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3	Let's try a starfish approach to change. Save this post. And use it wherever you see somebody use the term "Toxic masculinity" Personally, I break down toxic masculinity in four ways: Antisocial behavior (cat calling, violence, etc.) Self-destructive behavior (suicide, alcoholism, refusing to seek help) Internalized expectations (shame and guilt for not meeting some standard, e.g. earning enough, perceived weakness) External expectations (exclusion or rejection for failing to meet others' standards, e.g. height shaming, stoicism) There are at least two problems with lumping all these together: First, a lot of people ten…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/03/21 10:47 PM
1	How America's Child Support System Failed To Keep Up With The Times : NPR Those parents who remain involved and don't pay often do so because they can't afford to pay, not because they don't care about their children. Out of curiosity, what about treating a paper abortion as a form of bankruptcy? I don't think there would be an ounce of sympathy or support for men who could afford to pay but choose not to, but bankruptcy as a method to erase debt (i.e. arrears) and either halt payments completely, or suspend them for some years would at least be an accurate reflection…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	03/03/21 01:11 AM
5	I'm tired of my emotional expression being co-opted and fetishized This reminds me of a random comment I saw somewhere (maybe on r/MensLib) where someone compared vulnerability to a scar. In certain situations, a scar can actually make someone more attractive. A minor scar on an action hero just turns them into a badass. No one wants to look at a major scar though, like something that's actually disfiguring or debilitating. Scars are supposed to be small and tasteful, because people can totally control that. Vulnerability is treated the same way. A tough guy wi…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	01/02/21 02:48 AM
1	Bruh, all I can say is, bruh I'll offer something a bit less academic: a compilation post of polls showing Republicans not being very rational. There's a ton of random info there, and it varies from ridiculous swings to little more than statistical noise, so I'll ask for your opinion on three: Democrats having the same opinion on Syrian airstrikes under Obama and Trump, but Republican views swinging wildly (first pic). Republican views on liberal and conservative issues being influenced by Trump's position (ctrl+f: position…	/r/MensRights	03/12/20 08:12 AM
-3	Accidentally assaulted by a colleague. Except it was an accident, so the entire concept of defending yourself goes out the window when the threat is already past rather than ongoing. The dude was completely justified in being angry, and she deserves disciplinary action, but threatening to kill someone shows poor impulse control. It doesn't sound like the injury was that serious in the first place. This sub loves reversing gender roles, so imagine if he accidentally hurt her, didn't cause any serious injuries, and then she threatened …	/r/MensRights	11/10/20 12:34 AM
-1	Why you can’t #believeallwomen There's something particularly ironic about mindlessly believing an implausible story criticizing people for mindlessly believing implausible stories. I feel like it started more r/AsABlackMan but ended more r/thatHappened and I'm not sure which would be a better fit.	/r/MensRights	27/09/20 09:00 PM
3	"Toxic masculinity" is thinly veiled misandry and we should stop using the term. I think a better argument on technical terms is the word homosexual. It's not an inherently hateful word, and it's actually very clinical; however, we don't broadly refer to people attracted to the same sex as homosexuals, we don't talk about homosexual marriage, etc. And why not? Because that's not the term they choose for themselves.	/r/MensRights	13/09/20 06:59 PM
-1	"New study confirms female-led countries fared better against coronavirus." Seriously, crediting homogeneous populations? And implying that the non-homogeneous groups are somehow not law-abiding either, nice. New Zealand is actually pretty diverse, FYI, and they've handled it as well as anyone in the world. A far more likely explanation is that a disproportionate number of island nations are led by women, and island nations have a massive advantage in controlling the spread of a disease and monitoring travelers. Taiwan and New Zealand happen to be led by women, but two …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/08/20 09:05 AM
1	Hawaii proposes "A Feminist Economic Recovery Plan for COVID-19". Contains dozens of women only benefits, including a higher minimum wage (only for women) and better healthcare (only for women). There probably isn't, but if the data they use is labeled single mothers, that's what they're going to call it. These are all much more legitimate critiques btw than saying it calls for a special minimum wage just for women.	/r/MensRights	06/08/20 02:41 PM
-1	Hawaii proposes "A Feminist Economic Recovery Plan for COVID-19". Contains dozens of women only benefits, including a higher minimum wage (only for women) and better healthcare (only for women). Single parents would be better phrasing, but I imagine there's less data on the living wage requirements for single fathers in a small (and crazy expensive) state.	/r/MensRights	06/08/20 05:16 AM
-1	Hawaii proposes "A Feminist Economic Recovery Plan for COVID-19". Contains dozens of women only benefits, including a higher minimum wage (only for women) and better healthcare (only for women). OP is full of shit, it's not what the commission called for. Actual quote from the document: "Raising the minimum wage to what experts consider a living wage in Hawai'i for single mothers: $24.80/hour." This doesn't say raise the minimum wage only for women, it says raise the minimum wage to a standard that can support everyone, including the relatively high bar for single mothers. If the minimum wage is high enough to support them, it benefits men as well, and also reduces their dependency on s…	/r/MensRights	06/08/20 03:53 AM
-4	Hawaii proposes "A Feminist Economic Recovery Plan for COVID-19". Contains dozens of women only benefits, including a higher minimum wage (only for women) and better healthcare (only for women). I fully expect this to be lost in this shit show, but your characterization of the proposal is wildly inaccurate. Actual quote from the document: "Raising the minimum wage to what experts consider a living wage in Hawai'i for single mothers: $24.80/hour." This doesn't say raise the minimum wage only for women, it says raise the minimum wage to a standard that can support everyone, including the relatively high bar for single mothers. If the minimum wage is high enough to support them, it benefit…	/r/MensRights	06/08/20 03:51 AM
3	A new feminist talking point that irritates me I actually agree with you completely on that point. Their framing can be absolutely toxic to discussion, and they're rarely open to changing the language. They think it's the responsibility of men to ignore the literal or implied definition of terms (patriarchy, toxic masculinity), and do additional research to find what they are really about, because they're totally not just about men being oppressive or assholes. For every guy that interprets the terms as misandrist though, I'm sure there ar…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	23/12/19 04:15 AM
5	A new feminist talking point that irritates me I mean, the dude just gave an example of how it can affect both men and women. Misandry + misogyny = sexism Benevolent sexism = a more precise (and established) definition for what's at work here Using an established term helps a.) demonstrate how widespread the problem is, and b.) make people aware of what they're doing. If women are complaining about a low bar (benevolent sexism) for men, well, they're probably annoyed by benevolent sexism setting a low bar for women too, considering they inve…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	23/12/19 12:12 AM
10	A new feminist talking point that irritates me I think the exact term you're looking for is "benevolent sexism," and it's totally accurate here.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/12/19 08:49 PM
5	A female PhD Researcher offers a critique of her experience with Feminism This blog reads like r/AsABlackMan	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	11/12/19 08:19 PM