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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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6	biggest issue with red pill is lack of alternatives All of our grandparents did, dude, except the ones young enough for it to have been their great grandparents. It was a World War and none of us sprung fully-formed from the earth afterwards. I think the issue here is that you're looking at the traumatic, generational scars left by the war and previous atrocities and ascribing the maladaptive behaviors that result to the natural inclinations of mankind and not the aberrations in human nature that they are. For the third and last time, there's mor…	/r/ExRedPill	07/06/25 11:47 PM
7	biggest issue with red pill is lack of alternatives Yeah, sorry. I'm not going to argue about human nature with someone who hasn't figured out that the news doesn't report on what 95% of humanity is like. Go take an anthropology class or three and then try to argue your point with actual evidence and not the slop shoveled out by a machine that exists to get clicks through emotional manipulation.	/r/ExRedPill	07/06/25 11:13 PM
9	biggest issue with red pill is lack of alternatives As a historian, yes, that is what history shows us. The ancient Egyptians gave the laborers who built tombs time off to tend to their wives and daughters when they had their periods. Most crises and natural disasters are covered in tales of people being good. Love and gentleness are celebrated in song for a reason. Humans care about being good and if you think history says otherwise, stop reading about war and go pick up an anthropology textbook.	/r/ExRedPill	07/06/25 10:33 PM
19	biggest issue with red pill is lack of alternatives Pretty much my thoughts. There are plenty of alternatives, but they all involve admitting that life is messy and complicated, so they don't get the air time that the punchy, simple answers do.	/r/ExRedPill	07/06/25 07:14 PM
3	How does a guy navigate being short(er) in todays dating world? So, something to add to the other comments: The only way someone's going to know how precisely tall you are is if you tell them or there is a ruler next to you. Think about it: Can you accurately clock someone's height without a handy dating profile or someone of known height (yourself included) to reference? Maybe you think you can, but I'm willing to bet you're off by a decent margin far more often than you realize. The same is true for everyone with the exception of carnies. Odds are, most pe…	/r/ExRedPill	23/01/25 11:07 PM
9	Is it really a bad thing for an ugly and loneliness bound guy to join the MGTOW movement? You've identified a legitimate problem, yes. However, the solution you seem to be arguing for—or at least justifying—is predicated upon a system of beliefs that are themselves founded on the idea of giving up rather than developing a healthy mindset about life and its challenges while being dismissive of the idea anyone else's experiences may differ from your own while starting from similar circumstances. Or, if you prefer it put simply, you acting like yours is the only realistic outlook doesn'…	/r/ExRedPill	08/01/25 03:57 PM
31	Is it really a bad thing for an ugly and loneliness bound guy to join the MGTOW movement? In an ideal world, they'll realize the "blackpill" is a pack of lies fed to them by miserable, hateful crabs that would rather have a full bucket than let vulnerable, lonely people find their way to happiness. But, that's a lot easier said than done, and I'm nowhere near well-trained enough to help someone break out of that loop before they want to.	/r/ExRedPill	08/01/25 08:19 AM
22	Degenerate subreddit Sir, this is a Trader Joe's.	/r/ExRedPill	22/08/24 12:46 AM
27	Why the hell are red pill influencers so obsessed with young men losing their virginity? Because part of a "normal"/healthy sex life is recognizing that sex is an expression of a relationship, whether it's a casual one or not. Making it the goal makes it much harder to let things develop at a comfortable pace and can lead to one or both parties being outside their comfort zone, which in turn makes the experience overall less pleasant. Or, to put it another way, how many of the manosphere influencers seem to actually treat sex as a joyful thing out of the overall cohort?	/r/ExRedPill	10/07/24 06:10 PM
32	Why the hell are red pill influencers so obsessed with young men losing their virginity? On top of that, by targeting young men who are virgins, they can feed into whatever fantasies those guys harbor, since their frame of reference for what they want and what it represents is skewed by both ignorance and media. Convince them that (a) fulfilling that desire is one of the most important things they could be doing with their time, (b) they lack the necessary knowledge/skills to do so, and (c) the grifter mentor in question can provide those those things, and you can get them to go in …	/r/ExRedPill	10/07/24 06:00 PM
5	How to date women as a soft spoken and quiet man? As others have said, "women" aren't monolithic. For every woman who likes men who "speak in a masculine way", you'll likely find one who thinks that's grating. Instead of worrying about what a hypothetical partner might be into, focus on being the best you you're capable of being and let the people who like that find their way into your life. But, also, to reiterate other replies: seriously, the best thing you can do is just find stuff that you enjoy doing that gets you out of the house. Even if…	/r/ExRedPill	29/06/24 05:27 PM
3	This sub is why I can't break out from the red pill thinking. Right, but I'm not asking about the general character of the subreddit. You framed your post as it related to your struggles with Red Pill thinking in particular. I'm asking about how you are dealing with it and what you're struggling with. I'm trying to center my interaction with you on your specific issues while also offering an alternative sub that might better suit your specific struggles.	/r/ExRedPill	29/06/24 05:19 AM
3	This sub is why I can't break out from the red pill thinking. So, two genuine questions: First, what aspects of the Red Pill do you even buy into? Like, you seem to pretty much recognize all the toxic elements for what they are, even if you're having a hard time shaking their effects off. But, second, have you spent much or any time on /r/MensLib? Because it sounds like you might benefit from a space that focuses on dealing with how toxic views of gender issues specifically impact the masculine end of the spectrum moreso than one that is about challenging …	/r/ExRedPill	29/06/24 05:00 AM
7	Can short men ever be sexually attractive? You realize that, as the one making the claim, the onus is on you to actually present your sources, right? Like, neither the person you said that to nor I as a reader can know exactly where you got this information from—did you read the studies yourself, how old they were, etc. The reason for this is if you are mistaken, by what means can we then dispute you and offer correction for anyone else reading it?	/r/ExRedPill	24/06/24 12:17 PM
6	Why did this shit turn me into a mysoginist It never gets old. "Back, foul normie! I have sources!" and then dead silence when you actually demand and engage with the sources. Really, it's the most fun you can have with some of these dudes.	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 06:56 PM
7	Why did this shit turn me into a mysoginist You know what I love about jackasses like you. You never bother to read the papers you fucking cite. What you did is read the abstract because it was probably the first Google result you found when you searched for your nonsense opinion. If you actually read the paper, you'd realize it's not about "how women selfishly pick men who are wealthier", but examining the relationship between relative power within the marriage and interrogating why—despite the massive gains women have made in educationa…	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 05:32 AM
5	Why did this shit turn me into a mysoginist Cool. Got a link to those studies, then? I'm sure they used sound methodologies that'll stand up to scrutiny.	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 05:04 AM
6	Why did this shit turn me into a mysoginist "Women are selfish." If you can't figure out how a blanket comment like that is unhelpful in a subreddit like this, you're either not emotionally intelligent enough for this or you're posting in bad faith.	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 04:53 AM
5	Why did this shit turn me into a mysoginist Buddy, it sounds like you're exactly the kind of person OP is pissed about influencing him. Perhaps you need to ask yourself why it is that you seem to keep meeting shitty people instead of assuming it's because only shitty people exist.	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 04:44 AM
17	How are dating apps not proof of how physical attraction/sexual attractiveness is not very subjective? My guy, the first step to finding someone who is attracted to you is to be attracted to yourself. Not, like, sexually unless that's your jam, but if you don't like yourself and see yourself as worthwhile, why should anyone else? The point of the post you're talking about is that the idea that only certain traits are going to secure a relationship is nonsense because we can see people of all shapes and sizes in relationships with people of all shapes and sizes. But, if you're busy fixating on…	/r/ExRedPill	28/05/24 01:51 PM
74	I don't get how the "Man vs. Bear" conversation doesn't just make women look kinda stupid? So, two things: Calling it a "fear of [you]" sounds a lot like you're interpreting what that means as a specific, targeted thing instead of a broader comment about how men, on average, make women feel. Is it possible you're someone who makes women uncomfortable without knowing it? Possibly, but I feel like you'd know if you have issues with boundaries and social cues. But, otherwise, if you're not actively trying to push through the boundaries of people around you, you're not the kind of person …	/r/ExRedPill	03/05/24 12:53 PM
14	Please tell me how I'm wrong... It is not "red pill" to back out of a relationship that is more upsetting than beneficial for you. If you were using that as a threat to get her to behave a certain way, yeah, that'd be the case, but it just sounds like the two of you have different attitudes toward relationships and boundaries within them. And there's nothing wrong with that! The real trap of Red Pill thinking is that it ascribes motives and underlying beliefs to all men or women when the reality is just that people are people …	/r/ExRedPill	01/04/24 04:35 PM
19	People claim on Incel Tears that they can spot an incel in real life a mile a way, is this true and if so how? They're speaking in a mix of hyperbole and figurative language and generally not talking about physically clocking an incel—especially since there are plenty of posts pointing out that a lot of them are perfectly normal looking dudes who've been gaslit into thinking otherwise–but about the various social cues that incel culture promotes in folks. If you're just struggling to shake off those ideas, no one's gonna call you on it, because what you're talking about is people observing behavior, not …	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/24 04:54 PM
2	Why is being overconfident seen as so much better than having low confidence? So, while I don't think I ever plunged to the level of full on "nice guy" territory—at least, I pray not—I am someone who had to learn confidence because I also conflated it with arrogance and thus viewed it as immoral. Better, I thought, to "stay humble" and not risk being an ass or a terrible person to others. But, here's the thing: a lack of confidence is not humility. Humility is an active choice made by those who could be braggarts, who could belittle their peers and justify it, who could d…	/r/ExRedPill	16/03/24 01:56 PM
30	What hard proof can I look at that disproves the black pill. That is highly unlikely to be the case and almost certainly revisionist history by whatever your country's conservative wing is. If you genuinely want proof that things aren't so bleak, find some credible academic historians—you're in a fraternity, so I know you have access to university resources—and see what they have to say about the history of gender relations. And also run a search over at /r/askhistorians to see if someone's asked specifically about where you're from. I say this because I …	/r/ExRedPill	19/02/24 12:19 AM
43	What hard proof can I look at that disproves the black pill. Look, level with us: how do you think 8 billion people exist on this planet if only a small percentage of men "have success"?	/r/ExRedPill	18/02/24 11:07 PM
3	Can self-improvement coexist with the blue pill? It absolutely can. Part of the Red Pill grift is the implication that their way is the only way, which is such a massive pile of bullshit that we could make the Sahara fertile were it made manifest. The trick is realizing that "self-improvement" isn't something you can do just following a singular path from start to finish. Reach out in multiple directions, test everything, and then go with what works for you. And if anyone tries to tell you that they have a one-size-fits-all solution to whateve…	/r/ExRedPill	22/01/24 05:31 PM