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Discussionyeoldname/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 01:11 AM
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Because all of you are looking through this from the lens of contemporary dating standards and norms there’s no point in even trying to explain any further. You refuse to acknowledge if prostitution weren’t seen as it currently is things would be different, but I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:22 AM
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I’m not currently trying to date, I deleted tinder and hinge months ago, after realizing I haven’t gotten over the loss of my child and my ex. This doesn’t mean I don’t want to be loved some day or that I don’t deserve it. So kindly fuck off.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:20 AM
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Well, either way you sound super confident and engaging. I was complimenting you, didn’t mean anything negative only that most folks who have dating issues probably aren’t cruising around on a motorcycle or hanging out at bars
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:15 AM
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You sound like exactly what women want - confident + motorcycle. No wonder it wasn’t hard for you. On top of the fact you met all these chicks at bars? You’re a social, fun guy, that’s also edgy and dangerous with the bike. I’m gonna guess you’re quite handsome too. Men on here that have issues aren’t pulling up to bars in their Harley ready to snag pussy, they’re wondering what to say when that 1 out of a 1000 chick matches with them on tinder. You call them to set up the date? Bro you’re twent…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 01:53 AM
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I see, I think your perception that casual sex is the same as prostitution is an exception to the norm. Most men and women view casual sex obtained via tinder as far different than paying a prostitute. I’m not saying all men would see prostitutes AND raise families simultaneously, though I imagine who men choose to raise families with would be different if “casual sex” in your view included seeing prostitutes or was a socially acceptable norm. I guess the way to get my point across is right now …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 06:29 PM
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It’s not currently morally acceptable as you so adamantly are pointing out, furthermore you’re refusing to accept the possibility that making prostitution a morally acceptable behavior separate from dating/relationships/casual sex would change the ways in which those things operate, including men’s and women’s perspective of sex in relation to dating (and men’s apparent “all men want is sex”=men are bad if they accrue sex” narrative). It 100% would change the way men & women view dating and rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 05:49 PM
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You’re looking at it from the current lens - where you were raised that men seeing prostitutes is wrong. If it were normalized you likely wouldn’t harbor your current perspective. Think of it like being raised in a Christian environment where going to church is the norm one grew up with, but someone practicing witchcraft is seen as abnormal. I’m not saying it will remove it entirely, but were it a normalized activity like getting a haircut or getting a massage, most people wouldn’t grow up think…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 05:29 PM
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Aren’t they!? Some types of crime are just so fascinating for the amount of talent required. Art theft is really cool for example. Tons of awesome stories
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 05:14 PM
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I want to add another point I commented elsewhere - making prostitution a normal, acceptable means of male sexuality and expression by both men & women would make women’s dating lives much easier because they would, theoretically, have to worry less about men using them for sex (with its already ample availability) and manipulating them for their bodies. Dating would focus more on women’s character, their personality with their humanity being emphasized over sexuality. I don’t think this is some…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 03:59 PM
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Exactly. Many men’s emotional states would improve tenfold. & I think the availability - if both men AND women knew and had accepted the notion of - prostitution as the norm would actually change the way women engage with men in the dating realm. No longer would sex be the power they hold, rather they’d need develop their personalities and character in order to be desirable as more than sexual objects. It would remove the apparent creepy notion that all men want is sex from them - because hey, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 03:56 PM
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Men desire both sex and intimacy, and a sense of belonging and being wanted. When sexual urges and frustrations have a healthy outlet the frequency with which it’s attached notion of being desired/loved by a woman is lessened or it’s impact is lessened. If men’s physical desires are accepted as healthy and given a healthy outlet like legalized and regulated and regularized prostitution men wouldn’t be so “thirsty” and “needy”. Using prostitutes or nowadays, escorts, on a regular basis for compan…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 03:19 PM
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lol wouldn’t be the first time 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 03:37 AM
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This was a great read. Thumbs up
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 03:32 AM
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I got lost on the dark web and realize that crime is very alluring. The thought of being capable of counterfeiting money sounds so….fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 03:29 AM
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Well, it being a fantasy, you’re never gonna find out unless she tells you. Which means it’s probably grown from a fantasy to a desire. You’ll learn her character by whether or not she acts on her fantasies. Just like she learns your character by observing your behavior, not your thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 04:10 PM
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The studies showed women found some men more attractive while ovulating AND/OR women were more likely to engage in fantasizing. For arguments sake I’m just saying thinking someone is attractive is the same thing as fantasizing about them. Women are more likely to think some men are attractive at certain times in their hormonal cycle thus are more likely to fantasize. It’s not anything mind blowing and doesn’t mean women are designed to cheat. Again if this were the case the following wouldn’t be…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:14 PM
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Pick anything. Do you eat candy every time you crave candy? Do you masturbate every time you see a hot woman? Or more to the point do you rape every attractive person you see? This thread is stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 01:18 PM
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I don’t date men. If you want to find problems with women’s thoughts, go for it. I’m not about to waste my energy worrying about what she thinks about when she ovulates. I’m pretty confident in myself. If I find out she thinks about children, ya bets are off, if I find out she thinks some coworker is hot, wtf am I supposed to do? Why worry about this? I think women are hot every two hours I’m in public. It’s how brains work.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 01:16 PM
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M You’re arguing with me for the sake of arguing. You and I both know the difference between fantasizing and thinking and fantasizing as a form of thinking and acting on ones thoughts. And you know,m from your own experience they fantaiekee arise and are sissipate with self control which most adjtks an Doerr enthusiasts me reason why d y me z
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 08:41 AM
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Come for or cum from?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 06:45 AM
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Makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 06:45 AM
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Well 25 is a solid number. 25 forever!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 06:44 AM
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No, they aren’t. Your thoughts can’t shoot me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 06:43 AM
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Wowwwe Wikipedia says “2013 British NATSAL study found that gay men typically had 19 sexual partners in a lifetime (median).” So you’re definitely in the upper echelon of sex-havers
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 06:41 AM
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That’s not actually how it works, or every woman would cheat on their partner, every other human would be an alcoholic, every craving, thought, desire, or impulse would be acted on. Fantasizing does not lead to a thing happening likely more often than it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 06:38 AM
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Explain
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 04:18 AM
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I thought you should know.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 04:04 AM
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Fantasizing is a lot different than acting
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 04:04 AM
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Excellent #. Do you plan on adding more?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 04:02 AM
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Well, do you feel any way about this? Hope it was a good one
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:59 AM
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If it’s a rare occasion I’ll accept it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:58 AM
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true. and men are creepy pigs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:57 AM
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Rad. “In numerology, the number nine represents completion, as it's the last of the single-digit numbers (which are known as cardinal numbers in numerology) and the highest in value. That said, it symbolically represents a culmination of wisdom and experience, and buzzes with the energy of both endings and new beginnings”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:56 AM
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Solid
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:51 AM
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What don’t you like about this?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:50 AM
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Ya I would expect 20 to be the average
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:44 AM
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Right on, I too lost count somewhere between 30-40. But I’ve been single so long this round that I feel like I’ve slept with 0. I feel like PPD people (and those that answer) will probably have an above average #
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:41 AM
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look at you go, 10 by 20 is pretty above average I’d say. I think I’d only slept with 5 by that age. But then I went to college. Had I gone to college at 18 I’m sure things would’ve been a little different
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:38 AM
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I believe that would make the average 9, if it’s just between 15 & 3 but basically same thing :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:36 AM
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Check out your local community college yoga class, they are less intimidating than regular yoga places
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:26 AM
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What’s your n-count? Internet says average is 6. And I don’t believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:26 AM
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Being fat generally does mean you don’t take care of your body. That’s why it’s “overweight” and not “weight”. The average US woman is 170lb which is a BMI of 26.62. Which is considered “overweight”. If the average woman is 170, then that means her BMI is 26.62. Which is unhealthy. “Normal, or healthy, weight” BMI according to NIHS is defined as 18.5 to 24.9. If you are overweight (with a BMI over 25kg/m2) and physically inactive, you may develop: cardiovascular (heart and blood circulation) dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 01:56 AM
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Well, how does your point deny his? Of course he has to choose, just like I’d chose to work at NASA over McDonald’s if they recruited me. The recruiter/employer (woman) keeps interviewing potential candidates (going on dates). The more interview rounds (dates), the more likely the candidate is to take the job offer (rs). Depending on the qualifications (SMV + chemistry) of the potential hire (boyfriend), the offer may be more competitively presented (ie quicker intimacy); because the job has man…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 01:27 AM
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Very smart to realize this. In Buddhism it kinda relates to the concept of detachment. Or “outcome independence”. However, there are schools of thought that believe you CAN fundamentally change reality on a “magical” level if you learn to develop your Will and strengthen your ability to envision something to the point of manifesting it. If you look at thought as energy, no matter how small, it’s still a vibration or causing neurons to fire. Think about it. Read up on the Thelemic concept of Will…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 07:09 PM
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I think it’s great you’re trying to lose weight. Can I supply some advice? Convert your fat into muscle as you lose weight with dieting. This may sound difficult, but I promise it is not, you start with light weight and before you know it you’ll be lifting heavy: Go to the gym MINIMUM three times a week for one hour, and do cardio twice a week like hiking for an hour, and yoga once a week if you want. You must go to the gym. Mainly focus on: Squat. Bench press. Military press. Bent over barbell …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 02:59 PM
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Ya I believe it and I’d be curious to see (or some others may want to read) so may as well share When I was thinking about what would happen if men all revealed they really want to be loved I was picturing women rolling their eyes and mocking it, and considering how popular onlyfans, polyamory, and extreme feminism has become it’s not surprising. Women definitely are the more sexual creature in my opinion (and experience), and have pushed for sexual freedom and empowerment through sexuality for …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 02:52 PM
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It baffles me how fat US women are. I can’t believe the average woman is 5’6” 170lb or something like that. Applies to ALMOST all women: don’t be fat and you’ll be hot. Imagine how many women men would find attractive if the majority took care of their bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 12:29 PM
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This one would be super fascinating. I imagine it pales in comparison to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 02:30 AM
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I’m not saying they are obliged to receive a relationship, I’m saying they have the right to be treated kindly and their desires honored as being legitimate. There is nothing wrong with a man or a woman desiring sex, love, or a pat on the back - it doesn’t mean others are obligated to give them sex, love, or a pat on the back, but it would be nice if others were respectful enough to acknowledge it is a legitimate desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 02:29 AM
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Taking a sidestep, what if we just took all data from tinder, okcupid, hinge, bumble, match, Facebook dating, Christiansingles, onlyfans, whatever else there is and then use machine learning to analyze the photos and aggregate the data such that it can generate an artificial “ideal” man/woman. Scans every photo and generates a fake human based on facial structure, physique, and stats that the profiles reveal. Maybe split it up into age categories, ideal 18-22, 23-26, 27-30, 31-35, 35-40, 40-45, …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 02:11 AM
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Thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 02:02 AM
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I think the point is some men take it to mean their self-improvement is deserving of validation via acquiring sex/relationships - when the standard advice is to do this for you, regardless of the outcome, because you will become a better person either way, and not to give up on self-improvement because it doesn’t result in what you originally wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 11:06 PM
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Certainly not, but everyone is deserving of love and understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 11:04 PM
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Probably one or the following: to be loved, respected, desired, honored, cherished, valued, heard, seen, understood, empowered, etc…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 11:02 PM
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If men collectively changed the narrative from “I want sex” to “I want a loving relationship” it would remove a lot of barriers men face when entering not only the “dating market” but approaching women in real life. If women collectively grew to believe men wanted to know them as more than sexual objects they may be more receptive to a wider variety of men approaching or showing interest in them. If men were more selective about who they slept with and if both genders learned to value self-contr…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 10:54 PM
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Totally, well, I think neither gender should use hormones as an excuse for poor behavior. As you said it’s everyone’s responsibility as adults to take care of their side of the street. I’m just saying maybe a lot of men aren’t “emotionally intelligent” in such a way that they are able to recognize their sexual urges may be representative of an emotional need instead of just a physical one, and if they were open to exploring relationships with women as stemming from a place of desiring companions…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 10:29 PM
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I like this one
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:14 PM
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Right but I also wonder if the image men have of a Chad with regular casual sex as the ideal masculinity is a toxic misrepresentation of what they actually want. Like do a lot of men who cry for casual sex deep down want love and only express they want casual sex because they are caught up in their biological process and ignoring their emotional needs?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:12 PM
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For sure like anything take practice….or a fifth of whiskey. But it can be learned
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:09 PM
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What about instead of a scale of 1-10 you say - red=lion, Bull, gold, steak, etc “powerful” - yellow=squirrel, koala, bronze, celery, etc “soft” - green=dog, cat, silver, milk, etc “comfortable” - grey=shark, snake, spider, knife, etc.. “dangerous” Pick a color that best represents what’s in the image: (show images of people mixed with images of objects and words) photo of a 6’0” male that says “CEO” a. Red b. yellow c. green d. grey Photo of an axe that says “warrior” Etc Then you see what type…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:00 PM
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Seems obvious and easy to change the narrative if more men were open to admitting what they actually want is companionship not sex - I would venture to guess most men, especially younger, view masculinity such that not desiring love and having casual sex is preferable over desiring love and having a relationship, so think that’s what they want - especially if they aren’t getting either If men changed the narrative that they want love it would really put a lot of pressure and responsibility on wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 07:30 PM
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How do you propose questions are formulated to prove or discredit AF/BB? What questions do you ask and what sort of stats would back this up? You’d probably need # of partners prior to marriage for both the man and the woman; age of marriage; signifiers of “alpha” (height, social status, attractiveness) vs betabux; etc Would be very complicated and difficult, probably need meta analysis of multiple studies
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 07:27 PM
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So basically men just need to be honest one step further by saying they want to be loved or liked (which includes sex) by women as more than friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 06:52 PM
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For sure. I would guess 9/10 men don’t actually do the simple things that are suggested. I’ve personally seen resistance on PPD from men who complain it’s not worth the effort due to their genetics or some other excuse before they put the effort in. A lot of people, I imagine, take some things from RP and apply the mindset, but take other things like actually working out, socializing for socializing’ sake, furthering their career, etc..and ignore them. Resulting in them remaining the same except…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:29 PM
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This is the real answer. When I was a “player” (men would say, but women would say I was fun), it wasn’t because I was a Chad with my physique or job (I was most successful with women as a jobless out of shape drug addict alcoholic) nor was I a scientist about my use of words, posture, or even “length of eye contact” and other PUA techniques I’ve read over the years - what made me successful with women was the fact that I was brazenly confident and carefree. All I wanted to do was have a good ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:25 PM
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This would be great. But also how do we measure success? Is RP success only related to # of casual sex partners increasing or is it success if a relationship results? And what markers signify RP has been followed? Career improvement (how’s that measured), physique improvement (how’s this measured), social improvement (how..), etc..? What would be some sample questions you’d ask participants? Something as simple as: has red pill improved your dating life? It would be interesting to find out how m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:15 PM
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Or “I’d like to see studies that prove so-and-so’s prejudices are unfounded”?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:11 PM
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This would be interesting but it would be hard to have follow through or to get them to answer honestly about actual qualities over perceived qualities Like I imagine if they say they want a “kind, quiet guy” but hook up with a “loud, arrogant guy” they will describe him as “nice, and social”. I don’t think they would describe the men they next hook up with negatively in most cases because it would reflect poorly on them, even anonymously people are known to lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:10 PM
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Totally agree. I saw a post in askmen about asking women out and people were analyzing their wording so far as to say using the wording “I think you’re cool, let’s go out” is bad but saying “you seem cool, let’s go out” implies she has to prove she actually is cool so you need to make her doubt herself blah blah like just ask the girl you matched with on tinder out don’t think about it so much that such subtle nuances effect the outcome, you don’t want to go out with someone who these little tri…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 02:46 PM
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I think the average number of partners is 8 for men so that’s a little low, but I assume is a factor?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:54 AM
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Hm interesting there’s these: https://pleasurebetter.com/orgasm-statistics/ Didn’t read the article entirely but here’s some stats. Edit: wtf why was this downvoted
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:52 AM
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Can confirm - I’ve actually had more success with women when I didn’t have my shit together tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 06:05 AM
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What’s the cutoff of more being too much?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:22 AM
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I saw a study that claimed “the ideal number of partners is 12”.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:21 AM
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I know it was kinda rhetorical
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:18 AM
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Would something as simple as changing it from “rate this person on a scale of 1 to 10” to “rate how likely you think other people are to rate this person on a scale of 1 to 10” make a difference?$
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:16 AM
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Sounds impossible
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:10 AM
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Can you elaborate? Like commonalities/differences between n-counts and demographic?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:07 AM
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Well, what’s an example of an interesting study that has been squashed or underfunded? If you had unlimited resources what would you see studied?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:06 AM
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Yes pretend away. From comments below it seems this wouldn’t be possible. But I like the idea
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:05 AM
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Would be interesting compared to recently divorced and separated. And timeline of events. Ie men are more likely to start dating within x amount of months
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:03 AM
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Very specific. I wonder what the demographics are and how honest people would be, and if wording it a certain way would impact how they answer
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 03:59 AM
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How would someone approach what he’s looking for then?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 03:55 AM
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So there’s basically Red Pill (and black pill) and everyone else? What does everyone & red pill agree on? Or what does Feminism & Red Pill agree on?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 01:08 AM
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Right. So what does science say? What do stats say? I feel like the best dialogues on PPD topics should stem from “this is how it is: [science, stat, source]. What can we do to change/improve xyz.” Instead of the same topics over and over that even have science stats available but aren’t referenced and render the topic useless like “Dating is harder for men. How can men date better?” should be “Using tinder as an example, men have a 0.6% match rate when swiping right on 47% of women, while women…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 01:07 AM
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Makes sense. But what does red pill and blue pill agree on? Shouldn’t that be the foundation from which healthier dialogue can be sprung?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 10:36 PM
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True
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 10:29 PM
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Does PPD (or RP & BP & BlackPill & Incel) agree on anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:32 PM
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I think this is already happening (polyamory). I feel like 5-8 years ago OLD you’d see the random poly profile here and there, usually an obvious hardcore feminist, septum piercing, leg beard, thrift store clothes, just got back from a solo trip to Costa Rica paid for by her parents or went to college in Oregon or Washington State. Now OLD I see poly and the newly branded Ethical Non Monogamy as a growing norm. I’ve met tons of younger women both in poly relationships and taking advantage of Onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:31 PM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 03:47 PM
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How do I contact mod mail? They reported me for commenting to someone that their comment was harassment (they were saying some mean things that were inciting hate), the comment got deleted that I was responding to, and someone reported ME for harassment. Which i think is total bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:15 PM
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There’s a huge difference between saying you want an emotional connection while having meaningful sex yet still having sex with or without such a bond (most men and women), and requiring an emotional connection in order to have sex because it cannot be done unless it is meaningful and a bond has already been formed. Most people develop a bond after sex which is initiated by Primary Attraction with feelings coming afterwards in the form of Secondary Attraction. Opposed to demisexuals who do not e…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:19 AM
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No, generally speaking, demisexuals do not have sex detached from an emotional connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:13 AM
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Remove guitar/singing from him and he’s invisible. If you remove his hair in that photo I would say he is average. Or if you dressed him in baggy Walmart cargo shorts and a baggy obnoxious t-shirt he would become below average. For arguments sake let’s take https://www.exberliner.com/music-clubs/interview-david-tibet/amp/ David Tibet for example. Really any outsider artist/musician. I doubt they run into issues meeting women because they stand out with their talents & uniqueness. If you’re not a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 08:11 PM
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Yes I understand that, but I think the point many are missing is without my style and interests I would have been invisible. Any man can grow his hair, grow his beard, learn how to dress in a way that exudes confidence or fits into a niche style, develop talents like playing an instrument, or becoming adept at yoga, or painting, etc…genetically being attractive helps, but you can override your genetics by taking advantage of style. Think about someone like Bright Eyes singer Conor Obesrst. https…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:26 PM
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What made me attractive more than my face and body (face is average, & I had the physique of a dying homeless man) was more my style or perceived persona (when I looked like a heroin addict I got laid far more then when I chiseled my physique); and I knew plenty of guys like me that I’d have considered ugly, were it not for their style, talents, and confidence in themselves and their intellect, that also did incredibly well with women - but they were in bands, or extremely talented poets, painte…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:16 PM
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When I was your age I think my aesthetic could be described as “psychedelic indie” & confident in my sexuality, had some tattoos, was really thin, had interesting messy hairstyle or long hair. Sometimes I dressed like a 60s rock star - tight jeans, cowboy boots, psychedelic thrift store clothes - sometimes wore women’s clothes if I felt like it . If you saw me you’d probably assume I was a heroin addict in some type of band. You definitely would’ve thought I was confident; which I was, very very…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 06:47 PM
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I don’t think women are as demisexual as you’re making them out to be. They may EXPRESS demisexual traits but this doesn’t mean they exclusively act on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 05:43 PM
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I am extremely introverted. I can count the number of people I socialize or associate with on a semi-regular basis on one hand. I’ve never had a “crew”. I was always a lone wolf. Somehow from ages 17-30 this resulted in an incredibly surprising amount of women in my life, never did I feel I was missing out - cause I always had a FWB or a date lined up or girlfriend. Due to my personality and I suppose aesthetic (which has evolved over time), my introversion gave off an aura of mystery or uniquen…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 05:08 PM
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I thought in the case of love languages it wasn’t about how you wanted your partner to express it, it’s how you personally expressed it. So if your love language was acts of service you’d express your love by doing things for your partner & if it’s giving then you’d buy gifts. Has nothing to do with only dating other people with the same love language
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 02:49 PM
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No, I’m saying it is statistically actually the difference between 10 people per 1000 in 1970 vs 5 people per 1000 now. Google it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 08:13 AM
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I disagree. Dating for some men is not difficult. Statistically, dating for most men is difficult, even if you do all of the things you mentioned. “Most daters don’t feel like their dating life is going well and say it’s been hard to find people to date. Two-thirds of those who are single and looking for a relationship or dates say their dating life is going not too or not at all well (67%), while 33% say it’s going very or fairly well. Majorities of daters across gender, age, race and ethnicity…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 06:16 AM
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I think what’s “attractive” has also changed, the standard is different now. I’m also pretty sure the majority of women getting into marriages weren’t opposed to it over the last 60 years, or placed as much value on superficial traits as people do nowadays. Times have slightly changed. Regardless I don’t think most women were opposed to society’s promotion of monogamous marriage with an average man. Some stats: The long decline started in the 1970s. Since 1972, marriage rates in the US have fall…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 06:09 AM
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I wasn’t referring to marriage, I’m talking about before marriage. People are doing a lot before marriage. And it’s my guess that those who get married have typically had more partners than their spouse
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 06:01 AM
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Isn’t this basically what we see anyways…? At least it’s what everyone argues on here about. ie top 20% getting all the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 05:07 AM
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I think you’re right - they don’t care and they don’t want to care. What good does it do them?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 04:56 AM
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However you want to rationalize it, the point he’s making is if you want a relationship inevitably you will want sex with that person. Therefore having an abundance of sexual options available at all times increases your chances of finding one for more than sex. You really can’t separate the two. Who you choose to sleep with is in fact an advantage because it’s an option at all. How is this point not understood?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 04:53 AM
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I love all these comments that are basically saying “dating is so easy for women - it’s a major problem for them”. “Women have an abundance of sex and relationships available, it’s so difficult.” Of corse followed by “Men who can’t get dates are losers” some bitch said “pay up or get hot” - super helpful. But great job proving OP’s point.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 04:47 AM
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Figured you weren’t English. I’m actually not at a computer so I can’t easily search for videos right now But I wonder what you’ve tried that isn’t working. Cause online dating is really difficult, for anyone. Have you tried social activity based events you can become a regular at and get to know people over a period of time? Like swing dancing, volleyball club, rock climbing gym, etc? What about yoga? Or a political activism group? Volunteering? Speaking of yoga have you addressed your spiritua…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 04:29 AM
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It’s so obvious I don’t see how you can argue against it. I was in another thread making a similar point. For the sake of my point let’s pretend a man gets one match for every 1000 matches a woman gets. Look at it like winning lottery ticket = love. These odds are calculated using an online calc for mega millions: If you bought 1 lotto ticket you have a 1 in 302,575,350 chance of winning mega millions lottery. If you bought 1000 tickets, you have a 1 in 302,576 chance of winning lottery. And I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 03:27 AM
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LEG BEARD what does that even mean haha
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 09:24 PM
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I must be super ignorant then cause my mind is blank. Granted I can’t think of insults for men’s genitals outside of “small” either
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 09:04 PM
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Ya, I can give you whatever advice they are charging you FIVE THOUSAND DOLLARS for for FREE. That’s way too expensive. If they were professional licensed counselors they would only change max $200 for an hour session. Stay tuned, I’ll share helpful links tonight. don’t pay people shit you can get for free! It’s great you work out. So you focus on your body in a positive way. Now let’s focus on your mind. You need to start reading positive literature and philosophy. Start with Marcus Aurelius “Me…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 09:03 PM
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I’m not saying they don’t I just dunno if it’s as common. In the way we don’t hear anything described as “loose pussy energy” while we hear “small dick energy” all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:58 PM
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It’s gotta be whatever is the equivalent insecurity - men feel shame for having or being described as having a wee peen - do women feel equivalent shame about their pussy being loose? I don’t know if it’s the same thing as one could probably argue it’s more likely a woman will lose interest in a man with a small wee wee than a man would lose interest in a woman with a loose pussy. You hear women say 6”+ only but never or rarely does a man saying only tight pussy, right?…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:27 PM
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Haha this one made me chuckle and gag as I eat my chili for lunch
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:21 PM
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Sure, we don’t definitively know but we can infer from studies that certain things are generally, naturally true. Wikipedia: Instinctual behaviour, an inherent inclination towards a particular complex behaviour, has been observed in humans. Emotions such as fear are part of human nature (see Fear § Innate fear for example). However they are also known to have been malleable and not fixed (see neuroplasticity and Fear § Inability to experience fear). Congenital fear of snakes and spiders was foun…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:13 PM
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What’s the female equivalent of “small dick energy”?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 07:34 PM
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What’s the female equivalent of “small dick energy”?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 07:34 PM
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Except, “it’s natural for humans to be attracted to other humans who are kind and physically pleasing to the eye,” doesn’t seem like a dangerous statement to me. Or”it’s natural for men and women to be partially driven by unconscious, biological urges such as those effected by hormones - ie it’s natural for a man with low testosterone to also have a low sex drive” - when speaking of general, blanket statements that are neutral or objective but focused on scientific, psychological, or biological …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 07:31 PM
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I’ve never met a man who says any of these things in real life. And very few on the Internet. What you’re describing sounds like super religious nut cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 07:28 PM
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I agree with the main point that women argue their abundance of options for sex somehow makes it harder for them to find a relationship - which is total bullshit - as you say, if a woman doesn’t want to fuck you, she wouldn’t consider you for a relationship. So the fact that she gets to choose from a plethora of men who is most fit to sleep with simply means she needs to learn to be selective about what men and type of men will not bail after sex. Unfortunately they often sleep with men that won…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 06:09 PM
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It sounds like you need (1) to stop paying people for advice! And (2) work on yourself without women in mind for a while. Start weight lifting at least 3x a week. Start practicing talking to people in public in a friendly manner and learning how to socialize without wanting anything from the person you’re engaging with. I think continuing to ask for advice on PPD and dating subreddits may be helpful. But really it sounds like you need to become confident in yourself. Know that you’re worth it, y…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 05:26 PM
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I once had a “toothbrush” rule. Bringing a toothbrush meant the girl had developed feelings and wanted more than sex. So I’d joke with them “don’t bring a toothbrush”.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:28 PM
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I wish I knew of a legit service to recommend for you. But I don’t follow any of these types of posters/services. I think steering clear of any one that charges money for advice is a great place start unless it’s a licensed therapist. This YouTuber gives off a pretty standard dating coach scammy vibe. What do you think your main issue is? You’re not getting marches on tinder and hinge?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 06:58 AM
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Spirituality and/or religion SHOULD remove your thirst for sex or at the very least alter your perception on it and how you deal with thoughts surrounding it. It should become like any other bodily/sensory craving - an illusion to be overcome through objective observation and release - watch it arise, watch it cease. If you’re incel now you may as well become Voluntarily celibate and change your attitude towards why you’re not having sex. Worst case scenario you reach ecstatic union with the div…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 06:05 AM
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Seriously. This thread is stressful. Such subtle manipulations and pre-thought out means for programming their dates to qualify for them - no bro you have to assert dominance and use the word “seems” interesting instead of I “think you’re interesting” because “seems” means she doesn’t know if you actually think so, so will want to prove she is….like goddamn just ask the girl to do the thing with you.
/r/seduction09/05/22 10:53 PM
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And I learned today the average match rate is 0.6% for men and %10 for women (who have a highly selective swipe rate).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 05:37 PM
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🌞
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 03:45 AM
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Haha I dunno if that’s harsh or what but honestly after watching an interview with him it took maybe 10 seconds to adjust before he appeared normal to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 02:34 AM
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I didn’t realize he’s actually paying $7k a month. I personally have used escorts when I was making good money & $300/hour saved me so much time it’s not even funny how worth it it was. But I can’t imagine dropping $7k.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 02:33 AM
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While 7k a month for a ball sucking is pretty damn expensive, $300/hour is not if you’re wealthy. The time + energy + emotional investment you put into dating in order to get laid is likely far more effort & expense than having cash & establishing a time to do whatever you want with a woman of your choice for an hour in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 02:05 AM
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What’s a non-fuckboy haircut then? That’s like the most common short men’s hairstyle
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 01:41 AM
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What’s a paintbrush haircut?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 01:39 AM
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How does black pill reconcile with stuff like this? Born with genetic disfigurement but perfectly normal wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 01:38 AM
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Cause you’re not paying to pretend to enjoy anything, you’re paying to rid yourself of the feeling that you NEED companionship. Women can smell “thirst” a hundred miles away and feeling like you need to be loved often comes off as desperation even if your intentions are good. By using an escort you can learn to be comfortable and confident in your sexuality as you continue to put yourself out there in real life dating. It largely depends on how you approach your time with the escort, what “servi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 11:57 PM
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I’ve been lifting for 10 years. Changed my life. Highly recommend. Also, even tho I work out every day, to see the most massive gains all you really need is 3x a week one hour max. I just do it daily cause it feels so good. It’s not even a huge commitment when you get past the first month.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 10:42 PM
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For your situation I think first of all it’s necessary to recognize that your relationship with this woman has been dishonest - you haven’t been honest with her or yourself regarding what you want - in being her “friend” you’ve denied yourself the ability to be more than friends, which it’s clear is what you wanted. And, this person seeing you as a shoulder to cry on didn’t help your case. For your own well being you should have dropped her friendship once you realized you wanted more and she co…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 08:14 PM
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Finally: I think the point I’m making is if you were truly self-improved and continually in a process of spiritual development you would not be feeling how you feel. Furthermore if spiritually you refuse to progress, physically there are options such as seeing escorts or changing what you view as “acceptable” for companionship. A change of perspective could mean the difference of forever-alone and regularly physically satisfied. Tho I would urge you to explore overcoming the spiritual boundaries…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 06:40 PM
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There is nothing about life or the universe that is dis-allowing you to have what you think you want. I bet you, yourself, are preventing yourself from having what you want. Why won’t you become a regular client with an escort and develop a relationship that way? Why are you preventing yourself from connection in ways that oppose society’s preferred method? Do you really get ZERO matches online dating? Or is it zero matches you think fit the criteria of Looks Hot enough for GF? In your social ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 06:33 PM
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First I want to say you’re not a loser or a failure because life won’t “allow” you to have companionship. I don’t mean to get douchey spiritual and philosophical on you but it’s necessary The first step is one need accept the TAO. It is indifferent; it is the first cause, and without cause; with a name it is the mother and births Heaven and earth, without a name it is the father, blah blah etc The TAO - you are within the TAO. It is the river. You are in the river. You can lay on your back and f…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 06:29 PM
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Hey, I’ve now gone 3+ years without touch or connection. if that’s any consolation I think the importance of following these self-improvement guidelines, specifically the Spiritual side of things, is that as ones relationship with their G-d or Higher Self or Holy Guardian Angel or absence of God & apprehension of Nirvana or mastery of Prana etc or whatever manifests as ones means for spiritual progress replaces the need/desire for companionship amongst other body-mind desires. I’m not saying ach…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 06:16 PM
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Exercise is just highly recommended for mental health reasons. Changed my life personally. it’s a solid way to develop discipline and connection to your body, by taking 50 minutes 3x a week you transform yourself. Since you already work a labor intensive job then something like Yoga is probably easier and is just as good for you. The main point is to learn to control your body and push yourself. It’s kinda hard to explain why, but there’s a reason so many people swear by it. It’s not about lifti…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 04:30 AM
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Here’s some books: What The Buddha Taught by Walpole Rahula Meditations by Marcus Aurelius Raja Yoga by Vivekananda The Spiritual Guide by Molinos Tao Te Ching Google these + “pdf” and you’ll find free copies, for tao te Ching I suggest reading 20 different translations to get the gist of it. Or read “The Tao of Pooh” for insight. Molinos will be really boring, but it’s worth exploring. Also start weightlifting. Look up “Strong-lifts 5x5” program to start. I’m not sure what to say in regards to …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 03:52 AM
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Study/practice Buddhism, Raja Yoga, Quietism, or the Toa Te Ching. Or all of the aforementioned. Stoicism may help too. Otherwise how is the path towards self Improvement too difficult for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 03:34 AM
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Alright well, here you go. It’s complicated: improve yourself physically, mentally, and spiritually go outside socialize
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 02:55 AM
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I lean towards red pill awareness with blue pill preferences - if a woman exhibits too many red pill truths like blatant shit testing or rampant hypergamy it’s not worth using red pill knowledge to “game” them - the less game I have to employ to enjoy my time with a woman (so the more blue pill she is inclined) the more likely I am to explore a relationship with her. I think having to use red pill knowledge means there’s too unnatural of a dynamic where “maintaining frame” (RP) is the baseline o…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 06:28 PM
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I think it’s simple, if you’re of average looks you can do the following: - develop your personality - through everything here listed - study/read/always be learning - exercise regularly - develop a spiritual discipline &/or religious belief system - explore various hobbies and nurture creativity - learn to paint, draw, play an instrument, woodworking, etc - learn detachment and acceptance - do things for your own benefit not for potential women - further your career OR ensure you live your life…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 06:18 PM
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