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3

Cause he thinks with his d*ck. He will likely pay alimony for a year and she will fight for child support. The court can grant child support to keep the status quo (what’s best for the kid)
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 07:42 PM
3

But most men do
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 02:50 AM
1

Of course there’s another man. Why else would she lose her identity if she doesn’t want another dicking? What is the point of asking for advice when you didn’t believe it then? You chose to believe somebody who betrayed you over somebody that is on your side, why?
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 01:50 AM
3

Then don’t change? It’s in your control. Be who you are.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 08:12 PM
7

She is not special. If she is, she would be a wife by now.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 07:37 AM
2

Then have dinner at your place
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 11:51 PM
3

Split 50/50. Why should you pay for a woman’s time?
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 11:45 PM
0

That is her true self being revealed. Instead of believing reality, you believe what she says?
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 08:25 AM
5

This woman is hugely trauma. To be in an open relationship means she constantly seek validation from men. She has a lack of sense of self.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 08:03 AM
0

Why not just walk at the first sign of disrespect ?
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 07:59 AM
6

I don’t understand why this is so hard for you? Man up and don’t simp?
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 12:02 AM
4

The different personalities between public and private show you everything. The mask is on in public, the true self is revealed in private.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 08:53 PM
3

She is showing you her true self. That is who she is. Hold your self love and self respect. Address the bad behaviors
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 08:50 PM
-10

Who picked someone like that to marry? You need to stop playing the victim.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 02:48 AM
5

Its not her bf fault dude
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 09:30 PM
4

It sounds like you fear being alone
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 11:16 PM
12

Don’t keep anybody who wants to leave. Let her go
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 11:14 PM
6

Dude, what kind of women are you attracting? You still haven’t healed. You pay money for the dates for these women so you won’t be alone?
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 11:11 PM
1

This right here.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 03:28 AM
22

When somebody threaten you with divorce, you take them up on it
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 11:56 PM
13

You need to accept that is who she is. Not wife material.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 05:25 PM
5

Dude, it’s not you, it’s just your turn.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 04:15 AM
1

It seems it’s cheaper just to hire escorts or sugar babies
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 02:51 AM
3

What was your history? How long did you date and then marriage? My ex did the same thing. She took a trip with a guy friend then sent the pic of them together to my sister.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 02:40 AM
1

Why would a woman be with someone if they can’t extract resources from a man? It’s foolish to think otherwise. Women date for gains.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 01:19 PM
4

It sounds like you are playing the victim. Your exwife was not wife material to begin with and you still married her. Many women aren’t meant for marriage. Same concept is not everyone can be a pop star.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 12:08 AM
3

Now why would you date somebody who is still married and not emotionally available? He still has tons of emotion he needs to work on and process after his divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 05:33 PM
14

Women date for gains and for a retirement plan. Don’t be someone else retirement plan.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 03:58 PM
1

These similar behaviors should have showed up during dating. It seems you missed some of them and rationalized them away. She is toxic because she knows you are locked in.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 02:12 PM
2

When she can’t see her mistakes, it means she is perfect, there is nothing to change. There is no improvement in the relationship. You can’t build a life with somebody who can’t grow.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 04:34 PM
2

Why do you think you can fix such a broken woman?
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 02:07 PM
1

When did you realize your mom is the problem in the marriage with your dad?
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 06:20 PM
1

You mentioned that she did a lot of bad things to you. How did you hold her responsible for each of the bad things that she did to you? A person who is married to you, you would hold them to a higher standard of treating you, not less?
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 06:12 PM
5

And did you get better financially from being in a marriage? Did your sex life get better?
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 05:35 AM
1

So she went to find herself?
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 08:34 PM
5

He thinks he is the exception to the rule. He needs to get hurt to learn it unfortunately. Would you have listened if somebody told you when you were in your 20s not to marry your wife because she will betray you?
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 01:23 PM
5

When she pushed for marriage, you know it’s an issue. She prioritized signing a paper over being with you. It’s time for a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 01:46 AM
2

This right here sums it up.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 01:03 PM
6

You sign a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it. Now she knows you will be financially hurt if you divorce, so of course she will be selfish and do what she wants.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 01:02 PM
-14

Yes, who decided he wants to get married? If you didn’t want to give someone 500k, why did you get married?
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 10:09 AM
18

No, she likely hook up with more than 4 dudes. Have self respect, she clearly doesn’t value you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 07:59 AM
8

This she was never yours. Her actions say it all
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 09:52 PM
19

Most Women who are 40+ are looking for a man to be their retirement plan. They are done with having fun and looking to be taken care of. Do not go for these women who didn’t consider you when you were on your grind up. Have self respect.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 06:35 PM
11

Look at the issue at hand: -she has childhood trauma and he married her. This in itself is a no no -they both agreed no kids. He did the switcheroo and blamed her. This time, the man is not taking the accountability. Each issue in itself would be a no marriage, but this guy thinks he can fix her and put his dick in crazy. He is the a**hole. She is not wife material and he married her anyway expecting he can change her.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 04:36 PM
3

After 21 years together and in the end, it’s all about the money?
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 02:39 PM
5

No. I don’t. I destroy any fantasy I have of them that is not backed by evidence
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 07:24 PM
2

How long were you together and married for? How much did the divorce cost you?
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 07:37 AM
10

You are idealizing the new girl.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 07:34 AM
5

Because you recognized that in order for a man to be in a relationship, they have to date for a loss
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 07:21 PM
5

Time to collect alimony and work on yourself
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/24 05:57 PM
5

Not her fault? What are you doing? You tell me she didn’t willingly choose to let that man penis inside her?
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 12:48 AM
3

It’s time to leave
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 06:30 AM
3

What benefit do you get from your marriage that you can’t get in a long term relationship?
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 02:47 AM
2

Borderline personality disorder
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 09:47 AM
1

It’s because all 3 of you married bpd women. That’s why their behaviors are predictable. They all share the same playbook.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 09:32 AM
8

When you give a woman everything you could, the only thing left you can give is a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 12:22 AM
17

You pick somebody who has a low net worth and then complain when you are divorced and have to pay alimony. Now you are jumping back into the same shenanigans? The only reason she is dating you is to extract value from you. She has 3 kids. Dude pick better. What are you getting out of her for value?
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 12:21 AM
2

You can txt them back to set up a next date. Don’t be a txt buddy. Go out and have face to face conversations or call her on the phone.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 03:52 AM
1

Man, you could have just paid an escort 5k monthly for 10 years and it would have been cheaper.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 07:32 PM
1

At 34 yo, she has the ability to work. Likely you have to pay alimony for 5 years plus a huge legal fee and you have to pay her legal fee too. What were you thinking funding her life like this for her just to screw you over? What value did she give you that you can’t get from a woman outside of marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 07:34 AM
7

That fear of abandonment is a bpd woman.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 04:49 PM
15

Her behavior is not wife material. If she cares for you as much as she claimed, she would respect your wishes. Think about it. She also put you in a position where you are responsible for her happiness. This is wrong. Happiness comes from within oneself.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 07:55 AM
8

So did you ask what made her think that?
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 12:51 AM
7

It’s ok. She is a cluster b woman. You alone are not enough and so is the AP.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 06:45 AM
1

Do you see the sudden discard? That’s the hallmark of borderline personality disorder. Go read it and everything will make sense for you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 07:57 AM
2

Your wife has bpd. She changed the narrative of her story. She was unlikely to be assaulted, because people with bpd always play the victim and they can’t take accountability. She even blames you now, do you see the victim complex? What she does is she changed the history of how things were until she believes that delusion.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 07:51 AM
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Why would sign up for something that fail 50% of the time?
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 07:40 AM
4

Yes she made him the person responsible for her happiness. It’s not a place he wants to be. Happiness comes from within. I don’t know if OP will get it because personality disorder is a mindf**k.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 05:01 PM
11

You just described a woman with bpd. She lacks object constancy, emotional permanence. Thus the 15 years mean nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 08:31 AM
14

Your wife has borderline personality disorder. There’s nothing much you can do except leave. Once you leave, she will get better because she split you black.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 08:27 AM
2

You can date any women as long as you are the financial provider for her. Women who are in their mid 30s and 40s are all looking for a guy to fund their lifestyle. Unless you can find a woman who can bring something to the table, just date around and have fun. Deep connection is unlikely to be possible.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 04:43 AM
4

Why do you stay with somebody who is abusive? Let her go
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 04:46 PM
7

Yes this is the reason
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 06:02 AM
13

Dude, don’t believe this. As soon as another guy is interested in her, she will be all over him if she hasn’t already. Get away.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 06:02 AM
1

Sounds like she is bpd
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 03:45 AM
1

You resent investing in somebody who can’t be a good partner in a marriage. The red flag was there from the beginning.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 03:43 AM
18

I don’t see how it’s dumb? She also is 100% aware of what she did. You said she has no idea of what she did. You are delusional for what you stated.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 12:45 AM
6

So in the end you lost 6.45 millions to show for the result of being married. Could just date somebody for 20 years and it would have been cheaper and you can leave anytime without repercussions?
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 08:34 AM
6

That’s the reality. Your ex wife was never made for marriage. Be glad it’s over.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 12:12 AM
8

Why get married when you don’t know what it entails? What I see is as soon as the woman does better than the husband, she leaves and devalue him. Hypergamy at its finest.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 10:41 PM
9

You know the situation when you married him. 50/50 if you separate. So why are you complaining about something that you were ok with when you signed the marriage certificate?
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 10:34 PM
6

I disagree. I saw many failed marriages. The reason it failed is because you were sold the fantasy that people can be happy with another person for life. The reality is that human are inherently selfish and human are novelty seekers. You get tired of one partner and being with someone else stimulates that dopamine rush. Marriages may not be for everybody and the high divorce rates back this up.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 02:43 AM
2

Have self respect and self love for yourself man. She is for the street.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 12:29 AM
2

Good question, why did you get married? That contract allows your partner to behave badly. Its time to get out
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 04:53 AM
1

Crazy. She has borderline personality disorder.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 06:32 AM
1

She failed 3 marriages and you thought she was a good catch to get married to? Please explain your logic.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 03:16 AM
1

It sounds like you think you were born to serve women. Do not fall into this trap. Do you enjoy serving others?
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 03:12 AM
1

Yo, 5 jobs in 2.5 years with and the newest job for only 3 months. It sounded like she has borderline disorder. Drinking and bad money management are also symptoms of borderline.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 10:27 PM
2

Wow, how is it possible that things change so suddenly after 17.5 years?
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 02:18 PM
7

So single mom is no good?
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/22 10:51 PM
1

Wow, damn. Are you planning to ever get married again?
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 06:42 AM
3

Wow, did she pushed you for marriage? 6 years together before marriage so I figured you two should know each others. Did you ever think she was capable?
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 01:46 AM
2

This. The infidelity is my suspect too. I never imagined my ex is the type, but until shit hits the fan, you will never know your partner true self.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 06:34 PM
1

For a German, your English is quite good. I’m sorry you have to go through this. If she discovered that kids were not what she wanted, yet you guys have two kids together. So what will she do now? You will also lose the tax benefit married couples have
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 06:32 PM
1

Thanks for summary. So it’s true, once a woman devalued you, her actions to hurt and inflict pain upon you both financially and emotionally manifest. Is this the side that most men never imagined their wife to ever had?
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 06:18 PM
1

All the women I know all wants a ring and marriage commitment. If the guy doesn’t commit, she will find another who does
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 05:49 PM
1

Does your education work? Guys who never married before will always be willing to try. The girl will not act this malicious before the marriage so how would they know things will change after the marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 05:12 PM
1

Damn, how much did the lawyers end up costing?
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 05:08 PM
1

How long after the marriage did your wife mask fell off?
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 03:53 PM
1

How much did the divorce cost you?
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 03:25 PM
1

I wouldn’t worry about this guy. He will likely idealize the girl quickly and then dump her as quickly. Getting married quickly is pathological
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 03:19 PM
1

It sounds like your wife has borderline personality disorder and the impulsivity around sex is to fill her chronic black hole
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 12:11 AM
1

Wow, so she filed immediately. That sucks. She is a family destroyer for sure
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/22 07:48 PM
1

Why does she do this? She found a new man she fancied?
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/22 06:07 PM
1

Damn man, how long were the marriage and when did she cheat?
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/22 06:06 PM
1

So once the divorce proceeds, it’s all about the money and thoughts about how the couples can proceed with the most monetary cost effective settlement doesn’t apply?
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/22 06:05 PM
4

Sounds like she is itching to fuck another guy. You need self respect and leave
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 04:06 PM
4

Dude, you tell me you can wake up every morning to your wife who you know you are the backup choice?
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 11:56 PM
3

She earns 9k working part time? Make her work fulll time then it’s 18k/month. Easy for her to move out. Why wouldn’t she be able to afford the mortgage? You are simping much?
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/22 04:59 PM
1

She’s 21. At 30, she will view you differently
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 11:12 AM
1

Whole again
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/22 06:39 AM
1

I’m guessing she still think she can change your mind and that she will be the one who cure you from such trauma. The girl has not been married before. You know she will want to get married
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 09:19 PM
2

So how long have you been dating and how hard is your gf pushing for marriage? Was she married before?
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 04:32 AM
-10

If she is such a shitty person, then why did you get married in the first place?
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 04:30 AM
2

Black hole is the hallmark of bpd
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 04:29 AM
1

She doesn’t need to self harm or be impulsive to be bpd
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 12:06 AM
2

She sounds like she has BPD. You look into this?
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/22 08:14 PM
1

The question is how the fuck do you suppose to know that a switch flip one day with your wife?
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/22 04:58 PM
1

So not having been married in the first place. Would you have been happier?
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 11:29 PM
4

Dude just have small chat and ask her if she wants to go for coffee one morning
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 09:26 PM
1

Financially, how much damage has it done to you?
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 09:09 PM
1

Why is 6 years age gap bad? The life experience won’t be so drastically different?
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 05:52 PM
2

Damn you all make a very good argument to not get married. As the male, dating a girl to not get married; most girls do not like this reason and will insist on marriage. Girls say they don’t want to be in a relationship for 5-10 years then when a man get bored, the man dump her.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 05:24 PM
2

Wow the need for control really mirror my ex as well. iPhone location tracking on all the time. She made a shortcut on her phone to see where I was at. On every trip, she would tell me what to pack down to every item. Of course I don’t listen because I bring what I find is convenient for me. So with every trip, she always were mad at me whenever I arrived because I didn’t pack all the things like she told me to. This controlling behavior got worse as time went on until she told my sister that I …
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 01:48 AM
2

I see. Yeah that fibromyalgia sounds like such a convenience diagnosis for a bpd cause there is no test for it and it’s idiopathic. My ex had tons of partner before me. This was a huge red flag to me, but I only recognize it in retrospect. Did your have this as well since you said she was experienced? Also did she push you to get married? Mine did hard but I resisted. Since you saw how tumultuous the relationship was, what made you go ahead and marry her anyway? Unfortunately for bpd, the more e…
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/22 06:15 PM
2

Did things change once you get married? I suspect bpd. My ex had bpd and despite being a physician like you, I never detected it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/22 02:46 PM
1

Sheesh, sorry you have to go through this. Being married looks like such a raw deal. So just date them and not marry them, but most girls do not accept this?
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/22 02:44 PM
1

Thanks, did she push you for marriage as well? I had a bpd ex who did that and I refused hard and got split black
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 04:39 PM
1

Didn’t things get worse as soon as you married your bpd ex 12 years ago? I’m surprised things only turn worse 2 years ago.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 05:19 AM
1

She already split you black. Get out now before it gets worse. And be prepared for the smear campaign that follows
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 05:12 AM
4

You want somebody who makes false allegations back? Where is your self respect?
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 12:25 AM
1

Damn that rewriting of the history is a mindfuck
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/22 05:42 PM
3

Cause she took a vow to be together in sickness and health
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/22 05:32 PM
4

Man that’s horrible. She devalued you and leave you because you had a stroke?
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/22 04:45 AM
48

Hard to relate how couples who make 150k each are too broke
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/22 01:15 AM
1

Wow she can be a sahm while you can’t be a stay at home dad? Unfair much?
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 07:45 PM
2

Yeah but girls will push for marriage and men cave
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 07:44 PM
1

So how much do you have to give her monthly?
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 07:42 PM
1

How much you paid for them is the value
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 07:27 PM
2

Did she not work or something? 4K monthly is a lot
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 07:24 PM
2

Does she have bpd? From what you said, this is a big suspect
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 07:35 AM
1

Why is it men get screwed when a woman never work? Child support for 3 kids and alimony for the wife. Would that leave him with 20% of his paycheck every month?
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 11:03 PM
2

Yeb when you are working, you are guilty for emotionally neglecting her. If you don’t work, she accused you of being a bad husband and not provide for the family. Either way, this thinking is a setup for failure
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 10:14 PM
1

You leave, don't let a girl treat you like this
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 05:07 PM
1

It does read very insightful. I think it is a troll post too
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 07:40 AM
2

This, once that trust is gone, you can never rebuild it. You will always live in fear that she will leave you again if you rekindle.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 07:36 AM
1

Thanks for sharing, that was eye opening that a woman actually feel regret. I think this is in the minority however
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 07:32 AM
2

Can you elaborate on bumble and broken women you have encountered? I’m single and after reading this sub, I don’t plan to get married. Do people on dating sites expect men to be the provider during dating and dump them once they find another guy who is better?
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 12:14 AM
3

It's hard enough to live with your wife, why invite your 2 mothers in to live with? You are asking for trouble. That's where your problem is, don't invite your mother to live with you during the pandemic
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 04:47 AM
2

Sound like she has bpd
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/22 04:42 PM
1

I see that does suck
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/22 10:04 PM
2

you know this coming in? It's not like this was hiding out on a fine print?
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/22 05:03 PM
1

What she claimed 50% of asset gained after the marriage is fair. It's a no fault divorce. What is so new about this that they didn't know prior to getting married? They agree to this by law before they got married and both went ahead with it? So what is the problem now?
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/22 05:01 PM
1

Sounds like she has no empathy. What did you do that cause her to want to leave?
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/22 10:28 PM
1

Thanks. I appreciate this. I am thinking along this line. Why rush to get married just to have a label and some tax benefit
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 01:10 AM
2

I’m dating and the girl I’m with keep pushing for marriage. Reading this, I just don’t want to do it. You guys wouldn’t get married a second time right?
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 03:03 AM
-2

It sounds like she has borderline disorder. Things will get worse
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 07:52 AM
1

Can you link that post? So you are worse off financially now than prior to you getting married?
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 09:47 PM
2

Society bias: man work, woman stay at home.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 06:54 AM
1

Cheaper way and a better way is to mail her the shit. You will be out of a few hundreds. It’s cheaper and less effort than you documenting everything and talking to a lwayer. She is the mother of your child, just mail her the stuff
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 06:45 AM
1

Couldn’t she just claim the house is 50% her anyway?
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 06:39 AM
4

So once she married you she change or what? Stay at home and just spend your money?
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 06:37 AM
1

How, she was not contributing to the mortgage or what?
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 06:36 AM
1

Wow, that hit home despite I am not married
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/22 07:47 PM
1

Yes half
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 08:36 PM
2

Good thing you got out. BPD is a mess to deal with
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 08:53 PM
2

The question is how was she before your marriage that she was able to convince you to ask her to marry you?
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 08:32 PM
2

I just don’t understand how you guys seeing how dumb your partner is, but yet you still married them? If they are so dumb, how is it that they are able to take 50% of your earnings?
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 07:47 PM
4

Yeb this means she found somebody else unfortunately
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 05:55 PM
2

Did she push for marriage? It sounds like she has borderline symptoms. What are the red flags? Love bomb you? Unstable mood?
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 05:54 PM
4

Did she push you for marriage and once you are married, her bpd symptoms and the controlling start?
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/22 10:14 PM
1

No
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 10:29 AM
1

Yeb sounds like bpd
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/22 05:34 PM
1

She sounds like she has bpd. You look into this?
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/22 03:42 PM
8

Damn that’s nice to hear. Let your wife be with this new dude so she knows what she is missing out with you
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/22 07:51 AM
5

She made finance her priority so she can leave you. Don’t fall for this. You work hard so that she can take half of your salary?
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/22 04:46 PM
3

It seems like in a divorce setting the person who work get shafted in the negotiation
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 08:00 PM
1

So judge doesn’t think about how mother can do the lion share while father work 40 hours day to allow the mother to do so?
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 01:33 PM
1

So GA will award more time to the mother?
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 01:24 PM
2

you should have just left her at the hospital. She chose another guy, let him deal with her.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/22 06:21 AM
4

Well, I have the dream that whoever woman I marry won't have a divorce, but I know that is just wishful thinking. How is it that the marriage institution favors the woman so much in a divorce. I would say 95% of woman date to get married. So how is it that you can date someone and tell them I will date you, but not be married to you?
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/22 06:08 AM
7

She divorced twice and you still got married to her?
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/22 11:31 PM
1

She sound like she has bpd, not add. Leave now while you can
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/22 07:01 AM
2

Sounds like borderline. You need to get in contact with the ex to find out the behavior
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 03:39 PM
1

She sounds like she has borderline
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 03:16 PM
1

She sounds like she has borderline
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 03:16 PM
1

Did she flip and started to devalue you once you are married or were there red flags before? Also did she pressure you into marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 06:47 AM
4

Cause all the girlfriends I had all wanted to get married or they will break up. I hesitated hence that is why I am still not married
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 06:39 AM
3

So don’t get into a relationship with a single mother right? Cause reading this story is like a mindfuck. Once she got him locked down, she started to devalued him
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 04:14 AM
3

Is it that bad to get married? Does the law make it bad for the guy in a divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 03:10 AM
1

Couldn’t he just calculate out how much of the stock were moved over and then now move the stock back to his own account?
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 02:15 AM
3

So do a lot of marriage turn into the woman nagging the guy? I hate this the most.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 04:42 AM
2

I see, good thing you had this experience. I will keep this on the radar
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 07:50 PM
7

my wife revealed her deepest fear is abandonment There you go.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 07:49 PM
7

Divorcing somebody with bpd, you sure you are ready for it?
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 03:32 PM
1

She sounds more like a borderline to me than a narcissist
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 10:48 AM
1

You think it’s an affair? Or is it she doesn’t love him anymore and just doesn’t care?
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 10:45 AM
1

What did it end up costing you?
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 10:36 AM
1

Why is marriage such a bad deal for the guy? Is it because of the financial consequences after a divorce? All the women I have dated have pushed for marriage after the 1-2 years mark. I resisted, but it’s been tough.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 10:36 AM
2

Sounds like she has bpd
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 10:29 AM
1

All girls I dated have pushed for marriage, when I didn’t want to be committed to the marriage, they all broke up with me.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 08:41 AM
1

Sheesh, hearing these stories make me not wanting to get married. Didn’t you guys see red flags before the marriage? Or did she changes after the marriage or kids?
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 06:36 AM
1

Did she self harm before? Unstable relationship before you? Have a chronic feeling of emptiness?
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/22 11:34 PM
1

sounds like she has bpd
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/22 06:19 AM
3

So I dated a girl for 7 years, she kept pushing marriage, but I just don't feel right marrying her because she is quite controlling. Now she broke up with me to find another guy to marry. I hope I dodge a bullet
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/22 06:08 AM
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