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Perfect explanation. A leader does not control, they lead.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 02:45 PM
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A 10/10 in all other areas immediately becomes a 1/10 if he can't/won't be loyal. Nonmonogamous men are NOT high value to me... actually, they have no value as far as I'm concerned. Doesn't matter how many other boxes are ticked.
/r/RedPillWives05/08/21 03:37 PM
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Income does not (typically) impact a woman’s value to a man.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/21 03:03 PM
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I think those who prescribe to feminist ideologies do so with a lot of fear. They have been told men are monsters, cheaters, sexual deviants, fickle, abusive, and so on. Because of this, they are terrified to trust a man and MUST resist surrendering to one, relying on one, etc. Your mom sounds terrified of the idea that her conditioning of what a man is could be wrong, and terrified of YOUR ideas being wrong and leading you to be (all those above bad things). SO, she's lashing out. There's also …
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 03:30 PM
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I think it’s a lot more common than women (and men) are led to believe. And it absolutely ebbs and flows over time!!
/r/RedPillWives19/07/21 02:37 PM
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My sex drive is higher than his, so in the five years we've been together, I don't think I've ever actually said no? Of course, I could. I just haven't had to, lol. If he's down, I'm down.
/r/RedPillWives18/07/21 06:46 PM
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Same. I am 100% a words of affirmation person. No praise = why bother LOL.
/r/RedPillWives22/06/21 12:27 AM
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I am really oblivious to flirting, so unless it's OBVIOUS as hell, I won't even notice it's happening. My husband is the same way. That being said, if I did notice I was being flirted with, I'd quickly set the boundary and remove myself from the situation. OF COURSE it would be a little ego boost to have someone come onto you that way, there's nothing wrong with that, BUT there IS something very wrong with feeding into it, milking it, returning it, and so on.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 05:14 PM
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Why is a grown ass man (who, I assume, is straight) sharing a bed with other men? Who apparently smell really badly? IDK, this whole thing sounds weird. E coli can obviously come from other places, so correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't it live in the gut? Like, wouldn't you get it as a vaginal infection by going a to v? Is he doing more than just sleeping with these men? Again, I could totally be wrong here. But I'm just feeling like this is all kinda suspicious.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 06:30 PM
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I've been banned from that one and four others for participating in subs deemed wrongthink. The first time upsets you. The second pisses you off. Third and beyond just make you laugh. It is what it is.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 01:29 PM
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I also grew up in a VERY liberal place that is exactly as you're describing. I ended up meeting someone online who lived 700 miles away in the "country" part of the US. He was conservative, traditional, everything I was looking for. We had a long distance relationship for about a year, and then I moved to be with him. We actually recently moved again and are living in an even FURTHER red place, with a beachview. So it's fantastic. We're married and very happy, trying for babies ♥ You're not unre…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/21 12:47 PM
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Fair enough! That’s a good point about the first one.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 08:36 PM
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I tend to disagree with this comment. (1) Being that this is a generally self-improvement focused subreddit, it doesn’t make sense to point out negative feminine traits, only positive ones that can be focused on and embodied. (2) Flow is 100% a feminine trait. Does someone who flows in one area of their life have to flow in all areas of life? Absolutely not. I can be very detail-oriented toward my children and home and very go-with-the-flow with my spouse, activities, environment, etc. OVERALL, …
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 07:15 PM
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Feminine is submissive, taking the lead only where she must/in areas she shines. She is nurturing and gentle. She goes with the flow and doesn’t get overly hung up on the details. She is receptive and allows herself to graciously receive. She has a youthful energy about her (this has ZERO to do with her looks) - she knows how to be silly and have fun and look on the bright side of life.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 12:39 PM
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For real, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 03:25 PM
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EXACTLY this point. I know this is getting slightly off topic, but it's SO important - intention/willingness to cheat IS THE SAME THING AS CHEATING. If the only thing stopping the other person from cheating is an outside obstacle (distance, other person rejecting, even YOU hounding them), guess what? They're still a cheater. Loyal people don't need any type of blockade in their way to stay loyal.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 01:20 PM
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Generally... no. I don't think it's appropriate to have close opposite sex friendships while in a serious relationship. It's not about not trusting yourself/your partner, it's about not putting yourself in the position for disrespect, disloyalty, or worse to happen. Even a false perception by others of an otherwise platonic friendship can be extremely damaging to a couple, and why would you ever put your partner in the position to feel embarrassed, worried, or disrespected? It's just not worth i…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 01:16 PM
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I can deal with a whole lot, but I can't deal with hypocrisy. I don't think married men/women should have opposite-gender friendships generally (I know, unpopular opinion, but it's mine and it's whatever). BUT... if he can have tons of female friends, then you should ABSOLUTELY be able to have as many male friends as you want. I HATE these "do as I say, not as I do" people. Point out the hypocrisy and tell him you won't abide by rules that he doesn't abide by. That's not a RP approach but good c…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 01:09 PM
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If you want to be more than friends, then be upfront about that. Becoming friends with the intent of eventually moving into a relationship is dumb and why so many men whine about being “friendzoned,” meanwhile they did it to themselves by not being upfront with their intentions. If you naturally form a friendship which then naturally forms into more, fine, that’s great. But if you want a relationship from the start then just be upfront and honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 09:25 PM
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Oh really.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 02:46 PM
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I would move on from this guy immediately, before more feelings get involved. He very clearly said he doesn't want to cut ties with an ex. Even if he later said he would if you really wanted him to, that's just a breeding ground for resentment. I learned the hard way that a relationship built on compromising your own beliefs doesn't work out - you need a relationship where you GO INTO IT sharing the same beliefs and values on big things like this one.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 02:45 PM
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OP literally said he finds "models" in his area and comments on their posts regularly. These aren't random famous people, and he's not JUST liking pictures. He is ACTIVELY SEEKING slutty women IN THE CITY HE LIVES IN and regularly COMMENTING on their photos. Additionally, just because you lack the self-control to not partake in a degenerate culture doesn't mean other men do, too. There are plenty of men who respect their wives and relationships enough to not engage.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 02:41 PM
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Seeing people you find attractive is natural and normal. Everyone does it, like you said. However, actively seeking out, exposing yourself to, and engaging with attractive people while in a relationship is a very different thing. If I was in highschool and my boyfriend kept photos of other women he thought were hot in his locker, I'd dump him because that's gross as hell. Why are we okay with it if it's online? Hard no for me.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 02:28 PM
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100% this. The internet has led people to believe a lot of these things are normal, when they absolutely aren't. I love the comparison to walking up to a woman in person and saying "you look hot today" or something along those lines. Because no matter what anyone else says, that's exactly what it is like. And it is absolutely disrespectful to your partner if you're doing that in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 02:24 PM
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Enjoy it! I just got my mom reading it and she loves it too, haha.
/r/RedPillWives07/03/21 04:31 PM
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I liked it! I found surrendered wife to be more philosophy and empowered wife to be a lot of the same info but more practical/organized. I read them both one right after the other and didn’t get bored or feel the need to skim, if that helps. They were both enjoyable reads and different enough to stay interesting!
/r/RedPillWives07/03/21 03:23 PM
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That’s fair. Be patient! It always happens when you least expect it to.
/r/RedPillWives07/03/21 06:23 AM
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Yeah, that’s no fun. Like I said, most of the men on dating apps are... no. Just like most of the women are. You’re a needle in a haystack looking for another needle! It won’t be easy, but don’t give up! Also, focus on meeting people in person. It seems much easier to find more traditional men that way. I got really lucky online but I know I’m not the typical story.
/r/RedPillWives07/03/21 06:19 AM
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My husband was borderline MGTOW when I met him. Deep into TRP. Said he was just on to “see what happened” and “curiosity.” He told me at three months he planned to marry me. We were living together by nine months. All I’m saying... you never know! MGTOW is normally just code for “I’m a good man and I’ve been burned before and I’m over it.” If you’re a genuine, traditional, conservative and nurturing woman, well... kinda a good match. In my head, at least. It obviously depends on both people, but…
/r/RedPillWives07/03/21 06:14 AM
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It was OKC!
/r/RedPillWives07/03/21 06:06 AM
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Being selective is important, and being extremely upfront is important. What bonded me to my husband so quickly (and vice versa) was that we thoroughly filled out these little questionnaires on the app, so we immediately knew we shared the same values, beliefs, gender role ideas, expectations, boundaries, and so on, without ever speaking or going on a date. I know we are rare as far as our meeting goes, but it was just to say there are good men out there, even on those apps! They’re just hidden …
/r/RedPillWives07/03/21 06:04 AM
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I was on a dating app for a short time, too. I made it clear I was uninterested in anything casual, lol. I met my now- husband on there and deleted the app the next day (I knew it was only him I wanted). He deleted it a couple days later and remarked “I know it’s dumb to put all my eggs into one basket when we haven’t even met yet, but I’m doing it anyway; you’re who i want.” Happily married now!
/r/RedPillWives07/03/21 05:59 AM
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No, it’s not a problem for us. Good men don’t.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 08:14 PM
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Fascinating Womanhood (Helen Adelin) Surrendered Wife (Laura Doyle) Empowered Wife (Laura Doyle)
/r/RedPillWives04/03/21 02:36 PM
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Just for the record, I saw the post before you deleted it and was writing a reply, but I didn’t see anything “bragging” at all. You literally said you’re surrounded by more liberal-minded men and women and you don’t know how to meet a more traditional man... I don’t understand at ALL how that was seen as bragging? Lol. Anyway. You’re right, you’re in the wrong environments. When I was your age it was nothing but liberal, SJW types. Once I put myself out into the world, I found a great man (who w…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/21 02:13 PM
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He directly told you what he wants from you... I don't understand the issue here. There is no conflict. You need to see your own value in what you do at the home and realize that he values that SO much he'd rather work extra shifts than risk losing it. Work on your own mindset. Nothing else needs changed.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/21 06:16 PM
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That first trip he went on sounds like a couple's getaway. It was his buddy and his fiance, and him and other girl. Worst part, he lied about it. Lying is almost always an admission of guilt. If there was nothing shady happening, he wouldn't have lied. I would've left him right then and there. But, that's in the past now, you've chosen to move on, so current issue... Do you have reasons to not trust your boyfriend? Are there issues in your relationship? Do these friends know you exist? Have you …
/r/RedPillWives06/12/20 12:48 AM
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Would you want to know if your SO kissed someone else 20 years later. Would it be a deal breaker? No, because yes. I wouldn't want to know, because that one small truth would make every part of our two decades together seem like a lie. If it really was just a kiss and nothing more and it had been 20+ years ago, I wouldn't want to know. I'd rather the blissful ignorance. Twenty years of lying is not something I could move on from. And how do you think affairs start? Is it gradual and subtle or ar…
/r/RedPillWives01/12/20 09:58 PM
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Tell yourself whatever you have to in order to sleep at night.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 03:21 PM
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What I read and understand is that you cut your husband off from sex, cheated on your loyal husband, and branch swung to another dude. That's NOT what is taught here and that is NOT something that should ever be celebrated.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 02:18 PM
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Through looking at posts on this and other subreddits, I saw the terms “alpha” and “captain.” Are these interchangeable? Nope, they are different terms. What makes a man a “captain” in your all’s opinion? A captain is a man who can successfully lead his crew through the storm. Is there a specific physicality/personality type that you all think women are attracted to, or do you guys think there’s more variety? I definitely think there's variety. That being said, there's definitely common themes t…
/r/RedPillWives24/11/20 12:10 AM
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EXACTLY. What did these other commenters smoke?
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 01:45 AM
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In my opinion, there's nothing wrong in planning in case something bad happens. For like, a natural disaster or a power outage, sure. For your husband secretly becoming a serial killer? I don't think so, lol. just because you maintain a good relationship with your family, care for your looks and work a few hours per week, doesn't mean that you do not trust your spouse. I never said it was. Those are completely normal things for a person to do, and very different from OP's "what if he is actually…
/r/RedPillWives19/11/20 01:37 PM
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I don't think relationships work if you go into them with "insurance," to be honest. Yeah... bad things can happen. People can change. But if you plan for that and expect that, you just turn into a paranoid, anxious person who isn't in the present moment, can't fully unwind and enjoy herself, and (worst case scenario) pushes away her partner due to her fears OR creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. Long term committed relationships require a degree of trust to work. You vet them, the choose them, …
/r/RedPillWives15/11/20 02:58 AM
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Yes, because (1) I love him, (2) he is a provider and protector to his CORE, and (3) I have complete faith that he would do everything in his power to make something work. Luckily, he does currently support me, but more importantly, he's always looking for new ways to do so. He has a vision for the future, he has a plan, and I have complete trust in him to provide and care for me and our future babies (including if that means me needing to provide temporarily while he worked things out).
/r/RedPillWives14/11/20 03:51 PM
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I've always done high heat in the pan for a sear, a couple minutes on each side, then pop it in the oven and leave it for 10ish minutes (depends on the cook you want - you can google temps for different cooks!). Very low effort, quick and easy.
/r/RedPillWives11/11/20 06:30 PM
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Absolutely. I unfortunately have suffered with codependency for a loooong time, and there are many people who will spot that in a person and take advantage. Her husband sounds like one of those people... To truly be RPW you acknowledge what's your responsibility (your femininity, your actions, your mannerisms, etc.) and what isn't (the man in your life and his actions, etc.). You grab what's yours by the horns and you release everything else!
/r/RedPillWives10/11/20 01:17 AM
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I'm glad you said this, because I was going to. This is textbook codependency. /u/anothergoodbook : your husband's emotions are NOT your responsibility. If he has a meltdown every time a laundry bin is full or toys are on the floor, that is a him problem, not a you problem. You need to stop taking responsibility for his stuff and start focusing on YOU. If he wants it to be his standard of clean, he will have to clean it. Use Laura Doyle's "I can't" when he asks why you've skipped something. "Cod…
/r/RedPillWives10/11/20 12:52 AM
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First off, I'm sorry you're experiencing this. I know how hard it can be! At the same time, I think there's a better way to go about getting your needs met. Stop initiating sex. Men are the chasers, so allow him to chase. At first, it will suck. He may not initiate and that may further upset you. Swallow it down, because it will come. Instead of initiating, make yourself fun to chase. Be feminine, fun, flirty. Be playful with him. Show you admire him and want him without directly pursuing him. S…
/r/RedPillWives10/10/20 02:02 PM
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I just bought these and they're super comfy AND super cute. My typical, however, is leggings, cute/fuzzy socks, and a flowy top of some kind.
/r/RedPillWives05/10/20 01:16 PM
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I will only buy shark. They last forever and work SO well, so it’s more than worth it. They’re really not that expensive depending on the one you get.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 01:13 AM
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My husband is just about ten years older than me. The relationship is lovely. It's much easier for me to fill my feminine role, because he's lived much more life than me and I do trust and respect him greatly. He has the same feelings toward me; by me being younger, it's much easier and natural for him to lead and protect. Other than those two things and the occasional pop culture reference, we don't notice a different. We're both on the same intellectual level as each other and value debate, co…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 01:02 PM
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Is your cycle predictable, aka the same amount of days each cycle without variance of more than 1-2 days? If so, yes, less likely. You're less fertile a few days before your period than a few days after - after it gets tricky because you get close to ovulation. Again, that doesn't mean it's not possible. I highly recommend the app Natural Cycles - it can tell you when you are and are not fertile (assuming you have fairly regular cycles).
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 02:29 PM
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Unless you have an extremely short cycle, your period (day 1-2) is the most infertile time. That being said, nature finds a way, and you can get pregnant at ANY point in your cycle. If you can't handle the responsibility of a baby, DO NOT have unprotected sex.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 02:20 PM
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Why are you in this sub? Men are natural protectors. Why is that an issue? I'm not following how they're bad people? What are examples of them being condescending or misogynistic? Men are not women, and women are not men. That's the core foundational belief of redpill. If you're expecting them to be women or to consider you "just another one of the boys," that's unlikely to happen.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 04:28 PM
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Self-care, self-care, self-care. The more you take care of yourself, the less time you have to worry about what he's doing (or not doing). It's made a big difference for me, and I have a BAD anxious attachment style. Like... really freaking bad. Self-care is the cure. After self-care, there's: Boundaries. Know where you start and he begins. Stop focusing on his "stuff" and pay attention to yours. Therapy can help a lot. I didn't do well with CBT, but my attachment style came from trauma, so trau…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 04:21 PM
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Yay, that’s awesome! I don’t have many author friends so this is exciting. I’m only 23 myself, so we’re probably in a similar boat there, too.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 12:39 AM
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Hi!!! We should be romance writing friends!
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 12:21 AM
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Thanks so much! I really want to improve and write more so that I can do that and have a passive income. Makes for good housewife stuff in a day and age where that’s so hard to afford. Plus, when kiddies come, I can write around naptimes and whatnot. Always thinking, lol. My man is super duper supportive of my silly dreams, though! :-)
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/18 08:38 PM
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I self-publish! I currently have two out. They’re doing shockingly well for zero marketing/ads.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/18 07:47 PM
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I love romance novels, and I also write them. Big fan!
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/18 02:58 AM
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Yeah, I've gotta be honest, this sounds like a whole bucket of red flags.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 08:48 PM
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He doesn't sound like a man I'd want to settle down with. A fight shouldn't warrant him hiding you; that makes it seems like he wants to appear available to other women just because you two had an issue. Additionally, badmouthing a partner is wrong to anyone, especially to an ex. I don't know, I don't like that.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 08:37 PM
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This is one of the many reasons I'm anti-social media.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 08:35 PM
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