| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 8 | Advice needed. | Rant | yankeephil86 | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/25 10:54 PM |
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| 3 | My wife (32F) told me (44M) she wants to separate — 30 hours after the kids and I joined her in SpainI’d bet my paycheck that as a resident of spain, she is going to “change her mind” last minute, not go back to sweden, and then report you to customs for trying to take her kids out of the country | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/26 01:56 AM |
| 1 | My wife (32F) told me (44M) she wants to separate — 30 hours after the kids and I joined her in SpainUpdate? Did you get the kids back to your country? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/26 01:03 PM |
| 26 | My wife (32F) told me (44M) she wants to separate — 30 hours after the kids and I joined her in SpainShe waited till you brought the kids to her so she can prevent them leaving the country. Get a plane ticket for you and the kids and leave ASAP without her realizing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/26 12:16 PM |
| 2 | Divorcing my wife and thinking of remarriageNo wife is going to want to live with their in laws. 1st, you should never get married, because marriage is dumb. 2nd, you should not even consider dating/marriage until you grow up and move out on your own. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/06/26 04:02 PM |
| 0 | Since when is child support until 21?I’m curious if states make an exception for disabled vets. For 100% DVs, children are eligible for chapter 35 DEA benefits that gives the college child roughly $1500 a month for school | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/26 04:41 AM |
| 17 | To the divorced men who visited a sex worker, what was the reason you decided to see one and how was the experience?All men pay for it, the sex workers just tell you the price upfront | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/26 01:55 PM |
| 10 | Finally Divorced!!This is a perfect example of why spouses should not choose the high conflict option. They like that the breadwinner “pays” their lawyers fees. They don’t realize, they would have been much better off agreeing to 50/50 and taking half of the $75k instead of wasting it on lawyers | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/26 01:32 AM |
| 1 | Can’t stop the tearsYou don’t know people’s situations, the spouse and AP could live states away. Like I stated earlier, “emotional” affairs are only emotional because they haven’t had the opportunity to make it physical. It’s still an affair and should be treated as such. Don’t ever fall for the “It was only an emotional affair” line. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/26 12:59 AM |
| 1 | Can’t stop the tearsIt’s length of time, but the opportunity to be alone. I use the word time as in finding the tine to sneak away | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/26 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Living separatelyJust because he rented another apartment, doesn’t mean he “moved out”. Did he change the address on his license, does he still get mail at the house, are the utilities still in his name? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/26 06:30 AM |
| 1 | Can’t stop the tearsThe affair is only “emotional” because they haven’t had time to make it physical yet. She would undoubtedly had sex with him if she had the opportunity. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/26 05:03 AM |
| -1 | Can my wife first leave me and then have me pay her child support for 18 years?He should file in Canada, granted I don’t know their laws, but they can’t be as bad as california. Canada he most likely won’t pay alimony. Cali will give him lifetime alimony | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/05/26 12:42 AM |
| 1 | military divorce with over 10 years of service, what was your experience?I’m not sure about the Navy, but the Air Force bases have a legal office that has free laywers for things like this. Legal is separate from the ADC and JAG | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/26 03:35 AM |
| 4 | Torn Between Walking Away or Rebuilding After BetrayalComing from experience, rip the band aid off and do it now. She will betray you again and again. She’ll gaslight you to make you think it’s your fault she was a piece of shit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/26 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Recently divorced.....tax questionThis needs to be posted in r/tax. You need tax advice, not advice from a bunch of disgruntled men. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/26 05:16 AM |
| 3 | Divorce Finalized today, she already wants more Child SupportIf you give a mouse a cookie…… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/26 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Can my ex retroactively claim our house was separate property? Advice before consulting phoenix divorce lawyerI know, i was just saying that would be the only situation where she’d be entitled to more than 50/50 | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/26 08:10 PM |
| 2 | Can my ex retroactively claim our house was separate property? Advice before consulting phoenix divorce lawyerUnless her dad died and left the paid off house solely to her as inheritance, it doesn’t matter who made the down payment. Especially if ya’ll live there 9 years after | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/26 05:52 PM |
| 2 | I am overpaying CSWhat state do you live in? You need to take a long hard look at the numbers. It’s very possible that you’ll try to reduce it and they’ll raise it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/26 10:51 PM |
| 1 | Married jointly vs separatelyYou need to ask this in r/tax. But you probably want to file HoH depending on how long ago she moved out | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/01/26 01:00 AM |
| 2 | DiscoveryIt entirely depends on the state. Alimony or division of assets could be impacted. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/25 06:05 PM |
| 6 | Keeping your last name.That’s pretty petty, especially if you have kids. If there’s kids involved, she should definitely be entitled to keep the same last name as the kids. If there’s no kids involved and you’re that petty, you can try to get it added to the divorce decree. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/25 04:16 PM |
| 1 | AdviceStraight Facts | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/02/25 05:02 AM |
| 1 | AdviceFacts | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/25 05:13 PM |
| 3 | Does Home wrecker law actually work?I though the spouse was the military member, and the military still punishes people for adultery | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/25 05:36 AM |
| 3 | Does Home wrecker law actually work?Lol, you were talking about going to her work and eating lunch with her and assumed she was the one serving. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/25 12:12 AM |
| 6 | Does Home wrecker law actually work?Do you really want to run their day?, report them to their Chain of Command | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/25 12:00 AM |
| 3 | Suicidal thoughts?Absolutely, and my STBX got really mad when I seemed much happier when she said she wants a separation. At that moment, all the dark thoughts and depression suddenly disappeared | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/25 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Advice needed.At least Texas has caps on Alimony. Lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/25 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Advice needed.Thats a good point, the reason I haven’t done anything so far is because Texas recognizes at fault divorces. And if a spouse has an extramarital affair and uses marital funds to facilitate the affair, they can significantly reduce or deny spousal support. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/25 11:17 PM |
| 7 | How did you handle your ex’s birthday every year (during and after divorce).If you have small children, you should get her a gift and a card from them. Thats if ya’ll are decent co-parents | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/25 10:09 PM |
| 14 | I want to sell the house and split 50-50. But STBXW’s dad wants to help pay the mortgage for her so she can stay in our house. Would his payments to her reduce spousal support calculations?Tell her dad, he needs to give her $435k to buy you out, so she can keep it | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/01/25 05:46 PM |
| 11 | She PlottedMy wife is begging me to stay married on paper so she can get paid Ch 35 benefits from the VA. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 03:54 PM |
| 1 | Coming soonDepends on the state, in Texas, if you do an at fault divorce for adultery, the injured party may not have to pay spousal maintenance | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/25 01:26 PM |
| 3 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceWhere do you live? Some states like Texas have limits on alimony. If the marriage was 10-20 years, it’s capped at 5 years alimony max | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/25 07:10 PM |
| 5 | Which would you choose: never to fall in love again or to be unrequited in love?Love is a myth created by the government to sell flowers on Valentines day and boost the economy | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/25 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Her phoneAdultry in Texas can nullify spousal maintenance | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/25 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Her phoneIt is not illegal in the US. Some countries it is illegal like UAE, as it’s considered an invasion of privacy. Even then, it’s illegal for the wife to go through the husband’s phone, but not vice versa. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/01/25 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Custody every weekend?This is my intent. I work a 4/10 schedule, so I would pick them Thursday night, then drop them off at school monday morning | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/24 03:28 AM |
| 2 | Irrational fear of telling herJesus, this is the truest statement ever told | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 03:06 AM |
| 2 | I'm on the mortgage (solely), but I gave the house to her. How do I make it so that she becomes responsible for paying off the mortgage and also the insurance?Another point after reading the whole post, you can have a lawyer draft a rent to own lease for her. Make it so the rent is the exact amount as the mortgage and increases accordingly. Then write in provisions that the sole right to the property reverts back to you if she falls to pay. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 12:11 AM |
| 5 | I'm on the mortgage (solely), but I gave the house to her. How do I make it so that she becomes responsible for paying off the mortgage and also the insurance?There are only 3 options: -She keeps the house, buys you out AND refinances your name off -You keep the house, pay her half the equity to buy her out -You sell the house and split the proceeds Absolutely do not file a quit claim deed to give her the house while the mortgage is in your name. If you are on the mortgage, you are not only held responsible if she doesn’t pay, but it also makes it significantly harder for you to buy another house. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 12:08 AM |
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