worthwhilewrongdoing Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	What's up with Feminists claiming that women are mostly unfazed by muscular men? A big factor here is that Twitter is amplifying specific tweets at you so you get angry, and engage more with social media, because that's what Twitter does. A computer thought you would be angry if you saw women talking about how they don't like muscles, and also saw women thirsting after muscles. Christ, that's horrifying - and such a good point. Social media platforms rarely raise visibility of things you are likely to agree with, because agreeing is comforting but boring. What they want is e…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	19/08/23 05:01 AM
2	Starting to experience the effects of being posted in an "Are we dating the same guy?" FB group I'm a gay man and, while I'm not really dating anyone anymore, when I was I would just about full-on e-stalk someone before the first date to make sure I knew what I was getting into. I have a fairly extensive trauma history and know that I'm not the most consistently reliable judge of character when it comes to all this, though, so my situation's perhaps a bit different. But I absolutely agree with what you're saying here. While I don't think people necessarily need to go as ham as I do on all …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	31/05/23 01:11 AM
1	Thoughts on getting married (to a woman) represent themselves as married to others The guy in the first post had talked about having a ceremony, though, which would absolutely check those boxes.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	12/05/23 03:49 AM
4	Thoughts on getting married (to a woman) I'm a gay man, too. Pretty much the only way in hell I'd get married to anybody is if I intended to purchase property with a partner or do something that needed a court's intervention to split things apart if things went south, like adopt a child (which dear god no). Otherwise, absolutely not.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	12/05/23 03:47 AM
2	Pro-female and anti-male biases are more influential than race and other factors in Implicit Association Tests I still haven't had a good chance to read this over yet, but I wanted to tell you I haven't forgotten about you or this post. Thank you so much for finding this for me.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/03/23 09:51 PM
2	Pro-female and anti-male biases are more influential than race and other factors in Implicit Association Tests This comment is outstanding. Thank you for typing all this up!	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/03/23 08:37 PM
2	Pro-female and anti-male biases are more influential than race and other factors in Implicit Association Tests I don't have time to respond to this like I'd like, but I just want to say that college is severely overrated. :)	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/03/23 08:35 PM
7	Pro-female and anti-male biases are more influential than race and other factors in Implicit Association Tests My issue with them personally - and again, I'm no expert, I just have a BA in psych - is that it's a bit of a leap to go from "these things take a repeatable and statistically measurable amount of time to go together and that this likely means something" to "these go together and this indicates implicit bias in the individuals for which the measurements can be made." The latter requires a very particular idea of how the mind works and a lot of very particular preconceptions that, while looking i…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/03/23 11:02 PM
20	Pro-female and anti-male biases are more influential than race and other factors in Implicit Association Tests What I don't recall seeing in the article is speculation as to why this particular study revealed this bias, and other previous ones using IATs hadn't. Were the others simply not even considering it as a possibility, and not testing for it? Maybe someone can answer this. I don't have access to the actual article, but from the looks of the abstract this appears to be a meta-analysis of five different studies. It's possible that the math showed different things when all five studies were mashed to…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/03/23 03:16 PM
3	Stigma against older men potentially rooted in misandry Also, thinking on this a bit more - just because I'm left doesn't mean I'm far enough left to feel like I'm at war with everyone on the right. I realize everything is super polarized these days and that even saying this is probably going to make you and a bunch of other people really mad, but: just like me and you, people on the right are people too. If you don't want to spend your life tilting at windmills and want to actually make change about things that are important to you, you have to unde…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	17/03/23 05:42 PM
1	Stigma against older men potentially rooted in misandry Not sure - I certainly didn't downvote you here.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	17/03/23 04:04 PM
5	Stigma against older men potentially rooted in misandry I might argue with you slightly on the "young ladies don't choose" bits. I feel a little gross saying this, but there are very, very clearly women out there who, for whatever reason, absolutely call their shots and do whatever they feel they need to do to try to get a particular rich man's attention. If you don't believe me, go find an older rich man's Twitter and look at the people that respond to the more banal statements, especially anything that could be taken as him having anything less tha…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	17/03/23 07:37 AM
4	Stigma against older men potentially rooted in misandry I'm going to advocate for women for a moment here. I'm not trying to diminish what you're saying or say that men don't hurt or anything like that. Bear with me for a moment though, if you would - I'll come back to your point in a minute, I promise. I think it's important to remember that, while older men in these situations do take a lot of flack, the women do too - being called a "trophy wife" isn't exactly a compliment, after all. If you're of an age to remember, think back to how people talke…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	17/03/23 07:20 AM
2	LWMA Lounge I can understand that - I mean, there have been many, many studies that demonstrate the advantages perceived beautiful people have in society. And as someone who's been at various places on the spectrum of all this at different points in my life, I can definitely attest to this on a personal level. I do know that the incel movement is a bit, uh, "famous" for its advocating of some rather morally dubious things like forced marriage, which I absolutely can't get behind. The scary things about the …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/03/23 04:57 AM
3	Are western women really oblivious about men's looks? *Attractive gay men. Gay beauty standards are fucking insane. Those of us on the more normal-looking end of things have a much harder time, especially when it comes to dating: yeah, you can have pretty much all the anonymous sex you want if you're not picky, but good luck trying to find anybody that's willing to commit to anything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/23 01:23 AM
6	The average man is fine, it’s the below average men who are genuinely struggling. Perhaps he wants the scientists to stalk these men by watching their houses from a work van and taking detailed notes? 😂 I seriously can't think of any other way to do this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/23 01:17 AM
1	LWMA Lounge I'm not sure I understand - bear in mind I know nearly nothing about incels. Can you explain?	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/03/23 08:24 PM
3	LWMA Lounge This one works too: "How would you feel if a man (said/did) to me what you just (said/did) right now?" Unless they back off immediately and apologize, it opens up an extremely clear path of attack for a response: 👩 "That would be gross." 🤔 "Okay, so why is it different if you do it?" 👩 [wide-eyed stare] You get the idea.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/03/23 03:56 PM
3	LWMA Lounge It is important to remember when dealing with people like this on the internet that, to a degree, they largely do not care if what they're saying is true. What matters to people who verbally abuse others is the secondary gain: the feelings of control, the idea that they just put someone in their place, the momentary sense of power, the praise of their peers, an increase in group social status - things like this. You can't argue with people like this because they're not arguing in good faith. It …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/03/23 03:49 PM
1	The Great Misunderstanding of Intersectionality I think comparing disadvantages for anyone (groups or individuals) is fundamentally difficult. By their nature, many of these things are not readily qualified, and even for things that are quantifiable things can be very difficult to hold in comparison to each other out of context. The truth of the matter is that the attention of the public and the financial budgeting for social improvement is only so large, and intersectionalism - like many other things by many other groups - is often misapplie…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/03/23 03:32 PM
1	What can be done to help solve the under/desexualization, sexlessness, loneliness, etc. of so many men? Dude, it's a male issue. I went out of my way to not deny this. Read closer? Women and gay men who are celibate are celibate for voluntarist reasons. I assure you as a gay man that no, no they are not.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	03/09/22 09:22 AM
5	What can be done to help solve the under/desexualization, sexlessness, loneliness, etc. of so many men? There's definitely truth to that. I think a lot of it just comes from a lack of fear of consequences: no matter how much sex I have as a gay man, I'm not going to get pregnant. Ever. (Although that hasn't stopped me from trying. 😉)	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/09/22 05:59 AM
12	What can be done to help solve the under/desexualization, sexlessness, loneliness, etc. of so many men? I feel like it has a lot to do with economic participation. Young men get judged so much about their career and job. This, unfortunately, has been a thing since at least early recorded history. And I think that honestly, if it weren't socioeconomic status, it'd be something else. At the base of things we're mammals and picking mates based off some kind of internalized criteria is just hard-wired into us: nearly all of us, for whatever reasons, find some people attractive and some other people no…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/09/22 05:56 AM
10	What can be done to help solve the under/desexualization, sexlessness, loneliness, etc. of so many men? Romantic loneliness is something that brings so many people so much pain and is a huge issue, but I'm not entirely sure it's an exclusively male one. There are certainly plenty of folks out there who are lonely that aren't men. That's not to say it's not a male issue - I think it definitely affects this community in unique ways. But I think answers for getting help for fixing this problem might work best centered around improving these things for everyone all at once while recognizing the challe…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/09/22 05:46 AM
6	What can be done to help solve the under/desexualization, sexlessness, loneliness, etc. of so many men? This teeters on the edges of inceldom and coercion. Who's going to live in Shitty Choiceville voluntarily? It's also worth noting that not all men are interested in dating women; some of us want to date other men. :) And some other men yet want to date both, or neither, or something else entirely.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/09/22 05:35 AM