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everyone else said it but the age gap is too wide. my husband and I got married at 24 and 20 respectively, and I think the age gap has been perfect. I would try to stay in the 3-6 year range, give or take. otherwise, hard pill to swallow but dating apps suck for this. I know some people get lucky but I wouldn't count on it. organic connections made while at church, volunteering, social hobbies, etc. are going to be much more successful. it's hard when you feel rushed, but have confidence in your…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/24 02:10 PM
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I agree with your title but not really everything you're saying in your post. There are definitely more sex-repulsed women than there are men. That seems like common sense. Not surprising given men are more likely to commit sexual harassment, sexual assault, rape, general violence towards women, etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 02:13 PM
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I am female in the US and have a child, with plans for more in the future. I do not see dumpster fires everywhere I look.. I am incredibly happy and am excited to give my children the tools to be happy as adults as well. It is easy to get caught up in negatives when you are merely surviving, I know this because I was there at a time. We are single income and make below average salary for our area, but we have budgeted in a way that allows us to thrive rather than survive. Shifting my focus away …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 05:20 AM
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I mean, I think it's the same as it is for married men being hit on by attractive women. It's nice to receive attention and to be desirable. I would never entertain somebody disrespecting my marriage and I consider it very disloyal to flirt. But of course I am human and I have an ego like everyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 09:25 PM
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I feel like it was somewhat of a miracle that I discovered this way of life too. I was raised in a very liberal household, in a very liberal country, with very liberal parents. My mom was a career woman and the breadwinner, and she always pushed me to be that way. Talking about marriage or children was very taboo!! I got laid off during Covid, so I decided to go to university. Then, I met my now husband during my first semester, and had to drop out so I could move to America to be with him. Then…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 02:26 AM
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I feel like it's common these days for couples to be together for 5+ yrs before getting married, then new married for 5+ yrs before kids, and so on. Don't rush, you're not necessarily looking at a 10+ year timeframe. When you find the right person, there's a good chance you'll know right away they're the one. Two years after we started dating, my husband and I were married with a baby. What's important is being patient and making sure you're not rushing or forcing relationships that aren't meant…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 04:53 PM
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Stopped reading there cause that first sentence was enough to crack me up
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 04:59 PM
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I avoid eye contact with men under the age of like, 60 specifically so I don't have to think about this at all. I am always friendly to everyone but there have been too many times where some guy sees it as permission to start a convo
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 09:52 PM
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I wouldn't expect anything to change if you stay with him. Getting married won't change him, and it's very likely starting a family won't either. Some people are just... irresponsible and unambitious. If you're fine with the dynamic you two have, stay together, but I'm guessing you're making this post because you aren't fine with it. Do you know why he doesn't want to get married? Has he gone into detail about his reasoning? Why did he let it get so bad with the speeding tickets? Or was the $10,…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 08:43 PM
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I know some people wouldn't agree with this, but he just needs to be home more. No amount of housework or time with the nanny can replace him being physically there and able to take over during the times you need it most. You BOTH decided to start a family. Yes, parenting responsibilities fall more frequently onto the mother, and traditional relationships tend to embrace that. There's nothing wrong with mom doing "more," that's simply nature's default. But that doesn't absolve your husband of th…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 02:43 AM
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Nobody cares about a 25yo with a 40yo. It's gross when an older man goes for a female still in her teens. It's poor judgement on the girl's part, yes, but how many people make the best decisions before their 20s? Old creepy men know better.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 10:41 PM
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Well first of all, I hope he can have a bit more understanding while you're adjusting given your upbringing. Nobody wants to be woken up to nagging like you described, I certainly wouldn't wake my husband up like that and he would not wake me up like that either! I am very messy and it has been an ongoing process learning to keep a house clean. The two biggest things that have helped me are a) having a daily routine, and b) having a home for every single item. If something doesn't have a specifi…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 03:48 PM
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If she's a bit chubby at her height, it's probably better for her to keep a calorie journal for a week or two then gradually decrease her intake. I doubt her TDEE is around 1200 at her weight
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 02:53 PM
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When I was dating, it was always important for the baseline attraction. Many women won't be attracted to somebody lacking confidence or somebody that is too arrogant in the first place, so sex isn't even remotely on the table
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 08:08 PM
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Confidence = having enough knowledge or experience to talk about the topic of conversation without hesitation or self doubt. That can apply to anything you're talking about, whether it's yourself, or the weather yesterday, or a war going on across the globe. If you don't have that knowledge or experience on the conversation topic, openly admitting that without pride or ego getting in the way. Wanting to hear the other person's knowledge and experience, and listening intently enough to give a tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 08:03 PM
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There's only one introduction, and they are into some sort of kink lifestyle and have invited their husband to the server. Not very welcoming unfortunately
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 06:09 AM
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Physical: nice teeth/smile, defined jawline, healthy-looking hair (dark is my preference), good grooming/hygiene, not obese, not underweight, taller than me Behavioural/mental: cheeky, --->funny<--- (sarcasm and dry humour are great), --->intelligent<---, confident but not arrogant, communicative (passive aggressiveness is a huge no), understands social/conversational cues, passionate about interests, general knowledge of current affairs, kind and respectful towards loved ones, good with animals…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 05:55 AM
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That's pretty mind-boggling that he all of a sudden has an issue with it, and won't explain why. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. You are RIGHT to stand up for yourself and go. You told him how important it is to you, you were clear with your intentions to go before starting a family, and obviously finances are not an issue for you guys. I'm actually a bit concerned that he would be opposed to something that means so much to you, and even more concerned that he can't give you a reason for it.…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 08:32 PM
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It depends on your comfort level. I thought I was cool with it but it started affecting our marriage, so I asked him to stop. Sex has been a lot better since then. I dislike feeling like I'm being compared to women whose entire job is looking visually and sexually appealing. The relationship feels much more wholesome when our sexual energy exists solely between the two of us.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 11:37 PM
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Women become more boring as they age? That's a new one 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:27 PM
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15-18 - first relationship, Not Good but learned a lot about myself 19 - met my husband 20 - got married 21 - had my son I'm 22 now, I'd like to have all my kids by 30 but we're also hoping for some bigger age gaps, so we'll see. Haven't decided whether to homeschool, go back to college, start a business, or start homesteading (which way western woman 🤔), but I am hoping to raise some babies for at least the next decade anyway, so I have time to decide. I didn't think I'd get married so soon, th…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 04:55 PM
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I had a hormonal IUD from 15 to 20.. it worries me sometimes as well. Trying not to dwell on the past too much, just moving forward with the knowledge I have now. I grew up in a very liberal part of Canada, in a very liberal household, with very liberal schools and teachers. Somehow despite all that I knew deep down that I wanted a family as soon as possible. My husband and I were so lucky to have our first son when I was 21, and I am so fulfilled and happy. I'm 22 as well (happy birthday btw 😳😳…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 04:50 AM
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If I were really in a rush to get into a relationship... maybe? But generally speaking, no I don't think something like this is worth continuing to pursue. In time, you'll find somebody you're wildly attracted to, and you'll be asking yourself why you ever thought to keep dating this man
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 11:03 PM
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I'm about to pull an extreme opinion out 🫡 When you say you've "noticed this in the women around you," could all these women be grouped into a certain category? Are they all working moms? Are they all moms who started having children older? Do these apply to you, if you feel this way about yourself? I am 7m pp and I feel better than I ever have. My husband really loves how much curvier I am despite being back around my pre-pregnancy size.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 10:14 PM
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OP discovers maturity and brain development differ from person to person
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:51 PM
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I am 5'10 and my husband is 6'. We are very happy and his height is perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 11:22 PM
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Somebody's ideal does not make it their bare minimum standard. Many women would be happy to have a much taller bf, probably because it just makes sense evolutionarily. In reality, the majority of women are happy with their own height or taller!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 08:18 PM
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I knew the kind of response I'd get lol, not sure where buddy thought he was going with that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 08:22 PM
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Well, I love the connection I have with my husband, and I definitely know I'm not acting lol. Love is real!! I promise!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 09:09 AM
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I get what you're saying yeah. I wasn't considering the logistics of your scenario. I think with the vast array of options in OLD these days, a 10% or whatever decrease isn't going to make much of a difference for women. Maybe some will have to lower their standards or settle, assuming they're that desperate not to be single. I don't think it would be earth-shattering 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 08:55 AM
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I comfortably speak for the majority of women when I say women would rather be single than date Lars from Lars and the Real Girl ETA I don't know any woman who would want to date a man that believes she is equivalent to a sex doll
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 08:38 AM
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"she won't dare it" dares it "w-well if you get responses corroborating your stance, everyone is probably lying"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 08:20 AM
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Oh my friend, we have some responses rolling in
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 08:17 AM
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I did it! Hoping for some responses through the night :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 08:15 AM
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I did! I hope it gains some traction
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 08:15 AM
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"KO for women" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 08:07 AM
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Sure, so are fleshlights. I just think it's funny when men start threatening to replace women with silicone dolls and AI when the only people who would do that are shallow and undesirable to begin with
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 08:00 AM
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Actually, it will make things easier I think. Weeds out all the weirdos that don't care about genuine human connection, and only want a woman for her looks and sex appeal. I am excited on behalf of the women of the future 🤩
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 07:41 AM
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Women don't want the kind of men that would buy these! Have fun bros
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 07:35 AM
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Single fathers statistically do better raising boys than single mothers do (hence the violent crime statistics, since men account for >80% of all violent crime in America). Single mothers statistically do better raising girls than single fathers do, but single fathers get a pass on that one since a female is much less likely to end up committing murder no matter how she was raised. None of this accounting for the fact that fathers are overwhelmingly more likely to abandon their children than mot…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:18 AM
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I would be uncomfortable with my husband interacting with the brother at all in your shoes, but if it means that much to him, I understand wanting to leave it be. I would be incredibly uncomfortable meeting the brother myself in your shoes, let alone having my small children meet him, or having him in the home. You are not overreacting at all. Him being family does not make him any less of a sex offender Ask your husband: what is the difference, to his brother, between the girl he assaulted and …
/r/RedPillWives01/01/23 01:06 AM
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By the looks of your post history, your bf is not deserving of a traditional girlfriend/wife. Don't sweat it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 02:27 AM
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Yes, I am a SAHM but even if I were working we would combine finances. I think in a marriage built on love and trust, it's just a natural way of doing things. Two individuals become a household unit. Splitting bills, groceries, a mortgage, then having an uneven amount of spending money after that... that's just way more trouble than it's worth for most married couples. I strongly believe in equal effort in a marriage, and when there is equal effort, a joint bank account falls into place easily. …
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/22 11:18 PM
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I think you should look at the trip in the grand scheme of things. 2-3 nights out of your entire lives. This is a really good opportunity to play things cool and give him some breathing room. It's very healthy to spend time with friends like this. My husband and I are very similar, we just have each other. A few months ago he got the opportunity through work to go on a 3 week long trip. It was difficult for me to be supportive at the time but I could tell deep down he really wanted to go, even t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/22 11:27 AM
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Why would you want a woman that wouldn't be attracted to you without your money? Unless you're not looking for a life partner
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 03:19 AM
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I feel head over heels for him as soon as we got to know each other, so honestly I didn't keep any options around. I completely shifted my focus onto him. I started openly talking about him to any male friends I had at the time to make my intentions clear to them. If a relationship moves slower, I think it makes sense to keep your options open before becoming official, but if you are crazy about someone, it's a great way to set yourself up for success imo
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 06:15 AM
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3 seems like an objectively good number. That also happened to be mine when I met my now husband 🤔 But different people have different standards... Some men and women might find it really attractive for their partner to have been with more.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 09:21 PM
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Working part time on top of managing a house and raising children is tough! If your husband's income is enough, I would stay home.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/22 05:47 AM
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Daniel Caesar, Nao
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 09:51 PM
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You don't think you need to find someone new! The fact that he is perceptive to this change is a great start. Where exactly do you feel he's falling short? What sort of situations day to day do you find yourself leading the charge?
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 08:15 PM
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Uh no? If a woman were fine with this I would assume she has no self respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 09:17 PM
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I felt like you when I was pregnant, I didn't really have any connection to my baby and didn't feel like a mother. But in talking to other pregnant women, I realized that wasn't a universal experience. Some women feel a deep connection to their baby from the start of pregnancy, and some women won't feel a connection until well after the baby is born. We are all individuals experiencing life differently from one another
/r/RedPillWives13/12/22 02:36 AM
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Sex fulfills so many different needs for each individual. Most of us here subscribe to the belief that sex is best when saved for trusting relationships and marriage, but not everyone shares the same belief. Some people have sex for fun, or to fulfill their need for human touch and connection, or to receive attention and feel desirable. It's not a bad thing necessarily, I'm a huge believer in "you do you." It's just not for us. As for the abortion question, you can see how a pregnancy could happ…
/r/RedPillWives13/12/22 02:30 AM
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This is so spot-on!! Work towards being irreplaceable and invaluable
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/22 04:45 AM
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Women never really know a man's intentions. If a woman is meeting a man online, that guy is taking time and energy out of his day to talk to HER, to get to know her as a person. There's no guarantee of a meet up for sex (and she can feel out many red flags from the safety and security of her own home if she does intend to meet up eventually). It also increases her odds of finding the perfect match as a life partner, because there's simply a larger pool of people to talk to. ETA many women are wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 08:45 PM
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Question for the men here: when you say "dream girl" are you talking purely physical traits? Surely you aren't marrying solely for that reason.. I wouldn't have married any man that I didn't consider my "dream man" so the question itself isn't computing for me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 03:54 AM
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Women looking to start a family want a provider. Evolutionarily speaking, it has always been wise for a childbearing woman to partner up with a fit, masculine man. Around the 25-30 mark is when women who haven't already started families begin to notice their biological clock ticking.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 04:46 PM
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There are men out there that will love you for who you are. Your past may be uncomfortable but it would never determine the fate of a relationship with somebody who truly loves and appreciates you. FWIW, men like your current partner are going to get jealous about pretty much any past regardless of the number, so don't get caught up in his shame and guilt tactics
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 12:54 PM
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Hair accessories! I love putting my hair into pigtails or twin braids then wearing a hair scarf tied like a bandana. It looks so feminine but takes like two minutes. It might look a little odd if you are dressed very casually though
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/22 05:06 AM
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I don't trust women that are overly sexual around their friends, male or female. If you are constantly making inappropriate comments/jokes or talking about your sex life, I will probably feel bad for whoever you are hooking up with 🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 05:54 AM
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Twitter seems to be a good place. You will likely find people more like you in religious circles as well
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 03:54 PM
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I have a few things to say. First, you're still very young. I've read so many comments on here from women who started their families at an older age, and regret not knowing to start earlier. It seems rare to me for a 23 year old to want a family above all else but maybe I'm spending too much time on Reddit lol. Second, I think you're very jaded from watching your mom go through what she did. I had the opposite experience growing up: my parents each made decent money and their split finances were…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 03:31 AM
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This guy is so lameeee, I had also had 3 partners before him and it was a non issue with my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 01:34 PM
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Actions speak louder than words. I'm a sahm to a 5.5mo and I've been dealing with some INTENSE mood swings for a couple months now. I have been horrible to be around. I cry about everything. (Thinking it could be ppa or ppd but therapy doesn't start til December.) My husband is incredible, he helps out around the house and doesn't expect anything from me but to take care of the baby. Even with all that I've driven our relationship to some extremes and I've been slowly learning how to reel it bac…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 09:41 PM
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Start hanging out in online circles. Aspie girls don't care that you're socially awkward. My husband and I met this way, and we are very happy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 03:13 AM
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Yelled/whistled at from cars, yelled/whistled at on the street, comments from men about what I'm wearing, men trying to spark conversation (often at bus stops or in line at the store), comments from men online the times I was stupid enough to post my face or age. One time I was followed after a man kept trying to talk to me on the bus. One time a man I'd helped at work called the store back later and masturbated while on the phone with me, asking inappropriate questions. I did not dress provocat…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 10:47 AM
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No, grown men
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 10:35 AM
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Potential downsides of considerably younger partner: less mature, less educated, less money, less life experience, less independence, less likely to have outside approval of relationship, more likely to change over the course of the relationship Potential upsides of considerably younger partner: more impressionable, will look young for a longer time, ???? (that was all I could come up with) So, shallow (will look young for a longer time) and creepy (more impressionable)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:37 AM
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All of those things apply to men as well, but we can all agree that there is an extreme difference in prevalence between male 18-21y/o seekers and female 18-21y/o seekers. Like I said, if it happens organically then IDC. I'm happy you found somebody that went out of their way to be with you. I was specifically talking about people who prey on younger women and go out of their way to be in those age gap relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:25 AM
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"Women my age find something about me unattractive, so I will prey on younger women who don't know any better" I mean, like I said if it happens organically IDC. And I'm not here advocating for age gaps to be banned. I just think people should own it. Stop trying to convince other people that something creepy isn't creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:12 AM
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Yep I got much more unsolicited attention as an underdeveloped 12-14 y/o than I have ever gotten at any other point in my life. I did not dress differently, I was not a different weight, I did not have different hair. The only visible difference was that I was underage. I've heard so many other women share the same experience. I think the preference men have towards 18y/o women becomes a lot more sinister with this context !
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:07 AM
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I think 30+ y/o men specifically interested in the 18-21 range are shallow and creepy. What are you getting out of a woman that young as opposed to a woman closer to your age? Impressionability? I can't think of much else. Older women have much more to offer but aren't young and naive, so I guess their appeal lowers to creeps Age gap relationships that happen organically, where neither parties were seeking an age gap, are fine imo
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 10:43 PM
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Saying the symptoms are comparable in both sexes is a little misleading. What I take from this is that men will continue to value women for their looks and what they can provide sexually, and women will continue to value men for their status in society and their ability to provide. That is true in NT people as well
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:51 PM
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Being autistic most definitely impacts my day to day as a stay at home mom. Not all autism symptoms are related to social interactions. I was much more functional in retail management than I have been maintaining a home. I do think some autistic men would thrive more in a SAHD position but that obviously isn't common
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:48 PM
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Hormone imbalances. Our diets are poison, our water is poison, our lifestyles are sedentary, then you add hormonal birth control into the mix. I mean there are plenty of other factors but hormone imbalances are a huge one I suspect
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:33 PM
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I think you should show them to her anyway. If the marriage is about to die anyway you have nothing to lose. If she's the one that cheated and screwed everything up, then I don't know how receptive he'll be to putting the pieces all back together himself
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 08:37 PM
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That is what my husband did and I love it!! Left it at a gas station bathroom once though and my soul left my body until we got it back. I usually don't wear it unless I'm dressing up, I'm too scared to lose it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 03:21 PM
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Well I'm a bit new to this sub so bear with me but I am a woman who married an "alpha bucks" person. I was so sure I wanted to be with him that we were married within 6 months of meeting each other online. We will have our 2 year anniversary in a couple months and I couldn't feel more confident about my decision. I align with the theory I guess 🤔🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 09:08 PM
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But an overall wider pelvis would generally indicate a wider birth canal. If you put a woman with wide hips next to a woman with narrow hips, it's more likely for the woman with wide hips to have a wide birth canal right? https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-014-0289-z Assuming that's true and assuming men subconsciously seek fertile women, I wonder what we can take from this study 🤔 It doesn't have a big sample size unfortunately. But I'm curious if the women with wider hips found i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 05:04 PM
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It's never ever been trendy or desirable to have wide shoulders/upper body and narrow hips. It truly is the equivalent of being a 5'4 male
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 03:43 PM
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There's no benefit to having sex for the sake of having sex. Hookup culture is predatory towards women and you've dodged it entirely. When the right person comes along you'll be happy you waited. Seriously there's nothing you're missing out on. It's like someone with kids saying you're missing out on a family. You're wouldn't rush to get pregnant hearing that, you would think to yourself "Why would I be missing out on a family right now? That will happen later."
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/22 03:23 PM
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