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| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 21 | Looking to make the jump but scared and getting pressured to stay | wrigleyharbor | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/21 02:13 PM |
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| 1 | my ex just got her first boyfriend... 3 months outYeah it’s hard when someone moves on before you do. Ultimately people don’t want to be alone even though they say they do. Just try your best to work out (endorphins work man they really do) and try not to think about the whys of it all | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/21 02:08 PM |
| 6 | I am stuckI think it’s just fear of the unknown. I didn’t hear you say that there is love between the two of you. Getting back to where you were after an affair is difficult. The best thing is to sit down and put all the cards on the table and have that honest and difficult conversation. Either split up or get some therapy individually and as couples and follow the basic guidelines of redeveloping the intimacy and friendship of your relationship and growing it. It seems like you’re both miserable but you’… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/21 01:42 PM |
| 2 | A month later still doing the damn pick me danceI’m in a similar spot so reading these posts help. I agree being distant and making them miss you is the only option or hope. It’s just damn hard. Good luck brother hope things get better. But you have to protect yourself too | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/10/21 05:39 PM |
| 1 | How do you know it’s over and not worth the fight?Yeah it’s a tough situation. I’d agree if desire isn’t mutual it’s a tough bartle | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/21 05:58 PM |
| 5 | Helpless in OhioNot an expert on the topic but don’t see why you should give her 60/40. Consult an attorney and get some advice. Depending on custody of the kids will determine some of those issues. You seem like a good dude sorry this is happening. In the end if both people don’t want the relationship to work it rarely does. Maybe you have time to convince her to do therapy. It can’t hurt | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/21 07:50 PM |
| 5 | Did anyone else really throw themselves into work after their divorce? It seems like a band aid but after almost four years and a couple relationships I just feel empty and keeping busy doesn't really cut it.Damn I’m near divorce myself and this is what I have to look forward to. Jeez | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/21 02:01 AM |
| 1 | Looking to make the jump but scared and getting pressured to stayAh all good points. She deserves someone who loves her too. And I guess I’m at the point I’d hope to find someone in a few years to spend the next 20 years with | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/21 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Looking to make the jump but scared and getting pressured to stayNo I don’t think so. We were semi arranged and through the years I’ve just noticed we have a lot of differences. I’m sure the post makes me appear one way and that’s fine. I wanted responses | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/21 10:26 AM |
| 1 | Looking to make the jump but scared and getting pressured to stayThanks I appreciate your candor and time to recommend me some reading. Maybe I am lost on woman. I certainly agree most think this way but I thought some were different | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/21 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Looking to make the jump but scared and getting pressured to stayWow that is an interesting take and might be accurate to some degree | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/21 01:55 PM |
| 1 | Looking to make the jump but scared and getting pressured to stayThanks for saying that | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/21 04:05 AM |
| 1 | Looking to make the jump but scared and getting pressured to stayI don’t know. Maybe he’s more on me than her. She looks the same no rapid weight gain | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/21 03:01 AM |
| 2 | Looking to make the jump but scared and getting pressured to stayI appreciate your comments all of them that I have received. I basically had a therapist quit on me two years ago because she said bring your wife to therapy and I’ll tell her it’s over and you need a divorce. I started with a new one a month ago and he said the same thing well that o should probably leave 🤷🏻♂️ | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/21 02:02 AM |
| 0 | Looking to make the jump but scared and getting pressured to stayThank you for engaging as well. I’m so done with the relationship I would feel like I could travel and try with time to find someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. Life wouldn’t be perfect in some ways it would be harder. I’d have to devote time to the kids to let them know why all this happened and make sure they are okay | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/21 06:43 PM |
| 0 | Looking to make the jump but scared and getting pressured to stayIt’s somewhere in between. My family thinks it’s a big problem and if asked to cool down she would be better. It isn’t the reason I want to leave but it doesn’t help. She’s also controlling for the majority of the marriage | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/21 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Looking to make the jump but scared and getting pressured to stayAh I’ve talked to a lawyer twice already. That’s how much I’ve thought about it. I think I’m most likely headed there. It’s a question of when not if. My wife thinks the work can save us but I’ve been done so long I don’t think so | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/21 05:46 PM |
| -1 | Looking to make the jump but scared and getting pressured to stayI don’t think I’ll find someone who will love me more than she did. But I don’t match her level of love not even close. I just want someone where it’s closer to 50/50 | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/21 05:08 PM |
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