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Because they don't have a label saying 'inattentive boyfriends'? And it's not like this is the only factor that comes into play when it comes to being attractive. The world is full of relationships that lack real connection, intimacy. This is not some "gotcha" argument to score a point against women. Being good looking means you're attractive and people will fall for you. And we - people - are great at deluding ourselves when we have a crush on someone. Then, as we get to know the person better,…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 07:13 AM
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I did not imply that all locker room talk is demeaning towards women. But it often is, and people in this thread act like it's not. For what it's worth, depending on where you live/the groups represented in the 'locker room', it's also often racist, homophobic, etc. Basically some people see it as an opportunity to share their prejudices openly while out of earshot of those who might take offense. And the assumption is that everyone else present shares the same views.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 09:48 AM
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The claim was the term came from the internet. I said it's earlier. You told me no, it came from Netflix. I provided a reference showcasing that's not the case. ...and instead of saying my bad, I got that wrong, you change the goalposts.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 03:35 PM
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It came from Netflix https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/a-brief-history-of-the-evolution-of-locker-room-talk Didn't know Netflix existed in the 80s.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 10:19 AM
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Do you think the term "locker room talk" was came from the internet?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 08:29 AM

You got it backwards. There are higher standards for women > the standards are the reason women put a lot more effort > people see more attractive women. Compared to men, who don't need to bother nowhere near as much because the standards are lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 07:52 AM
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Maybe it's just me but did you intentionally write this in a way that makes it unclear about your position? I mean... is this what you think of single moms? Is this what you think all (or, say, the vast majority of) men think of single moms? Or is this your explanation as to why some men demonstrate contempt for single moms? Anyway, a thought that has occasionally crossed my mind is that she'd have limited free time and that she's more like to want to stick to a routine in her day-to-day life. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:52 PM
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beyond a curious “huh, wonder what the story is there” Personally, I get curious when I see a case like this. It usually means the guy is doing something 'right'*, so it's interesting to figure out what his strong sides are. *There's also exceptions where you realise he doesn't really have particularly strong and he just got kinda lucky. Perhaps he has some particular trait that isn't anything special but is attractive for her. Or maybe she has some issues and he was at the right place and time.…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 03:06 PM
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In my experience, people who try to 'steal' others' partners would try to do it no matter the context.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 03:00 PM
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Yeah, what's going on with this sub recently? Every thread I see recently feels more like Red Pill lite... Just dudes making gross over exaggerations. Surely there's better subs for pointless unsubstantiated rants. Or maybe it's been like this for a while and I just didn't notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 07:57 PM
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It is good advice, full stop. It won't help you if you're chasing partners who are out of your league but this doesn't make it bad advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/21 08:41 AM
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The only honest OP in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 06:54 PM
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"Even the superman" lol. OP, this is so cringe it's no surprise you're afraid of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 10:28 AM
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There’s no doubt lol There's so much doubt...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 11:08 AM
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The same happens in every scientific field: studies get varied results and some oppose each other. Then, as we observe more and more evidence, we can come to a consensus. A good example this year are all the Covid-related studies. Virility, masks effectiveness, social distance impact, etc. Suggesting that psychology is somehow fundamentally different compared to other fields is ignorant at best. This is the scientific process; nothing more, nothing less. The only reason one might have to suggest…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/20 03:54 PM
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Okay, it does not follow the most commonly spread viewpoint in feminist theory, i.e. that traditional gender roles are too restrictive and put most people at a disadvantage. Does this make it clearer?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 06:36 AM
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The person you quoted describes her behavior, and it does not follow feminist theory. And, as she sees the flaws of her own behavior, she is unhappy about it. This is a common scenario. I don't see how what she described means feminism and dating are at odds though. Because, again, her behavior is not feminist. What I'd say is the following: any set of beliefs you have puts you at odds with something. Depending on how much your care about it, it could be a lot or not really important. If you enj…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 09:45 PM
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It matters. But these are just two of many other ways things could develop, and context is key as always. In both cases I'd look at their overall behavior and not judge by just one criteria. I'd also point out that sleeping with someone new every few months if you had no committed relationship is not that much. It's not my thing but it's not like it's a reason to write someone off. This applies to the other scenario as well, although it's arguably a bit too far. It can be okay behavior for certa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 08:22 PM
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From my experience living in the UK, both men and women are like this. However, such behaviour is somewhat expected for men and shunned for women, so many people only pay attention to half of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 11:51 AM
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It might very well be more viable compared to trying your luck with experienced partners who would see red flags all over. Anyway, I don't think it's useful to look at it from such contrasting perspectives. Someone who's had very little relationship experience is close enough to someone who has none whatsoever. Similarly, I've had long-term relationships but I've also had gaps, and when you're alone for a couple of years, you need to re-adjust to making things work with another person. So it's n…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 11:45 AM
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I'm not talking about men only; I'm talking about men and women. I don't have any solutions in mind, but placing the blame on me... woah. I should be the one responsible for them, and I should be willing to risk my emotional well-being for those who, for some reason unrelated to me, are lacking the experience? I paid my share with the drama in my first relationships. Anyway, I did not say I write them off outright. I said I'd be careful to commit in such a situation, and everyone reasonable woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 10:40 AM
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Indirectly. People tend to get it wrong in their first relationships, there's definitely a learning curve. Unless you get really lucky with those who raise you and manage to gain lots of valuable life experience, I doubt you'd have a chance of making it work with your first. So, if someone has no partners by that age, it's likely that their first relationships would be a huge mess, and I'd be careful to commit in such a situation. I don't want teenage drama from grown-ups, no one does. Platonic …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 09:31 AM
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I think there's some points to consider. Raising kids with their fathers gone is nothing new. The nuclear family existed only for a very brief period. What is arguably different nowadays is that parents - usually mothers - raise them pretty much on their own, instead of having an extended family helping. I would argue that this is a greater problem than just the absence of the father. It often results in one of two things: the kid not getting enough attention since the mother is too busy, or the…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/18 09:16 PM
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It's not about explaining the terms. My point is they should explain how it is that the (perceived) existence/non-existence actually proves it. Some logical chain. Since it's absent, we cannot really argue the argument. P.S. A side-note: this is an example of a very well constructed argument. I don't agree with it either but it's actually something we can debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/18 08:47 PM
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I'm not sure it's a great idea to tag such low-effort posts as CMV. If we are to challenge the views, OP should actually express how the title "proves 80/20, hypergamy, TRP, and sheds some light on how female attraction works." That's hardly a submission statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/18 04:35 PM
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But the title you used is the misinterpretation. If it was "15% of women at the director level or above have consensually slept with their bosses", it would have been okay. But "15% of women" is outright untrue. Do you not see this?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/18 07:01 AM
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Sounds like empty marketing talk to me then. It's literally nothing than the same old "be yourself" trope. Which is fine; I just don't like pretending like wrapping up old ideas in new lingo to make them feel somehow more meaningful. A man in monk mode is a guy who lives according to his own goals and desires That's great. and refuses to let a woman disallowing this. This is, once again, putting the focus on women somehow. You are correct that many people are addicted to finding validation from …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/18 10:09 AM
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If this is the impression that this sub leaves, then this sub is very detached from reality. Yes, casual sex tends to be less enjoyable and fulfilling. Yes, there's risks. But for many many people - men and women - it's still worth it most of the time. And they do it, because they enjoy it. I would strongly advice against over-analyzing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/18 09:19 AM
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If you're already a 6, you already have a good chance with lots of potential partners and cutting social contact is completely unnecessary. Slowing down and not going after all the hotties: sure, sounds like a plan. Outright avoiding this social circle...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/18 08:42 AM
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I think they would be more attractive. But I don't think the change would be drastic enough for people to ignore them being asocial for so long.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/18 08:29 AM
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Even if you have the resources to put a lot of effort into improving yourself, someone who had no chance six months earlier would never become hot enough for people to ignore other flaws afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/18 08:02 AM
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What would this much more broad definition of monk mode include in your view then?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/18 08:00 AM
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Okay, makes sense. Another question, if you don't mind: what's the point of all these terms? Simply acknowledging that change takes time and effort is reasonable and a good, healthy approach towards improvement; both self-improvement and change you hope to see in others. That's all. As a side-note, in my opinion after you've done all this, you wouldn't need RP pick-up stuff anyway, but that's another topic :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/18 01:03 PM
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This sort of makes sense, but also doesn't. The problem I see with this is that it's very difficult to change what people think of you after a while. So, if you spend a long time being distant from this social circle, and then attempt to enter it, you already have the reputation of that anti-social person. If the alternative is hitting on every woman in an awkward way, then it might be better overall... But I still think that both options are not particularly good.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/18 12:29 PM
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Not all women have such low self esteem. I addressed both scenarios for those who do and those who don't. And the dudes getting naked on screen are just as Hollywood hot as the women. That's true, and I addressed this as well. The whole point of my posts is that putting hot naked men on screen won't make anyone feel any more empowered, just like putting hot naked women doesn't. It would serve as eye candy, just like it currently does. That's it. Framing the current situation (e.g. lots of naked …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 02:53 PM
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or closeted gays. This particular thread seems to be pretty clear on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 06:47 AM
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You make it sound as if women are currently getting the better deal. They get to feel sexy and desirable... Well, nope. When they see yet another ridiculously attractive woman goes nude, they don't feel empowered by it. If you look good, you feel good about your body already. If you don't, putting someone whose job literally is to look good in front of camera, only makes you feel even less adequate. Furthermore, the camera doesn't display these women the way other women would see them. It's aime…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/18 10:14 PM
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And, to turn things around a bit, how would you feel if you're never approached?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/18 02:41 PM
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You're missing the point you quoted: Men who the only person in their lives they talk to about anything remotely deep or challenging is their gf/wife They're not saying men should suppress their emotions. They are saying that those men who suppress their emotions in general tend to only open up in front of one single person (their partner). They're not making any arguments against men opening up in general. That's your interpretation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/18 01:28 PM
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Male. The way I see it males have "higher risk higher reward" roles in our society. They tend to reap more benefits than women, but when things go wrong, they go wrong spectacularly. Males have more opportunities, but there's also higher expectations (obviously not for everything but in general) that they cannot meet. Often these expectations are self-imposed but they come from women as well (the type of women I personally tend to avoid for that very reason but many others chase). Combine this w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/18 11:29 AM
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Surely it can be both? You can be charming at first glance, enough to get the attention of nice people, who then find out how shallow you actually are. So they distance themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/18 06:00 PM
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Like with anything else that provides instant gratification, casual hook-ups can become problematic for various reasons. One of them is exactly the feeling empty bit when the novelty of it gets old and you end up needing more and more in order to feel satisfied. Another, and probably the more common one, is simply missing the aspects of a real relationship that you're used to associating with intimacy. E.g. you're used to having deep conversations with your sexual partner... but suddenly it's ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/18 12:47 PM
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Maybe these men telling women to smile just think they look upset. Maybe they just want them to look prettier. Maybe they just want it for themselves since having a pretty woman smile at you feels nice, and they don't really care about how she's feeling or anything like that. But I agree it's not necessarily an expression of dominance. It can be a result of it (e.g. men being used to waitresses smiling at them for no reason and expecting more of the same) but I wouldn't say it's them trying to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/18 09:53 AM
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Snape is, in my opinion, outright the best written character in the book.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/18 02:20 AM
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If you better yourself, you're still yourself. If you start exercising regularly, that's great. The point is not to pretend you're something you're not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/18 10:18 AM
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That's somewhat better, I guess. All those "all women".... Sounds like you've been damaged by your job.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/18 08:59 AM
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Your social circle sounds terrible :(
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/18 09:24 PM
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Dude, you ask a question that can only be answered by giving my opinion. Yet you don't want me to give my opinion. TRP is all about someone's opinion on how to maximize happiness. Others challenge this opinion, and I've provided a viewpoint for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/18 03:04 PM
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You were asking about women/BP in general, so I provided a general answer. As for this particular exception to the rule, the woman you cited - she answered you already: I save the misleading advice for men who might have a chance at taking advantage of a woman in the future. She is very open about her motivations to mislead some men. Since she gave you her opinion already, what more do you want?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/18 12:01 PM
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Again, you asked why certain advice is given. When you give advice, you base it on your own opinion. How else would you give advice? I even asked you outright: Or you expect them to provide advice they think is harmful instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/18 09:22 AM
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And then asked very broad questions based on that one person's opinion. Yes, some women do share this opinion. And some men have the opposite view. So what? Your questions were very broad generalizations, and I addressed them. Then you go about how we have no right to provide advice based on our opinions, so we should just let TRP-ers do it and never react to the advice they're distributing. And then you are "oh but that one woman said something that partially matches my view"... If that's your …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/18 09:37 PM
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You're moving the goalposts. The question was why do people give advice like this. I'm providing the answer to this question. Or you expect them to provide advice they think is harmful instead? As for the yelling: there's a huge difference between your advice being "exploit others to get what you want" and "don't manipulate people". The first promotes sociopathic behavior, so yeah, of course you'll get people yelling at you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/18 09:12 PM
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I'll chime in since this thread is mostly one-side at the moment. Manipulation tactics work to a certain extent on certain people. Many people consider them immoral, so that's one reason to dislike them, even when they work. Another - a pretty big one - is that they don't lead to healthy relationships. Most people who fall for the TRP rhetoric need a relationship more than a random hook-up, so it's not helping them in the long-term even if they do occasionally get laid. And they tend to work on …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/18 03:12 PM
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Men have the least invasive option. If you have concerns about potential parental issues, you wrap up. Show at least a little bit of responsibility and the whole issue is gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/17 06:53 PM
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A man attempts suicide as a cry for help and is met with "be a man and suck it up!" Then wouldn't it make more sense to attempt to change this attitude instead of following an ideology that isolates men further?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/17 04:45 PM
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I agree with some of what you wrote. However, if you don't want the risk of parenthood, it's your responsibility to use contraceptives. Women have it worse regardless of whether they decide to keep it or have an abortion, so I'd say men should be responsible in one way or another (contraception or child support).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/17 04:43 PM
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No thanks, I'm doing fine without being an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/17 05:42 AM
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TIL being a "normal man" means talking about how you should not compliment women to prevent them from having self-esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/17 08:29 PM
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I know a few guys who occasionally drop RP-style wisdom. Most are just as unsuccessful with women as I suspect they were before. One of them actually got very close to seducing a very attractive woman I know. He's 1) relatively rich, 2) relatively smart, 3) reasonably good looking after he started working out and dressing up in a more fashionable way. They were making out one evening, then she went home alone, and then a couple days later she was outright avoiding him. He was negging her in a ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/17 05:04 PM
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My point was OP had absolutely no intention of approaching the topic with an open mind, so it was not a CMV. It was just a thread to shit on people OP and co. disagree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/17 02:07 PM
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This is a CMV. No, it's not. The sub in general is supposed to be, but this thread is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 09:00 PM
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I did read OP's post. I think she has had very poor experiences and think the way to move on from here is to stay grounded. You, however, want to just make fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/17 11:55 AM
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Oh poor little baby, I feel so sorry for you. If you don't plan on bringing anything to the discussion, I'd recommend going somewhere where people just want to rant.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/17 09:41 AM
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What do I bring to our relationship? I think pretty much the same things my girlfriend does. we both support each other with our problems. E.g. being someone to rant to when people at work pissed you off, or, if needed, someone who would offer a more neutral perspective; being able to afford nicer things since we share the cost; similarly, eating more quality home-made food and overall having less chores around the house since we share the chores; much better sex than what either would get other…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/17 09:02 AM
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The topic is definitely worth discussing. The delivery though...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/17 08:57 AM
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pretends to be interestd in discussion downvotes posts that ask questions related to the discussion Well done, OP. Well done. And you wonder why you're getting banned...
/r/MensRights18/12/16 10:27 PM
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Good for you for dumping him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/16 04:32 PM
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This is actually a prime example as to why men have it better. Not pretty enough? Awkward in conversations? Well, there's other ways to be successful. And if the whole point of your post is to basically claim that guys who are neither good looking nor successful nor good at communicating with women find it hard to date models... Yeah, you have to bring something to the table. The ones that are in a bad situation are women since even if they are successful and interesting, they are still likely t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/16 03:43 PM
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You're citing the Daily Mail in a debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/16 10:47 AM
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It's not the first time feminist academics do research like this, and it won't be the last. However, I'm concerned that people would cherry-pick what to cite; e.g. one side going for "The vast majority of male (93.3%) and female (98.1%) victims of rape experienced abuse from male perpetrators" and the other going for "Incarcerated women are more likely to be abused by other women inmates than by male staff", for example.
/r/MensRights29/11/16 09:37 PM
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It's no assignment. It was not for class. It was not made public by her. And there's gigantic outrage. But sure, whatever :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/16 02:09 PM
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It's not a real study. It's a joke. Nothing academic about it, no funding or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/16 02:06 PM
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You seriously read through the story and came out with the conclusion that she's an "academic type"? LOLOLOL
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/16 02:05 PM
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No. What OP is saying is that "game" doesn't help conceal your personality. The problems you have with attracting women will not miraculously disappear.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/16 04:56 PM
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Okay, how about the systematic rape of women serving in the US army?
/r/MensRights29/08/12 07:12 AM
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Love it how you assume that I'm a woman just because I point out misogyny when I see it :)
/r/MensRights28/08/12 07:21 AM
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Are you implying that there are no system of systematic rape of women..?
/r/MensRights28/08/12 06:32 AM
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Language is constantly changing and always will. And it's not like the new use of the term contradicts the previous one. If they wanted it to mean "the system of rape and abuse of men in prisons", they would have used that precise quote. Instead they utilised a broader term, which can cover more than one aspect of the issue. Plus, it's obviously not every year, way to exaggerate.
/r/MensRights27/08/12 06:44 AM
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How is giving a definition of what the term used to be about a "near perfect definition" of what it stands for at the present?
/r/MensRights27/08/12 05:17 AM
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Oh god, this is exactly how feminists see the world, isn't it? Yay, let's hate on "feminists" because some people who call themselves feminist say stupid stuff. That's not how you start a proper discussion about serious issues.
/r/MensRights27/08/12 05:14 AM
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