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Because most countries won't let children starve.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:26 PM
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If parents encourage it then it will become uncool. I think there's lots of opportunity for kids to learn to socialize without drugs and alcohol. Although I say that as someone who partied a lot in high-school...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:42 PM
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Online dating isn't the only way. And yeah I'm sure it is harder, they turn it into blaming and hating women though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 08:57 PM
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It used to be that a teenage guy would struggle, but eventually after getting better at socializing, growing into his looks etc he'd be fine. Now that kid goes online and hears that he shouldn't bother because women are shallow whores who will only fuck Chad and are incapable of loving him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 08:35 PM
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Yeah I'm not trying that as a dorky looking short guy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 07:21 PM
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What truth do you think we are trying to censor? I tell people to get off the internet and learn to socialize. The apps are shit. I don't pretend they're not. There's a whole world out there though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 07:13 PM
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Oh well. I'll stick with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 06:59 PM
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Yeah I'd say the teenage girl equivalent is getting really into social justice and gender identity stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 06:59 PM
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Theyre not learning from experts. They're learning from bitter virgins who learned from bitter virgins who learned from some youtuber giving his uneducated opinion on the results of badly done studies half the time. There's no truths being censored. This place is just full of sad, lonely men. It doesn't help them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 06:57 PM
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Most of them have "normal" girl problems amplified by their internet habits. Stuff like "I'm 16 and haven't had a girlfriend yet" or "I'm still a virgin in college" But the echo chambers don't help, they just make it worse. They start ingesting all these terrible takes, start seeing women as the enemy and get pushed even further from having a meaningful relationship or satisfying sex life
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 06:05 PM
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They teach what they heard from other virgins who heard from bitter lonely guys who heard from a YouTuber trying to make a quick buck.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 05:16 PM
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A bit of both. It's a symptom of guys feeling lost and left out and unsure how to fit into society, mostly introverted ones who spend a lot of time online. It is a disease too though. The crab bucket mentality is real. Any bit of hope is torn away from these guys. There's a huge subset that don't want other guys to succeed, they want them miserable too. These bitter virgins with warped perception of women are passing that along to more lonely guys and they become completely detached from reality…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 05:15 PM
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It's really depressing to see so many teenage guys get sucked into this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 05:01 PM
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Yeah just saying there aren't many blue pilled men at all, I don't think we are upping the virgin stats. Blue pilled guys seem mostly to be in regular relationships, not virgins but not fucking a bunch of random women either. Just boring average dudes
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:31 PM
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Blue pill men aren't very common here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:28 PM
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Virgins teaching other virgins the "truth" about women. Yup. Explains it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:18 PM
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The average poster being a virgin is not remotely surprisingly
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:07 PM
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Well what made you think there was chemistry to begin with before hitting on her? What did you misinterpret? What can you do differently to create chemistry?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:16 AM
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There's no way to make dating fair without taking away people's choice to just fuck/date who they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:44 PM
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I still know a lot of shitty men who assume all men are as shitty as they are. Lots of decent ones too though. More openness, more vulnerability, more men caring about their male friends beyond surface level.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:39 PM
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Yeah, all you can do is see where it goes. If I was single and a cute girl was being friendly I'd gauge the chemistry and flirt a little. If it's a rejection oh well. Good practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:28 PM
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Yeah it can be hard sometimes to pick up on girls hints. In my experience most women aren't overly friendly with random guys in general, if they are, there might be something to it and in the past I'd try and find other hints.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:19 PM
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I get being frustrated. Life isn't fair. Some people are just lucky. It will never be fair. All you can do is work with what you got.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:08 PM
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Were you attracted to the Muslim girl? Why did it fizzle out?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:06 PM
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They're not entitled to it. They're just lucky. Some people are born into wealth, some are attractive, some people are naturally more extroverted. It's mostly luck. Some people have to work harder than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:00 PM
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Whining that other people get something with no effort and you have to try sounds similar to entitlement. Sorry. And yeah some people will always struggle. Most just end up being late bloomers though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:48 PM
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If you're unattractive of course you have to work harder. You're not entitled to anything just for existing. Rejection is normal, it's all practice. You should learn from the rejections.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:39 PM
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You need to be decently social but I don't think constant approaches are necessary. If you're social and talk to women (platonically) with ease, eventually you just have chemistry with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:24 PM
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You're talking about a weird small subset of non women working women but I suppose they do whatever they want. They're obviously dating a wealthy man who doesn't care if they work. In reality these aren't the women people are talking about when they talk about how much work women do for the household.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 02:00 PM
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You didn't specify you were talking about housewives. Usually women work. That's why people are confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:56 PM
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Usually the woman is at work for most of the day too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:49 PM
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Finding excuses to touch me. Initiating one on one hangouts (unless we are already good friends). Acting jealous if I seem to be interested in someone else. Agreeing with all of my opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 02:34 PM
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My ex was like that. Everything had feelings. She said the guy she dated before me would berate her for it and call her stupid. What the fuck? Its innocent and cute. I loved it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 01:26 PM
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Getting excited about stupid stuff. It's cute. Caring about inanimate objects as if they had feelings. Plenty of hobbies and interests that get her out of the house. Speaking multiple languages. Doesn't try to impress me. Being sort of plain looking. Not really into social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 01:22 PM
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Makes more sense to judge people on their individual situation in context rather than things like "not very experienced"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 01:05 PM
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I don't even fuck women anymore. Dating a dude now. Still thinking about fucking my most recent female ex though. Can't make up my mind haha
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 02:39 AM
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Only virgin I dated was just boring as fuck. Didn't masturbate. Didn't want to give or receive oral. Had no fantasies. Oh well, I was a teenager and I was just glad to be fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 02:34 AM
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That's great. I don't think virginity plays much of a role in whether two people are a match for each other. I have a past and I just prefer dating someone with a past. There's no FOMO and we know what we want haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 02:27 AM
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I probably will. I don't want my partner to sacrifice his mental health either though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 01:40 AM
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My partner is a man too, it's a gay relationship. I don't expect him to stay if he's unhappy either. I wouldn't enjoy being in a marriage with someone who was not happy in the relationship. I almost married my ex (female) just due to social pressure. I definitely see it as a much bigger commitment now, but I still don't see the value in a marriage continuing when the couple isn't happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 12:43 AM
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My happiness is more important than a marriage. I won't stay with someone who makes me miserable just because we signed papers. I'm not married yet, but probably will be within a couple years. Marriage is a big commitment to me, but still doesn't mean sacrificing my mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 12:37 AM
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Well divorce is normal. I'd rather kids see divorce as a valid option rather than being forced to stay with someone who makes you unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 12:33 AM
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I don't think shitty relationships stuck together because of the law are good for kids either. Kids will grow up thinking that's what love/marriage is meant to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 12:29 AM
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Wtf. Kids deserve both parents if neither are abusive or neglectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 12:21 AM
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When I fucked a virgin we were both around 15. She didn't even masturbate and had no idea what she liked and was really self conscious. My favourite female partner had about 10 previous partners and I just loved her confidence in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 12:16 AM
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I agree. In Canada anyway you don't hear man talk about wanting virgins unless they're very religious. Most women are not still virgins by their mid 20s, neither are most men. That's just the norm. I've fucked a virgin, probably my least favourite sexual partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 12:59 PM
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I don't think them drooling over influences has anything to do with their ambition lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 01:26 AM
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Who knows? Does it matter? Just pursue what you do find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 01:16 AM
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Yes what you described is what most people would think of as a cold approach. I'm a guy and I've never done a cold approach (and the ones I see happen are more often than not cringe inducing), and I'm my experience most women aren't into it, but there's always some who are. There's nothing wrong with doing it as long as you're respectful and can read body language/tone well.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 01:15 AM
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You are allowed to find them unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 01:12 AM
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Most average looking people date other average looking people. Most women aren't out fucking Chads regularly. Most men aren't awkward virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 05:32 PM
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I can understand why the red pill is tempting. It's really easy, this is the "nature of women" and here is what to do with that information. Anything that doesn't work out can be dismissed as women being women and there isn't much need to self reflect. The self improvement all tends to be shallow surface level stuff. But hey, it works for some. I really don't care much how other people choose to live. I don't date women anymore, but I'll probably always be blue because of my insistence on seeing…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 01:28 AM
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That phrase isn't about treating women well, or implying you treat them badly. It's directed at guys who act like women are some alien species and have no idea how to talk to them. Don't put them on a pedestal. They're just people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 05:07 PM
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Yeah it's the worst. One of the hottest things about my ex was her own convictions. She didn't ever change her opinion on anything to match mine. There was mutual respect but we didn't have to always agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 04:07 PM
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I have a coworker who does shit like that. She will also be like "teach me everything about hockey, I told him I'm into it! Hurry!" she just takes on the personality and beliefs of whoever she is into at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 03:36 PM
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This is so true. People just lie. Men and women. Men will pretend to be LGBT allies. Women will pretend Ben Shapiro makes good points. As long as the person they want to fuck is hot enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 01:44 PM
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It doesn't even look good. Pretty much every woman I know who is into makeup looks better without it. It's dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 02:21 AM
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People regularly end relationships because the other person is no longer attractive or stops putting effort into their looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 01:11 AM
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I think society does tell them... that's why they do it. They think theyre ugly without it. Personally I prefer more plain looking women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 12:52 AM
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Some people work crazy hours trying to advance their career, or weird shifts that make dating hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 12:46 AM
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Maybe the men weren't "good" then, or maybe they had other focuses like career. Or maybe they were in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 12:42 AM
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I think the pressure with looks can be worse. I'm a guy, I shower, rub my hair with a towel and put on a t-shirt and jeans and I'm ready for the day. Women deal with haircare, skincare, makeup, fashion, shaving etc. It's a lot. Although I don't agree they should feel pressure to do all that, or that the pressure solely comes from men. It's just a general society thing I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 11:17 PM
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If nen valued women "bringing something to the table" then there'd be pressure for them to do so. Seems like men don't care, so I can't blame them for not bothering. Although I've yet to experience these women who bring nothing. My ex planned dates, always bought me little gifts, gave massages, took care of me when I wasn't doing well, supported me through rough times etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 11:08 PM
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If you don't want to date someone without hobbies then don't. It's fine to have standards. I've never dated a woman with no hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 07:40 PM
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Being on reddit skews things and makes a person think most women are manipulative psychopaths out to hurt and use as many men as they can lol. I guess it balances out other spaces that think women are wonderful.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 07:12 PM
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If both people agree to that scenario, good for them. Otherwise they should be prepared to pay. Personally when I dated women I liked paying and insisted on it, but other people like to split and that's cool too. Just be up front about your expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 05:55 PM
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Sure. If you can't afford a meal you shouldn't be having a date at a restaurant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 05:47 PM
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If any adult can't cook I'll tell them to learn. That's just basic shit to take care of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 05:10 PM
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And if they ate socially isolated I'd offer the same advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 04:49 PM
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It wouldn't make sense then to offer up advice to women here. But regardless, if anyone is struggling and theyre broke with no hobbies, it's a good place to start improving.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 04:48 PM
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Men are the ones complaining on here so of course it's directed at them. If women are fine with their dating life there's no reason to be offering up advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 04:42 PM
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If women were complaining about lack of dates/sex I would say the exact same thing to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 04:39 PM
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Agreed. Often the isolated ones will insist they have no friends and are royally unable to socialize though (there's always an excuse for why they can't do X..)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 04:03 PM
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If you're happy the way you are then don't change! The advice is only for the ones complaining. It's not even about gender. I'd give the same advice to women complaining about being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 04:01 PM
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Well you got me with the alcoholism. I don't think its at all related to opening up emotionally to people though haha. I honestly can't hide my issues so there's no use trying to or being scared.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 02:06 PM
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Most people fail at being decent a lot of the time, but if they're trying, that's cool with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:57 PM
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There is literally zero point to dating someone if I need to keep my guard up and have a poker face. That sounds pathetic. I'm not scared haha. I'd rather be single than live like that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:54 PM
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This sub would never believe it, but sometimes women are good people with big hearts. Not all of them haha. But some. Men too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:38 PM
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I'd rather find out early instead of wasting time dating someone who would use it against me. I'm too fucked up to hide my issues anyway lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:18 PM
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I'm Canadian. I take every sick day, paid leave, any vacation available to me. Fuck it. My free time is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:11 PM
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I don't think people should spend all their free time working or buy lots of shit. My hobbies aren't expensive. I don't work a minute more than I have to. Work to live, don't live to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:04 PM
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This is just one of those "depends on the woman" things I guess. I've been extremely vulnerable in 2 past relationships (about mental illness and childhood sexual abuse), and had 2 opposite experiences. In one case we were young and the relationship was toxic anyway so I should have known better. She used it against me. I was horrible to her sometimes too though. With the other woman I was vulnerable with she never made me regret it. Even when I hurt her, she still didn't make me regret it. We a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 12:57 PM
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Hobbies don't have to involve buying lots of shit. It's just about doing shit other than staring at a screen. Most people naturally have things they like to do for leisure, not having those things makes someone seem a lot more weird/awkward and that limits dating opportunities. If you have to force hobbies, or the desire to financially support yourself, there might be bigger problems, maybe depression. For the most part this is just bare minimum normal human stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 12:52 PM
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I agree that work, hobbies etc can't replace love. Being broke and boring is going to make finding love so difficult though. Most women aren't going to want to financially support a man or date a guy whose only hobbies are video games and reddit. Sure, there's always exceptions, but for the most part you need to have your shit together. Hobbies give you things to share and talk about and bond over. They show that you have your own interesting life without a partner. That's attractive. But honest…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 12:41 PM
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OP is in a relationship, hes doing fine. Lots of autistic people are still able to navigate social norms and do fine. Some can't, and that sucks, any disability is going to make things harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 01:58 PM
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I think there's 2 things at play with guys saying they've set their standards as low as possible. One is that ugly/fat girls are really just invisible to a lot of these guys. Their minds are too caught up in weird blackpill shit.. they learn what women are like from other weird virgins who learned from other weird virgins, they truly believe all women are at the club chasing Chad. Then you have the guys who actually have set their standards as low as possible... they are reeking of desperation a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 12:36 PM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:11 AM
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Not everything should be accepted. We should strive for self improvement.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:09 AM
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No it's not. It's having self respect. No one should accept that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:06 AM
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It's good to know what you want and have the self respect to not put up with bad treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:04 AM
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You can be insecure and controlling all you want. Don't be surprised when people won't put up with it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:01 AM
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Oh yeah for sure. I think it's safest to always expect to pay for the other person if you're inviting them. If tbwu want to split, awesome. If they don't mention it? At least you're prepared.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:57 PM
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The ones who never dated obsess about it the most and are more likely to get sucked down rabbit holes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:38 PM
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The wording of the invite matters I think - "I want to take you to dinner" vs. "We should grab dinner". I do think if one person suggests a restaurant and is the inviter, they should expect to pay. They may have chosen something out of the other person's budget. I even go by that with friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:29 PM
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There will always be women who complain about being approached. Just be respectful and take rejection like a decent person and it's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:25 PM
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I'm 29. I've been rejected plenty for my height. I think what I have going for me is being extroverted with a large social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 12:53 PM
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I think its much higher because I'd include fat people. I'm not saying people should fuck someone they're not attracted to though. I was just saying the generalizations are from observing hot people not ugly ones
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 12:44 PM
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I dated and fucked women before being out as gay. I've had 3 serious relationships with women and one casual FWB situation that lasted a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 12:41 PM
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Gives a little bit of wiggle room though. Being extroverted magically makes someone seem more attractive too but that's not really changeable either unfortunately. Too bad sexuality wasn't changeable. So many guys who struggle with women would do great with gay men haha
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 12:39 PM
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You're right, people have different tastes. Maybe they find each other attractive. I find some people attractive who aren't conventionally attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 12:25 PM
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I'll give you height. I'm a 5'6 man. I think various frames and faces can be hot though. Skinny dudes, in shape, mildly chubby. Not being "fat" is going to fix probably 75% of attractiveness and put a person above half the population. Then hair, grooming, clothing etc can put them up quite a bit. There's always going to be unfortunate guys with terrible faces but too many dudes on here use it as an excuse to never improve lol. Guys can be hot in different niches too. Don't have to be cookie cutt…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 12:05 PM
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I agree. I would not be in a relationship where there wasn't mutual attraction, I think it's way too important.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 11:57 AM
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Desperation. I see ugly women in public with ugly men all the time. They don't want to be alone, neither does the guy. If they're both okay with settling, great.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 11:50 AM
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Yeah I agree. I don't even think it's fair to either party to expect someone to date a person they're not attracted to. I just mentioned it because the generalizations of what men/women are like are usually because the ugly ones are ignored. I don't have a solution though other than "get attractive". I am in the minority on here but I think a huuuuuge part of attractiveness is controllable. Most of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 11:49 AM
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People tend to have blinders on when it comes to the behaviors and experiences of the numbers of the opposite sex who they don't find fuckable. Men and women do it on here all the time. They see what the attractive ones do, and generalize them all based on that, and end up with no empathy for the uglier ones because they barely even register their existence. The women willing to look past their appearance are probably ugly women that are invisible to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 11:41 AM
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You shouldn't commit to marriage if that's not the relationship you want. Why do you want people to convince you to do it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 05:27 PM
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Not many here but my city is also known for people being a bit vain haha
/r/AllPillDebate01/11/23 02:37 PM
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Depends on area too. I find living in a big city, fat people aren't all that common. The more suburban or rural I go, the fatter they are.
/r/AllPillDebate01/11/23 02:23 PM
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In North America most men and women are overweight
/r/AllPillDebate01/11/23 02:12 PM
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I agree with how important being fun and interesting is. I just think it can be accomplished by non-risky but social hobbies too. The most successful guys I know when it comes to women swooning over them aren't into risky stuff (unless you count drinking), they're just very extroverted and spontaneous.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 01:02 PM
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I don't think risky stuff is necessary at all. The problem is how introverted and antisocial so many are, with hobbies that mainly involve the internet/gaming. They go on the apps but they're average looking and boring so they fail. It's always "I never meet women". I don't think it's their fault if they are introverted so I sympathize to an extent... they are friends with introverts, and don't socialize in ways that involve meeting new people, but it is something holding them back in a big way.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 12:39 PM
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Been 3 years in a relationship with a large gap (over 10 years). No power imbalance or gender roles though so not as interesting I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 01:30 AM
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It's sort of funny when people write a long ass rant about something but have actually completely misunderstood that thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 11:16 AM
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I guess that makes sense. It's too easy to run out of sympathy though when they make excuses for every assholeish thing the guy does.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 10:30 PM
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I think there's lots of cases where the abusers are manipulative or don't show their tendencies until later in the relationship. But Jesus, I know some women who just choose the worst men and you can tell as soon as you meet the dude he's a piece of shit. I really wonder why they ignore it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 10:27 PM
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I can't tell which is better, the former or latter
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 10:54 PM
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Yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 02:03 AM
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I'm just really fascinated by the hetero dating dynamics. I've never been told I have it good because I'm gay before, that's new
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:54 PM
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I'm gay so I don't really know. I've dated women but it was a while ago. I've ever felt settled for with my long term partner though
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:39 PM
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I hope you don't feel settled for
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:33 PM
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Because it doesn't make them feel desired or special, just settled for.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:26 PM
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Women usually want to feel special, like the man chooses her instead of other women
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:10 PM
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Desperate people make you feel like you're just a warm body to fuck. They don't want YOU, they want anyone and you'll do. That's not very appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:01 PM
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I'm a guy lol. I've seen the way guys who constantly watch porn are though, compared to guys who watch it a normal amount
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 03:28 PM
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Okay. Just the type of complaint I hear. I've noticed I'm turned off by men who are reeeally into porn too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 12:37 PM
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There's a lot of men who grew up constantly watching porn and it affects their ability to have a healthy sex life. Either nothing can compare to the dopamine from porn, or they got death grip, or they struggle with dating someone who doesn't behave like a porn star, or they're constantly after things they see in porn like anal and 3somes and stuff that otherwise compatible women might not be into. That's my guess for one of their big issues anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 11:48 AM
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Makes more sense. Still doesn't seem useful to frame it based on how attractive you believe women should find these men though.
/r/AllPillDebate24/10/23 08:35 PM
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The title is about men and women if equal attractiveness, I was wondering why the hell it matters if random men consider them equal if women don't. I always see BP talk about men based on how attractive they, as straight men, consider them instead of based on how attractive women consider them. It is a completely useless way to frame it. The only measure of attractiveness that matters is coming from the people they want to fuck. Whether women will fuck sub-10s is a different question.
/r/AllPillDebate24/10/23 08:25 PM
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But why use a rating scale that doesn't translate to real life? That's qhat I'm confused about. Who cares if other straight men think a guy is a 7 when women think he's a 5? It seems totally useless to use anything other than what women think.
/r/AllPillDebate24/10/23 08:14 PM
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Surely the only measure that matters is the opinion of the opposite sex though, no?
/r/AllPillDebate24/10/23 08:09 PM
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Or you could explain what you mean since it doesn't make sense
/r/AllPillDebate24/10/23 07:53 PM
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If the women don't find them attractive but they find the women attractive then it doesn't sound like they're equal attractiveness
/r/AllPillDebate24/10/23 07:30 PM
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You guys make straight relationships sound so depressing. Men should have self respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 01:14 PM
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Drugs were always part of my social life, it probably made things easier honestly. Even as a teenager, my older brother always had access to stuff and people wanted to be around ne because of it.
/r/AllPillDebate23/10/23 04:07 PM
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I've made some of my best friends while smoking weed outside of a bar in my early 20s and offering to share.
/r/AllPillDebate23/10/23 02:01 PM
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I go to coffee shops sometimes with my sister but I usually socialize at bars
/r/AllPillDebate23/10/23 12:57 PM
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Yeah. I meet new people all the time when I go out.
/r/AllPillDebate23/10/23 11:57 AM
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I go out every weekend. Bars, restaurants, coffee shops etc are always full of people.
/r/AllPillDebate23/10/23 11:56 AM
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I dunno. Most of the people I knew with strict parents back then seem t9 be doing fine. Even better socially than me, who did party and date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:27 PM
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I don't think 18-20 is too late for socializing and partying and dating. Personally, I did it all in middle school/high school, but I've known people with strict parents who didn't do any of that until university and they're socially completely normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:17 PM
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I think girls can be pretty, from an aesthetic standpoint I guess? And sex can be fun with them I guess but I don't prefer it and I'd never seek it out. I was sort of just going through the motions doing what I thought I was supposed to be doing. I don't think I was sexually attracted to them. Last girl I was with before just accepting I was gay was awesome she pegged me a few times haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 11:54 PM
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If you like em, go for it. Be safe though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 11:50 PM
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Me either. I'm far from alpha. I'm a gay bottom lol. I've dated women somewhat successfully in the past though, before accepting I was gay. Honestly find gay men much harder to please. Thankfully in a long term relationship now because fuck grindr it's a cesspool
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 11:44 PM
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They'll be in for a shock when they realize there's a lot of really fucking shallow gay men lol and that guy men put a shit ton of importance on looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 11:36 PM
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As a gay guy, most of the "straight" guys on Grindr are married to women, not weird blackpill types or virgins. I really don't notice this being a thing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 11:23 PM
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Men. Check in on your make friends. Take notice if they withdraw socially. Talk about your feelings and be vulnerable with them so they can do the same. Hug them.
/r/MensRights20/10/23 01:58 PM
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I was a horny teenager and we were both shitty to each other but at least it was sex.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 03:27 PM
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Comments like that made me immediately have no desire to fuck her ever again, but somehow she'd end up begging me not to break up with her. We were both toxic as fuck lol
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 03:07 PM
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I've had mixed reactions from both genders. Gay men have definitely cared the most about dick size, but women were the meannest about it (although I think unintentionally sometimes, guys understand the importance of being sensitive about it maybe). My second girlfriends comments like "is it in all the way?" or "i thought it was going to be way bigger" hurt more than guys saying "sorry too small".
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 03:02 PM
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I still think it was easier before everyone had the internet in their pocket and dating apps took off.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 02:19 PM
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100%. I'd flirt a bit with girls on MSN messenger but most connection was made in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 02:18 PM
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I think it was a lot better (for straight people. I'm gay but was determined to be straight at first) before OLD. As a teenager yes there was internet and social media, it wasn't such a huge thing yet though, and dating sites were not popular yet. People hung out together all the time. So much more socialization was done in person. I had sex with girls that would never swipe me on Tinder. I couldn't imagine trying to heterosexually date right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:09 PM
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Coukd try and find a woman who isn't very into PIV, or just use toys.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 12:34 PM
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I got a 4 incher. I've had sex with men and women (only men nowadays). Always had major anxiety about it. Pretty much couldn't take my pants off unless I was drunk or high. Weirdly I didn't get rejected by any girls due to it, but I did get mean comments. I've been rejected by men for it, but they were nicer haha. I'm in a longterm relationship now so I don't really think about it much
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 12:12 PM
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Because the generalizations usually don't apply to women they wouldn't fuck. There are lots of women dating socially awkward men, ugly men, broke men etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 06:57 PM
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No cope for me. I'm a gay man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:16 PM
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I see women with socially awkward men a lot. Usually the women are socially awkward too. I'm a gay man so I have no skin in this game. Just often amazed at the lovers women date lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:15 PM
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I didn't mean to imply they're not, lots are haha. But lots of ppd dudes do ignore women they don't want to fuck when they make generalizations.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 01:28 PM
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You're a huge outlier. Most men would not fuck 98% of young women. A huge chunk of them are fat or even obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 01:27 PM
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Yep, women who aren't attractive are pretty much invisible and that's why you get crazy takes like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 12:21 PM
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So many posts on this subreddit should replace "women" with "women I want to fuck"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 12:14 PM
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You're not ugly though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 05:43 PM
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Definitely is frustrating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 05:42 PM
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It's not shallow to want an enjoyable sex life. And not e eryone has really high standards for looks anyway. I prefer average looking skinny or kind of chubby guys (I'm gay).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 05:30 PM
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It can be, but without sexual attraction it'll lead to a dead bedroom or a sex life thst isn't satisfying and that's not good for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 05:23 PM
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Most people are terrible at estimating dick sizes, even men. I have a small (4 inch) dick but I've had guys insist it's 6 inches.
/r/AllPillDebate11/10/23 07:41 PM
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Both love and physical attraction are necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 07:05 PM
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I'm a guy with 2 sisters. I shared a bedroom with one sister for pretty much my whole childhood. I'd say it helped not only to understand them but also helped not put them on a pedestal. They're just people. Flawed people. Anyway I ended up pretty gay but as a teenager I did date/fuck girls and I always felt comfortable talking to girls the same as I would guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 12:42 PM
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Not much different from the men. Some are great, some are terrible. My boss is a woman. She's very laid back, not a micro-manager, and I have a lot of freedom. My previous boss was a man and micro-managed everything. But I've also had female bosses who felt they had to be extra hard on people to be respected, which was bullshit and made people miserable.
/r/MensRights09/10/23 06:58 PM
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I agree with that part 100%. Just don't understand the demonization of people who don't want to date a fat person.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 04:20 PM
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You do you. I'm not physically attracted to obese bodies. My dick would not get hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 04:20 PM
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Most people wouldn't consider physical attraction meaningless. It's important.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 01:47 PM
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It's fine to want someone who wants you for who you are, but it's s delusional to think physical attraction doesn't matter too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 01:43 PM
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I personally consider shallow to be ONLY caring about looks even if it means a shit personality) but I wouldn't call it shallow to care about looks as part of the whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 01:31 PM
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Dumb. Sexual attraction is too important to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 01:20 PM
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The attitude of "you didn't want me when I was ugly so I don't want you now" is bizarre. Do people think attraction doesn't matter? It doesn't make someone a bad person or shallow for not wanting to be with ugly people..
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 01:14 PM
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Game of thrones had a decent amount of full frontal nudity of women. Maybe you aren't watching the media with full frontal nudity?
/r/MensRights05/10/23 08:04 PM
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I'm not talking about porn. Just regular tv/movies/games with a lot more female nudity than male.
/r/MensRights05/10/23 06:21 PM
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We are watching different media lol. And I'm not saying I mind the female nudity, I'd just appreciate it being more equal.
/r/MensRights05/10/23 06:18 PM
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That's common too. There's lots of female nudity in media though. Make nudity is getting more common but still lagging behind.
/r/MensRights05/10/23 05:39 PM
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Yeah for sure, very rarely nude though. Shirtless doesn't mean much to me since men can be shirtless in public too, it's not that special haha.
/r/MensRights05/10/23 04:53 PM
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As a gay man, I wish haha. Male nudity is almost unheard of! There is so much female nudity in media... or maybe I'm just missing all the naked men.
/r/MensRights05/10/23 04:40 PM
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