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| 7 | THIS is why we don’t date men who insist on going dutch!! He’s the gold digger!!!I am not ubering to a date with any man. No thank you- he will pick me up or arrange transportation if he wants to see me. This is like basic decency. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 02:44 PM |
| 2 | Seems like the type of guy that thinks he can come home from the gym, sit on the couch and inhale an extra large pizza, 2L of coke and a sharing bag of Doritos, and its fine cos "he worked out" todayThat mustache is a mystery and so grotesque. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 04:52 AM |
| 3 | BlowjobsGirl samsies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 04:49 PM |
| 3 | Exceptions for the walking date?I also like dinner cooked at home sometimes. However he should go grocery shopping by himself, prep, etc and have it ready for you when you arrive. He should also be dressed up regardless of where the date is at. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 03:51 PM |
| 13 | Count the red flags in his profile ugh...He’s probably lying about that too tbh. He sounds full of sht | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 03:44 PM |
| 14 | I made you all a guide to the PERFECT walking date outfit - just to keep it nice and "casual" for him 😉I legitimately loled at this! Should have put those Velcro shoes with socks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 04:00 AM |
| 8 | Quarantine beards are a tragedy .. from Ryan Gosling lookalike to Ryan the Hobo. Why do they all do this??Team no beard. He looks fatter with the beard why would he do this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 05:12 AM |
| 2 | Fun fact really sad factI’ve never wanted to get married. It seems like a sham sold and packaged to women that does not benefit them at all. I think once you let that notion go life gets much easier. It’s also so much quicker to kick a LVM to the curb when you aren’t legally bound to him. I make it very clear in dating that I have no intention of marriage and the second he acts up he’s gone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 03:05 AM |
| 13 | The fake feminists gushed over her ‘groundbreaking’ lyrics that ‘smashed female stereotypes’. “ I don’t cook, clean, but I got this ring”. Yeah Cardi, you forgot the part about weeding out loser LVMs though. Look at you now 🤡 🤡 🤡She’s not great and overhyped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 03:31 AM |
| 23 | What’s your favourite FDS principle?Actions > words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 01:50 AM |
| 2 | How To ...Always remind yourself that you are the prize. If you have to lower your expectations for someone HE IS NOT THE PRIZE. You need to practice being assertive- ask a friend you are close with to help you. Stick around here and read the consequences of not setting firm boundaries. I think people want to avoid uncomfortable situations and as women we try to make ourselves smaller and we try not to make waves. You have every right to make waves when your boundaries are crossed. When I have to have an … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 04:23 PM |
| 2 | The thought of a woman proposing to a man makes me cringe 😬I think the lack of sunblock should me most concerning. Skin cancer is painful and no joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 02:13 PM |
| 43 | if they do you tit, do them 'TAT'I’ve never sent nudes because I don’t trust anyone like that. People have the best intentions until they don’t. My best friends ex boyfriend sent her nudes to her parents because he was hoping to get her back. The only time I would say to send nudes is if you’re okay with everyone seeing them. Parents, kids, strangers on the internet. Protect your body and that includes digitally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 07:26 PM |
| 114 | if they do you tit, do them 'TAT'The lesson of this post is don’t send nude photos of yourself to anyone. Protect you- also they have to earn the privilege of seeing your naked body in person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 04:26 PM |
| 3 | Why do people think that FDS means that we hate men?Because most men hate women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Men are dumb and annoying. I feel like calling it quits. Which dating apps do y’all like best?He is fascinating, what can I say? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 06:16 PM |
| 3 | Men are dumb and annoying. I feel like calling it quits. Which dating apps do y’all like best?We had a lot to talk about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 03:11 AM |
| 4 | Men are dumb and annoying. I feel like calling it quits. Which dating apps do y’all like best?I found someone on the first date from a dating app on hinge. I chatted with maybe 5 men for a few weeks before agreeing to meet this one. He read my profile and got that I was being funny and responded being equally funny. He didn’t bring up sex once and asked at the end of the date if it would be okay to kiss me. The date lasted for 6 hours. It was adorable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 01:15 AM |
| 11 | So lazy, so boring....these Hinge profiles send me into a comaIf you’re not into travel then you should delete this app. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 01:44 AM |
| 24 | So lazy, so boring....these Hinge profiles send me into a comaI also like sports and the outdoors | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 01:36 AM |
| 14 | Men on dating apps increasingly unattractive?I met a HVM on OLD (specifically hinge) You have to sift through a lot of trash on there to find the treasure. However, you are young and have a long time in front of you to find someone. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself and it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Dating should be fun and not do or die. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:42 AM |
| 10 | Some real tea: You should only get married if the guy treats you like a queen and/or if he has money.Also- if you just want a wedding, throw a big party for yourself instead of marrying. The amount of women that want to get married to have a big wedding blows my mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Just a little PSAI agree with this 1000%. But even if you are going to have children, be incredibly careful with who you choose to have them with. I went to help my friend get a restraining order yesterday at the courthouse for a boyfriend that abuses her. There was a lady inside with two small children that said she’s been hiding from her husband but he found her address and has been driving across state lines to harass her and stalk her. The judges advice? Have you thought about moving? I was speechless. Men a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 09:02 PM |
| 8 | Just a little PSAAlso for the people in the back- DO NOT BUY A HOUSE OR ANY FORM OF REAL ESTATE TO SOMEONE YOU ARE NOT MARRIED TO. You have no protection and you will most certainly end up on the bad side of that investment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 08:41 PM |
| 31 | ExactlyI believed this lie when I didn’t really understand what Tinder was in 2014. After someone sent me screen grabs of my then bf on it, I made a fake one with fake pics to match with him. Not only did I find him, but I found a number of friends and colleagues in LTR’s on there. It was so skeazy. Never trust anyone that’s “with you” if they still have the app on their phone. Also- believe other women when they come forward to give you the courtesy that your significant other is on there. Don’t attac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 08:31 PM |
| 122 | Male socialization means earnestly expecting women to act as charities that do everything for themWe are not his Mother. It is not our job to help and teach him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:29 PM |
| 24 | Condomsalways insist on condoms. If he even hesitates, dump his ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 05:40 AM |
| 6 | If you use dating apps, what does your bio look like?I went for the funny and smart side. I want to know if he can take a joke and respond to mine with thought and humor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 11:11 PM |
| 3 | I just came to the realization that maybe I fall for LVM because all the men in my family (dad, brother, most of my uncles) are LVM 🤯My brother is NV. He was mean to me my whole childhood and abusive. I was also scared of the angry guys but I still went with the emotionally unavailable ones because I didn’t know any better and I thought all relationships were supposed to be hard. I had to really work on not flinching when a man reaches towards me. Being with a nice guy is difficult for me because I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop. When they are generous I am constantly asking myself what they want from me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, if you're in your early 30s, how old is too old?I’m 30, bf is 45. We met on a dating app- I didn’t set my preference it just automatically assigns a default age range that I wasn’t really paying attention to. I thought OLD was a joke tbh and was just seeing what was out there. He actually read my profile and struck up an interesting conversation with me. He was funny, sincere, and didn’t once bring up sex or inappropriate innuendo. He’s physically fit and healthy- works out everyday and has a personal trainer. He was more concerned with the a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 06:24 PM |
| 9 | From AskWomen: For those of you married, what is one red flag you noticed and let pass before marrying your SO that you deeply regret glazing over?I will add this to say- my brother is abusive towards my mother and me. He does this in front of his girlfriends and THEY STAY thinking their fate will be different. He has no trouble getting girls and NONE of them speak up or leave for this troubling behavior. When they eventually break up “none of them saw his abusive side at first” and I’m like nah sis it was Right. There. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 02:42 PM |
| 8 | How do I put an end to excessive compliments?I have a no compliment rule. They aren’t allowed to compliment me- and I tell them so. This will Stop 90% of the crap that comes out of their mouth and requires them to start a conversation without trying to flatter me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 05:38 AM |
| 1 | Reddit be likeI didn’t mean not dating them as a punishment. I meant the rigid rules that we lay out such as “I won’t date anyone under 6 feet.” I know we all have preferences but I think that’s a very limited mindset when someone could be HV in every other way except for his height and it’s not something he can control. If he’s 5’ 9” and really kind to you I think eliminating him because of that one rule is using height as a punishment. Same with us as ladies. We already get so much crap for not being skinny… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 03:49 PM |
| 5 | HVM or LVM?Mine isn’t a great texter either especially while he’s working. He does call me every single day though when he’s done with work and then calls me before bed to say goodnight. It sounds like he’s only interested in sex if he isn’t making any effort to communicate between. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 06:14 PM |
| 4 | Reddit be likeNone of us can control our height. Why should we be punished for it or punish others for it? I don’t understand why there’s such a big focus on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 06:00 PM |
| 67 | Why What He Spends MattersI would also upgrade this to say his time also matters as well as what he spends. If he’s spending time/money on you then he’s not able to make more or spend it on someone else. Even if what he does doesn’t automatically equal him spending more money. For example, if you mention how you’ve always wanted to do a certain activity even if it’s not expensive and he plans it and follows through with it, he’s more HV. I mentioned wanting to go to the drive in movies during quarantine and he researched… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:55 PM |
| 50 | Ladies I'm going to tell you a huge secret about menAlso- no one is that busy. You only don’t have time for things you don’t care about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 05:39 PM |
| 8 | Not having a father to show you how to be a man is not an excuse to be a piece of shit. Fatherless men can be good men if they want to be.I’m not crying, you’re crying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 05:33 PM |
| 5 | Think I am finally done with men.Until she slanders you on social media and to your friends and family to protect her lying and cheating spouse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 08:07 PM |
| 16 | Think I am finally done with men.Sometimes the wives shoot the messenger. And go full on attack mode to the girl who in this case is also a victim. Women sometimes don’t want to see truth that’s right in front of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 06:09 PM |
| 3 | Why do you desire marriage?I don’t desire marriage. Yes you would get “repayment” for the emotional effort that you put into the relationship if you break up but I think that’s not worth it. I also don’t want to be in a contract with someone like a vending machine. I can be committed to someone and them to me without having a contract. I support and take care of myself. I have a good job, house, and car. I also inherited things that are sentimental and valuable from the sudden passing of my dad. I cannot imagine splitting… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 06:06 PM |
| 140 | Unbelievable, next-level Pickmeisha whose husband only chose her after he became paraplegicHE DUMPED ME. I’m going to leave that there sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 01:06 AM |
| 4 | How long can a man go without contacting you?He should at least be checking in everyday. Non negotiable for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 03:53 AM |
| 28 | this porn sicko wants everyone to know he controls her, she's worried he will leave her if she doesn't obey.Sis- you are not an animal. Do not get treated like one. Jesus Christ. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 03:46 AM |
| 44 | Early signs he's no good in bed or with communicationThe not calling when they say they will is a HUGE red flag. There is no excuse other than you weren’t the priority to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 04:58 AM |
| 15 | Cleaning inspo videos are toxic. They normalize women cleaning up after their slob kid's and husband's messes.Everything about this post makes me not want a husband or children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 04:49 AM |
| 9 | Have any of y'all ever exposed a man to his gf?Not anymore. Women rarely want to see the truth about their LVM and society is so warped that they generally shoot the messenger. This goes with all aspects of other people’s relationship not just cheating but- you can’t tell anyone anything about their relationship and have them listen. Everyone has to figure it out for themselves and make mistakes over and over before they learn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 01:36 PM |
| 2 | HVM and HobbiesI would extend a hobby to be anything he finds interesting and spends time on outside of work and sleeping. It doesn’t necessarily have to be an output. The guy I’m dating is currently into playing guitar, meditating, working out, cars, going on motorcycle trips with friends etc. he doesn’t produce anything per se but he devotes time to it and it makes him balanced. He also listens to podcasts in his spare time that add knowledge. I find it to be incredibly attractive that he has these and makes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 05:38 PM |
| 8 | Online dating optionsI was anti OLD until recently. A friend convinced me to do it on a dare. I had to chat with like 75 LVM but the first one I met on a real date we actually clicked. It’s not all bad you just have to wade through the bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 07:34 PM |
| 9 | Consider it a red flag if a guy isn't wild about any unique features of yours.I agree with this so much. Especially noticing that other people are noticing. I have long straight bright blonde hair. Everyone compliments me on it and most people agree it’s my best feature. I asked the guy I’m dating how he feels about my hair and he joked that it’s my fifth best feature behind my eyes, my smile, my face, and my personality. I joked back then he’d be okay if I cut it off and he said seriously please don’t do that I love your hair. I appreciate that he appreciates it but also… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 04:12 PM |
| 13 | Advice on How to Stay Emotionally Unavailable in a Relationship?I keep the mindset that everyone is replaceable. Yes you can care for him and even love him but one misstep and you’re gone. He should feel that pressure to not mess up because he knows he will lose you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 04:19 PM |
| 28 | How do we balance our integrity with society's expectations of appearances? How far should we go to improve how we look?I think dressing well and taking care of yourself is a sign of respect not only to other people but yourself as well. It shows you’ve put energy and thought into what you’re doing and it’s on purpose. I would say avoid the slippery slope of “am I doing enough...” because there’s never going to be enough. If you are happy with your appearance and your dressing standards then you’re golden. I personally spend a lot on skincare (it’s your largest organ and the only one everyone can see everyday). I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 10:39 PM |
| 19 | It’s not always possible to have fast confirmation of low value behaviour. Which is why it’s important to vet and CONTINUE to vet throughout your relationship.You should ask yourself does he choose me today and show me with his actions? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 07:37 PM |
| 16 | Ladies, do you have some wisdoms to pass down on how to recognise and avoid those type of men? Seems to me those kind of men use some advanced manipulation techniques.That woman made a lot of assumptions and it looks like she wasn’t asking enough hard questions during their talks. Never assume you are in a relationship until you’ve talked about it and spent time in person. Also-her reaction breaking down in tears and begging for an explanation is pickmeisha behavior. She should have matched his tone and been indifferent to him. He got to sleep with her and an ego trip and he’s going to leave her in the dust. I bet there were more red flags from this guy that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 02:14 PM |
| 4 | How do I maintain abundance mentality when I'm very picky when it comes to looks?Don’t settle- but focus on the things that are important. Is he kind to you? Does he respect you? Can he carry a conversation? Does he truly think you’re the bees knees? I’m not saying date a troll but keep it in perspective that he can be a 6 physically and a 10 in everything else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 05:29 AM |
| 3 | Winner of the r/amitheasshole LVMsThis is financial abuse. Period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 07:48 PM |
| 25 | Woman gets called “nothing but a mouth to use and abuse” by her fiancé and “ideally doesn’t want to be told to break up with him”She’s not in a relationship. She’s a doormat. Anytime someone says abusive things like this it’s a huge red flag. Leave sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 03:31 AM |
| 146 | Woman gets called “nothing but a mouth to use and abuse” by her fiancé and “ideally doesn’t want to be told to break up with him”I would have been gone with “nothing but a mouth to use and abuse”. Not ONE sentence in this post is okay. Why do women accept this kind of treatment?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 07:49 PM |
| 20 | Can we talk about manners?Agree with this 1000%. There is no excuse for bad table manners. If he starts eating before you sit down, sis break up with him. He should also not be eating with his hands and should be using a napkin properly. No elbows on the table. These are basic signs of respect. Also for the love of god no phones at the table. He should not pull out his phone when you sit down for a meal. House and car should be clean which includes clean sheets and clean bathroom. He should also be opening doors for you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 07:06 PM |
| 2 | Why would a man be a bachelor later in life if he claims he has always wanted a family?I agree. He also shared with me that he was out of his element and wasn’t sure how to handle the situation so he probably didn’t always do the right thing. I appreciate his honesty in the situation and that he tried to make himself better afterwards. His ex in-laws also mail him Christmas cards still and have nothing but kind things to say about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 07:16 PM |
| 3 | I looked up “angry dragon” because of the comments on this thread. I’m honestly so horrified by the extent of male depravityWOMEN AGREE TO THIS???????!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 03:34 PM |
| 2 | Why would a man be a bachelor later in life if he claims he has always wanted a family?I’m dating someone who is divorced about 5 years from his wife. He still speaks about her in a positive light and they would probably still be married if she didn’t turn into an alcoholic. He said it was the most difficult decision he had to make because when she was sober she was the person he was in love with and when she drank this monster would replace her. He went to AA and therapy for two years after the relationship and worked on himself. I would say sometimes people change and to take it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 03:16 PM |
| 3 | Men make up more than 90% of the jail and prison population in the United States. That stat translates over to OLD.I would also say it’s like any pool of men- you need to properly vet them. I met a HVM off of a dating app and there were 100 LVM before this one. Trust your judgement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 05:15 AM |
| 4 | anybody else unable to tolerate normal relationship subs anymore?For most of these other forums, people have to know sh-t in their relationship is wrong to come ask a bunch of strangers for advice on the internet. The problem is no one wants to do anything about it so most of them follow the path of least resistance. I also think so many people are desperate to not be alone that they can’t and won’t raise their standards. It gives me heart palpitations reading about these horrible relationships people are in. It’s become so normalized now that it’s not even a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 04:32 AM |
| 0 | Ugly men aren't more attracted to ugly or average (non-hot) women because they're ugly. Stop thinking that. Most men share the same taste but not the same standard.I would also say to keep an open mind. Although physical attraction is important, you should definitely be looking to see if they are ugly on the inside- whatever is going on in there is going to be projected onto you regardless of what he looks like. I’m significantly better looking than the guy I’m dating and we are the same height. It doesn’t bother him and he doesn’t take it out on me or treat me poorly because he’s insecure. He’s kind, charming, and extraordinarily thoughtful. I think sayin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 11:08 PM |
| 10 | Pickmeishas brag about fucking their married “work husbands”.I am concerned. What in the actual fuck? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 12:56 AM |
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