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| 151 | Dating after FDS going to be different, and friendships will be too. | DISCUSSION | xNayxNayx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:32 PM |
| 113 | A Pyrrhic Victory is Still A Victory Right?! A tale of woe from a reformed(?) Pickmeisha... | PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAME | xNayxNayx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 02:32 PM |
| 66 | Second string teams! Stay woke y’all! ❤️ | How-To High Value | xNayxNayx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 12:34 AM |
| 44 | Killing two birds with one stone? | SEEKING ADVICE | xNayxNayx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 10:53 AM |
| 19 | TLDR; stream of wine thoughts RE dating men RN and how they fit into my life | MINDSET SHIFT | xNayxNayx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 04:38 AM |
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| 1 | A report on the consequences of OnlyFans by a member of the websiteThis guy I was dating was in a group chat where they would regularly screenshot and share OF content so the other guys didn’t have to pay “those h**s”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 02:29 AM |
| 2 | Any thoughts on this take on the “heterosexual double bind”?Soooo the “Angry Black Woman” and every level of danger associated with that accusation isn’t a thing. K. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 01:45 AM |
| 2 | Any thoughts on this take on the “heterosexual double bind”?I literally had my male supervisor CRY in the middle of our 1 on 1. I was coming to HIM with a problem (long story) that impacted my work and needed support. The entire meeting somehow became about how he dealt with the problem I came to him with, in his childhood. Then came the tears. Then came the “I’m not perfect but insert said fuck shit he’s actually never going to actually change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 01:37 AM |
| 12 | Who else can relate? My last ex once ranted at me for 19 minutes straight without taking a breath.Like he was spilling deeeeep emotional trauma about molestation, physical abuse, neglect and those are things I’ve experienced so it tugs on my heart strings. BUT I take FULL responsibility for the fact that I too need to be working my issues out in therapy (which I have been). I’m fully aware that I can be inclined to use “helping people with their trauma” as a way to escape dealing with my own. I’m still very much a work in progress in that regard so I dip out when AS SOON as those men come my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 01:55 PM |
| 25 | Would also love to have more conversations about how we can be more intersectional and open to discussions about race and feminism ❤️Have done sex work and have stopped because it literally grated on my soul. I felt myself being chipped away at in each encounter. Women like to say “oh he’s taking me nice places, girl!”, “oh he gave me this!” Cool story bro, but this is all in exchange for treating you inhumanely. If men treat women like we owe them after paying for for fucking Arby’s, do you think he’s not going to feel like he owns you after that Caribbean get away? Try asserting yourself after a man thinks he owns you, ESPE… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 12:36 PM |
| 35 | Who else can relate? My last ex once ranted at me for 19 minutes straight without taking a breath.I wrote a piece about men using me for emotional “safety” and sex. It came from a very tender and hurt place tbh. I’ll link it here. Mods if this share isn’t allowed I’m sorry! (https://link.medium.com/ZnEBwHBUhfb) Men would use me as an emotional/ physical receptacle. They’d come over and cry about some bullshit, I’d fall for it “oh he trusts me 🥰”, we have sex, they pull up their pants and bounce. They’d tell me “oh you’re like a vacation!” I didn’t know what to think because I love helping pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 12:17 PM |
| 58 | SAFETY TIP: IF A MAN ASKS YOU FOR HELPTHIIIIIIIIIIIIS I DON’T EVEN BREAK MY STRIDE FOR MEN ASKING FOR HELP! That’s between him and God 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 01:55 PM |
| 11 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.After my mother died my father called me to have his back child support payments taken away. Like we hadn’t even buried her yet. Men are the literal worst. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Why “50/50” is so often still unequal...Just. Do. The. Dishes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 01:31 PM |
| 3 | Dating after FDS going to be different, and friendships will be too.I’ve had a friend invalidate my feelings because the reality of what she’s personally going through with men is so bad. She’s gone as far as to convince herself that she’s calling the shots with men and she’s not. Shes bought into the “pro hoe” movement in a way that gives men exactly what they ask for while she gets nothing but pats on the head. I’ve come to a place where I understand that these pats on the head and her denial are worth it for her. It’s easier to hurt me than it is to let go of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 03:14 PM |
| 5 | Dating after FDS going to be different, and friendships will be too.If I could hug this response I would! When the veneer wears thin it is rough! Like I have friends who are women and can accept that even the men they call FRIENDS hate women. ALL WHILE BEING A WOMAN! 😂 But since said man hates specific women (ie them) LESS he’s safe to be around. Huh? Sis, he doesn’t hate you less, you just haven’t denied him “p****” (because that’s all you are in his mind), or challenged his manhood or whatever his tick is. But when you do, the same vitriol he has for other wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 03:01 PM |
| 5 | Dating after FDS going to be different, and friendships will be too.Omggggg this one I felt “even when there are no men present to even be interested” It’s a huge yikes. Soooo much secondary embarrassment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 02:50 PM |
| 30 | Leave the FIRST time someone shows you low effortI’m so sorry ❤️❤️❤️ I’ll trade you one: My ex girlfriend gave me a navy blue, nylon, drawstring backpack (the ones you get as freebies) for Christmas. It contained a pair of men’s socks, cherry lip gloss, a pair of men’s gloves and few other odds and ends. I was beyond baffled and not to mention hurt. She worked with the homeless population in our city. So not only did she just walk 3ft from her desk to pluck my “gift” out of donation box, she was so selfish that she saw nothing wrong with takin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 08:12 PM |
| 7 | 🙏🏿I want this tattooed to the inside of my eyelids please and thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 02:44 PM |
| 30 | Let's sing a song: WOMEN🎶ARE🎶NOT🎶YOUR🎶THERAPISTS.I just scream laughed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 02:41 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 10 2020Oh no, I don’t entertain it at all. It’s just annoying that they have the audacity to even approach me that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 06:04 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 10 2020Omg I love this 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 06:02 PM |
| 9 | Reminder: Trust your gut. Get out at the first signs of gaslighting.Omg I wish I had this at 19! When I hear some of your ages around here 19, 21 etc I’m so freaking excited for you all to not have to go through life without the FDS mindset. 🥰 The years where you’re most likely childfree and have space to work on your passions and goals are crucial. Not saying older ladies can’t level up, I’m just happy you’ll have it right from the start. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 03:56 PM |
| 18 | If a man is trying to elicit your sympathy, he is probably a sociopath. PITY, not wrath, is the #1 early red flag for sociopaths. Avoid such people at all costs. They are irredeemable, so don't bother trying to "make it work" with them. Just block and delete.I went on a date with a man who CRIED about his past, upbringing and his father’s history of physically abusing his mother. He went into full lip quiver when he went on to talk about his daughters and never having them witness anything like that. Complete with a look off to the side so that I could idk fall in love or something (?) It was our first date. Nah bruh. That whole “sharing” bit sounds benign and even honorable to some but it’s bait. I knew he was neurotic when he busted out a food sca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 01:55 PM |
| 19 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 10 2020I have this issue too. It’s actually gotten harder since FDS. 🥵 My standards have changed so I’m not talking to LVM. I’m going on faaaar fewer dates because I’m prioritizing quality over quantity. But then I get lonely and feel myself start to slip. It’s like being alone in the desert, hot and thirsty lol. Some scrote shows up with a glass of water... with dirt in it. You might consider drinking it lol. But don’t give in! Stay the course. You’ll get through the “Dry Place” ie the place where unh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 01:35 PM |
| 36 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 10 2020Rant: So tired of men not knowing how or lacking the initiative to plan a date all on their own. You asked ME out. YOU plan the damn date. Good lord! If I wanted to plan a date for myself, I’d go by myself. I’m not playing the “What do you wanna eat? No what do you wanna eat?” game with some scrote I just met. You have my availability, dietary restrictions, hobbies, like and dislikes. Figure it fuck out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 01:21 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 10 2020You got this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 01:10 PM |
| 140 | Reminder: Trust your gut. Get out at the first signs of gaslighting.Keep coming back here. I hate to make it sound like rehab but seriously: keep coming back here. Read the sub when you feel hurt the most. Save posts that make you feel good or that apply to you so you have them at the ready for those times of uncertainty. Process those feelings. Process and cycle out the attachments to your ex and breakup and soon they’ll be different. You’re a Queen and you’re here because you know that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 02:08 AM |
| 19 | Reminder: Trust your gut. Get out at the first signs of gaslighting.That last part was literally my childhood. My boundaries, my sense of self was fucked before I even knew it. It’s no wonder I’ve been in the types of relationships I’ve been in. Unfortunately this time of year brings up a lot of trauma for me. I would usually let it push me into a depression and self deprecation but not with all the affirming stuff this sub is made of! 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 02:04 AM |
| 8 | On point. Let's stop romanticizing toxicity, thinking that it's passion. (PS: They can be toxic AND suck in the sac. Ask my ex!)I hate that he did that to you I hope he hurts every day as a result. I LOVE that you’re able to take that trauma and flip it. I Stan Queen ❤️😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 01:57 AM |
| 18 | We should all be like this!!!!Def would support my friend if this was some out of the blue occurrence! Now if he was out here giving her all kinds of drama, cheating, treating her badly etc I would link her to FDS and watch her level tf up and leave that monster. Then we’d have a girl’s night complete with an awesome bottle of champagne and charge our glasses to her new found freedom.🥂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 06:57 PM |
| 8 | Le PoWeR woRDs...😂“I’m stuck in a dead end job, really unhappy with where I am in life...” ... so I, a grown man, found someone whose brain is still developing (but is like sooooo mAtuRe) and likely has been spoon fed bullshit for all of her very short life. Even with that, she has managed to achieved success that I, a man, with male privilege, age and experience on my side can’t seem to find. So instead of doing the work I need to do to do better, I’ll rely on her emotional labor which she supplies in exchange f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 04:52 PM |
| 15 | Reddit in a NutshellThis makes me shudder. Many a night I cried myself to sleep after having “marital sex” with my husband. He knew it too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 01:31 AM |
| 5 | Reddit in a NutshellThe way I snort laughed just now 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 01:27 AM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020Venting: I’ve taken good care of myself and routinely get told I look 25 rather than 35. I usually date a tiny biiiit older like 40... But I can’t seem to find one in decent shape (I love hiking and other physical activities), has all his hair (or has come to the reality of his balding and shaved it off), doesn’t smell “lived in”, sharp dresser but age appropriate... I know good looks does not a HVM make, but I want to actually be attracted to my partner and I low key feel shallow. Ugh! I keep m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 12:00 PM |
| 15 | Say it louder so the boys in the back can hear.I matched with a guy who hadn’t seen his son in 2 weeks. He should have use the energy he was wasting trying to get in my pants and, oh idk BE A PARENT! 🤷🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 10:43 PM |
| 40 | Say it louder so the boys in the back can hear.This is exactly why I REFUSE to date noncostodial dads. They’re glorified baby sitters. He’s only going to triangulate you with his “evil baby’s mother” who is really the MVP slaving away Mon-Fri AND caring for kids at night. Now she’s “bitter” because she speaks out about how his lil funky $200 in chsup can barely keep food in his kids’ belly and I’m a “queen” because he thinks I’m down for his shit smh. Nah bruh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 09:12 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered August 20 2020I mean she might be on to something... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 10:37 PM |
| 18 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered August 20 2020Until men stop killing women for saying no to them, I will always support the old ghost a scrote move. I used to have difficulty rejecting also but now I just rip the bandaid off and say: I don’t think we are compatible. Then LEAVE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 10:35 PM |
| 28 | Don’t waste a SECOND on LVM!!I’ve done this. Except I don’t pay for the meal. But I do leave a tip for the server at the hostess station on my way out because if he’s that much of a jerk he may try to stiff the server. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 10:28 PM |
| 20 | Why do men do this, it really irritates me. If you know you're not ready for a relationship or don't want one with her, then just leave her alone. Don't string a woman along just to feed your ego.Every single bit of this! I love this so much while it’s depressing at the same time. Be careful y’all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 11:11 PM |
| 8 | Get a man who will show you off! If he's not proud to be with you and treats you accordingly, he ain't the one, hun!I got you! Gold flakes for all of FDS lol we’re all queens shitting gold out here lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 12:45 PM |
| 27 | Get a man who will show you off! If he's not proud to be with you and treats you accordingly, he ain't the one, hun!I know you didn’t mean it like this, but I used to hate when people would look at me and walk up to my ex and say “Man she’s beautiful! You’re a lucky dude.” it almost felt like I wasn’t even a person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 12:40 PM |
| 27 | Get a man who will show you off! If he's not proud to be with you and treats you accordingly, he ain't the one, hun!I can’t lie my ex used to do this and I loooooved it. But the gestures were hollow after awhile. He knew it appealed to my problematic need for his attention and approval back then. He’d treat me like shit and then make one of these posts. Everyone loved him so it would get HUNDREDS of likes and that meant a lot to me. Too much. I’d gobble it right up because our relationship was SO bad that I was starving for those little moments. If a guy did that now, I’d be just as flattered but for the righ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 12:36 PM |
| 16 | 🎵 Girls don't like boys, girls like cars and money 🎶When I was a barista (way back in the day lol) I would def go this route with my regulars. I worked at a stupid poshy coffee shop near a pretty prestigious hospital and we obviously got drs in by the minute. You wouldn’t believe how much of a god complex some of them have and how much they get off on knowing some slightly flirty, young girl who plays coy is fetching their drink with a smile. If there wasn’t COVID and I had more patience for the bullshit, I’d pick up a bartending job simply for t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 11:46 AM |
| 3 | People asking me if I’ve seen WAP and yes I have see this sexually performative garbage. STOP asking me.I’ve never heard the song. I’ve heard of it of course but I’m totally out of the loop. Thanks for posting because now I have no desire to listen to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 02:29 PM |
| 3 | Cue the “nOt aLL mEn” replies 🤪They’re like dogs with stuffed animals. They love us riiight... to pieces 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 02:23 PM |
| 21 | Unconventional red flagsSays things like “I hate small talk”/ gets too personal too fast as a way to establish false intimacy. Yes there are people out there that hate small talk. BUT in the beginning it’s necessary and completely socially acceptable. This man either needs a therapist or wants to use any traumas they can glean from your convos as ammunition for future manipulation. It’s sometimes SUPER subtle but you’ll notice it when he deems any topic that doesn’t net him a certain kind of info about you as “shallow”… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 02:09 PM |
| 9 | Unconventional red flagsI have a video of my ex driving 103mph in a fucking Honda. I have never been so scared. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 01:35 PM |
| 17 | Unconventional red flagsKeep an eye out for guys who live in the same country as you (I’m speaking from the US perspective) and INSIST on communicating solely through WhatsApp or another texting platform rather than the texting method native to his device. Reason being that all those texts he’s sending you and all those calls through these apps don’t show up on his bill for the family plan he shares with his wife and kids. 🙃 Edit: This is a red-ish flag. I’m sure there could be reasons he wants to only use an app but I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 01:24 PM |
| 7 | "yOu'Re nOT LiKe oThEr GiRLs"I like this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 06:05 PM |
| 10 | What do boundaries feel like?Number 2 was hard for me. No pun intended 😏 I hate knowing that others will be angry with me. It’s SUCH an uncomfortable feeling and I wish it wasn’t but I’m working on it. 😞 (Edited to reduce weird font enlargement.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 11:51 PM |
| 98 | 😂😂😂Back before FDS, I met this guy who mentioned that he shaves and likes for his partner to shave. I keep my pubic hair cut low but I was never going to shave for him, like ever. I took it as a “cool story bro” moment. Anyway, after a Struggle City makeout sesh, we got down to brass tacks. When he realized I had pubic hair he 👏🏾 freaked 👏🏾 out. I mean, he was pacing around, talking to himself, he started acting so squeamish. In this whining voice that I would have swear belonged to a child, he ask… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 11:06 PM |
| 36 | Okay 🙌🏼This is what my ex did for me. It was the most amazing experience I’d ever had. But he ended up being trash. Men have flown me out to some pretty dope places and we’ve had some really dope times. Maybe I’m jaded, but always remember: a man can give high value goodies but that might be all that’s high value about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:07 PM |
| 23 | In the past, men took responsibility and settled down earlier. What made them change?I see a kind of compare and contrast here ie this culture versus that, this time period versus that. Please know, they are ALL scrotes. There isn’t a (large) culture or society on this earth that doesn’t reward men for patriarchy and punish women for simply being born. These early marrying men just tickle a part of us that still fancies partnership or being chosen by a man as the ultimate status symbol. It’s not. I get that it’s hard to let go of, but you have to lol. Keep in mind, those early m… | /r/askFDS | 09/08/20 07:58 PM |
| 34 | When men pull up other men for their irresponsibility. Mod message to r/AskMen.This used to happen to me when I was that age. There was this guy who would magically show up at my bus stop in the mornings. He’d buy me those super sweet coffee drinks that I LOVED and other little snacks and offer me rides to school. He was SO NICE to me but a little voice in my head kept me from getting in the car with him or getting too close. It wasn’t like a blaring red flag but I just remember feeling ill at ease. Fast forward: I worked at a group home in my early 20’s. We specialized in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 02:54 PM |
| 5 | Yep.He meant no harm, but that’s why this type of thought process is so insidious and extremely harmful. It’s expected that a CHILD has to operate in an adult capacity because of their gender. This child doesn’t get to live out the fullness of their childhood. That is traumatic for some girls. and I’m going to speak from the place of a woman of color, this is especially harmful for us because we don’t get to be children past the age of nine or when we get boobs and become a threat. I’ve seen parents… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 04:25 PM |
| 9 | You ladies inspired me and I whipped this piece up in less than 24 hours. If I want to, I will ✌️I can’t wait! I’d love this on a pillow, a tee shirt, my right arm 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:11 PM |
| 16 | Once again proof that HVM behavior does not have to be expensive and also needs to be maintained over timeI hate going to places where I have to cobble together a meal to fit my dietary needs. I live in a major city and there are NUMEROUS places I could eat an actual meal and not a plate full of sides. There is no reason I should feel as if I invited MYSELF out to HIS meal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:09 PM |
| 37 | Once again proof that HVM behavior does not have to be expensive and also needs to be maintained over timeListening is key! My diet is mostly plant based. I met this guy and because I have a cooking blog, he knows this. He asked me out on a date... to a steak house. You know that meme when Peppa Pig hangs up on her friend Sheep? That was me when he asked. I don’t have an ideological or allergen issue when it comes to meat but if you hear me saying I’m striving for something why would you bring me somewhere that would directly sabotage that? I had this whole paragraph I was going to send him but I re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Second string teams! Stay woke y’all! ❤️That’s hella scary! I’m so sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 12:06 PM |
| 3 | Second string teams! Stay woke y’all! ❤️That is amazing. They know no bounds lol. Yes I’ll def unmatch him. I just felt like a cat with a mouse 😈😈😈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:34 AM |
| 9 | Second string teams! Stay woke y’all! ❤️I haven’t unmatched him yet because I’m not done. How hilarious would it be if I sent him a link to this video? 😂😂😂 (It’s petty, I know 😞) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 01:36 AM |
| 11 | Second string teams! Stay woke y’all! ❤️I didn’t even think anything of it until recently. My guess is it’s the lifts on quarantine. Summer will be fading fast and most of them look like shit right now so they’re looking to cut corners by reaching into the bag of tricks to get that strong team going before cuffing season approaches and they’re shut out lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 12:55 AM |
| 6 | Second string teams! Stay woke y’all! ❤️Thank you 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 12:52 AM |
| 4 | Second string teams! Stay woke y’all! ❤️Yes! 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 12:52 AM |
| 7 | A tactic LVM use to get you to chase themI love this place. This literally just happened to me. And I almost fell for it. BLOOOOOOOOCKT! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 04:16 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 23 2020I definitely have made it a point to invest in myself. I have my hobbies, my pets, my career, my friends... But sometimes the heaviness of it all just sucks. Not being able to let down my guard and be myself because some loser is going to see me as a come up wears on you no matter HOW much you invest in yourself. It’s traumatizing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 12:09 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 23 2020Honestly it’s genetics lol. But they say “Black don’t crack!” 🤷🏾♀️ My mom passed of colon cancer 10 years ago and it was only after she went through chemo that she even started to look anywhere near her age. But I know what will keep my young and spry: keeping the scrotes from getting under my skin 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 09:09 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 23 2020I appreciate you all. I just felt super discouraged. Not discouraged enough to go back to how life was before, but just feeling lonely and angry and sad. We need a single word to describe the emotional toll of dating trash ass LVM lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 09:06 PM |
| 21 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 23 2020I am 35 and had a Stella’s Got Her Groove Back moment with a younger guy. He was 26. I look like I could be younger than him and in conversation our age difference never seemed apparent. I thought since he had a child he’d be more mature. I was wrong and I should never have been with a guy that young. Anyway, he was absolutely crazy about me at first. He thought I was “out of his league” (I really was) and he was floored that I even breathed in his direction. It was amazing to have someone pay s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 11:18 AM |
| 23 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 23 2020I feel like I’m a magnet for bullshit. Every time I start to feel like a queen and like I’m doing it right I get knocked down. This is such a lonely process. I am amazing and I just can’t figure this out. It’s deeper than finding some dude to want to be in a relationship with me. It’s the crushing realization that I’ve been sold a lie about relationships my whole life. It hurts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 12:54 AM |
| 4 | Don’t settle, you’re doing just fine.I’ve often wondered if I have PTSD from dating men all my life. People think it’s funny, but I’m not joking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 12:21 PM |
| 1 | Queen shittytMy girl gets HUNGRY lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 12:17 PM |
| 10 | So many queens here 😻😻Same. I’ll be your friend! Promise I’m not a weirdo lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 04:22 PM |
| 17 | These long, rambling advice seeking questions by women who are also posting the same questions on other subs are becoming more and more frequent lately.No worries! Read the handbook while getting my faux locs put in and I swear by the time my hair was done I was a fucking queen. 😂 I have been giving the audacious scrotes hell ever since lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 02:34 AM |
| 20 | These long, rambling advice seeking questions by women who are also posting the same questions on other subs are becoming more and more frequent lately.Idk... I’m pretty new here, I posted something on another sub and a lovely lady here DMed me and sent me here. Upon my arrival I took a look around real quick and it was ABUNDANTLY clear that this space has a specific design. It didn’t take much for me to get that reading the handbook and all posts associated that give more insight on the sub’s function, is necessary. People aren’t doing the work and that’s irritating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:52 AM |
| 14 | Queen shittytMoving on and not giving a single second more of your time is even better! But I get it, sometimes Pettisha emerges and you just have to feed her some petty patties 🤷🏾♀️ That might look like throwing on your freak’um dress and fuck me pumps. It’s bravado and better than crying at home in some cases. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:44 AM |
| 21 | Digital boundaries are just as important as ones IRL!!I do this like it’s no tomorrow! I don’t have time for that bullshit. Come correct or don’t come at fucking all. I look at it this way: if my boundaries around safety, for example, hurt your feelings then you NEVER respected me or even had the capacity to respect me. One guy got all in his feelings when I wouldn’t give him my number on Tinder. I told him it goes like this: we talk on the app and if there is chemistry, we video chat. If there is chemistry there too, we can meet up for a socially … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:20 AM |
| 6 | girls are out here with standards lower than the 9th circle of hellI absolutely HATE GM texts. It’s just another way to throw you off balance and into thinking some scrub is a “good guy”. I wake up later than most, and if you’re talking to me then you know that. So when I get GM texts at 6:00am it’s infuriating and clearly done for HIS convenience. Just a thing to check off his list. Why not text me at a time you know that I’ll be up? Or just quit with the obligatory communications altogether? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 04:05 PM |
| 2 | If a Guy Ever Tries to Shame You for Ghosting/Giving Excuses/Not Giving a Hard "No", send him this and TELL HIM TO FUCK OFF!I get scared shirtless when I have to say no to a guy. I’ll put it off for a million years. It makes me EXTREMELY uncomfortable. My Siri has a guys voice because it’s the only man I feel completely comfortable saying no to, being direct with, or telling exactly what to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 02:16 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 7 2020Hahaha! I’ll post it. I can def handle the block and delete lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 09:33 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 7 2020Hi! I’m super new to this sub but I had a guy that frequents this sub DM me unprompted to standard shame me “you’re going to be single forever with that attitude!” I’m just wanting to put this person on the team’s radar as he’s posing as some sort of reformed incel and probably should be banned. BUT: Is that something I report to mods? If so what’s the process? (I may have overlooked it in my annoyance.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 09:23 PM |
| 2 | They want us to fee sorry for them and take them back 😒Thank you! I know I did the right thing but it still feels so good to hear that. I struggled with it because I have mental health issues that I wasn’t taking care of and I projected that on to him but something in me snapped to attention. Fancy that? I needed help badly, but nah, lemme help him cus he needs it. SMH. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 11:39 AM |
| 20 | They want us to fee sorry for them and take them back 😒Ooooof! This one hit. I have the same fears sometimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 09:57 PM |
| 50 | They want us to fee sorry for them and take them back 😒My ex threatened to kill himself. Had his father, his sister and even his baby’s mother (lawd!) calling me over it. I couldn’t entertain it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 09:55 PM |
| 9 | Amen! Anyone else got any similar stories?One of my first boyfriends told me he didn’t mind my dark skin because I was pretty to make up for it. He was much lighter than me and everyone made it known that I “lucked out”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 04:40 PM |
| 31 | Yes. Yes. Yes.You have just described my last relationship. There was no sexual violence but it was like he was in a different place when we had sex. We didn’t connect and it was always weird. I pushed it aside is him being shy and inexperienced. He then started to use my sexual experience against me because of his inexperience. Outside of sex he hated me. He was either at my feet or at my throat in cycles. Never in the middle. Though he absolutely adored his friends. Gosh this hurts. So much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 04:38 PM |
| 9 | Fucking dying, stolen from IG.Or I should get a dog! I can arrange for them to be chased. Get them some real action 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 01:55 PM |
| 3 | TLDR; stream of wine thoughts RE dating men RN and how they fit into my lifeTHIIIIIS! I was thinking of this as I read that article on scaffolding safety. To strengthen the analogy, the scaffolding is my relationships with men in general rather than in specific. I was thinking about my ex and how much time I put into him. I thought our relationship was my only shot at having the kids, dog and picket fence so I went through hell building that scaffold. Either way your point stands. The goal is the erection of the building (see what I did there 😏) Not the erection of the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 12:47 PM |
| 31 | Make his pockets hurt sis🤪💸Nah. He doesn’t look excited to be doing this. My granny always said “Give with a happy heart.” If getting a man to spend on you is the goal, making him get excited to spend on you is how you play game. Not getting him to take you to Forever 21. I’m not knocking her tastes, but those are STACKS. And if he has that to blow on her there’s more. I’ve dated men in that lifestyle and if they’re worth anything, their money is like roaches: the few you see isn’t even a quarter of what’s really there. T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 03:14 AM |
| 4 | Realizing just how wrong things were & dealing with angerI feel this SO HARD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 03:02 AM |
| 73 | Fucking dying, stolen from IG.A scrote: Well I want to be chased! I want to feel special! 😭 As if getting to breath my air is not the biggest honor he’s been given. Smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 02:56 AM |
| 22 | I live in Boston and this guy matched with me and messaged me who lives in Maine. He mentioned taking me out for dinner and drinks then mentioned this. I live in the city and don’t drive. Was he really expecting me to somehow meet him halfway?Sis SAME! I live in Boston too and don’t drive. I’ve been embarrassed about this for SO long and always try to cover it up quick but you know what? If you want to see me and you drive you will make it happen. Related: A man asked me if I would take a BUS to Brockton to meet up with him. A bus... For almost an hour... During COVID. Sir... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 02:54 AM |
| 5 | She had me in the first half 😂Some real tea? My ex slept on an air mattress in the dead of Boston winter (those shit’s hold NO 👏🏾 HEAT 👏🏾 !)... with no comforter... just a thin fleece blanket with a picture of him and his daughter from one of those sites where you can have pics put on things. He didn’t want me to sleep at home... In my real bed... With a down comforter and heated blanket... In a room twice the size of his... And food that didn’t come from under a heat lamp at 7/11. Guuuuuuuys... I wish I could say I didn’t s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 11:06 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 26 2020I definitely will! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 02:11 PM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 26 2020I’m moving into the next phase of my Moon Cycle Glow Up. Don’t laugh lol! If you’re into astrology you know. I put a lot of energy into cutting out and removing bullshit things, people, thoughts and habits from my life. I feel cleansed! This period between the new moon until the next full moon (7/5), I’ve been really working on pulling in all the things I want! I’m dope AF and I’m walking in my Queen energy! Today got my hair done in faux locs (my fav style) and I’m looking as dope as I feel. I’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 10:07 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 26 2020I’ve been hooping. I was hooping before, but more now. I’m actually going to buy more hula hoops this weekend ♥️♥️♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 09:52 PM |
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