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27

Because a date arranged with me should be worth remembering because you’re dying to get to know me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 09:37 PM
1

Oh wow I do this to people but it’s because I think they judge what I put online and then feel stupid for thinking that later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 10:01 PM
19

I can’t say that for sure. But ask yourself if you’re fulfilled. You’re asking us so I bet we know the answer. If he’s not doing the extra work to meet your needs now he’s not going to start later. Maybe he really has an issue and is committed to pleasing you despite himself. You feel unsure, right? Is that a side affect of sex that you want all the time? What’s his contribution? What does he say/ do to comfort your concerns
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 09:23 AM
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My sincere and honest advice is to walk. I tried to help my bf with erection issues and he did nothing about it. At first it felt nice to be spoiled with the hour or more on just me but after a while you realize, or I did, that they don’t desire the intimate connection I do. I commend you for being understanding if he really has an organic issue HE wants to lead the way and treat but I am going to be doing a lot of work repairing my damaged self esteem after the mismatched sexuality. That erecti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 09:15 AM
2

I run everyone off and I’m a filthy individual so get in the club sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 12:12 PM
12

I personally think it’s better guidance to order the dinner you want without choosing by the price tag. I intend to order exactly what I want to eat. If that’s a cold sandwich so be it, but I will also order the steak if that’s what suits me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 09:20 PM
2

So handsome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:55 PM
10

I’m working on it girl. We’ve been together about 2.5 years and I can’t even be mad at him anymore. I reached out to a woman I trust for some help yesterday, I’m trying to get out I just don’t feel strong enough. Thank you, and I’m proud of you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:01 AM
3

It’s warm air but yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 10:40 AM
5

I am living this right now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 08:31 AM
15

Sounds like she has a healthy relationship of her own. Good choice of gal pal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 03:34 PM
8

Yes! And maybe it’s rose colored glasses but I swear I run into other happy people or have other unexpected and really pleasant experiences whenever I’m on a self date. I also love to go make a HUGE charcuterie and have wine with me while we watch tv 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 07:41 AM
3

Isn’t she on On stage because she is supposed to be the center of attention?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:09 AM
4

I did, they don’t speak to me anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 09:00 PM
18

There are two men I work with who just can not allow me personal space and now that they know I have an issue with it they think it’s cute to back me up into the wall or purposely encroach. When I explain it makes Me uncomfortable and me panic, then it’s a session of apologies because their feelings are hurt Bc I don’t want them near me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 09:07 AM
10

Sorry you’re having a hard time ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 09:46 AM
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I feel like If I were royalty I’d have a jester just for servicing me girl. Reframe royalty ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 03:59 PM
5

Then just sit with your feelings for a minute. Take away the pressure of making the right choice and listen to yourself. It’s totally ok if your mind knows it and your heart isn’t ready, that time will come. I and we here encourage you to walk now because we see the writing on the wall. I myself am not Able to accept the loss just yet. You are smart and smarts don’t stay quiet long. You’re not a failure even if you choose to love this man and it doesn’t work out, I found it alienating and felt a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 03:54 PM
15

No! Leave him girl! I just did my time in sex prison. Sex is not objectification.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 11:31 AM
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Lengthy sorry Hey sis, This past month my shit hole, lonely, exhausting relationship finally exploded in my face. He was a “wonderful” man who nursed me back to health in the very beginning when I was not well. He was “charming” and sweet and abundantly available t me. He would parrot my words and tell me everything lovely while providing minimal things in return. He was financially “ok” as in he has a job but when we met he lived with his brother, then I invited him to move in. He paid rent to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 11:28 AM
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I hear you and you are right. I regularly block him and just go ahead and unblock. I do need to get some more mental help I agree but I lack the courage right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 08:09 PM
20

I had a boyfriend who would put haha at the end of his messages. “Yea work sucks haha only a couple of hours.” where was the joke???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:49 PM
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“ i love you, but I love me more!” I know the show gets a bad wrap but when Samantha on SITC broke up with the model she was pissed about preparing his dinner and being made to wait I really almost cried for what an organic moment she had as a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:25 PM
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Love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:54 PM
16

Omg that’s someone’s baby wtf is wrong with people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:45 PM
31

How right is your cash if the batteries are dying in your smoke detector. Unsafe sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 12:19 AM
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Should I want to have possession over a person? I’m confused at this angle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 12:39 PM
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Is it something she might be judged for or deemed less desirable because of it? Thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 03:35 PM
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May i ask what the fate of a divorced woman would be in romance after that? For example, after she is divorced is she free to find another spouse or is there an arranged situation again? Forgive my ignorance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 02:18 AM
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Imagine a mother choosing to shack with her boyfriend and letting her kids go with her cousin after a fire. That was my grain of salt. I’d be glued to my babies on the street before splitting up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 10:22 AM
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Power
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 11:16 PM
9

I struggle with rumination too and just remember that it’s rooted in my own damaged self love. It doesn’t solve the problem but it sheds some light on me. I can’t figure out the part where we fully love ourselves though. I say the words, I do the things. I still feel I did something to deserve it all and keep thinking one day I’ll wake up and realize what I’ve been doing to bring the poison upon myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 07:46 PM
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How about the “I could literally be on fire and my husband would be sitting next to me and my kids would Still ask me to get them a snack” HILARIOUS, MICHELLE. Your spouse is useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 12:39 AM
10

I support that suspicion, to me it’s her disingenuous tone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:57 PM
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I chalk it up to how much time they hear radio songs I guess??? Girl I do not know but rattling of Taylor swift and Katy Perry hits just wasn’t doing it for me 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:43 PM
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I had a date with a cop once who knew more pop songs than me. When the date ended he walked me to my car. I thanked him, said id see him later and all that but then I just kinda... waited for him to drive off and then I went back in And got my favorite appetizer and another drink by myself. It was way more fun than the actual date. Date yourselves: great taste in music, always wants to do what you do, free to cultivate fun and conversation and likely to put out if the mood is right ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:33 PM
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I put a few tips in the original comment :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 11:34 PM
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You absolutely can and should! You should start with a kit that comes pre cut that you can assemble! Edit: hesitant to post a retail link but in the US if you go to the Home Depot website and search for wood kits there are some tool boxes and bird houses to name a few. Etsy has some clock and “useless box” kits. I have gone room by room updating and renovating my home mostly by myself and have learned the most from YouTube/ finding free plans. Another easy beginner project is a DIY platform bed,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:52 PM
79

Steve harvey is garbage. Huge womanizer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:45 PM
5

It’s ok I can take it. I was uncomfortable when I learned the definition too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 01:19 PM
2

I think simp is slang for the shape of ladies v’s in yoga pants. The reference is it looks like Homer Simpson’s mouth. I’m sorry I know that and typed it but now you know. I always thought it was short for simpleton.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:47 AM
8

But only one of those kids looks younger than four so it seems like they each brought a kid and made one too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:55 PM
3

Bc they all yield to and worship men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:43 PM
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I read this in the men’s warehouse voice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:31 PM
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Bingo, did this transition in the military and then while walking into the corporate world. Believe it or not I was more equal in my uniform. I will say that due to the metoo movement and the sexual boundaries climate overall, my male colleagues on the civilian realm are wayyyyyy more subtle but it’s still there. It’s thinly veiled and it totally sucks when you yourself invested in these men thinking they were legitimately your friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:50 PM
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Well look whatever you decide is ok. Stay it’s ok, leave it’s Ok, we’re not gonna harp on ourselves for being a person. I’m sorry you’re struggling but I want to send some support bc the pressure of doing “what’s right” makes those decisions even harder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 09:20 AM
8

May i borrow your micrometer and I will report back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:41 AM
3

Sexless marriage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 04:12 AM
5

Ty for saying this. I’m on the outs with my dad but you are so right. I’d be far worse without his positive influence. Thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 04:10 AM
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I’m 30. Post military career, single homeowner, fit, Good job, fairly attractive. Dogs, garden the works. My mother maintains that someday “I’ll meet a man”. She’s been waiting on it longer than me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 04:07 AM
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Thank you, I meant this was his excuse to me about the women he chose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:18 PM
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“My picker is broken” is the line I’ve heard. Ironically only from my father
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 10:19 PM
5

This is me and I am struggling and confused
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:04 PM
40

No, this is popular lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:17 AM
4

Yes, this is why married men used to love me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:29 PM
20

Trying to convince us he’s loving and compassionate?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 10:28 PM
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Can we talk about how many men put pictures of their children on tinder?! I’ve seen women do it too, not even remotely ok to put a picture of your minor child on an app most certainly centered around sexual connotations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 05:37 PM
2

I give myself complete agency to answer only to me in terms of shame. I also refuse to be ashamed of decision I personally make, even when it’s a poor one. I will reflect, I’ll criticize myself or my ideations but I have received shame from outside my whole life, I will not be another person to shame me. My behaviors were not guided by devious or shallow intentions but because I had not learned that I deserved anything else. I didn’t even understand that women who were being treated well by thei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:50 AM
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I just want to be taken seriously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:11 AM
3

Ah yes difficult, or “you’re a real bull dog type” “ high velocity” “opinionated,” just unwelcome in general
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 10:13 AM
29

Nice for what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 12:22 PM
1

You challenge your inner narrative and truly try to love yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:46 AM
23

Margot Robbie is Queen material
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:58 AM
3

Not to mention you are immediately and permanently number two right from the jump. If a man makes you more of a priority than his child he's wrong, and if he's got a child that's who should be number one. you deserve a man who can share that mutual number one spot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:12 PM
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Thanks for articulating this so well. I also have learned that I'm 'mean' a 'debbie downer' and have otherwise been treated coldly when I refuse to validate their stupid stories or I'm not amazed by their hobbies. Since I stopped engaging in people who I don't feel value me in return I've come to very similar conclusions. It was a disappointment at first. What I struggle with the most is how correct I am about my notions and how no one else agrees openly. "that's just how he is" and now I get a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:40 PM
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The coolest, most husbandless wife i've ever met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:31 PM
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I hate to throw shade..... I don't know how she couldn't be. She's in her 40's and made of mean girls material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:28 PM
41

my office has a community work wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:01 PM
12

Es posiblé
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:23 PM
36

My guess is the makeup of our bodily fluids breaks down the fabric. Have fun with that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:31 PM
14

Ok but can you please watch your tone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:42 AM
4

I actually really appreciate Taco Bell
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 10:33 PM
11

You nailed it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 07:03 PM
4

I really didn’t find it all that sexual either! and to me a group of younger girls watching a group of older women dance like that really wasn’t the bad example it’s being made out to be. Twerking has cultural roots and so does a lot of that footwork they represented up there. I guarantee shaking ass for boys was the farthest from those little girls’ minds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:14 PM
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You’re forgetting they weren’t just women, they were Latino women. Latino women are only for sexualizing you know this./s What I think is ironic is how I watched it and saw a women’s empowerment thing and my male counterparts called it “too sexual.” If a woman shaking her body is the tipping point that says a lot more about you than it does the show
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 07:31 PM
1

Jen Sincero. Be nice to yourself <3
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/20 12:45 PM
2

You are a badass, it’s not specifically for codependents but it is, in general, really encouraging and motivating to serve yourself better
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 08:45 PM
3

i've actually never been in a better position than i am today at 30
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 10:58 AM
3

What a beautiful guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:10 PM
21

Look at her hand, she’s not having it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 09:57 AM
1

First version, like before camera 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 08:49 AM
21

You got a first version dick pic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:54 AM
23

are you in my google search history 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 10:23 AM
2

Sounds like it wasn’t his baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 12:48 PM
2

“How you gonna win when you ain’t right within?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 09:59 AM
8

this is called sex trafficking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:25 PM
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whatever you wanna know, just ask. I’m an open book 0, none effort. K got it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:22 AM
4

Hey girl heyy Extra Y for emphasis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:31 PM
5

well, ouch, but you're right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 10:54 AM
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