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No one was telling you to break up with your girl. They were cautioning you about moving in with someone who, in your own words, you did not want to marry (yet).
/r/askMRP06/01/26 11:47 PM
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You're a classic Nice Guy and you're wife hates you. She thinks you're a pussy ass bitch loser. Sidebar then start posting in OYS. Next time your wife crashes out take the kids (depending on their ages) and leave. Or you just leave. You can't order her around. Don't even try. Make it known you won't engage with her when she's acting like that. You need months of stfu'ing. It's up to you to decide if you want to divorce. But maybe start working on yourself before making that decision.
/r/askMRP02/01/26 12:33 AM
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I gladly took a turn holding him and comforting him until he dozed off I do exactly this all the time. Both at night and nap time. I'm pretty hands on with the baby for all things. I do not leave her (wife) to fend for herself at all. Also, I want her to take charge with the baby in these things and I outlined that to her. That's how I want my family to run. So I'm fine with doing sleep training her way and supporting that for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/25 01:58 AM
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This is the time to transition to sleeping alone in a room and night training. Yeah I agree with you but there's a million opinions on this. My wife's come to believe that any form of cry it out or baby sleeping in her own room is evil and abandonment. There is (slow) progress, I have led her to the current level of sleep training. Baby is on a schedule and actually sleeps pretty well, once asleep. Even getting her on a schedule has been a fight, wife was against that too. I'm open to the idea t…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/25 10:55 PM
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OYS 9 Stats - 35 5’10” 155lbs, 4 year LTR 1 year married, 6mo daughter Mission: Be a strong husband and father. Live the life I want. Act. Reading - Picked up “Daring Greatly” recommended by HickoryWind to help work through a lot shame issues. Starting that this week. Physical - Lifts 1RM (lbs) - squat 255, bench 215, deadlift 275. Gym was closed most of the week so I took the rest days. Family / Relationship - Most the week was with family and/or relaxing and I own that. Had an argument with my…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/25 07:29 PM
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At least I have no shame in admitting it's something I'm working on. I'll check the book out.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/25 06:13 PM
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but from my side I can't really make use of it because I don't understand it yet That's the thing about wisdom, you can use it without understanding. But I forgot, you're special so it's different. You obviously have no clue what you want. That's fine. I encourage you to think about whether you want (and when) marriage or not, at all. If yes, then why are you living with a woman you don't want to marry. If no, then why are you in a LTR and living with her?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/25 05:28 PM
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Sometimes I think about what my life would be like if I found this place earlier and had a thread like that full of advice. Maybe I'd be married to a different woman right now. Or, more than likely I'd have ignored it all and plunged straight into rock bottom like I did anyway. Yet, some have to learn the hard way. Such is life.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/25 01:22 AM
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Keep in mind he is writing for a broad general audience and must give broad general advice. While I liked his books, Athol gives a lot of very canned scenarios where his advice fits very neatly. It rarely plays out this way in real life. However... Saying "No" and stfu'ing is the broadest and most applicable technique, not to mention it often actually IS the best technique. Rule #2 of the Bill of Assertive Rights, You have the right to offer no reasons or justifications for your behavior Say "No…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/25 12:57 AM
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They're trying to get you to see the bigger picture. Admittedly this can be difficult until you make a really big fuck up. You're in a position to avoid the pitfalls lots of guys here, like me, are in. I'll be honest I'm not sure what you mean. Guess what one of those very limited prescriptions is? "NEVER under any circumstance live with a woman you aren’t married to or are not planning to marry in within 6 months." 3.5 year LTR. Live together. Definitely do not want to marry. Look in the mirror…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/25 12:09 AM
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In MMSLP Aton Kay touches on the prisoner's dilemma and how the nice guy strategy of always aiming for the ideal solution of both parities spliting chores evenly can be abused by someone who decides to never help out. He posits that a tit for tat strategy where you retaliate to bad behaviour but forgive quickly when good behaviour is resumed is optimal. When I read this I interpreted it as "pass shit tests" not "take revenge." She is going to interpret you passing shit tests as you being an assh…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/25 07:59 PM
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Family / Relationship - Been pretty busy socially with holiday activities with friends and extended family. In the home I lead a little decorating the tree event which is something I always enjoyed growing up and want to pass that on. I’ve noticed my wife taking more responsibility for things revolving around the baby and embracing that role in general as well as stuff around the house. Namely things that I explicitly mentioned to her a month or so ago when outlining my parenting goals. Evidence…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/25 07:16 PM
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OYS 8 Stats - 35 5’10” 156lbs, 4 year LTR 1 year married, 6mo daughter Mission: Be a strong husband and father. Live the life I want. Act. Physical - Lifts 1RM (lbs) - squat 255, bench 215, deadlift 275. I have continued lifting 5x a week but I have felt pretty drained most of December. Like an accumulating fatigue despite a 4 day break over Thanksgiving. My gym is running a Deadlift December thing where we’re deadlifting everyday (which is retarded but fun) so it’s most likely that combined wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/25 07:16 PM
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I actually don't see porn as all that bad. I personally view it the same as alcohol, gambling, etc. But I gotta at least prove to myself I can break from it. That's the only way to tell if it is a bad source of sexual validation for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/25 04:52 PM
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Replying with my reply to u/Suitable_Whole_8914 in mind. Note you will likely use this as an excuse rebrand placating behaviors as the “oak.” Exactly what I don't want and why I'm questioning this. Notice how you use your baby as tool I think this is a good point and something I should avoid in the future. This is low blow sneaky shit from me. Tension doesn’t have to be bad, you will to create at some point to provide space for the new you to exist in. Not really sure what you're suggesting here…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/25 03:45 PM
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Does having a "placated wife" make you feel satisfied? Why? No. That's not the environment or family I want to create. Putting it that way sounds like "walking on eggshells" or "wife holding the family hostage with her emotions." I want to create an environment where this fear and anger does not exist. Or at least, is redirected toward something positive. I can't trust you because I think you're going to kill my baby. I know subconsciously this is what she thinks. So I don't think direct confron…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/25 03:21 PM
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I want that issue to be resolved but I'm not at the point right now where I am ready to have that conversation because... Perfect conditions will never come. You will never be 100% ready.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/25 03:47 AM
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I made the retard mistake of trying to fix her anxiety by providing her with obvious solutions. Instead, I should have provided the right atmosphere to release her anxiety. I am really starting to understand this. Question that's been running through my head though. Where is the line between creating this atmosphere and being the oak vs placating her. Don't get me wrong sometimes it's obvious but here's an example from the other day. I was outside hanging out with the baby in the evening. It's m…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/25 03:35 AM
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I am such a classic case of beta bitch nice guy engineer dating fixher upper's and trying to fix them. That's my whole dating life. Of course I always failed and for long time was the source of a lot of contempt and resentment toward women. MRP and NMMNG have me realizing the truth is all of that is a me problem. Letting go of that need to fix is not only freeing to your woman but more importantly freeing yourself. That is the process of becoming your own mental point of origin.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/25 05:43 PM
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You've been reading WISNIFG since your first oys. Are you actually reading anything?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/25 04:20 AM
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My logic is if she turned on by fucking me, then its indicative of an increase of value. Re-read this 100 times. This is what seeking validation is.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/25 02:35 AM
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I am maintaining weight on purpose, within 5 lbs. I do track protein (120g+ each day) and have tracked calories enough in the past that I can just eat intuitively and maintain weight. Up until very recently I couldn't heavy strength train at all from a lingering slipped disc issue so I've been maintaining for a while now. Of all I have to work on I felt improving my physique was going to be the lowest ROI since I already have the discipline of working out and am in decent shape. I actually do pl…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 08:05 PM
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#2 continued Family / Relationship - I’ve continued my projects around the house and they are coming along nicely. Backyard clean and looking good. Kitchen is more organized. I put up Christmas lights outside and the tree inside, they look nice. I’m getting little to no pushback in doing what I want around the house now. I am owning my space. Moving from autistic maintenance cleaning to really making it my own. I've worked from home for ~5 years now. When you spend that much time in one location…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 05:28 PM
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OYS 6 Stats - 35 5’10” 156lbs, 4 year LTR 1 year married, 5mo daughter Mission: Be a strong husband and father. Live the life I want. Act. Physical - Lifts (lbs) - squat 255, bench 215, deadlift 275. Had a 4 day break from lifting over Thanksgiving. Felt really good physically to get some rest. I really need a physical outlet to stay mentally sharp though. Past week was back to 5x lifting workouts. Hit a bench PR (at this body weight) of 215, up 10 pounds from last time I tested. Have read - NMM…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 05:27 PM
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Trying to understand your physical condition, is this something you were born with? Came out of nowhere later in life? Or is the result of some traumatic event like a car crash?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/25 12:55 AM
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told her that I’m reading stuff online and that’s why I’ve been acting the way I have bro ... gave away the game before even starting
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/25 06:18 PM
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leadership test rather than a “shit test” I like the framing. I didn't write it well but the church part really helped me realize this shit actually is all my fault. I know I could and should have done more. at the back of your mind, you should have a voice that says- they (or she) wants my direction. I muted for a long long time. But it's still there, I just needed to listen. Thanks again for your comments.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/25 04:50 PM
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#2 continued Family / Relationship Good week. Things ran well overall. Although I’m unemployed I did not sit on my ass. Some shit tests I’ll get to, caught them in real time. Taking the time to do some projects around the house and reorganizing. I keep the house pretty clean every week already but there’s shit piling up in some places. Put a big dent in cleaning the backyard, next is the kitchen. Immediately after last week’s OYS I sat down with wife again to finish the parenting goals talk. Was…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/25 09:49 PM
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OYS 5 Stats - 35 5’10” 160lbs, 4 year LTR 1 year married, 5mo daughter Mission: Be a strong husband and father. Live the life I want. Act. Removed the word wife from mission. I reread last weeks OYS and cringed. My mission is about me. Physical - Lifts (lbs) - squat 255, bench 205, deadlift 275. 5x workouts. Had some very volume heavy strength days which felt really good and exhausting. Have read - NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Frame, Dread, Field Reports Reading - Half of MAP this week Career - First …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/25 09:49 PM
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But why am I telling you this? The reason you have a goal of “consistent and early bedtime” for your 5-month-old is that it might provide you with more opportunities to try and get a whiff of your wife’s pussy in the evening. Nah this nails it. There are other reasons that I think are good and valid but all that is just trying to hide this covert contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/25 06:00 PM
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This is when pussy dries up Noted. These were goals specifically around the baby and how to raise her not things I'm doing on my own, but yeah I get it. My wife felt I was telling her to do these things when I didn't mean it that way, but that's on me. Are you being genuine or superficial? Genuine. These are genuine and without expectation of sex or any affection in return. I could have clarified but that specifically is what I'm working on giving her more of. I know in the past i've made her fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/25 07:11 PM
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It was more the instant attitude to fight that irritated me rather than the difference of opinion itself. But I take that as indication of more covert contracts buried inside me. Like you said I should have the maturity to not be irritated in the first place.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 10:52 PM
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Fair enough
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 08:51 PM
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#3 continued from relationship (why the fuck do i have to piecemeal my comments like this?) Other things I did or noted over the week Took family to the park for pictures. I moved some boxes that had been on our dining table for like 2 months. Wife immediately started to protest that I couldn’t do that. I asserted myself, told her I wanted a beautiful home and that these had been an eyesore and if it’s so important she is free to move them back. She stopped. The boxes have not been moved back. (…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 08:00 PM
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#2 continued Relationship - First things first. I got in with an attorney for a consultation. He walked me through the divorce process and what worst case scenario may look like given possible claims of DV. And also best case scenario in case of splitting amicably. A divorce would be fairly simple, I haven’t been married long, finances are mostly separate. The house is entirely mine and I pay all the bills related to it. Any fight would be over custody and decision making power for my daughter. …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 07:58 PM
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OYS 4 Stats: 35 158lbs 5'10", 4 year LTR 1 year married, 5mo daughter Vision - Develop agency, live the life I want. I am upgrading the above to a vision statement. I like the short simplicity of it. A concise, forward looking picture of what the future should be. If the rest of my OYS (and more importantly irl actions) does not align with my vision then it’s not that my vision is wrong it’s that my actions (or lack of) are incongruent with the over arching vision. Mission - Lead and love my wif…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 07:57 PM
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This hit straight to the core. I know being a passive bitch, compromising values, and not enforcing boundaries is how my relationship ended up here in the first place. I tend toward passive apathy and it's exactly what I'm trying to change, hence that part of the mission. This was a very half assed OYS and indicative of a passive mindset and action this past week. I'm thinking on this a lot, especially Everything you've written is hedged with indecision, and lukewarm in conviction. and All of th…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/25 03:34 AM
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OYS 3 Stats: 35, 155, 5'10", 1 year married 4 years total relationship, 5mo daughter Mission: Develop agency and live the life I want. Physical: 1RM's (lbs) 255 squat, 205 bench, 275 Deadlift 5x workouts. Benched 135 for 17 reps up from 11 from a couple months ago. End of workout hit 15 straight chin ups, was happy with that. Have Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Frame, Dread, Field Reports Reading: NMMNG again and MAP. Relationship: Slower, more peaceful week. Had sex twice. First time having sex m…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 08:05 PM
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It was your ego. "I can show my wife that I can soothe my baby = I am an alpha father" Thank you. Second paragraph is spot on too. dragon bitch I actually lol'd
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/25 04:20 PM
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OYS 2 Stats - 35, 5’10”, 157lbs, Wife 35, 4.5mo baby, 3 years dating 1+ year married Mission - Develop agency and live the life I want. Physical - Bench 205lb, Squat 255lb, DL 305lb 5 workouts this week. Hit a squat “PR.” Not actually a PR but highest I’ve lifted in 2 years, up from 225 previously. Lingering back injury was pretty tender the following days but seems to recover fast. Have Read - NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Frame, Dread Reading - Finishing Field Reports. NMMNG again. Picked up MAP Rela…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/25 01:33 AM
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I'm not sure what makes you say that. Do you think my position is incongruent? I am happy to explain more but I was avoiding it because I'll have to dive into what I think my wife's thoughts/feelings are and it seemed like that was discouraged. I'll post an OYS 2 sometime today in the new thread so feel free to respond there. My preferred outcome is my wife and child stay here. I want to help with my daughter and see her grow in her first year. I want to become better and learn to lead my family…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 03:29 PM
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You're correct, baby's passport is what i'm referring to in above comment. If she wants to fuck off to China it's her decision "She" means wife + baby.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 01:00 AM
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Baby was not explicitly planned, but I wasn't doing anything to prevent it either. I wanted kids and that was discussed before marriage. Yes, it happened way faster than I expected. I had (still have) no intention of preventing her from leaving. I never want to hear a "you trapped me!" If she wants to fuck off to China it's her decision, that is an outcome I can live with. If she decides to stay I want it to be of her own volition not because I legally forced it. So, that's why I went along with…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/25 08:27 PM
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I toyed with the idea of going to see an attorney. I will actually go do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/25 12:33 PM
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Another thread to pull - dude, its been rushed. She was pregnant and you sucked beforehand. Didn't get laid for a year. That's on you, not her. I realize this now. A LOT of my anger (all of it?) comes from me fucking up so badly and getting into this situation in the first place. Everything here is so rule 9 but I get it. You tried at least, but going back to act as if your wife were dead is still what you need, for you, not for her. Needed to hear this, thanks. On rule 9, can you help me unders…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/25 12:28 PM
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It's not crude. I thought about this a lot. Left permanently? Yes I would be better off. Left for the stated timeframe? No. I think separating for a couple months would just kick the can down the road. Meaning, I myself would most likely fall back into the behaviors that got me here in the first place for the duration of the separation. For context, here's what i did with this situation. I told her my opinion on her leaving. I said she's free to go to China if she likes however I disapprove of h…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/25 12:21 PM
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relationship continued from above What I’ve Done: A lot of being angry. A lot of reading. A lot of STFU’ing. A lot of disengaging and leaving when the yelling starts. A lot of just leaving unannounced. Adopt “give her nothing to do but fuck you” attitude. I do it well. Do everything by my standard and my standard alone. A lot of asserting myself. Asserting her mother needs to leave. Navigating the “go to China” situation. Learn to verbal jiu jitsu her emotional freak outs. “I know you’re playing…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/25 01:45 AM
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OYS #1 Background: 35yo 5’10” 160lbs, Wife 35, Married 1 year 3 months, 1 daughter - 4 months. I’m white American, Wife is Chinese. Not a passport bro. Met her in USA where she had lived for 10 years already. However, strong cultural differences/backgrounds. I am here because my marriage is complete shit. I have been lurking since late July. Relationship section is why I’m here. Tldr; Type 2 (mixed with 1) Captain attempting to build Frame and run Dread with a post partum wife. Mission: Live the…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/25 01:35 AM
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