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2	How to help my wife with stepmother role We do children needs > adult needs > adult wants > children wants. So far there haven’t been anything that can’t be resolved with everyone feeling heard and prioritized. Relationships are modeled to children, you can’t show a healthy relationship while also constantly discounting your partner and putting them after what a child wants. And the relationship will fail. Example: my partners daughter wants to watch tv loudly in the living room while she plays, my partner doesn’t mind. I, however, do …	/r/Divorce_Men	01/04/22 05:15 PM
2	How to help my wife with stepmother role No I get that. I’m saying OP needs to think about whether when the kids are at his house, he does the majority of all the caretaking, or whether it falls on his wife. That could be a reason she’s not looking to have them this extra week. You had mentioned it didn’t sound like the new wife wanted to be a guardian so I was saying she shouldn’t have to be, especially on moms weeks. Apologies if I misunderstood what you were saying. She can’t break boundaries if they haven’t set any. It sounds like …	/r/Divorce_Men	31/03/22 01:39 PM
2	How to help my wife with stepmother role I mean big oof is he wants her to be the kids’ “guardian” on the moms parenting time. If that’s what’s happening she within her rights to say no. She didn’t sign up to be a free babysitter for his ex-wife. If she’s just feeling overwhelmed with being a stepmom and wants to disengage from time to time, that’s within normal stepfamily dynamics. A perk of stepparenthood is you get to pick how involved you want to be. If he does all the care and she just doesn’t want the kids around when they don’t …	/r/Divorce_Men	30/03/22 03:06 PM
1	How to help my wife with stepmother role You’re making a lot of very judgmental assumptions. there’s a lot we don’t know. Who is doing the majority of the childcare when the kids are at dads? A lot of times it falls on the stepmom and that might be why she’s feeling resentful, or maybe there’s things he can do to make her feel more included when the kids are there. Common issue is that stepparent feels like the outsider in their own home when the kids are there. There’s lots he can do to make it smoother and more enjoyable for her. May…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/03/22 02:52 PM
0	How to help my wife with stepmother role There should not be a need to stick up or bash either of them. They need to function as a team not as opponents. Stepfamily dynamics are incredibly hard and complex and he’s asking for help navigating a very common stepfamily issue, that is probably best addressed by people who have dealt with it.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/03/22 02:37 PM
3	How to help my wife with stepmother role Posting this is r/stepmom might get you some better advice	/r/Divorce_Men	29/03/22 10:28 PM
1	Would you date, marry or even consider a relationship with a single father? There hasn’t a huge amount to deal with thankfully. Emotionally it sucked a lot at first because it’s quite literally an ex that never goes away. Best thing I can say is just remembering they aren’t together for a reason and he’s chosen to be with me. Their solid boundaries are that they only communicate about the child and everything is done separately and the custody order is pretty strictly followed which cuts out a lot of potential conflict. I know some coparents do holidays and special even…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/22 02:33 AM
2	Mother of child no longer agreeing to co-parent? Guy using his gfs account because I’m Reddit illiterate and she helps with what I’m searching for and this happen to come up. So buddy, I’m not reading what anyone else says, and idk you but I’d love to. I just went through ALL of this. My friend, she has most likely already filed paperwork and is banking on you being nice so that she can default you in parenting time, and custody. Bro if you waste another minute with this wondering shit, when she has already done this to you, than what are you …	/r/Divorce_Men	09/03/22 04:29 AM
12	I’ve seen this claim on PPD. Women of PPD, if abortions were banned tomorrow, would you keep having casual sex? It wouldn’t change the amount of sex casual or not I’m having. I have an IUD but if needed I’d get an abortion using aidaccess which will mail the abortion pill to your house from overseas. Just like women in Texas are currently doing. People will still have all types of sex, and women will still have abortions, it’ll just be harder to have safe ones.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/22 01:53 AM
4	Question for women: Why do you willingly have children knowing the father won’t be around? I’m a woman and I don’t understand it. I had an accidental pregnancy with a great guy (that I’m still with but had only known for a month at the time). It tore me apart but I did the right thing and got an abortion. And he would have been an involved father but I wasn’t going to bring a life into this world that could potentially have to bounce between two houses, whose parents would be young and still creating their own lives, and who would know he took many opportunities away from his parents.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/22 02:27 AM
1	Would you date, marry or even consider a relationship with a single father? Im a year in to dating a single father. He’s great and it a relatively low conflict coparenting situation with solid boundaries, but if I could go back I would have stuck to fellow childless people. It’s just a lot of stress and I’m not even a stepmom yet and I still feel pressure to be “super involved stepmom”. there are societal expectations that as the woman you should be cool with babysitting and doing all this stuff for the kid when the reality is that’s not my kid and just because I’m dati…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/22 06:41 PM
1	Most single mothers would rather marry a single childless man than a single father. The opposite is untrue. I think these are the reasons that justifies why single childless men should not marry single mothers... I (24F) am childless dating a single dad (27M). I met him on Tinder and we fell in love. I am successful and attractive and have options. If it doesn’t work out I probably won’t go for a single dad again because it’s very hard in terms of dealing with his ex, having to adapt to a kid being around 40% of the time ect. I am a very free person and travel often - he’s worked hard to show me that I do not have to take any responsibilities I do not want with regards to his daughter and has gone out of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/21 04:24 PM