yodawgchill Archive

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2	Are We Trading Monogamy for Misery? How Feminism’s Sexual Freedom Is Failing Us Destigmatizing promiscuity = all relationships are equal?? Bro what are you on? This the dumbest shit I’ve ever heard	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/24 12:39 AM
0	Are We Trading Monogamy for Misery? How Feminism’s Sexual Freedom Is Failing Us Fr about 50% of the stuff I see in this sub at this point is men just trying to justify the most pathetic excuses to just say stuff about women/gender that just says way too much about who they are. Do they not realize that this sort of thinking embeds itself into how they act overall, thus making them one of the most unattractive groups of men to be around? Like…I wonder why this guy thinks it’s so hard to find a woman to be in a real relationship with… maybe it’s because he’s insufferable in r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/24 12:34 AM
1	Are We Trading Monogamy for Misery? How Feminism’s Sexual Freedom Is Failing Us No? Your examples don’t even line up. I don’t think you understand what moral superiority is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/24 12:29 AM
0	Are We Trading Monogamy for Misery? How Feminism’s Sexual Freedom Is Failing Us They didn’t mean every man is out here fucking everything that breathes. They were saying “men get to do x,y,z” in the sense that they are more free to do so as it has been less stigmatized for a very long time. Both men and women generally can fuck whatever consenting partner they wish, the point was that men generally don’t face much social backlash for promiscuity while women are widely shamed for similar behavior.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/24 12:23 AM
0	Why don't we ever hear about "henpecked wives"? It's always the henpecked husband I think you missed my point. I mean the stereotypes are going to be different for men and women based on culture even if there are behavior similarities in some degree. By “other means of depicting men as burdens” I mean on other grounds than nagging entirely, like they’ll joke about him being useless when it comes to arranging stuff for the kids or house, jokes about him being incompetent in certain areas which would make him be considered a burden. Like the jokes about dads not knowing the nam…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 02:47 PM
3	Why don't we ever hear about "henpecked wives"? It's always the henpecked husband There are stereotypes for each gender that asshole men and asshole women use against each other. Even if there are equivalencies they don’t always line up in terms of how society presents them. Being a “nag” or “henpecker” falls in line with the “ball and chain” type jokes that depict women as burdens for men. Women use other means to depict men as burdens. These will differ based on varying social and cultural norms for men and women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 02:38 PM
0	Why don't we ever hear about "henpecked wives"? It's always the henpecked husband “Hehe my husband beats me” cough cough “guys you’re supposed to laugh😰”	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 02:33 PM
1	Why don't we ever hear about "henpecked wives"? It's always the henpecked husband I would think the type of examples you gave comes from a pretty specific situation where one partner doesn’t view the other as intelligent. (At least that’s what I think that sort of thing stems from because I have seen that with both men and women and that’s how it always seemed to me, that they didn’t trust their partners intellect and felt their partner was not as capable as themselves.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 02:30 PM
-2	Why don't we ever hear about "henpecked wives"? It's always the henpecked husband The only women I ever personally knew to act this way did it because the men they were married to genuinely didn’t pull their weight around the house. Like… they didn’t do anything except sit around and expect their wife who works the same hours as them to do all of the household and childcare stuff while their husband acts as if they are fully incompetent. I do assume it can go both ways. If a guy is married to a lazy woman who refused to help with anything around the house, I’m sure he would “…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 02:14 PM
4	Why don't we ever hear about "henpecked wives"? It's always the henpecked husband I think it’s probably one of the “50s husbands” types of jokes where the wife makes a simple mistake and the husband beats the shit out of her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 02:10 PM
1	Male sexlessness should be taken about as seriously as the orgasm gap. Bro you clearly just don’t understand basic concepts as I have now explained multiple times and you seem unable to read. This is not surprising considering that several of your comments were so poorly written they were hard to interpret at all. I will no longer be arguing about such an old post with someone who cannot read or make a reasonable argument that holds any water.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 12:11 PM
1	Male sexlessness should be taken about as seriously as the orgasm gap. Yes. Enjoyment of sex has evolutionary significance. Is that its only significance? No. If you are a decent partner and a decent person, that should be more than clear.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 12:07 PM
1	Male sexlessness should be taken about as seriously as the orgasm gap. Honey. No. I don’t know what you don’t understand. Various beings evolve sexual pleasure to increase the odds of procreation, but now most people just have sex for that pleasure and use measures to prevent pregnancy. Just because pleasure is an evolutionary trait that has significance doesn’t mean that reproduction still has to be the primary goal of sex. To equate those two things shows that you don’t understand this topic. My point of the evolutionary advantage to the female orgasm was to cons…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 12:05 PM
1	Male sexlessness should be taken about as seriously as the orgasm gap. You have a very minimal understanding of how natural selection works. The point is, people who are better sexual partners who do a lot to please their partners will have more opportunities to reproduce. If women are not having orgasms during sex, this decreases those opportunities because they won’t be enjoying the sex and will choose to do other things instead. If women are enjoying the sex, they will have more sex, thus increasing opportunities.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 11:29 AM
1	If love, relationships, companionship, attention and affection of women isnt a reward for men's good behavior, then how come the deprivation of all of those things is some sort of punishment for morally broken behavior? Bro this isn’t even a gender thing, it’s just how interpersonal relationships work. Because no one is inherently owed the affection of someone else just for being a decent person. Thats just not how love works. However, if you act like a sack of shit, you may in fact be earning yourself a lack of attention by driving others away with your nasty attitude.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/24 01:08 PM
–	Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seem I have sex with my boyfriend, though I did not for a long time because we were both virgins when we got together and I’m really terrified of the idea that I might get pregnant. Once you find the right person, they really won’t care. It may take a bit longer at 25 but I still think you’ll be able to find a guy that doesn’t mind. If you continue on dating apps, I think you should tell guys that you aren’t looking for hookups and will not be having sex outside of a relationship. Maybe clarify that …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 02:43 PM
–	Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seem When I was a virgin I was generally not treated very well by men. Even if they were nice to me in the beginning, the second they realized I wasn’t going to offer them sex any time soon, they made a big deal about how I wasted their time and effort. I was always really upfront about the fact that I was practicing celibacy, a lot of men seem to just have this fantasy of finding a girl who is “pure” and deeply values sex and likely wants to save herself for marriage, but they want to be this super …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 02:35 PM
1	Doesn't it seem counter-intuitive that women are generally against "red pilled" mentalities? It’s hard to keep belief systems like that from affecting your personality as a whole. The red pill belief system generally makes men less attractive to most women. The way they talk in general is often pretty off-putting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 05:07 PM
1	Doesn't it seem counter-intuitive that women are generally against "red pilled" mentalities? Regardless, most red pill men just use it to make points which I don’t think they even realize are extremely unattractive. Then they come to places like this to complain about a problem with women that really just stems from women not liking them because they are a major drag.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 03:43 PM
12	Doesn't it seem counter-intuitive that women are generally against "red pilled" mentalities? You’re cherry picking just the tamest parts of the movement. TBH the redpill rhetoric just makes every man who follows it seem like an incel loser who blames women for his problems, and I don’t need that in my life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 01:17 PM
3	A question on consent culture? Your essay was all over the place. I’m not individually addressing a bunch of comments poorly strung together haphazardly like a middle school assignment you didn’t try on. It is very clear what you are trying to say, the things you are saying are just wildly illogical in a way that’s hard to even address. You’ve never read something so dumb it was hard to explain all of what is wrong with it? Especially to the person who thought the crap was worth writing? I don’t have the time to break everyth…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/24 05:31 PM
3	A question on consent culture? I would also like you to return to the definition of consent I previously gave as that will make it clear where I stand. You just decided to interrogate me on your own points because “she must just not understand my totally sensible argument!!” I get it. It’s just a bad argument.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/24 05:23 PM
3	A question on consent culture? That social cues regarding sex have nuances that can override the “no means no” argument. However, it is hard to address the entirety of your arguments because most of them are just nonsensical as they don’t have much to do with what consent really is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/24 05:18 PM
3	A question on consent culture? Wow so you really have nothing of value to say. Who would have guessed? In order to reiterate your arguments in a way that would confirm my true understanding, it would require more than a sentence or two. Anyone over the age of 9 should be competent enough to know that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/24 05:07 PM
4	A question on consent culture? What do you think consent means? It means to give someone permission. If you say “can I do this?” And I say “no” then I have officially denied consent regardless of the surrounding context of the situation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/24 05:06 PM
6	A question on consent culture? What you want me to restate your whole essay? I’m not gonna do that, it would be a waste of time because you will not accept anything that denies your excuses to be a rapey weirdo. To consent is to give someone permission to do something. If someone directly tells you “no I don’t want to do that,” you have officially been denied consent. It doesn’t matter if you don’t feel their “no” makes sense to you within the context of the situation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/24 05:03 PM
7	A question on consent culture? You are dumb as a rock. Your entire argument is ridiculous and you just sound like a freak. This is why you now use this ridiculously stupid argument against me, suggest I am “pro rape,” because you don’t actually have anything reasonable or valuable to say.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/24 04:55 PM
12	A question on consent culture? Congrats this may actually be the dumbest thing I’ve seen here	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/24 04:48 PM
1	What is creepy? I didn’t mean individually. I was speaking on wild generalizations debasing women as a monolithic entity. Not just people calling each other mean names. At first I thought maybe I was jumping to unfair conclusions about you, but your response makes me think I was on the right track. In response to me asserting that people were likely angry about how you said something (a guess I made based on the language you were using and the fact that you wouldn’t provide any solid examples), you decided to i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 09:39 PM
1	Bachelor vs bachelorette parties, and what does this say about women? Yeah this guy is a moron. I’ve only ever heard of men joke about the bachelor party being their “last chance at freedom before being stuck with one woman forever” and it’s a super common thing for them to “joke” about. Dudes tend to think it’s more common for women because of this weird pornified fantasy version of women that lives in their imagination. And it’s usually women who say they don’t want there to be such parties before the wedding🤦🏻‍♀️	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 05:56 PM
1	Why is there no movement to teach girls and women how to treat guys better? This is such a dumb example that seems unrelated to your point. If you want a movement you can’t wait for others to start it for you. Whenever I have seen someone talk about “how to treat a man” it has always been followed by just saying really degrading things about women submitting to men and handling everything while you basically allow your husband to be a bumbling Bafoon and care for him as if he is a child. It’s honestly pretty offensive to men and feels like calling them stupid and useles…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 05:53 PM
1	What is creepy? Will people who look like the hunchback of notre dame get different reactions to their actions compared to people who look like Chris hemsworth? Yes. However, dumbing it down to: “if he’s attractive, that’s just him making a move he wouldn’t be viewed as a creep, if he’s average or below average looking and makes a move then he’s super creepy.” Is infantile and moronic. It’s such an elementary understanding of what the halo effect is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 05:44 PM
1	if your partner wanted to check your phone would you let her or him We have each others passwords and are in Face ID , but we’ve never gone through each others phones looking for something. It’s mostly about convenience bc sometimes we use each others phones if we need to. I personally don’t get having a problem with your partner having access to your phone. Are there embarrassing things in my phone? Sure. But I don’t think he is going through it in search of something so🤷🏻‍♀️ If I somehow caught him doing it behind my back, we would def have to have a serious c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 05:20 PM
0	What is creepy? You are being very irrational. This is a very immature line of thought.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 05:16 PM
2	What is creepy? It was almost definitely whatever else you said or how you said it. A lot of times guys say absolutely disgusting shit and the sentiment behind it isn’t actually so bad, they just phrase it in a way that is really degrading and gross.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 05:16 PM
1	why do women insist on dating men making as much if not more than them? I don’t really know a lot of women like this, but I think it really depends on how much you make. If I was making less than 40k a year, yeah it would probably be nice to end up with someone who makes a little more than that so we could have a more comfortable household. But if I am making 6 figures, I don’t really care what you are doing as long as you are either doing your absolute best to pull your weight or you are just passionate about your work even if you don’t make a lot.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 05:14 PM
1	Why is there a belief that a lot of men have it easy? I think it’s because a lot of men could have it easy if they didn’t make really stupid mistakes. Like, mistakes that are genuinely a sign of a lack of social intelligence. How many men would I have given a chance if they didn’t ruin it first by saying something absolutely vile and grotesque that made my skin crawl? An unfathomable amount. I don’t think most people have it super easy, i think it is natural for people to think we have it really hard while things seem easier for others. Usually tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 05:10 PM
1	Is this just a Southeast thing or do most women want to date a cowboy? I’m in the southeast and I would like to say no. Not only is it not just regional, it is also just heavily specific to the people you happen to surround yourself with. I can name a few people I know would like this but they are a specific type to be sure.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 04:54 PM
–	Question for women - why do women shame men for having standards? What is the actual reason for this? It’s not about having standards. The thing is, those guys are genuinely just being assholes and trying to get away with it by saying “it’s just a preference, jeez. You guys just hate men!!” No. It’s just inherently different to say something like “I want to date a woman who hasn’t had a lot of sexual partners because 1) I haven’t had a lot of partners and want to find someone on the same page, 2) I take sexual health of myself and my partners very seriously and it makes me feel better and safer …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 04:52 PM
3	Which guy are you picking? I’m not big on height and I’ve been attracted to much shorter guys. But i think I’m about 5’6 or 5’7 (not sure) anyway so yeah similar height to me is probably ideal but I wouldn’t reject someone just because they were a little too short or too tall. I don’t think I really have a limit when it comes to how short a guy is but my limit when it comes to how tall a guy can be is prob like 6’1, after it gets higher than that I’m not really into it, but I wouldn’t say I have a strict cutoff if I reall…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 04:25 PM
5	Which guy are you picking? Nah	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 03:55 PM
8	Which guy are you picking? Andrew is like my exact type tbh. Like that’s honestly almost ideal. Dan sounds like a major cunt that I could never be attracted to or have any positive opinions of. 7 inches is too much. I also don’t want a guy who already has several children, especially if he is a major dickhead because he probably isn’t even a good dad. Also based on his info he seems like super irresponsible and immature so no. Jason just seems like too much for me personally. I think I would get annoyed with him because o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 03:54 PM
2	Men who have had a lot of casual sex have worse pair-bonding abilities Idk I think this could be relationship related too regardless of sex. I have friends that aren’t promiscuous by any means but after a pretty damaging relationship or two they end up with the same attitude. No more idealized versions of people, no more butterflies, just trying to connect with someone and if it fails then whatever you just gotta move on🤷🏻‍♀️ I can’t say I relate, and I probably never will (but who knows?) However, I understand how a bad enough relationship could damage someone to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 01:46 PM
2	Question For Women, Which Of These Men Would You Rather Get Into A Relationship With? I wouldn’t call any of them ideal, but I think Paul would be the best choice for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/24 10:23 PM
9	Male sexlessness should be taken about as seriously as the orgasm gap. When it comes down to it, no one owes you sex, but you are owed basic respect. Thats the difference here. Not getting sex isn’t being disrespected, but sharing your body with someone only to end up being treated as less deserving of pleasure during the encounter is definitely disrespectful. You genuinely think that female orgasm wasn’t a serious factor in prolonging our species? Come on and think about this for five seconds. If you enjoy sex, you are more likely to continue choosing to have sex.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/24 12:45 PM
–	I have witnessed firsthand girls who previously wanted a guy badly but completely lost interest in him when they found out he was nice Oh yeah it does seem like you messed up, considering that doesn’t apply to what we were talking about in any way, shape, or form. This was previously addressed in earlier comments, I’m not reiterating because you can find them yourself. No one is getting rejected purely for being just too great. There is always a reason even if it isn’t something directly about them. Generally, it will be that they are really boring, they are super bad about people pleasing, or you just didn’t connect and the ni…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/24 10:32 PM
1	I have witnessed firsthand girls who previously wanted a guy badly but completely lost interest in him when they found out he was nice Those things aren’t equal. A nice person will come and help you if you need them to, a nice person will support you when you need them, a nice person will be thoughtful without needing instruction because they just really care. A people pleaser will put your needs the back burner to do something virtually insignificant for someone else because they are horrified of the idea of that person being upset with them. They have a debilitating fear of rejection and severe levels of insecurity. They will…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/24 09:11 PM
1	I have witnessed firsthand girls who previously wanted a guy badly but completely lost interest in him when they found out he was nice Those things aren’t equal. A nice person will come and help you if you need them to, a nice person will support you when you need them, a nice person will be thoughtful without needing instruction because they just really care. A people pleaser will put your needs the back burner to do something virtually insignificant for someone else because they are horrified of the idea of that person being upset with them. They have a debilitating fear of rejection and severe levels of insecurity. They will…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/24 09:11 PM
1	I have witnessed firsthand girls who previously wanted a guy badly but completely lost interest in him when they found out he was nice Those things aren’t equal. A nice person will come and help you if you need them to, a nice person will support you when you need them, a nice person will be thoughtful without needing instruction because they just really care. A people pleaser will put your needs the back burner to do something virtually insignificant for someone else because they are horrified of the idea of that person being upset with them. They have a debilitating fear of rejection and severe levels of insecurity. They will…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/24 09:10 PM
1	I have witnessed firsthand girls who previously wanted a guy badly but completely lost interest in him when they found out he was nice Their people pleasing tendencies often result in them having really interesting dynamics with the people around them, ESPECIALLY those they have known the longest. Sure it will affect the way they deal with pretty much all of their conflicts, but when they have spent basically their whole lives catering to the emotions of certain people like some family members and friends, that it what is familiar to them. They aren’t used to defending themselves, and if it comes down to it they will definitely…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/24 08:48 PM
1	I have witnessed firsthand girls who previously wanted a guy badly but completely lost interest in him when they found out he was nice It sounds like you aren’t listening to what the discussion is about at all because you sound really lost and I can’t see how anything you said applies to anything we are talking about. You can be nice without having no boundaries or respect for yourself. Chronic people pleasing comes with serious issues. If a family member asks them to do something, no matter how trivial, they will bail on you so they don’t have to say no to mommy. If someone is saying bad things about you while they are around …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/24 08:28 PM
15	I have witnessed firsthand girls who previously wanted a guy badly but completely lost interest in him when they found out he was nice I think that applies to both genders in different areas. No matter who you are, you’ll never really be able to do anything “right” someone will always be mad about your choices, so fuck that and do what YOU think is right. Some people just never get to that point though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 08:23 PM
8	I have witnessed firsthand girls who previously wanted a guy badly but completely lost interest in him when they found out he was nice Everyone should try their best to be a good person. Nice is great, nice is perfect, but you can be nice without being a doormat and letting people treat you like a dog.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 08:19 PM
13	I have witnessed firsthand girls who previously wanted a guy badly but completely lost interest in him when they found out he was nice Yeah if you can’t ever say no to ANYONE, you have a lot of work to do on yourself, and most people just aren’t going to want to be along for the ride. It’s a setup for just having your time repeatedly disrespected which sucks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 05:58 PM
5	I have witnessed firsthand girls who previously wanted a guy badly but completely lost interest in him when they found out he was nice The point they were making was when people do something wrong, agree that it was wrong simply to get out of really addressing it, and just keep doing it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 05:55 PM
7	I have witnessed firsthand girls who previously wanted a guy badly but completely lost interest in him when they found out he was nice Exactly, they do it to everyone. They just lie to you so that they can avoid any sort of confrontation over anything. Its exhausting. I wonder if the people who get upset seeing this stuff be mentioned are the very same people we are talking about. They’ll always be “so guilty” but they never take any accountability or do anything to try to change things. It’s always “I didn’t have a choice, saying no (to anything) is mean!”	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 05:43 PM
8	I have witnessed firsthand girls who previously wanted a guy badly but completely lost interest in him when they found out he was nice It can cause issues regardless of gender when you are with someone who has really persistent people pleasing tendencies. It sucks all around, you are lucky if you haven’t had to deal with someone who just has no spine or boundaries with anyone. You made plans with them that have been set for months? Oh suddenly their mom wants to do something that is not important and can be done on any other day, but your boyfriend/girlfriend just CANT bear to tell their mom they already have plans, so you spen…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 04:47 PM
1	Is it a red flag if a woman says that none of her exes or guy's she has slept with treated her nice? I think there are lots of factors. Like, it’s one story if you have had 3 boyfriends and they all sucked, it’s a different story if you have dated dozens and thought all of them were genuinely really bad people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 04:36 PM
16	Do women prefer to share a high value man than to have a low value man? No that is unhinged. “Womens libidos get higher when they get cheated on (attraction towards the cheater increases)” Yeah bro you are in full on wackadoodle territory tbh. The only scenario in which this may apply would involve some level of mental illness.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 04:24 PM
6	I have witnessed firsthand girls who previously wanted a guy badly but completely lost interest in him when they found out he was nice Also to just claim he knows exactly why they lost interest and that it was purely because of something like that, leads me to believe this guy is either super naive or just not socially competent. There is quite literally no way to know that. Even if someone tells you that, it is very unlikely that it is the full truth, they would likely just be trying to spare feelings.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 03:56 PM
61	I have witnessed firsthand girls who previously wanted a guy badly but completely lost interest in him when they found out he was nice Yeah the only situation in which I’ve seen this is usually not about them just being a kind person, I’ve seen women lose interest in men who are viewed as “nice” because they are chronic people pleasers that are really passive and just do everything they can to avoid upsetting people often to the detriment of their other relationships. I’ve only seen someone get “rejected for being nice” if their niceness came with no spine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 03:53 PM
1	Men here only think they have low standards because they are blind to most things Women do as default When I spoke on physical upkeep, you tried to say it wasn’t a big deal because men had similar expectations of upkeep for hair, shaving, accessories, etc. If I am “competing” by pointing out the overwhelming flaws of that argument, then using that argument to equate the difficulty is competing as well. It’s competing in the same way of saying “oh you struggle with this? Well so do all of us and you don’t hear us complaining.” It just doesn’t make sense because that would invalidate BOTH of our a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 12:59 AM
1	Men here only think they have low standards because they are blind to most things Women do as default I said your last point from the very beginning. That’s like exactly what I said. I said we have a comparable level of expectations in entirely different areas. You are the one who tried to compete, and now you turn it around when you realize you can’t win the crybaby of the year award for it? So you just make fun of me because you don’t like being wrong and instead of saying “oh that is harder, I guess we just have very different struggles in different areas, I didn’t realize some people were do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 12:50 AM
2	Men here only think they have low standards because they are blind to most things Women do as default Yeah i think the point that you are just missing is the expectation part. You can skip for tldr if you want bc im about to yap fr. “Men have less clothing options to look good.” Exactly. Thats the point. They don’t have them because it’s not expected of them to put as much effort towards that. It’s so unexpected for it to matter for you, that you aren’t even given much opportunity to worry about it. You are expected to look like you didn’t have to put effort into your appearance, most people don…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 12:43 AM
1	Men here only think they have low standards because they are blind to most things Women do as default I think this discussion is more focused on standards in regards to presentation and things like that. Standards regarding your actual body type and other characteristics that aren’t expected to be changed or require upkeep is a whole different issue. That’s comparing apples to oranges. Both men and women have standards of for both the physical characteristics side and the upkeep/presentation side. When it comes to the general physical characteristics I think men and women are pretty even just in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 12:04 AM
6	Men here only think they have low standards because they are blind to most things Women do as default But this is about the opposite entirely. It’s about not noticing the effort of people you ARE attracted to. It’s about not noticing that your preferences in a mate are actually a lot of work for women to keep up with, but we are all just expected to do that and our “bare minimum” of presenting ourselves must always be more difficult than what a man could get away with calling their bare minimum. Basically, the base expectations of physical presentation are a lot harder to keep up with for women.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/24 11:30 PM
1	Most Gen Z men have trouble enforcing clear boundaries in a relationship Okay I was working off of the thought that you were saying women like assholes because of your previous statement that women find it difficult to find men that don’t mistreat them that they will be attracted to. And you saying that women find men that treat them well to be boring. Idk just feels like a super high school boy opinion that just doesn’t really apply to any woman I can think of.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/24 06:38 PM
0	Most Gen Z men have trouble enforcing clear boundaries in a relationship Again your last point just totally missed the mark. You saying that the “nice guys” who pretend to be your friend are “the ones making effort” while the ones women (or me specifically??? Even though I never stated anything like that but okay) do date are the assholes, is quite literally perpetuating the “women like assholes, nice guys always finish last😔” bs. It immediately sets up that these guys that are friends that want more are the rejected heroes, while only the evil players will ever win …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/24 06:26 PM
1	Most Gen Z men have trouble enforcing clear boundaries in a relationship I think that last bit is a weird misconception spread by the “niceguy” type. Women are people, people generally want to be treated well. It’s really not that deep where you have to convince yourself there is a psychological drive to be treated badly because of some weird alpha/beta chronically online stuff. A lot of people just really struggle to stand their ground with boundaries because a lot of us regardless of gender are basically told “all men/women have this issue” so if we put up a fight …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/24 05:08 PM
2	Most Gen Z men have trouble enforcing clear boundaries in a relationship Just random things that could be issues within relationships, I don’t remember all of them. I do remember that one guy would speak about previous sexual encounters with other girls that we both knew in excruciating detail. Like I think it is fine to talk about past experiences and things you have done but at some point it’s like “dude this is so far outside of the realm of anything that is my business and I do not want to hear you talk about all of the sexual opportunities you had with other peo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/24 04:28 PM
2	most women want to be freed of all traditional female gender roles, but they want men to conform to male gender roles that benefit women, and abandon male gender roles that harm women Anyone who thinks this is MOST women is just chronically online and has a very weak tether to reality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/24 12:17 PM
5	Most Gen Z men have trouble enforcing clear boundaries in a relationship As a gen z girl, this most definitely applies to most girls as well. I think it’s is just a part of being young and not having a lot of experience with dating and being desperate to make things work. The oldest of gen z are 27 and it may not apply to as many of them, but gen z also spans all the way down to kids who are like 12. So for the most part it is a really young demographic and a lot of young people find it hard to stand up for their boundaries. A lot of my friends will just ignore what …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 06:12 PM
–	Who Opposes No-Fault Divorce? Punishment simply for leaving at all is quite literally trying to trap someone into staying with you. If someone would even desire to do that, it is pathetic. Divorce shouldn’t be punishable like a crime. Lots of people need to leave for many reasons, it is stupid to make it so difficult to get out of a relationship. The idea of legal punishment for ending a romantic relationship is ridiculous and pointless. Sure, more people stay married, in horrible/dead/hateful marriages that negatively affec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/24 07:56 PM
–	Who Opposes No-Fault Divorce? People who think they can only have a secure relationship if they can trap their partner. In short, bad people who shouldn’t be in a relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/24 04:35 PM
–	What would it take for you to make the first move? I tend to make the first move but not with complete strangers. Going up to strangers and interrupting what they are doing makes me feel rude.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/24 02:40 AM
–	Women complain that men don't believe them when they say "penis size doesn't matter", but WHY should men believe them in the first place? EXACTLY. It’s like they think we are a hive mind and all share one vagina😭😭	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/24 02:13 PM
–	Women complain that men don't believe them when they say "penis size doesn't matter", but WHY should men believe them in the first place? But for that question, “the size doesn’t matter to me” is an answer and a pretty direct one at that. Your 5 inch comment also doesn’t make much sense. If a guy is asking how to compensate for small size, the person answering would generally assume they are small rather than average. That seems pretty obvious. The “compensating” answer is mostly meant for dudes that are in a relationship with a woman that they know does prefer larger or it is given as an answer just to give peace of mind because …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/24 02:08 PM
–	Women complain that men don't believe them when they say "penis size doesn't matter", but WHY should men believe them in the first place? Why would you even ask if you aren’t willing to accept a positive answer as truthful? You are setting yourself up to either be told you aren’t enough or to believe your partner is lying for some reason even when you have no evidence of that. If you aren’t willing to accept the positive answer as reality, you have asked the question with the knowledge that you are gonna make yourself feel like shit no matter what the answer is. What is the point? I mean just be realistic from an anatomical perspe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/24 01:53 PM
–	Women complain that men don't believe them when they say "penis size doesn't matter", but WHY should men believe them in the first place? That’s genuinely just not true unless you are maybe 14.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/24 01:19 PM
22	Men who are sure their woman is loyal, wouldn't let their woman be hit on in a bar, by Chad, as an experiment. Fr, it’s not really an experiment if the process of the experiment is the equivalent to any random Tuesday for her😭😭	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/24 05:43 PM
1	What do you consider creepy? Generally it doesn’t matter too much how attractive the guys is, however, it can sometimes become a contributing factor considering that some less attractive men will have less experience interacting with women or flirting so they may do or say things that aren’t “normal” or accepted forms of flirting/approach. Also a lot of “unattractive” men are just unkempt. Like when people say unattractive they aren’t usually only talking about your genetics. If you dress poorly and don’t look like you take…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/24 06:15 PM
1	Would you gossip (i.e. tell other people such as family and friends, in a slightly to very mocking way about your man/woman not being good in bed?) Question for BOTH Pretty much anyone with any sense knows that those odors come from infections. People who make fun of their partners for health issues or bodily features they cannot control are gross and their partner would be better off with another adult who doesn’t handle things in such an immature way. Some people do stay with the wrong person if other aspects of their lives line up, but having differences in sexual expectations is different than one partner just talking shit about you to people. People oft…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/24 06:31 PM
1	Would you gossip (i.e. tell other people such as family and friends, in a slightly to very mocking way about your man/woman not being good in bed?) Question for BOTH Also, I’ve never had any friends say anything like that to me either. I’ve only ever experienced guys saying some absolutely grotesque shit about girls they’ve been with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/24 02:40 PM
1	Would you gossip (i.e. tell other people such as family and friends, in a slightly to very mocking way about your man/woman not being good in bed?) Question for BOTH No. Why would I be with someone if I felt this way? Maybe I would say something like that if I was done with him and the issue was definitely his fault and not a physical thing, like if he just didn’t want to put in any effort. Even when it comes to saying positive things, I’m not going to do that unless I know my partner is okay with that. My partner has lots of things going for him, it’s natural to want to brag on him a little, but if he didn’t want that stuff being discussed then it just woul…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/24 02:39 PM
2	Online dating will not decline in popularity because women aren’t receptive to approaching or being approached I think a lot of time it depends on the approach. I generally don’t like being approached, but that is because pretty much every time I’ve been approached it was not a fun little chat and was very uncomfortable or scary. I’ve only ever been politely approached in a good environment one time. That was great. That is welcome. However, a lot of guys don’t realize that the hatred for being approached generally comes from a lifetime of experiences with guys who come up to you and are assholes or they…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/24 05:47 PM
–	Women logic: quick sex for men with red flags, good men must wait I don’t hook up with people I barely know because that is scary to me. Stranger danger yada yada. However, some people aren’t as scared of things like that and just take extra precautions for things like that like telling others of their location and carrying things for self defense. And tbh a lot of true one night stands are with people you have met before or they are somewhat alcohol induced. A long term relationship requires a lot of vetting for most people because you are considering an actu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/24 08:58 PM
–	Women logic: quick sex for men with red flags, good men must wait No. That wouldn’t make me feel bad. I mean if it had been a really long time and he didn’t want to have sex and refused to discuss why, that would be an issue, because we should be able to talk about it. However… no, I’m not going to get angry over someone not being ready to have sex with me even if they have had sex with others previously. Maybe their view of sexual intimacy has changed, or maybe they don’t want me to think things are getting really serious yet and they think sex would suggest …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/24 08:38 PM
–	Women logic: quick sex for men with red flags, good men must wait Yeah I think a lot of women wait because of judgment and others wait so they can fully evaluate the potential partner so they can be more sure of their safety. If I have just met a guy and consider him to be a potential long term partner, I’m going to jump through every possible hoop that could possibly help me see if he is safe or not. If a guy gets upset about waiting for sex, it can be a bad sign when it comes to boundaries, communication, compatibility, emotional regulation, expectations, et…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/24 07:21 PM
–	Women logic: quick sex for men with red flags, good men must wait For most women I know, it’s usually more of a “if I am looking for a relationship the guy gets vetted, if I’m just looking for a one time thing it doesn’t really matter that much who he is as long as it seems safe” type of thought process, which I think applies to a lot of men too. Like you might have sex with a girl even if she has traits which would make you incompatible for a long term relationship, but if you are looking for a long term relationship you will probably pay more attention to re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/24 07:12 PM
2	Do you think women can just passively exist and still get relationships? You can but for me it has been rare to be approached by a guy who is actually nice, usually it is not a fun interaction and it just makes me think “Does this shit ever work for you?” They are either scary or just say something absolutely grotesque that just grosses me out. So, you could get relationship offers and in theory you could accept any of them, but it’s very possible that most of the guys who approach you aren’t going to be a good to safe choice. However, you could still choose them if …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/24 10:43 PM
–	Why is there this obsession in the manosphere with wanting to ‘replace women’? Because they don’t like women🤯🤯🤯 they are more honest about that than you would think if you just listen. When someone tells you who they are, believe them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/24 10:18 PM
1	Serious talk - do women actually segregate men into 'alphafux' and 'betabux' at first glance? Still just false childish ideas. All sorts of people get sex without commitment all the time. All the time. “It’s different😫😫😫” yeah if all you know about sexual relationships comes from tv because you have absolutely no experience with women liking you, I’m sure it seems very different. None of what you said changes the fact that the immediate categorization response just doesn’t exist. Besides, I honestly wish it mattered as much as you think it does. I wish I didn’t know so many great women w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/24 12:58 PM
1	Serious talk - do women actually segregate men into 'alphafux' and 'betabux' at first glance? I just have no idea how to explain that because it just isn’t something that should have to be explained. I mean do you usually require people to give you evidence that fairies don’t exist? No. Because only children believe in fairies. Pretty similar concept considering that this idea is so illogical that I can i only imagine a child being tricked into this. But I will try to clarify. Some people are more attractive than others. Obviously this means they have some options that others do not, but…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/24 12:22 PM
2	Serious talk - do women actually segregate men into 'alphafux' and 'betabux' at first glance? As a woman this idea is just the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. The only thing i register when meeting a random guy is “he seems okay” or “that guy is a dick, I wish we still had the ‘tool academy’ show because he would be great.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/24 11:55 AM
1	Is it considered cheating if there was never an explicit conversation about being exclusive/monogamous ? If you have decided to be together officially, and consider yourselves to be actively in a dating relationship, it is generally understood that the relationship is exclusive between the two of you. That could depend on where you are, but in America and much of western culture at least, that is generally how a relationship functions unless it is otherwise discussed and agreed to be an open relationship. When people get into official relationships, monogamy is the basic expectation, as non-monogam…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/24 01:59 PM
1	How many men here who fear an embarrassing rejection have actually experienced an embarrassing rejection? And women, have you ever rejected a man in a humiliating manner? I’ve never personally rejected anyone in an embarrassing way, I tried to give realistic excuses like that I already had a boyfriend or when I was younger in school I would say I wasn’t allowed to date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/24 09:20 PM
2	Women promote ridiculous and overly broad definitions of sexual assault That is the dumbest shit I’ve ever heard. Whatever you have to tell yourself to feel okay with “convincing” people that they should fuck you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/24 03:40 AM
2	Women promote ridiculous and overly broad definitions of sexual assault You have also said “direct threat” as if the whole point of my comment wasn’t the implication of a threat of bodily harm.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/24 03:29 AM
4	Women promote ridiculous and overly broad definitions of sexual assault Sexual harassment is inherently threatening and suggestive of a potential for violence to arise. It immediately conjures thoughts of violent outcomes and an overwhelming desire to avoid that outcome. If someone is only having sex with you because they are worried if they don’t you will get violent, you have purposely made them feel threatened so they will have sex with you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/24 03:27 AM
6	Women promote ridiculous and overly broad definitions of sexual assault So….you just didn’t read my comment you originally replied to? Sick. There are threats: “I’m gonna fucking kill you if you don’t do this” But, (if we learn a bit about nuance, and also reading comprehension if your comments are any indication) there are also implied threats. This means our actions can be threatening and suggest the likelihood of a negative outcome without us saying the words “I’m going to hold you down and rape you!”	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/24 03:25 AM
5	Women promote ridiculous and overly broad definitions of sexual assault Good thing that’s entirely not what we are talking about when we are speaking on coercion. So…why address something we aren’t fuckin talking about? If you pursue a relationship with someone in which you “convince” them you have some form of worth (why would you want this?) call it what you want. However, a single conversation that goes back and forth between a “no” and various refusals to accept said no is not normal behavior. Bro. That is literally just harassing someone for sex until they give…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/24 03:10 AM
4	Women promote ridiculous and overly broad definitions of sexual assault Refusing to take “no” as an answer until someone gives in because they are scared isn’t “marketing yourself” The refusal to accept rejection of sex immediately feels predatory and threatening. When people feel threatened and cornered, sometimes they choose the lesser of two evils. Do I let this guy have sex with me even though I have absolutely no interest in him and find this whole exchange vomit inducing? Or do I risk that he just continues to refuse to accept that I don’t want to fuck him and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/24 12:10 AM
5	Women promote ridiculous and overly broad definitions of sexual assault If you continue to not take a “No. I don’t want to.” as an answer, it does feel threatening. You are just going to keep refusing the no until you get another answer. If you insist that “no” absolutely cannot be the answer, it does come with a negative implication of “I’m not gonna stop until I get my wayyyyy👹👹👹” it immediately makes you seem exponentially more predatory and threatening and it scares a lot of people into playing along to avoid the possibility of a worse outcome. Some people will …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/24 12:02 AM
10	Women promote ridiculous and overly broad definitions of sexual assault For real. Anyone who argues to protect their right to have sex with people that don’t want to have sex with them is probably fucking weird. Big shock for us all. /s Well actually it does seem like a big shock to some. Some of the people in these comments are a little spooky too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/24 11:55 PM
2	Men should stop prioritizing decency when it comes to dating as it's something irrelevant to modern women's' attraction This is such bad advice, it is honestly really immature and just stupid. Most women who want an actual long term relationship will value the decency. If you are looking to fuck someone off of tinder and probably never see them again, then yeah decency may not play a huge role.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/24 06:06 PM
5	Many women don't realize that emotions are not reality. A lot of men constantly whine about women being so emotional but they rebrand their anger (and honestly, often a bit of entitlement) as if it is not an overwhelmingly emotional response…even though one could say anger is like the most severe and harsh versions of emotional response. They are not deemed as emotional simply because they act like their most emotional responses don’t count for some reason. They feel they aren’t emotional because they play “macho man” and bottle up their tears but th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/24 12:14 AM
5	Many women don't realize that emotions are not reality. Okay so -some men are emotional but all women are -stereotypes from movies and the manosphere are reality -the only capacity women have for love is being a mother and loving their child God you are insufferable. No wonder you have never and will never know the love of a woman. It’s not because women cannot love, it’s because you fucking suck and no one could love a person who acts the way you do. Well…maybe they could, but as you said…only a mother.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/24 12:00 AM
35	Many women don't realize that emotions are not reality. I honestly, entirely genuinely, see it more with men. The thing is when men view someone as emotional they are thinking “sad.” Anger is a pretty powerful emotion and a lot of men are incredibly emotional all the time and do not even connect their feelings to the word emotional.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/24 01:20 PM
–	You wander through forest alone and you stumble upon a lone guy, would you rather the guy is 20yo or 40yo? The overwhelming majority of 40 year olds can run. Unless you are only surrounded by morbidly obese people, idk what to tell you. This is just not accurate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/24 04:03 PM
–	You wander through forest alone and you stumble upon a lone guy, would you rather the guy is 20yo or 40yo? It’s very “use it or lose it” I’m afraid	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/24 04:00 PM
–	You wander through forest alone and you stumble upon a lone guy, would you rather the guy is 20yo or 40yo? Why? Was I pretty close?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/24 03:45 PM
–	You wander through forest alone and you stumble upon a lone guy, would you rather the guy is 20yo or 40yo? Fine, while there may be some children older than 12 who believe forty year olds can’t run and don’t have functioning genitalia, those kids would be pretty dumb for their age.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/24 03:43 PM
–	If men could magically force women to answer ONE question truthfully what question should men ask? You may not have one that you have in mind currently in a matter of “if this doesn’t work out I always have ______ on standby” But, the hypothetical is you are magically forced to answer the question, so it would prob just make you consider all possible options and select who you think would most likely be a good match for you out of available options. Alternatively you could say they could answer “there is no one I can think of” or “I guess I would get tinder or something” but that’s kind of a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/24 02:59 PM
–	Why do certain conservatives want to get rid of no fault divorce? The only people who want that are scared that they wont be able to use marriage as a trap. Its not as easy to do that anymore, so people who are bad partners want legal reason for their spouse to be stuck with them regardless of circumstances.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/24 02:53 PM
1	Struggling women should get married. This has nothing to do with real life in the modern era, hope this helps🫶🏻 Also doubt a lot of this especially the frostbite but considering that men are at much greater risk of frostbite. Seems like you are lying or “overlooking” some of the mens issues because they are “handling it.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/24 02:52 PM
1	How would legal prostitution change society in America? The police will just have more time for other shit	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/24 02:46 PM
–	You wander through forest alone and you stumble upon a lone guy, would you rather the guy is 20yo or 40yo? Bro what? They said 40 not 80. The only people who think this way about 40 year olds are below the age of 12.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/24 02:42 PM
–	If men could magically force women to answer ONE question truthfully what question should men ask? Bro that first one is gonna end in hurt feelings no matter what the answer is😭😭	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/24 02:38 PM
1	Question about the man vs bear debate. Damn this is a stupid point. Bears are unlikely to attack you, but let’s imagine the worst case scenario for bear and the worst case scenario for man. Which is preferable? I’m sorry but this is just a very childish perspective, which isn’t surprising since it’s coming from a child. No one is saying “all men” and that is the most idiotic cop-out stance I see from young boys. Not even most men are like that. However, the risk of being eaten is still very low and still preferable when considering w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/24 02:33 PM
2	Question about the man vs bear debate. Grizzly bears aren’t actually that much of a major risk either. They also tend to mind their own business unless there are other factors like cubs. However, polar bear is a death sentence, but it is generally assumed that it would be some bear you happen upon in the woods so either black or brown.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/24 02:31 PM