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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 3 | I read a post just now and really pitied the OP.The concept makes me nauseous | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 08:16 AM |
| 1 | The one I am in a relationship with suggested something weirdYes, pretty sure. It's not that kind of thing, we knew each other before work and got hired there almost at the same time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Getting low effort vibes for Valentine’s Day..I'm getting 'been together for a few years' vibes. Also shouldn't he want to be exclusive after a month or so? He is taking his time. And you've been a bit too patient. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 09:55 PM |
| 20 | He Didn’t Lock Down Valentine’s Day & 😲 Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter (HVW/FDS traits)What a queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 09:32 PM |
| 38 | I really LOATHE movies/books that end with the female protagonist giving a chance to the guy she had "friendzoned", just because ONE guy she liked did not treat her right.Yeah. I hate books where the author is describing the woman like she is a mistique beautiful creature he can't understand. And especially when she is described as beautiful but not that smart. (A lot of authors from my country have done this, in books we study in hs) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 02:19 PM |
| 6 | ReminderExactly! Accepting this for yourself will hurt your soul so much and you will need to do a lot of healing into thinking back that you are worth a commited soul. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Last text was a week ago, don't buy their excuses lady, even if they're hot afThank you. Yeah, probably that attention rush he needs. F him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Friendships Between Men And WomenBut can you transition from fwbs to friends? If one is in a relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 11:40 PM |
| 3 | Last text was a week ago, don't buy their excuses lady, even if they're hot afI stayed friends with a former fwb and he leaves me on read to my responses! And would randomly shoot me another text like 2 weeks later. He was so much about our connection as friends but can't even bother to reply like a normal friend. I am going to call him out on his behavior next time. Even more ignore his message | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 11:38 PM |
| 1 | What are your goals for February to better yourself? Share your ideas, plans, and inspirations!Finish taking my finals Putting old clothes I never wear away, donate what is good Get myself some nice wardrobe pieces and lingerie. Start working on my graduation project. Do a certain awesome thing at work Get promoted Taking care of hair to grow it out really looong and go back to a color I like New makeup, get into contouring, improve technique Go outa few times with the girls Visit a cafe with a nice decor Iceskating Finish the book I am reading Go back to the gym once I am done with exams… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Having an FWB can be useful and beneficialI got one and he was too perfect from all perspectives and ticked off all of my boxes. Was cute, had a great job and perspectice and was loving and kid. His only flaw was not wanting to commit. As you can imagine it didn't end well. If you get one as you said he needs to have lover qualities but someone you would not date. Since I get attached to people I have decided to not do this again, but I am sure others can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 11:15 PM |
| 2 | Fact: it's unnatural for men to not chase. The hypothalamus region associated with sexual pursuit is 2.5x larger in men than women.Particular case: But if they say they don't want a relationship, listen to that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 11:12 PM |
| 2 | It's okay to not want to "try new things" in bed.While on this subject, those with partners do you perform oral or is it something a HVM shouldn't do? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 07:09 PM |
| 3 | Shitty men deserve shitty women"I think I can do better" been told that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 05:20 PM |
| 23 | They even recognize it!Shortly, he doesn't see your value if he wants 50/50. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 12:16 PM |
| 6 | This sub <3Same for me! This sub has saved me from any future embarassing pickmeisha actions and is constantly my support and safe place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 08:32 PM |
| 24 | When he thinks one date will get him a ticket to pound town.You don't go on coffee dates. They think you're the chick he will f for a 3 dollar coffee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 10:10 AM |
| 6 | ''Women have nothing to offer''I'm from EE as well, not willing to become a housewife and do the chores by myself like I've seen my mother do, since I will be working the same amount of hours as the partner. If we had nothing to offer then why are they going for the attractive girls when they look.. way bellow? A lot of them also get fat after 30 from drinking 'beer with the guys' and letting themselves go. We are expected to look good, slim, beautiful, AND earn money AND do chores. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 12:17 AM |
| 6 | Can We Talk About Lesbian Pickmeishas who are always outraged on behalf of men and have “advice” for straight women that’s always about settling for less? They are NOT your friends."Just because you have a pussy" I can also get pregnant and other diseases combined with emotional attachement and destroy my whole life and career so he can AT LEAST pay for a meal. Why would I even date a broke guy who also has mental issues most likely? Become his caretaker? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 11:09 AM |
| 1 | Texting in between datesThis is what girls do with their friends! At least in my friend group everyone has to text when they arrive home after going out. | /r/seduction | 01/02/20 08:13 PM |
| 15 | This is why we need to have high standards and vet vet vet! LVM value their dicks over human decency 👏🏾Having dealt with something similar I always wonder if he actually thought like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 10:30 AM |
| 3 | Sitting in your glamorous red robe in heels sipping wine after dumping a LVM sounds goodIt's not about the body though! Yeah she is goals but you can wear something you yourself feel sexy and like a queen in it! I'm definetely not as thin as she is and have my extra fat but I love my own curvers and would love to wear such a robe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 10:27 AM |
| 4 | Very important for those that don't feel "good enough"For my it was not abuse. It was unconditional love from both parents. Paired with a bit of traume of being fat from a young age and no guy liking me. So this is what I offer to partners, unconditional love if I feel like we fit paired with not wanting to let them go and fear of being alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 09:16 AM |
| 54 | Have you ever noticed men will date literally *anyone* once they decide they want a relationship?Yeah I keep reading stuff like, once they actually decide they want that, the first who arrives gets it. Thank god not all of them are like that and there are actually HVM who will recognize your worth from the very start. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Got over being a pickmeisha, now I have a man who treats me like a queenHappy for you! It sounds like such a safe 'environment' to be in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 08:33 PM |
| 7 | “ Words don’t matter actions do “although ....This is the perfect example where words matter a lot. Negative meaning words < - > good actions - > bad Good loving words < - > bad actions -> bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 09:00 PM |
| 46 | A small sign of a HVMAww that's cute! I just had war flashblacks of meeting this guy at the station closer to where he worked, so i went there after I finished work myself. He could've easily wait for me at my station or even at any station but he always chose to go by foot instead of waiting for me to arrive and we met at the half of the road kinda. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 10:14 PM |
| 26 | Jeff Bezos cheated on his wife who helped him built his empire with the woman who set up him up to get extorted by the National Enquirer 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️Damn only reading a summary of this is a whole ride on its own. Either way he is lvm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 08:21 PM |
| 7 | Jeff Bezos cheated on his wife who helped him built his empire with the woman who set up him up to get extorted by the National Enquirer 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️Can someone eili5? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 07:59 PM |
| 2 | Everything screams HVMIn all facets but I really liked this photo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 07:11 PM |
| 26 | PlatemeishaIndeed. It's so degrading. You need to know your worth. The guy can even be nice and kind but not want a relationship and you can always catch feelings then you are the own with the clown makeup. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 11:20 PM |
| 52 | What was your biggest Pickmeisha moment?I've accepted to be controlled by an ex. He didn't like me going out with my friends(during the mf day, not even clubs), wore only long dresses and loose clothing because I didn't look elegant in other stuff, convinced me to delete all of my social media photos where I was alone and stop posting photos because we should be private, made me argue with my parents over stupid stuff such as not buying a sofa so they would visit me less (because they didn't have somewhere to sleep), or not sleep in t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 01:53 PM |
| 17 | Just called it off with the guy I'm seeing. Did I do something wrong?He should've told you from the start he didn't want anything serious. It's even worse if he was open to something serious then he just wasn't just if he wanted that with you. Believe him and let him go. You saved yourself from months of pain if you got too attached. Idk what he said in the beginning that you didn't see long term capacity, but your intuition and logic were right, listen to them in the future. He can be good but not good to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 07:20 PM |
| 3 | I’m sorry...what?!The drink suggestion was bad enough to begin with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 05:30 PM |
| 68 | It’s tough out there for you fellas 😂Imagine if he asked her why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 01:43 AM |
| 4 | ConsequencesSis went off damn queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 08:59 AM |
| 12 | ConsequencesI cried and cried over them when it happened, thinking I was crazy and it must be one sided because I couldn't undertand how they could discard what I was feeling Oh gosh yes this is what I am currently going through, really felt love with this one guy who wants to keep searching for someone better, and it was painful to let him go because I love and respect myself. Obviously he still tries to be existent in my life but I've upgraded from free trial to platinum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 08:43 AM |
| 3 | Radical Change: Woman should ONLY accept casual sex from decent men who make them orgasm every time.It's a play with fire kind of thing. Really not safe for my feelings either so now I know to never try this again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 07:38 AM |
| 24 | Radical Change: Woman should ONLY accept casual sex from decent men who make them orgasm every time.My last fwb was doing an amazing job, gave me oral each time to make me orgasm and liked that, I loved to have intercourse with him as well. And he was a decent guy. Had to cut it off because of feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/20 10:59 PM |
| 3 | Men who string women along for sex are a special kind of evil.Preach! Good thing I decided to love myself and give up on that mess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 07:13 PM |
| 5 | This was on the Front Page. This is what a HVM looks like. This is someone who really values his partner.Can we talk about how the comment section is full of men saying things like " mma just not show my girl this so she doesn’t have expectations like this " haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 04:56 PM |
| 8 | Listen up ButtercupReminds me of how this one guy really seemed to have caught up on me liking pink a lot. Never did anything about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 04:06 PM |
| – | What's a polite way to tell a girl "Yes, I want bang you and cuddle you and take you out to dinner, but I'll probably cut it off after a few months"?Well then the issue is better to be discussed as soon as possible so no further feeling develop and to avoid emotional drain. I've been there myself. | /r/seduction | 08/01/20 05:43 PM |
| – | What's a polite way to tell a girl "Yes, I want bang you and cuddle you and take you out to dinner, but I'll probably cut it off after a few months"?Well just be honest and let her choose. It's better than promising something you know you won't do and hurt her. I will guess she wants a relationship and won't like this short term thing. | /r/seduction | 08/01/20 01:50 PM |
| – | I realized I'm too much in my head.So did you leave your gf because you still wanted to play the field and she wasn't the chosen one? | /r/seduction | 08/01/20 01:47 PM |
| 6 | I am trying not to cry I am happyI think you will get it! Don't worry about the cold, it can't bring you down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/20 10:03 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 2nd 2020)Yes, indeed. I think a bit of belly is normal, but at not even 30 and it being not a little is what concerns me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 05:12 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 2nd 2020)I go to the gym on the days after work when I don't have uni lectures in the evening, and that doesn't always align with him and he tends to stay overtime at work. But I will encourage this more as my uni schedule clears out a bit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 01:42 PM |
| 6 | I stumbled upon FDS a few days ago & let me just say that my mindset towards dating/relationships is forever changed. I have promised myself to guard my heart. So is this a red flag? I just started chatting with this guy on bumble.A bit off. I'd be careful. If he starts telling you his tragic life story, get away | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 12:52 PM |
| 21 | This has been trending on twitter a bit and I just wanted to know what you guys think about thisThe actual, yeah. The former? Maybe if he saw the message after his 12 hour game play. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 11:22 PM |
| 30 | Ladies, If you "overfunction" in your interactions with men, you never find out if he's a LVMI once had a guy insist like three times to meet at this park but I had a better option in mind, and he kept insisting so I said fine, maybe his location is beautiful or something (I didn't know it well). It was nice, sort of, but it was in the area he lived! And we even passed by the building he lived, he pointed at it. Like, bleah. I didn't know this sub back then, but it threw me off. Also, from what I have read, they arrange the date close to their house usually to get their one night stand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 11:20 PM |
| 5 | What are your thoughts on traditional marriage?If I ever marry, for sure as hell I am not going to be anyone's maid. Also, they should learn to manage money as well. How can I trust someone who doesn't even know that? I'm 21 and I have serious doubts about marriage anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 06:08 PM |
| 7 | I suggested plastic champagne cups, he said I deserve the best and will get new glass onesI don't let it show either way. He's spent hundreds anyway, but this is a particular thing for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 11:28 PM |
| 6 | I suggested plastic champagne cups, he said I deserve the best and will get new glass onesI simply said thank you indeed. I know it's a really small thing and he's bought much more expensive things for me, but just the thought that I deserve the best and how he knew what I preferred even if I was being evasive with it in front of my friends was nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 10:51 PM |
| 9 | I suggested plastic champagne cups, he said I deserve the best and will get new glass onesNah, it's ok, I just thanked him and that was it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 10:50 PM |
| 8 | I suggested plastic champagne cups, he said I deserve the best and will get new glass onesYes. More of the concept of knowing what I like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 10:49 PM |
| – | Guys who take a lot of time to respond to texts (hours/more than a day), why?Oh great. Well from my perspective if I invest myself too much it hurts me when he doesn't reply, again and again, so I will stop all communication soon. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 04:38 PM |
| – | Guys who take a lot of time to respond to texts (hours/more than a day), why?What if you know I'm already head over heels for you, do you need to maintain that? | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 04:36 PM |
| 10 | We've been talking for five minutes and he's already asking for nudes. Should have been way more harsh with this guy, but hey, I'm learning.Don't even tell them 'sorry'. You have nothing to be sorry about, only that you gave him a tiny chance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 10:55 AM |
| 27 | Don't fall for the high value "potential". 9 times out of 10, you're going to be let down.Yeah. Saw he was intelligent but failed his first uni and was trying for the second, should've been employed at that point, parents telling him he was a loser. I applied for him to countless jobs (he was kinda depressed and didn't have hope), made his cv, he went to the interview and got it, since then he has only success at the job and it's all because I believed in him. So he slowly starting ignoring me blaming it on stress, decided to dump me saying he didn't love me anymore. Best thing to ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 09:18 AM |
| 10 | New Year's Resolution : Drop your pickmeisha friends.I don't have any because they are not really actively dating, besides one who naturally implements FDS, but I will be careful to try and talk with them if they ever start. (We are all around 21) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 03:35 PM |
| 7 | How do you improve yourself as a HVW?It's not that bad if I am careful with what I am eating, usually some spots a few times per month. I admit sometimes I don't moisturize enough because of the oily skin I have, I am still searching for the perfect moisturizer. I should use more sunscreen as well, probably daily. At least I've stopped smoking (bad habit picked from my teenager years) Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 05:00 PM |
| 14 | How do you improve yourself as a HVW?You sound like an amazing person! And this looks like a good strategy I will be able to pick up after I finish my last year, which is the hardest (truthfully I could at least be learning something new on the side if I was more careful with my time) I think I may have done something similar, but only related to what I study, I have searched for events all year long, or conferences or any sort of training and I've met some people and made new friends through that. I need to upgrade even more. Than… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 04:56 PM |
| 9 | How do you improve yourself as a HVW?I'm basically like any other Gen Z, spending too much time on youtube, even reddit and other socials. I don't know how to draw and don't have any specific talent or hobby like that other than being mildly good in the STEM field. I do like to edit videos from tv series I watch, or used to. I do want to start volunteering the moment I have time. I'm still trying to find my passions, but nothing seems that exciting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 04:08 PM |
| 23 | Why do some women draw people to them, while others don't?I believe one of the concepts here is to not compete, other women are not our rival | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 03:18 PM |
| 8 | this subreddit reminded me to work on my feminity (freshly ex-pick-me)Great read! I'm constantly striving for this mindset. At the moment I'm still studying while working part-time, so I'm trying my best to have a good sense of style on a budget, and lose weight. I've been succeeding at losing the weight and any cloth falls better and better on me, so it automatically helps with the style. The hardest part is ignoring LVM and stop being kind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 02:31 PM |
| 18 | He has literally no reason not to text you back.They are gaming the whole night :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 02:22 PM |
| 8 | I texted him after he broke things off and got ghosted. How do I overcome these intense feelings of regret and embarrassment?Damn thanks, I feel like I needed this as well today. I was rejected as a lover and I was thinking if a friendship could work. It can't. I've tried to be friendly, but truth is, my true friends respond to my texts. I have enough friends who genuinely care. I'm going no contact. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 12:21 PM |
| 7 | I texted him after he broke things off and got ghosted. How do I overcome these intense feelings of regret and embarrassment?I've been there, it's ok. A friend doesn't do that stuff. He was friendly only when he had an interest. Block him, move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 12:20 PM |
| -1 | Would it be a deal-breaker for a girl if I don't have any friends?You should focus on making some friends before a gf. I would think there is something wrong with you. I didn't use to have friends in highschool, but that's a normal awkward stage. I made more friends in uni. Or at least one friend, you know. I would think 'So..who does he go out with?', 'Is he the type to stay inside all of the time? Will he depend on me?' Also, your future spouse should be your friend, not just a person you're attracted to. | /r/seduction | 26/12/19 08:28 AM |
| 9 | Oh sis....I felt this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 10:00 PM |
| 59 | HVM boyfriend got me the perfect Christmas present 💗Happy for you! I bet they are beautiful. Mine gifted me a watch which fits my style & personality and a kindle and kindle case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 04:13 PM |
| 0 | Why are there no pick-up groups for Women?Go to FemaleDatingStrategy | /r/seduction | 24/12/19 12:38 PM |
| 24 | Leveling up: Are you your worst fuckboy?Real talk here. I am my worst fuckboy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 11:21 AM |
| 4 | Did you ever regret not committing to a girl because you wanted to search for your perfect someone?Maybe you need some confidence if you think she is settling for you? Who knows, maybe she actually likes you. But I would test the grounds more either way. In the end the choice is yours if you want to put up with the medical issues. | /r/seduction | 23/12/19 08:21 PM |
| 2 | Did you ever regret not committing to a girl because you wanted to search for your perfect someone?So your gut feeling was telling you this wouldn't last because of some missing factor 'The one' could have, right? And it would eventually lead to at least you not contributing enough to the relationship and it would fade out? I am asking because I have a bit of this sort of feeling towards someone similar. | /r/seduction | 23/12/19 07:05 PM |
| 12 | Read this as "I don't respect you or your body". Complete scum. Posting for a friendYuck. The definition of please say sike. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 07:37 AM |
| 4 | I hate this app :(Pizza and coke makes you fat and are not healthy at all. Looking for someone who is striving for a healthy diet :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 07:20 AM |
| 26 | “Let’s see where this goes” is the biggest lie of all time. He KNOWS where he wants it to go by the end of your first date.It's funny because he said he is not looking for a relationship and I went into it thinking exactly this. I lied to myself. I just liked him and hoped. Kinda played myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 09:04 PM |
| 20 | Since We’re Also in “I’m Sorry 😐” Season...My ex has been showing all of these changes for over 2 months now, I still am refusing to take him back because it hurt me too much. Not cheating, just him breaking up saying he did not love me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 09:02 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, I need to know if I’m overreacting or if I should block - I feel pretty disrespected in this exchange.He seems very self-centered and tried to make you feel less valuable than you are. You usually don't tell people you won't meet today because it's a 'me day' even if that's the truth. Makes them feel less important | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/19 09:13 PM |
| 1 | A comment on youtube about a perfectly cute girlThis is the video /watch?v=8j_KQHM_3xk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/19 12:47 PM |
| 8 | A comment on youtube about a perfectly cute girlTrue, probably the key point is not to be impressed by a coffee date no matter how well you 'click' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/19 11:10 AM |
| 54 | A comment on youtube about a perfectly cute girlThis is why we should not agree to the coffee date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, what are your hobbies?Sometimes I edit videos with my favourite anime or tv series, I go to gym classes, read sometimes. I am the fan of a band as well. I have been focusing on my studies and programming these days, so very little time for hobbies. I would love to make my own apps. And start cooking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 07:04 PM |
| 9 | Deleted him from everythingAnother bad one off the list, great job. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/19 12:03 PM |
| 2 | Need advice on clingy/infatuated man??He is quite tall:) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/19 12:26 AM |
| 3 | Need advice on clingy/infatuated man??I've been testing him by not replying to see if he goes crazy but nothing so far. I am lessening the texting and no phone calls. I feel like he is the type to go psycho and start crying if I do something he dislikes in the future | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/19 12:07 AM |
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