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i love her books! I’m gonna check out her podcast too I think i saw someone here said she had one!
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 03:18 PM
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your article made me cry!!!! I literally bookmarked it!! so perfect i can’t thank you enough!!!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/25 05:13 PM
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omggggg thank you so much 🥹🥹 i love thisssss! i think you’re right we’re both coming into our roles! I do feel when i communicate with him this way it lowers his defenses maybe 20%? so it helps for sure but then he still proceeds with being defensive or passive aggressive to me…which i guess is more so my question. I’m great with the communication to start but then what? i usually just try to acknowledge what he says “i understand” “i’m sorry” ect. and then I just try to be quiet. he usually kee…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/25 04:56 PM
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I do agree. I feel like when he communicates with me sometimes it doesn’t feel dominant it feels…emotional? And that’s what triggers me out of my frame! Honestly, I have felt like he idolizes this lifestyle and wants it but i don’t think he was ready for the pressure of it all. And now that we’ve made the switch and I’m giving it my all it feels like he resents it? Or almost like he wanted me to fail? Idk!!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/25 01:44 PM
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I have read Fascinating Womanhood, but maybe it’s a good time to revisit! He was a little like this when I was working. And our dynamic hasn’t always been like this l, I used to be very independent and vocal so he’d always get a reaction out of me. Within the last year I’ve completely overhauled my frame. he told me once I left my job he’d expect more from me. Which is understandable! I have more time to dedicate to his needs and I love taking care of him! he’ll switch from telling me how happy …
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/25 01:40 PM
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Thank you!!! I think you’re right. Maybe he just needs more time to adjust to the new me? it’s just soooo hard to stay warm, feminine and take his negativity when i feel like it’s uncalled for. I reiterated to him this morning that I would gladly do anything if he would just communicate with me, but he feels like he shouldn’t have to ask me….but i can’t read his mind lol especially when we’re so different!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/25 01:32 PM
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we also do this not to mention he’ll take us out once or twice a week to save time. he knows it’s difficult and he sees i’m trying.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/22 12:22 AM
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pressure builds diamonds 💎🥰❤️❤️
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/22 12:20 AM
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that is heartbreaking. we recently got a kitten and i’m feeling every bit of it…and it’s a KITTEN! I want to cut back my hours too but my husband is super intelligent when it comes to finances and even though i don’t have to pay for anything, i’m a traveling nurse. so i’m making insane money right now and putting everything into saving for us but it’s just HARD. I try really hard to be present when i’m home and keep the house up but some days…. you really just want to crawl into bed…it’s literal…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/22 12:18 AM
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girl I struggle with this too! it’s so hard 😩 and we don’t even have kids!
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/22 06:49 PM
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THISSS!! all of this. oh man life is 1000% better and I FEEL so much better. I used to worry all day and try to take care of everything. It made me feel worn down and stressed. and now I bring every problem to my captain for him to navigate. The positive change in my husband is so beautiful too. he’s so much happier, creating more, getting healthier and in general has been crazy about me all over again. In general everything has improved since I made him the priority and just LET GO! true femini…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/21 11:35 AM
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i know i’m two years late to this but i’m reading these in lieu of waiting for my copy to arrive and wanted to chime in. while i know there are aspects of this we feel don’t relate as it’s 2021, some of this still rings true regardless. Whether it’s conscious or not. The aspect of the working wife being subject to working with and observing other men is strikingly true. When at work you see other men in their element. When returning home it’s hard to remind yourself that your Captain has been at…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 11:36 PM
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Instead, view your relationship as taking ownership of your actions during an internship AND forming your own opinions of your employer. This ensures that everything that happens in your life and in your relationship is a direct result of YOUR own actions and choices. I loveeee thisssss! I love how it fits with the Captain/First Mate analogy as well!
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 01:09 PM
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JP has helped me TREMENDOUSLY and part of the reason I even found this community. He’s brilliant. I’d upvote this 10 times if I could.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/21 10:26 PM
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Soooo perfectly said 👏🏽👏🏽
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/21 10:21 PM
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I do. I think if I work on my presentation that might help. I’m gonna keep reading the posts here for tips and at least actively try to implement some changes to make the situation better. I’m gonna work on STFU for now haha
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/21 11:56 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/9ax3ea/the_best_books/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/21 12:13 AM
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That’s true or if it’s something I’m not willing to budge on then we’ll make a compromise but those never seem to last. His original needs usually resurface. So have I already set the tone for the relationship by bending in the past as another poster said? My only prior resources were male lead TRP forums and it felt like that was what I needed to do as he’s the captain and I do trust he wouldn’t steer me wrong. But that’s why I asked originally, where’s the line between my own autonomy and bein…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/21 11:53 PM
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Generally, yes. It’s rare we have a tough conversation without things getting escalated. Which I’m sure makes it feel like egg shells for both of us. He’s extremely defensive and takes any criticism personally even when I’ve reassured him I’m not attacking him I love him and simply voicing my opinion. He takes my disagreements as aggression and therefore masculine.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/21 11:27 PM
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Those are all great ideas!! If it’s something you’re interested in I think you should go for it! I got really into health and nutrition as I needed to. Which taught me self accountability and I needed to own my problems. Valuable lesson. I started going back to therapy which was extremely helpful just to have a non biased source to talk to about everything (work / personal life goals and problems). I took cheap exercise classes to get myself out of my comfort zone and wound up falling in love wi…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/21 11:19 PM
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I was also “super behind” for my age. I was extremely overweight growing up and didn’t come into my own until I was in my 20’s. Which worked to my benefit! When all my friends were having hookups I was working on bettering myself and wound up losing a ton of weight and gaining qualities that are way more attractive to this day!! Don’t be jealous!
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/21 09:49 PM
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You’re being wayyy to hard on yourself! Focus on your attributes! Dress up! Dressing up is so fun! He wouldn’t have agreed to meet you if you “smile like a pig”. Own it. Smile and have fun! Regardless it’ll be a learning experience and you’ll get some great take aways from the interaction! :) You are what you think!
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/21 09:46 PM
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I'm crazy about his drive! Once he sets his mind to something he tackles it. He started his own real estate business in his 20' and has completely changed the way I think about finances and relationships. He pushes me to be better for myself and for us. He is the reason I'm redpilled. He's always striving for more and thinking of ways to improve our quality of life. He's constantly thinking outside of the box and the norms of society. Recently he wanted us to start a youtube channel so we can ha…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/21 03:44 PM
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Therapy for sure!! I love therapy. Try to get back into things you like doing for you! And try new things! When I left my abusive ex I wound up trying new classes off groupon to have new experiences and I fell in LOVEEE with yoga! I wound up gaining a whole community positivity, friends and support! I got back into reading heavily and spent hours at the library. I took a break from dating completely to work on myself and fix some of the damage that had been done. And just when I wasn't looking f…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/21 01:26 PM
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I think I should work on how I present my opinion to him. Maybe it's just something he's triggered by how I'm presenting it? I should work on disagreeing and stating my opinion from a place of compassion. I like the idea of another poster saying to take a break or step away for a second when/if I start to feel emotional. He insists on splitting everything, I don't think he believes in financially supporting another person. We both have well paying careers (I kind of fell into mine right after co…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/21 12:46 PM
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My first note is that you don't say anything good about him. Sorry, I was more just trying to provide the facts of the issue at the moment. I'm generally crazy about him which is why I don't want to entertain any of the "dump him" responses. I was more just looking for how to proceed without upsetting him or making him feel like I don't respect him. We have a great relationship! I am 30 but this wasn't about settling or hitting the wall for me (at least not yet I don't think lol). I've recently …
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/21 12:15 PM
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I’m definitely going to read all the books recommended in this post!! I ordered them all today. I think it could help me a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 11:46 PM
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In all fairness, I wasn’t fully awake yet and was already submitting to a man & fighting the awakening. It was a lack of communication on both parts as he was afraid to fully let me in and I wasn’t fully accepting of what he was telling me. Not to mention, as I said, my only insight to redpill was the male perspective (it’s insanely difficult to find like minded females) which makes it even harder.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 11:34 PM
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Maybe it’s just getting to him in the moment. I’m just upset it’s disturbing all the positive momentum we’ve had thus far! It’s hard not to feel emotional and attacked in the moment. Maybe it’s just a phase and he’s going through some other things he’s not sharing with me! :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 11:29 PM
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I agree! That is not an option and not one I’m looking for. I’m more looking for insight from other women in our community on how to proceed. Advice on how to proceed as an RPW without causing more disagreements with the objections he’s presented.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 11:26 PM
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I'm very submissive to my husband, our relationship is male-led, openly, but when something is hurting me, I have a right to be heard, to speak up for myself, and to give him a chance to decide how he wants to react to it. You have the same rights. You being a female doesn't mean you have less value than a man, it means you're supposed to complement each other, work together, be a team. This! Thank you so so much! it doesn't feel like he wants to take care of you or act like a man, he's... using…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 04:27 PM
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Thanks sooo much for this! I am definitely not validated by this. I felt like we naturally fell into our roles before but now with this outside influence things are shifting? It feels inauthentic & that's why I was looking for advice!
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 04:17 PM
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Thank youuu!!!! I respect him as the man but we work better as a team. We should compliment each other.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 04:12 PM
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Him (38M) & I (30F) have just recently gotten married in the beginning of this year but have been together for over 6 years. He's been immersed in RP for roughly 10 years. He wants me to not question him and just trust his leadership as the man. If he changes plans, I shouldn't question him and just respect his choice. He says I'm disrespecting him & acting like the man in the relationship when I do this. I think he just wants me to be agreeable, all the time. Which I generally am, I do generall…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 04:08 PM
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