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While I appreciate your empathy on the matter (and I really do) a debate sub is all well and good but even a debate will lead to common ground on some issues if the people debating are coming at it in good faith. But maybe your right. I’m probably legitimately wasting my time on the conversations. I don’t really belong here
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 02:48 AM
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Can you find a single thing in this entire thread that you can concede to me? Theres no point in any conversation if you immediately disregard everything the other person is saying. At any point in this thread did it occur to you that what I was saying was genuinely worth considering?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 02:21 AM
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You like when women are straight up? Here you go, based on your responses to this thread I would have lied to you too. You genuinely don’t seem to have the emotional capacity to have a genuine back and forth conversation if it had any critical connotations in regards to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 02:14 AM
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If you would have read the other responses I agreed wholeheartedly with men who said being straight forward was better. It’s only when I brought up more sketchy scenarios that the conversation escalated (ironically enough) . It’s ok to look at this from many different viewpoints. It’s essential to look at this from many different viewpoints if we really want it understand each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 02:07 AM
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I linked a couple of my responses, I agree with you in certain aspects. Can yo say you’ve done the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 02:05 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/14jw79j/daily_community_chat_megathread/jpnmni2/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 02:04 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/14jw79j/daily_community_chat_megathread/jpnm4vg/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 02:01 AM
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In several other responses I agreed with men about how in adult and stable relationships it’s terrible to lie and better to be honest. I feel like I was pretty reasonable in listening to the opinions and feelings of the men who responded to me. When we give a situation in which we might need to protect ourselves for whatever reason, zero men agree, some call us liars and say we are being unreasonable. I mean come on man
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 02:00 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/14jw79j/daily_community_chat_megathread/jpno2up/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3 Here’s a link to the response I gave you about someone over reacting to rejection. It doesn’t have to be a life or death situation but escalation is always a threat. And one that can be avoided by a simple lie. I have a hard time on this sub sometimes. I feel like Im agreeable, open to discussion, and empathetic…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 01:57 AM
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Here’s the thread from the other guy if your interested lol https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/14jw79j/daily_community_chat_megathread/jpno2up/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3 I’m probably just being petty but just in case
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 01:52 AM
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That’s a great point and would be worthy of its own conversation! Right now we are talking about the nuances of rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 01:45 AM
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Also it’s an interesting argument your posing. So she should deal with the situation then and there because no matter what it will be the same outcome? De-escalation is a perfectly reasonable approach to a volatile situation, even if it’s disingenuous the result of escalation greatly outweighs the embarrassment and hurt feelings that might happen
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 01:42 AM
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We are definitely getting off in the weeds here. It’s up to the woman to determine the situation she is in, removing yourself safely from immediate danger and seeking external support ( I immediately went to my big brother and he helped me handle the situation from there) has saved many many lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 01:39 AM
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To be fair I offered you a less extreme version of this and you ignored it. At what point can a woman determine that the experience of rejecting a guy is detrimental enough for her to be less than forthcoming? When is it her responsibility to invest in what might be an unnecessarily taxing exchange?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 01:23 AM
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I think you’re underestimating the reaction of a person who has been rejected, both male and female. I had a boy threaten to kill himself when he asked me to be his girlfriend. We had a plutonic relationship up until then and when he asked i let him down gently said I valued him as a friend but I just didn’t see him that way. He flipped out and it was a very intense reaction, one I wasn’t expecting at all. He absolutely did not have the emotional capacity to deal with conversation and in that in…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 01:03 AM
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Hey! You never answered my first question! Lol jk
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 12:55 AM
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Ohhh I didn’t know that about the daily chat thanks for the clarification. Also you just seemed to be going for the more argumentative reply’s. And lastly if you really want to know my original question is under your original reply on this post but the truth is I was more joking, respond if you want but if not no big deal if your just venting
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 12:47 AM
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Autonomy is a wonderful thing
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 12:43 AM
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I’d like you to at least be able to answer clarify questions on claims you make, your in a place for discussion but when someone asks you something in good faith you ignore it in favor of responses that trigger you. It’s purple pill debate, not red pill. Why are you here if you don’t want to hear the other side of things
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 12:39 AM
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Another thing? You didn’t even respond to my question on your first post.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 12:33 AM
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To protect herself from retaliation, I think it’s all situational. In cases where both parties are reasonable I also think honesty is the best answer but it’s important to recognize all scenarios when discussing this kind of stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:53 PM
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Me too! It shows a degree of respect and empathy that counts for a lot in these situations. Otherwise not only were you rejected but now you feel like a fool.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:52 PM
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I can see what you mean and I agree, except in cases where she is afraid he will react very negatively because of emotional instability. But this is all assuming the woman is mature enough to deliver the rejection in a neutral/heathy manner
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:45 PM
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I agree, women avoid being direct with men for a lot of reasons, some good some bad. I was just wondering which one he thinks is more hurtful
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:40 PM
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Would you rather a woman reject you outright (ie. I’m sorry I’m just not attracted to you and don’t want to date you) or would you rather a gentle lie?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:37 PM
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Yet it’s more normalized than in person, I agree with you (like I said before….) but it’s an interesting dynamic
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 03:42 AM
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True but in health/gym culture some women track those numbers very closely (I know I did before getting certified as a physical trainer) and even a slight discrepancy can be discouraging. For instance, if your in the gym and working your ass off and you find that you’ve gained weight (even by a pound or two) it can be a bit of a blow to your motivation. That’s why body measurements are a more accurate way of tracking progress
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 03:30 AM
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Oh I totally agree, I just got a chuckle out of imagining sitting down to dinner with someone and them casually asking about your weight lol. I’d be so shocked I’m not even sure how I would react, which kind of enforces your point, if it’s so ridiculous to do it to someone’s face why isn’t it that way online?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 03:24 AM
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On a date it would be such an outrageous question lol can you imagine!? I think he’s mainly talking about online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 03:20 AM
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I was just about to say this, I have always lifted weights and my weight surprises people when I tell them. I do not look like I should weigh what I do. That’s why bmi is not a good measure of health.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 03:19 AM
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Ok so his immediate response was not at all. I tried to dig further (really? Never once have you felt bad about being a masculine dude? No one has ever said your problematic or toxic??) he said not in the slightest and that when men are berated for their masculinity it’s probably because they’re being assholes and they don’t understand the difference between being confident and being an asshole. We actually talked for a bit about this perspective and it’s my interpretation that masculinity and b…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:14 AM
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I would 100% agree with this
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:02 AM
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He’s at work right now but I’ll ask him when he gets home if you’re interested. He will roll his eyes about the fact that I’m “arguing” with people online (I don’t really think we are arguing) but if your curious about his response I’ll let you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:39 PM
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Also the fact that you just tried to to me (a person you don’t know) that my husband (another person you don’t know) doesn’t share things in his life is a little weird. You don’t have the knowledge or authority to make that claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:40 PM
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We are very close and share everything. He’s also annoyingly charismatic and everyone loves him so when he does get someone weirdly being a dick to him about anything I hear about it right away
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:38 PM
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My husband rides motorcycles, trains in mma, has tattoos, is a handyman (can build/fix anything around the house or on the car) and I would say in general he is very masculine. Confident, straight forward, etc. I have never once seen or of heard him being shamed for this in the slightest.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:27 PM
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Fair enough. I appreciate the conversation and insight. It was good to get to know your opinions on the matter. Do me a favor though and be careful about how much mental energy you invest in the responses you receive on this post. This is a heavy hitter and it has the potential to sap you because of the controversial nature of the matter. Have a good one man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:19 AM
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So you don’t feel that this is personal at all? I have a hard time believing you would feel so strongly about something that didn’t affect you personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:11 AM
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I won’t discount that. People in general can be very vile.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:09 AM
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The reason I ask is because there seems to be an underlying anger in the post. You’ve talked to me a lot about your philosophical view on this and I really do appreciate that but it still feels a little sharp. Is there a personal reason why you feel so strongly about this if you don’t mind me asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:08 AM
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I’m genuinely sorry you feel this way. Feeling as if your nothing but a means to an end is very dehumanizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:06 AM
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I really like this opinion and agree. I have to tell you though, you come off as very aggressive and anti-woman in your post. I don’t think this is entirely accurate after talking to you but I have to ask, are you aware of the tone your using? Is there a reason for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:59 AM
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You believe it’s mostly social conditioning. What do you think we can do as a society to address this?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:44 AM
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Interesting, when you say “they are outlined as they really are” it’s a pretty loaded statement. It’s hard not to take that personally as a woman. Why do you feel so strongly that women are so naturally terrible? If you had to give three deep reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:41 AM
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I don’t have enough information about you to form an image, that’s why I’m asking clarifying questions. You believe that women manipulate men to satisfy their needs, do you think this is something they do naturally or do you think it’s a byproduct of societal conditioning?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:39 AM
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That women are manipulative in nature? Would I be correct in assuming that women are outlined in a villainous way in this book?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:32 AM
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This is super personal so feel free not to answer but can I ask about your personal relationships with women? Mothers sisters girlfriends teachers etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:31 AM
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I have been, but I’m interested in your interpretation of it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:29 AM
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Have you read it in its entirety? What do you think about the book? What are your big take aways?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:27 AM
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Sorry that was super vague and demanding. I’ve never heard of this book, what is it about?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:24 AM
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Tell me about this book
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:21 AM
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Is it so difficult to understand that some people are happy to put an emphasis on family? So there’s been an argument about college right? And some people don’t want to go to college or pursue a high paying degree. They are genuinely happy working in customer service or janitorial services. These same people have hobbies which they pursue that fulfill their need as far as personal advancement goes. Should we judge these people too? Your talking about people’s whose values might not match yours. …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:19 AM
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It’s seems this sub is steeped in the habit of being over opinionated and under informed as well as the tendency to dehumanize the subject of criticism. I’m just curious about your willingness to understand both the people your criticizing and your own reason for feeling this strongly about people you don’t know. What prompted this post? Was it a personal experience or was an opinion you’ve been mulling over for a while?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:14 AM
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I have actually. Of the mothers your talking about that have chosen this lifestyle, do you have any information on their education level?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:09 AM
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I’m so sorry but your opinion seems like it’s founded in an absolute lack of information. How could you possibly have the authority to make a claim about a population of people who you clearly have no significant understanding of? Who have you talked to? What data do you have to back up your claim? You made a strong statement that was heavily critical of a group of people whom you seem to have no interest of becoming informed about.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:06 AM
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Their* who? How do you know? How are you measuring this?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 01:58 AM
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Why are you completely ignoring the interpersonal communication between the two people who made the decision to set their family and lifestyle up like this? The variety of experiences you would see and the different dynamics of the people involved would absolutely not fit into your narrative if you sat down and talked to people. If this is really your view I implore you to talk to 5 different couples in which one is a SAHM and the other works and ask them questions about their lives. I would als…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:18 PM
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Feel free to ramble! Just like you’ve said you sincerely do not have an outlet for this kind of talk and that’s crushing. As a woman I have 3 different girlfriends I could call right now and share my deepest darkest insecurities with. Men do not have that. I was thinking just the other day about the whole responsibility role and how scary it would feel to be asked to be responsible for yourself another adult (wife girlfriend whatever) before you’ve even really turned into an adult. Our brains do…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 09:36 PM
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The things I’m saying aren’t new or unpopular viewpoints. Many people have said it before in many different ways. Many great MEN have said this exact thing in many different ways. If we are talking about confidence as the outward display of competence we must focus on the competence part and not the outward display. The outward display, or confidence, should be the by product, not the goal. Superiority is a delusion and one born of arrogance and a lack of empathy. You shouldn’t pursue this. It’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 01:59 PM
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Whose observation
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 07:54 AM
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The need to feel superior to others rings of insecurity, not confidence
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 07:14 AM
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I think you would find that focusing on internalizing your self worth would lead to the external demonstration that seems so important to you in a more effortless way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 06:48 AM
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I know I’m competent in these things through a self measure of progress. Let’s take my physical health for instance, I was able to increase the amount of miles I ran from 3 miles a day to 4 in the last month or so. This is a competency that brings me self validation. I’m not talking about tee ball. I’m talking about being emotionally mature enough to find self worth internally and minimizing the stress that comes with unnecessary competition. I play sports by the way, I’m all for competition whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 06:45 AM
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Confidence doesn’t have to be a demonstration. Competing is a choice. Internalizing your self value is key here, I am competent in several things that I choose not to brag about and this gives me happiness and a sense of value. Let’s stop telling young men that they have to compete with people to validate their worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 06:21 AM
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Underrated comment. Confidence comes from within
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 04:16 AM
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To be fair, General societal trends are definitely worth being aware of and I do think men receive less help and kindness. But some of us are trying and it’s important for you guys to know you do have women out there that care.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:43 PM
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How detrimental loneliness is and how many men don’t feel that women care for them. Men on here literally feel that women hate them and I’ve come to realize that they aren’t just saying that, they actually feel this way. I gotta say at first I was the same way some other women are in thinking it isn’t that big of a deal and loneliness isn’t life threatening but the truth is a man’s pain doesn’t invalidate a woman’s issues and I now believe men’s mental is a very important and over looked issue. …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:40 PM
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In the last 3-4 weeks I’ve literally helped two different men, both older than me and complete strangers. One man in front of me in line came up short and started looking for items to put back, I immediately offered to pick up the difference (like 10 dollars I think) a couple weeks later I saw another man was standing to the side of the cashiers stand at a gas station typing into his phone and his items were bagged up and put to the side, it was clear his card had been declined, i offered to pay…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:28 PM
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I can see that actually. I don’t like this about myself but even as a woman, if another woman comes off as too dominating or masculine I have negative feelings towards them. Unless they’re gay actually, then for some reason i totally accept it which is a whole other can of psychological worms I don’t know if I have the insight or energy to go into lol. There’s a lot of conditioning and deeply internalized ideas about gender roles and social norms that play a big part in how we see each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:56 AM
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Good point about the loss of respect correlating to distrust, I never really thought about it that way but your totally right. Once you lose respect for someone it opens the door to a lot of negative feelings and opinions which is why the lack of empathy for men’s mental health can be so detrimental. But I think we have more positive things in common than you think but the internet really sucks sometimes and can be super discouraging. Hopefully the conversations that take place here will lead to…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:50 AM
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Physical touch is incredibly important for your mental and physical health. I am too lazy to find it but there was a study that said physical contact is as important to mental and physical health and eating healthy and exercising. I think the biggest problem is the internet is very good at pitting people against each other. I’ve seen it on both sides, one person can’t complain about their issue without someone leaping out of the woodworks and says “but what about meeeeeee”. And no I don’t think …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:38 AM
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I personally don’t feel like i “distrust” men who come off as weak and spineless but I’ve certainly been conditioned to lose respect for men who come off that way unfortunately. I think confidence can be both wonderful and terrible for a lot of different reason and even that could be a thread of its own. I also would argue that men and women have more in common than we think and it would serve both of us to focus on those commonalities more than the differences, which is why conversations like t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:21 AM
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Ohhh I see. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:49 AM
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Interesting, and good to know, thanks for your response.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:48 AM
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If you had to outline a characteristic that saps attractiveness in women what would it be? Are there any similarities between men and women in this vein? Nothing obvious of course , like hygiene or violent bouts of psychosis lol but do you think there is a common characteristic that would universally have the same effect?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:44 AM
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I definitely won’t sit here and try to invalidate your experience/assessment, god knows men are unfairly punished for their emotions and that’s exactly why conversations like this are important. Spreading awareness is a huge part of the battle. I will say I think hate is a strong word. I certainly don’t hate men who exhibit the characteristics you’ve outlined however it does invoke a sense of pity and ultimately a loss of respect (unfairly so) and pity is death to desire. Is it the same for men?…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:40 AM
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I would tend to agree with you, what about other social disparities, like stuttering, being too nerdy ( making dumb jokes etc.) do you think there’s any middle ground where women might experience similar treatment due to their social inadequacies?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 02:12 AM
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I’m a woman and I would help any woman in any of the circumstances you’ve outlined. Being a decent person isn’t simping
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 01:02 AM
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Do you think this standard applies to women in any way? For instance, if she is too shy, stutters over her words, gets emotional over little things etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 12:56 AM
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What is the 80/20 principle
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 12:54 AM
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