/r/MensRights16/09/11 09:02 PM
1

Aye, I see that. I just also see a lot of discrimination of different flavors and think it is important to emphasize it. People just have no problem discriminating against the majority, no matter how hurtful and detrimental, as if the individual should bare the burdens merely for being part of the perceived majority.
/r/MensRights17/07/11 10:20 PM
1

Discrimination is a-ok when it isn't happening to the perceived majority. FTFY
/r/MensRights17/07/11 09:17 PM
8

Well, there's a big difference between preference to a person in high heels and preference to an elderly person. They can take their damn high heels off.
/r/MensRights09/10/10 05:52 PM
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The elderly, children and pregnant women are all much more likely to become ill or injured than other healthy adults. It's not about life-worth, but that as a healthy adult you have a more likely ability to emerge unscathed than they do.
/r/MensRights09/10/10 05:40 PM
10

I never understood this. I have a friend who has joint custody... in fact, the child spends more time at his house than the mother's house. Yet, he has to pay full child support to the mother. Makes no sense at all... with joint custody, neither should be paying child support.
/r/MensRights03/10/10 05:23 PM
4

many women still don't like to get annual examinations For breast examinations, they squish the FUCK out of your breasts. It's painful as hell. Then they gotta do it again to the other breast... No one wants to look forward to a finger-up-the-ass examination. I know I hate pap smears - to the point of not getting one in 5 years despite having a history of bad paps - because it is just nasty to lay down, have my legs wrapped up in stirrups and expose my cooch to some random person's face. Then be…
/r/MensRights10/11/09 01:39 AM
2

Its really because everyone loves boobs, while everyone is very shy about their ass. On top of that, we have a culture where men are more reserved about their problems, including health problems. One of the reasons why men have lower health insurance is not because they're healthier, but because they just don't go to the doctor. Combine general reservations about exposing what is ailing them, with a global reservation about one's own ass, and you get a whole section of people who don't want to t…
/r/MensRights09/11/09 09:29 PM
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I always use two forms of contraception. I wouldn't trust either of us to always take the pill, just from simple forgetfulness.
/r/MensRights04/10/09 08:02 PM
3

This is one of the questions I ask myself when people keep saying that "If you believe in true equality, then you're a Feminist! You're a Feminist and you don't even know it!" If it was about true equality, why is the term slanted towards Women's Rights? My personal philosophy is to put gender aside completely (I am a transsexual supporter, too).
/r/MensRights20/09/09 06:01 PM
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You can say that Feminism is about 100% equality as much as you want, but until you eradicate the Feminazi's from your ranks it will always be unbalanced.
/r/MensRights20/09/09 05:50 PM
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Yeah, I've heard that a million times. Its what they all say. But then to get involved at all I'd have to sift through and deal with a tidal wave of feminazi arguments. Thanks, but no thanks. Mens Rights may have a splash of misogyny here or there, but Feminism is like dousing yourself with boiling tar of misandry.
/r/MensRights20/09/09 03:20 PM
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The feminazi's are why I refuse to align myself with the feminist movement. I just try to sidestep this issue with my friends.
/r/MensRights20/09/09 12:05 AM
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I feel as though the real crime is his lawyer who didn't prepare a case, forcing him to make a snap decision that sent him straight to jail.
/r/MensRights12/07/09 04:00 PM
13

How about if they forced girls to play Dungeons and dragons or force the girls to all play video games? That would be fun for all involved :)
/r/MensRights06/07/09 04:22 PM
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he was forced to resign And replaced with a woman. I would not want want the position Faust has now. I'd want to be the first female president of Harvard due to my credentials, not because Harvard was trying to make up for the losses of the previous president.
/r/MensRights05/06/09 05:55 PM
9

The police tidied up that issue by having them pay the fare afterwards.
/r/MensRights20/05/09 07:45 PM
1

Read my longer comment on this issue. There are cases where it's definitely on the same range of a punch.
/r/MensRights09/05/09 12:55 AM
1

I'm finding this interesting. My mind is 100% on my partner.
/r/MensRights08/05/09 11:39 PM
0

I don't think it's sexual assault. I think it is more on the range of punching someone once.
/r/MensRights08/05/09 11:37 PM
2

She was supposedly screaming stop. That could be either from psychological or physical trauma. The crucial thing here is that she was in distress. Now, I will agree that it is not rape, however, it is wrong to continue having sex when your partner is in distress, and any person must learn to stop quickly. Lets put this specific case aside and say you're having just normal sex with your lover. Then you shift and she immediately is in pain (slamming her cervix or something). She yells out, "Stop s…
/r/MensRights08/05/09 11:32 PM
2

How many 7 year olds have played the game "hangman"?
/r/MensRights26/04/09 10:53 PM
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If your relationship is too fragile to handle the discussion of a prenup, then it's too fragile for marriage. I know someone who is getting married with a prenup. Her reasoning is, "I want us to plan what is a fair separation while we still love each other." Personally, I won't get a prenup. I plan to never divorce, and if I do get divorced, then, well, I plan on suffering for it. I believe I'd have a decent divorce anyway, all my previous long-term-relationships ended very well.
/r/MensRights24/04/09 03:38 PM
5

Interesting. I wonder what life would have been like if I did have contact with my father?
/r/MensRights24/01/09 08:05 PM
8

Odd. The courts allowed my mother to strip away all contact with my father.
/r/MensRights24/01/09 07:01 PM
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My reaction confirms this? I found it offensive to discuss a serious and important issue using slang. As BinaryShadow pointed out, it's immature.
/r/MensRights12/01/09 06:46 PM
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Couldn't she just use the term "penis" ? I don't see how slang was appropriate here.
/r/MensRights12/01/09 05:54 AM
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Actually, from my experience, I'd say that girth is not that important. I've had "needs XXL condoms" guy and "you know Asians are small" guy, and sizes in between. No difference because of girth. The most important factor is technique. So... my favourite is the Asian guy. He's the only one to be able to consistently get me to orgasm, while XXL guy didn't get me to orgasm once.
/r/MensRights24/12/08 05:34 PM
1

Yeah, I can see that. Well. No son of mine is getting circumcised.
/r/MensRights24/12/08 05:29 PM
1

Do you realize that I am a woman, and have been speaking entirely from the 'receiver' point of view?
/r/MensRights22/12/08 07:52 PM
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I agree. I would never do it to a son if I ever have one. Interestingly, I have yet to date a man who cared. In fact, they seem to care more that they'd want the child to "look like them" than anything else. Sadly, those in the US just think it's "normal."
/r/MensRights22/12/08 07:19 AM
1

In the context of reducing friction during sex, the simulated foreskin has potential of being an effective replacement.
/r/MensRights22/12/08 07:17 AM
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hehe. Yeah, many think I'm a guy :) I could be speaking from a male homosexual experience, though! I would imagine the same would be true for anal sex (however, I have not had anal sex with a man with foreskin). You cannot stretch your skin from yanking it through masturbation. It usually requires weights and taping and takes months to a year to accomplish. The area that produces orgasm is not really anywhere around where the foreskin would be and thusly wouldn't be directly responsible for orga…
/r/MensRights22/12/08 07:00 AM
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I have had sex with men both with and without foreskin. Sex with foreskin causes no irritation and requires less lubrication. If your partner is experiencing pain during thrusting from friction, then having foreskin would be useful. Incidentally, you can stretch the skin on your shaft so it grows and simulates foreskin.
/r/MensRights22/12/08 03:23 AM
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I can attest that sex with foreskin is much more pleasurable.
/r/MensRights22/12/08 02:33 AM
3

People do. But they would actually give aesthetic and and pain medication...
/r/MensRights22/12/08 02:31 AM
3

I think Jews don't get cut ... but maybe they don't go to jail much? I don't know. Are you crazy? They're the one's who started that crap. You can't be a Jew and uncut, basically.
/r/MensRights07/09/08 01:07 AM
3

Yeah, my first thought, too. Nailing someone to a chair? Man! That's cruel!
/r/MensRights21/08/08 03:35 PM
2

Expediency?
/r/MensRights18/08/08 08:06 PM
6

Reading this made me nauseous and light headed. How can there be such an egregious injustice as this? How can people be convicted on such little evidence? How can prosecution just ignore important evidence?
/r/MensRights18/08/08 04:42 PM
8

My god. I can't see how any of these judges could have come to this conclusion. They were so obsessed that the act of sex was consensual, that they completely disregarded that a law against statutory rape exists because a minor cannot give consent! It absolutely boggles the mind that they can come to this conclusion. They are willfully ignoring the law in which a minor cannot give consent. The case of the 15 year old boy with the 34 year old woman really took the cake. The statutory rape law is …
/r/MensRights15/08/08 01:58 PM
1

Wait, I read the whole thing. I don't remember anyone being drugged...
/r/MensRights15/08/08 01:53 PM
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Wow. I've met more nasty poodles than Dobermans. I think he's just trying to continue false assumptions there.
/r/MensRights05/07/08 10:58 PM
3

Check, got one. Sadly... circumcised. At least he's sexy, though.
/r/MensRights11/06/08 01:19 AM
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As a woman, I prefer intact penises. Sex is 10x better as it significantly reduces friction. Sadly, thats difficult to find in the US :( There's a good chance my life-long partner will be circumcised.
/r/MensRights10/06/08 06:59 PM
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