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> losing my boner due to pressure, i wont go further than that So you didn't really lose your virginity?
/r/seduction24/09/25 08:55 AM
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Repeat after me: TEXTING IS FOR ARRANGING DATES, NOTHING ELSE. Are you penpals with this girl bro? sigh
/r/seduction18/09/25 03:20 PM
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how old are you?? you guys sound very immature sorry
/r/seduction14/09/25 06:05 PM
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argh actually I don't hang out much in Valencia, but I got a group where you can find wings, if you're interested DM me in telegram, username 'p_wings' without the quotes
/r/seduction11/09/25 11:50 AM
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Maybe just throw a hail-mary like "let's have one last drink, but in a different venue, it's closeby". Then when you're on the way just say "actually I got a better idea: I bet you didn't have dessert today after dinner; I know the best place for that and it's for sure open because it's always open". If she says yes just take her to your home (this requires minimal preparation tho: always have some yogurt in the fridge and frozen fruit in the freezer, for example; it has to be something not as l…
/r/seduction10/09/25 02:55 PM
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> Well i kind of assumed that basic decency. You would be surprised how many western women don't even provide that, let alone a minimum level of respect to their man. > Other than that what else can you add? Be feminine. Don't be afraid to try what your man suggests. Be smart enough to be marriage-material. PS: Actually another reason for him to leave could be that you're not meeting his standards, either because you're not attractive enough or because you're not compatible with him in bed (e.g.…
/r/seduction08/09/25 02:53 PM
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> So if i say that in general seducing men is pointless and its more advantageous for a woman to choose among men that approach them, i would be correct. Kinda, but women can still take initiative (e.g. by approaching men indirectly) and this would not mean seducing them, just opening the door to be seduced. This way you have much more options than just the men that approach you. > Correct me if im wrong but i dont think i can make any man stay unless he wants to stay. The art would be giving hi…
/r/seduction08/09/25 11:01 AM
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Because men only like women at first for their innate aspects: namely if they are beautiful or not. The only thing you can influence with your behaviours is, in case you have had something with him, how long will he stay around.
/r/seduction08/09/25 10:04 AM
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Maybe because seducing a man is really hard. What works with men is like selling something: do you have a good product? then he'll be seduced; now if what you want is that he doesn't use you just for a one night stand, then the next question is: do you have good customer service? Like a sale, again.
/r/seduction08/09/25 09:26 AM
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where in Spain? if you want a wing lmk
/r/seduction08/09/25 09:14 AM
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Because most of the time girls want to be seduced, not the other way around. Start your own subreddit for brave women?
/r/seduction08/09/25 09:00 AM
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No wonder. That comment about that dream sounds psychopathic and only a psychotic girl would like it.
/r/seduction08/09/25 09:00 AM
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This sounds very corny.
/r/seduction08/09/25 08:58 AM
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This shit is AI, the — gives it away.
/r/seduction02/09/25 11:06 PM
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Read the OP again, she has a bf.
/r/seduction30/08/25 06:29 PM
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She has a bf, be a gentleman and move to the next one. Don't even try to be her friend, why would you want to be friend-zoned?
/r/seduction30/08/25 06:24 PM
2

So you would try to find potential partners when your bf is not around?
/r/seduction30/08/25 06:22 PM
14

Are we still in the 60s? oh wait, no, we're in the next century actually
/r/seduction20/07/25 03:49 PM
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shit happens! happened to me once or twice indeed, it sucks
/r/seduction20/07/25 03:48 PM
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I'm in a 45/22 relationship, I agree with u/Smitty-TBR2430
/r/seduction18/07/25 03:38 PM
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Both OP and you are cringe. FFS
/r/seduction03/07/25 06:17 PM
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If she wants to be just friends then it's not "your girl", sorry to break it to you.
/r/seduction27/06/25 05:32 PM
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That's German bro, not English.
/r/seduction02/06/25 07:01 AM
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Who taught you to type English language?
/r/seduction02/06/25 05:19 AM
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Then be upfront with every man you meet and for sure you will filter the ones that are not into that very early on with no confusion. The downside is that almost no man will put up with that. I at least would never marry a woman if I don't know yet if I'm sexually compatible with her.
/r/seduction30/05/25 05:20 AM
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No sex before marriage? There are still women in this day and age that require this? omfg how old are you OP? PS: I think it's fine to avoid flings (I also prefer LTRs), but this is an extreme.
/r/seduction30/05/25 01:59 AM
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Where's this? location?
/r/seduction29/05/25 06:53 AM
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FFS hooking up is sex, not kissing! sighhhh
/r/seduction02/05/25 08:50 AM
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Yeah it could be an AI post TBH.
/r/seduction02/05/25 03:58 AM
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How do you hookup a few times while bar hopping? You guys got into the toilet of each bar??
/r/seduction02/05/25 03:15 AM
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I was like you before, became impatient after 3 dates. With my current gf it took me about 7 or 8, and not before making the matter official (calling each other gf and bf). All girls are different, especially if yours comes from another culture (mine does).
/r/seduction01/05/25 03:14 AM
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how many dates?
/r/seduction30/04/25 01:01 PM
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> Find a different girlfriend? Nah, I feel like she's the one, despite the less than ideal experience in bed. For once, I'm willing to sacrifice my pleasure for commitment.
/r/seduction30/04/25 05:23 AM
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Any advice for someone that has a gf that doesn't like oral sex (neither giving nor receiving) and doesn't get wet? (i.e. we need to buy lube because she's always dry, even when I try longer foreplay and fingers)
/r/seduction29/04/25 04:52 PM
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Funny you say that cause after reading this post I felt seen myself. I'm currently with a 10 (by my standards, granted) that doesn't suck D and is hard to please. I also thought that at some point I would learn (and she would? sucking D I mean lol), but she doesn't want to teach me. She says she's "shy". If it had been the younger me, I would have dumped her already; however I gave her a chance, stayed with her longer before considering the red flags, and realised that her personality is awesome…
/r/seduction25/04/25 06:51 AM
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You're one of these people that are: either a feminist girl which is too entitled and thinks you have so many choices in online-dating that no other way of meeting people is acceptable; or a guy that is not in touch with reality which probably has never dated a hot girl. If you were a guy with a hot gf, you would know that she is always approached and this is just a fact of life: men chase women (and hot girls don't need or use dating apps). If I was mad at everytime my gf gets approached, I wou…
/r/seduction22/04/25 07:19 AM
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If the guy is charming and/or attractive enough (and you're single), you would not want to reply this way. Unless you're lesbian and/or feminist, of course.
/r/seduction22/04/25 07:16 AM
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You must be an alpha male then. Kudos
/r/seduction15/04/25 04:08 AM
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How would you rate yourself in attractiveness (from 0 to 10)?
/r/seduction15/04/25 01:43 AM
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You're misunderstanding, I do fall for all girls that I consider my girlfriends, but not all girlfriends fall for their boyfriends (e.g. my gf was on the fence when I asked her to be my gf, so that means she didn't fall back then, and thus I'm not sure if she has fallen already).
/r/seduction15/04/25 01:42 AM
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> Game immedately stops after you get into a relationship. Bullshit, if you take her for granted, you'll lose her. You have to keep maintaining the same level of game you had when convincing her to go into a relationship with you.
/r/seduction14/04/25 12:59 PM
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you can be in a relationship with a gf that hasn't (yet?) fallen for you
/r/seduction14/04/25 12:57 PM
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Your post is a bit ambiguous. How much is the current frequency of sex and how much would you aim for? All in all, how many times do you see her per week and how many of those dates end up in sex? And if they end up in sex, how many times on the same date? I'm kinda interested cause I think I'm in a similar situation as you. I'm with a girl, I want to be exclusive to her, and in theory we're bf and gf but I have the feeling I may not be enough for her so she might be seeing some ex on the side o…
/r/seduction14/04/25 06:29 AM
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Not even a single number? (Even if flaky, as in, no date.) I don't believe you.
/r/seduction14/04/25 04:37 AM
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Hahaha good analysis, can I hire you as private detective please? Lmk your hourly rate
/r/seduction08/04/25 06:41 AM
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> This subreddit is why you’re all single btw. First, I do actually have a gf. > Yadda yadda Second, if your takeaway from this post was "you need money and assets" you didn't understand anything at all. It is precisely saying the negative of that statement, but in a more nuanced way. Go fucking read it.
/r/seduction08/04/25 01:34 AM
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BS, this is like a fish telling a fisherman how to fish, they have no fucking clue or mislead you
/r/seduction07/04/25 07:11 AM
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send her a picture of a cafe whose location both of you know, then she knows where to find you; after she comes, just have a drink with her and then call a taxi to go to your place; don't share much more than a good lay, call her an uber when you finish, saying you should do some work or gotta get up early next morning
/r/seduction07/04/25 06:26 AM
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is that charisma getting you laid, or are you just the village idiot?
/r/seduction07/04/25 04:56 AM
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Little trick for next time, if you don't remember her name, just ask for her number and when writing it down you ask "how do you spell your name properly?"
/r/seduction30/03/25 01:41 PM
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lunch time? weekends?
/r/seduction10/03/25 05:36 AM
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To avoid this problem I'd recommend daygame instead, not nightgame.
/r/seduction06/03/25 05:27 AM
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Sure, but I don't recommend telling your success rate, cause then they would think we're losers.
/r/seduction03/03/25 11:43 AM
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If you are asking yourself this question, it means you still don't get it. If you want to improve to the point of where you wouldn't be asking yourself this, DM me (I'm not going to ask you for money).
/r/seduction25/02/25 04:30 PM
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First, Spain is big. It depends. I'd say girls from Barcelona might be more open minded (e.g. to have ONSs) than Madrid for example. Second, while it's true that Spanish girls are very open sexually (e.g. they won't wait for marriage to have sex even if they are religious), they might still be a bit reluctant about having sex on the first or second date. Third, I've heard many times that Spanish girls are not much easier to foreigners; they actually like to stick with Spaniards (maybe because th…
/r/seduction25/02/25 03:30 PM
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I'm from Spain. Stay where you are or you'll be disappointed
/r/seduction25/02/25 05:46 AM
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Oh she definitely understands you truly love her, but being loved by someone doesn't result in automatic reciprocation. What do you bring to the table for her to love you? She said you were negative and lack confidence, no girl likes that! You gotta work on yourself my man.
/r/seduction16/02/25 12:01 AM
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things went well in text, then got flaky when it came time for the date I'm not talking about the ones who flake of course, which were not interested in the first place (or you might have picked their interest for a bit but later they realized they don't want to cheat on her bf or something).
/r/seduction12/02/25 02:14 AM
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> In terms of overall quality, it’s a stranger either way so it’s a dice roll. But the quality of the connection? you didn't mention that; she will be more attracted to you because you had the balls of steel to approach her. Haven't you noticed this difference when dating a girl from DG versus a girl from online game? It's night and day difference.
/r/seduction11/02/25 10:46 AM
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It's true that the success rate is very low. But even if it is as low as 1 out of a 1,000, it still sounds worth it to me, because: - Compared to dating apps, that single woman you will date will be 10 times better than the average girl you might get from online game. - Compared to night game, it will be much cheaper and healthier for you (no need to spend money on drinks that damage your body). - The connection you would develop with that single woman from the 1,000 you approached would be 100 …
/r/seduction11/02/25 04:08 AM
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I believe I have found a small formula to fight this, DM me if you want me to forward you the info (not selling anything btw)
/r/seduction05/02/25 01:04 PM
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I lay it down in a voice message which I have already recorded, am not bothered to transcript it here
/r/seduction31/01/25 06:45 AM
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I believe I found the formula to fix this. But this is just not a magic wand, it requires effort. But it works in the same way that if you put in the work in the gym, you will end up looking ripped. Want to know about it? DM me. PS: I'm not selling anything, I won't ask for any of your dirty dollars.
/r/seduction31/01/25 04:22 AM
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I upvoted some other answers; am not super good at this but yours is the worst I think lol
/r/seduction29/01/25 05:33 PM
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cringe
/r/seduction29/01/25 05:27 PM
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hehe yeah fucken hard; am in HK myself, hard too
/r/seduction29/01/25 05:24 PM
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I also live in EA, where you at?
/r/seduction29/01/25 04:19 PM
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NG has been like this for me for decades, only once in a blue moon I get laid. Try DG.
/r/seduction29/01/25 04:07 PM
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Right, I was never asking anyone to give me a reason, I knew it already.
/r/seduction29/01/25 04:05 PM
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There is almost no country in Asia in which cold-approach is a thing.
/r/seduction29/01/25 02:34 PM
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No. Maximum visible reaction that I got from a third-party was a visibly-angry guy mumbling about "foreigners" (to her wife) when he saw me from behind doing an approach -- because I'm a westerner approaching his race, I assume.
/r/seduction29/01/25 06:45 AM
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So what should have OP replied instead of "same here"? Would something like this have worked?: "oh I respect that but I'm looking for something a bit less ephemeral, I guess we can leave this here then".
/r/seduction28/01/25 02:59 PM
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she tried to follow me to try to say something and I just replied “please don’t follow me, you make me very uncomfortable”. Hahaha, savage.
/r/seduction28/01/25 08:14 AM
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I believe i discovered a technique to slowly rebuild self-confidence in cases like this. If you're interested DM me and I'll explain. PS: I'm not trying to sell anything, you won't give me any of your dollars.
/r/seduction23/01/25 06:09 AM
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Define "potential opportunity"? A date, an approach, a dating-app match?
/r/seduction22/01/25 08:05 AM
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It is only wrong if she doesn't reject you. And in that case, hope you don't fall for her and just enjoy.
/r/seduction19/01/25 04:04 AM
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I'm also a software dev and I have created apps related to this, plus have plans for more, we should connect. Do you have telegram?
/r/seduction07/01/25 02:18 AM
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Are you calling them on the phone and leaving a msg in their voice-mail? What year is this lol
/r/seduction05/01/25 05:36 AM
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Club approach is not cold, it's warm.
/r/seduction05/01/25 05:29 AM
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Look at his username.
/r/seduction03/01/25 03:14 AM
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Worst advice. I would followup with "you been kidnapped?" then next message like if nothing had happened
/r/seduction01/01/25 07:20 AM
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> since she told me that there’s nothing to do around here Bro, receiving that msg is a golden opportunity, she was bored.
/r/seduction30/12/24 02:44 AM
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it's both, it's skill and numbers game
/r/seduction30/12/24 02:41 AM
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beginner in the sense of maybe installing OLD for the first time in his life and playing with it for 2 days? gosh I can't believe I'm wasting time on this
/r/seduction28/12/24 03:10 PM
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How can you say "things going well" and later say "no first date yet"? Are you out of this world man?
/r/seduction28/12/24 02:34 PM
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I might go there at the end of Jan, will you still be there?
/r/seduction28/12/24 02:06 PM
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Too long IMO. And if I were you I would not make it personal. Stop referring to her in the message because it sounds like you found the love of your life when u actually dont know her. Make it impersonal by saying things like "for the right person I would move closer... yadda yadda"
/r/seduction25/12/24 07:52 AM
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It's easier to flirt and get dates with older women, but sleeping with them is a different story, they will scrutinize you more to reach that stage.
/r/seduction24/12/24 02:30 AM
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Word salad
/r/seduction24/12/24 12:58 AM
0

Would you be interested in a Rizz coach that takes no fee (only voluntary contribution if after the training you do get results)? That's me, I'm going to setup this experiment. DM me if you're interested.
/r/seduction21/12/24 02:40 PM
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This looks like the classic case of dating-app burnout, and needing a buddy/wingman to encourage and give you peer pressure to cold-approach women. I know you said you don't want coaches because you don't want to spend money, but how about a coach that takes no fee (only voluntary contribution if after the training you do get results)? That's me, I'm going to setup this experiment. DM me if you're interested.
/r/seduction21/12/24 09:55 AM
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It was a joke man, it was the other person who said that museums and art galleries are boring!
/r/seduction18/12/24 03:41 PM
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sigh it was a joke
/r/seduction18/12/24 01:21 AM
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I guess you meant quote dates unquote
/r/seduction17/12/24 10:54 AM
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but then you'll only date boring girls haha
/r/seduction17/12/24 10:51 AM
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Girls never state that they want something casual. They just stop texting and then after that it's when you know that it was casual for her.
/r/seduction17/12/24 10:46 AM
0

I think I had the same issues as you, and that's why (as I said in another comment) I've chosen option3 many times and cheated. If there was a magic pill to cure this issue, I would take it. I've even gone to therapy.
/r/seduction16/12/24 06:55 AM
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I've been burned indeed from choosing option 3 too many times :( Some of the times, I even got laid with the new girl, but you know what? That doesn't mean anything, because even if the new girl is looking for a relationship, and she clicks for you, you might not click for her (so you might leave your first girl for this new one, and it may not work out in the end). You have described one of the most difficult dilemmas in life.
/r/seduction16/12/24 06:40 AM
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Just ask random question first like, hey where are you from? If he then tries to hold a conversation with you then it means he might be interested in you. Wait for him to ask to exchange numbers and if by the end of the conversation he hasn't done it, then end it with "you wanna hang out later...?", if he says yes, then just the logical conclusion is exchanging numbers. This would feel much more natural than a girl asking for a guy's number and possibly perceived better, if this is your concern.
/r/seduction14/12/24 07:30 AM
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Any hotels with ability to check-in online?
/r/seduction10/12/24 09:49 AM
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so you do P4P now?
/r/seduction08/12/24 12:25 PM
1

where are you based?
/r/seduction04/12/24 01:34 PM
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I've never found a married wingman, most (all?) married men that I know are faithful.
/r/seduction04/12/24 02:58 AM
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Completely agree. And for the people that might have it a little harder finding a wingman because they are overseas, I have created a telegram group for this purpose that might help, themed "Passport Wings". If you want an invite just DM me your tg username or number.
/r/seduction04/12/24 12:25 AM
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That's the wrong mindset IMO. You're preparing and calculating everything to maximize the chances of success, it seems you're too ourcome-drpendent but sometimes it's better to just go with the flow.
/r/seduction04/12/24 12:06 AM
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You did the hardest thing which is make a move. Well fucking done! Now, the way to approach in my opinion was not the best, but the most important things are that: 1) You can learn to get better later. 2) You shouldn't care about the rejection. If you do, you won't do many more approaches, and then your chances will go back to zero. I'm considering an experiment about offering some free coaching, if you're interested DM me where you're based and I might consider it.
/r/seduction03/12/24 01:10 PM
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completely agree
/r/seduction03/12/24 12:27 PM
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> I would have to download an app and wear earbuds. Or have a mic that you can attach in your shirt. If shirt is black, girl won't even notice. > I think audio only tells 1/2 the story really Sure, but 1/2 is better than 0. > Most rejections only last 5 seconds with only a handful of words front he girl if that. The audio is not for the rejections, the audio is to analyze why when you get the number they still flake.
/r/seduction03/12/24 11:42 AM
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How about you try get the number with some, and get insta date with others, but not both things with all? Asking for the number after a rejection could be seen as needy.
/r/seduction03/12/24 09:41 AM
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> 45 minutes to 2 hours? Wtf. > Damn. > In daygame, 10 minutes would be a long set. IMO that's an exaggeration (or maybe the main reason of why I so low number of results from NG lol). However, this is precisely one of the reasons why NG sucks and DG is much better.
/r/seduction03/12/24 09:38 AM
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This is actually the main thing DG coaches do to be able to give advice to their students (I was a student once, the coach just gave me a mic).
/r/seduction02/12/24 10:29 AM
1

If you don't publish the convo on the internet and just keep it for yourself it's not illegal.
/r/seduction02/12/24 10:28 AM
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You dont know how to record conversations with your phone?
/r/seduction02/12/24 10:12 AM
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do you record your approaches? maybe a nice thing to do so that you can share with a coach or something, this way possibly highlighting things to change
/r/seduction02/12/24 09:59 AM
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Have you ever done cold approach? I'm thinking of running an experiment: I've never done coaching to others but I'm willing to do it for free for you and if you find any value in it you can pay me how much you think the training was worth. Keen? Where are you based?
/r/seduction01/12/24 01:12 PM
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IMHO bodies don't attract females; if anything, it's an extra factor that adds up in their minds when they are deciding if to keep you as long term partner or not. PS: Especially considering that most of them might not see your body until you really sleep with each other (unless you're obviously fat, something that can be seen without getting naked).
/r/seduction29/11/24 03:54 AM
2

so you're saying that if you want to get laid just use hookers, and this way you will stop putting women on a pedestal and stop being needy?
/r/seduction27/11/24 04:02 AM
1

Quit dating apps.
/r/seduction24/11/24 04:52 AM
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Don't tell her you have a date, say you have other plans for dinner.
/r/seduction24/11/24 02:09 AM
1

Just curious, in which continent are you?
/r/seduction22/11/24 03:45 PM
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"It's all the same in the end" is smooth? I think I'm missing something here.
/r/seduction22/11/24 12:13 PM
1

If she used you to make him jealous she had to make sure the guy to choose was attractive. So I would not be upset by this but the other way around.
/r/seduction20/11/24 01:54 AM
1

Do you do coaching?
/r/seduction20/11/24 01:42 AM
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Hat off, owning mistakes
/r/seduction19/11/24 08:54 AM
1

Interesting. Do you do coaching?
/r/seduction18/11/24 12:01 PM
1

How about you try this little trick for the next one: keep the date short and dont propose a second venue. Be the one that exits the date, dont let her say the words "I should leave now". This will leave them wondering that maybe you didnt like her, that she was not good enough for you. Then after some days propose a drink date (no coffee this time), like nothing happened. A girl will more likely sleep with you on a second date than in a first, and this way you spent the same (or less) time in t…
/r/seduction18/11/24 01:13 AM
1

Hey, maybe 1-3 days works for you because you are very attractive? But guys that are not too well in that department like me need these kind of embarrassing techniques.
/r/seduction18/11/24 01:05 AM
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It is not about if cold approach works or not. Surely the rejections of it feel much worse than being rejected on dating apps, but you need one, only one success occassion for cold approach for you to see the light of a new world. Because with cold approach you choose the woman, not like the apps where they choose you. So women from cold approach are way hotter than the ones that reply on the apps. And also they are more attracted to you during the date because they admire brave men. (Talking fr…
/r/seduction15/11/24 02:29 AM
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> Do you have any tips for approaching on the street? I’ve been trying to do it, but every time I see a cute girl I clam up and don’t say anything. Get a DG wing.
/r/seduction14/11/24 05:11 PM
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I'm in my 40s, I've banged twenty-somethings. I don't think you should assume he was a creepo, he had his chances just like you, you were late to the party.
/r/seduction10/11/24 05:44 PM
1

if they have boyfriends/husbands but don't reject, that's not OP's fault? (I'm assuming he wouldn't post the rejections lol)
/r/seduction03/09/24 10:39 AM
1

hey bro I was thinking about doing the same but also same hesitations came to me! how about we create a telegram group where we simply share them among us gamers?
/r/seduction03/09/24 10:11 AM
1

Then teach me to create my profile lol
/r/seduction21/08/24 08:23 PM
1

Disagree. If you do DayGame in EastAsia (China et al), they can reject you in less than 2 seconds just because they see you're not Asian, they don't even want to listen your first word, let alone your opener or preframe. I assure you they don't give a fuck about manners, for all intents and purposes you could be asking them what time is it, but they wouldn't want to talk to you because being of different race already means you wanna fuck.
/r/seduction09/07/24 04:24 PM
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This is the claim I was responding to: I know, but I reframed it because I dont think he meant: Fuckable-> YES|NO decide within 10 seconds if you are "fuckable" or not. I said: Fuckable -> MAYBE|NO . And that's why there are instant rejections: because those decided NO in 10 seconds or less. But if they stay, you're not in YES territory, you're in MAYBE. Just because she rejected you instantly in that context doesn't mean that she's made any real appraisal of how "fuckable" you or or would neces…
/r/seduction09/07/24 02:57 PM
1

I got rejected thousands of times in even less than 5 seconds bruh
/r/seduction09/07/24 12:34 PM
1

what he means is that in 10 seconds they know if you're a NO or a MAYBE (some others may even already on the YES side, but that's rare).
/r/seduction09/07/24 12:02 PM
16

If he mentions the thing about hitting on girls she already knows that he wants to drill her, which breaks all the tension/mystery. If I were him I would just invite her for a drink, as simple as that.
/r/seduction08/07/24 05:49 PM
1

what do you mean with being in the zone
/r/seduction20/11/19 04:54 PM
1

i may be interested especially if it's in bratislava
/r/seduction04/11/19 04:49 PM
1

Slutty side, my friend.
/r/seduction06/06/19 07:22 AM
1

my hat off man! this is the way to prevent being seen as needy and at the same time cause attraction, but it requires so much mastery
/r/seduction14/05/19 05:10 AM
1

Omfg, the last part of your message sounded super depressing. Hope you mean that you are married now or something, and this is why you haven't contacted a woman in 11years? I'm about to hit 40 and been having kinda semi success the last months, hopefully because I actually look a bit younger than my age (I try to stay healthy, with no beer belly at least, even if I don't go to the gym or lift).
/r/seduction20/04/19 05:58 AM
4

She knows that you might be thinking that it's the perfect situation to try to jump on her. So you have to behave and not feel too excited. The danger is, like many may be already thinking, to become the "gay friend", but you already told her she was cute, and she still gave you her number, so you've already shielded yourself from the friend zone, as she knows you're attracted to her. Therefore, don't be afraid to be as friendly as possible offering her a completely disinterested support. While …
/r/seduction07/03/17 05:51 PM
6

I lost a gf that way, I don't think there's a way to recover her.
/r/seduction07/08/16 03:04 PM
1

That's the thing! we actually didn't spend time alone! We have met only in volley games!
/r/seduction07/04/16 10:09 AM
1

It's true, but I also want a date with her. If I reply something short like that, I'm the master of the outcome-independent world, but I also don't get a date.
/r/seduction07/04/16 09:22 AM
1

cool that she feels she hasn't seen me in ages?
/r/seduction07/04/16 09:09 AM
1

Any reply suggestion that doesn't sound needy but helps set up the date?
/r/seduction07/04/16 08:24 AM
2

Get a wingman (or two) that doesn't drink. That will force you to open some of the chicks for the team and get rid of your AA.
/r/seduction17/01/16 04:50 PM
1

true that. "jack of all trades, master of none"
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:41 PM
0

If she doesn't give you the smallest subtle clue that she's into you, don't pursue her. This way, you're more relaxed when you're with her, because you will know she's only a friend. And then, only then, when you guys are hanging out as friends and having fun, she might start seeing you as an interesting guy (when that happens, you will know). Or some night you both will be drunk and kiss.
/r/seduction12/12/15 06:37 AM
1

yeah but now how to get the 2nd date? should I text her again about it soon or wait? I feel that this time she really has the ball in her side of the court...
/r/seduction10/12/15 08:14 AM
2

Thanks for the comments so far. What I've done in the end is text her through facebook instead of whatsapp, which is less direct. And not directly ask her about a 2nd date but link her to a small video I saw that reminded me of one of the topics we talked about in Sunday's date. She replied immediately with 4 messages so I think this has been a good move.
/r/seduction10/12/15 06:36 AM
1

cbf?
/r/seduction27/11/15 03:38 PM
1

shit happens, move on the next one (and only this way, she might come back)
/r/seduction27/11/15 01:01 PM
1

you got friendzoned dude
/r/seduction27/11/15 12:58 PM
1

Yeah I myself I'm getting into kino development lately, but I still don't manage to fuck on the first date. Somehow I think that if I try to go for it, the girl will think I'm just there for the sex. So I always wait to the 2nd or even 3rd date. Is this a mistake? How do you tell a girl to go to your place (or to her place) without seeming needy or a horndog?
/r/seduction25/11/15 09:10 AM
1

What's the joke at the beginning? I guess I didn't get it.
/r/seduction04/11/15 04:40 PM
0

Why do you assume it has to be her the one to text after the date and not you?
/r/seduction31/10/15 09:42 AM
11

I would concentrate on friendships first. Do you have close friends?
/r/seduction31/10/15 09:38 AM
3

thanks for sharing! tell us how it goes with the girl that gave you her number
/r/seduction30/10/15 12:28 AM
1

Also, I'm curious, can you share your stats? How many girls have you approached to get to this success? Was it 1 girl out of 30? I ask because by reading other posts (such as https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3qloc4/do_women_even_want_men_to_cold_approach_them/ ) I'm really curious to know an approximate percentage of women who really want to get approached ('want' is not the same as 'like').
/r/seduction29/10/15 01:19 PM
2

After she finished running around (about 45 minutes has gone by since the scheduled beginning of our date) we stopped at her house so she can drop off some things. I got chatty with her roommates and after about 5 minutes we left to walk on the beach. I kissed her while we walked and isolated her somewhere out of sight of beach goers. We sat and chatted for a while, kissing occasionally. I > began >> escalating and she was immediately super into it. I didn't experience a shred of LMR, Also good …
/r/seduction29/10/15 01:17 PM
1

Exactly. The last time I went out and found myself solo for some time until my friends arrived, I spent some time in a bar and sparked a conversation with the waitress much more easily just by telling I didn't know the area (I'm from the city, but didn't really know the neighbourhood...), so I went all the way and said I was not from the city, which prolonged the conversation much more, I think.
/r/seduction29/10/15 12:19 AM
2

Thanks for sharing, because most people would not publish their bad results. We need less bias.
/r/seduction29/10/15 12:16 AM
2

thanks for sharing
/r/seduction24/10/15 11:41 PM
1

Same happens to me with people in my country (I'm from Spain). I think there are certain people that are "wired" to get along better with the people that are more different culturally.
/r/seduction24/10/15 11:34 PM
1

Thanks for reading. Thanks for the little diagnostic!
/r/seduction23/10/15 01:32 PM
5

what?
/r/seduction23/10/15 01:22 AM
-1

Exactly, that's why I try to keep some lower-quality girls (FWB) around, so I don't feel as needy when talking to girls.
/r/seduction23/10/15 12:10 AM
1

I'm 35yo now. I'm usually a long-term relationship guy. When I'm not in a relationship, I end up being kinda promiscuous, but with low-quality girls (or girls which even if they seem to be high-quality at the beginning, they end up resulting uninteresting, so I move on). At some point when I turned 30 I settled for a girl which made me feel really good, because we felt like accomplices all the time. She was intelligent and very extroverted, which made me not care about other lower qualities she …
/r/seduction22/10/15 09:17 PM
1

My case: TL;DR version, "Maybe you can only get a certain quality of woman, but everyone hotter you screw up with" <- that's me. Now I'll explain in further detail replying to myself.
/r/seduction22/10/15 08:44 PM
4

The PUAs usually say "never apologize" but I think they refer to "after being direct", or "after the girl rejects you or tells you that she has a boyfriend". So I think "excuse me" is good enough to opening, because you're just apologizing for starting a conversation in an unexpected way, not for stealing her time or showing your feelings.
/r/seduction22/10/15 06:01 PM
29

So you fucked her without making out? That. Is. Weird.
/r/seduction21/10/15 09:25 AM
3

Yeah I think he tried this 30 times and it worked once, then he posted it in youtube.
/r/seduction20/10/15 10:47 AM
5

You can say anything, but never apologize.
/r/seduction20/10/15 10:39 AM
1

or this other one: "well, I'm actually not jealous"
/r/seduction19/10/15 12:24 AM
1

Same here. Although she got feelings at some point, which was pretty shitty because she suffered. But I think she understands now.
/r/seduction14/10/15 11:13 AM
2

I think you're focusing too much on fixing your loneliness without taking care of yourself first. Instead of going to a meetup event hoping to meet new people and make friends, just go there for the sake of the event itself, to enjoy it fully, and the side-effect will be making new friends without you noticing about it. It's more or less like how a company should work. If it focuses only on profit, it becomes boring and corrupt. A company should have a mission, and when it succeeds in that missi…
/r/seduction14/10/15 11:11 AM
2

nice one
/r/seduction14/10/15 11:07 AM
1

what does 'preempt with a soft close' mean? sorry, new to this community
/r/seduction14/10/15 11:03 AM
2

If you do that then you're already telling her that you're available. You broke the mystery.
/r/seduction13/10/15 09:46 PM
2

Same here! 2 months already too
/r/seduction12/10/15 10:36 PM
-2

Would you at least consider masturbating the guy? This way it's a relief for him even if not exactly sex...
/r/seduction12/10/15 09:40 PM
17

EXACTLY THIS, same happens to me. Last girlfriend I lost was because I was actually was afraid of losing her so I became sensible, and then she dumped me. If I hadn't given a shit about her I would still be her :( LIFE :-O :-I :-(
/r/seduction09/10/15 12:11 AM
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