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They like the male spaces because simps give them special treatment.
/r/seduction14/05/20 06:36 PM
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Why are you helping her with homework? You're literally playing right into the stereotype of the nerd that helps the pretty girl with school even though he's never going to get any. She's sitting over there feeling amazing about herself because she can use her beauty to get things (Help with homework, in this case). Ghost her, you've already lost.
/r/seduction13/05/20 06:49 PM
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I'm with you. I do think the things that you can't change matter, but I can agree that they aren't everything. Short guys, ugly guys, etc. can have a ton of success, although if you short and ugly and whatever else then I think that starts to weigh pretty heavily. Thanks for the conversation.
/r/seduction13/05/20 12:12 PM
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Don't try to be sexual over text, you're building up feelings that neither of you can act on. Keep the tension low until you can actually do something about it.
/r/seduction12/05/20 12:58 PM
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1.) Facetime dates blow. 2.) If you're going to do a facetime date, keep it much shorter. An hour on facetime is way too long. I had a girl randomly facetime me the other day while she was making dinner, kept it to 10 minutes or so. As soon as we ran out of obvious things to talk about I cut it off.
/r/seduction12/05/20 12:57 PM
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Why are you trying to escalate if you can't fuck her right now? Just keep her on the backburner until you can actually hang out with her. You're playing your cards without actually following up on them, it's just killing the excitement.
/r/seduction12/05/20 12:55 PM
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I would stop replying altogether. Maybe 6 months down the road or something you can get it rolling again. For now at least she sees you as a quick hit of validation whenever she needs it, you need to change that perception.
/r/seduction12/05/20 12:52 PM
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I think it's important to give the girl enough space to re-initiate the conversation without letting your rapport die completely. What that looks like in practice, hard to say. If she stops replying I would definitely give her a couple of days to reach out, though. I think it's also important to note that girls are in different states at different times. If she's feeling social and wants to meet people at the particular time you're talking to her then she's likely to be more responsive than if y…
/r/seduction12/05/20 12:50 PM
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We're disagreeing on the definition of looks. You separate looks and image, I treat them as one thing. Otherwise I think we mostly agree.
/r/seduction12/05/20 12:41 PM
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To me, looks is everything that makes up how you look. So clothes, physique, grooming, etc. are all part of looks.
/r/seduction12/05/20 12:39 PM
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To me, looks is the combination of everything that makes up how you look. So clothes, physique, etc. are all part of looks.
/r/seduction12/05/20 12:39 PM
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Respond...
/r/seduction11/05/20 11:43 PM
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150 is garbage, low value. 500 is roughly where a girl would start to take notice of your follower count in a positive way. If you only have 150 don't even bother DMing girls, it looks bad. At 150 you're better off going with the "I never use Instagram" approach.
/r/seduction11/05/20 08:19 PM
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We are talking about them banging each other, that's what a threesome is. I've fucked two girls that are sisters, but it was separately, that's the only reason that it happened.
/r/seduction11/05/20 08:03 PM
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Open and leave on read. I'm not a fan of the "Oh I just didn't see it for three days" shit. I'm more of a "I saw it, didn't feel the need to respond" shit.
/r/seduction11/05/20 08:00 PM
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Forget about the money, that's part of the equation but not enough of the equation to really matter. Are you successful? Are you good at the things you do? Do you enjoy what you do? Ultimately that's what matters, whether you're rich or just getting by doesn't matter nearly as much as your general competency.
/r/seduction11/05/20 07:31 PM
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True, but that doesn't matter. In the world of Instagram your follower count is your social proof. 5 followers is essentially zero social proof.
/r/seduction11/05/20 07:30 PM
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I see your point, but I'll also say that it's not all that fair to say that the reason you move on with your life and stop trying to impress girls is really just impress girls. You can stop trying to impress girls while also knowing that by moving on you're going to get more girls. You can learn to enjoy exercising for what it is even though you know that by being in shape you'll get more girls. Things have side effects, just because an action has a useful side effect doesn't mean the purpose of…
/r/seduction11/05/20 07:29 PM
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Only two things that matter are looks and vibe. Looks are what a girl feels when she looks at you, vibe is what a girl feels when she spends time with you. If you can check both of these boxes you'll get laid a ton. Everything else is just a distraction.
/r/seduction11/05/20 07:07 PM
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Totally agree. The real end-game of learning "game" is that you stop giving a shit about game and women altogether and you pursue more worthwhile goals. You shouldn't be cold-approaching forever, only long enough to get the monkey off of your back and gain the confidence to do whatever it is you want to do in life. For many men who aren't naturally successful with girls (Read: Most men) their lack of a sex life can weigh on them and prevent them from reaching any of their goals, because they're …
/r/seduction11/05/20 07:05 PM
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I think you're confusing financial success with more general life success. It sounds like you're not doing well in life, which will prevent you from getting girls, especially as you get older. Money is part of the equation, but it's not everything. If you're successful in life but don't have a ton of money you can still get laid plenty.
/r/seduction11/05/20 07:00 PM
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Just ghost her until she reaches out, when she reaches out then you respond and have a little back and forth before dropping the conversation.
/r/seduction11/05/20 06:58 PM
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Huh? He literally says that his big breakthroughs were when he improved his style, haircut, posture, etc. To me, these things all fall under looks. If you're saying looks are some immutable set of genetic traits that are either good or bad then I'm not sure we can even have a conversation. That's a pretty extreme view.
/r/seduction11/05/20 06:57 PM
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Did you read his post? His big breakthrough was working on his looks, that's what got him the results...
/r/seduction11/05/20 06:55 PM
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Not sure I agree that they care more than men do, men still focus like 95% on looks. For girls it's probably more like 50% or so. A hot guy with 5 followers on Instagram isn't getting any DMs.
/r/seduction11/05/20 06:11 PM
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Then you agree that looks matter to some extent? We can argue about the extent to which they matter, but they do matter at least a little.
/r/seduction11/05/20 05:11 PM
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It's not about how good you are at them, it's about how you prioritize them. The key is that if you prioritize cooking, guitar, or whatever else over women then you will naturally be less clingy and more interesting. Dating women is not a hobby. If you try to make it your hobby you'll find it difficult to have success in the field.
/r/seduction11/05/20 05:09 PM
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You think a short, ugly, smelly neckbeard can walk up to any girl and fuck her if he uses the perfect words?
/r/seduction11/05/20 04:58 PM
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Have to be careful using terms like "auto-accept" on a forum like this because most of these dudes do not understand social calibration. They're trying to make social interaction into a science, so when you say that something is automatic they think it's a lock.
/r/seduction11/05/20 01:59 PM
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You're reading into this way too much. Making eye contact with a mom who is with her daughter does not mean that she wants you to marry her daughter. Is it worth approaching anyway? Perhaps, you don't really lose anything by going for it. This doesn't sound like a homerun, though.
/r/seduction11/05/20 01:58 PM
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That's what he said tho... Not sure if there's another way to interpret "auto-accept".
/r/seduction11/05/20 01:35 PM
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I would like her most recent 2 pictures or something and then leave it at that. Don't message or anything. Randomly liking her pictures is already somewhat thirsty, you don't want to come in too strong. Put your feelers out by liking a couple pics and then let her reciprocate.
/r/seduction11/05/20 12:32 PM
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This is an all-time retarded post. Yes, your girlfriend's sister probably wants to fuck you. I don't doubt it, not one bit. No, they are not down for a threesome.
/r/seduction11/05/20 12:29 PM
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There is no auto-accept. If you're creepy or lack social calibration you're getting rejected regardless of what you look like. Looks get your foot in the door, your personality/vibe seal the deal.
/r/seduction11/05/20 12:27 PM
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Ehh, yikes. That's not good.
/r/seduction11/05/20 12:26 PM
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There is no such thing as a guy that can "seduce" a girl with words alone. That doesn't exist. The whole reason people push the "looks don't matter" shit is so they can sell ugly guys products.
/r/seduction11/05/20 12:26 PM
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If she thinks you're the shit and wants to fuck you. That's pretty much the only time it will work out okay. You're knocking yourself down a couple pegs by DMing her out of the blue, so you have to start pretty high.
/r/seduction11/05/20 12:25 AM
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You're fine, look like a normal dude.
/r/seduction11/05/20 12:03 AM
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I'll also add that for many girls once they fuck you then you become an option to have sex with without increasing their body count. If they've already fucked you, one of the largest barriers to fucking is gone (Body count increase).
/r/seduction10/05/20 11:52 PM
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No part of you is scrawny per say, you look fine. Your chest especially and arms to some extent are just a little underdeveloped. You want an athletic look where your shoulders and chest are larger than your waist, right now they're about the same size.
/r/seduction10/05/20 11:50 PM
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It's all frame. He's the talkshow host, he's the star, the whole audience loves to watch him put on a show. The girl is the guest, she's invited to be on the show, she's just happy to be there and be involved. He just owns the entire frame so completely that anything he says is automatically funny and not creepy. It has already been decided that he is cool, he is suave, he's funny, etc. Those things are determined already, so he can say whatever he wants and it automatically isn't creepy or off-…
/r/seduction10/05/20 11:47 PM
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Don't ask girls, they're going to feed you bullshit because they don't want to expose the way they actually think.
/r/seduction10/05/20 11:34 PM
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You're instantly telling her that you're desperate, doesn't matter what you say. Only way it would work is if she already thinks really highly of you and thus doesn't care if you DM her some thirsty shit.
/r/seduction10/05/20 11:31 PM
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You look fine. Start doing 100 push ups a day, that will fill out your chest and arms a bit, which is mostly where you're lacking.
/r/seduction10/05/20 11:30 PM
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Good post. I'll say that if you're losing family and friends over this you really need to reevaluate what you're doing. Friends and especially family shouldn't know what you're doing, if they ask why you're going out or who you're going with just tell them you're going out with friends or whatever. They don't need to know you're going out to approach random girls. The stuff about looks couldn't be more true, if she wants to fuck you or at least thinks you're somewhat attractive just based on loo…
/r/seduction10/05/20 11:28 PM
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You don't have to be awkward, though. When you run into that silence, asking a canned question is incredible forced and awkward. It screams "I'm uncomfortable, I'm going to say something that will make them talk". Use statements instead, they will restart the conversation in a way that isn't so awkward.
/r/seduction08/05/20 07:30 PM
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Essentially: Would a guy that is naturally good with girls and doesn't spend his time on a pickup forum act this way/say these things/etc.? Your whole goal with pickup really is to convince girls that you're just a cool dude that gets laid a lot without trying. That's ultimately what they're looking for, no girl wants a guy that spends hours and hours on pickup forums trying to learn how to get laid. Being socially calibrated is all about avoiding those social pitfalls that give away that you're…
/r/seduction08/05/20 02:55 PM
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Asking questions that aren't pertinent to the existing conversation is weird and forced. Makes you seem like you're socially awkward and had to plan out questions to ask. Instead make observations, those observations will create conversations, if the conversation has a mildly intimate tone then you can ask mildly intimate questions and they'll come off as calibrated. A favorite of mine is "You seem like a tattoo/piercing kind of girl" or "You don't really seem like a tattoo/piercing kind of girl…
/r/seduction08/05/20 02:41 PM
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Please don't tell me you actually say this shit to girls, holy moly.
/r/seduction08/05/20 02:38 PM
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Everything being mentioned in here is good, I'll just also say that when she looks at you and smiles that is conditional interest. She has decided in her mind what kind of guy she thinks you are based on what she knows so far. When she gets more information about you her opinion of you will change. If you approach with poor social calibration, if you talk to another girl before you approach her, if you have a positive interaction with a bartender, etc. Her opinion is always subject to change and…
/r/seduction08/05/20 02:35 PM
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Tinder can be a good supplement to meeting girls IRL, it can also be a good way to setup IRL interactions (My friends and I are going to X bar, see you there?). It's not efficient enough to be your primary way of meeting women, it just requires way too much work per girl you actually meet up with. Use it or don't use it, but definitely don't rely on it. If it makes you feel ugly and unwanted, don't use it.
/r/seduction08/05/20 02:21 PM
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Focusing on a singular girl is setting yourself up for failure. It's great that you're into her, but you really just need to ask her out and then move forward regardless of the result. Being interested in a singular girl when you're playing a numbers game is a bad recipe.
/r/seduction08/05/20 02:12 PM
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The problem with every "I'm super good at getting laid, here is why" post is that we don't have enough info to really understand what this even looks like in practice. I've seen dudes that get laid without approaching and aren't super tall, jacked, attractive, etc. It's certainly possible, but what parameters are we putting around it? Do they have tall, attractive friends that initially reel the girls in so the short guy can talk to them? Do they have some special skill that is valued in a bar s…
/r/seduction06/05/20 08:38 PM
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Looks will get your foot in the door with the girl, but game will seal the deal. You're never having sex without game, and you're never talking to a decent girl without looks. You must have both but if you had to choose one you should definitely go for game.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/18 02:34 PM
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Don't go alone either, bring one other guy that is also there to socialize. Don't go sober unless you aren't able to drink.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/18 10:07 PM
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This seems kinda silly to me. While I'm sure you could consistently get laid doing this, it's a ton of work for one lay. The girls who you don't take home are going to be pissed off that you fucked a different girl and probably block you. It's a whole week of game for one lay. You're much better off going to a trendy bar and approaching there and staying out of clubs entirely. Clubs are tough because girls are constantly getting approached and therefore have preconceived notions about the guys a…
/r/TheRedPill01/02/18 11:07 PM
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Don't bother bringing guys to the club who aren't there to get laid.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/18 11:01 PM
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This isn't even game, this is just going to the club with friends...
/r/TheRedPill01/02/18 10:59 PM
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Important thing is that you tried, but this is really rough. Watch some guys on Youtube pickup girls and make note of what they talk about and how they lead the conversation. You should never ask a girl if she likes [Any trait you possess] or tell her not to give you BS and just reject you outright. Both of these interactions make you look jaded and serious as fuck, both bad qualities. Be fun and easy-going.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/18 10:49 PM
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Getting in shape and dressing better is the easy part, it's very measurable. Tough part is getting into the state of mind of an attractive man. Girls will think of you the same way that you think of you. Until you think you're a high value guy girls won't really believe it either.
/r/TheRedPill26/01/18 12:18 AM
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They basically want to pick and choose the results of dressing or acting in a sexual way. They want sexual attention from attractive men, they want to be given preference at work and free stuff at shops. They don't want attention from unattractive men, they don't want to be treated as less competent, and they don't want to be harassed by the mentally ill/homeless. At the end of the day they're trying to manipulate male sexual desire for only the benefits, and not the negatives. Most women unders…
/r/TheRedPill26/01/18 12:16 AM
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Get this "woe is me the young ones suddenly want guys their age" shit out of here. Women want the same stuff they've always wanted, you're either not talking to the right girls or you're just not that enticing of a man.
/r/TheRedPill25/01/18 11:56 PM
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If you're excited about friend-zoning a hot girl then you probably didn't actually friend-zone her. A guy that could actually pull this off wouldn't feel the need to go online and brag about it.
/r/TheRedPill30/12/17 04:07 AM
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If everyone thinks you're douchebags then you're probably douchebags. There should be a mix of people that love/hate you.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/17 04:22 AM
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Weak, low quality people don't like to see the people around them improve themselves because they gather validation by comparing themselves to the people around them. When you become a better version of yourself they'll always find a way to rationalize being better than you so that they can continue to think highly of themselves, when they can no longer objectively feel better than you, they'll start making moral/subjective arguments (I.E. He's an asshole, he's a weird guy/creeper, etc.). The on…
/r/TheRedPill09/10/17 10:33 PM
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I never said it wouldn't get you laid. I said it wastes a ton of time and doesn't actually help your game.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/17 01:29 PM
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Tinder is great when you're first learning game because it can give you a high volume of dates to get some experience, after that it's borderline useless. It's time consuming, it doesn't really refine your game at all, and there aren't many if any legitimately high quality girls that are actively seeking to meetup with guys from tinder. It takes so much time to go from every girl available to swipe, to just the girls who are down to meet up with me. Sifting through that pool is a HUGE pain in th…
/r/TheRedPill07/10/17 12:26 AM
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Most of the guys here think the goal is to just treat women like shit. They think that leading girls on and rejecting them makes them some amazing alpha dude. When bitter men find TRP they make it into something it's not. They make it into some weird validation seeking tirade where they "get back" at women for all the times they think they were wronged. It's dumb as shit, and it's a huge problem with this community. This guy's whole interaction with this girl is pointless, if he isn't into her, …
/r/TheRedPill04/10/17 01:12 AM
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1 drink per hour or so keeps me in a good spot socially and acts beneficially. Any more than that and I get tired and lose motivation.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/17 09:14 PM
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I'm not saying this guide is perfect, but I am saying this type of content is useful for guys who have no clue what they're doing. Will it get them laid? No, but it will give them an idea of what gaming in a club looks like and it will give them some idea of what alpha behavior in a club looks like.
/r/TheRedPill15/09/17 02:43 PM
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You realize half the guys here are virgins or have only paid for sex, right? This type of guide is pretty much the exact thing this forum needs. No reason to be teaching virgins about plate-theory.
/r/TheRedPill15/09/17 01:19 PM
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This works well on girls who are there to get laid, terribly on girls who don't usually have ONSs. You really need to build some more value than just being direct, this is the kind of shit that girls regret in the morning. When you build chemistry with the girl you make it a positive experience in her life and she will add way more value to your life.
/r/TheRedPill15/09/17 01:59 AM
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There are plenty of high-quality women at college bars. The culture in college is that everyone goes out Thursday-Saturday. It's not just trashy hoes. Discounting an entire swath of attractive girls because they go to bars wreaks of sour grapes.
/r/TheRedPill15/09/17 01:54 AM
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Going out alone only works if you tell girls that your friends are somewhere in the venue but you lost them. Going out alone is weird as fuck, communicates that you don't have many friends and that you're not a regular person.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/17 08:53 PM
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This stuff doesn't mean as much as you think. Every girl wants to see if that hot guy right-swiped them, but how many actually want to meet up and fuck him? I would suspect a guy like this doesn't get laid too much more than any other attractive-but-not-model guy.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/17 08:41 PM
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Most men in general suck with women. If you suck it's better to be tall than short, but it's also better to be good with women and short than terrible and tall. I know plenty of tell guys who are virgins in their 20s and can't even kiss a girl if their life depended on it.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/17 08:32 PM
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I ran a product incubator club and joined the Ski Club but I don't even Ski, they just party a lot so I joined. I looked through your post history trying to find what school you go to, saw that you're a 20 year-old virgin. Makes a lot more sense now why you're having these issues. If I were you I would probably find a hobby and some people at your school to do it with and get really damn good at it. You need to build some confidence.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/17 08:18 PM
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That stuff may or may not be true, but at the end of the day it doesn't matter. All you can do is put forth 110% to build the life you want and be the man the want to be. No point in talking about things you can't control. I didn't make any friends on my floor when I lived in the dorms. I actually made 0 friends, I tried to be friendly and left my door open and did all the stuff you're supposed to do, but it just didn't happen for me. So I joined a club, and I started playing basketball at the g…
/r/TheRedPill12/09/17 01:26 PM
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Look I don't know where you're at in terms of social skills, but if you're eating lunch alone very often you've got work to do in that department. Joining a frat is great, but unless you're in a top-tier frat you're going to have to be putting in work socially outside of that. Also don't blame other people not being cool for you not having an ideal social life, that's weak shit. Lastly, you shouldn't be getting frustrated from me telling you to do more. If you currently don't have an ideal socia…
/r/TheRedPill12/09/17 03:29 AM
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Just make friends with people in the class before meal times and go with them. Or make friends in the dorm that have the same breaks in their schedule for meals. If you don't have tons of friends you aren't going to be successful dating girls in college. Women are a consequence of having everything else in life going for you, if you focus on the women you'll never get them.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/17 02:26 AM
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Cool, attractive guys sit with their friends when they eat meals and enjoy themselves.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/17 01:42 AM
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I literally used this exact strategy at a huge university and had tons of success. Cold-approaching girls in college typically makes the girl think you're a typical creepy desperate guy. You need to show the girls that you're a cool guy who has abundance with women.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/17 10:45 PM
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IMO you should start conversations when it is easy to do so and you don't need to go out of your way. If you're sitting next to a girl at the library, by all means talk to her. If you're standing next to a girl at a bar, go for it. If you and a girl are walking the same way on the street, approach. I don't like to go out of my way to approach women, not only is it a poor use of my time, it immediately communicates to the girl that she is the prize and I'm chasing her. I want to be on an even pla…
/r/TheRedPill11/09/17 06:20 PM
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In my experience going out with attractive girls blocks a lot of girls from giving me IOIs or just straight up approaching me. If I go out with other girls I have to approach completely cold and then convince them that I'm not fucking the girl I'm out with. If I'm trying to game I go out with 2-3 other attractive dudes and maybe a hot girl or two.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/17 02:55 PM
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I'm 6'5", I swear it buys me like 10 non-judgmental seconds before it doesn't matter anymore. If you're game is tight it helps with the bitchy girls but other than that it really doesn't matter much. It helps a lot with keeping the girl around, though. When she starts rationalizing how she's going to be viewed on social media for dating you being able to say you're 6'5" goes a long way.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/17 10:08 PM
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I don't think it's necessarily fair to say they aren't on reddit at all, but it's probably fair to say they don't spend time writing up field reports about their nights.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/17 10:01 PM
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You're just introducing the pool in which we must compete. Nothing special about being in this pool of people, in order to be successful you have to be better than all/most of these people.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/17 09:51 PM
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He's never going to get a girl if you're the one opening. When you're the one opening you're automatically the alpha of the group according to the girl, she's not trying to bang your sidekick.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/17 02:16 AM
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Then just say "Let's go to your place" and go. The key is just not asking a straight up yes/no do you want to have sex? Allow them to consent without saying directly "I want to have sex with you". She doesn't want to feel like a slut, she wants it to "just happen".
/r/TheRedPill04/09/17 06:17 PM
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I agree with your sentiment but I think your numbers are way off. Being a top 20% guy on tinder really doesn't do you that much good. You really need to be a 1% kind of guy to truly have your pick of the litter. Women's standards when using online dating sky-rocket, a guy that usually does really well all of the sudden can only pull 6s and 7s.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/17 03:40 PM
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Just a little piece of advice for pulling, literally just say "Let's go" and then lead her out and assume she's coming back to have sex with you. She'll speak up if she doesn't want to go, don't make her come right out and say that she wants to bang.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/17 03:31 PM
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Nothing wrong with sharing experiences, however there is something wrong with writing from the perspective of an authority on a topic when you're not an authority.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/17 12:12 AM
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The problem with the post is that he's treating it like a win when he should be treating it like a loss. The most difficult part of game is actually sealing the deal and having sex, until that point very little investment is required from the girl. The overwhelming majority of girls at a nightclub are totally willing to have their ass grabbed and make out with a guy, even if they're not into him or don't find him that attractive. That's just part of the fun at a club, it's not anything. If he ha…
/r/TheRedPill03/09/17 11:18 PM
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She's quick to offer you her number, but reluctant to stay with you or invite you to go with her. She only actually invests/contributes to the interaction when you start to become disinterested. She shows major interest and then backs way off, hoping you'll chase her. Basically any girl that isn't willing to match your interest level from the beginning is probably just looking for validation.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/17 10:04 PM
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At 26 she's got a year at the most of fucking hot guys before she gets anxious about not being able to lock down a quality guy for the long haul. Really should've realized this at 22, at 26 it's unlikely she can get a better guy than she had.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/17 09:59 PM
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Most women(Many men, too) rely entirely on other people for validation. If she isn't hot enough to get hit on every day then she needs a boyfriend or at least a love interest at all times to validate that she has value as a woman. Most girls can't picture a life where they don't get confirmation that they're pretty at least once a day.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/17 09:54 PM
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That's not rejection man that's just her testing you. Agree and amplify.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/17 09:28 PM
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That's just straight ego protection. No girl will entertain a guy she doesn't think she can actually get, most women avoid any semblance of rejection like the plague.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/17 03:24 PM
7

The problem isn't so much the success rates as it is the quality of the girls. High SMV girls don't use online dating sites except for rare occasions.
/r/TheRedPill14/08/17 09:49 PM
2

I mean normal rules don't apply is you're filthy rich.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/17 11:47 PM
1

Less slut-shaming, less competition, less distractions, easier to approach, etc. They're doing everything possible to make it easy to approach them.
/r/askTRP12/08/17 09:50 PM
4

She'll leave you as soon as all of her new friends are going to frat parties and meeting boys, having the time of their lives in the prime of their lives, and she can't go or at least can't justify talking to any guys because of you.
/r/askTRP12/08/17 09:40 PM
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It's the same reason everyone goes to parties, to be validated by the opposite sex. Everyone makes up other reasons but when it comes down to it the only real reason to go to a party is to receive attention.
/r/askTRP12/08/17 09:35 PM
3

Something else to consider: For most people with insane follower counts, they were either popular in high school, college, or most likely both. This boosts follower counts in a massive way. If you became a high value guy after high school/college or even during the end of college you're going to have a really hard time building a decent following as a dude. It's much better to just not have public accounts that it is to have accounts with low follower counts. If a girl google's your name and see…
/r/TheRedPill12/08/17 09:28 PM
1

Totally agree. Success with women is a process you have to invest in and reap the rewards of long term, it's not something you can just decide you want and then obtain. Honestly being successful with women is a lot like being successful financially.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/17 01:56 PM
1

Depends how you meet them. If you approach them in a nightlife setting you want to be very obvious about what your intention is. If a friend introduces you then your first goal should be to demonstrate that you don't need the girl, but you're interested. You need to paint the picture from the beginning that you're the prize. In cold approach you do that by being the guy that actually approaches her, show that you're not afraid to approach a girl you are interested in. In a social circle scenario…
/r/TheRedPill12/08/17 01:53 PM
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IMO a lot of it is confidence. If you do really non-normal stuff and feel weird about it, you're a creep. If you do really non-normal stuff and love yourself for it, you're weird/interesting.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/17 02:08 AM
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High school is a really bad place to learn success with women. Actually it might be the worst place. IMO during high school just try to work on yourself and take the opportunities that come your way, don't alienate yourself by trying to learn pickup in an environment where a couple mistakes ruins your chances with the whole school.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/17 02:07 AM
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It doesn't even matter how you say it. If you're pulling like crazy everyone knows you're bullshitting but no one can call you on it. If you say you're just haven't found the one and people actually believe you then you have a lot of work to do. Girls should look at you and immediately know that you slay.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/17 02:16 AM
2

You're moving on because she wants to go, not because she actually goes or doesn't go. If she wants to travel without her boyfriend that she supposedly loves she's at the very least testing the waters with other men to see how she can do if she leaves you. If she still wanted to be with you she would want you to come with her, it's a no-brainer.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/17 12:07 AM
2

But it's the same girls at the football games each week, right?
/r/TheRedPill08/08/17 03:14 AM
2

Honestly don't want to give too many details as I have professional ties to the University currently, but it changed who I was completely. I bombed my freshman year socially, but was able to turn things around by the beginning of my sophomore year and eventually had a thriving social life and consistently had my pick of the prettiest girls in my various social circles. The size of the University allows you to fail and reinvent yourself over and over again. You can afford to make mistakes and lea…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/17 03:13 AM
1

I'm not sure if by "sorority whores" you mean all girls in sororities, or just the most promiscuous. If you mean the latter, I totally agree. However if you mean the former, I totally disagree. I have a lot of experience at large mid-west state schools and the finest girls on campus are nearly all in sororities. If you want a tall, thin, fit girl who dresses well and takes care of herself you're pretty much relegated to the top 3-4 sororities on any campus. They are almost never interesting peop…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/17 03:09 AM
2

Stop using tinder, stop going on dates, stop having conversations. None of those things result in sex like bars and parties do. Introduce yourself, establish value, back off, pull.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/17 02:56 AM
2

The idea isn't that all women are whores and sluts, it's that if you approach life thinking that you will be successful. If you expect women to be whores and sluts, when they are you will be ready for it, and when they aren't you can be tentatively happy about it. It's like how LeBron has to believe that he's not good enough and that he has a lot of room to improve. It's not that it's true, it's that the mindset makes him successful.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/17 02:45 AM
1

I'm not sure if you're joking or not, but don't go into a closed environment like a high school football game and try to game girls. You should be gaming girls you're probably never going to see again, not girls you see every week. Cold approaching in a closed environment is social suicide, which will harm you far more than the experience will help. Focus on being friendly and building a social circle that will passively introduce you to girls. High school is 100% social circle game.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/17 02:34 AM
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Ohio State is your best option if you want to develop holistically. Wooster is great academically, but it's a bubble just like most smaller schools. OSU changed me in more ways than I can count, and every one of them was for the better.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/17 02:30 AM
1

I enjoyed your post, but ruling out skanks and sorority girls screams sour grapes to me. If you're operating in the 18-24 range the bulk of the most attractive girls are going to be the sorority type. It's much better to learn how to get them or at least admit you don't know how than it is to just rule them out as not good enough because you can't get them. Be authentic with yourself.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/17 02:18 AM
1

Go to a big city, sounds like you're in a suburb or something. Night game works as long as you're one of the best guys in the venue, which can be tough depending on where you go.
/r/TheRedPill07/08/17 02:22 AM
3

I agree that it exists, but it takes so long to develop that you might as well adopt this kind of attitude. Unconditional love takes decades to build.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/17 02:38 AM
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Literally everyone is flattered whenever anyone finds them attractive. The level of flattery differs sure, but no one is ever internally disgusted because someone thought they were attractive. Hell when a grandma says I'm so handsome I feel good about myself. It's not the same as the grandma asking me out, but it still serves the same purpose, validation. Pretending to be grossed out is just a facade high SMV people put on to ensure that the people around them are fully aware that they do not co…
/r/TheRedPill20/06/17 04:09 AM
3

Basically they can be rewarding and fun but never count on them. You need to be prepared to end the relationship any day and walk away unscathed. Don't invest more than you're willing to lose, because you're gambling.
/r/TheRedPill19/06/17 09:18 PM
1

All the time. Tons of chicks just want you to approach so they can feel good about themselves. It's a huge ego boost for a girl to reject a guy.
/r/askTRP19/06/17 08:57 PM
3

You're not going to tie down a high value woman for a lifetime unless you make her financially dependent on you, which isn't ideal. Attractive women crave validation and attention, no matter how good your game is or how high value you are eventually it's not going to be enough to satiate her and she'll start looking for validation elsewhere.
/r/TheRedPill19/06/17 08:41 PM
1

It also offers an explanation for women being cold and bitchy when you first open. It's not all bad.
/r/TheRedPill18/06/17 10:40 PM
4

Honestly this post should just be titled, "How to approach with no risk and no reward" because that's what it is. Being able to chat up random people and go nowhere with it is a useful skill in some situations, but to be honest it's hardly a skill at all.It's the same thing as asking for directions and walking away. Sure you technically approached and you technically didn't get rejected, but there was never anything to gain. The entire difficulty in approaching is that you're trying to reach a s…
/r/TheRedPill18/06/17 09:26 PM
3

Talking about it doesn't help you recover. As someone who has dealt with depression, it's an exclusively personal problem. No one else can solve it except yourself. Talking about it only hurts you.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/17 11:02 PM
2

Game has way, way too many factors to ever really understand if race actually matters or not. There's no way to objectively figure out if white guys do better with all other things equal.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/17 04:12 PM
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