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Discussionyamb97/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 09:17 PM
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Then everyone clapped
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 08:54 PM
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Agreed. I have always been the primary breadwinner and my male partners take on the bulk of household chores except for cooking because I love cooking. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses and relationships will differ from person to person. The only thing that matters is the people in the relationship agree on their roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 07:45 PM
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People of child bearing age don’t get social security why are you talking about lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 08:15 PM
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Yeah sometimes sure, like normal people are.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 05:11 PM
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Idk I’m not going to call my partner’s family ugly lol but they’re pretty average dudes. None of them went to college or have any kind of real career at all. I don’t think any of them are over 6ft, one is a body builder, but two of them are pretty skinny, and one is a pretty large guy, not obese by any means but certainly not skinny.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 04:27 AM
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Yeah I can see this, I don’t deny that some males could be lonely. I just don’t know any personally. It also tracks that lonely people probably wouldn’t be very social, so hard to meet any once you’re out of high school and not really forced to socialize with people unlike you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 04:23 AM
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My actual brother is gay but I am in a relationship with a man that has 4 brothers. We (29) have been together for 5 years, not married (I’m not interested bc I’m widowed), and do not plan on having kids (he is snipped). I will go in order of age now. Brother 1 (27), married 6 years, no kids, but they want them. Brother 2 (24), got his long term gf pregnant, they have one 4yo, got married afterwards, married 3 years now. Brother 3 (21), got his not long term gf pregnant, they have a one 3yo and …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 09:01 PM
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Sure but even if I accept your premise that getting married and having kids makes having a happier life in old age more probable is true, that’s just risk assessment without risk management. For women, having children is high risk and potentially high reward. You risk permanent disability/death, having your partner leave you or dying, having a child with lifelong disabilities, etc. and then you could still end up lonely and sad. At most, what you risk by choosing to forgo all that is being lonel…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 11:06 PM
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I personally do know several 60+ women who never had kids (some of them are married though). I don’t know about their sex lives because these are my coworkers but I do know they have active social lives and tend to do a lot of traveling. On the other hand I also know of people who have chosen to have children and live miserable lonely lives. They dedicated their lives to caring for their kids and now have no social life or hobbies but their children are no contact with them for a myriad of reaso…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 08:15 PM
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Personally, no. The only place I’ve even heard of it is here on Reddit or in fiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 01:38 PM
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Yeah I can’t speak for all women but I definitely notice whether or not a condom is there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 01:36 PM
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Or are you suggesting that paternity fraud is so widespread that it would surpass the number of incarcerated men? Both implications are equally insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 01:34 PM
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Most incarcerated men are not incarcerated due to paternity fraud lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 06:38 AM
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Dude I’m with you. As a woman, when I hear about “stealthing” I think “what an absolute moron of a woman would fall for this?” but apparently it happens. A common scenario I hear is that you start sex with a condom on and then at some point he sneakily takes it off without you noticing. Yeah that’s crazy sure, but it’s even crazier to me that the women “don’t notice”.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 06:36 AM
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Stealthing isn’t legally considered rape currently. I don’t think “rape” is the correct word here but I do think it is reproductive coercion. Yes, I do also think that lying about birth control is also reproductive coercion and both should be equally punished. Very unpopular opinion… I also believe that “paper abortion” should be allowed in the sense that a man has the same amount of time a woman does to decide that he does not want to be a father and should not be held financially or otherwise …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 06:30 AM
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Another commenter already changed my mind on this but I appreciate your detailed write up nonetheless. Are you saying not all red pillers embrace the motto of enjoying the decline though? Aside from those who don’t fully believe in the decline itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 05:29 PM
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Huh yeah ok, that makes sense to me. It feels like people just use “red pill” to describe anything manosphere adjacent these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 04:44 PM
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No I agree red pill isn’t about men’s rights really but more about what they should do within the bounds of the current system but wouldn’t “enjoy the decline” be more of a black pill motto? That seems more defeatist than what red pill actually is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 04:28 PM
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Isn’t that black pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 03:47 PM
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Nice, kind, and smiley isn’t really what OP was speaking on though. They said non-combative. Kindness is a trait we look for in both men and women, we don’t generally want men to be “non-combative” which really just means submissive and passive. IME children definitely do not like (shown via disrespect) their submissive door mat mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 06:28 PM
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Tbf 42 is a bit old to be looking to get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:29 PM
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I don’t know any men that don’t want to be married. This feels like weird rage bait somehow and doesn’t read like something an actual woman would say.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:25 PM
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You keep coming back to this idea that women having choices leads to “realistic candidates being disqualified” but is that truly what you and your fellow men want? To date women that don’t actually want you and are only there because they don’t have other options?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 08:57 PM
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The only answer I see is “having women stop blaming and shaming men” but I fail to see how that’s relevant to OP’s complaints about fairness in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 08:53 PM
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Accountability for what exactly? What does a woman taking “accountability” look like to you? What does that even have to do with OP’s premise that dating is unfair because women now have more choices? Is “accountability” just settling for a man you don’t actually want? That just seems bad for both parties tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 08:47 PM
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Are you saying it would be more ideal if women were forced to settle with men they don’t want to be with? Is that better than the current situation? For who? I thought men didn’t like being settled for.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 07:36 PM
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I agree that most people do age poorly, I’m just not totally convinced it’s “rapid” or tied to one specific age. I guess it really depends on how one defines “rapid”, I was just trying to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 07:56 PM
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How? Like what traits specifically are you referring to? Things like weight gain and wrinkles take time to develop, what exactly do you mean by “rapidly” and “downhill”?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 03:17 PM
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“Happier” not “happiest”. I would say for most women it would go good relationship>single>bad relationship. So for those women who for some reason or another cannot get into a good relationship, they are happier comparatively.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 10:35 PM
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Women in general have a higher threshold for attraction. To speak plainly, we are just not as thirsty as you. Most (not all) women could not care less if they never got laid in their lives at all, for most men (not all) this is some kinda death sentence. We simply do not care as much as you do about getting the sex. Therefore, we can hold out longer. If you are not hot enough to me, you are not getting any from me. Period. I would rather just not be alive than be forced to have sex or even be in…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:43 AM
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You do realize live in nanny’s are compensated on top of room, board, transportation, and meals right? They even get PTO and health insurance in some cases. So it would be half a salary AND all the bills and expenses.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 11:16 PM
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It is, but when you have two parents, both should be contributing equally. If they were both working, they would both contribute to the cost of childcare, but since one is providing it, that one should receive half the compensation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 10:49 PM
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Well you would be paying yourself which is a moot point right? That doesn’t mean it’s not a job though. Plenty of paid jobs aren’t necessarily hard work. In the sahp scenario, if one parent out of two is staying home, they should be getting compensated for half the wages of the work they are doing since they would pay themselves for one half.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 10:29 PM
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Hypothetically a babysitter would get paid to supervise said play dates so I would still consider that a job, nice that you had a job you enjoyed though. You know the saying “Find a job you enjoy doing, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 10:01 PM
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It sounds worse than an unpaid job tbh, at least I get to leave my job and take vacations. You’re kinda stuck with children or chores nearly 24/7 unless you get a babysitter or maid.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 09:52 PM
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Jesus F Christ when will y’all stop with this entirely made up talking point, women by large do NOT like bodybuilder physiques, MEN do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 10:17 PM
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Wow I had no idea, that’s crazy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:39 AM
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I have never experienced particularly small (<4) but I have experienced two large (>9). The average size is my preference. Not because large feels bad but ime they have a hard time getting fully erect which is a bit of a turn off to me. No one wants soggy penis lol I wouldn’t say size doesn’t matter at all, I imagine micros don’t feel like much but I do believe if you’ve got 4 inches you’re good.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:02 PM
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“Ugly” is subjective and therefore pretty unproductive to discuss. Yes, the men I know do mostly prefer to date outside of their race. It makes sense from a biological perspective for genetic variation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 11:42 PM
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Most men I know have negative interest in dating a woman that looks like them that’s quite weird and gross actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 06:00 PM
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I appreciate that and agree it can go too far for sure, it’s hard to resign yourself to being socially unacceptable merely out of principle though. The stuff OP speaks to is pretty basic, she doesn’t mention plastic surgery or anything extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 05:03 PM
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That’s definitely not love and I would highly recommend not dating a woman that treats you like that. No one’s asking you to make an effort to date someone you have no interest in being around.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 04:59 PM
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder; perhaps this “ugly wife” is kind and nurturing to him, shares his interests, is willing to carry his children, and is a freak in the sheets. Perhaps he just legitimately likes her. You so adamantly want to believe that “nerdy guys” just can’t win when in reality they are out here living their best lives staying far away from any dude that would insist their wife is ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 02:58 PM
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If women aren’t worth the energy or effort then why do men constantly and consistently complain about not being able to get women? I’m all for men going their own way if that’s what they desire but “men have to evolve like crazy” if they want a chance at a romantic relationship with a woman. Women are not immune from having to do anything OP mentions, in fact most women are conditioned to do 1/2 from birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 02:51 PM
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My partner has a DND group and not one of them are single… They certainly don’t have this defeatist mindset that they won’t ever be attractive to any woman though, that in itself is pretty unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 02:42 PM
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I’m not implying he is, a celebrity is just a good example since most will know who he is and what he looks like. I don’t deny the okCupid data but rather your conclusion from it. I too, would rate most men below a 6 but that doesn’t necessarily mean they have zero chance with me, there’s a lot a man can do to make up for not looking like a supermodel but in that same vain just because a man does look like a supermodel doesn’t mean he is guaranteed a chance with me. There’s a lot of factors that…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 06:53 PM
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Idk if I really agree with that, I am able to see that someone is not ugly but also just not my type. For example, I know a lot of people are really into Tom Holland, I am not attracted to him whatsoever, but I do recognize he isn’t ugly. Further, attraction isn’t always only physical, take for example the “he’s a 10 but he does x” TikToks, sometimes certain personality traits will make someone really unattractive but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 04:36 PM
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Tbh the men that espouse this are unattractive at 20, 30, 40, 50. It’s just cope and a poor attempt at “negging.”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 04:02 AM
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What were you wearing though?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 02:50 PM
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“Tell me where men should be accountable absent women.” I also recommend you reread my first comment in response to you, no where have I stated one gender is more despicable than the other. You’ve made it clear you think every flaw a man could possibly have is always women’s fault though. Yawn 🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 12:48 PM
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The fact that you think accountability shouldn’t exist absent of women says a lot about you. I highly recommend you do some of the red pill required reading bc it’s just giving whiny incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 12:28 PM
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Lmao this all really illustrates the point. Zero accountability. Everything is women’s fault wahhh 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 11:50 AM
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That’s quite strange you don’t think you would feel that…but I don’t have a penis so I guess I have no idea what the sensitivity is like. I can 100% tell if there is a rubber barrier between my vagina and a penis or not. Regardless, if I don’t want to be pregnant it’s my responsibility to take action to make sure that doesn’t happen, same for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 06:48 AM
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Shit, where to even begin… men lie often to get laid, men leave their partners of years over sickness, men cheat and abandon the mothers of their children, men leave all the emotional/mental labor to women, blame all their problems on women; these are just some of the relationship related things. Men also rape more, murder more, lack general empathy tbh. Honestly this is all just tip of the iceberg and doesn’t even come close to the totality of the despicableness of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 06:44 AM
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Lmao it would definitely not only be negligent but stupid asf to not feel condom vs. no condom.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 06:33 AM
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Hahahah that’s funny. I’m not anti red pill, I think there’s a lot of truth to it. I just don’t think it’s a gendered trait, men and women act despicably all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 06:31 AM
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Idk if a man really cared he would take matters into his own hands. His own condoms he can confirm are untampered with or vasectomy. Sounds like a whole lot of negligence to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 06:19 AM
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Understood, which is why I responded in good faith. I do have some reservations about this hypothetical world: First, if we are able guarantee dates, what does that say about women’s autonomy? Further, even if we could guarantee these dates, I don’t think one date will necessarily solve the problem. A person could hypothetically go on 1000 dates, never find a LTR, and still feel lonely. Beyond that, in an “ideal society” (according to those men who believe the issue is external vs. internal) whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:46 AM
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Perhaps, but I feel like that would be a pretty deceptive message since no one can guarantee anything. What I’m really getting at is they won’t change their minds until they have decided they are ready to do that work, when/if that ever happens will vary widely from person to person.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:26 AM
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There is no POV direct/indirect that would change their minds if they have already decided they don’t want their minds changed. They have to actually want to solve the problem, they really don’t, they mostly just want to vent.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:13 AM
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This is saying it in a way that benefits them. It’s just not what they want to hear because it’s not the easy way out. The whole point is to illustrate their looks are not the issue and focusing solely on that is causing them more harm than good.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 11:37 PM
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I don’t think the problem itself is autism. That being said, yes I absolutely have had a bad experience with a man (just one) with autism who became very hyper focused on me. He constantly and consistently projected his thoughts onto me. He refused to accept any explicitly stated boundaries of mine and would go as far as arguing with me for weeks on end about how my feelings are wrong but whatever he wanted to do was right. I honestly just think his issue was never being told no. He used his aut…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 02:42 PM
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This is a weird level of dependency that makes me uncomfortable lol new relationship excitement doesn’t last like that and even if it did, that exciting person could very well break your heart at any moment leaving you worse off than you were before.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:20 PM
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Exactly, women are not hypergamous pretty much everyone is hypergamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 03:00 PM
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This post isn’t really referring to court imposed tests for child support though, generally if a court requires a test you have to do it regardless. OP is talking about a test for peace of mind which an Amazon test would satisfy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 02:51 PM
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Apart from the very obvious inability to read and mirror nonverbal cues, in my personal experience just talking to autistic guys is not a pleasant experience. Take this anecdote with a grain of salt of course, but in general I’ve noticed they tend to only want to talk about themselves and their interests. It comes off as really self-centered and rude, not the impression you want to make early in the dating phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:08 PM
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Are you talking exclusively in a romantic relationship sense? Obviously I very much like my SO but I’m sure you’d write that off as an “exception” anyways. I think my whole lot of male friends would disagree with this premise that I don’t like them at all though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:30 PM
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Some are, some are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 07:42 PM
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Yes I suppose that makes a lot of sense, as a woman I prefer to be with someone really good at sex, it’s pretty easy to find so I do not overlook flaws in that area.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 01:50 AM
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To the question on face, do I love them differently? No, idk what different even means in this context. Do I love them more? Yeah duh that’s why we’re actually dating/married. I feel like being inexperienced actually leads to loving them less, how do you know you’ve got the best when you literally haven’t experienced anything else? Sex and intimacy is probably the highest thing on my list when looking for a LTR, so yes, the men that end up in the LTR with me are absolutely top tier sexually. Non…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 01:41 AM
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Personally I’m against male circumcision (unless as a consenting adult) myself but oddly enough all the fathers I know were really for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 07:00 PM
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Idk what you mean by this, what part are you refuting?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:29 PM
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It’s just a word, technically two; the vast majority of which were created by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 11:08 AM
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No. Being able to (actually physically) articulate your feelings verbally strongly indicates having more emotional intelligence (EQ) than not; whereas being a “strong and silent” type really just means a whole lot of avoidance.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 11:03 AM
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EQ vs IQ. Some have both, some have neither. The ability to understand why someone may feel the way they do. Yourself and others. For the former, a sense of self awareness; for the later a sense of empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 10:53 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 11:11 PM
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That’s a good question and honestly I’m not so sure why. I suppose the numbers are there for women by far and by large doing better at college. I’m lucky and fortunate enough to have a masters degree and a well paying office job. Most men I know in my age bracket struggled with college if they even tried and did not end up graduating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:11 PM
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I mean I don’t think so but whatever u want I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 07:04 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 08:36 PM
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I really like your 4th and last points on education. I agree a lot of people mostly boys are missing out on key education necessary to facilitate happy healthy long lasting relationships. Not only due to social factors but not being able to do basic chores is becoming a real turn off for women in this day and age.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:53 PM
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I feel like a lot of men in the < 30 age bracket are just not financially stable yet. Even if they work “full time” they’re only making $15-$20/hour. I have found no shortage of kind attractive men but if my standards included being as financially stable as myself it would probably cut down that pool a whole 90%.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 05:31 PM
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Damn if being the bare minimum polite is so inauthentically you, no wonder you have a hard time dating lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 01:11 PM
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I think you’re conflating the term “nice guy” with actually nice people. There’s nothing wrong personality wise with guys who are nice, a “nice guy”, the meme, on the other hand is usually a guy who only pretends to be nice in hopes of getting laid. There is a whole sub dedicated to examples of this: r/niceguys
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:19 PM
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Yes, with the exception of medical necessity and/or fully consenting adults with penises choosing circumcision for themselves. What a disgusting barbaric practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 06:05 PM
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This is entire sub and many others is full of men complaining women’s standards are delusional. In fact, I see that complaint way more often than women dismissing men’s standards. Most women don’t want men that don’t want them back, the opposite is not true though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 11:52 AM
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No one is telling anyone to “be more realistic” it’s simply statistics. Similar to how most people will never be rich. Both men and women should be making better life choices but here we are. Men and women are both shit on for having statistically unlikely standards and it’s just a basic fact that both will probably not be fulfilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 11:41 AM
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The fact is no one wants to be held accountable for anything. Enjoy the decline.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 11:37 AM
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Life is upsetting yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 11:29 AM
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Men are just as fat and it takes two to make a child. Who’s calling for men to be held accountable lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 11:17 AM
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You can have whatever standards you want, as crazy and niche as you want. When you’re chasing after the top 3%, along with everyone else though, there’s bound to be a lot of losers and few winners bc that’s how limited resources work.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 11:14 AM
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He’s tone deaf as shit to what Vietnam is actually like lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 11:05 AM
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I’m also Vietnamese, do you mean green card marriage? That’s pretty common.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 11:24 PM
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Have you been to Vietnam??? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 11:13 PM
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Armenia literally has the highest percentage of women in the workforce at 52.76% and Vietnam ranks high up there at 48.48%. Is this in support of OP’s statement? https://www.qualtrics.com/blog/countries-ranked-by-female-workforce/
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:39 PM
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That’s a fair statement; most men and women are not actually wanted by the opposite sex. That would explain why so many relationships are so miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 03:41 PM
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I would hope they’re actually wanted but I’m not in anyone else’s relationship. Just like men blame women for picking poorly, it’s men’s fault of they’re in a relationship that “ruins their lives.” Women already approach first when they want. What OP suggests could happen if men stopped approaching, the onus is on them. You’re right, there’s no incentive for women to approach as long as men are constantly initiating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 03:39 PM
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Women make the first move with guys they actually want. Most guys just aren’t actually wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 04:05 AM
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Children existing to unmarried couples doesn’t really negate the fact that marriage mitigates certain risks. Marriages end all the time but it’s just one more obstacle vs. none to being financially abandoned.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:07 PM
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Idk mostly being told it’s what you’re supposed to do I guess. Also some biological drive I’m sure, I do agree it’s a poor choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:03 PM
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A lot of women still want to have children and being married mitigates risk when doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:39 PM
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No, not at all. That’s a chronically online thing, most men irl are very sweet and kind to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 03:52 PM
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I would rather be someone’s 100th wife that will buy me a designer hand bag than the only wife to a dude that can’t in said society though. Guys have it harder not easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 05:11 AM
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The average man will go to jail for tax evasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 08:28 PM
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I don’t think their stance is TRP is full of shit, just that there’s parts of it that are true and parts that are not. Which is fairly rooted in reality, nothing is completely black and white and there’s plenty of nuance in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 05:07 PM
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I be getting into so much trouble with my in laws bc he’ll use me as an excuse and when asked I have no idea what event they’re even talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 10:01 PM
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The reasons for this strategy I’ve heard from both men and women: Don’t want to seem easy (mostly women) Don’t want to get too attached too quickly (even split between men and women) That being said, my personal opinion for myself is that I like to figure out sexual compatibility ASAP.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:00 PM
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No, what in the actual fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:03 AM
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I think that’s kinda the whole point, self-care for the sake of “attracting the right partner” is kinda self-defeating right? The whole idea is you’re happy with yourself regardless of attracting the “right partner” or not. “Hitting the gym” or “looksmaxing” or whatever is just another form of simping, doing stuff to please others, in this case potential partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:31 AM
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I think there’s a certain level of insecurity that’s normal and acceptable vs. not. In this example, I think it’s perfectly valid to not be ok with your partner verbally putting you down in comparison to some stranger. The action itself is causing the insecurity. I saw a TikTok recently where a guy got very angry and verbally berated his partner because a game warden had driven by and smiled at her. That would be an example of insecurity that’s not acceptable. Neither party did anything abnormal…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 04:40 PM
1

All those statements are hypocritical including the one in question, but I don’t think hypocrisy is why an experienced man wanting an inexperienced woman is shamed. Rather it has to do with his intent, usually when an experienced man wants an inexperienced woman it’s out of malintent because he would rather be with someone who is not aware of any better than compete with her experiences. Such behavior comes from a place of insecurity, possessiveness, or jealousy with intent to deceive which is w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 08:44 PM
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Funny how they don’t even notice their partner has checked out for months… “blindsided” huh 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 09:54 PM
2

No because you still haven’t given one single example of a man approaching in a public social venue and being prosecuted for it… You gave two examples of men who were accused of sexual harassment, perhaps falsely, by women they have a prior relationship with. Neither proves the claim that approaching a stranger in public is “prosecutable.” In fact, your examples would lead me to believe that approaching in public would be the safer option than a private conversation in which no witnesses are pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 11:25 PM
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I’m confused, both of these examples are about rape/sexual assault allegations not merely approaching in a public setting? The comment you responded to was about flirting in social venues? I don’t see what workplace harassment has to do with it. Approaching at work is just unprofessional and inappropriate and should be prosecuted regardless of the existence of “harassment” or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 07:29 PM
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Please show me just 1 example of when a guy innocently approached a woman respectfully and was prosecuted for it. Just 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 06:04 PM
1

“Helpful” is not good. Helpful implies the woman holds the sole responsibility for whatever task and any effort from the man is above average. It’s not, it’s just the bare minimum. Most of those traits are.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:23 PM
1

There’s only two situations in which I wear makeup. When I’m in a wedding party, so I can fit in and look the same in the photos or for a festival which is purely for fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:59 PM
2

Not even just tightness, different textures. Some are bumpier, some are smoother. Bumps in different spots, etc. etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:40 PM
10

Cheating is 100% abusive in so far as that is what the relationship has agreed upon.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 03:28 AM
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Too busy just tryna pay my bills to give a shit tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 01:46 AM
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One that creates more unhappiness than happiness. Pretty simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 06:42 PM
1

None of those things mean jack shit to a woman who is already a whole person on their own… If you’re so unsure a person you are dating provides any benefit to you that you have to plainly ask, why date them anyways???
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 05:53 AM
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I mean honestly as far as looks go, it would be the same exact guy I would want to date but just happens to be incompatible for a relationship for whatever reason. It could be 100% just me not wanting a relationship at the time, different values, goals, hobbies, etc. If these women are sleeping with you but not wanting to pursue anything further, I don’t see any harm in just asking them why? Start there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 07:01 PM
4

Who is this “she”???? I already told you I’d rather date an actual criminal than anyone like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 12:26 AM
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Lmao “refusing to compromise on sex” aka expecting unfettered access to a woman’s body is 100% misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 12:19 AM
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I’d rather date a dude in prison than a misogynist.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 12:13 AM
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Idk when I met my bf on tinder his photos were all natural and displayed his fun outgoing personality. For example, one was of him at a club where they had this big cardboard GOT throne he was on, one was of him playing with some water guns, then there was a couple of him solo or with friends at raves. It’s not that hard, you’re just not fun and outgoing lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:28 PM
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Therapy does help even if the problem is “external”. In your example, OP could definitely benefit from learning how to deal with his anxiety regarding struggling to make rent instead of letting it drive him crazy and losing sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 05:00 PM
0

No, it’s a million times better.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 04:56 PM
5

I do think there is such a thing as masculine/feminine energy, that being said most people give off both at different times. Some men can be feminine, some women can be masculine. We’re all just people 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:38 PM
3

Mine’s just orchestra music and those ones with people trying all the different filters lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 10:25 PM
7

ratsdeserverespect 😤
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 04:47 PM
1

I don’t mind a househusband and much prefer it. You have to actually do the home stuff though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 12:35 AM
13

A lot of weird assumptions here tbh, fat guys are better at cooking?? Wat
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 08:28 PM
1

creepy - causing an unpleasant feeling of fear or unease. "the creepy feelings one often gets in a strange house" It literally can mean anything I don’t like.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 07:28 PM
0

Make it everybody’s problem then. Waiting 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:11 AM
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Yeah when the fuck did men give a shit about fat women? They fixed it themselves as well. Sorry if short men just aren’t good enough to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 02:23 AM
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Kinda. I think men are more likely to be emotionally immature and unable to process/handle emotions as well. Leading them to have a hard time processing small things like you mentioned. That doesn’t mean some men don’t experience significant trauma. It’s just that they have poor coping skills with big t or little t. I too know a guy who still isn’t over a friendship he lost seven years ago and won’t ever shut up about it lmao. The common theme I see is that men deal pretty poorly with rejection …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 10:50 AM
1

You start small and gauge reaction. Positive reactions = continue. Negative reactions = slow down. A hand touch -> a hand hold -> arm around her -> hug -> kiss -> make out -> cuddle -> fool around -> sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 09:45 PM
3

Women expecting men to provide some standard of lifestyle for the use of their wombs is not a new phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:47 PM
13

That’s why love is romanticized and seen as this special thing. It’s not easy to find someone with whom you share most interests and are compatible with relationship wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:02 AM
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This is why you should date and be friends with people whom you share similar interests with. Seems pretty obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:50 AM
7

Because that’s how humans work, they will not always be the perfect agreeable women you want so badly. AI can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:48 AM
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The only point OP makes is computer programs designed to appeal to men are more appealing to him. That makes perfect sense and no one refuted that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:38 AM
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I love how you have to backpedal on every single point in your own post because people don’t see that you liking a conversation with AI more than a real human is the gotcha you wanted it to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:35 AM
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All humans are self-serving to an extent, to expect otherwise is pretty naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:33 AM
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I understand he wants the takeaway to be “women suck and should be more like AI” but that’s the thing with people, they are not AI programmed to appeal to OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:08 AM
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You literally just told us the experience. You talked to the AI and liked it. As it was programmed to do surprise surprise.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:59 AM
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Sounds like I hit a nerve lol. It’s literally a bunch of code someone wrote with the objective of pleasing you and it did exactly that. It sounds like a well designed app tbh. Kudos to the programmers. The question you asked is what does that say about western women, well what it says is western women are people and not AI girlfriends programmed to please you. You know not all prostitutes have sex right? Some get paid to literally go on dates and just converse, just like your AI girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:55 AM
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Lmao even asking this question is such a fine example of how men do not see women as people but rather accessories to provide some kind of benefit to them. Women western or not are just people. Flawed with free will and varying wants and desires. An AI girlfriend is just that, a computer programmed specifically to appeal to lonely men seeking connection. It has no free will or desires outside of its primary objective of fulfilling that need for some men. It’s no different than paying a prostitut…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:46 AM
1

“Creepy” literally just means makes me feel unpleasant or uneasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 08:10 PM
5

“Pretty privilege” is a very known phenomenon yes, it’s illogical yes. Now what??
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:36 PM
23

This just in, attractive people are attractive wow!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 01:03 PM
3

A “standard” could literally be something inane as “should like chicken tenders” 35 is easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 07:01 AM
1

Yeah same, no one asks me “how I’m actually doing” or whatever, if I feel like complaining I do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:56 AM
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Most men I’ve met are partnered and will tell you “the second you stop trying it just happens.”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:29 AM
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Actually men leave their ill and disabled wives way more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:27 AM
6

Because people be on all kinds of different pages.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 04:33 PM
5

So not liking someone for literally who they are is shallow right?? Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 08:02 AM
1

Most just want sex duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 11:43 PM
1

Idk what there is to take seriously? I don’t wanna hang around some dude that provides no value to me, why would I want that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 11:17 PM
1

Is that a religion or something?? Why should I subscribe to your beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 09:35 AM
1

If you are not useful, why would anyone want you around?? Including yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:49 AM
2

Specialize in a thing for $$$ sure, but you still need to do these other things for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:47 AM
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You admit yourself it’s a sacrifice, people don’t want to sacrifice with no net benefit to themselves. Perfectly rational.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 11:26 AM
0

Rich people have no need for more money, this would be a slight push one way for non-rich people who otherwise would just not have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 11:26 AM
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Well it would seem like a lot of people are opting out of that 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 01:23 AM
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If it’s a big enough problem, the government may have to. I sure wouldn’t have kids for anything less.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 01:05 AM
1

Oh for sure I can agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 12:56 AM
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Right, I don’t see how these are “incentives” as much as just making having kids slightly less shitty of an experience. I’m sure people would be having tons of kids if you got $1mil each or something that’s actually a net benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 12:54 AM
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You want people to do a thing, you gotta incentivize them to do that thing. No rational person is going to do something with no net benefit to them. Makes perfect sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 11:57 PM
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What are the incentives??? I asked another commenter this to no avail… I can see why financial incentives don’t work if all they do is put you at the same baseline as just continuing to work without having kids. You have to somehow provide a net benefit not just break even for it to make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 11:51 PM
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China is just as capitalist as the U.S. if not more so. That just kinda proves the point that the whole goal is starving people. No starving people = no workers to make capitalists more money duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 11:35 PM
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Can you just keep having kids so the rest of us don’t have to??? Thanks for your service.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 11:31 PM
2

Right exactly, so why would we expect people to choose this when they could just not???
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 11:22 PM
5

I thought the whole point was that some people starve and some get to be really rich??
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 11:18 PM
12

Being poor is also a barrier to birth control or abortion so they have less choice tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 10:39 PM
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I mean can you blame them? It’s seems obvious to me, of course I would rather have a life of luxury than work hard to raise children.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 10:38 PM
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I personally don’t want to save the economy at all, I’m just saying from a practical standpoint though if having kids is a net loss, people won’t wanna do it duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 10:29 PM
0

Is that not the goal of capitalism??? I didn’t ask for it I was just born here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 10:28 PM
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That’s how economies work though??? They ebb and flow, it’s a cycle, it’s by design.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 10:27 PM
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What are the incentives? I feel like either way you’re looking at a lower quality of life for birthing children. You gotta somehow compensate even more than if you were just working a job to make up for all the extra work childcare is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 09:16 PM
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I don’t see why keeping the economy going is important, just let it collapse 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 09:13 PM
1

Personally, the first time I got married was for the tax reduction, to get our parents income off our FAFSA, and so we could put each other on our work insurances.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:18 PM
1

Oh lmao I though you meant like outside of the club like as I walking in/out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 02:49 AM
1

Usually 1 unless he’s specifically asking for my number or if I have a bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 02:48 AM
7

Mental illness. Anyone can have it, your neighbor, your coworker, maybe even your dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 04:34 PM
5

I just googled it but apparently it’s the opposite https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3864686/
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 12:34 PM
2

Oh god you have to get a job?!? Jesus Christ life is just so pitiful huh 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 09:56 PM
3

Because the far right backers (rich people) need lots of poor workers with no other choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:15 PM
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Yeah we do, she says “wonderful husband who NEVER pushes me” it’s right there in black & white.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 09:20 PM
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Yes, someone else that treats her better. What’s wrong with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:11 PM
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Promiscuous while we are dating? Hell no. Promiscuous at some point in time before we agreed to a monogamous relationship? Ya who cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 04:21 PM
1

Key point: “lock eyes” These guys have 0 social awareness.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 01:26 PM
1

Don’t state that as fact lmao, most of my friendships have been solid 10+ years and they ain’t going nowhere. Also super confused about the family bit, could be a culture thing, I’m Asian and you build your life around your family not moving away to ??? closer family??? Who???
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 01:14 PM
5

Deal with it so OP can get more pussy or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 12:55 PM
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Why would you wanna date someone initially repulsed by you??? Fr
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:44 AM
1

No I have friends and family, many of which are younger than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:14 AM
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The guys that do all this “giving” that’s unreciprocated aren’t real friends and just some pathetic loser we can’t get rid of due to wanting to not be rude/mean that keeps doing these unasked for things bc they are desperate for friends or a lot of the times a relationship w one or more of the girls in question. Real friendships are usually more equal in terms of give and take.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 09:04 PM
2

Idk I met my current bf of 3 years now on tinder, I am more in love w him than anyone ever. Love just finds a way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 12:18 PM
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Statistically speaking, relationship satisfaction is directly correlated w/ weight gain: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23477578/ So it’s actually the opposite. Men and women both gain weight as they feel more secure in their relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 03:37 PM
4

Yeah the second point of that article literally says the majority of the single ones aren’t even looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 03:30 PM
3

Statistically speaking how many people are even average???? Like 33%??? I’m thinking 33% average, 33% above, and 33% below. If 1/3 men are sexless, that would make sense as they are the 33% below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 03:27 PM
4

Yeah literally described my dear lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 07:48 AM
5

Fuckboys/deadbeats love themselves though. So yeah, kinda.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 07:39 PM
1

Are there large groups of people that hate people with autism or something?? I guess I’m just confused how this would be different from the status quo, I’d say most people I know are aware that autism is a disability.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 08:09 PM
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I mean are people unaware of autism right now? I’m just not understanding exactly what the “call to action” is?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 08:08 PM
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I’m just wondering exactly what you mean by being more tolerant and understanding and how that could help out in the dating environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 07:21 PM
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Are you suggesting that women should date autistic guys out of charity?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 04:45 PM
5

What about the flip side of this?? Do you think being extremely attractive could compensate for autism???
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 04:43 PM
1

They should stay away from black and white “pill” thinking, blue or red. Not necessarily dating in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 04:41 PM
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If so, it’s explained pretty badly, an autistic dude is gonna have a hard as hell time acting “alpha” or doing stuff like “negging” because they can’t read emotional cues or understand nuance very well. I don’t think either “pill” is great for them tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 04:39 PM
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Yes for the most part because I have a very specific type of guy I’m attracted to. Long hair, full beard, thick build. (Jason Momoa fits the description.) Now any average dude walking by that fits that description does turn my head usually, but most guys do not look like this. I also found that I may find a guy unattractive but a change in his look will easily change that. For example I do not usually find Brad Pitt attractive but The Lost City Brad Pitt 🤤. I have a hair fetish or something idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:58 PM
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I agree top comment’s described traits are a bit vague, I personally think masculinity has more to do with self-confidence and assuredness whereas femininity is more approval seeking and reliant. Neither being gender or sex exclusive though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 04:37 PM
2

Women can have masculine traits, just as men can have feminine traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 04:29 PM
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Honestly I believe that true masculinity is not being concerned with masculinity in the slightest. In other words, unwavering self-confidence. The most masculine men, do not ever seek to prove their masculinity, they just are.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 04:27 PM
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I have been the breadwinner in every single LTR. I don’t give a fuck. Make literally nothing for all I care. I own my own house and cars, buying my bf a new car soon bc his was totaled while parked, the only thing I need from a man is a good supportive partner I am attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 06:16 PM
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I think the only thing Jonah Hill did wrong was being stupid enough to think this woman would ever be able to follow his extensive list of boundaries. She was definitely being spiteful and in the wrong for the “exposing” part.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 10:25 PM
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Right, I agree it’s not abusive to just walk away. The problem is when people try to manipulate, coerce, or otherwise convince their partner that their boundary is valid. I have no problem with guys who just walk away from all women with any male friends, but to pursue a relationship with one of these women and then to continually push the matter as a “boundary” is abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 10:15 PM
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Making a clean break early on or before a relationship is ideal yes. Continuing to pursue a relationship and attempting to coerce your partner into following that “boundary” is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 10:11 PM
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It is not abusive to just walk away absolutely. It becomes abuse when you don’t walk away and continue shame your partner for “not respecting your boundaries” in attempts to coerce them into doing what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 10:09 PM
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Some “boundaries” are legitimately objectively wrong and abusive. It’s just abusers using “therapy language” to get their way, same with how most abusers just become more and better at being abusive through couple’s therapy because they learn how to conceal their abuse through healthier words. “I won’t date a women with any male friends” and “you’re not allowed to have any male friends” is abusive and wrong, regardless if it’s worded as a boundary or controlling.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 07:42 PM
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Damn bro it was just a question.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:47 PM
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Honestly this is the second time I’ve been called autistic so I guess I’m just fucking autistic and it’s all you guys complaining about women that are neurotypical I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:32 PM
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That’s the whole problem right? You can’t assume implicit non-verbal consent when you want something specific in return. That would be like if I just started sending boxes of trinkets to your house and then called you up asking where my $1000 is. You would rightfully be confused as you didn’t know payment was expected or even how much. Maybe you don’t have $1000, maybe you don’t think my trinkets are worth $1000, or maybe you just didn’t want any trinkets at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:54 AM
2

Transactional relationships require consent. I consent to give you x and in return you consent to give me y. The “nice guys” are already presuming consent to this agreement when they expect to be liked back, only to find out that the woman never knew or agreed to these terms in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 09:51 PM
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You’re conflating individual women’s standards with “good behavior.” Just because wanting x, y, and z done is a prerequisite for some women to want to have sex with you doesn’t mean that same woman is going to want to have sex with some other guy that also does x, y, and z. It also doesn’t explain why guys with “bad behavior” also get sex. That’s the crux of OP’s entire view, good or bad some guys get laid and some don’t. If a woman is basing whether or not they want to have sex with you purely …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 09:43 PM
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What do you even mean use sex as leverage? As in “give me a $1000 and I will have sex with you” ??
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:40 PM
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“expecting to be liked back because they were nice” is the “secret, transactional relationship” to which OP is referring. It has everything to do with consent because this hypothetical woman never agreed to like some guy back because he was nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:27 PM
1

I want my friends that I like to be successful in dating if they want to be, I don’t care very much about others, and can be tipped over to actively hoping they are not successful if they are bitter about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:11 PM
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This is literally what OP said with different words.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:55 PM
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Yeah but it’s normal in our friend/family group. We both have our close friends/family on Find My Friends and share locations at all times. Definitely comes in handy when we are waiting on each other for events and what not so we can track the status of that friend, also if one of us loses a phone or something, someone can always help out. I once left my phone in an Uber and my best friend had to send me the location so I could go grab it lol. I don’t understand this weird idea that your locatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 07:32 PM
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Lol I totally feel that w/ the friends sleeping in the guest bedroom/couch. A bit younger than you, I’m the only one in the group with their own house so everyone just stays here like it’s some kinda hotel.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 08:58 PM
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Yes, I have financially supported all of my LTRs. You just have to make it worth it for me, same as a man who chooses to financially support a woman I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:44 PM
7

Yes exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:33 PM
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I don’t care about salary, ambition, grind, or any of that dumb stuff. Be a real partner to me, cook, clean the house, make my life more pleasant somehow and none of that other shit matters. Most women look for money because guys are bad at domestic stuff so they think well that’s the best I can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:31 PM
10

I know a guy that claims to have PTSD from a coworker not wanting to be his friend lmao I really struggled so hard not to laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 11:56 AM
1

Is this supposed to be an insult? Isn’t autism why you guys claim to be so lonely and depressed anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 03:56 AM
1

No you’re just using the ice cream cone to do so which is unhealthy for sure. If the ice cream cone had feelings it would feel it’s an unfair expectation for one ice cream cone when the problem is massive. Literally just proving you see women as objects to make you happy magically vs. actual people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 03:46 AM
1

Huh what’s more childlike? Expecting your partner to manage your emotions? Or you know just handling them yourself like an actual self-sufficient being.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 03:38 AM
1

I’m probably of a lower socio economic class than you because most of my family doesn’t work normal 9-5 and pulls a lot of overtime, overnight, and weekend shifts. That being said I personally only socialize outside of work hours and have had to set hard boundaries on people trying to be my friend at work. Growing up my parents did not socialize much at all except for big parties a couple times a year. Now they do socialize pretty often (weekly) since they all have the kids gone and living their…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 08:40 PM
4

Being “demur” or “gentle” can definitely be taken advantage of, a lot of people can’t take “no” for an answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 08:34 PM
4

Yeah it just depends on what you define as “femininity” really. A lot of guys saying it’s “submissiveness” or “agreeableness” or “servitude” these things are incompatible with asserting boundaries yes. Being generally kind/warm and enjoying girly things like makeup and stuff is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 08:31 PM
1

Perhaps! Most of my friends and I are child free so not something I really take into consideration often. Although most of the family I have with kids are way more invested in working to provide for those kids than they are socializing with me. Which is totally good and fair!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 08:27 PM
1

Logic isn’t gendered lmao. It’s illogical for you expect one person or even a group of people to solve your problems when they are internal. If being lonely was such great drive why are guys on here always complaining about it?? Riddle me that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 07:52 PM
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No you’re just the one that sees women as some vessel for your reproductive needs vs. actual people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:51 PM
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Yeah it sounds like it….most people have jobs, hobbies, families, and even just chores they gotta do man.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:50 PM
2

You’re just replacing the word friends with community lol. It’s the same thing, a group of people who choose to work together, be together, etc. OP’s point here is if you’re struggling with loneliness and depression, you’re not going to find a relationship let alone a family. No one wants to be with someone they have to fix. We want fully developed people who are fine on their own that can actually choose and consent to a relationship. If you’re desperate, you don’t fit that bill.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 04:56 PM
-2

“Muh biology” is why no woman wants to be around you lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 04:52 PM
1

Literally word for word “one person can fix your loneliness.” Lmao but that’s fine keep moving your goal post I suppose. Man if you expect your children to fix your loneliness, you’re in for a bad time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 04:06 PM
1

No, he’s claiming all his friends “went their own way” and “have their own commitments.” Most normal well adjusted people do and guess what, they still have friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 03:52 PM
1

His wife is an absolute angel on earth and he himself agrees, no “dysfunction” here. Your comment said one person can fix your loneliness. I agree that having friends AND a partner will not fix you. That’s the problem. That’s what we’re discussing here. You can’t expect others to fix you for yourself. You can fill your life with a partner and 1000 friends and you’ll still be lonely and depressed if you are not happy with yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 03:51 PM
1

Yeah that’s what I’ve been working on with him. I also just saw my best friend for the first time is months and use that as an example of what a healthy adult friendship should look like for him. Honestly same, I’m busy as hell and so is my partner but we both make time to see our friends. We try to do a brunch every couple months or so and it’s a large group of us. It’s always a good time. I think the problem is how exactly you expect friends to “fix your depression.” If you’re sitting around w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 03:45 PM
2

What??? Gaming is extremely social. Most guys I know have their gaming group text with 10-15 guys that they game with. Not all at once, sometimes just one or two will join in but the purpose is to say “hey who can game” and everyone who can joins in. I guess my bf is gay as hell because he has a large group of male friends. They talk about everything including their relationships, feelings, goals. They visit each other, hug each other, we reach out to them to house sit or sometimes help with thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 03:39 PM
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Also extremely hard to get anyone to even agree to that…. Most people seek out a relationship to improve their lives not take care of some whiny suicidal guy. Partners male or female are supposed to bring joy and happiness to each other, this just sounds like unpaid therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 03:32 PM
-2

God that’s so gross, no wonder you don’t have friends lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 03:29 PM
2

I know a married dude in his 50s that’s an extreme introvert, yet is still lonely and depressed. Just having a partner doesn’t fix all your problems and you’ll end up like him thinking it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 03:25 PM
1

I do a holiday party every year where all out friends (partner’s and mine) get together and play games/other holiday stuff. No one has ever sat out, if you make a group chat and accommodate everyone’s schedule, it’s possible. When my friends travel back home, my home is where they stay. There’s also a phone, FaceTime your friends, Snapchat your friends, send them funny TikTok’s etc. Yeah we’re all busy but friends who love each other want to keep in touch.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 03:16 PM
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I think a lot these guys expect a lot…from a partner or a friend. I know a lonely dude in his 50s I’ve been trying to befriend, but goddamn he wants/needs A LOT. With my other friends, sending a snap, TikTok, or text once a week and maybe meeting up once every few months or so is sufficient but this guy has already told me once a month isn’t even enough. And he is MARRIED! He has a whole spouse of his own to go home to… I don’t know if it’s an age or generational thing or what but it seems these…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 03:09 PM
1

Why is this post presupposing women do this a lot??? I would never…. I’m thirsty as hell for my bf every single day.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 03:16 PM
3

What??? 99% of us are raised to believe this and the 1% that wasn’t probably just didn’t have parents. Every father teaches his daughter that men are dangerous animals to stay far the hell away from.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 03:12 PM
0

Yeah anything right of socialist is gonna be a hard no for me and rp guys aren’t left at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 11:48 PM
10

You can’t expect people to respond how you want them to respond ever. If you do something expecting a certain reaction/result, you will always likely be disappointed. You should only do what you want to do regardless of how you think others may react.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 08:53 PM
8

Personally I just hook up first and if it’s any good I’ll consider responding if you put in the effort. That’s how I ended up in a 3 year relationship now when I was just tryna chill man. If you’re dating intentionally, online isn’t really the right space. Unless it’s mormonsmeet.com or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 08:50 PM
2

No I definitely want to date a trained chimp, but see this proves your point. We’re all different.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 08:48 PM
2

Republican women are more likely to be content with not really being happy or satisfied but saying so because they think it’s their duty to do so, democratic women are just more honest because they don’t feel that sense of duty.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:16 PM
2

My husband actually died and no I love new bf very much if not more.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:22 PM
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Like ADHD, everyone claims to have autism these days but yeah most of them seem fine for the most part, have friends and normal lives like the rest of us. I do know autistic people who are so far on the spectrum they have to be institutionalized, but those types are not complaining about lack of sex lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:12 PM
1

Being unsuccessful doesn’t make someone a misogynist, blaming women for their lack of success is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 08:30 PM
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Idk my bf doesn’t even work out nearly that much, closer to 3 days/week and he has a godly body I would die for. I imagine guys can pretty easily get ripped working out 5 whole days.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 04:04 PM
3

I mean literally anyone that feels the need to criticize other’s appearances unprompted is obviously feeling inadequate in some kinda way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 05:51 PM
1

None of that has anything to do with whether or not preselection is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 01:07 PM
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People are as datable as there are people that want to date them…seems obvious. You may find most people undatable which is definitely within your right. If most people held your viewpoint there wouldn’t be much dating going on but alas here we are.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 10:51 PM
0

Yeah I think that’s true as well. So I guess you could say “pre-selection” happens for non-romantic relationships too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 05:37 PM
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Yeah in these weird “redpill” or whatever-pill transactional relationships that are always discussed here or something a lot of our parents and even more of our grandparents did. Nowadays most of us just date people we like being around.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 02:34 PM
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I think a part of it may be something like “well she likes him so there must be something good about him despite his looks.”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 02:29 PM
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Accountability for your sex drive??? See how that’s a you problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 07:27 PM
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Jealousy is not “desiring to possess attributes” it’s literally just being envious of someone’s achievements or advantages. Men are jealous of the perceived advantages they think women have. Again, OP didn’t say men want to be women, they just said men are jealous of women. You can be jealous of someone while simultaneously not wanting to be them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 02:43 PM
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You can be sick and tired of whatever you want and jealous at the same time. These are not mutually exclusive. You are envious of what you think is an easier life, jealousy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 02:41 PM
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The literal definition of jealousy is being envious of someone’s achievements or advantages. You can both feel it’s unjust and be jealous of the advantages women have that you don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 02:38 PM
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People are complex and honestly all different, my bf plays games and watches anime but he does way more work than me (at least for physical appearance reasons.) Some people are gross and don’t shower as much as they should for sure, I work with a woman that fucking stinks. It’s definitely not a gendered thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:44 AM
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Soooo….in short you are jealous of women because you think they have an easier life than you. Affirmative to OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:37 AM
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Uhmmmm isn’t resenting not having as many options just another word for jealousy? In short you are jealous you don’t have any many options an women, you wish you had those options but you don’t, therefore jealousy. OP didn’t say “men want to be women” just that men are jealous of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:35 AM
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My bf always goes on about how he’s so jealous that we constantly get compliments and affirmations when men usually get none on day to day. Something like 90% of men get flowers for the first time at their funeral, I’ve gotten too many to even count. It’s a different dynamic for sure, not saying bad or good but definitely something they are jealous of, the amount of desire and demand for us is just not there for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:30 AM
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Idk I go to a wax appointment once a month and most men I know have to shave every single day. I would say the average man does waaaay more work than me appearance wise. That being said I feel men literally don’t even know the meaning of emotional labor, let alone doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:19 AM
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No one’s demanding men approach, they’re just stating they are not approaching themselves so dudes should do it if they want. Passive inaction is not a demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 04:35 PM
2

No one’s demanding anything by literally doing nothing. In fact, I’m sure most of us want to be approached even less.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:43 PM
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Lmao so women are entitled for….literally doing nothing and men aren’t for feeling entitled to being approached, wild take
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 12:00 PM
1

Oh no not a sneer this is it boys
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 11:54 AM
3

I own my house and he moved in w me so I pay 100% of my mortgage. I love him, all is well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 12:18 PM
1

For me, most of my family just complaining to me about how much they hate their own partner (both ways usually) sometimes full out fights where they throw and break shit, screaming, punching holes in walls and doors, just generally acting unhinged.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 04:10 PM
0

Yeah same
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 02:27 PM
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Most people my age are not in relationships so most couples I know are family and they are all miserable, makes me wonder why the do it really. As far as I can gather they feel stuck bc kids or economic reasons. I was in an unhappy relationship before, he died but one thing I got out of it was I’d rather be alone than do any of that again.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 02:47 AM
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To be fair, it seems like most couples don’t really like each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 02:38 AM
2

I work with a bunch of “retired” women in their 70’s that get paid their full salary to come in and help us once a week or so. I imagine that’s not too bad so I stick around my job.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:00 PM
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Maybe she’s Martha Stewart and catches up with her bff Snoop on the weekends, who’s to say
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:56 PM
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While we’re not close in age and I’m in a relationship, I imagine her life looks a lot like mine. I woke up Sunday, made myself a matcha latte, sat down, did my taxes finally, put in my Nespresso order that I do every three months or so, looked for a breakfast sandwich, was out so went to a brunch/bar, ate a breakfast, my old friend in town finally woke up and hit me up, so picked them up, went for more drinks, took them to my place, sat on patio with more drinks, wait for my bf to get home from…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:51 PM
7

Honestly the thought hasn’t ever even crossed my mind. I guess it’s just a more masculine type of thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 02:53 AM
3

If that’s actually you, you’re well above average looking dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 12:07 AM
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Not like Andrew Tate loud and crass “masculine” more like calm Asian grandfather sitting in the arm chair masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 11:55 PM
2

Victim complex much? No one said anything about hate, take a chill pill bud
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:49 PM
4

Lmao I love how you prove top comment’s point 100%. You guys can’t differentiate between flirting and straight up raping someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 02:27 PM
1

That’s not true, no one wants to be with someone ugly, fat, poor, AND mean. Being a good person with a nice demeanor is absolutely important when you are not good looking and rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:14 PM
2

A lot of “red pill talking points” are literally just common sense, “rich guys do better,” duh no shit. “Women like attractive men,” none of these are the wild crazy revelations rpers make them out to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 03:59 PM
1

Not really, it’s pretty obvious that people will do anything for money with no regard for ethics. Sweatshops exist and so on and so forth.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 10:36 PM
1

Literally anyone will do better if they are rich and famous, could be the most stand up guy or a total piece of shit. All this proves is money = power. An obvious fact not even specific to red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 10:03 PM
2

Being a literal billionaire makes up for pretty much any deficit you could have. Looks, morality, talent, you name it. That’s like saying looks aren’t important, look at Elon! It’s irrelevant because 99% of the men trying to get anywhere with these comparisons will never have the wealth of Chris Brown or Elon Musk.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 10:00 PM
0

Idk what you mean “great lengths” I was merely describing them vs. normal men. Any further clarification to it was just a response to questions you asked. Everyone could definitely benefit from these men just not existing though, so I guess you could say that’s a social benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:36 PM
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They are bad. Is it necessarily important? Nah I didn’t say any of that. I suppose it could be important when giving advice to other women, I would say these are the men you need to avoid, but in this context, I’m merely just pointing out the obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:02 PM
1

I didn’t say not to, I don’t care. Just pointing out I don’t think it’s “helpful.” Like how giving heroin addicts heroin isn’t necessarily helpful, though it may be what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 08:54 PM
1

Per the above: The venn diagram of people who would buy these and people who currently cannot get laid and would buy a mail order bride are a circle. To spell it out even further for you, those who are unable to form any meaningful connections with women without having to leverage financial power are bad people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:46 PM
1

This poor response doesn’t even deserve any kind of meaningful engagement from me, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:42 PM
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Idk if it’ll help them as much as solidify their social deficits since it just removes any incentive for them to be any better.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:22 PM
4

Yeah most people do find fucking sex dolls weird and gross. It’s no different
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:21 PM
4

The same losers trying to buy mail order brides from overseas will just buy these instead. The rest of us will go on as normal, maybe buy some stock in the company.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:19 PM
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I don’t personally know anyone like this, I have no way of knowing if a dude sitting at Applebee’s is chronically single. I often eat by myself so I have no reason to judge him for that right off the bat. What I can say is I am intrinsically grossed out by is bitterness. When men seem bitter or like they have something to prove, ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 02:54 PM
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When women are inventors, entrepreneurs, etc etc. historically, most of their work has been stripped of their name and and replaced by either a real or fake man’s name. It wasn’t until recent history that women were even allowed to attempt any of these things. Your question is flawed on two levels, one you assume all children inherit the value system of their mothers. This is just obviously wrong, there’s countless of different factors that make people who they are outside of their mother’s or e…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 08:01 PM
1

Even workplace exploitation or poor mental health is the fault of masculinity itself. Women didn’t make men do all these things, men did, and then they go oh damn I’m so oppressed :( shoot yourself in the foot much?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 04:45 PM
0

I think the problem is, most of men’s gendered issues stem from the patriarchy or men themselves. Women can point to men for their problems but men have no one to blame but themselves so when you’re discussing men’s (very real) issues, unfortunately the only solution is for men themselves to make the change. We make it a point to celebrate women’s accomplishments as almost sort of reparations because they were so downplayed and sometimes outright hidden in the past. This has never happened to me…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 04:34 PM
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There’s nothing to watch out for if you’re actually going your own way tho, go on, bye bye 👋
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 04:24 PM
10

Ah yes the good ole men going their own way to then discuss women all day….
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 01:39 AM
0

Thank the good lord, check out and stay out for our sanity’s sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:15 PM
1

I mean that’s just how it is, nobody wants to be with someone desperate. Not even men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 01:05 AM
-4

My boyfriend says the hardest thing for men to grasp is that the harder they try, the more likely they are to fail. Successful men do not have to think of the above, men who are trying too hard do. It’s a very very difficult concept to grasp and tell yourself. You have to not want so badly what you want so badly to achieve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 03:41 PM
1

I really don’t care what men generally do. I would probably be a bit annoyed if my SO spent a bunch of extra time doing his makeup though as I don’t wear any and it would cause strain on us being on time for stuff but if he’s efficient and that’s not the case than more power to him!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 10:26 PM
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Not necessarily, I think women are just a lot more specific. For example, if you took a guy and showed him 10 women, he may find 8/10 attractive. If you took a woman and did the same, she may only find two attractive, but if you grabbed another woman and showed her the same 10 men, she may find a different two attractive. I find that my girlfriends and I all have vastly different tastes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 04:03 PM
2

It would make me feel really dumb for even getting so far into a relationship with such a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 06:18 PM
1

Sam, Tom is probably a weirdo.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 03:23 AM
0

Not really, I’ve noticed men just like anything that breathes and has boobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 06:39 PM
1

Looks are secondary to personality of course but high definition is a bit of a dealbreaker for me, out of those pics bearmode or builtfat, jacked guy is pushing it a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:34 PM
1

Both are stupid. There’s a lot of angst from men too for not getting sex or relationships or whatever the fuck. Both parties are entitled and dumb. The women getting upset about this are the same ones that think the sex is something they are “giving.” Gross and weird. Have sex if you want to and then it wouldn’t be an issue. Don’t have sex expecting x in return and being upset when it doesn’t happen. Same goes for men, be nice and polite because you want to, not because you expect sex in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 04:49 PM
7

The draft is not a feminist movement, men create their own problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 01:01 PM
0

Wait what dude, barking orders = can’t make decisions??? I think you have it backwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 03:13 PM
1

I don’t know if we crave the “strong, masculine, and dominant” as much as we crave the directness and emotional labor being taken off our plate. I am always so tired man, I don’t want to plan shit. So if you ask me if I wanna do something and then make me do all the answering planning and figuring it out, I don’t wanna do it. But if you say hey let’s do this at x time here, that makes it easy for me. Idk if it really has anything to do w Andrew Tate as much as just taking some initiative, someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 03:09 PM
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Where’d you pull that stat from? Your ass? Suicides per 100k: Lesotho - 72.4 Guyana - 40.3 Eswatini - 29.4 South Korea - 28.6 Kiribati - 28.3 Federated States of Micronesia - 28.2 Lithuania - 26.1 Suriname - 25.4 Russia - 25.1 South Africa - 23.5
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 12:23 AM
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Men projecting as always.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 12:21 AM
16

It’s just really simple, good relationship > single > shitty relationship. Most men —> shitty relationship. A relationship is preferable sure but only if you’re lucky enough to find a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 12:19 AM
3

Honestly just don’t. I’ve initiated every relationship I’ve been in, if I’m interested I’ll tell ya.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 02:55 AM
12

I have one! He’s gay
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 05:55 PM
15

Please don’t take it personally, it really has nothing to do with you or even your looks but a large chunk of men take smiling as an invitation and a majority of those men take offense to any rejection at all. Really I just wanna save my time and not engage.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 02:05 PM
1

It’s like an aquarium, sometimes water changes which is “cleaning” the water causes bacterial bloom. Vaginas have their own micro environment and ideal levels. Any discrepancies can cause yeast infections, bacterial infections, etc. That is why soap is literally not recommended anywhere near there because that’s literally how you get bacterial infections, killing off the beneficial bacteria.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 05:24 AM
1

That’s why I bring up family and coworkers as well, those are not people I voluntarily choose to know but they’re all still doing fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 09:48 PM
3

Honestly even men in my life who are not “good overall” do just fine with dating. All but literally one of my male coworkers (who is gay) are married or in LTR’s and all my male friends are either in relationships or have had success in the past. The only single one just broke off a relationship by his choice to join the military. My bf has 4 brothers, 3 of them are married. The one that isn’t just turned 18, so I hope he’s not thinking about marriage lol. Even my uncle who hasn’t been gainfully…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:35 PM
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My bf’s family always never fails to assume I am the one that makes plans and gets him to their events because vagina or something???? A ton of expectations are thrust onto women with no real logic or reasoning. He’s the one that has the job he needs to request off for in advance, I’m a professional who can take whatever days off I want. More mental and emotional labor is always expected of women regardless of who the breadwinner is. We missed quite a many events because I simply do not have the…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 04:08 PM
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He’s definitely not talking about the US bc we have zilch for maternity, childcare, or IVF support.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 03:18 PM
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TRP men don’t care about anyone but themselves is your short answer. Their mental gymnastics tell them if they can shame more women into having children they might have a better chance or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:13 PM
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It’s not reality because I’ve always had a partner if I wanted it and truly any men that cares is not one that I would wish on myself or any other women. It’s just great self filtering at that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 07:31 AM
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Most single women do not get welfare…. It’s single mothers. Welfare literally just picking up the slack for other loser men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 02:39 PM
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I wouldn’t say it’s a “benefit” as much as just a convenient way to get off in the moment. When I’m not in a relationship and I want sex that’s just how things shake out. Although, I still try to be somewhat selective and have never been with a guy that just 100% didn’t try or care for my getting off. I would say 90% of my experiences are positive with the 10% being me catching unreciprocated feelings lol but hey that’s how life be sometimes. I’ve also formed all my LTRs based on hookups so hone…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 03:28 PM
1

This why you guys need help. Like therapy. Not relationships. You are not happy with your own company, why would anyone be else be?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 05:44 PM
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Lmao I work so I can afford my rent, food, and gas like most people
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 03:29 PM
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My sexual enjoyment is based on a variety of different factors, one of those being how much stress I’m under because how clean my house is yes. Why would I love someone who expects me to do more work? What enjoyment do they have to provide me???? You’re presupposing all these things that a guy that expects a bangmaid would never have from me to begin with. I’m in a happy relationship w someone who does do their share and maybe more of mental and domestic labor. Short of that, I’d rather be alone…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:03 PM
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When I was w my late husband, I was absolutely miserable. Being single was 1000000x better and he only had to die for me to realize. I’m in another relationship now where he actually loves and cares for me. That is 1000000x better than when I was single. Being single is better than being in a shitty relationship, but being in a great relationship is better of course. Unfortunately, the majority of men are not equipped to actually love and care for someone. So the majority of relationships end up…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 02:51 PM
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Men that expect me to do more work than them are a turn off, therefore sex is bad. That adds no value to my life. Why do it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 02:40 PM
2

Why would I clean for two people when I could just clean for one and not have anyone whining for poor sex that doesn’t satisfy me? Choice seems pretty clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 02:18 PM
2

And their complete inability to pick up a broom or determine the dishes need doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 02:06 PM
1

I’m not denying there may be a subset of people who never leave their home, but rather saying it doesn’t seem like a pervasive issue. I work in a male dominated field, these dudes are all out here with families and relationships. They are not lonely. The majority of people don’t have these problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 06:59 PM
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Is this really a reality though??? I personally don’t even know any of these “lonely sexless” men. All my male friends are partnered up or single by choice, there’s only 3 of them. One just broke up with his gf to join the military, the other two are gay and feeling their hoe phase. Out of my bf’s 5 other siblings, all of them are married or engaged, 3 with children. Every man at my job is married, most with kids. I’ve met all their families. It just really doesn’t seem like a problem or big dea…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 03:11 PM
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There’s a study out there somewhere where they took a bunch of men and made them do girly things and afterwards those men chose to punch a wall vs. the men doing manly things. Moral of the story is men engage in violence to compensate for when they feel emasculated. This is a real thing yes. The solution though is not just give them whatever they want, the root cause of this is toxic masculinity. Men feel emasculated for essentially human things, like showing emotion or backing down from fights.…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 03:03 PM
1

I just crawled out of bed with my gorgeous boyfriend, gave him warm chest snuggles, bunches of kisses, and a little nibble as he sleepily giggled and cuddled me back. Really doesn’t feel like a war
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 02:58 PM
2

It sounds like you wanna date them bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 06:51 AM
1

This doesn’t even mention the fact that women have very little to gain from relationships anyhow. Most are more of a liability than anything. Our options are: be as we are now or be as we are now but with an extra job of taking care of a man. 🤡 The choice seems pretty clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 06:03 PM
1

This right here OP, this is exactly what we mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 12:28 PM
1

There’s a ton of older guys that cannot get a woman their own age, because they are losers. They have to rely on the fact that a younger woman is more likely to make worse decisions to even get someone to date them lmao. Most women over 30 mostly have learned they don’t want to parent their partner. Those under 30 will learn eventually as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 09:22 PM
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A lot. Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:25 PM
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I agree with this take, it only makes sense. I don’t know anyone irl that thinks this way, most of my guy friends (25ish) find younger women (21ish) not really relevant to them. Makes sense, they can barely drink ffs. The only example I can think of is a TikTok recently where the guy is just going off about how 30 yr old women would never enjoy his hobbies like playing video games for 9h straight. Even my young(er) guy friends aren’t out here glorifying that lifestyle. It’s kinda just something …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 03:52 PM
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I mean obviously not if studies show single women are happier, but you seem to want to ignore that whole deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 03:43 PM
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I have never needed or even wanted anything from these men. Hurry up and make the dolls already !!!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 04:28 PM
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The only stat relevant to the fetus that is even significantly larger at age 40 (not 30) is increased genetic abnormalities, at 1 out of 66, which is still pretty small. https://bloomlife.com/preg-u/geriatric-pregnancy/ At age 40, 98% of pregnancies are genetically normal. https://bloomlife.com/preg-u/benefits-of-amniocentesis-chorionic-villus-sampling/ As medical care advances, the odds are just getting better and better. Research has also shown better outcomes for children with delayed materna…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:55 PM
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Yeah I know a ton of women having children in their 30s, some even 40s. I can’t speak to how easy those pregnancies were but their kids all seem fine to me, health wise at least. Most of them are actually better off than kids with younger moms in terms of health care and education.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 04:40 PM
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I make more than most men my age and haven’t really noticed anyone not liking it. Most of them are happy to take care of my home for me and bring me a bit of peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 02:51 PM
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Lmao ironic you bring up entitlement when this post reeks of it. Maybe consider women don’t exist merely to live up to your standards of “wife material” maybe we all have different goals and things we wanna do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 02:35 PM
2

God if only that were true, men can be so thirsty
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 01:15 PM
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Isn’t that the whole point lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:33 AM
0

Middle class is +400k/year. There’s a ton of people below that with degrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:21 AM
1

Either most neighborhoods in the US are “rough” or this is straight up wrong because most people in the US can only read at 6th grade level.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:20 AM
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It demonstrates you can do something and stick with it for at least 4ish years.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:16 AM
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Yeah I get pretty peeved to even go a day without but I actually like and enjoy my SO. I do not like most men nor even find them close to sexually attractive. Tbh they’re lucky I’m not gagging.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 02:00 AM
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Serious dating is never good if the only thing you can bring to the table is money.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 08:55 PM
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It’s somewhere in that range for sure lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:12 AM
1

Unfortunately real desire is just one of those things money can’t buy, but that’s a part of what makes it so special right?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:06 AM
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What do we do for them??? There’s nothing to be done. There is no solution without literally just enslaving an entire gender as rape slaves. That’s why that’s their fantasy. How do we stop the occasional incel from doing whatever??? Short answer is we can’t. Similar to how we can’t force an entire gender of people to have sex with them on their whims. The only thing we can do is incarcerate those that do actually commit violent crimes. It’s not that I can’t empathize with their plight but there …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 10:15 PM
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Do in terms of what??? Why should I expect them to do anything??? Why do you guys always frame this like it’s some kind of death sentence? Some people are born poor and die poor, some people are born ugly and die ugly. Idk what you want from me or the rest of this world. It’s a cold hard place for all of us buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 01:24 PM
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Uhm no wtf that’s totally fine
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 03:11 AM
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Depending on who you are, a desk job could be a lot of effort for you vs. a bit of socializing/having sex. Probably an introvert vs. extrovert kinda deal. I’d rather die than even talk to someone I don’t want to but I can code monkey at my computer all day. Some people would rather die than sit at a computer all day so I get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 09:40 PM
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Yeah my bf also believes this weird theory that if sex wasn’t so shamed people would be having more of it…I on the other hand regardless of how much shame I feel or don’t feel will not be fucking any ugly men thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 09:35 PM
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No one runs around telling random men on the street who don’t get sex they are moral failures. 99% of the time it is said in response to a man complaining they cannot get sex. The entitlement of thinking you should have a right to access someone else’s body is the moral failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 10:18 PM
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I have nothing to add here. Total agreement. Capitalism is just slavery with some extra steps.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 08:06 PM
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Yes which why my point was in SUPPORT of your argument not against… People “choose” sex work for the same reason they “choose” to work at Amazon. They have no other choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 08:04 PM
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Have you seen the warehouse workers at Amazon?? Most of them are doing it willingly because it’s $15 an hour instead of $7.25. See how stupid this sounds? There is almost nothing that isn’t done under some level of duress in capitalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 02:39 PM
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I don’t mind any sex work I just worry these women are coerced vs. freely consenting. Millions of people work demeaning exploitive jobs they don’t want to work every day, why would that be different when it comes to sex work?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 02:33 PM
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Lmao femcel. Jealous of what? Having to pay for sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 01:40 PM
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If you want to equate that, you then also have to equate being a male with currency because males are more likely to be paid more. Existing privilege is not a currency. Pretty women and men still both have to do something with that privilege to gain something.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 04:09 PM
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Yes just as much as Amazon warehouse workers are being exploited…it’s not unique to sex work. There’s women in the US that don’t have to do sex work either, some are better off than others, that is in essence the whole problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:19 PM
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You just said it yourself “but they wouldn’t make nearly as much” the choice only goes as far as anyone has to choice to opt of of capitalism. Hint: no one has that choice. Everyone’s agency, man, woman, or child is limited in a system that forces you to work to sustain life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:02 PM
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If it was “for fun” she wouldn’t need the $6 now would she? It’s very obvious that is her only option to provide, which is why it’s wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 02:43 PM
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I mean this is pretty basic Kantian ethics, nothing new or innovative.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:01 AM
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Equating “let the woman die” and seeking out women to take advantage of in poorer nations is just about the same as trying to equate owning a sweatshop and “let the kid die.” No amount of mental gymnastics actually justifies what you’re trying to imply. Both are just scummy things to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 04:19 AM
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There’s a difference between not being immoral and taking immoral actions. Doing a good deed is a positive moral action, not doing anything is neutral, taking advantage of others in a worse situation is a moral wrong. It’s actually pretty simple. The suitor doing nothing is fine, neutral. The suitor seeking out people to take advantage of is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 04:09 AM
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That’s kinda the whole point right? People who can’t get sex without the threat of starvation or death are pathetic and scummy. The suitor also has to choice to freely donate without any expectation of sex to people in need but of course that’s not happening, because…they are a bad person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:55 AM
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People think both are scummy and always will regardless of what weird justifications you try to come up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:44 AM
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I wish. Which is proof they aren’t giving up enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:39 AM
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That’s like calling me a humanitarian if I go to Africa and feed starving children in exchange for working in a sweatshop for me. It’s taking unfair advantage which is a moral wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:37 AM
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It may not be literal force, it’s more coercion than anything. Do you wanna not be raped or be fed today? That’s pretty much the “choice” they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:17 AM
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It’s scummy because it’s exploitive at best. To say said women has every choice to not trade sex in exchange for 6 bucks is the same as saying someone in the US has a choice not to work. I mean sure technically “choice” exists, but when that choice is between doing something you don’t wanna do and getting a roof over your head or food in your mouth, the illusion of “choice” is much less.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:15 AM
2

We don’t have any but we are great aunt/uncle :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 07:18 PM
2

I cannot recall a single time my man has told me “no” the unconditional support goes both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 03:53 PM
1

Yeah absolutely he makes less than half what I make now anyhow but he enjoys his job unlike me lmao 25, it’ll be two years next week!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 03:51 PM
1

I mean marriage doesn’t necessarily prevent single motherhood, it can mitigate single motherhood and poverty though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:59 PM
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This. It really doesn’t matter, y’all can sit around theorizing all day for years. Just be hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:02 PM
1

I think marriage was good for kids back when women didn’t have any money or assets of their own, so they had a backup in case something went awry. Now doesn’t matter all too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 01:50 PM
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There’s an infinite number of ways you can attempt to make someone like you… Under that reasoning literally anything could be trying to “buy affection.” A random compliment, listening, doing a favor, giving a ride, taking out for drinks, and so on and so forth. Wanting someone to like you and doing nice stuff for them to achieve that end is not inherently manipulative.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 05:12 PM
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Wanting someone to like you is not the same as expecting sex in return for gifts/dinner though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 05:06 PM
1

Are you buying everyone expensive food and flowers though???
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 05:06 PM
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Really??? We spend “so much” money on nice cars/vacations/clothing, none of that stuff are needs yet people buy them because…they want to. Not need to obviously. I’m not comparing women to the Ferrari, I’m comparing expensive food and flowers. People spend money on stuff they want but don’t need all the time, what is this nonsense??!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 05:04 PM
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Is that not what I just said ???
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 04:59 PM
1

Why would you want someone to like you whom you don’t already like???
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 03:26 PM
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Maybe because you like them??? Want to give them nice things?? Want to see them be happy??? I’m so confused about this line of logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 02:43 PM
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Wanting food and flowers somehow suggests you need a partner????? That doesn’t even make any sense. Like I want a Ferrari but I don’t need one, and wanting it doesn’t equate to needing it…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 02:41 PM
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I agree that approach is by far the best and easiest you can do, nearly all of my relationships began as friendships and maybe fwbs. Literally zero of them started off as us intending to date each other. I’m not saying that doesn’t ever happen but if you’re gonna take bets I would bet on friendship first vs. approaching people as potential partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 08:39 PM
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An honest answer to your question? Nowhere. Women generally do not like or want to get approached. At least me and my friends, since guys like to sit up here and argue so much. If we want a relationship, we either go online and pick out the ones we want or we get a friend/family member to introduce us to someone they have already vetted. Advice? Make friends. All of my friend groups are mixed. It’s not groups of guys and girls. We intermingle. Most partners are chosen from these groups. Five cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 08:28 PM
1

Lol stay angry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 08:13 PM
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Yawn, lmao you think you can make feel bad over hiding checks notes hooking up with girls sometimes? I don’t hide anything, my parents are very aware of all the traveling I do, festivals I attend, and I think they have a pretty good idea of what my life looks like. Do I feel the need to explicitly detail my sex life to them? No that’s weird. If they asked me? Sure I’d tell them, they don’t ask because likely…they don’t care. My parents are happy I have a good career and own a house, that’s all t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 07:57 PM
1

It wasn’t even advice or a lecture, merely an answer to why women don’t hang around straight bars. My 25 yr single female friends are the exact demographic they want, you just won’t admit it because you wanna feel superior or whatever. Who cares, be alone then.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 07:46 PM
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I mean it’s just so funny, you guys always ask the question and it always ends with “well I don’t wanna date YOU anyways.” stomps off That’s fine, please go your own ways already.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 07:21 PM
2

Unfortunately a great lot of them already have kids, lame to me for sure but they seem to enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:59 PM
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Huh, I don’t know actually but I doubt they’d care. They gave up on controlling me a long time ago lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:49 PM
2

That’s fine with them, because none of them care or are dying to be in a relationship. Unlike the guys on here who can’t seem to find girls anywhere. Hint: they are avoiding you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:39 PM
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I don’t mind being called not straight lmao, no justifying is being done bc no one cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:38 PM
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I’m actually an accounting/info systems major! Haha. We actually hired recently and during the interview stage I actually picked men over women, because I thought they (those men specifically) were more competent. I don’t think this is true at all in my experience, I actually work next to one of closest friends who is also a male. We talk regularly and I definitely don’t feel “cutoff” if he’s in the room. I think this type of situation would make more sense in marketing or sales where interperso…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:52 PM
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There’s a difference between being a self-assured confident person than boasting or showing off. In fact, boasting is usually a sign of lack of confidence, trying to make up for what you lack in other ways. Self-assured confident guy: I want to go on a date with you, do you want to date too? Boasting guy: Look at my pile of cash, don’t you wanna date me sweetheart? Not confident guy: crickets You see?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:46 PM
4

Again, the point is my single straight friends also hang out in my vicinity, which is not the straight bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:34 PM
1

God I can’t remember the exact moment now it was over a year ago at this point but I had asked him something about it and he seemed really confused, so I asked some follow up questions and introduced him to some of the theories. I guess he could be lying sure but it’s more likely he just never came across it. He was familiar with some of the idea and beliefs, but just had not heard the words “redpill” or “incel.”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:32 PM
2

I’ve always brought all my hookups home to boyfriend for fun group times. Slap me with whatever labels you want but I’ve only dated people with penises. That doesn’t mean I’m not up for a good time with anyone else. That’s just close minded.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:28 PM
0

Many of my friends including myself are straight. We frequent the gay bar, we avoid the other ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:23 PM
6

I regularly bathe in pools of semen to ward off seasonal depression
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:20 PM
1

I too find myself less depressed when I’m cumming regularly. Wow wild
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:19 PM
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My point was, us women are there not at your straight bars.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:17 PM
1

I don’t know about other women but I never go out by myself, and I never go out with the intention of meeting someone. I don’t think it’s mathematically distorted, it’s just that women don’t hang around places to be approached. In fact, we typically try to avoid that. I go clubbing all the time, with a group of at least 6 friends and anyone who approaches us unwanted will be obviously unwelcome. 9/10 we go to gay clubs, bc straight men? Gross. That being said, I have hooked up with a few girls o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:00 PM
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I would say attractiveness gets you in the door, all the other stuff depends on personal preference. Why do I make these assumptions? I have dated these guys, my mom has dated these guys, my grandma dated these guys, my best friend, my friends my peers. We talk. There may be a gem or two out there sure, and I’m sure things get more equitable when you are both high earners but by far those men always expect a higher level of emotional/mental labor from the woman. Even if they “split chores evenly…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 04:09 PM
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I mean, I have a boring white collar job, own my house, have no student debt etc. but I still screen the exact same way….when I was on the market for a little while I just got tinder gold and then picked who I thought was the hottest out of my 100s of “likes.” You’re right, I don’t really care about job status and money because I have all that. What I need is someone visually, sexually and emotionally pleasing. My bf makes less than I but he also works less, meaning he does the majority of laund…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 03:42 PM
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I think this is obvious, even if we assume rp is 100% correct, raw confidence, that “manly man” composure is not something you can fake. My bf had never even heard of this “redpill” or even incels before I introduced him to the idea, most confident dudes haven’t and don’t sit around analyzing their every move.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 03:28 PM
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Just think about it, you could not be around and it’s likely your wife would have accomplished all that on her own, without her you would likely have accomplished very little. The only thing men were at one point better at is providing, which as you said, she could do herself. All that household, executive, and mental labor she does for you? Gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 02:51 PM
1

Yea bc for women to be successful they have to work twice as hard as any men, hence the saying. Few men get anywhere themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:01 AM
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I don’t even want support I just want leave, so you know I could see them…. But also feed them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:35 PM
6

Hmm I’m poor and definitely will not be having children, my friends too
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 05:32 PM
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Supporting them would probably help. Most people don’t have kids bc poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 04:59 PM
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Bc usually you can’t afford to feed or parent that many children.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 04:58 PM
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Wow you’ve really stumped me here, I’m not sure what you even mean by work on business together. While I do have friends in my chosen field, both male and female, we tend to avoid discussing work as much as possible. If work does come up we’re usually just complaining or venting vs. actually accomplishing anything. As far as sharing goals, some of us share some specific career related goals, and the majority of us share more broad generic ones (like having a nice house, car etc.) The majority of…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:35 PM
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Yeah and if that’s all I knew about him, I probably wouldn’t wanna date him but OP said all this other stuff like he loves his kids, is funny, charismatic which are great traits that make up for being poor and having kids imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 12:52 AM
2

I think that part’s just an unintended consequence of the mindset above lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:29 PM
1

I mean sure, to an extent, but you can make up for that in a lot of ways. I’d rather date a poor doting boyfriend than a rich asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:28 PM
1

We enjoy each other’s company when we spend time together. I cannot think of differences between a opposite gender friendship and a same gender one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:26 PM
1

And I answered you precisely? I have more than 1 singular male friend, the reason could differ depending on the one. Why are you assuming they’d ask me out anyways? I have some male friends who happen to be gay so I think I’m just not what they’re looking for. I’m also happily in a relationship with someone whom I don’t think any of them stack up to.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:53 PM
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They are my friends. Not being interested in dating can depend on a lot of different factors, differences in age, life stage, lifestyle, values, hobbies, and even just lack of sexual chemistry/attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 04:50 PM
4

Ugh don’t even get me started on black women they all look at least 10 years younger than they should lol. It’s all that moisturizing y’all do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 03:30 PM
2

Ok I agree, I think these things can be important too. I also think these things can go hand in hand with friendship, I have male friends whom I have no intention of dating nor do they intend to date me but they are still masculine and protective. Similar to an uncle or older brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 03:27 PM
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A stranger who I am only attracted to and do not like that I have sex with is a hook up, a person who I do like and enjoy spending time with and have sex with is a fwb. I think you’re just conflating what a fwb is… Attraction and friendship is not the same thing sure but they can definitely coexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 03:24 PM
2

No I have a best friend whom I enjoy spending time with, great sex is just a bonus.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 03:19 PM
4

This is so vague like I’m not even sure what you are talking about. What specific traits are you referring to when you say “never make her feel like a woman should feel?”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 03:16 PM
2

It seemed like you were trying to say fwb are chosen for attractiveness only and not friendship. Friendship =/= attraction this is true, fwb is when both friendship and attraction collide.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 03:14 PM
3

I think people say “hobbies” as a collection of lifestyle/values. Like for example someone who likes to travel a lot might say traveling is their “hobby” would likely not be very compatible with someone who is a bit of a homebody. It’s about enjoying your partner and doing enjoyable things with them. If you don’t have that, you just have a roommate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 03:08 PM
2

I didn’t even notice, thank you!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 03:03 PM
2

Ah yes but having a bang maid is 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 03:01 PM
3

Yeah same here. Idk what they are talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 02:59 PM
6

There might be friends who can’t be romantic partners, but there should never be romantic partners that can’t be friends. That’s just using someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 02:57 PM
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Or a servant really. Just a means to an end, usually that end is kids and chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 02:53 PM
4

I really don’t take care of myself at all just Asian I guess lmao. (Which is a dumb stereotype bc my white friends look the same for the most part) I do hope you take care of yourself well and keep it up too ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 02:18 PM
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Yeah I feel like I haven’t aged a day since high school so I highly doubt another few years is gonna drastically change me lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 02:04 PM
4

He loves his kids? Is funny? OP gave the dude every redeeming quality possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 01:56 PM
1

Obviously the second one. You describe him as literally perfect other than poor?? I have my own money I’ll buy his kids some presents.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 01:54 PM
1

Idk about “emotional support” or “romantic possibilities” nothing about it is supportive or romantic lmao. The problem w this is when they take it out on women bc I did nothing nor did I ever ask for this attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 04:22 AM
6

I’ve definitely heard it some states, they throw you in jail if you can’t make your cs payments. It’s messed up and I’m not for it but that’s what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 01:58 PM
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Just every time I post a photo on Instagram or something. Half are just old dudes who have admitted to me they couldn’t get it up if they tried, they just wanna flirt. So whatevs. I do have a handful of guys that are utterly in love w me that I can call on at any moment. I’m under no assumption that I’m their only one, but they always been there for me when I end up single again.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 01:44 PM
1

Just because you can make an analogy doesn’t mean it’s a good one or that it necessarily has any meaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 12:23 AM
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It’s the very last measure one would take to not have a child sure? Not that I don’t use other contraceptives, abortion is more costly/time consuming then the other options that’s for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 12:14 AM
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I’m personally not worried bc I have the time and money to travel to another state if need be, but I have friends who have been to anxious to enjoy sex so they’ve been a bit less receptive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 11:25 PM
3

In my relationships, men have always deferred to my judgement. I have and will probably always make more than my partners though. I also own my house so they are usually living in it. I’m nurturing as hell, just make better decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 10:48 PM
0

🥱 ok whatever dude
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 11:55 PM
2

What is the revenge though??? Refusing sex to someone who didn’t want to sleep with you anyways?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 11:54 PM
1

That’s exactly my point though. There are no consequences because no one could ever even know what your count is unless you tell them. But honestly, when asked I’ve never lied and there have been no “consequences” involved with that either.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 11:53 PM
0

Wow I’m convinced.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:14 PM
3

No one’s insisting anything, just pointing out its manufactured disappointment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:13 PM
2

I just saw a comment where their justification was “we want a larger pool for LTR” lmao. This “wisdom” doesn’t work because guys think women are just all NPCs that should solely focus on being the perfect potential partner for them. We don’t have our own thoughts, goals, or desires. Of course not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 03:05 PM
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Or you could re-evaluate your values because they are dumb and useless. It’s only a problem if you make it one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 02:44 PM
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This is a big one. These idiots think that “innocent girl” who has never touched a man before will just blindly trust they are the best??? Nah man, that builds resentment and curiosity will get the best of her eventually. When you’ve slept/dated around, you can actually know what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 02:36 PM
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They keep talking about these “consequences.” They are completely nonexistent, I have never had any trouble finding a relationship or even just something casual. Hell the last thing I wanted was a relationship and somehow ended up in one only two months after my late husband died. People meet and fall in love, no one cares. The only men that seem to care aren’t getting any anyhow.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 02:33 PM
1

I’m not sure the cost of the tattoo/removal and potential for negative impacts on your career really compares to the potential cost of gaining a few pounds but I guess that’s a closer example. A superior one would just be the reverse where the guy gets fat??? If she’s superficial she’ll leave him too. Literally the exact same test, I mean this isn’t rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 08:22 AM
2

That comparison makes no sense because being fat or not (to an extent) is purely superficial while being unemployed has both financial and mental implications.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:53 AM
2

Now this, unfortunately has happened to me more than I’d like to admit….
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 02:26 PM
7

If a guy can’t make me cum, which is fine it happens (especially when I be drinking too much) he usually finishes me off with his mouth 🤷🏻‍♀️ not an issue for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 02:25 PM
1

Yeah man idk I’ve had some “casual” experiences I wouldn’t give up for the world. Some things just aren’t worth living without for some kind of clout like “not being a hoe.” Mostly group sex. There’s nothing I like more than being pleasured by more than 1 person. I will say it’s not usually random strangers but rather friends I actually hang out and party with.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 02:23 PM
2

How are men always risk takers and leaders???? Because you asked someone out on a date once ??? Wow what crazy risk taking 🤪 Ime every single man I’ve ever been with has a been a clueless sack that needs me to remind him brush his teeth or something simple. Every man needs training like a literal dog. I moved out at 18, no one had to tell me to do laundry or the dishes I just did it. Granted some men definitely learn better than others not a single one is a leader.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 02:28 PM
3

Ime that still has a lot of thrusting involved…but ok since you seem so adamant about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 12:05 AM
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Substantial groping happened in public all the time so that’s a given. I didn’t even mean an actual erection though, like how can you thrust when you can’t make it three feet without wheezing???
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:06 PM
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Maybe but tbh I don’t think any of those guys physically could if they wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 07:19 PM
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I actually worked somewhere where a lot of the girls were sugar babies and regularly had multiple sugar daddies. Twin Peaks so makes sense. Sex wasn’t even involved 80% of the time. You just hang around them and their friends, mostly golfing trips, and drink in return for an allowance. Usually a couple hundred but I’ve seen girls get up to a thousand or two a month. Most of these girls are now married with families of their own. It’s a temporary side gig, not really a lifestyle. Me personally, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:50 PM
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I would if I could but I just come home and everything’s done. He argues that if things are already done that means we can maximize our free time together vs. me having to do stuff when I get home. I have no reason to argue with this reasoning, I too enjoy spending the maximum amount of time w my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:26 PM
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My partner is a man and I agree with you, my only point was it’s weird to me that anyone would sit around if they have the free time while their partner is doing chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:20 PM
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In your (hypothetical) situation I’d feel like I’d be bored. I usually help my partner w chores if I see them doing them while I’m home. I actually enjoy spending time with them though. Why would I wanna sit and watch TV when I could be with my partner folding clothes/doing some dishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:35 PM
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The issue is people who think like this see relationships as purely transactional. They do not understand the intricacies of loving someone and doing stuff for them with no expectation of some kind of “return.” They have no baseline and don’t know unconditional love. It’s like you’re speaking a foreign language they haven’t learned.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:05 PM
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And this is why we know we are better off single. Why be tied to a man who thinks you’re a housemaid? 🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:02 PM
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Hard wrong, I sit at a desk all day browsing Reddit making 2x my bf working on his feet in a hospital. He a big tough dude apparently tho bc he still does all the chores for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:55 PM
1

No relationships are not worth pursuing. Stop trying thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:53 PM
3

My friends are all gay, I have no skin in this. Just here to gawk really It’s like a bad accident on the highway, we all gotta take a look
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 01:32 PM
1

Lol women really don’t care that much about the handful of men that are either traditionalist or just somewhat dumb and hypocritical that think high n counts are bad. Most of them are bad or inexperienced with sex and poor partners as well. My loving boyfriend is an exception not a rule, if anything it just highlights what poor choices those other men are for partners. I’ve never even kept track of my n count or been asked, but I probably don’t associate myself with those kinds of men anyways. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 01:25 PM
3

I have a masters degree, you know how much I value it? Zero. None. It’s a literally just a piece of paper so I can make it by in some weird monopoly game I was forced into. Having a degree =/= valuing it. I’m very happy for anyone who is able to make a living without it. That’s too much work for me, I wanted the easy route.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:16 PM
3

Same, I have my masters but that’s not a requirement for dating me ???? Frankly I don’t care whether you bag groceries or launch rocket ships like just don’t be a dick?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:14 PM
7

It’s the same old conclusion we always come to. Men are desperate for women and we really couldn’t care less.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:38 PM
10

They are projecting because they would want to be with someone they don’t even like.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 12:32 PM
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You’re getting your goals confused with other mens’. You might want to be in a relationship with an actual person that has feelings and thoughts and that’s awesome for you! But the men you are talking about really just want a bang maid. They want to get laid, maybe have children, and have a woman to do their cooking and cleaning. They do not want a person with feelings and thoughts. So it’s really no wonder that they can’t find anyone, no woman (or at least very few) want to be treated that way …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:49 PM
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We all know it just comes down to jealousy. That’s why it only matters if it’s more than them too. Pure anger that someone else got something you didn’t. When it comes down to it, as a woman high n count or not, you can get whatever you want whenever you want. So who cares what these losers think anyways. It’s just another incel sub we make fun of.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 07:34 PM
1

It’s not that sexual biology changes, it’s that you find someone capable of satisfying you all the time. You sleep with the hundred until you find the one. That’s how it works. If require sex at least 3 times a week, it doesn’t matter if that’s with one guy or three as long as I’m getting it. Marriage isn’t even required, people choose to be in monogamous relationships as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 07:21 PM
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Yeah that would make sense since standards are subjective and everyone sets their own unique set of requirements.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 05:12 PM
2

I don’t see why I have to lie either?? Like if they ask I’m more than forthcoming but just blurting out “I’ve had sex with 1000 people” would be weird behavior for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 05:10 PM
2

Every man in my life with the exception of some of my gay besties and actual family have made sexual and/or romantic advances towards me at least once. I do not think I am particularly attractive or unattractive, probably average at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 05:08 PM
2

Lower my standards? Lmao I’d rather die than date someone I don’t find an absolute catch. Yes was married for a good five years but he died so now with someone new. The point is I’ve never even met a guy that didn’t want me. Like that is not a thing. And what is with you people and being obsessed w being in a relationship? I’d rather be alone than settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 02:15 PM
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The consequences are cumming too much lmao. Nah you hit the nail on the head, I would never want to be w someone who cared how many people I’ve slept w anyhow. What’s odd to me is this obsession with it when I personally have never had any issues getting laid or a relationship whenever I want. It seems to me there’s normal men and then the weirdos on here, it’s two entirely different classes of people who experience the world in an entirely different way. In my experience most of the men I’ve be…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:28 PM
0

That doesn’t even work, they still hang around begging you to “give them a chance” or ask if you “changed your mind yet”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 01:55 PM
1

Maybe he means how women are not allowed to display anger or frustration at all or they are considered “crazy,” “unreasonable,” or “hysterical.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:20 PM
1

Really? Because it seems the later is the only thing they want, sans the crying. It’s usually a more violent display of anger instead of sad display of frustration. That being said I don’t think this behavior is unique to men, women like to cry for validation at times as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:14 PM
1

On the other side of that, if you have a high count it means you’ve got a lot of experience but you’re choosing that person as opposed to not knowing what’s out there and settling for the first one that comes your way. You can make claims all day long but at the end of the day my partner and I are happy knowing we chose each other when we both have a plethora of choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 02:46 PM
3

I’ve definitely had friends that would hook up with older men for money and gifts but in general those men were even over 30, closer to 60. I’ve never been able to do it myself but I’m pretty bad at acting like I like people. It takes a special kind of girl I think to be able to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 10:13 PM
4

Yeah as a woman I find a lot of women attractive and beautiful but few men, but of those men I prefer them over the women if that makes sense. Idk why that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 04:03 PM
1

The market is the market, men tend to want women more than women want men so that’s how it goes. Any “logic” or reasoning anyone can come up with doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 03:58 PM
10

I literally just said, they all have jobs as well but still do 99% of work in the home.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:45 PM
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Honestly I don’t know a single American women with kids that’s truly happy other than my own mom but I am an adult now and only child so I’m sure that makes it easier. They were quite miserable when I was around. We are from a bit of a different culture so my dad actually does the majority of housework but most women I know with men are saddled with working, all the admin, and all the housework. The juice just isn’t worth the squeeze.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:34 PM
0

Neither is ideal of course, but kids with single fathers tend to do better than those with single mothers. But like I said, there’s selection bias there for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 12:08 PM
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I’ve never considered income or physical attractiveness but I definitely feel like dating assholes lessens your worth, at least in my eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:37 AM
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I think single dads only tend to be better single parents because they choose to do so, women who are single moms rarely (although it happens) choose to be single and always end up saddled with the kids anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:32 AM
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“Misery loves company” you’ve hit the head on the nail here, “crabs in a bucket” is another apt analogy. Essentially getting better outcomes is really hard and it’s much easier to want/cause others’ suffering then it is to confront any shortcomings of your own. It’s also why these men are so focused on looks, something they don’t have much power over changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:43 PM
0

Honestly I really love me a good golden retriever boy, but they are friendly, loyal, and ready to please not some weird rude abused dog attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:37 PM
14

Right “belief” is very loose here, my friends and I all read horoscopes for a good chuckle but have any of us actually made full on life decisions due to them?? Obv not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:31 PM
15

Well it’s both, they really are super bitter and jealous so they hate anyone that gets laid whether that be Chad or Stacy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:29 PM
2

Well yeah have you noticed all these rejects somehow have the most bitter attitudes, do their own moms even like them ???
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:27 PM
1

You say that but there’s a lot of anti-feminist men that want to date me, that could be said for pretty much any group of guys though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:22 PM
2

Myself and the majority of my past partners identify as “feminist” because I go out of my way to choose not to associate with people who are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 11:24 PM
3

Low birth rates don’t necessarily mean people aren’t having sex either, I have plenty and never had a child. Same between most of my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:48 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 02:00 PM
5

No, not at all really, I was married for 6 years before he died and now close to 2 years in another relationship. Haven’t felt the urge to cheat or get bored or anything and I rarely compare or even think about past partners, it just doesn’t really cross my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:50 PM
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“nice guy” is literally a meme about men proclaiming to be nice while frothing at the mouth calling you a disgusting whore and saying he didn’t want you anyways after you just rejected his advances, like there’s a whole sub about it wtf are you going on about
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:46 PM
1

Ohhh I see thank you, how many lbs or kilos is 1 stone ?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 02:17 PM
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Really I was sleeping w like 5 different guys and one night I was real drunk but had my car, we were texting pretty frequently and I was just complaining that I’d had to leave my car and come back to get it. He said Aw don’t worry about it, got dropped off and took me home. OH, you mean ON the dating app??? If so, I just swipe right on anyone I think is hot. I used to buy premium so I could just shift through the ones that already liked me, there was always hundreds. Swipe right, converse a bit,…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 01:19 PM
2

I mean have you been outside? Do you see what we eat??? 5 burgers for 6.25 ?!?!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 12:51 PM
1

Stone??? Wtf does that mean ?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 12:47 PM
1

Yesss absolutely. Yeah started casual, wasn’t looking at all, so surprising bc of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 06:43 AM
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Because there’s no difference between fucking “someone slightly above your league” and “ugly dudes” it essentially boils down to: “fuck someone you are not attracted to.” Which no woman will ever want to do. Some may be coerced to do so for one reason or another but no one (men or women) will ever genuinely want to have sex with someone they are not attracted to. Sex you don’t want = rape. You are essentially suggesting women should allow themselves to be raped periodically for ??? equality?? or…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 04:58 PM
4

I feel like old people get scammed by having their ignorance taken advantage of but young people get scammed by having their insecurities taken advantage of. Same shit all around
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 03:56 PM
3

I can’t even find my own peehole, so who knows but anecdotally I’ve never cum from fingers but definitely PIV.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 01:53 PM
1

There’s a size threshold, you don’t have to be huge but you have to be big enough to stimulate that deep part of the clitoris. Although your experience is weird bc I would’ve cum 3 times already in 20 mins lolll but hey that’s never a problem, you can keep going if it’s the girl that cums first. Luckily I haven’t had to experience any of these 5 minute guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 01:42 PM
1

Well it is somewhat dependent on size, most guys can’t change the size of their penis. But you are right, I do know some guys with big members that could do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 01:33 PM
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There’s really no such thing as thrusting without clitoral stimulation, the visible part of the clitoris is a tiny fraction of the whole thing which goes further into the vaginal canal. Could it be that this internal clitoral stimulation is what causes orgasm during PIV? Sure that definitely could be the case and you’re right that it is technically clitoral stimulation. As one women I heard put it before, external clit orgasms are like a handshake and the internal or “vaginal” ones are like a hu…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 01:31 PM
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I think a lot of the misconception is because men are pretty bad at sex, anecdotally a lot of women will say they can’t cum from PIV, because they haven’t. They are then met with “that’s normal most women can’t” so they don’t question it. I once also thought I could not cum from PIV, until my current partner figured it out. Now I have multiples every time. I honestly cannot tell you my body count, but it’s at least 10. <10% is a pretty poor success rate. Also as your study mentioned, having a bi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 01:27 PM
1

No, you are bad at sex. I climax with PIV, multiple times. We can get our own gold now, no need for you. Hence the “rise of lonely men” or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 12:39 PM
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I mean that’s just the way the world is but those people in general don’t refuse cancer treatment bc it makes big pharma money lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 06:46 PM
1

I actually don’t mind bald at all but I have once turned down a guy in the middle of it when I found he shaved his balls 🤷🏻‍♀️ we all have a preference
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:03 PM
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Yeah they “reject” me anyways if I ignore them for a whole 5 seconds and come up with all the adjectives under the sun lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:09 PM
2

Honestly would just say ok and move on, I have hundreds and thousands of choices that don’t think I’m fat… also I am not fat so it’d be bit funny, would prob laugh a bit as I’m guilty of doing when people say dumb things at work 🤐🤐 my boss has to mute the phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:05 PM
0

Lmao it reminds me of a post not too long ago where incel asks “what are we supposed to do with a girlfriend after we get one” like you don’t even share any of the same interests as women, why chase after them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 05:56 AM
1

I would take this hypothetical loving husband over the money duh. $2000 a month isn’t a lot of money first off?? (My privilege is showing, apologies) I probably spend that on my loving bf already if you count mortgage and utils. I can’t think of anyone that would take this crazy deal??? A partner is priceless.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 04:05 PM
2

Lmao no one said “anyone who has ever felt lonely is a loser” your hypothetical guy is not the person I’m referring to as a loser men with all those things don’t sit around wallowing in their self pity
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 06:35 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:54 PM
3

Is your suggestion that women should force men to be fathers against their will????
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:54 PM
1

Oh, I agree women should have less children for sure, in fact overpopulation is wild and we shouldn’t have any children period. If your argument is no child is better than a fatherless one than I agree 100%, but if it is that somehow women can prevent fatherlessness once the child already exists well I just don’t see how.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:52 PM
-2

Someone who’s personality is nothing but a desperate need for someone else is a loser
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:22 PM
4

The women are already accountable….they are all the single mothers… they are there, the only ones not being held accountable are the men that are not there… hence “fatherless”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 02:49 PM
5

Lmao saying “no” doesn’t make you right, no one wants to date a loser only obsessed with finding someone. People want to date people, not some empty lonely shell.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 02:49 PM
3

?? What does that have to do with anything? Yes they had sex and now they are still around, unlike the men, causing the issues you mentioned above.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 02:47 PM
3

Because women are not the problem? They don’t abandon their children at the same rates, as evidenced in your study and many others.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 02:24 PM
8

It’s also way more unlikely to find romantic love when you are obsessed with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 02:12 PM
2

Eh depends on where in the spectrum, most sure but my bf is on the spectrum and is a popular dude with lots of friends and obv a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:23 PM
7

Oof imagine a baby thinks you’re ugly lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:21 PM
2

There’s a lot of different factors and I’m sure there’s some correlation, if you’re attractive you’re more likely to have more girlfriends, and also more likely to be more social, more likely to get jobs you want and so on and so forth.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:44 PM
3

Yeah duh, it’s just one of those incel revenge fantasies that make them feel better about themselves without having to do much.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 01:56 PM
2

??? What does this even mean lmao because they regret getting married duh how can you be so dense
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 01:51 PM
1

Yeah but then I would be adding to this whole “blowing up” thing and frankly who cares. If he was actually interesting or talented I would’ve already seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 01:42 PM
1

I still don’t know who he is or what he even does but I’ve seen a lot of memes about him? Specifically, the girls yelling into a mic about being alpha and then the one’s making fun of how feminine his walk is voiceover’d with him yelling about being an alpha?? Anyways I’m just confused tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 11:25 PM
2

I’ve gotten hellofresh and everyplate and the meals were fine and I never had an issue but I also got sick of those because they seem every similar all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:20 PM
2

I also do not cook much, and I get sooo tired of eating out like almost nothing seems good anymore bc I’ve had at all so often. Any tips for the monotony? What do you eat when you’re sick of stuff? For me personally hot pot… 😋
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:05 PM
2

My hair is really long, touches my waist, never been told I’m making a statement, very odd… I’m very much the opposite of you as well, untraditional assertive woman, want no kids, bf’s friends referred to me as a “party girl.” I wonder wtf he thinks it means
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:03 PM
2

I am so fucking needy I want attention like 110% of the time, I’m ADHD as hell and I hate doing chores, literally the thought of them makes me wanna die. What else…uhm I be working late a ton so never home to pay attention to you. Currently wasting away in bed waiting for bf to come dote on me and feed me bc I’m a useless sack of shit who can’t do anything for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:58 PM
4

I mean I’m sure this weird made up scenario has happened before as well as an infinite amount of other scenarios. In my experience, I’ve always found a “better” man because I’ve learned better what I want. My first husband (I didn’t leave him he died) was a nice dude but had ADHD and really sucked at doing chores tbh, I hated it, hated having to ask and tell him simple basic things. So one of the first conversations I had with my new bf is “if I have to ask I don’t want it anymore” he’s a millio…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:50 PM
1

I would agree that small is definitely not an advantage in any way. I don’t agree with “there’s only a small amount you can actually do with it” I think certain angles and movements can make all the difference. (I would say maybe under 5 inches I would consider “small” for the purpose of this example)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 10:14 PM
1

Why? I mean most guys I know would be insecure about size and no amount of convincing from me would dissuade them otherwise. But truly honestly, I’ve had larger ones not do much for me and vice versa, shape, girth, and stroke game have so much more to do with it. I don’t need to discuss something that’s irrelevant to me anyhow.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 04:46 PM
11

Lmao 😂 I’ve never been able to fit a fist up there not for lack of trying either
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 01:46 PM
57

I never lie but definitely always avoid any discussion about size, it’s touchy subject for men
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 10:39 AM
2

A whole 5 minutes in r/niceguys answers your question
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 09:19 AM
5

I was but he unfortunately passed, I have not remarried. No regrets and if the right person comes along absolutely would desire to do so again.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 03:28 PM
1

Personally I’ve never had a “girls night out” my friend groups are mixed guys and gals, we have lots of nights out. SO’s always invited if they want. We all drink flirt and dance with strangers, we also usually frequent the gay bars so there’s plenty of love to go around ❤️ once my SO was not able to attend but I still snagged a cutie girl and brought her home for us. We do not generally worry about each other “flirting” with others, as he likes to say I could flirt with air.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:55 PM
1

Yeah honestly I probably work close to 60+ hours a week but my SO and I use this extra cash to travel a lot, we usually go somewhere on a plane at least once a month and I’m able to do a lot of my work in down time like at the hotel or while waiting on flights so it’s nbd, he’s also very good at taking care of all the stuff at home (helps that we are rarely here) so I never have to stress or worry about chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:33 PM
9

This is a good point I think, maybe this odd idea that women become “less promiscuous” comes from some women doing stuff they wouldn’t be comfortable doing anyways. Like I agreed with a commenter above, I’m definitely more explorative with a trusted LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:25 PM
13

Yeah same here, would def not do anal with a stranger but I do love it with my LTRs, I’ve also had threesomes with all my LTRs. It is such a weird concept huh
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:21 PM
4

Uhm those people don’t seem like friends who does that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 06:05 AM
1

Ah yes let’s all just change our upbringing, a brilliant solution why didn’t I think of that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 06:04 AM
1

I’ve literally never even met a man shorter than me, I’m 5’1
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 02:41 PM
1

Me, I don’t want/need your income now rub my back while I fill out these spreadsheets.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:54 PM
5

Raising children and making your wife’s life easier is a perfectly valid purpose I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:53 PM
1

Never wanted kids but my late husband was SAHDD (doggie dad) for a while and it was very nice to not have to do anything around the house, current partner only works part time and does most of the cleaning and cooking. I very much enjoy it, I work a lot, I make decent money, I own my house, chores stress me out and I don’t wanna do them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:51 PM
5

Ideal partner: hot golden retriever energy boy w long hair and part-time job so he has more time to take care of me Ideal self: honestly just wanna make more money and buy another house somewhere nice, preferably by a beach
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:47 PM
7

Ayyy that’s me I’m the accountant
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:41 PM
4

Do you have a job? At my work pretty much everyone except for me (25f) and my friend (25m) are married. Some have kids some don’t. There’s men and women here and we all work together every day. I find most men irl are perfectly fine people and not toxic at all. Almost all the toxicity I see is online only where a select few voices are loud af.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 12:41 PM
1

Hell no most of my friends think guys I like are ugly and vice versa lol we are very opposite apparently
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:20 AM
6

Literally just this, there’s no wild apocalypse, birth rates aren’t globally low, plenty of people to go around.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:15 AM
6

Isn’t it obvious women he thinks are ugly can’t be companions lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 04:52 PM
5

All the men I know with the exception of those on the internet complaining don’t think it’s too bad so maybe they’ve figured something out the rest of you haven’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 02:13 PM
6

You can assume whatever you want but I’m not the one complaining about being unable to get a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 02:01 PM
2

You can make whatever assumptions you want, I was married for over 5 years before he died and have been in a happy relationship for over 1 year now. I already have what these men seek.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:59 PM
3

I’m in a LTR tho, the companionship these men happen to seek I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:57 PM
11

“having to make as much effort to more for women less attractive than them or other women who require the same effort.” Break that down for me idk what you even mean
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:53 PM
5

Women don’t want to date men we don’t want sex with either so if you’re not good enough for sex why would you be good enough for a relationship? Most women’s standards for casual sex are lower than their standard for a relationship because we are not looking for long term compatibility. It’s likely that if you’re unsuccessful getting sex, you will be unsuccessful getting a relationship too. They just go hand in hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:51 PM
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It’s the entitlement for me, doesn’t matter if you want companionship or sex the men of this sub are always complaining about making an effort. As if women should just marry the first man that says hi to them. How can you expect to be a companion if you provide me no value? You must demonstrate said value or how else would I know? My side of this effort is picking you out over the 100s other matches I had this morning, now it’s your turn.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:44 PM
-1

It’s because you do not find inherent value in people and that is sad :(
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:27 PM
1

“Ofc women like sex but we don’t prioritize it as highly”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:26 PM
0

Yes, people should absolutely be the most picky they possibly can manage when it comes to finding a life partner. Women can manage to be very very picky since our options are endless.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:24 PM
1

Yeah idk men get so mad and annoying when you turn them down they’ve literally conditioned me to just block them all
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:19 PM
1

Not for long! 😀
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:19 PM
0

Men just whine about it way more, ofc women also like sex but we don’t prioritize it as highly
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:01 PM
1

Jealousy and insecurity is definitely the root of the n count obsession but tbh I don’t care, I don’t wanna sleep w a loser virgin anyways. If I’m super lonely I got good fwbs, otherwise me and also high n count bf are happy. The guys on this sub may be settling but there’s plenty of normal well adjusted men out there doing just fine if not great.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:00 PM
13

Lmao when will you guys understand that being alone is better than being miserable with someone you don’t even like. I’d argue she can’t afford to be any less picky with the limited amount of life she has left.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 05:38 PM
8

All of this is presupposing there is some kind of requirement for her to find a man, there’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 04:52 PM
5

I don’t think hookup sex is usually bad, for me personally it’s fun just meeting someone new and seeing how they are, everyone is different and unique and in bed and it’s just fun to experience that. I’ve never really had a “hook up” where we literally only do that, usually it involves hanging out at a party or grabbing a drink, these things are fun even if the sex isn’t great. Further I’ve met SO’s and good friends through these experiences that enrich my life indefinitely, that in itself is pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 04:04 PM
10

Why? Is there some kind of kill switch that turns on it a women is in her 40s is not in a relationship?? Will bombs start raining down on her house??? No? Then why can’t she afford it? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 03:57 PM
9

No can’t you see, he’s clearly put in so much effort by existing and having a whole conversation with her! A conversation! Obviously she now owes him marriage and 3 children, god the entitlement of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 03:26 PM
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Lmao what’s delusional is thinking you deserve someone’s time and attention for… checks notes existing Anyone can be as picky as they can afford to be, when you are not desperate for a relationship you don’t have to force yourself into one. It’s lack of desperation you’re conflating with “entitlement.”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 03:24 PM
1

I agree with this, it’s not necessarily more or less but different.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 01:30 PM
15

Ugh I love feminine men, more for me 🤗🤗
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 11:46 AM
1

That’d be nice to believe but truly I promise you, I am not special.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:33 PM
0

Sure do and happy to, he takes care of me emotionally and physically if you know what I mean ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:18 PM
1

I don’t think the beard was an issue at all but rather the shape, your face is already kinda long so you don’t need the pointy-ness. Something rounder would suit your face more. Some examples: https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2419/0911/articles/Beard_styles_for_different_face_shapes_1024x1024.jpg?v=1592217869 Yeah that haircut was a mess lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:17 PM
1

That’s too bad you choose to believe that, I’m very happy and have never cheated/been cheated on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:10 PM
1

This is true I can definitely tell some men are very very beautiful but just not my type. For him, it’s actually kinda weird I find Thor very hot but regular Chris is meh to me. I do have a thing for long hair that’s for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 09:56 PM
1

Oh I find you very attractive without it anyways :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 09:39 PM
2

Yeah they show up on me and my SO after festivals bc so much dancing and no eating for a few days lol but we lose them a day after when we fly back home and have a nice hot pot 🍲
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:22 PM
2

Omg yes! Something about my bf’s too far wide apart teeth that just makes me melt 😩 likely because it makes me feel warm and giggly when he smiles
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:11 PM
2

Lmao ngl you do kinda look like him
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:08 PM
0

A lot of men can’t even grow a beard, huge turnoff lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:07 PM
5

Oh I definitely don’t find 20% of men attractive, maybe 5% if they’re lucky lmao but yes me and my girlfriends have vastly different tastes. I like usually white hairy wide set men and my best friend really likes light skinned black men with curly hair. We all have our own specific type.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:06 PM
2

Those who have never experienced will never understand
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:55 PM
3

To put it frankly, people who have to work that hard for an LTR are just losers. The way I see it, there’s two different types of relationships, the one out of necessity and the organic one with a real emotional and spiritual connection you speak of. The former is basically the modern version of an arranged marriage, you get with some guy/girl because you want kids or something or whatever your goals are, in the latter relationships, they just happen organically. I married my high school sweethe…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:52 PM
2

Yeah tbh he is pretty damn attractive for his age, money can do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:39 PM
1

I just want a hot man that lives to serve me I don’t care if he makes $0 a year. Unfortunately my last one died off so I had to find another one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:37 PM
29

So it’s your personality
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:35 PM
1

Ugh I hate abs and love me a lil squish squish 😌😌
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:23 PM
0

I don’t care what he looks at as long as he’s not paying for it, he lives to serve me and me alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:22 PM
5

Doing chores w/o being asked
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:04 PM
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Why are you trying to date people who don’t like you??
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:13 AM
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That’s exactly my point tho? The whole concept of a relationship is you guys “wooing” each other…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:08 AM
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I mean…duh??? Like why would anyone want to be in relationship for no reason…what do I have to gain if you’re not “wooing” me or making me feel special?? That’s literally the entire point of a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:07 PM
1

It was mostly right, but BMI was a bit lower, it said 19, I’m closer to 23. It said 21, I’m 25. It was 97% sure I was a woman, correct lol and 7.9 attractiveness
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:36 PM
1

Six packs are gross lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:24 PM
2

But me the female employee definitely will call my boss a fucking donkey
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:23 PM
0

Mostly being a conservative
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 06:30 AM
0

Idk I am a woman and I find both of those women pretty hot but most skinny guys are not. Is it my social conditioning? Was I born this way? Who’s to say. I can say males are just in general less aesthetically pleasing
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:00 PM
1

I would say about 75% of men that make advances towards me make me feel like a person and maybe about 25% are just downright objectifying. Some of those 75% might be faking for sure, but they’re decent enough to try I suppose. I honestly haven’t ever had sex w anyone who made me feel that way, most of my casual hookups were enjoyable experiences in other ways than just the sex. 25 girl sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:43 PM
3

As an Asian women myself, my mom always told me growing up, men and babies were not worth it. But I think Asian women are a bit ahead of the curve here, a lot of white women my age were still fed this fairytale nonsense about romance. I think Asian parents realize you can’t be a doctor if you’re chasing men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:13 PM
2

It still isn’t some big secret that being hot will get you girls, anyone spending money to be told “be taller and hotter” is just a dummy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:56 PM
3

OP says “self improvement for men is kept in secrecy and exploited” I said, what’s the big secret, you said there isn’t one. We agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:53 AM
3

So you agree….
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 12:19 AM
0

Even if that’s the case, what’s the big secret lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:57 PM
19

Self improvement is literally the same for men or women??? “Delete fb go the gym” beyond that, “make friends” “be social” “do hobbies” “therapy” wtf is the big secret???????
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:50 PM
2

Absolutely, especially the part about how literally the air they breathe out smells nice. All of my LTR’s have had this but idk I’d say maybe 1/100 not 1/1000.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:19 PM
22

Makes me appreciate the men in my life lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:13 PM
14

I do feel like more and more women are just giving up on men altogether, just not worth it for most of them anymore. I can understand how they feel. Not all men for sure, but we see the amount of complaining about the “other child.” With social media and this information at the forefront, a lot of women are able to skip learning this by experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:12 PM
1

Not an issue for me, I moved my boyfriend in w me after eh idk 6ish months? 25m/f
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:04 PM
2

I also spend money on video games and am in no way saying they are crazy expensive or anything, was just one example. I personally think you should spend money on what makes you happy, life is short. Budgeting is about prioritizing, not living without.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:00 PM
4

I am already an accountant but that’s what my career path. I’m actually moving into systems integration at my company right now. (I develop financial statements)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 08:57 PM
3

I have a master’s of science in accounting lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 08:56 PM
3

We’re just naturally more risk averse and long-term goal oriented, more likely to budget, plan ahead etc. even if men make more, they spend more on little stuff that goes unnoticed. Video games, micro transactions, etc. If I’m decorating I’ve already got a whole spreadsheet laid out with the budget.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 05:32 PM
3

I just graduated w my master’s this weekend with a class of 75% women, most of us should be alright.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 05:29 PM
9

That last part is just what all parents say lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 05:24 PM
3

I can understand this bc generally straight women (including me) don’t want to be larger than their partner, if you’re really wide the only option is taller.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 05:23 PM
1

Uhm no? Lmao the one’s being manipulated by men wanting virgins that aren’t themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 07:25 AM
1

No a lot of women are really stupid and need help tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 06:22 AM
1

I don’t think I’m dating down, he’s truly lovely 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 04:51 PM
0

Poor baby only makes half what I do I would never :( he gets me flowers and stuff but hopefully nothing too expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 02:49 PM
2

If women are more narcissistic now, it just means we are finally starting to catch up to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 11:59 PM
3

I bought my boyfriend an LV belt and shoes 🥰🥰 he is my angel. Stay jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 07:23 PM
2

I actually mostly plan our dates? I think. Usually a “date” for us is “hey do you wanna go do x?” So while the ideas are mostly mine usually, I like traveling a lot, sometimes he will want to go play volleyball or something and then he will be the one asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 07:20 PM
1

Yes, it’s a like a buffet. Why not grab some while it’s there
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 07:11 PM
8

Yes exactly, they even said it works on Grindr. As a bi/pans whatever. I could have a man here in an hour tops but would be hard to find a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 07:10 PM
4

I’ve always been the breadwinner in every one of my relationships (accountant) I have supported every one of my SO’s financially. There’s few women out there without jobs that expect their SO to take care of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 05:24 PM
7

The way my partner sees it, is if I’m doing something I’ll have less time for him so he will try to do as much as possible so we can spend the most time together.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 03:44 PM
10

Hookup material = hot and not a conservative Boyfriend material = hookup material + I actually enjoy their companionship. I have never dated anyone without hooking up with them first. If you are not hot enough to bang, you are not hot enough to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:27 PM
2

Sure; I love my dear boyfriend very very much, he’s an absolute peach. He is the most patient, caring, and loving. Not once in the time I’ve known him has he missed sending me a good morning text. He gets me cute little gifts like flowers and themed baskets. He has never said no to rubbing my back. He stays awake later even when he works early to help me sleep. I do not think men are worthless, I think the losers on PPD who are bitter they can’t get laid are.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:17 PM
-3

Stop fucking trying to date women and be friends with them first.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 02:44 PM
11

No, but no one has ever had to, I’m down for a good time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 01:50 PM
1

Sure was
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 12:36 AM
1

Thank you, I do appreciate it. Actually cried a bit the other day because some biker passed me being reckless.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 09:02 PM
1

I never claimed no men were attractive to women in any time period. I agree that our perceptions of attractiveness are strongly influenced by culture but that’s exactly my point. You can’t just up and change someone’s culture and upbringing that led them to their tastes in partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 09:00 PM
1

That’s exactly my point tho, what physical qualities you like cannot be changed no matter how unrealistic they may be. Physical attraction is not a conscious choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 08:56 PM
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I literally have never actively sought out a relationship, all of my relationships have been hookups where we just couldn’t get enough of each other and things progressed. I don’t have a timeline for seeking out some guy by x age and I never will. I’m not intentionally “waiting” until some age, I just get into relationships whenever they are convenient to me and make me happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 01:40 PM
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We find a hot dude with a good personality and live happily ever after duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 01:34 PM
6

True, I literally met my bf 2 months after my last husband passed. Wasn’t very long at all
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 01:19 PM
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The problem with women “lowering” their standards is that they will literally not physically be wet for you (bc you are not hot enough), and sex will be uncomfortable and unenjoyable for her. You too, unless you have a weird dry pussy fetish. You just can’t change physical attraction for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 01:15 PM
1

Yes that has literally happened for me at least 5 times.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 05:53 AM
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Yeah I feel like me and my other girl friends have vastly different tastes in men. Chances are, someone somewhere finds you attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 05:01 PM
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I can definitely understand that, realized my libido is a lot “higher” after my first husband died, we weren’t happy and I now realize that’s a lose lose for everyone involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 02:35 PM
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I don’t think my standards are ridiculously high, I make more than most men my age, I do not expect that. I literally just want someone who is nice to me and fun to be around. I have a bf so I’m happy and not looking, but these are the same standards he has. Most women don’t have these crazy standards men seem to think they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 02:15 PM
3

Same been about a decade for me too and while I don’t really remember a baseline, I don’t think I have a “low” libido
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 02:11 PM
5

I settled in my first marriage, it was balls and I’d never do it again. Very happy now and would rather be alone than w/ someone who wouldn’t treat me like current bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 01:53 PM
2

For me personally, in this order: the guy on the left in the photo, peak natty, and built fat
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 12:13 AM
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I think the men in this sub just aren’t really representative of most men irl, or their opinion of “overweight” doesn’t necessarily match up with BMI. Most men I know aren’t really super picky especially over a few pounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 01:51 PM
2

I think there’s also men that have no idea what’s going on here, I remember explained trp to my bf not even a year ago and he was so confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 01:32 PM
1

Therapy can and does address a wide range of things including communication. You act like autistic people have never found relationships before the internet lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 01:22 PM
1

If you think about approaching a woman and then you do…that’s natural. If you think about approaching a woman, and need a script to do it then you need therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 12:36 PM
1

The “advice” you mention is the same advice this guy is criticizing, the problem is there just isn’t much other than “take a shower” “communicate” “get hobbies” If you truly need to be told to take a shower or talk, you probably aren’t ready for dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 12:34 PM
2

Lol ok Dwight
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:27 PM
2

Because at the day you still don’t have what you want, someone who loves and adores you for who you are. It’s truly a lose lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:26 PM
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If you have to think so hard about “putting your best foot forward” it ain’t your best foot dude
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:05 PM
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You need advice on saying hi and introducing yourself??? That’s the point, that itself should be just being yourself. As for initial attractiveness threshold, yes pretty much looks but I mean if you’re really hot and acting like an ass that’s an automatic no too, so not always.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:04 PM
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Even your example is dumb, I’ve never once noticed the time it takes my SO to respond. If they happen to be doing nothing I get pretty fast responses if not, I don’t. No woman is sitting around thinking about these things like you are lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 10:02 PM
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I can’t speak for all women but I’ve already decided if you meet my attractiveness threshold within the first 30 seconds of meeting, any attempts beyond that is a waste of your time and mine. If someone is interested in your story, you wouldn’t have to coerce them into wanting to hear it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 07:28 PM
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The problem is, if you try to forge a genuine loving connection with someone who doesn’t want it, it’s already malicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 07:26 PM
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It’s just that none of my SOs have ever had to try this hard, and if they did it would be a turn off. Is it the best advice? No. But it’s all there is. Truly, romance really is just natural, if you click you do, if you don’t you don’t. Any attempts at forcing it, well is exactly that… it’s forced and unnatural, which in of itself is a turn off and this a failure of the initial goal anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 07:23 PM
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Men from Reddit come from some weird part of the US or never go outside or anything idk, but when I go to the mall or target or other random places most people are coupled up, average or not. I too am also usually with my partner as well. I’m 25, most of my friends/coworkers are in an LTR or married. The only friend I have that isn’t in a relationship is gay and picky as hell. (As is his right!)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 04:11 PM
1

Time and effort yes. It’s the only way. There is no real “commitment” you can’t make anyone stay with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 11:09 PM
1

Clean my house, give me money, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 02:31 PM
1

I’m 5’1 and never even met a man shorter than me let alone reject him for height.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 03:01 PM
2

I almost have a masters degree in accounting, my late husband made almost 3x in car sales with no degree whatsoever, before that, he mowed lawns. I have no problem dating a man that makes less than me as long as he’s giving equal effort. I plan to retire early and fully own my home by 30, I would like to hopefully have children while my husband continues working to pay for maintenance. (Water electricity etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 02:50 PM
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I thought the complaint was our standards were too high??? Which is it?? Obviously everyone filters for their own benefit, mutual or not. You’re just mad women’s idea of their own benefit doesn’t like up with what would be beneficial for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 08:42 PM
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What?? What does me having to constantly reject a few guys that are oddly obsessed with me have anything to do with filtering out for mutually beneficial relationships???
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 02:37 PM
3

Very odd but I still want Chad, he’s more experienced and now I’m curious why he suddenly wants to date me of all people. Virgin guy should go back to his cave…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 02:11 PM
1

Oh yeah I can definitely relate with that, although I never meant to date him, the first few times we hooked up he definitely said some things that made me think “hmm is this guy ok.” Actually it was really funny, the first time, he pulled out to switch positions and accidentally came. I literally watched him cum onto my bed and I was like “hey did you cum” and he looked like a little puppy and was like “no.. maybe…” lmao. He did go again so I got mine and all was well but yeah could definitely …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 02:09 PM
2

That makes zero sense then, how the other guy has had zero opportunity to be intimate, does he live in a cave??? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 01:54 PM
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It’s a shame more women weren’t honest with him about what they wanted. I’m sure that could’ve gone a long way. I don’t think a lot of women really care too much about wages though. I married my late husband with nothing (and I mean NOTHING, I took him the his last few months of high school in between working) but not only did he put me through college mowing lawns, he also then became a very successful salesman at 23! He made 100k last year and didn’t even live all year. My current bf makes mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 01:53 PM
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I have enough men still hitting me up everyday to check if I’m suddenly down to give them a chance to know some men will never go their own way. (Even though they should…)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 01:40 PM
1

Hey so I was actually concerned about this same thing with my current bf, I’m his longest relationship now at 9 months. Anyways he said it was because as soon as he realized he didn’t see a future with them, he broke it off. He is able to get casual sex easily so doesn’t need to stay in a relationship to do so. Now vetting is a forever process, but that’s one explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 01:37 PM
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I think this is going to be highly dependent on who you are. Me personally, the guy with 100 ONS. We probably share similar values and will get along better. On top of that he has experience and is clearly attractive enough to be desired. You say it’s involuntary for the other guy so I’m assuming he’s ugly or something. That’s a no from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 01:31 PM
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Papers matter. My late in-laws wanted to keep my husband brain dead and missing a leg on life support for who knows how long and wait for some kind of miracle. I was able to put a stop to that mess thanks to piece of paper. Also thanks to the piece of paper, I didn’t have to do any probate stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 01:27 PM
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Being 5’1 I’ve actually never met a man shorter than me. I’ve been with plenty of men under average, 5’4 prob being the shortest but that’s still a whole 3 inches over me. My late husband was 5’10 and a little over 200, there’s some pics of him in my history. I wouldn’t say that’s anywhere near obese??? New bf is 6ft and a little under 200 but I will say he’s objectively pretty fit but no six pack or anything. Nowhere near obese though. But maybe you’re right, it’s mind boggling to me how many m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 01:13 PM
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Are you saying a higher amount of the top 20% of men live in major cities and go to bars??? How is that not considered the majority of people?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 01:19 AM
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How can that be so if I have a high body count???? Obviously a good amount of guys fit into my standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 01:08 AM
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It’s not something you can objectively measure is the point. Everyone is going to find different things attractive. I’m sure facial symmetry and bone structure have something to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 01:05 AM
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As a female I definitely lust over some men, they just need to meet that attractiveness threshold. It’s pretty high.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 01:03 AM
2

Sperm from ugly or otherwise unattractive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 12:57 AM
2

I am 100% for giving working class and poor women whatever they need. Universal healthcare, maternity leave, childcare, food stamps, etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 06:40 PM
1

Ok then have no children. I think it’s pretty clear we don’t really care whether or not we replace society.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 06:29 PM
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The point is though, we don’t really care for that. It’s not an innate need like eating or drinking, it may be sad sure but there’s no way to guarantee any woman would actually do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 06:27 PM
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It doesn’t matter whether or not we DO anything the point is we’re the only ones with the ability to do so. You have no bargaining chip, come back when you invent the artificial womb.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 06:17 PM
1

Where do I vote for this
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 06:14 PM
8

It also proves even if we were desperate, we would not choose low value sperm.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 06:12 PM
6

Survival for who?? Childbirth is possibly deadly to women. She has a better chance of survival without having any children. Humans do not have that innate NEED and crazing to make babies the same way some animals do, it’s very easy to rationalize away.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 06:10 PM
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I think while “love” could theoretically be achieved by all. “Lust” is reserved for attractive males. What that really means and whether or not it’s really only 20% idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 06:02 PM
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I guess the most simple answer is a lot of men don’t really think too hard about long-term consequences, short-term gain is more important to them
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 05:57 PM
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When I was single I would definitely sleep with at least one guy a month, I’m not really into super buff guys so some of them would definitely qualify as “dad bod” I think. My standards for casual sex are simple: be physically attractive to me, not over 30, not annoying to talk to, and not a Republican. (I live in America.) Considering my pretty high body count, I think a good portion of men fit into this category. I don’t want to claim they are “average” because I think I’m above average looks …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 05:51 PM
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It seems to me you just want to call anyone attractive a “bad boy” and anyone not a “nice guy.” Typically “nice guys” lack nuance and “bad boys” aren’t even bad??? What they do?? Smoke some weed? Muscles = bad???? What If women are so universally into muscles then why is the whole “dad bod” thing a thing? I think women are into fitness for obvious reasons but that doesn’t mean they want a bodybuilder.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 01:12 PM
1

I mean, you can have good bones and an ugly face or some kind of deformity, I think there’s more to it than that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 01:08 PM
1

Look I’m not saying you have to have a monster cock, in fact, I think 4inches would be sufficient since I’ve read that’s the depth of most vaginas? I’ve been with 10”+ who couldn’t get me to climax with PIV only and I’ve been with 6” that can, size shape and girth can all make a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 04:15 PM
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Idk I’ve had sex with people and then moved on and some have turned into romantic or platonic relationships. I think bonding is a good way to get to know someone, to each their own of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 04:11 PM
0

What?? What do you mean? How am I supposed to find out if the sex is good by not having it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 02:18 AM
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I think we lie too often that size doesn’t matter. Size and shape definitely matter and can be the difference between whether or not I climax.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 08:56 PM
3

Yeah it’s so weird when it comes to discussions about dating it seems everyone is seeking out a LTR first which is so odd to me. Every romantic relationship I’ve ever been in started off as a hook up. Sexual compatibility is so important I can’t imagine wasting 3 weeks dating someone to find out if I even like sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 07:01 PM
1

I guess my concern is that if we had a UBI of $1000 what’s to stop all landlords from raising rent by $1000? I’m not against UBI, I’m sorry if I made it seem so I just don’t understand how it works
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 03:00 PM
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I think a UBI alone wouldn’t do anything but cause inflation, maybe a UBI coupled with restrictions on rent? I think something easier would be providing healthcare and childcare for all. Money isn’t too bad of an issue if we have childcare and losing a job wouldn’t be too big of a deal if you didn’t lose your health coverage with it. I’m in the US of course, I hear housing is way worse in other countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 03:03 PM
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I don’t have anyone to blame in particular, but yeah it kinda sucks balls.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 05:13 AM
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I would love to have kids. Who would watch them though? I work 9-5, daycare costs more than my salary. Rent is half my income, who pays rent if I take even a measly 1 month off to give birth? It’s simply not feasible.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 04:39 AM
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These guys all claim to be “normal average guys” and then act like the above and claim women are evil for not liking them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 07:48 PM
2

24f. The only thing I seek in a relationship is companionship and orgasms. Companionship includes a lot of things, going places/doing things with me, emotional support, and validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 05:19 PM
2

-25 I’m def far left politically, I don’t really believe in any pill ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 05:52 PM
3

One of many useful things FDS has taught me is that have been conditioned to think my wants and needs are unrealistic or “crazy” even. Far to often I was telling my boyfriend “I know I sound crazy…but x.” it was a combination of his reactions and a post on FDS that made me realize I truly have been so nervous and anxious to express anything to men, things that I should feel ok to express. It is really really eye opening to be in a relationship with someone who actually treats you like a person. …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 05:34 PM
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Rebuttal: “yeah I don’t think so” Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 05:08 PM
2

I don’t think the idea is to banish any kinda of attachment or to not depend on each other. My SO and I want to build a life together, live together, share finances, and have kids one day. We are attached to each other. Having relationships and commitments with other people doesn’t automatically negate any other commitments. It’s just like having other friends you care for, we just happen to have sex with them sometimes too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 07:50 PM
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I don’t think OP is necessarily trying to throw shit, rather I think maybe they are trying to help. There must be something, and I really truly don’t feel like it’s just looks, that is making this hypothetical guy some off as creepy. We should discuss it and try to help them. All they are saying is, creepiness isn’t based on looks. Let’s look elsewhere for why.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:41 PM
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I think for one, maybe this woman is really loud. I will agree there’s terrible women out there, as well as men for sure, but I just cannot believe that your “average” women has this much disdain for men. Maybe there is some factor of selection bias here, since you’re much more likely to notice to woman glearing at you as opposed to the one that gave you a quick smile and went about her day. I actually find myself on here defending men more than complaining about them, not that the complaints ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:11 PM
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This is what I think is most important, at the end of the day, do I want to feel like my partner is with me because I own him and he doesn’t see or interact with any other choices or do I want to know that I’ve given him full freedom to live his life and be happy and yet still chose to come back home to me? I think I’d take the later. And if someday he meets his dream girl and it’s not me, now we’re both better off. Him happy and me free to find someone to love me exactly how I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 04:58 PM
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Who is this women??? Why do we talk about her all the time? She seems terrible first off, and having lots of girlfriends myself I don’t think she’s a great model for the average girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 04:41 PM
5

Yeah you just spelled causal instead of casual. But the idea or sex being causal was funny to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 04:04 PM
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This just doesn’t fucking happen in real life like y’all think it does??? I have never once been out and approached by a man that was well dressed and clean and smiled kindly and looked at him with any disdain. That’s just ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 03:55 PM
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I agree but causal sex LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 03:42 PM
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If you are truly pleasant I don’t understand why they wouldn’t, other then if they somehow found you physically unattractive. Which just goes back to “taking care of your body and appearance.” Obviously this is all assuming you are “average looking.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 11:35 PM
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2, with the clarification that I do also enjoy it. 24F. I’m probably upper middle class, own my own home, cars, no debt, college degree, employed etc. I was in a monogamous relationship for six years (except for the occasional threesome) with no cheating from my side at least, but before that regularly engaged in casual sex. I say 2 instead of 1 because I’m now in an ENM relationship and only engage in casual sex about once a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 11:24 PM
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I think that’s what people mean when they say “not an asshole.” “Social game” “be nice” “don’t be a dick” it’s all the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 08:44 PM
2

What standards are supposedly shallow, detached from reality, and beyond the reach of the average man?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 08:20 PM
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Then you might not be “at least average looking” in physical attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 08:12 PM
3

Which RP men are successful???? Where they at? Most RP is just men complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 06:37 PM
3

Ask him how many deers he’s caught.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 06:37 PM
1

I am American, do Europeans compliment each other more?? I agree with that, I think it makes sense. I’ve never felt the need to I guess “thank” a really hot guy for sleeping w me because I feel I’m just as much of a prize.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 06:35 PM
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Hey who ever said I don’t date or fuck women??? I have done that too. You simply have no evidence to back the claim that I am doing anything counter to what I’m saying??? It’s like screaming the sky is green, you can do it all day but at the end of the day it’s still blue buddy. I said I didn’t care about your desires but I never said I don’t care about anything at all. I do care that you are so deluded to think that being an asshole is somehow attractive to women. I also care that you are feedi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 06:32 PM
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I said that I don’t care what YOU want. This isn’t about you. My experience is much closer to that of any women’s experience than you have ever been.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 06:22 PM
2

Hey would you rather fuck me or this guy? You should take advice from the one closer to what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 06:21 PM
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No one cares what you do and do not want. Saying you don’t want to hear any other words from women or otherwise just further weakens your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 06:16 PM
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Hmmm or how about consider that maybe just MAYBE, women like men are not a monolith. Maybe we all have different opinions, needs, and wants. And maybe just maybe, instead of pretending to be what a bunch of self proclaimed unsuccessful men say you should be, you just be yourself and maybe you’ll find someone that accepts you for who you actually are as opposed to some personality you made up. Is someone holding a gun to your head? Do you HAVE to be in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 06:14 PM
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I’ve never slept with anyone I think is an asshole and not many women I know have either. I think you are clearly deluded as to what an “asshole” is. But yes I’m sure you’ve observed every single hetero relationship that has ever existed. 🤣🤣 please. Lmao you can’t look at me with a straight face and in good faith say the above conversation has ever happened in real life. Honestly I’d be surprised a woman was even talking to you with the amount of contempt you reek of.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 06:08 PM
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It’s not even good advice tho. My bf cries all the time and I can assure you he’s prob getting laid more than your average redpiller.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 05:50 PM
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Hmmm this sounds a lot like a lot of men complaining about women but covering their ears and singing “la la la” when women try to explain. Yes, I, a woman, who is attracted to men, have NO IDEA what makes men attractive. But you, presumably a straight man, does know. 🤣🤣 Laughable at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 04:30 PM
0

I think this is a refreshing view. Makes sense to me to, because it’s more likely to be sexually compatible relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 04:22 PM
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Idk man I’m Asian and both my parents AND my grandma worked but we shared a mattress between the 4 of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 04:17 PM
1

Hmm so your definition of “asshole” is just anyone who doesn’t simply live to please me? Seems like a really wide breadth then. Even so, explain how confidence, assertiveness, and directness is diametrically opposed to responsibility and predictability. It seems to me, if you are an “asshole” as you like to put it, you are probably even MORE responsible then the hypothetical “simp” guy that can’t handle anything more than paying attention to me. You likely have friends, family, and hobbies to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 04:13 PM
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What kinda of favors/behaviors indicate that you are a Chad? I’m a women so I wouldn’t really know how men are treated day to day. I can say I’ve never done a favor for a guy just because I think he’s hot, and something I became aware of recently was that I don’t really compliment men that much as opposed to women. Even when I’ve hooked up with guys I thought were super hot, I didn’t specifically tell them so. So in my mind, I’m thinking women know a lot more if they are attractive or not becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:57 PM
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You’ve talked to hundreds and thousands of men? That’s a lot. What about women? Since we’re discussing what women want. How successful were these men long term after having turned up the “asshole” a few notches? Are we sure we are not conflating confidence, assertiveness, and directness with “being an asshole?” I could see how having your own hobbies and life is attractive to women. Are we sure relationship failure is a direct result of their responsibility or predictability? It seems to me a mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:50 PM
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I’ve never seen him in game of thrones, but I agree in general he is pretty hot. He probably is a pretty good indicator of a “objectively hawt” guy. I’m sure he’s well aware he is hot. Do you think guys below his level but still obviously attractive think they are attractive??? Like your average Chad for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:40 PM
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So you’re telling me, you’ve met multiple men/women who attest to being attractive and then suddenly not when they display traits of responsibility, stability, blah blah? That simply doesn’t make sense. I think marriage would be a moving a bit fast for a 6m relationship but I’m open to the idea in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:34 PM
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I think this might make sense. I’m interested in learning more about what makes a guy hot vs. cute and how that plays into this whole attraction thing. “Objectively hawt” is an interesting concept though, I’ve found me and my girlfriends don’t usually agree on that which men are attractive so could be hard to determine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:26 PM
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You can reiterate “good husband traits = bad” all you want, it doesn’t make it true. There’s nothing inherently not hot sexy or fun about any of those traits. I have more than enough life experience to know that I’ve met men capable of being hot sexy and fun while not being an irresponsible, aloof, asshole. In fact, I’ve turned down plenty of men that are physically attractive due to any combination of those later traits. I find THOSE traits inherently not hot, not sexy, and not fun. The fact th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:22 PM
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That doesn’t answer any of my questions as to how “good husband” traits make someone not “sexy hot fun.” 24, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 08:16 PM
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I don’t know what you mean by “pretty well known,” who knows this? You when you made it up? I don’t see how irresponsible, dissolute, aloof, and asshole-ish = sexy hot fun in any way. A guy can physically attractive (hot) but if he’s an asshole that’s a turn off, so not sexy. If he’s also irresponsible and aloof, how is he any fun to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 08:12 PM
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I don’t think that’s necessarily true, in fact most guys that don’t have those “good husband” traits are probably bad in bed as they don’t pay attention to their partner as much. I also don’t see how character traits affects one’s physical attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:56 PM
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I don’t understand how “good husband material” means a man has to also be unattractive and bad in bed?????? I’d say being unattractive and bad in bed are two traits that would make someone NOT “good husband material.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:44 PM
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Why do we have to accept anything though?? It’s not like we have to get married or have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:31 PM
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So marriage is just being with someone that sucks in bed and you’re not attracted to??? Why would anyone choose to get married then??
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:28 PM
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I do own my own house and yes that’s exactly what I mean, if I were to become unable to work due to pregnancy or whatever reason at the very least I am entitled to 50% of whatever hypothetical husband makes as opposed to nothing if we were not married.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:37 PM
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Personally I also wouldn’t have a child out of wedlock because I feel that increases mine/my kids financial security. (Community property state)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:14 PM
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Hmmm one of my friends once said “oh he’s cute” when I first introduced him to them and one of my other friends has a bit of a crush on him that’s only 2 and both are men but it’s not like I go around asking others if they think my bf is attractive lol. He says he doesn’t get very much attention usually and never really considered himself attractive. I don’t really notice strangers or other people out and about staring or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 02:53 PM
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Anecdotally, I don’t think this is true, I think my bf is hot shit but he says no one has ever complimented or told him that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 05:11 PM
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