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By the very definition of HVM in social media. They have options and will likely NEVER give anyone a serious commitment or marriage. My ideal of a high value partner, is someone committed to me, someone that is an enthusiastic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 04:27 PM
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Those things aren't "wifey" duties no more than a guy paying for everything is a provider duty. Each partner makes a decision and have expectations of behaviors they would like a partner to have. I do things for my partners because I not only care, but respect and value them. No more, no less. Marriage, is a non issue because I would do those things regardless. Now, if i am dating someone, and I get this type of behavior in return? The relationship is done. Im not dating anyone trying to impose …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 04:20 PM
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Why? Because any fool can beg the same amount off the streets to buy a happy meal and see everything they have. Completely their choice. It is NO different than porn producers. I do not watch produced porn. I do not subscribe to OF. Once you take the level of intimacy into a commodity no different than a pack of gum at the grocery store, it loses all interest for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 07:38 PM
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New app for prostitution.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 03:38 PM
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What magic are they using to "force" you? What army is posted outside your house forcing you? Who the hell wants to force anyone? That just invites trauma and drama. Everyone has a choice and can exercise that choice. Its that simple. Have all the standards you want. Won't change a damn thing in the end. Either someone matches your relationship expectations or they don't. If they don't, you end it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:19 PM
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Relationships take work. They don't just happen and aren't always rainbows and coco. Even marriage vows include, " sickness and in health, good times and bad " but yet seems like those vows now hold about as much meaning as a bowl with holes trying to hold water. Your entire post is why men have started walking away from even seeking relationships. If it can disappear over night because of boredom, then why pursue it at all? Better option is to date casually or not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:45 PM
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Very simple. If you want that LTR, then be what the man your looking for wants. You don't go to a Kia dealership to buy a Porsche. you are misunderstanding open indifference to intimidation. Your not intimidating anyone, you just aren't what those men are looking for so you rank extremely low on their radar of importance. You just don't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 05:31 PM
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Original Ban (2022): All men 18-60 were barred from leaving. It wasn't changed until sometime in 2025 when younger men between 18 to 22 were allowed to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:56 PM
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Circular argument. There are still places right now where men are forced into slavery. Try again. edit Lets add Ukraine where all men regardless of age was forced to stay and fight while all women were given a pass to leave. But that's different right?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:08 PM
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And your dead wrong. Some of what your posting is from the 1800's forward. There are examples of women in history owning businesses, protecting and owning property. You need to drill down on the accepted societal norms at any given time period. Spartan, Roman and Germanic civilizations are known to allow women to own property. In the 1650, Margaret Brent is known for having acquired and managed large land grants, in 1793, case of Barnes vs Irwin, she successfully protected inheritance of propert…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 09:49 PM
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There were tradeoffs that tend to get ignored and the reasons why such things existed. Example, adultery. First remember marriages were not based on love but were actual contracts to secure family lands, titles, inheritance and even to secure family and even treaties between warring countries. They knew for certain who the mother was but if adultery was found, it could jeopardize those real world agreements. This could lead to further conflicts. If men committed adultery, the children weren't re…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 09:11 PM
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Depends on how your defining it. Example. If I say to a dating partner " go make me a sandwich " universally it will be labeled misogyny. But if I expand and say, I just mowed the lawn, changed the oil in her car, rotated the tires, changed the brakes, checked all fluids and have planned to cook BBQ that evening, and she hasn't done anything but surf tiktok, then she better be willing to make a damn sandwich. Are you still labeling it as misogyny? Your applying a modern term and applying it to w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:49 PM
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No. It is and should be a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:39 PM
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And that is the reality. Dating a single mother puts you squarely into third wheel territory. Just not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 12:23 AM
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Well for instance, this idiotic nonsense of paying for her makeup, hair and nail costs before even establishing a relationship. That is just her preferred personal grooming habits. Personally I would rather see her natural self not some overly made up version. Or how about instead of having a generalized first date to establish if any attraction is present they expect 5 star treatment of an expensive date "for the experience". I was in Dallas and met someone and offered to take them to dinner an…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 06:30 PM
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No i do not. I invest my all into someone I feel is investing in me. If she is a willing and enthusiastic partner then I will return the same 1000 fold. But if she is filling my life with drama, trauma, constant turmoil with demands and expectations because of social media trends, then she isn't going to be high on my priority list. And yes this can include her dating history. If her history is nothing but one night stands and constant hookups but she suddenly has this amazing epiphany and I now…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 06:09 PM
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Wrong and here is why. Even if ONE company is in control, its continued profit is contingent on providing a successful outcome. That would draw in more users from say divorce, new singles reaching dating age etc. On the contrary they are losing users at an alarming rate and men in general except those that try to use them as hookup sites, are now avoiding then all together. The fatigue is real and is getting worse. Tinder is trying to shake off its hookup reputation while bumble is laying off st…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 05:58 PM
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Look at any tracked metric. It doesn't and isn't. The dating culture is dying at an exponential rate. While there are other influences, markets centered around dating and marriage are hurting financially. Match making events are being avoided by men specifically. Attendance rates to clubs are down significantly causing clubs to close. Wedding venues have dropped in earnings. Even flower companies have seen a reduction of profits, higher competition, lower sales and it is only getting worse. If y…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 05:44 PM
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Thanks, I still miss her to this day she was truly one of a kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 10:19 PM
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This goes much deeper. I lost my wife due to accident in 2002. Drunk driver. After returning to dating after some time I just realized there was no benefit to me to seek actual relationships and chose to date casually. Even to today I have not met but one who came close to making me change my mind. I have not regretted that decision even one time. It depends on what each individual is expecting of a partner. I've had more than a few push marriage even knowing from the start it isn't on my radar …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 07:55 PM
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This goes further than that. Men are still being expected to fulfil gender roles while women feel they do not have to do the same. Unfortunately men aren't looking for the same things in a relationship so sex becomes one of the few things men are seeking. If that is all they see as important and what is offered, then that is what they will seek and you can see a good percentage have embraced the hookup culture and are no longer focused on relationships. Remove sex and now there is no relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 07:43 PM
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Here is the other side of the coin. Men aren't going to change. Men don't worry about dealing with difficult women. They will ignore them and complain how difficult it is to try and get along with them. See how that argument is circular? You can apply that logic to either side. Now here is the truth. Men have done the work. They did the math. They decided the juice isn't worth the squeeze. Those still interested adapted the hookup culture or went internationally to find girlfriends and wives or …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 07:29 PM
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I see women riding all the time. That isn't that rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 12:01 PM
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This can be applied to just about any subject. You can often find studies and articles pushing one narrative or the other. If you drill down on the sources you find its heavily manipulated and or trundicated to lean toward the outcome desired. As an example, mens lonliness is often attributed to just dating issues, but if you look at the sources, while it is a component, contains larger issues due to little to no societal support. Personal experience, ive worked in nursing my entire adult life a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 08:23 PM
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Men all gave their own reasons. In most cases, it isn't hatred, its indifference. We simple don't care to date them because the risk to reward just isn't balanced. Younger me tried dating single mothers. More than once and all it did was invite extremes of drama. Between angry children that didn't like their mothers dating acting out constantly and even damaging my property, to angry daddies that inserted themselves just because they could. It becomes a nightmare to deal with. You always end up …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 03:27 PM
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I will take it a step further. I worked with nurses my entire career. i often heard the constant complaints about bf's and husbands and how they didn't know what they truly wanted, choosing gifts they didn't want, not paying attention to their favorite choices in food, clothing, jewelry HOWEVER all I had to ask was " so what is his favorite food, or color, or show" and guess what, They had NO idea. In most cases they would stutter before throwing back " it doesn't matter he should just know", or…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 03:11 PM
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Let's start here "we didn't want to end up trapped in violent marriages as our mothers were". Then move to here " single men have nothing, want what we have, but cannot unlearn the faulty logic of being "in charge.". Instead of just making the point women want to remain single she took a veiled shot at who? The bear in the woods?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 06:04 AM
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And what does any of that have to do with OPS veiled attempt to name and shame men as being nothing more than prison jailers and abusers?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 05:19 AM
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My apologies then, it was aimed at the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:56 AM
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I think your confusing who is posting and the context. My posts in no way was aimed specifically at you. I am not quite sure where the confusion lies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:48 AM
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I didn't refer to dating but to relationships. I date casually and make no secret of it. I communicate that from date 1 but yet i've had dating partners suddenly decide that didn't work for them and come at me expecting me to just change my mind and let them move in and offer a ring. NOT EVER GOING TO HAPPEN. The most recent was July of last year. I still have dating partners including my first wife whom I divorced in the late 80's that shows up every few years trying to get me to change my mind…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:47 AM
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I am not and didn't. Posting rule means I can't post directly to the OP. My points was to show not everyone views marriage like the OP as oppressive prisons full of violence and your post shows it is still desirable to some. The commenter decided to be hypocritical at best and post something disingenuous. My point is she could have posted something positive about women who choose to remain single and empower them but felt the need to flip the negative script to once again just attack men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:31 AM
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The problem isn't what you posted or your friends honestly. but the constant attack men are being faced with for the last few decades. The OP's post was worded as a side eye attack on marriages and men in general describing them as prisons and full of violence. I myself have gone from the traditional mindset of chivary, and being helpful first responder, nurse, volunteer fireman to now just deciding to walk away from basic society and ignore everyone except those I have established relationships…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:17 AM
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Because you could have simply stated "we chose to be single". That is NOT what you posted or intended. It was worded specifically as an side eye attack on marriages and men in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:07 AM
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And as usual you missed the entire point. This is NOTHING to do with them wanting to be single. She clearly used it to dig in the spurs about marriages to men being northing more than jail cells and full of violence. I find it funny you describe me as using a victim card when she just did that EXACT thing your complaining about to demonize marriages. Each needs to decide for themselves. We are hated for wanting relationships and hated for NOT wanting relationships. You specifically chose to igno…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:01 AM
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" trapped in violent marriages as our mothers were" This is a direct attack that all marriages to men are full of violence. Take a look at the data now that we have enough to research. Bisexual women showed the highest prevalence (61.1%-68.8%), nearly double that of heterosexual women (35.0%-36.0%). Gay men experience IPV at rates of 26.0%-37.7%, while lesbian women encounter violence at rates of 43.8%-46.3%, both exceeding their heterosexual counterparts. This from a research gate study publish…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 03:51 AM
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Absolutely you can. Go do it. Stop running around demonizing the other half of the population because you made that choice. If your not interested wonderful, 100 percent support you. We are doing that. We get demonized for refusing relationships and demonized for NOT wanting relationships. If you don't want a relationship awesome! go bugger off and enjoy your life! NO one teaches men their value lies in sex. We are beat over the head constantly that it is being the provider, in other words walki…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 03:23 AM
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Well the truth is men are sick and tired of being demonized by such insane rhetoric. We are walking away from marriages and relationships en mass and actively avoiding it. The statics show while we may WANT such relationships it just has too many negatives to seek it out. The last study i remember seeing showed that women of dating age 20 to 45 by 2030 will be single and possibly childless and likely the younger generation may never experience a lasting long term relationship by 46% or more and …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 02:45 AM
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I am so damn sick and tired of hearing this social media BS rhetoric OP just spouted. Men have not all been trapping women in marriages and do not go around trying to be violent to their spouse. You don't want to get married or want to be the independent person? Awesome! Good for you! GO DO IT. The majority of the world still focus on having traditional relationships. Everyone needs to make the decision for themselves. The society as a whole is crashing. Eventually we will reach a critical tippi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 02:34 AM
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On that I will agree. What this does is bring into focus why the dating and relationship dynamic has just devolved in western dating. I get why they both decided to get married. He wanted the trophy wife and she wanted the lifestyle but she publically insults and is dismissive of her husband and you can even see he is almost exhausted dealing with her. This eventually is going to blow up. If they both are getting out of the marriage what they want, great but they both should support and respect …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 08:42 PM
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Nope, all the content is on youtube and available. He has been on talk shows and is known as a comedian. At this time I had no idea who the guy was. What caught my attention was an actual compilation of how she acts before, during and after the marriage. That lead down a bit of a rabbit hole before I just got bored and moved on. They supposedly shared life values yet he was a virgin until marriage for cultural and religious reasons I guess which at the time she parroted as her beliefs only to po…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:30 PM
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If you watch the podcasts they have both been on both together and separately, plus videos put out, if you watch her behaviors and what she says it becomes obvious very quickly. She has zero real respect for him as a partner or the relationship. The way they both refer to the relationship is eye opening. She dismisses him at every turn and makes him out to be a joke of a man. The only time that changes is when its called out and you can see the flip switch in her eyes and she tries to protect he…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 06:57 PM
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Akaash is making himself out to be a joke and a perfect example of "simp". The woman claimed to be a virgin then brags about missing " popping her pussy" for every chad in school. If you watch closely how she acts around him, that woman doesn't love him she loves the lifestyle and money he makes. He isn't a respected partner. He is a good example why men should NEVER do this. She has lied to this man at every turn.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 06:00 PM
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Go read any infidelity post from any forum. Apply the logic. It fits nearly perfectly everytime. The 50's? Dude, right now women's use of antidepressants has skyrocketed over and above any decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 04:42 PM
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ok fair warning, unpopular truth following. Yes it does. Let's drill down. Relationship dynamics are in the toilet. Every measurable metric proves it. Stable happy traditional relationships have become the exception. They are fast becoming a thing of the past. The guys who realized it and adapted learned how to adapt, take the opportunities available to them and profit from it. The difference between men ad women is women work with in the framework of feelings and emotions and men often do NOT. …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 04:18 PM
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Sure, why? those guys refuse to adapt. Actually i do warn them. it's called stop being dumb and wrap it. They are so busy trying to raw dog they refuse to take the simplest precautions. Wifing them up is not the answer. Not by a long shot but that's another argument entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 03:22 PM
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Very true they do get married but how many of those end up being long term? The percentage is extremely low. The divorce rate if you separate them isextremely high even when compared to "vanilla " divorces. Argue all yilou want but those numbers tell the story and it doesn't have a high percentage of positive results.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 03:18 PM
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It is fairly easy to find references. The con's are varied and noted as everything from emotional, psychological traumas and sense of heighted lonliness, lack of relationship support during major life events, depression, impacts social standings, reputations and the stigma often faced by social circles among others. As for regret just as an example this dates back to 2022 (not at home quick search) where someone has the specific regret. Due to her past she explains while being in a happy relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 11:34 PM
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And that's your choice and your experience. The con's are specific to the situation and those involved and obviously exceptions never change the overall experience others have. You haven't had a negative outcome at least that your willing to share. Great but that isn't always the case and you can easily find not only studies but the videos, tiktoks etc where the opposite are true. You have women actively searching for ways to remove that history such as trying to call themselves virgins have hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 10:23 PM
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NO matter what choice of lifestyle you choose, and this includes "hoe" phases or not chasing that phase there are pros and cons. Each have to decide if those are worth that choice. This also includes feeling safe while pursing such hookups. Lets be real. Women right now enjoy the preference of being able to find lines of men ready to jump at the chance to hook up where for men it is far different. Just because they graduated, has no impact over them pursing such hookups. The question actually is…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 09:52 PM
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Risk vs reward. If the reward doesn't at least give an even return on the investment, best to just not do it. Given the state of dating there just isn't any benefit other than basic companionship to approach someone for an actual relationship that in the majority of cases will be full of nothing more than drama and trauma. Personally I will pass. Im good dating casually and sticking to fwb etc that I already have established relationships with.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 09:38 PM
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Personally, Done, Relationship ended. Why? I want to be someone's first choice not backup choice. To clarify, if I say married someone and lets say at 10 years after kids, house vacations etc. If I overheard or for what ever reason found out she lied and I was the backup choice, then the next day lawyers would be consulted. Why? Because to me the entire relationship was based off a completely lie. Regardless how she feels now I have zero trust she is being truthful and she has now proven NOTHING…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 09:36 PM
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They did adapt. Just not in the way women expected or wanted. They just chose a different path. What worked for you won't work for someone else. Men, generally speaking, approach relationships based off risk vs reward analysis. In some cases we over analyze. If we do not see at least a balanced return on what we invest then we just to avoid or choose to not entertain any relationship. Make no mistake this has nothing to do with just any red, blue, orange, pink or black pill dynamic. The overall …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 09:26 PM
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DISCLAIMER no it doesn't apply to all and honestly have no idea the percentages would even look like but seem exceedingly high and if it doesn't apply to you then it doesn't apply to you. The friendzone itself doesn't exist. All that says is I like this person but have no sexual or romantic interest in them. Hot take but my personal view based off working in women dominated field, personal experiences. I can't tell you over the years how many times ive been drawn into conversations or overhead t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 08:46 PM
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You need to use common sense and good judgement. Don't blindly believe or follow any advice. Here is the conundrum and how those guys get so popular. There is just enough truth behind what they preach that people identify with the message and then just lose themselves going down the rabbit hole and end up on the extreme side of the issues and this is NOT limited to redpill manosphere rhetoric. Feminism, both political parties and nearly every other type of social or cultural issue justice dynami…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 08:25 PM
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No, why? the definition reaches further than that. It was designed as combination of behaviors seen as honorable including helping the weak buy wasn't gender specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 11:13 PM
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This is disingenuous, why? Because if this were true on any level, it wouldn't be as hot a topic. It would literally be ignored and backpaged as a foot note. The truth is, its becoming a more popular route for men looking and preferring traditional relationships without all the trauma and drama that seems to exist in western dating culture. A sizeable portion of men that choose this path have the resources, income streams and are seen as viable and even exceptional dating options abroad. What th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 11:03 PM
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Im not sure I would label it that depending on the time frame being discussed. At the time of history I referred to, and how important child birth was to the success or failure of a given culture with the inherent dangers, that status and protection was required. Those reasons no longer exist for the most part with the advancement of medicine to help with the dangers of child birth and the civilization of the world overall. Now it certainly could be seen as benevolent sexism. Where we now see is…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 10:20 PM
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Nope, My experience with reddit, unpopular opinions or ideas vs the truth = banned. Pick a subject and its easy to research. As an example, always taught women in history couldn't own land, businesses earn profits or property, turns out all either completely false or misinformed or interpreted depending on the civilization and time frame being discussed. Found a interesting book by a woman professor that detailed the history that was quite enlightening. That led me down a deep rabbit hole of cur…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 10:04 PM
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As stated, socially, not politically. If you dig into real history and not the drivel taught in schools which is full of misinformation, falsehoods and manipulations you'd be surprised what you find and realize is the actual truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 07:43 PM
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No, why? one word, traditional. Your expecting men to follow outdated courting gender dynamics but offering what? When courting was the dynamic there was intent and actual interest. There wasn't dating 10 people at a time. It was expected from the start a layer of exclusivity. That doesn't exist now. That doesn't scratch the surface of women going on dates for free food etc. You mentioned feminism. Well while people focused on what it was supposed to achieve, most ignore what the ultimate cost w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 07:21 PM
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Go back and research your numbers. If your talking fortune 500 companies, it pasted 10 percent over 2 years ago. Also research business owners and you will see that number climb to between 40 to 50 percent if I remember the last article I read correctly. For the congress seats, I would like to find the research that showed the number of actual candidates vs elected to see how many have actually attempted to secure a seat. is it a case of only 30 percent applying then you have 100 percent of them…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 11:27 PM
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Analogy time. How would you feel generally if your husband went to some place where he would constantly be approached for sex and decided to wear nothing but a speedo that hid nothing. For example strip club. This is what nearly ever man feels when their partners go out in highly revealing clothes except it doesn't matter where they go the partners will get sexual attention. Fair or not that is what happens. The truth is this. No one should dictate what their partners wear. However they each hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 10:53 PM
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Heres the thing your missing. choice. In nature and natural selection, some of the expectations or standards people are using to make those choices are just that a choice. In nature and even at the dawn of humanity being able to breed was based on who was the strongest or the better opportunist. we could return to the "natural" state where strong men just took who they want but I do not think that would be the best idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 07:47 PM
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Well that is the problem. Generally men aren't looking for the help they just decided to walk away from the dating table and it is getting more common. We have moved from an era of men are from mars and women from venus to men have just decided to move to an entirely new galaxy in a new universe.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 07:41 PM
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Honestly, you can only be honest about it but it is likely going to be very very difficult to find anyone who will want a relationship. Sex builds and maintains intimacy and most people want enthusiastic sexual partners. You may need to consider someone that has the same issues, maybe compromise with an open relationship or similar so they can seek sexual fulfilment elsewhere.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/26 05:51 PM
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Very true but it also goes the other way. Be the woman that the man you want is looking for. From the sheer amount of posts, videos and overall statistics, Men expectations or fairly very low while women's expectations across the board tend to be high to being referred to as unrealistic but offer almost nothing in return but companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 05:20 PM
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Ok lets go there. Here is the truth. First "hung" is relative. having average length but really thick can be considered hung or slightly thinner but long might be seen as hung. What they want is not to waste their time. They want someone that listens, reads their body languages and is responsive. Most would take that attentive in tune man with an average dick over the bat dick who does a poor imitation of a piston and thinks "welp my jobs done" and the wives are barely excited. They are complete…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 04:35 PM
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no dude, what clubs are you visiting?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 02:07 AM
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Nah ill just hit up the swingers club or invite a hotwife over. Has been great so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 08:26 PM
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Funny thing is, you can find posts and videos online now where women have done this and was surprised how toxic the responses they got from other women. I think its hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 03:55 PM
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Big difference between finding willing dating partners and those that are willing to enter a long term commitment. Its not impossible but its significantly more difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 04:26 PM
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I agree with this surprisingly enough but here's the rub. Those men will never commit. There will always be someone willing to offer what those guys want. I date casually, am very upfront about it and in no way interested in that commitment. If someone says no, awesome there is someone else that will say yes. If everyone collectively decided to change, there will still be options. Basically, you want a commitment? Date with intention, not only choose someone that has that same level of commitmen…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 03:21 PM
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Just because she got baptized and forgiven doesn't mean she automatically becomes a good choice to partner with. You take any repeated violent criminal in jail, you will find a majority suddenly rediscover religion, right up to the point they get released and repeat the same violent crime or worse. The same idea fulls the posts. She prostitutes herself for 11 years, and I didn't view the post to be honest and do not know the details but suddenly finds religion, gets baptized as shes likely tired…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 01:49 AM
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personally, its as asinine as choosing the bear over random men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 07:09 PM
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Which again puts you in a highly subservient and vulnerable role. sooo
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 11:45 PM
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To clarify, it isn't love advice. Its an observation. If he is behaving in such a way it pisses you off, that includes doing a large percentage of house care and he doesn't change and yet you choose to stay. Thats your decision, and your just enabling him at that point. And my point, if he values you as you should be valued as a partner, he would behave accordingly. All people invest where they see value. Its a old salesman trick. If someone really values something they will find a way. If they …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 11:44 PM
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Im the wrong one to put that argument to. My wife tried that argument of "wife's work". She tried that argument after girls at her college got into her head and conducted an experiment she designed to test it. It backfired spectacularly. Didn't even last 4 months and she begged to end it. Turns out she wasn't putting in close to the effort I was. I am from that generation. I put my wife through college, took care of all finances, house and car maintenance, cooked (used culinary degree to put mys…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 10:23 PM
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Actually, if things get that desperate, just historically speaking, you may find yourself in a worse scenario. But hopefully wont happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 09:52 PM
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Find a study detailing how many men have done so. I doubt you will find any because its so very rare. The truth is men have very limited reproductive rights. At any time a mother can walk away mostly judgement free with no obligations but men are judged for it and considering paternity fraud is over 30% of cases that are known. Your example, to let the baby die is disingenuous. This is why other options are avaliable. They still won't be optimal for the child. The truth is, there is no easy answ…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 09:23 PM
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Except that doesn't always happen. Any mother can decide to give up custody by dropping the baby off at any safe haven like a fire station etc and walk away without one question but if a father tries to do the same, including a one night stands accident, he is labeled for life. If your going to try to shame one gender, you need to focus on the bigger picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 08:37 PM
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Perfect example of why men are making the choices they are. Lets hope your area doesn't experience what happened in Ukraine. You may find yourself in a dire situation and no one around to help.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 08:32 PM
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I think its long overdue. Personally, I've gone on record that the vasectomy was my best decision. Even with that and using condoms, I've had 2 separate dating partners try to hit me with paternity lawsuits hoping to force child support and or a long term commitment which they knew from the first date I was never on board with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 06:24 PM
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Wasn't aware of that study good to know. Another addendum, they just past first human study of a BC pill for men that looks promising. If it works as intended, that could increase that number exponentially. Men will finally have an alternative to surgery to control reproductive rights for themselves. No more "surprise, your a dad" dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 06:01 PM
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There are examples already. South Korea and China also for that matter. I would need to look. Last article I remember had hundreds of "successful " women attending match maker events looking for relationships and having very few men attending. There seems to be a huge gender imbalance. They made it so difficult that men in those areas just quit trying. That trend is now being repeated in western areas. Even now, those events are noting limited to zero interest in men to attend, and the club scen…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 05:55 PM
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Actually, no. Why? Social media. Our connectivity to the internet is both a useful tool and a huge weapon. Those ideals are being pushed out to a high degree which is where we see all the conflict get escalated. There will always be "spern donors " that will provide. The issue is, those same women may have children but never experience a long term commitment they may want or expect. That trend has been studied and is trending higher per year.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 05:45 PM
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And if he jumps to those responses, that's where I say it begins to enter extreme territory. That in itself to me is a problem and my main issue with social media pushing these agendas. Again, the issue is compounded by just enough truth, the extremists use it to push the agenda. Yes it can happen, and men are tired of being used in such ways and it doesn't help when we see videos of bragging about it happening, but as with the labels, its often applied to all interactions which isn't fair to an…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 05:40 PM
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Your right, I don't know you or your bf, which is why I didn't point to either specifically. Yes, those dynamics can influence behavior especially if taken to extremes as I stated. The lingo buzzwords are being used heavily because its become the normal response. Personally, I wish all of it were tossed in a garbage bin. Again, it isn't manosphere antisocial behaviors but antisocial behaviors in general. As with most such dynamics there are 2 sides to that coin and they both feed heavily into ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 05:04 PM
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Well you can view it from the standpoint of the Ukraine situation. Women were allowed to leave, men were required to stay. They've put up a hell of a fight because they are protecting their homes and families. If they didn't have those homes and families, its possible a good percentage of those men would have just surrendered and left. Op's mistake is thinking men will still stand up and say " I need to do x,y,z" to be accepted but in reality the men are just shrugging it off and choosing a diff…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 04:41 PM
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I would call bs on this. Why? Because it might not be red pill but just a difference in viewpoints. The behaviors posted aren't limited to any pill dynamic. It is bad behavior regardless. My ideals were built off personal experiences, watching friends relationships over the years and from my own expectations in a relationship and were formed way before any of this pill nonsense or mansosphere. The issue is those ideals have just enough truth behind them to have weight and is taken to extremes. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 04:12 PM
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Single mothers can have all the standards they want, and not settle. But men have that option also. It isn't intimidating to men, its our preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 03:43 PM
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What your missing is men are adapting, just not in the way it was expected. Right now men have 3 options. Seek relationships internationally and finding someone that matches their ideals, choosing to stay single and date casually or to use professional services for intimacy or just walking away completely. You can see by statistics men are opting out of traditional education opportunities. College admissions and acceptance is much lower and dropping. The push to get a career and family is being …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 03:32 PM
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Exactly why men are now refusing to pay for dates, the women don't meet their standards. Like I said, everyone has a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 04:20 PM
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If I were dating someone, and saw real potential, you wouldn't have to ask, id pull it into my shop and rebuild it. Come at me with an expectation of "you fulfill all of x,y,z while you should expect zero return " that card can sit and rust. I'll find a more compatible partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:56 PM
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If you don't exhibit wife or husband behaviors while dating, its likely never to happen after marriage. A title doesn't magically enable those traits. Its a title, no more, no less.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:52 PM
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Awesome, ill pay for the groceries, you get in the kitchen and cook it. Wait? You don't want to cook for a date?? Great, stop expecting gender role treatment if your not willing to fill a gender role. Everyone has a choice. We dont break rules for "Stacy ". We pay for partners that show us they are worthy of that investment. Why should we pay for anything before we know you want to date us and not just want a free meal? WE dont want to be settled for. Your argument is circular.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:49 PM
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Honestly, I doubt you will find one on dating apps. Most of those guys are wanting hookups. Those that want to get married are already married for the most part. I am one of those guys that see zero benefits to a marriage, its just way too many negatives not offset by any real positives. There is nothing to gain that I cant have by casually dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:41 PM
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It is for them to decide. But when they sit and complain constantly they cant find someone it starts the conversation. When the question is asked and they give out a list of expectations not even a Greek god can fulfill that is unrealistic. I am not offering a damn thing. Retired early very comfortably, i spend more money on rebuilding my hobby projects than any self care bulld lol while only dating casually and have been since early 2000's and quite frankly their financial portfolio means nothi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 04:47 PM
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There are high standards and non realistic high standards. Big difference between the two. I can say I've known some that have a bar set so high no one will ever meet them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 07:45 PM
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