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DISCUSSIONyetieater/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 07:17 PM
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RP THEORYyetieater/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 11:09 AM
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RP THEORYyetieater/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 03:04 PM
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I'd relate the advantage of monogamy to the ability to inherit wealth and power. The advantage of a polygamous house is that you have more manpower with common descent, and therefore a sort of instant tribe. If wealth is enhanced by loyal manpower, then polygamy is selected for socially. Polygamy might work quite well for a nomadic people - if wealth is gained by livestock then it is relatively easy to increase that over time naturally and a small herd can become a bigger herd. The sons who are …
/r/RedPillWives18/08/17 01:41 PM
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For the record I don’t agree with his theory, I just wanted us to discuss it. Just wanted that to be clear! Of course, and it is such an interesting question, the what comes next when you can see a system creaking! That’s a really good point. I know he’s written elsewhere about other aspects of what a neotribal society could look like, but I don’t recall if he addressed how these new pressures would be estbalished. Perhaps he thinks that our current situation creates the pressure that would moti…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 10:04 PM
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I think he misunderstands evolutionary pressures slightly- evolutionary drives result from selective pressure, and the arguments he makes regarding multiple children from varied partners for either sex only work if there was a selective environment for the instincts prior to this situation. If the survival benefit of a behaviour for your genes was never present in the past, you are unlikely to find an instinct for that behaviour. Prospective genetic success doesn't drive us, but genes record suc…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 04:37 PM
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Good luck with that! So far you seem to have collected a fair number of edgelords talking at cross purposes to one another with no definition of starting axioms. Although that is an answer in it's own way. You are not always dealing with one consistent moral system, so much as backfilled rationalisations combined with some popular culture interpretations of philosophy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/17 08:56 AM
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Small questions eh? There ain't one answer for this, despite the self assured wittering of some - like a bunch of undergrads in the first philosophy tutorial! Or goths smoking behind the bikesheds after reading Nietzsche for dummies. Different moral systems have different aims, you need to take a step even further back and question epistemology and goal before getting to the resulting morality. I guess that's an answer - morality's point is to serve as a guide in terms of the practical applicati…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/17 08:58 PM
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The way we've organized as a species to address these innate tendencies is so awesome isn't it? Exactly. I read something interesting on dating, incidentally, on how the 1950s viewed rapid moves to dating exclusivity as dangerous and encouraged dating to have formal stages. I think the organisation of social norms is a response to our human tendencies for sure. The garden metaphor is so lovely (everything by CS Lewis is really) It is, he has a great way of illustrating his points with images, bu…
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 02:47 PM
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No problem! If it helps, I almost always have to write things down to fully formulate my thoughts. Writing is an extremely useful way to get your thoughts organized and clarify certain ideas. Yes, I think the writing is very helpful - I can do the same with a debate, an opponent can force order onto your thoughts with their replies. But inside my head, not so much! I think an interesting idea worth exploring would be to consider how different women balance risk and reward based on either their d…
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 02:18 PM
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I'd like to thank you for taking the time to write this up and share your thoughts, while also assuring you that the community already functions with these concepts in mind - I'm just not sure how to convey those two points without potentially insulting you (which is not my intention). Don't worry, I see your point - I can also take realising i'm telling my granny how to suck eggs! Thanks for the response - I perhaps needed to spell things out in my brain to make the connection, but I can see yo…
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 02:00 PM
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Careful, you'll cut yourself on all that edge.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/17 01:53 PM
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I think that is a fair point, you would still be being trusting and transparent if you provide a bit of guidance on what you valuable, or warning that the single guy stuff is hyperbolic. Your dad sounds like a good man He is. Not a romantic soul, but a honest and honourable one. All boys should have someone like that to aspire to.
/r/RedPillWives14/03/17 06:59 AM
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I am sure you want the best for him and your relationship, I don't doubt you want to give him the positive bits without the sifting. I understand much of the red pill male subs on reddit are very anti-marriage and to a degree pro-cheating. I understand that this is not necessarily a message you want your husband to hear. However, it does not follow that on reading that he will adopt those values. You have chosen to take advice from a pro-marriage segment of the red pill community. If you tell hi…
/r/RedPillWives13/03/17 03:12 PM
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I will be a little frank and comment that you perhaps should point him at the Red Pill subs, but also here, to provide the full explanation he's asking for. He is partly asking about your understanding, what has produced the benefit he perceives, which includes the subreddits. I think you're making a judgement for him there. How much is it the lack of relevance, and how much is your views on the material? He is not a child, and nor is he in the position of many in those subs with relationship tr…
/r/RedPillWives13/03/17 01:18 PM
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Trouble is, much as your question makes sense, elimination of traditional gender roles does not change fundamentals like muscle mass, testosterone production, the relative toughness of skin or similar. So if you have zero conditioning, and everyone is born with no concept of gender, and roughly everyone has the same impulses towards things like sexual violence (probably false), you would still find more rapists amongst the men. Because they are simply more biologically equipped to do so, on aver…
/r/RedPillWives15/02/17 04:09 PM
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In the same sense that anyone is a potential thief or murderer. The probability isn't evenly spread, and you can judge it to a degree, but a certain degree of caution is sensible.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/17 09:22 AM
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I think he overgeneralizes, but I disagree on the notion that anonymous people forming loose organizations can't make for significant change. Sure, there's a lot of power in coherence and I do actually believe the Red is forming a small but influential bloc of coherent action. The problem an anonymous and uncoordinated group will have is doing stuff that involves personal cost/risk. And coordinated action. I just don't think it can go much beyond a media channel. Which is powerful, of course. Bu…
/r/RedPillWives03/02/17 06:27 PM
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Yes, this is US centric, with broader sympathies around the world. Perhaps that is why it doesn't sit true for me, it's a description of lots of things through the lens of Trump's campaign, and I'm not really even convinced the narrative there is accurate or factual. Plenty of people saw Trump in person, they attended his rallies, and the watched him on traditional media. Did online stuff play a part - absolutely. But is it a phase change?.... I'm not convinced. Perhaps because i'm not in that c…
/r/RedPillWives03/02/17 06:06 PM
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I need to read this again, perhaps when my brain is less fried, but my gut feeling is that he is wrong. Or at least too US-centric. Brexit, for example, certainly wasn't 'new media' driven. The old media were mostly well behind it, and the politicians involved were not outsiders, many had banged the same drum for years. UKIP and Farage aren't widely popular online with British young people, and the effects of memes etc is very minimal in my view. It was a fight within our establishment, not betw…
/r/RedPillWives03/02/17 05:31 PM
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To be honest, it still sounds a lot like when I've argued with communists. Ignoring the history and human nature because it addresses a particular bugbear. Perhaps a touch harsh, but I'm a stubborn bastard and I feel I should at least be honest that I'm unlikely to be receptive. Autocracies are pretty good at dealing with certain problems. But terrible in other ways because they provide incentives and reward based around the ego and paranoia of a single imperfect figure. And ultimately I'm more …
/r/RedPillWives21/01/17 09:36 PM
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It's just a rehashing of the Platonic argument. I think given the length of time democracies have survived with relative stability when compared to dictatorship or absolute monarchies it is a rather weak argument. monarchies in particular have been far worse in terms of unsustainable spending and self destruction, such as the run up to the English civil war. The advantage in a democracy is that when the government screw up economically, they are likely to be unseated, rather than allowed to doub…
/r/RedPillWives21/01/17 03:51 PM
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Thankyou :) I certainly wouldn't disagree that there is a time and a place for aggression and bloodshed and it is the use to which they are put which makes them bad. I very much agree with that. And yes, he did do a decent job describing the reaction to globalism, I would agree with that. Not understanding the need for people to have a place of belonging which feels secure has done a lot of damage. My views on nobility and democracy, are really as much about protection of my people as anything. …
/r/RedPillWives19/01/17 08:50 PM
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Interesting. A bit romanticist for my tastes! He does rather ignore the problem with strong leaders and particularly unelected ones, that their rule tends to focus on their benefit, and the need to keep cronies happy to keep their throne. The vast majority of people end up suffering as each rung of the ladder grafts to the harm of the one below. You can see that in Stalinist Russia, dictators in Africa, the absolute monarchy periods of France and England, and of course the Roman era. "A sovereig…
/r/RedPillWives19/01/17 09:55 AM
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I agree with it as a general principle. It's mostly told to boys who might do so in the schoolyard - I distinctly remember during my father teaching me to fight him setting down that rule. However, in adult life the number of circumstances where you might even consider doing so are limited - clearly it is still good as a principle against domestic violence. All other circumstances I can immediately think of are either covered by self-defence or general principles against unprovoked violence. I'd…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/17 12:15 PM
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It's unfortunate, the problems with imposing a new praxis because you want the end result but don't have the supporting mental framework.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/17 10:16 AM
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Assuaging guilt. Knocking women off a pedestal in their mind. Bonding via shared anger. Virtue signalling. Dealing with cognitive dissonance.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/17 09:46 AM
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It doesn't exactly fit the brief, but both Orthodoxy and Heretics by G K Chesterton are very readable, and make some very relevant critique of culture, although he's pre-feminism so you'll have a less direct counter argument. Heretics in particular. After all, you lasses are heretics from the secular religion which claims all women as adherents, aye? Regarding leftist thought more generally, it kind of depends on your angle - the "road to serfdom" or the "wealth of nations" are coming from the m…
/r/RedPillWives24/12/16 07:19 AM
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Interesting points, thank you for sharing! I especially like your point about sex being part of something larger. My SO has said things to me that support your thoughts. I think sex is fascinating, in terms of the massive effect it can have on self image and image of your relationship. Sex with someone who genuinely admires and wants you is very special. The complaints sometimes seen on MRP about 'starfish sex' are (IMO) not really about sensation, which could still be decent enough, but enthusi…
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 03:21 PM
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I think you're right in how the framework differs, absolutely - you are the prize, but it is not your fidelity but your availability that is the main factor. As you say, certainly in dating, not giving benefits too early, before you are sure commitment is there. But I would encourage you to consider the benefits of the staged approach, because it is essentially a way of encouraging positive changes for both of you - it's not about winning, it's disruption of an unsatisfactory status quo to estab…
/r/RedPillWives17/12/16 07:31 AM
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I am also fully aware that it was not (and is not) at all /u/yetieater 's intention to suggest that women should apply male dread game into their own dating approach. He is positing a new area for exploration, refinement, and conversation. :0) Thankyou for that clarification! I agree 'desire game' might be a better name. The core question could perhaps be "How do i inspire my partner to want to act in a way i would prefer?" My own illustrations of doing this well.... I know you often use the met…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 09:50 PM
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An excellent point - and perhaps 'Dread' is a misnomer in this situation - I would absolutely agree women do not want to create uncertainty or dread commitment terms. What i'm thinking though, is that underneath the 'dread' idea is a method of causing a reevaluation of your RMV and thereby encouraging greater effort in a partner. They don't have to fear you leaving to achieve that. I would suggest that the 12 levels there are a combination of upping your SMV and causing a reevaluation of your po…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 09:12 PM
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I think it's foolish to expect anything else, and much as you can punish and yell, you stick a bunch of tightly bonded kids of both sexes together, there's going to be mischief. I did know of a girl who was referred to as the Trifecta for more than one reason, she caused a lot of problems. Lots of attractive young lads, a very limited amount of competition, it's going to bring out the worst in some girls. Bromine in the tea, that'd see it right, perhaps. Or coffee, for you colonials, i suppose :…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 07:05 PM
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I could see women having a different mindset around markmanship, perhaps being more dilligent regarding techniques, many men tend towards trusting their own technique which may be easier to get adequate results with, but contains flaws preventing consistent precision. Also things like adrenal function and testosterone effects in combat aren't necessarily good for patience. I'd probably rather have a lass as a sniper, and lads for bayonet drill, sure enough. I would absolutely expect more discipl…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 06:25 PM
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I believe in streamlined processing. For example if you are between 18-22 (male or female) there's a standardized set of tests (physical) and appropriate 'pass' ranges. The standard should be based solely on the original male qualifying ranges (which I know vary depending on the age of the person in question), it should not be altered or lowered to accommodate women). If women can preform to the same level physically as a normal man - awesome! There is an additional concern that mixed gender uni…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 11:33 AM
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That makes perfect sense to me There's a couple of interesting issues with pushing for commitment, in particular because willingness to commit should also be part of vetting, so you could end up with a bad marriage purely because the guy is good but resents being tied down - classic image of a shotgun teen marriage etc. Coercing commitment is going to end badly, generally. So I think the difference between effectively advertising what commitment buys you and really treating commitment as the goa…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 05:59 AM
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I think you're very perceptive here. I've had habitual behaviours resulting from past trauma also, and it's hard to put them aside. It is reflex, especially if it was useful for survival at one point. Well done with your mindful control of this behaviour. Hypervigilance for past threats, controlling to avoid possible trauma without even thinking about it, and reaction against lack of control are all unhelpful for relationships. But I think that is what the issue is. She still thinks she has to c…
/r/RedPillWives14/12/16 08:56 AM
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female dread game - does it exist, what would it look like, how is it different from male dread game, how is it different from manipulation, etc. I'm not staying/doing X unless he's willing to commit? Bearing in mind the aim of dread is progressive application of bargaining power to achieve your objective. This (result of a google of "get guy to commit") sounds a lot like the dread game approach, applied to committment. To me, at least.
/r/RedPillWives13/12/16 10:23 AM
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I think it's not even a reactionary thing as such - men would absolutely take the p*ss out of someone who boasted about their awesome sexbot, because we compete in conversation all the time and something like that is an easy target. Say a guy mentions how he's had hundreds of women, the response from friends will be that most of them were hideous and laughs will be had by all. I think marketing of it as a way to avoid prostitution with all the dangers and ethical issues might be how it could be …
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 04:18 PM
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This is obviously only a guess, but I would say that I don't expect sexbots to change things all that much, for a number of reasons: Stigma - remembering the often competitive and prone to jibing nature of men, I would expect a lot of stigma for men who can "only bang a robot". It would likely be seen a bit like getting a mail order bride, a failure to achieve compensated for with cash. The dating dynamic - again, coloured by my own preferences maybe, but I would say a big part of why you want a…
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 07:47 AM
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Waaaay outside my experience, I'm afraid, I didn't go to university and my high school wasn't nice enough that you'd get an actual artsy clique. My impression of that subculture is entirely secondhand and media informed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/16 06:26 AM
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To my exceptionally limited knowledge, mostly, yeah. But the thing I was informed is absolutely like real life is the nerd-jock dynamic re attraction/popularity at school. Despite me having been a 'jock' (approximately anyway, British culture isn't so very different), and personally knowing that the dynamic portrayed is an exaggeration of what shit looks like to a nerd jealous of jock types, who presumably go on to write films. Basically the whole dyanmic of films is wrong to teach about relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/16 10:54 PM
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I think they are or at least the teen movies where a nerd gets the girl in the end, I've argued about the usefulness of them with a couple of younger guys. It's insane, like watching an action film to learn military tactics.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/16 05:56 PM
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This is interesting. Obviously there's a justified criticism of inconsistency with principles involved, of emotion overruling reason etc. And the bias in favour of women by both women and men makes a fair bit of sense. However, principles and rules have been proposed by moral philosophers for millenia, and there is an significant weakness of the purely reason led approach, which is that it isn't actually that good at being realised in practise. A single individual can follow such a system volunt…
/r/RedPillWives21/11/16 04:53 PM
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I wouldn't discount the effect of the cold war being over either - in many ways the economic ideology of the 80s owed as much to defining capitalism vs communism making capitalism look very much like a morally superior system. Post crash, the free market system and it's flaws are far more open for criticism. Simple efficiency is no longer the winning argument, quality of life and moral values involved seem ascendant. I find the later millennials (technically I'm boundary between X and millennial…
/r/RedPillWives10/11/16 04:07 PM
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Have an emphatic upvote for that. I am also hugely reminded of the 1980s at the moment (although I was a young child throughout). The details have changed - in the 80s we had a free market right wing, now the right in both US and UK are turning against free trade. And notice the left winger has changed as well - Bernie did unbelievably well, and in the UK our left wing has gone to the extremes. In the 80s this pattern occurred as well.
/r/RedPillWives10/11/16 02:55 PM
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That's an interesting point, and useful anecdote which is probably widely representative of the situation. The republican need for christian votes is something that's really come out since the rise of the new left and particularly Nixon, and yes, Trump could provide opportunity for a mass realignment of republicans. But he absolutely has to be seen as a success by the man on the street for that to happen. On the other hand, like you said, I think imposing moral standards with legislative power w…
/r/RedPillWives10/11/16 05:40 AM
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I'll admit my bias as a social liberal to preface my thoughts on this...but I think this is very correct. You probably have a better feel for the cultural context though, you are likely to be more perceptive of what will generate most anger and encourage his opponents than I do. I'd trust your gut on this. I'm not sure if my next statement is what you were intending to get at, but I very much feel if he spends time fighting Roe v. Wade or Same-Sex Marriage or any of the social progress we've mad…
/r/RedPillWives09/11/16 09:14 PM
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I think it will entirely depend on whether he is seen as a failure or not. The cultural impact depends on him achieving things of note, and remaining popular. I suspect If he is unsuccessful, it will bolster the position of the more extreme feminists and encourage further polarisation. And the current trends are likely to continue as Trump will not be seen as an admirable figure. However, he will tilt the supreme court right, so that is still going to affect culture. I would expect feminism to b…
/r/RedPillWives09/11/16 08:00 PM
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Dealing with fear of failure and willingness to take risks is probably increased with more masculine role models. Ultimately some people are more inclined to try their hand and learn from mistakes, and some tie themselves up in a ball of anxiety, and they kill their confidence as a result. I think many on TRP trend towards analysis prior to just trying and learning from failure. Certain parental behaviours and schooling experiences ramp up fear of failure, particularly for the top few percent. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/16 06:22 PM
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Did some brief research and here's the thing, the 'hadith' or whatever where aisha claims her age etc - that stuff is used as literall/influential law and guidance to muslims. So if they KNOW those things are at least partially or potentially inaccurate why are they adhered to? Same reason I've argued the toss over literal 6000 year old earth theology with a Baptist, is my guess - there's a credibility to be gained by taking an absolutist position within a religion. If you talk to a fairly liber…
/r/RedPillWives01/11/16 03:46 PM
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I mean this man was a child rapist how was that glossed over??? As an aside, and to give a sneak peak at one of the things I find out in my autobiographical "yetieater argues theology with random people" book, the question of Muhammad's last wife's age is more complex than it appears. The following facts are fairly certain: Aisha was politically important after Muhammad's death She was his only wife who was previously unmarried She held some political, military and theological authority She appe…
/r/RedPillWives01/11/16 08:17 AM
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I hope what I've done doesn't make me a terrible person, I have moved on from this now and I'm dating someone monogamously Just to say, no, it doesn't make you a terrible person. Terrible people don't worry about whether they are terrible people, that's how they are able to be such. You may have learned something about your own ethical inclinations, and you didn't encourage anyone to sign up to cheat. Overall, it's not something I would encourage on moral grounds, but neither is it something I'd…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/16 07:11 AM
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Meh, it's outside my experience, it could be legitimate or not, but it's also something with basically no effect on my life so I'm inclined to live and let live.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 07:14 PM
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Most of them keep their dingaling as well lol. I didn't realise this was the case, but I suppose it saves a fair bit of surgery. I mean, you'll never be an actual woman but if you're looking for an other option becoming a tranny is all u got. I don't need another option, thankfully. As I said, I am happy with my lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 05:13 PM
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I'll take it under advisement. However, I'm quite content to stick with the meat and two veg if it's all the same to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 05:05 PM
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I dunno, I don't really get the idea of 'feeling like a woman/man inside' either. But if people feel that way, I guess maybe they feel like it's the least bad option for them, personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 04:50 PM
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I'd make a very ugly woman, I think, and don't have much in the way of feminine nature, it'd never work. I could probably pass for a trans-Sasquatch if i bathed in hair-growth stuff. But a woman? Not a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 04:34 PM
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To your credit, I agree that it helps to get both sides of the story, his and hers, before a reasonable judgment can be made. It's like listening to a description of a boxing match by one of the fighters - you might get some detail an outside observer couldn't, but the perspective is narrow. And a shitty boxer's description of events will miss their own mistakes a lot of the time... But upon finding emails or texts of sexualized messages with another man, can't it be easily denied that an affair…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 03:38 PM
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I'm happy enough, and i have no alternative, so yes, i'm happy to be a man. In terms of 'male privilege' I would say there are some things I am expected to be able to do well, by default. There are other things where expectations of me would be lower than a random woman. An example might be that I am seen as more stereotypically a 'businessman' than a woman would be, and thus may be promoted slightly more readily as there is less risk of me cutting hours due to childcare and my impression matche…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 02:16 PM
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Implying that these types of situations don't happen Not at all. Rather stating that they certainly do occur, but that the documentation which we have is based on cases where things went to shit to one degree or another for the most part, and the account provided is not from an impartial observer. It helps to not take things too literally and see the big picture: I'm quite able to appraise other people's explanations, I'm old enough and ugly enough to draw my own conclusions from a narrative in …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 01:46 PM
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Granted we all see the world through our particular narratives, and this is self consistent to a degree. But the reasoning is suspect, and doesn't necessarily match reality. We are dealing with a thought experiment here, not facts. I think this is a case of when you are an authority on hammers everything looking like a nail.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 09:02 AM
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I wish BPs would get that when RPs talk about beta behavior, it isn't armchair philosophy. He's been there himself to know what's going on. There's a hell of a selection bias in that, however, if only people with failed relationships who need RP are going to contribute anecdotes. What you have are a selection of stories of painful events with an unreliable narrator.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 08:53 AM
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I read it. I just didn't necessarily agree. my read was the 'something else' was the diversionary activity used as a hidey hole away from an unhappy marriage or the risk of pain due to engaging with women. The bit about fathers teaching daughters was one of the weaker bits, in my view. The problem which seemed apparent to me is the redpill position is likely to discourage LTR formation by men and thus involvement in childraising. It would be a barely viable strategy in a more fecund movement suc…
/r/RedPillWives25/10/16 04:51 AM
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True enough! MGTOW or a soft version of such is a rational response to circumstances they perceive. I suppose whether they are at fault for putting themselves in a poor situation or are surrendering to circumstances is not the point as you say. The MGTOW thing reminds me of some of the experiments done with mice, circumstances causing instincts and natural behaviour to end up in isolated dead ends.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 04:20 PM
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Maybe it's not the best choice of a response, but it is a rational response nonetheless. They're rational, but then so is stuffing yourself with nutrient paste instead of cooking proper food. There is a certain justified disdain for someone who simply gives up and doesn't try to make something better. I think a man should try and change things if he is unhappy with how they are, not create a little comforting cave and hide in it. That is not to say he should accept his lot in life and be content…
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 04:00 PM
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It was the push to modernism. Renaissance had vast depth of field, and baroque made it more theatre, narrow field, strong tennebrism and contrapasto. Now we venture outside the realm of my knowledge! Still interesting, i'm more familiar with modernism and indeed post-modernism from the philosophy side of things. I think I share Chesterton's view on it from 'heretics': in that great modern literature of which Ibsen is typical, is that while the eye that can perceive what are the wrong things incr…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/16 03:24 PM
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Teacher was a huge fan in college. Used to draw jesus with dirty feet, and otherwise non-angelic. Pissed off the church. From memory, much of renaissance art had subtle symbolic stuff, which is interesting to hear sometimes. I just don't particularly like his dark aesthetic. But I am a philistine when it comes to paintings, overall. I've been to Florence and the Louvre, and the renaissance exhibits didn't do much for me. Back then, posting dank memes and shitposting took a year with your own art…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/16 02:59 PM
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How it was portrayed in Caravaggio's works in the baroque. Interesting, although I can't say I know much about him. I'm more interested by sculpture and architecture, as a rule. And my home nation isn't big on religious art, probably to do with the whole purging of catholics thing. I'm asking nothing here. OP is a preditor. unadultered sociopathic selfishness. Power to her, she is the archetype that created the need for TRP. I can't say any of her stances appeal to me, indeed. But then my views …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/16 01:48 PM
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I know who Saul was, I never heard about his horse. Different traditions perhaps have different stories. Anyway.... So you were asking me if I'd seen the light of God?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/16 01:10 PM
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I'm fairly familiar with it. From memory it's about 6 hours to die, 3 days to rise again, by my reckoning. John may vary, his narrative often does.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/16 12:58 PM
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You're going to have to translate, i'm not familiar with the saying. It's just such an obvious error, it detracted from the quip. Which was quite fairly mocking a stance of being a martyr.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/16 12:48 PM
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The redpill criticism of women is not all it seems. Imagine a group of men angrily abusing a rival sports team that just beat their team soundly. Do they genuinely believe their opponents are idiots, that the referee was corrupt, that their team was robbed? That their fans are incestuously produced freaks with tendencies to molest livestock? Some of the redpill material is bonding over shared pain, building hurting men's confidence and so on. The negatives they highlight in men are often to do w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/16 09:43 AM
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Starving to death in a desert is a situation of complete freedom, if noone else is controlling you in any way. You would be certainly less free if taken from your desert and dropped off in a civilised country where you have legal constraints on behavior. Freedom on it's own is not inherently beneficial - freedom to choose between desirable choices is great, but civilization often requires a balance between freedom and wider benefit. You aren't free to murder, you aren't free to steal, you aren't…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/16 08:15 AM
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Took Jesus three days to die on the cross If you're going to make a quip, don't derp it the fuck up.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/16 08:07 AM
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Fair points, all of that. Hell is even go so far as to say that even knowing that you're unhappy, saying it, and wanting to change doesn't even mean you know how to change in order to make a relationship work True enough, but if people never say anything they're doomed from the start. Think of the vast information out there that tells you BE YOURSELF. But as its relevant here, it's to learn about the other gender and act accordingly Yes, this is a fair point, the advice to just be yourself is pr…
/r/RedPillWives22/10/16 08:01 PM
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Too many marriages get the life choked out of them from smothering/mothering. It's like women think the way to keep a man is to treat him like shit almost. You ain't wrong. But from the lads end when men are unhappy they should grow some balls and say so. Resenting in silence or even being so daft as to not think whether a girl would make a decent wife before marrying her is bullshit as well.
/r/RedPillWives22/10/16 05:45 PM
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No, the rationalisation involved in abuse is not as simple as questions of consent more generally and isn't informed by wider culture, in my view. Consent is impossible in such circumstances, so the normal arguments over "no meaning yes" or non-verbal consent are irrelevant. An abuser will rationalise their behaviour normally in any case, unless sociopathic. Different power dynamic, and power dynamics and sex are heavily intertwined. Coupled with rationalisation of his actions and a paraphilic i…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/16 08:15 AM
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I would absolutely not view women in a disparaging way by default. The way i look at it is that I am very capable at some things naturally, and not so much others, but I would not view people with different natural aptitudes disparagingly. I believe the natural aptitudes on average of women are different from the average natural aptitudes of men. But both are reasoning beings capable of moral judgement, and my ethical position would be that therefore both should be treated as of equal value. To …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/16 06:36 AM
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Haha, I see, the preemptive 'I don't really mean it' apology versus our overused 'I don't want to inconvenience you' apology :P Yeah, we're all about making people say "oh it's quite alright", cos then you've gotten away with whatever you said and it can't be brought up without you looking a knob!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 07:17 PM
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Lol, idk why you're saying sorry, and I'm Canadian :p I have no problem with informative tangents. I'm English, mostly, we apologise just in case, so we are ahead in any question of manners ;) I guess the key here is knowing that the only people we have real control over, is ourselves - control over someone else is a matter of respecting the independence/freedoms of others, maybe. I think this is a fair point - if you want control over the actions of another you need to have struck a bargain whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 02:42 PM
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I always told myself that I never cared to be an alpha or a leader. I realized that in actuality, it's not that I didn't care, it's that I didn't want to deal with power - I've been afraid of the ability to influence behaviour and having to take responsibility for it. Leaders have power, no matter their combination of alpha/beta traits. So does anyone in the rungs of hierarchy. It's a matter of recognizing the current level of power you have, and then not being afraid to obtain more power if you…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 02:05 PM
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Perhaps so, or indeed the even older arguments of Aristotle in terms of character and virtue. Ultimately I don't think the Alpha/Beta labels are necessarily important. They're broad categories based on a rule-of-thumb which depends on who's saying them. EDIT: Which is not to say they are useless - just imprecise, and therefore it's difficult to use them to develop theory. Social and independant are what I mentally replace them with, it's a bit clearer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 11:28 AM
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To be honest, I am skeptical of clean divides of alpha/not alpha. I'm absolutely in charge in some situations, because I am the best for the task, or can get the best performance out of myself/my team. In others, I am not the best, much as I would still expect respect. Am I alpha? I think the answer doesn't really tell me much either way. Leadership is probably something I would consider often contained in the 'alpha' image thrown around, but actually leadership is more socially skillful and req…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 10:06 AM
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A General with this power will probably see that the fact that they are able to set policies is a freedom that they have been granted. Exactly - sacrifice of personal freedom to give power. It's not always an acceptable trade, the benefits of such positions have to be substantial to motivate people to want them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 09:17 AM
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Cooperation is, in some form, a cessation of power. That's the problem. Cooperation is a gathering of power if you do it right. A leader of an army has more martial power than any man who ever lived. A leader understands that bargains and cooperation can provide a net benefit to themselves. Hierarchies tend to provide risk-management in exchange for labour for non-leaders, and leaders take on more risk in exchange for power. Cooperation and bargaining tends to be an exchange of freedom of action…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 09:03 AM
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In my experience we don't do it in front of lasses, but a fair bit of mocking will be directed at a lad who gets attached to an overly easy girl (or a nutter) sometimes. For his own good! It's not so much passing judgement on her as reminding him he's unlikely to get her to settle down with him.
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 05:00 PM
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Thankyou, I pursued the arising order/strategy for both genders line of thought in the "discussing the FSM" post, /u/littleknownfacts provided some good analysis here as you say
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 08:12 PM
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Yes. Lol, I had to read this really slowly, there’s a lot in that sentence xD You state the problem succinctly, and yet there’s nothing but doom in your statement, haha. I think I get it though; social conventions are being exploited by identity politics to the point of infringing on freedom of expression, what with all the ‘hate speech’ laws. I wouldn't say it's doom, so much as threat recognition - I think there's certainly arguments to counter identity politics, and have made them myself :) I…
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 07:46 PM
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Hm, interesting. Honestly, it sounds to me that whether an individual is selecting for success or selecting for failure will depend on where they stand in their social matrix, regardless of gender True, selection pressures will move from avoiding failure, to rewarding success as one got higher in either matrix. But the difference in pressure types is that failure eliminates legacy, but success pressure is less harsh- moderate success will allow your legacy to continue, even if greater success in…
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 06:05 PM
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I'd probably choose this for a TL;DR because it's both logical and necessary to understand, imho. Your post seems to exemplify how and why masculinity and femininity has evolutionarily worked together Thankyou, I'll add that TL:DR as well! Is this not true/different for the MSM or am I misinterpreting? Selecting for success is different from selecting to avoid failure, and I'm guessing you're saying that in comparison to males, females have evolutionarily had more to gain by selecting to avoid f…
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 06:09 AM
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No problem, i will look forward to it!
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 04:41 AM
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That's the one, thanks
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 09:32 PM
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When men unload about stuff, in general, and in my experience, we just want to talk and sort of work out what the hell is going on with our selves as we go. What does this look like on a day-to-day basis or when you're cuddled up on the couch listening to him talk about his frustrating day? Let him talk, maybe be gently affirming and acknowledge key points, but just let it flow naturally out from him without introducing new threads of conversation. When he is done, be affectionate and supportive…
/r/RedPillWives07/10/16 07:34 PM
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A council of despair and not even trying to better yourself is not very Redpill, I would suggest. Your comment is also quite solipsistic in itself. Your despair and experience is not the only consideration. I would argue that only real way to lose in life is to stop trying, because even failures can teach us. If women here can build the mental framework around this, they can avoid it to some degree. Noone will be perfect, but everyone is likely to be better.
/r/RedPillWives07/10/16 05:38 AM
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This is interesting, I've only ever heard of men's attraction being sexual. Even in your description, trustworthy and exclusive, are in relation to sex. This is a fair point, but there are different kinds of attraction - as a boy you learn that there are women who are exceptionally pleasing to the eye, but you would not want to spend any other time with them, or expect them to be faithful. Also, there is a risk of catching knob-rot, so it's not a risk-free proposition. But it is fun, and easy. F…
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 12:14 PM
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A very clear and thoughtful post - and I would add that men also pursue a dualistic mating strategy, in some senses - we also derive benefit from a trustworthy and exclusive partner, in the long term. I think the obtaining of sex is basically trivial - one can get uncommitted sex as a man easily in most societies, either via sex workers or hooking up with women looking for casual sex, or both. But obviously raw visual attraction plays a big part in male sexual strategy. However, in an ideal worl…
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 08:28 AM
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were long nails ever in style for men, even if unpainted? In asian culture, yes - I've heard it showed that one was of a station where manual labour was unthinkable. Here's an example. Male culture in the west intertwines military command and service with being high-class, so such cultural markers wouldn't really work here.
/r/RedPillWives03/10/16 12:10 PM
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I very much like these, and indeed the one about a man taking on the world especially, it reminds me of Kipling's the Married Man. The short version being that a married man will kill you dead if you stand between them and getting home to their family, and make sure of it.
/r/RedPillWives29/09/16 04:17 PM
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Thankyou! I think looking at it as a system, Trump was virtually inevitable as a result of the incentives, once identity politics infected the system. The supreme court was established as the key pole of lasting power, and the presidency the gateway to skewing it ideologically, compromise was a losing strategy - basically not dissimilar to the prisoner's dilemma, with the US electorate as the prisoners and politicians as the jailers. In such an envrionment of course the more extreme expressions …
/r/RedPillWives29/09/16 06:47 AM
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Warning: Long and possibly boring post, may be nonsense Disclaimer: For those from the USA, forgive a foreigner for commenting on your politics, but I think it contains a fascinating example of the flaws which exist within democratic systems - my own country has different flaws, but is certainly anything but flawless. I think the author is not wrong, but is describing a leaf instead of looking at the entire tree, and the forest within which it stands. Indeed I would argue Trump is indeed himself…
/r/RedPillWives28/09/16 08:46 AM
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Churches are a community like any other, but in microcosm, and it is usually possible to get on okay if you broadly agree with the shared values and worldview. I wouldn't worry about letting him down, you're doing fine so far to my eye. Concentrate on helping vet for a church that fits you both and then try to relax and see how you get on. If he's asked you to join him in going, he wants you to join him in a beneficial experience, not wanting you to tolerate it grudgingly. The best you can do is…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 06:18 PM
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Ok, thanks for that additional info, I wasn't quite sure on the situation. The thing I would add on that basis is that as this is a decision for you as a couple not a formality for the sake of his family, I think you are approaching it in a very healthy way - Considering his wishes, being aware of potential problems, but maintaining control over your own worries and finding information to help inform the decision. You are working well together in this, I think. Help him look out for you by talki…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 03:43 PM
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I'm coming at this somewhat more from you fiance's perspective, but I might be able to offer some advice nonetheless. First, just a couple of questions: You mention that your fiance only really attends church when visiting family - is this fairly infrequent, or likely to be every few weeks? Is your fiance asking to attend church regularly together, or just when visiting family? My advice would be to consider the issue of your future BIL and his attitude separately to consideration of attending c…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 11:32 AM
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Haha I don't want your apologies, this is great material for brainstorming and thank you so much for pitching it! It's no problem, I enjoy these theory discussions a great deal! It's true. It's hard to quantify your metaphor because it's hard to quantify the principle I'm trying to draw an analogy to describe. It only makes sense that this is the issue we are grappling with. Another metaphor I considered was assessing a CV when a candidate applies for a job - there are simple, measurable facts, …
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 07:18 AM
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Okay I don't like this metaphor because it's super 3 dimensional - for example, how do you weigh one injury vs another vs other variables x/y/z. Just hard to quantify things as opposed to the scale or bucket (things go up, things go down). My apologies, it is perhaps not a great simplifying metaphor, but more of an analogy to help people grasp the idea. You are right that quantifying an injury's effect on play is difficult, but both sport and relationships are ultimately assessed on final outcom…
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 05:27 AM
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A good extension of the metaphor, I agree. The key is to know yourself and see yourself with an honest eye, so that the competition you enter is appropriate and 'winnable' in either case.
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 10:35 PM
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Maybe like an athlete gaining injuries - a skilled athlete will still retain much of their ability despite injury, but over time injuries reduce their maximum ability? Much like a sportsman can improve over a career due to refining skills, despite raw athleticism declining to one degree or another, your initial raw state may not be your actual peak appeal, even though it is the point where you have the higher natural potential peak.
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 08:58 PM
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was revived by the recent idle drivel coming from the mouth of the UK’s own minor version of Bernie Sanders. Just to note, he's worse than Sanders, a hell of a lot worse. Like supported-actual-terrorists worse. His identity politics bullshit is tearing our left wing apart. From a movement for horny-handed sons of toil, it's turned into an asylum for middle-class triggered students. Aside from that, I agree there's a need for both space and communication about a need for it in a relationship - yo…
/r/RedPillWives12/09/16 09:12 AM
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I've read through that work, and it is really a great examination of the views through history (and the theological aside was interesting)- the discussion of bestowal and appraisal and the contrast between love and more rational approaches is very well considered - it brings out the intensity, and also the (possibly) negative aspect of how love can cloud judgement and ethics. Therefore an awareness and appraisal of who you bestow love on has to be a very careful decision, when you accept that it…
/r/RedPillWives03/09/16 08:52 PM
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Thanks for the reading material, I will certainly give that a look :) As a side note the manifestation of romantic love I most admire as a man is the adamant will it can confer - the determination to make a life together, no matter the cost or obstacle. I think it requires a bit of idealism to do that. I think that the lack of that is what initially made me hostile to the lads in the main redpill sub - to me some of their strategy seemed inclined towards finding weak partners, not a worthy partn…
/r/RedPillWives02/09/16 06:07 PM
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Do you agree with Nozick's definition of love as the formation of a "we"? If not, what do you think is the defining characteristic of love? I think it is a good definition - I have seen others which effectively take a different path to a similar destination. I like C.S Lewis's writing on the subject: "....Eros [romantic love] does not aim at happiness. We may think he does, but when he is brought to the test it proves otherwise... For it is the very mark of Eros that when he is in us we had rath…
/r/RedPillWives02/09/16 10:08 AM
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De nada, your posts (and those of others, of course) tend to make me think and muse, and thinking through the thoughts of others is something I enjoy :) The women here are thoughtful, and it is something I think you lasses should be proud of. Building a supportive community around common values which aim to improve the lives of it's members is admirable. I think it is interesting to consider that as a group you have taken a path of self-determination to achieve your goals in the face of an socia…
/r/RedPillWives02/09/16 08:17 AM
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I was debating redpill philosophy on a politics sub and ended up chatting via PM with another poster about real life rather than the abstract. He observed that perhaps my wife was more convinced by a redpill type view of things than I was and recommended this sub as a comparison to gain insight into that, as opposed to the crass PUA type stuff which made me view the main redpill sub with disdain. It turned out to be fascinating as an insight into relationship dynamics. And also philosophically v…
/r/RedPillWives01/09/16 09:51 AM
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Aye, keeping up stamina and muscle tone is a good idea, labour is so named because it is work, and the better your condition, the better things are likely to go. Also, pelvic floor exercises are important, do 'em.
/r/RedPillWives28/08/16 07:23 PM
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Stay active until birth, but take it easier on some exercises post-birth. The relaxin your body releases can mean you aren't wise to do certain types of activity until it subsides. Ask a class instructor or health visitor before accidentally hurting yourself!
/r/RedPillWives27/08/16 04:31 PM
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Excellent. I've said before that we are the new rebels. It is definitely worth reading his 'heretics' - he would tell you that you should not aim to only be a rebel, but declare your opponents rebels/heretics - because the mere defiance of convention is not as worthy as claiming to be a new orthodoxy which should be followed. It's the difference between abandoning a homeland and the staking of a claim and building your home in a new one (to poorly ape the kind of thing he said). I would say that…
/r/RedPillWives19/08/16 09:54 AM
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Heretics has a beautiful condemnation of the lack of philosophical discussion in the modern world, and the lack of use of intellectual freedom in the modern era to seriously debate worldviews and take a moral position on them. It essentially begins with a prophetic attack on what would now be called postmodernism and moral relativism. The confronting of 'art for arts sake' and politicians with no principles aside from what is efficient, no grand ideals, rings incredibly true for me. People argue…
/r/RedPillWives19/08/16 06:36 AM
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Chesterton is generally brilliant, I recommend reading almost anything by him. His 'Heretics' and 'Orthodoxy' in particular.
/r/RedPillWives18/08/16 03:11 PM
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It's no problem, if it helps, great. You have shown you are up for the challenge of fixing things by seeking advice and thinking things through. You have shown strength in your coping with the kids, work and PPD. It's simply a case of putting those attributes to work for a positive outcome instead of wasting effort on struggles which can have no winner. Your husband seems to want to work better together, not fight. Treat him well and I'm sure he will do likewise.
/r/RedPillWives05/08/16 03:56 PM
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I'm not, but I've been down a similar path as you two are currently traveling perhaps (with a detour via PTSD on my part at roughly the point you guys are at). I would look at what your husband is attempting as him trying to fight for your relationship, presumably out of love for you. He wants to take responsibility and direct events for the best outcome for you both. That is positive, and shows he wants to be on the same side as you. Now you may need to wrangle out the specifics of authority an…
/r/RedPillWives05/08/16 01:45 PM
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Just to note, as someone whose wife has suffered PPD, some of the issues you mention, including but not limited to the issues with childcare seem to relate to something I have heard called "safeguarding behaviour". An increased sense of anxiety and combined guilt/fear of relinquishing control, simultaneously feeling oppressed/guilty and overcritical of self/but fearful of not doing things yourself. This mindset will draw you towards behaviour which undermines mutual respect and trust. It's easy …
/r/RedPillWives05/08/16 09:40 AM
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I think many of us understand the thrill of being pursued (and pleasure of giving him something worth pursuing) -- your wife's little strategy there sounds great. She is cunning :) She knows her own reactions and mine, so she can set up a situation where she is genuinely blushing and shy/embarrassed but knows that it will play out how she wants.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 03:58 PM
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The current favorite is to make me mildly irritated with a trivial task or request so I have a slightly stern face/no-nonsense mood, then to be coy and subtle. The Girl likes being pursued. Although the ever-faithful hug from behind so I feel boobs pressing on my back whilst busy with a physical task is an old favourite. Sometimes it may even be unintentional.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 09:13 AM
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It does seem very efficient compared to the holding positions that feel natural to me which use arm strength - letting a woman get on with other things whilst toting a child with less fatigue as the weight is on the much stronger bum/leg muscles.
/r/RedPillWives27/07/16 04:36 AM
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Babies require a lot of strength! Carrying him, carrying his bags, playing with him...mommying is quite a workout. That's the truth - although I think there's some hip-sitting child positioning women can do more easily which seems to enable carrying a baby with less weight on the arms/shoulders. I've wondered myself if part of the attractiveness of a hip/waist curve is that it helps carry the kid around more easily.
/r/RedPillWives25/07/16 11:32 AM
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The friends I have that do know that I shifted my way of thinking make fun of me. Really annoys me when people do that - my wife's older sister mocks her for being a "good little wifey" sometimes. You're bang on sticking to a positive but realistic view, there's no point assuming all men (or women) are scumbags.
/r/RedPillWives20/07/16 08:35 AM
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I think you're right, I try to encourage her that I trust her to choose well on things she is dealing with - just to mention big spends so I can plan outgoings well. Mostly this works well, but hair/beauty spending is something she always says "is that ok?" to. I think as a mother of a preschool child she maybe has more people being negative about taking time for yourself. There's times where other mums sometimes play the martyr a bit, saying "oh I don't get time to get my hair done much anymore…
/r/RedPillWives19/07/16 06:38 PM
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I think my wife feels pretty similar about makeup/hair/skincare costs. She always checks before getting hair done for events, but my reaction is always that it's not a problem. I don't know why she worries about that still. Congrats on his reaction, it's nice that he appreciates your nature, sounds like you're well suited.
/r/RedPillWives18/07/16 03:21 PM
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I suppose when I use the word "matters," I mean it in a way apart from the indulgence. That the child can learn that what they want matters and holds weight, but that they very well might not get what they want. Or that what they feel matters, but that what they feel might not be powerful or reasonable or appropriate. I agree with this - following the article my young daughter would probably never wear clothes, never brush her hair and likely eat far too many sweets. This is not OK. But when the…
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 05:38 AM
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"BUT SHE'S NOT A SIZE ZERO. SMV MINUS 11." --- fools. As I once commented to my wife, If i'd wanted to have sex with someone who looks like a boy, I would probably be gay. I (and most men I know) prefer a lass to have some curve to them, even if slender.
/r/RedPillWives12/07/16 03:20 PM
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Ah, I get it. I was missing the emphasis of freedom of choice element, thanks for the explanation, my tradition (anglican) is a bit more communal-duty based, so motives matter less than praxis. I can see the parallel between Aquinas' natural law and rationality and the Objectivist approach to gaining knowledge now you point it out. Thankyou! Oh yes I use "traditional" as well! Your wife may like our pinterest account btw, have her follow us if she isn't already :) (Assuming you talk to her about…
/r/RedPillWives11/07/16 03:20 PM
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Really I have one foot in the traditional Catholicism camp and one foot in the Objectivist camp I don't mean to be impertinent, but don't those camps somewhat clash? In terms of attitude to self/service to others, moral duties and so on? I'm genuinely interested, although my understanding of traditional Catholicism is limited (being from England), so I could be wide of the mark. "Anti feminist" and all the terms I used earlier are so polarising. My wife generally uses the term "traditional" rath…
/r/RedPillWives11/07/16 01:38 PM
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Thanks for the explanation. Your dynamics posts do seem a good primer for women to consider what their nature is and what characteristics potentially well matched partners would have, and an interesting read, as I said
/r/RedPillWives02/07/16 07:44 PM
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Interesting. The Alpha and Beta traits both seem to form positive-negative pairings, where an inclination can either be attractive or unattractive depending on how it is expressed - I'd almost say they are the same traits but how they express determines the reaction to them e.g bravery and arrogance, or cooperation with others vs lack of decisiveness. The omega category could be considered a negative set of the alpha traits with a lack of any beta traits, whilst a weak beta could be considered t…
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 12:01 PM
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Thanks for you reply! Everyone seems to meet everyone on Tinder these days it seems. I'm out of the loop, but Tinder seems unlikely to offer much opportunity to get to know someone, a bit like blind dating. I'd suggest something where you can chat a bit more first so you can get a sense of each other. I should add that im of an ethnic minority and I seem to do better with men of the same ethnic minority (South Asian). I imagine that plays some part in the difficulty of meeting people at these ev…
/r/RedPillWives24/06/16 09:16 PM
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Also from the UK, so may be able to offer a view, but it's years since I was looking, so things may have changed. What are you looking for? In general, I'd suggest a dating site offers the widest area of search, but within 'real life' there's a few avenues that are generally going to offer some options. Clubs, such as cricket/football/rugby often allow spectators. If you're looking for a fairly young man in decent physical shape, it's a good place to start. You can look for clubs in nicer areas …
/r/RedPillWives24/06/16 03:09 PM
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To have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part. If you mean it, you should work at it, when it's easy and when it isn't. These are active things that you have to choose to do, not automatic consequences of sharing a house.
/r/RedPillWives16/06/16 03:35 PM
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I think the UK has slightly different signifiers of the upper classes - nice clothing, for example, doesn't apply as much, because in the UK the upper classes are also associated with landowning, and consequently their everyday clothes may be suitable for outdoor pursuits, whilst their best are likely to be tailored suits and designer dresses. The main difference I would suggest from the linked list in the UK is that family and family friends are more important in the UK upper classes. Because t…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/16 10:24 AM
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I think the box idea sounds good, Just a tip from a friend's experience, but be careful to ensure such a box is secure - wedding venues can have a lot of guests who don't know each other going in and out, so security is difficult to maintain, and such boxes are a tempting target for thieves.
/r/RedPillWives02/06/16 06:30 PM
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Agree with all the above, but especially: 1) Designate an obmudswoman (mom, maid of honor) who will triage any and all problems Day Of. I would also suggest your Fiance designate an equivalent, because sometimes it helps to have a gopher on both "sides", and some jobs are more suited to ushers (or groomsmen or whatever the local term is for you), than bridesmaids/mothers, such as shouting for people to pay attention when certain things such as photos are happening, or simply moving something hea…
/r/RedPillWives02/06/16 05:07 PM
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Strangely, as I initiate more, he seems to be less interested, and sometimes falls asleep early due to working hard all day, or even ignores me for video games or tv, which hurts when I am throwing myself at him. I have found i tended to do the same thing. Be coy and flirty, mention he looks handsome, perhaps, rather than throwing yourself at him. Pursuit is more alluring that being pursued. Sometimes he will need to unwind after work, you might be stopping him doing that by initiating sex somet…
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 03:56 PM
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We can all control our actions completely, our thoughts to a degree, and our emotions a little. She will feel inclined to shit-test his loyalty, sometimes unconsciously, and it may cause less irritation if he is aware that line of testing isn't a result of his actions. Supressing the urge to shit-test or otherwise seek to assuage her paranoia is certainly possible, but it's reasonable to seek his assistance and direction in redirecting thoughts. And sometimes, she will want more reassurance than…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/16 05:25 AM
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You will want to test his loyalty to you sometimes, most likely. Explain that you need to do this, and you can't control the feelings involved always. If the emotional need you have is honestly explained, he has a fair opportunity to deal with this. Over time, trust will build, but it's a long term process.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/16 04:01 PM
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Lots of people, especially men, won't go to the doctor unless they're practically dead, so an encouraging presence who says 'yes, you should go to the doctor, would you like me to book an appointment' is useful. Agreed. Pain tolerance is not always a long-term strategy, and can be a male trait. Depends on the injury, but joint damage and similar injuries can get worse without treatment. I was encouraged to go doctors after a knee injury by my wife, the pain would have had to have gotten much mor…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/16 03:12 PM
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