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You're absolutely right. I'm just not comfortable putting on an act, but I should try it and maybe force myself to not be so anal about this. I'm just not sure I could pull it off and seem genuine. I should take an improv class. A bigger problem with an act is that I might start to feel the interaction isn't genuine, and that would prevent her from feeling genuinely toward me or would prevent me from developing feelings I might want to have (when I'm looking for a gf). The advice about warning a…
/r/seduction12/08/11 05:29 AM
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I like the panda idea. Unfortunately, I tend to rebel at the idea of dishonesty, even as harmless as that. I'm not sure if I could confidently pull off the act. Instead, I sometimes fall into lies that are far more hurtful, like telling a girl that I like her more than I really do. What do you think about this? I hate the idea of anything that's the slightest bit fake or canned, though my life would be easier if that didn't bother me. If I wanted to try stuff like this anyway, do you have any ad…
/r/seduction08/08/11 04:14 PM
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Thanks for the reminder... and I'm looking forward to that PM. (TIC indeed.)
/r/seduction04/08/11 04:43 PM
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Thank you for your thoughtful response. That method of approaching is similar to what a chinese friend of mine recommended--he also said I should physically get in her way as I did the approach. I thought this too rude, but maybe I should consider it (and I'll try your suggestion about prior eye contact). I looked up RedpoleQ, thinking he was a redditor. I can't really afford his seminars, though he has some free stuff online. Do you know of any sedditors in Shanghai?
/r/seduction04/08/11 04:52 AM
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Shanghai. I can only meet girls that speak good english, and that's a small percentage. I have had some success, but I find I basically can't do approaches because inevitably she'll shake her head and make the "don't talk to me" gesture. I sometimes make successful approaches, but I don't know how I work up the gumption to approach. You could say this is approach anxiety x 10, because I can't improve my game to fix the problem. I'm probably going to Hong Kong soon, so things should get better fo…
/r/seduction03/08/11 12:18 PM
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Me, too. Do you speak Chinese?
/r/seduction03/08/11 12:44 AM
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That's really funny--can you think of a way to say that that makes it clear he's mocking a typical approach?
/r/seduction02/08/11 06:04 PM
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My only advice is to not be her customer. She probably sees her customers as cattle to be herded, so don't ask her about a product. To make it absolutely clear that you're not a customer, you could tell her she's cute before what you would normally say to open. (Not sure whether this is correct advice--it sets the right frame, but could also raise her bitch shield.)
/r/seduction02/08/11 06:03 PM
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To keep it short, ignore the IOIs and "assume it's on". If she's not attracted to you, she'll become attracted to you. Or you'll blow out spectacularly, but that doesn't matter in the end. If she's your good friend and you're worried about making things awkward, then you have to pay more attention to IOIs. But if aren't happy as her mere friend, go for it.
/r/seduction02/08/11 05:59 PM
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For me, credibility seems to determine whether women talk to me or ignore me. I haven't learned to fake it. So if I'm walking around looking for women to talk to, they sense that and ignore me. If I have some other genuine errand to run and talk to women along the way, they respond. This may be just because a guy waiting to submit a form or taking the subway home from work seems more normal (less creepy?) than a guy walking around the mall looking for people to talk to. If you can spend more tim…
/r/seduction02/08/11 05:54 PM
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Thanks for clarifying. I don't know what percent of people ignore their sexual health and forego condoms. I don't know what percent of men who have never had a HSV outbreak can transmit the disease. I just don't think this data has ever been collected. I can see that you want to act based on the risk you expose people to, compared to the risk that everyone else is already going to expose them to, but that's a damn hard judgment to make.
/r/seduction02/08/11 04:10 PM
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I think this is an issue for /r/sex. But by definition, no, you're not cleaner than someone who hasn't been tested. Not to be mean, but how could you possibly think that? Is the guy that knows he has a cold less sick than the guy who's not sure?
/r/seduction02/08/11 03:51 PM
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Thanks for the advice... I really half-assed that approach. If I recall, most guys were wearing button-down shirts (many short-sleeved), with some polos thrown in. I didn't notice overt peacocking. Don't remember jeans versus khakis. I'm also trying to go to HK (permanently)--I'll PM you my contact info.
/r/seduction14/07/11 01:13 PM
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This is the internet. Does it matter what the URL says?
/r/seduction08/07/11 06:51 PM
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I absolutely will when I can--damn injuries!
/r/seduction05/07/11 02:54 PM
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No, he got the HB9... at least, I assume he did. I extricated myself. I think if I wear contact lenses and a baseball cap, I can be at least an 8 on the objective scale, but all the guys that are out on that street are muscular and well-dressed, so I would still be only average. I have more luck day gaming, where there is no competition.
/r/seduction03/07/11 04:06 PM
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Not intentional (I'm white, also)--it just seems like all the guys out are white, muscular frat-boy types. I know there are plenty of girls that don't like that, but I feel like most are objectively more attractive than me. (My wing was unquestionably more attractive than me, but I suppose the rest is up for debate.)
/r/seduction03/07/11 04:01 PM
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On the other hand, I think the subway is one of the best places to day-game. (May not work in the US, where the subway systems are known for crime and crazies.) But it didn't sound like that was his goal. She was 5’10, strawberry blond hair, green eyes, in tight pair of jeans showing off her toned and curvy physique, and a cute low cut top with small Cs… I immediately thought this girl had style and the looks to match it A good FR would not use this style of writing... also, I just find it hard …
/r/seduction02/07/11 09:15 PM
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I tried practicing smiling, but with the muscles around my eyes rather than my lips. I liked it because it seems like a more genuine expression of fun (so I'm learning to fake it, ha). It's also easier to hold on my face than a smile with my lips (for instance, in a nightclub). I should start trying that again.
/r/seduction25/06/11 06:43 PM
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It's had two meanings (and this has been a subjecto of contention) for the last 12 years that I've known the word.
/r/seduction06/05/11 01:54 PM
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When pets (dogs) are brought up, I'm fond of telling girls that I've eaten dog. It always makes them laugh and perhaps think I'm a little sketchy. But it's a better reaction than, "oh, you like dogs too? That's nice." I particularly liked it when a girl told me "I love dogs! That's terrible, I have a dog!" I then asked her if she'd ever tasted it. (I'm in China, where it's more common to have eaten dog. I don't know that I could pull this off in the West.)
/r/seduction06/05/11 12:28 PM
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she was now falling asleep cuddling with me. What do you do in this situation? I have continued stepping it up physically and counted on her horniness to bring her back from the brink of sleep. Grinding myself against her ass, rubbing my hands all over her body, rubbing her crotch. Nibbling on her ear works well--run your tongue in concentric circles on her ear, stick it inside, then kiss down her neck--you can do this while spooning. Many women can't resist this. I had my hand rubbing her legs …
/r/seduction06/05/11 12:11 PM
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I'm not sure that's the whole story... it seems like a deeper level of rapport is based on emotions and excitement, and the "common interests" type of rapport doesn't actually make me want to spend more time with somebody. Would you say it's good to apply to this technique, but to make sure your statements and questions elicit emotion?
/r/seduction06/05/11 12:10 PM
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I'm struggling with this as well, particularly when a girl gives me an invitation to approach (a smile, or pausing where she shouldn't pause as though waiting for me). I think that a 1-second rule is warranted in these situations--if I wait 3 seconds I've lost. What I'm trying to do is just say "Hi", before I've even thought of anything else to say. My other thought is that if I do more general approaches, it will be more of a habit to respond to invitations. Something else I do is try to tell m…
/r/seduction06/05/11 12:03 PM
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I sometimes try to remind myself that girls actually like being hit on. Thanks for an extra reminder.
/r/seduction25/04/11 05:32 AM
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As for the kiss, I like something that wasn't suggested in that thread: kiss her ear. Run your tongue over the outside of her ear, trace circles around it, and nibble on the edges. Kiss down to her neck, then up to her lips. I'm not sure whether this works better than just going for the lips, but I believe this feels really good for most women. I do this with shy women that might not initially want to kiss me, but they're willing to let me make them horny.
/r/seduction25/04/11 05:28 AM
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It's an FR: "Field Report". It's a fucking report; if you need an abstract, read the title.
/r/seduction20/04/11 05:59 AM
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Tofu, do you speak Japanese? If not, how do you overcome language barrier issues? Do you run your game with a minimum of language exchange? (I'm not a great talker, but I find talking necessary to build a connection, and I've been living in China.)
/r/seduction11/04/11 01:45 AM
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The time I took a girl bowling, there was frequent kino when one of us walked back to sit down and the other stood up to bowl, particularly when one of us had done well or badly. Things like putting arms around each other. But to be honest, I think she didn't like it very much. But I had been talking about my new coffee maker the whole evening (I'm a big coffee person, and this thing made lattes and cuppuccinos as well), so when I said I was gonna make her coffee, it seemed like it wasn't just a…
/r/seduction10/04/11 04:55 PM
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I don't tend to do things when I'm drunk that I wouldn't do while sober. And I get righteously pissed when other people make decisions for my benefit (that are contrary to my wishes). As a result, I see other people in the same light--she clearly wanted you, so you should have gone for it. Edit: I feel the same way about age as I do about alcohol--I don't regret having had sex when I was younger than 18. If this guy had jumped on the girl, he wouldn't have been taking advantage of some naive flo…
/r/seduction02/04/11 02:49 PM
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If only I knew how to have fun when I'm alone and not drunk and dancing... I guess I need to play more pool and darts and talk to more people. And smile more.
/r/seduction02/04/11 02:45 PM
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If you're an expat in another country and you go to an expat bar, it's easier than it is in the US--you're already part of their community. (And hello from Shanghai.) As for approaching the locals and joining their conversation, I generally can't so I wouldn't know. I think the problem with going out alone is that you're not having fun. If you can think of a way to make it fun, people won't think you're weird and you won't feel weird. Because if it's fun, you don't need an excuse.
/r/seduction02/04/11 02:19 PM
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I'm sorry, I edited my post. What were you referring to?
/r/seduction02/04/11 02:04 PM
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I have the same problem in bars. A friend of mine that goes to bars alone recommends playing pool for an excuse to talk to people. Another post I read recommended approaching a group of people, joining their conversation, and leaving to go talk to another group before too long. Not sure how well that works, though. Edit: In clubs, when people ask if my friends are here, I say, "No, tonight it's just me." Or maybe that my friend didn't feel like going out or that they might be coming later (which…
/r/seduction02/04/11 01:54 PM
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The idea is that you don't want to let her know that you have doubts and fear. You want to muster all the self-confidence you possibly can. So, "I just thought I'd say hi" is the sentiment you're going for.
/r/seduction02/04/11 01:47 PM
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She literally blew me in a public place. But it was within my apartment complex, and it was mostly surrounded by plants and trees. (And it was dark outside and we hadn't really noticed anyone walking around in that area.)
/r/seduction16/03/11 05:29 PM
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A bench within my apartment complex with trees and shrubs mostly surrounding it. And don't worry, I didn't get anything on the bench but cooties.
/r/seduction15/03/11 11:59 AM
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/r/seduction15/03/11 01:01 AM
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Haha, yeah. I may have had a couple drinks earlier that evening, and my last girlfriend also gave me plenty of chances to practice being bold--she liked it. Edit2: My words may have been misleading, and we were making out for more than just 30 seconds at that point. But not more than a few minutes. She had already been moaning a little bit when I did the "ear thing" to her (tracing the parts of her ear in shrinking circles/semicircles with my tongue). Edit: I haven't tested this a lot yet, but I…
/r/seduction15/03/11 01:01 AM
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Thanks :) The whole interaction was one big IOI. I think you've got it right there... maybe it's easier to quantify IOIs when you're less sure whether someone is interested.
/r/seduction14/03/11 04:47 PM
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Haha. The answer's a bit graphic... when I asked if whether she liked guys that were forceful/dominant, she seemed enthusiastic, so when half a minute later she asked my name, and I told her I'd tell her but she had to earn it. I pushed her onto a bench and "made" her start to blow me. So the sexual ice was then broken and it seemed clear that we should go to my apartment, whether we had sex or not. Upstairs, we had a drink, talked/kissed, then made out. She reminded me that I said we didn't hav…
/r/seduction14/03/11 04:46 PM
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I'm somewhat boring (interests are too narrow), and I have a bad memory for things like that. I'm trying to improve this by living a more interesting life and consciously remembering the events that will make good stories. As for books and pop culture, I may remain hopeless.
/r/seduction14/03/11 04:25 PM
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God, I would be so bad at those. It occurs to me that some girls are just really good at being picked up... good at faciliting the type of conversations that have a lot of teasing and excitement. I'm sure some girls are interested in hooking up but aren't as good at conversation and don't naturally do kino.
/r/seduction14/03/11 03:13 PM
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This doesn't work well in all situations, but I sometimes punch a girl in the arm (just a tap; nothing uncomfortable or intimidating). Works well when approaching from the side or back, because it's more familiar than calling their name. Or maybe I should just be putting a hand on a shoulder instead--not sure.
/r/seduction14/03/11 03:03 PM
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seduction is obsessed with demonstrating higher value, and I want to rededicate myself to actually being higher value. Props. This is how I feel--for me, boxing practice is a higher priority than making a lot of time to approach women. Unfortunately for me, a big part of becoming a better person is being able to approach men and women and find friendships/entertainment/relationships/sex. So I'm still shooting myself in the foot if I say, "I can't go out, I have practice tomorrow."
/r/seduction06/03/11 02:56 PM
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That's interesting. Making a quota of n rejections per night feels easier than maing a quota of n approaches--putting it in that light will probably lessen approach anxiety.
/r/seduction26/02/11 09:19 PM
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Old quote I heard for the first time tonight: Rejection is good. The more I get rejected, the more I will get laid.
/r/seduction26/02/11 09:07 PM
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The article just uses him as an example for a few sentences. The second half of the article is interesting.
/r/seduction26/02/11 08:18 PM
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I am not China expert, but I think PDAs are frowned upon. Thanks. PDA is frowed upon, but that doesn't apply to the younger generation as much, and also may not apply inside a club. But it depends on the person and the club. The youngins may be shy in public, but the older people are the ones that really think it's wrong to PDA.
/r/seduction19/02/11 05:46 AM
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I follow a code that I call “Fuck My Game”. Yeah, fuck it. I’ll apologize I had a martial arts instructor who suggested that in that situation, we would do well to affirm, "Oh, is this your girlfriend? Wow, you are a lucky man! Here, let me buy you a drink!" Sometimes a person will only get angrier if you apologize.
/r/seduction18/02/11 01:22 PM
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I deleted the comment. The situation did feel kind of rapey. But we were basically on the same page, with the same level of "I want to do this but shouldn't", though our reasons for not wanting to were different.
/r/seduction17/02/11 11:28 AM
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If you meet a girl that doesn't seem interested in a game, don't give her one. Some principles always apply, though, like most of what you know about touching. (FYI, I'm not really a PUA, which is actually why I feel this advice is valid.)
/r/seduction25/07/10 08:01 AM
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My first experience attempting to date here was a rude awakening to the fact that hanging out together (alone, not as a group) and talking to each other a lot is not an IOI. Strictly speaking, it's not always an IOI in the US, but it's more likely to be.
/r/seduction20/07/10 04:36 PM
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That sounds like a great goal to work toward. While I'm abroad, I'd like to improve myself and be more of an alpha male--do you think it's possible to practice building attraction without actually picking up women? I ask because I'll probably find a girlfriend before I get good at picking up girls.
/r/seduction20/07/10 04:30 PM
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