xijokayo Archive

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1	I'm so tired of Vaush's take on male loneliness I found this reply very thoughtful, and so I'm giving you an Empathy Award. It's redeemable at your local Walgreens as a $2 off coupon. I suspect that feminism will be a vital perspective long into the future, and I'd like to run my reasoning why by you. 1) We live in a classically liberal society that values equality, such that it will commonly produce folks who hold sentiments like this articulated by John Stuart Mill: "The principle that regulates the existing social relations between the two…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/11/25 10:48 PM
2	Gender Theory rejects patriarchal realism'; idealism is a better understanding of what folks mean by patriarchy, matriarchy, and queerarchy. Really enjoy your methodical take on this! Hope you keep analyzing! I feel like you've outlined the healthiest approach to gender with your HCQ concept. My feeling is that in practice, people will switch between X-archy and HCQ depending on their mood. X-archy might be the "default position" (as in the sort of default self-centeredness that David Foster Wallace described in his "This is Water" speech) and HCQ might be the sort of mantra you repeat to yourself when you're trying to get yourself o…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/10/24 10:08 PM
22	A potential response from feminists when the misandry perpetrated by feminists is called out The tactical answer would be to question the history. "All of this is a reaction to the rape and oppression of women by men throughout human history." Well, it's a reaction to the perception of the rape and oppression, I'd agree. But there's at least some historical evidence that adds nuance to that story. In fact, you can find historical evidence to the contrary even within the tradition of feminism. You could start with Mary Ritter Beard, a suffrage activist and historian who disputed the narr…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/07/24 07:18 PM
1	Men. In the following either or scenarios, which man would you advise a woman to choose? My understanding of your argument is that men seem to be deriding women for their choices, but when faced with actual options they have a difficult time choosing, and it's implied that men could empathize with women on this. It sounds fair, although I don't entirely understand it. I want to share my perspective. I assume I'll make the same error that you're outlining here, and that you'll be able to point it out in my response. Personally, I don't think the choices give enough information. None …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/24 10:48 AM
–	““I think it is you, the women who have had the most diabolical lies told to you,” - what are your thoughts on the Harrison Butker commencement speech scandal? I'd disagree with the framing of his quote. He doesn't seem to be criticizing women for putting their careers over marriage and children, he's doing something in between* outright asserting and tentatively speculating that most women will find the greatest fulfillment not from career, but from marriage and children. Neither does he seem to be arguing what women should find fulfilling. He's making a claim about what most women ultimately find fulfillling, and he's saying that suggestions that pur…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/24 09:52 PM
1	just treat women like human beings-what does that mean? I feel you, and it breaks my heart. I think you can win, though. If you find the courage to share what you're feeling. To ask the question you asked at the risk of being labeled. I think that counts as a victory. You asked, and it gave me the strength to reflect on it myself. I think passing that strength to others counts as a victory. I want to be clear: I don't think that most people in real life would act as cruelly as I described above. My sense is that real life romance is largely pretty no…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	19/01/24 05:31 AM
24	just treat women like human beings-what does that mean? I would ignore the advice. Nobody treats women as "human beings." If they did, all bathrooms would be unisex and they'd have to tear down Wellesley. To be charitable, the advice seems to be a kind of pressure release valve for men who are anxious about interacting with the opposite sex -- the idea is to just relax. It rings a little hollow since at the same time feminism raises the stakes on these interactions by emphasizing the power imbalances between men and women and alerting you to the ways…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	11/01/24 01:39 PM
1	CMV: When women talk of men opening up, what they mean is men should open up in women approved ways, for women approved problems and for women approved lengths of time I had to think about this for a while. I wanted to respond to your summary of why sympathy can run out for men who express dating woes: that men express themselves in off-putting ways, and so hostility is inevitable. Specifically, men complain, women offer advice or encouragement, but the men still aren't satisfied. That's a reasonable conclusion, and it sounds like you're making an actual effort to help. I wanted to offer an explanation of where the complaints are coming from. I can speak to mo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/23 01:13 AM
2	CMV: When women talk of men opening up, what they mean is men should open up in women approved ways, for women approved problems and for women approved lengths of time Thanks for the response. I want to reply with something before time gets too far away. I think I agree with the things you're saying, but at the same time I don't accept them. I'll explain... I agree that it's not fair to expect someone to be immediately supportive when you're making a direct complaint about them, and that you can apply that to complaints about men and women. I don't accept it because 1) it feels too sad to think about the genders locked in adversarial camps. Accepting that comp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 07:02 PM
3	CMV: When women talk of men opening up, what they mean is men should open up in women approved ways, for women approved problems and for women approved lengths of time "Even if it’s not an issue you’re directly blaming women for, you still should never expect a great deal of support when it comes something you know another person can’t relate to." I suppose we're talking about the amount of support you can reasonably expect if you bring up a vulnerable/sensitive/personal topic. You started at "blaming" and lowered the expectation for support for that in a way that sounds fair. You're also lowering expectation of support for "any issue you know a person can't r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/23 06:37 PM
2	The tinder cycle for the average man and woman and why you shouldn't get frustrated or take it personally. A realistic, yet humane answer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/22 02:54 AM
17	So today’s theme seems to be “is it okay to lie”, and it’s a common trend in this sub. Why do people try to justify being bad to others when it comes to dating? That's definitely bad the way you've laid it out, but you're missing the key part of that formulation: the girl has to contradict her stated preferences and go out with a jerk instead. If she says things like, "if only I could meet a nice guy like you" or "where are all the good men." If she says she wants things like connection, emotion, closeness, respect, someone who's interested in the things she has to say, interested in her personality, and someone who doesn't take her for granted. It sign…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/22 05:58 AM