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5

She was an unhappy person, so why did you marry her? Happiness comes from within. Never make yourself be responsible for someone else happiness
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 06:17 AM
20

She has BPD
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 04:41 AM
8

Scale down on your job and hold 50/50. You choose to have kids so raise them right
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 03:16 PM
2

So why didn’t you cancel the engagement after finding that out? You thought you can fix her and you are so special that she won’t do that to you?
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 02:57 PM
2

Knowing that and you still married her?
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 02:55 PM
6

Do not try to keep someone who wants to break up the marriage. You will be paying alimony and child support and in term of finances, it will sting a bit. “Find myself” is code words for I want to have sex with other men
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 11:54 PM
9

You pick girls who act like this to date?
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 10:24 PM
5

A girl full of red flags will only pick guys who are trauma themselves because these guys are willing to put up with her bad behavior. Healthy guys would see reality for what it is vs what it should be and walk. Good thing you are walking out now.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 12:26 PM
2

She throws the ring at you? That is such disrespectful that there’s no coming back to it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 08:37 AM
4

The last sentence is gold. Remember this, and you won’t be robbed blind.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 08:29 AM
5

Who wanted the marriage? You are grieving the future dream that will not be lived. It’s not you, it’s just your turn.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 08:27 AM
25

She met somebody at work. The use for you is no longer needed as she has everything she wanted. It’s not you, it’s just your turn. This is the reality, a woman only stays in the relationship when she can extract value out of a man. Now you see her for who she is.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 12:02 AM
1

She shows you her truth self. Believe it or not
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 01:49 PM
1

Because why get married in the first place?
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 11:49 PM
2

She has BPD dude
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 11:11 PM
5

She lacks a sense of self, hence she needs to find herself.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/24 03:57 AM
3

When the mask dropped, what is left behind is the transactional nature of the marriage/relationship
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 05:48 PM
2

This
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 09:19 PM
0

Flip of a switch and she is a different person. She has BPD
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 01:57 AM
10

Never sign a contract with someone who gets rewarded for breaking it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 01:58 AM
6

Someone who is a perpetual victim sees accountability as a death sentence. So remorse is a no.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 02:31 AM
2

Therefore he needs to walk. When a person doesn’t want to fix their shortcomings and grow as a couples, you walk
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 10:23 PM
2

She darvo you. Call her out on the darvo vs apologizing next time.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 12:32 PM
4

Wow you just described a classic textbook borderline personality disorder. Your wife split your stepson black, rage, at him, rage at you, can’t take criticism, play the victim, bad childhood. She has the classic idealization, devalued, then the discard phase at the end made harder by her being married. When she poured the water on your side of the bed, you did not mention how you addressed this bad behavior? What did you do to make her be accountable for that behavior or you did nothing? When sh…
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 10:26 AM
2

That’s the reality, having sex with somebody new stimulates that dopamine release. Marriage and stability destroy libido.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 02:46 AM
1

This is human nature. For some people, marriage has an end date. People get bored of being with another for so many years and the healthy attachment never was secured.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 09:18 AM
3

Your mediator did you a favor by giving you a hint. The mental issue at play is borderline personality disorder. Does she show sign of it?
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 01:20 PM
2

It’s no fault
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 05:04 PM
1

Sound like she has borderline personality disorder. You need to leave.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 07:13 AM
5

What is so special about being married that you are trying to get that you are unable to get by being in a relationship?
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 04:34 AM
0

Once you are married. 50/50 earning.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 02:03 AM
1

50/50. Can’t get any more simple than that man.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 02:02 AM
2

This answer right here. You nailed it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 10:05 AM
1

It is a pathology. What you described is someone who has borderline personality disorder and she is devaluing you and split you black.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 09:59 AM
1

That breaking of that promos hurts.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 02:29 AM
3

I’m glad you come up with the realization now. Since she doesn’t work, half of your salary is automatic her. You elected to get a 50% pay cut out of your own volition to give to her. That is a lot. So ask yourself, what does she bring to the table to justify her getting 50% of your current salary?
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 03:48 AM
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That hoe phase should be of huge concerned. It shows a cluster b traits. That she needs novelty from new guys to be fulfilled. Meaning once she is bored with you, she will find other men to satisfy her.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 08:48 PM
5

You have childhood trauma. It sounds like you need therapy
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 05:07 AM
1

This is an easy response, look at the action. She doesn’t want to have sex with you. Marriage/security is bad for sex life whereas affairs and dating is good because of the copious amount of dopamine you produce. Marriage produces a lot more serotonin so that’s the effect.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 08:22 PM
4

It’s because she has borderline personality disorder
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 04:53 PM
1

Yes
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 04:24 PM
1

Reality hurts
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 09:27 AM
1

50% of your income during your marriage is her. So for 3 years, try to swing for zero alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 01:34 AM
5

She has BPD dude.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 06:02 PM
4

Another person who is a victim to a woman with borderline personality disorder. You need to process your thoughts on why you put up with her red flags.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 02:34 AM
7

I think she wanted out for a long time. Now she is just using you as an excuse. 22 years together is testament to your commitment.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 01:05 AM
3

20 years of marriage to end at a postal annex is hurtful. At what point in the marriage did she change? After the kids? Did things get worse off at every major milestone?
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 01:02 AM
1

What state are you in? You will likely be paying alimony and child support until they are 18.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 02:01 AM
1

She has bpd. Go get help
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/23 02:44 AM
1

She has borderline personality disorder.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 06:35 PM
1

The reason a woman is divorced are the men and the women lack skill sets to sustain a marriage. So why would you jump back into another marriage when your partner lacks such skillset?
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 02:06 PM
1

It sounds there was a lot of contempt by your exwife when she made all that comments to you.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 04:35 PM
13

House will be 50/50. If you divorce, she will fight you tooth and nail. This is how a borderline personality wife operates .
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 01:28 PM
2

It sounds like she has borderline personality disorder
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 05:45 PM
1

I wouldn’t want to be this 23 yo. Chances are he smashes and passes.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 02:24 AM
2

No, it’s because she split you black. It’s her bpd and black and white thinking
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 06:17 PM
15

Well sorry this happened. It’s the classic scenario. She will split her new guy black eventually and the cycle repeat.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 06:23 AM
1

Get married, then you can see for yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 10:28 PM
1

There’s not going back to this. Consult a lawyer. It’s painful, sorry that you have to go through this.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 08:23 PM
1

Any money earned during the marriage is split 50/50. The law is quite clear on this. I understand the resentment, but why now all of a sudden?
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 08:18 PM
1

Any income earned during marriage is common property
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 09:29 AM
1

Your house yes. Your house appreciation no. Now if you commingle money with her to pay for your mortgage or house tax, then the judge can deemed that she owns equity as well.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 09:27 AM
3

Contempt, stonewalling, criticism, defensiveness
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/23 11:29 PM
4

Your wife has borderline disorder. There’s no cure unfortunately. She will continue to get worse. Leaving is the only solution.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 04:57 PM
0

Your wife has borderline personality
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/23 02:56 PM
10

She is a typical bpd
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 04:28 PM
3

No
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 12:20 AM
2

She has borderline personality disorder dude. It’s time to leave
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 08:58 AM
1

You can’t win with somebody who has borderline. You need to leave
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 05:41 AM
2

Your wife sounds like she has borderline personality disorder.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 02:47 PM
3

That is why you should marry somebody who work and make similar pay to you so no alimony. No exception.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 02:46 PM
5

Because their marriage is different
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 02:43 PM
2

It sounded like she isolated you from all your friends and family.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 09:49 AM
1

If it is your device, you have every rights to monitor your device. If it is not yours, don’t do it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 07:25 AM
10

You need to file first and 50/50. It’s that simple
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 07:23 AM
1

Just be single dude, date and don’t marry
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 07:21 AM
6

Do not do this. This is not the way. When the wife wants a divorce, she checked out. Do not lose your self respect.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 05:41 AM
0

This sounds like full of red flags. Have fun, but don’t be committed. This dentist is trouble.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 10:25 AM
4

Sorry it’s tough seeing a profile of your former lover on a dating site. It’s best if you keep yourself busy
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 10:07 AM
1

The article left out pathology
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/23 11:10 PM
2

40 years and then just book ending it is borderline personality disorder
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/23 10:16 AM
7

Yes the only solution is to leave since it’s a personality disorder. She won’t change
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 05:08 PM
7

Your wife sounds like she has borderline personality disorder. What you are experiencing is the classic “I hate you, don’t leave me”. She is unable to keep a stable image of you in her head. She split you black in her black and white thinking. That’s why sometimes you see the intermittent moment of clarity in her head and then she goes back to being hateful. She lacks object constancy and object whole relation so memories of you guys doing nice things together are being rewritten in her head to …
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 04:40 PM
1

You nailed it
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 03:59 PM
22

Those who don’t make money don’t appreciate where the money goes
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/23 06:35 AM
12

So your wife can’t apologize, doesn’t take accountability of her actions and blow up on you a lot?
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 03:27 AM
2

Did she change before the marriage or after?
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 03:40 AM
3

Man, you make 3000 a month and you have to pay 2000. How do you have enough money for rent/transportation/food?
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 08:25 AM
1

You do great. This is how you vet them.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 06:22 AM
3

You need to avoid guys who are recently divorced. Date somebody 1 year post divorced. Lots of guys love bomb. That’s a red flag.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 01:42 AM
1

Sounds like your wife has bpd
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 05:08 PM
1

Because you guys have too much negative sentiment override. Studies show counseling doesn’t work.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 02:53 AM
1

Yes, that body count shows she has bpd.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 10:30 AM
3

Your wife has bpd. So better to leave now
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 05:22 AM
2

Yes it does, she has bpd
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 02:56 PM
6

What you just described is a bpd trait
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 05:48 AM
4

That sounds like she has borderline personality disorder
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 05:11 AM
3

What state are you in? If it is a common property state, your contribution to your retirement is also her despite she didn't do it. So welcome to the club
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 10:02 PM
2

The excerpt is quite non-specific. It doesn't detail how the guy is abusive. It would be good to get more specific examples
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 09:59 PM
2

So how did things change before vs after?
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 06:29 PM
3

And why would you do this to somebody who will divorce you in the future?
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/23 01:28 PM
0

It’s hard to go back from this. Her trust of you is now gone. If your wife is not enough, there is a fundamental needs that you have that is not being filled. Reconciling will not cure this needs.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/23 12:23 AM
7

If you read Gottman’s book. This is what happen when a wife thinks she can do better than you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/23 07:49 PM
2

Time for you to read up on bpd
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/23 03:17 AM
3

Can’t take criticism and fight. That are big signs she has borderline personality disorder.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/23 10:41 PM
1

She can say she doesn’t want it, but her lawyer will likely advise her to take it. Then she will just tell you, I didn’t want it, but my lawyer did.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/23 12:31 PM
2

It’s a smear campaign by a cluster b disorder. She does this to get validation from others. Ignore.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/23 05:40 PM
1

11.5 years were good and she just discard you like that. That is quite brutal. Damn
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/23 06:02 AM
2

How many of those 12 years were good?
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/23 12:48 AM
6

She sounds like she has borderline personality disorder. You may need to read up on it and it will explain her behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 08:26 PM
22

Title or not, he will get half the house. He needs a lawyer
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 06:41 AM
2

Well she is pregnant, you are a huge triggered for her. There is nothing you can do, in her mind, you are now the source of her problem. She was diagnosed with bpd, it’s part of her personality. I can’t advise you on what to do, since I don’t know how mentally you are prepared for a life without her. Perhaps you should read more on bpd and decide? I can tell you that bpd do not make a good life partner, even if you stay, she will likely cheat on you due to their chronic emptiness symptom.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 02:00 AM
3

It sounds like she has borderline personality disorder. And she is splitting on you
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 01:51 AM
3

At what point did her mask fall off?
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 04:35 AM
9

You worry about all of this yet you married her?
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 02:09 AM
2

Fear of abandonment and rejection is a big sign that signal she has bpd
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 11:53 PM
1

She has borderline personality disorder. You should prepare for a high conflict divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 08:54 AM
3

This right here. You want to go back and be a simp to a woman who craves another dick inside her?
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 06:58 PM
3

Once that divorce is out of the bag, you can’t put it back in. Follow through with it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 06:57 PM
4

Sounds like relationship and boundaries problem. What divorce issue are you having?
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 10:39 PM
1

Meeting a stranger on a trip without knowing them. It’s a sign of bpd
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 08:30 PM
0

Red flag. Do not go
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 09:34 AM
1

I thought you own what you brought into the marriage? Why is she living there?
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 05:06 PM
2

Sounds like she has borderline disorder. She split you black.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 07:38 PM
1

Congrats
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 03:17 PM
2

So either you marry her or she find another guy? Then what happen?
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 06:10 AM
1

What happened after you got married?
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 06:08 AM
3

The issue with this is most women will not stay with a guy who won’t commit to a marriage
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 06:07 AM
1

Damn, my ex is like this. Good thing you are done now
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 03:36 AM
2

Yeah, she couldn’t be alone. I dodged a bullet with this one. She also wanted me to change my last name to her because she said her last name were unique and mine were common. I considered it, but after the cheating, I will not change my last name for anyone now. We had wonderful 3 years together, but it went downhill afterward. Her mask started to slip and her devaluation of me.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 03:27 AM
1

I feel this with my ex. After you are married, what were the controlling and demanding behaviors?
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 03:25 AM
2

I got pressured after 1 year of dating. Her concern was that if I don’t marry her, I will eventually leave her when I find a younger and better woman in the future when I am bored of her. I still resisted, so she cheated on my over the pandemic, and I was devastated. 7 years together total
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 11:47 PM
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