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| 33 | SCROTES WILL SEXUALIZE ANYONE AND ANYTHING. I will never understand the appeal of this - GROSS!!!!! | MALE DEPRAVITY | yanyanfan | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 03:28 PM |
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| 10 | The first time a new guy takes 24H+ to text, call, or reach out in any form? Don't bother acting chill, move on.I agree with this response and I think context is really important. If you are in the middle of a conversation and the guy up and disappears then yes that’s definitely a move-on type of situation. But I have a really demanding job and really prioritize my me time so if we are in the early stages of dating I prefer more spaced out communication for planning dates and such. Of course as the relationship progresses and becomes more serious the communication should also become more regular. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 04:04 AM |
| 3 | NikkiahLiah: A Song For The Next Person I Date (Pictures of Us)This one is also phenomenal! She is so talented https://youtu.be/vr2xMRSObto | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 08:32 PM |
| 3 | Woman writes to advice columnist about her husband’s inability to parent and gets told that she is the problem.This is the way!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 06:22 AM |
| 16 | I'm not even slightly gay, but I can't imagine hanging around grown men after seeing stuff like this.Me too. They probably feel obligated to laugh at this meanwhile it’s making them feel like shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 06:40 AM |
| 41 | I'm not even slightly gay, but I can't imagine hanging around grown men after seeing stuff like this.Andrew Schulz is misogynistic trash. Avoid his content at all costs. Him and Charlamagne the God as he likes to call himself (another giant misogynistic and CREEPY dickhead) have this podcast together where they sit around shitting on women and bullying the one “token” black woman they have on the show. Ofc they have a huge male audience and the whole thing is just disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 06:33 AM |
| 30 | they don't even hide it (a collection)This is a good idea. I might literally make one of these too so the next time I have the bright idea to speak to a guy I can look at these and remember what the fuck kind of monsters I’m dealing with | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 05:59 PM |
| 172 | What happened to just saying a woman is pretty or attractive...?Now it’s sexual AND violent with porn normalizing BDSM. Fucking depressing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 01:30 AM |
| 4 | It's hard to meet HVW and have fulfilling female friendships.100% this. As you level up in terms of your job and experiences you meet less and less women like the OP describes. I have a great circle of BFFs who are all accomplished women and they are incredibly supportive and loving of one another. All the older and wiser women I’ve met have been incredible mentors and guides for my growth as well. By far, my healthiest and most beneficial relationships have been with other women in my life. The last time I saw the type of PICKME behavior OP describes was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 01:23 AM |
| 2 | Why Women Shouldn't Pursue MenAlso beware of the high levels of scrote and pickme activity in the comments of the article | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 03:03 AM |
| 332 | How do y’all feel about long engagements? I feel that if after 2 years of engagement y’all ain’t married, it’s not going to happy and it’s most likely doomed.“He’s a great dancer and I’m a sucker for great dancers. But he didn’t even get my number. Over the next six months we kept running into each other. [One night], my best guy friend walked up to him and said, "This is Olivia’s number. Use it." That was the beginning.” Enough said.... This relationship was doomed from the beginning | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 03:46 AM |
| 11 | How a real HVM prioritizes the woman in his lifeI personally agree, maybe an unpopular opinion but I see a lot of codependency in relationships around me and I find it alarming. I've read that over 90% of Americans are in codependent relationships. Of course this is also circumstantial, and what needs to be taken into account is what your partner does for work as well as the nature of the conversation, e.g. replies should be quick for urgent questions/emergencies/etc, and whether they are making time for conversations with others and not you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 12:24 AM |
| 327 | Wahmen bad for... *checks notes* having hobbies?Lol like they’re any fucking different with their porn watching, video game playing, fishing, binge drinking hobbies. This scrote can fuck right off to hell | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 11:44 PM |
| 1 | An elite FDS song to vibe toUltra-high-net worth-individual | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 06:21 AM |
| 69 | Don’t Allow a Man’s Talent/ Genius to Cause You to Forget Your OwnSaved!! Fantastic post. Men are socialized to be entitled and overconfident so they often also “sell” themselves as being more impressive than they really are. We have to do the hard work of trying to evaluate them with as much objectivity as possible ESPECIALLY when we are attracted to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 06:04 AM |
| 3 | You deserve someone who cares about you alot. 💚username checks out <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 05:19 PM |
| 26 | How do you ladies feel about a man who won't go down on you?Making these decisions is never easy but I’m proud of you for putting your needs and self-respect above your feelings! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 05:25 AM |
| 74 | How do you ladies feel about a man who won't go down on you?If you need to explain this to him, he’s not the one. He sounds like a selfish lover. I think you need to follow your gut here and drop him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 05:19 AM |
| 71 | So... This got me thinking lolThe answer is definitely NO lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 05:16 AM |
| 24 | I bought the berries & chocolate, dipped them myself, a card, flowers, & her favorite wine for < $30. My mom is supporting me during grad school & tonight I’m making her fave dinner + this surprise. I’m a broke graduate & I found the time to do this for the queen in my lifeLOVE this!!!!! 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 12:15 AM |
| 3 | Pickmeshas be likeYikes this made me flinch just reading it.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 03:30 AM |
| 13 | Marmoset dads >>> human dadsActually marmosets almost always give birth to twins and you’ll often have both twins attached to the mom, with the dad and siblings interceding to carry the babies when the mom is tired. They are actually one of the few species of primates that have life-long pair bonds. As an aside, most primates, including chimps (our closest living relatives) exercise some form of “polygamy”. I would recommend the book Demonic Males by Richard Wrangham (primate expert and tenured professor at Harvard). He ex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 03:09 AM |
| 47 | Marmoset dads >>> human dadsI worked with them for many years... this is not the whole truth. The moms do the vast majority of the carrying and care actually... although it’s true that they are pair bonded and the males don’t stray. Just like medium value human males the male marmosets here are just doing the bare minimum LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 12:20 AM |
| 9 | What posts do you enjoy seeing on FDS and what would you like to see more of?Yes agree - while I’m not big into the text screenshots I think the reposts from other subs are a good demonstration and warning as to how a woman’s life can devolve after making a series of concessions/sacrifices to see the “good” in a man instead of making decisions in her own self-interest | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 02:45 AM |
| 9 | What would you do if a NVM took you to a grocery store and gave you $50 on your first date? I’d take the money and go straight home.😂😂😂 underrated comment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 05:18 AM |
| 3 | Why is this a thing?There’s actually been a study done on how when men hear others men’s voices they process them for what they are but when they hear women’s voices it’s like they’re LITERALLY FUCKING HEARING MUSIC | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 06:42 AM |
| 16 | Might be obvious, but...It’s a sad face lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 05:13 AM |
| 9 | Barely literate scrote 'compliments' my feminist palI’m ded @ this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:34 AM |
| 12 | I can't stopHaha apparently we gotta start photoshopping girls bringing lawn chairs onto these fields now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Just because a decision doesn’t feel good, that doesn’t mean it’s not the right one. Just because a choice is hard to make that does not mean you don’t have choicesBasie I end up saving all of your posts on here! Thanks for the high quality content ✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 08:16 PM |
| 3 | NYC woman finds love on OkCupid - confirms what we already know about OnlineDating (OLD). OLD is one of the most effective tools you have in your "2020 dating toolbox". It WORKS, ladies. Be selective, be RUTHLESS, be persistent, and TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM MEN, WHO ARE A PENNY A DOZEN ON OLD APPS.Fair enough, I see your point. I think the risk-level associated with vetting and dating a stranger with no shared social context can more intimidating/scary for women. At least I have felt that way. But there definitely are certain red flags that are really easy to pick up on men’s profiles | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:21 AM |
| 13 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereYou are seriously unhinged. Was one comment on this post not enough to get your point across? Also if you’re going to get on this sub and start calling other members bitches for sharing their perspectives from their lived experiences please just go ➡️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:59 AM |
| 17 | NYC woman finds love on OkCupid - confirms what we already know about OnlineDating (OLD). OLD is one of the most effective tools you have in your "2020 dating toolbox". It WORKS, ladies. Be selective, be RUTHLESS, be persistent, and TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM MEN, WHO ARE A PENNY A DOZEN ON OLD APPS.Nah, one-hit wonder stories aren’t a pragmatic reason to wade through the cesspool that is OLD as has been corroborated by literally thousands of women’s negative experiences on here but you do you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:05 PM |
| 5 | How to date men less smart than youI love this answer. I think the notion that intelligent men are particularly low EQ is misguided. Most men are low EQ across the board. Don't lower your standards OP! Date someone that you find intellectually stimulating (however you want to measure that) AND who is kind and loving. Yes, they exist. And on the flip-side, dating guys who are less intelligent than you can you put you in situations where you have to deal with their negging and insecurities. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:24 AM |
| 43 | Don’t Let Men Dictate Your Life DecisionsUgh and why is she sitting on the internet asking for more MEN's opinions to validate her own choices? SMH sis follow your gut here you know what do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:00 AM |
| 9 | Are you f’ing kidding me?!Sorry but at her age to be acting like that, she is a giant clown | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 05:23 PM |
| 3 | While this advice is well intentioned, it misses how women have to vet men ruthlessly because they are users and abusers. This is what pickmes think when they are chasing a man and being “equal” in the relationship. Don’t fall for it ladies.Exactly. You can come from a place of “love” once you’ve ascertained that this person is worthy of it and capable of giving you the same love back. This lady’s advice just looks like a surefire way to encourage codependency | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 10:44 PM |
| 41 | human scum justifies cheating on fiancee because she is unsexy pregnantThe fact that men aspire to be like Don Draper and that other jackass Jordan Belfort makes me sick to my stomach. Both of those characters are despicable scum and these men out here who idolize them are really just showing their whole asses | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 09:41 PM |
| 26 | Women sacrificing their last name and taking husband's last name indirectly treats the wife as a property of the husband. Are the ladies here in FDS still willing to take their husband's last name after marriage or do they consider last names mixing/blending as an option as a sign of equality?I’m pretty sure I will keep mine, although I don’t mind the idea of hyphenating. I personally don’t want to lose my family identity when I choose a partner, especially because my parents are very hard-working immigrants who enabled my successes. Another consideration for female professionals (esp. published authors) and entrepreneurs is that their names can be inextricably associated with their work, in which case changing their last name might be a less favorable choice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 04:44 AM |
| 25 | He can’t be a clown without an audienceVery true. But I think this post is helpful for the ladies that end up draining their energy in the “analysis paralysis” of trying to figuring out why a guy is the way he is. Sadly, there sometimes just won’t be any retribution for these losers and expunging them from our brains can be a huge step towards finding our peace | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 09:35 PM |
| 7 | Stay awareYep Lundy says abusers end up fooling therapists too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 05:10 AM |
| 7 | Local man can't handle the fact his girlfriend is smarter than himIM CRYING LMFAO HAHAHAHAHAHHHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHA WHO IS THIS QUEEN | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 04:11 AM |
| 54 | YESSSSAnd an accomplished lawyer to boot! Love her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 04:40 PM |
| 3 | When he calls you a “good woman”Been there girl. You hit the nail right on the head. Meaningful compliments require some forethought from a man about your unique qualities that he values. Any weird generic behavioral conditioning shit like this is sus. Glad you’re rid of his ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 05:36 AM |
| 13 | Don't fall for "You're the only one who understands me."Ahh yes.. I’ve heard another variation of this. “I don’t trust most people... but I trust you.” 🙄 Even when they’re “complimenting” you narcs have to make it about themselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 05:49 AM |
| 9 | I know he fuckin’ lyin’ 😂😂😂😂Omg I’m fucking dying | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 05:42 AM |
| 2 | Queen Calanthe from the Netflix Witcher series appreciation postOMG YES I AM OBSESSED 😍😍😍😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 04:58 AM |
| 5 | SRS Question: Women who believe in manifestation techniques, where is your HVM?Thank you 👏🏽 I believe developing spirituality can be really powerful but I see a lot of women pushing pseudoscientific nonsense in the comments sometimes. There’s no magical substitute for using good logic and putting in hard work | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 09:35 PM |
| 44 | Imagine the discussion the Netflix bosses had about promoting "Cuties"I cancelled my subscription this morning and I let them know exactly why. These companies need to be hit in the pocket where it hurts them the most. I get filled with dread thinking about how the normalization of pedophilia at this scale now only indicates that the problem is going to get worse and worse. If something so EXPLICIT is now subject to DEBATE it won’t be long before it’s part of the acceptable mainstream. A lot of psychopaths working at the top of power hierarchies in business, polit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:52 PM |
| 73 | It’s a wrap!!!!Good job!!! Now enjoy your journey of good mental health, peace, and prosperity 😌🧘♀️🌅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 11:29 AM |
| 9 | I liked you better when you were miserable👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 01:55 AM |
| 2 | How often should he text?The answers here are great and I think what a woman deems sufficient communication is going to vary somewhat based on her personality and needs. If you are looking for structured guidance in this area (particularly in the early stages of getting to know someone) The New Rules does a good job with that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 06:34 PM |
| 59 | Women are taught to be a “ride or die” and stick by men no matter what. Meanwhile, a man would never put up with half the things this woman has been through!The way he keeps talking about “the infidelity” and all of the other issues HE created in third person is ridiculous and sad. Take some damn responsibility for your actions 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 12:30 PM |
| 8 | AngerWow yes - amazing comment!!! Saved!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 03:47 AM |
| 35 | Of course LVM don’t want to seek help — they’ve been brought up thinking that they’re great!I think it’s interesting that men’s contributions to a relationship are often “fiscal” (at least traditionally that has been the case) and so they seem more tangible than the emotional and physical labor women pour into their relationships. Because it is difficult to quantify that type of labor it is easy for men to dismiss it or in the worst case scenario, not even acknowledge that it exists. Women sacrifice their own identities to play the supporting character in men’s own movies. I’m glad we … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 03:30 AM |
| 56 | Of course LVM don’t want to seek help — they’ve been brought up thinking that they’re great!Excellent post! Saved - thank you so much. I actually had a related experience in a prior relationship with a man who would frequently try to siphon energy and attention from me towards his “mental and emotional struggle” which was really just a method he used to monopolize my time and control and isolate me. I can especially relate to the part about confronting these types of men about seeking professional help - they often eschew it. Men love calling therapy “useless” or “stupid” because they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 03:17 AM |
| 15 | Example #583 of a LVM⬅️⬅️⬅️Trash taking itself out!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 03:22 PM |
| 25 | Please tell me this is not real - whyyy would anyone EVER take that man back?Imo you have to pick and choose advice from almost all the youtubers mentioned on this sub, including Shera, Chloe, Shallon, and Anna bey. I think elements of their videos are super FDS and then other elements are really not aligned with FDS (i.e. encouraging sugaring, discouraging women from focusing on their degrees and rather emphasizing “femininity” to attract a man, etc). I think those resources are best for discerning members of FDS who can pick and choose the advice that best suits their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:03 PM |
| 9 | “I hate small talk” = I hate putting in the effort required to have authentic emotional intimacy. So, rather than earning your trust, I intend on acting annoyed by your walls/boundaries and prying into your psyche because I feel entitled to your immediate trust.That’s why it’s really important to date only after you’ve otherwise built a happy and satisfying life for yourself. That way time spent with another man isn’t framed as an “escape” from your life but rather as something that can either add to or subtract from an already fulfilling one. Otherwise, it is too easy to become entrapped by manipulators and narcs who are looking for women to prey on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 09:24 AM |
| 6 | What common bio phrase you’re tired of seeing on OLD?LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 01:55 PM |
| 91 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupAgree and this usually has to do with internalized racism which I’m in no mood to deal with | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 11:43 PM |
| 32 | Just a little PSAI knew of a couple (unmarried) in which the guy would manage his girlfriend’s finances 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 07:02 AM |
| 2 | What subs should we stay away from?OLD = online dating | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 10:03 PM |
| 5 | Dalma Heyn On How Women Change After MarriageThis is a really good point and I felt like the way she framed the marriage problem for women as a “mystery” rather than as a consequence of what the patriarchy wants was dated and off-base. But the interviewer is also male and I think she could be hedging her language in the interview so as not to “offend“ which is just another thing we are constantly conditioned to do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 08:28 PM |
| 6 | I’d rather be single forever. Who the heck would ever want this life?!LMAOOOOOOO 😂😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 07:11 PM |
| 16 | Ok dude, but what do you have to offer...?👸🏽💅🏽🚮 are in regular rotation now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 02:31 AM |
| 68 | Ok dude, but what do you have to offer...?Ew I recoiled 🚮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 12:42 AM |
| 2 | Is not driving or having a car a dealbreaker?Hey, I just want to chime in here because I am also 24 and in the exact same situation as you lol. My dad is actually a taxi driver and was also quite verbally abusive in the car towards me growing up. A lot of those negative memories bother me from time to time and I put off getting a license as way to kind of push away some of those memories. However, I have decided it's something I'm going to do on my own terms to empower myself. Try to frame it as a way of bettering yourself by developing a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 04:24 AM |
| 2 | Ladies don’t feel obligated to put your life at risk for male violence. This is their fight.Arrested for previously shooting a pregnant woman?? Can you link this I’m not seeing it anywhere | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 04:46 PM |
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