| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 127 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfish | yourmomistighter | /r/askMRP | 04/08/22 01:58 PM |
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| 0 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishI appreciate the input StoopidDingus69. | /r/askMRP | 09/08/22 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishHonestly man. Amazing comment. I agree with every word you’ve said. Not sure if I can stop fucking her entirely because I’m always in the mood, but I’ve been encouraging her to tell me no if she truly doesn’t want it. Additionally you’re right about needing to take big leaps with my financial life. I have a plan in place and will try to have a much greater career in 8 months, I just need to build my skill. Have wasted like 4 hours today talking to randos on Reddit as this post was dropped there … | /r/askMRP | 09/08/22 04:30 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadExtreme BDSM stuff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadLmfao you lack reading comprehension. No, I was not. I was withdrawing when it was a no to sex years ago. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadGhost my wife? Where? In the other corner of the bedroom? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI honestly don’t think I‘m “bad at sex“ but really what man does? So I‘ll play along. How do you expect me to do this with a wife that often rejects being eaten out (despite seeming to orgasm from it)? Also should note that she doesn’t like foreplay (she has said this) and that when were just fucking I‘ll probably last like 4 minutes lmao. Unless I pull out repeatedly and like caress her/eat her out. I don’t think I’m sexually vanilla. I pull her hair/spank/choke/slap/name-calling/commands/move … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThe only reason I know she cries/sulks in the bathroom is because she‘s told me such. I said earlier that I thought she was just pissing to prevent a UTI. She knows our sex life is an issue, she isn‘t foolish. I‘m trying to calm the fuck down and stop being a horny dog humping her leg 24/7. I don’t know what answer you’re looking for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadAnd I specifically encouraged her to start telling me no more and I will stop withdrawing attention/affection in response to it (which is a tactic from MRP called dread). She‘s told me no to sex 2x for the first time in years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI have spoke to her about this… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYou really are serious about this question. But truthfully, I don’t know. My gut-react answer is she got less orgasms when we first met, but she was incredibly more enthusiastic. She‘s very self-sacrificial, I think she cared about pleasing me and was willing to do anything to do it and was wild she was getting fucked by me. But now… not so much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadBecause it‘s askMRP. Also no it‘s not if she faked it I probably wouldn’t know. There are times she basically pisses herself and squirms and shakes and I think that‘s obvious enough. But then there are times she doesn’t piss and still squirms and shakes and makes a loud noise and honestly it could be faked. She‘s said otherwise. I don’t know really. No, she‘s never stopped. I don’t get her off every time as she frequently say‘s no to me eating her out even though I make it clear I enjoy doing so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYou take everything very literal. The sincere understanding that “I‘m on the spectrum“ was amusing. But no, I‘m not. Just simply not great at deciphering or having to guess her feelings about things. No need to apologize about anything. I also don’t mention pleasuring her as it‘s askMRP. Notice the context. She also has orgasmed from me eating her out before, many times. According to her she‘s only faked it once (don’t know if that’s true but I‘ll go with it). She also doesn’t cry every time in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYou come at this with the pretense that I don’t want her to enjoy fucking. Which definitely isn’t the case. Some women are not as blunt as you. Attempting to understand how she is feeling or what she wants proves itself to be difficult on a daily basis. I have to play a guessing game, sometimes for years, to arrive at an answer. I say all this as the truth is — I don’t truly know what she wants or enjoys. She expects me to just get it without any discussion, as if it should be obvious — and I as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI‘m not claiming she likes sex with me now. But in the beginning, I definitely think she did. She must like something about me to put out 5x a week for years despite not wanting to — and it’s not money. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadIt is when I‘m dead broke. What else is she getting from being with me? The answer is my appearance, and maybe sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 01:49 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI agree with the first part of what you’ve said, but “dreading“ and withdrawing attention is what made her feel incapable of telling me no to begin with — so I won’t be doing that. I agree I need more money though, and status. Working on it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNo, but I‘ve been encouraging her to tell me no when she doesn’t want it. She‘s given me a no 2x for the first time in years — don‘t even recall the last time I got a no. It sounds funny that I‘m celebrating over her telling me no for sex, but yeah I am. Also, just to brag, she still said yes 2x as well. Hopefully not out of feeling forced — not sure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI am very in-shape, am on the verge of competing in bodybuilding. I keep myself well put-together. My wife tell‘s me she‘s attracted to me and I genuinely believe it. I get the attention of a lot of women. I‘ve gone to the gym 6x a week for years, lifted since 13-14, and been on steroids since 19. I am in-shape. I can promise you that. Now… I don‘t say all of that to brag, but to point out, that maybe, just maybe, it isn‘t an issue of attraction. The problem is more likely due to her having sex … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadCaveat: It wasn’t until recently that I discovered she hates it and it makes her cry — and now that I know, I‘m attempting to remedy the situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThe steroids will aid you in that hope. But then again… I am fucking 5x a week. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 01:26 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadIf you look further you‘ll come to notice that MRP attacks every poster. Especially in askMRP. It‘s an attempt to test frame. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 01:24 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNot anymore. Maybe you should have treated them better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 01:19 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI wish the same for your cats. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 01:05 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThis is exactly why she resents sex with me. It took years for me to understand that. I‘m making an effort to undo the resentment I‘ve built. Encouraging her to tell me no when she doesn’t want it and doing all I can to not be butthurt about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 12:57 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadHot take. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadGood advice. I appreciate it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadShe‘s said such. Whether that’s true or not, I wouldn’t know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYou do not definitively know whether she will ever have sexual desire for me again. I‘m willing to make changes in hopes she does. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 12:32 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYeah she typically doesn’t want foreplay as she just wants to get it over with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 12:25 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThe ?!?!?! made me laugh. But I‘ll answer you. How could I not tell? Every time we fucked, she‘d said “okay“ (as she felt she couldn’t say otherwise) and then anytime I asked her if everything was fine, are you in pain, do you want me to switch a position, she basically said “no, everything is fine, you can keep going“ and then we‘d finish up, and she‘d go sulk in the bathroom for 90 minutes. It wasn’t until recently that I‘ve learned she’d use that distance to sometimes cry. If it makes you fee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 11:47 AM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYou completely misunderstand what I said. My situation is well known in the Discord server. Only now do other‘s act as if it‘s heinous. Also, it‘s not until recently have I come to truly understand she hates it. She never tells me no (because she feels like she can’t) and even whilst fucking her if I asked if everything is okay she‘d say „yeah, it‘s fine, keep going“ with a blank look on her face. Autism behold, it took me 5 years of being with her to know that wasn’t true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 11:30 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI am “wtf“ from the PPD Discord server, my story isn’t new. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/22 11:12 AM |
| 0 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishAgree with everything but the last two sentences. I appreciate your input. I‘m in the process of getting a better career. I‘ve set myself a deadline and am attempting to improve my skills. | /r/askMRP | 08/08/22 06:59 PM |
| 0 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishI saw your comment the first time. But yes, that’s exactly right. What non-monetary price must I pay to make my wife enthusiastic to do anything I want sexually? | /r/askMRP | 08/08/22 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishNot her. | /r/askMRP | 07/08/22 01:14 AM |
| 1 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishI did re-read your comment several times over before I responded. It actually made me laugh that you‘d word it as, “defining for who I am,“ so I‘m not gonna waste effort attempting to decipher your poor rhetorical question. Maybe you need to stop looking so far into it, as the answer is right in front of you. Starfish sucks. Enthusiasm is enjoyable. | /r/askMRP | 07/08/22 12:46 AM |
| -1 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishI know right? How could I ever want anything better than starfish sex for the rest of my life? | /r/askMRP | 07/08/22 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishI did work construction previously, and while yes it paid better, it wasn’t significantly so. I also was constantly fatigued and lost a lot of energy for the gym. I have a plan in place to make more money, but I‘d agree that this is a good start nonetheless. | /r/askMRP | 06/08/22 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishAgreed. I haven’t managed to work through the majority of it yet (the exercises, not the book). I think money is my biggest priority for the time being. | /r/askMRP | 06/08/22 08:27 PM |
| 3 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishI hope you realize that excerpt isn’t from me. Retarded contribution. | /r/askMRP | 06/08/22 08:25 PM |
| 0 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishPerhaps it was poorly implied… I‘m not willing to remain in a relationship without enthusiasm once I regard myself as deserving of it. I don‘t currently think I am. | /r/askMRP | 06/08/22 08:23 PM |
| 2 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishNot sure if your question is to get me to deduct the answer „Validational Sex“ or not. Predictably, I don’t agree. I assure you, steroids and a naturally high sex-drive genuinely does make me want to fuck her for years, even if it‘s starfish. That being said, of course I‘m not happy with that, nor the lack of special sex acts (i.e. my last post), and that is validational, but I think rightfully so. | /r/askMRP | 05/08/22 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishRead the majority of the books on the sidebar as well. Still a pointless comment. | /r/askMRP | 05/08/22 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishPointless in the long-term. I‘m going to keep my current job where I have ample free-time and build my skills whilst at work and eventually get myself an actual career. | /r/askMRP | 05/08/22 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishAnswer to the first question is priorities. I value a coach more than new clothes. Every guy that‘s brand new or decently advanced has one, everyone in the middle thinks they don’t need one. I‘ve been at this 11 years. A coach is indispensable, and bodybuilding means a lot to me personally. Secondly, yes I have read MAP and MMSLP. Lastly, I‘ve had different jobs that were slightly above minimum wage, but nothing groundbreaking. I think my best bet is honing skill as a web developer and truly goi… | /r/askMRP | 05/08/22 01:37 PM |
| 3 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishWas on gear prior to meeting my wife. Started lifting around 13-14. Started gear at 19. Yes, 19. I‘m 25 now. The gear is cheap, but the food is expensive. So is the coach. | /r/askMRP | 05/08/22 12:37 PM |
| 5 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishOkay. Yeah. I agree with this. | /r/askMRP | 05/08/22 11:06 AM |
| 0 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishGood point. The only things I can think of that I‘m going to try to do in the near term and have been planning for awhile/just now are: Teach myself front-end web development and get a job as a webdev by October of 2023. This will raise my salary significantly, and I‘d have no financial issues ever again as long as lifestyle inflation isn‘t too severe. Continue cutting with my coach and get to 8% bodyfat. Will bulk again after, but that’s the game. Try to do all I can to remain lean on the bulk … | /r/askMRP | 05/08/22 02:31 AM |
| -2 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishIf I were unattractive, and I have literally no money or assets, why would my wife put-out for years in hopes of not losing me? Confused on this point. Put another way: Briffaults law here. Riddle me this. Why would my wife stay in a marriage where she‘s repeatedly fucked to the point of crying in the bathroom when there‘s seemingly nothing to be gained from it? | /r/askMRP | 05/08/22 01:00 AM |
| 8 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishThis is the most practical response I’ve been given so far, so thank you for that. I‘ll make an effort to hash-out my thoughts to each point. She finds me unattractive because: I am constantly broke and often owe her money, my wardrobe needs a renewal but I cannot even afford new clothes, I have no social life and have no real desire in getting one, I‘m too predictable, I‘m unnecessarily over-affectionate borderline smothering sometimes, she knows I‘m desperate to fuck her pretty much daily, asi… | /r/askMRP | 05/08/22 12:56 AM |
| 1 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishTypically, rich out-of-shape guys are here whining that their wife wont fuck them. I‘m the reverse. I‘m in-shape and broke and my wife fucks me, but passionlessly. Seems like a different scenario to me. However, I‘ll agree, I still have a lot of areas in my life I need to improve. | /r/askMRP | 04/08/22 11:47 PM |
| 6 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishLol‘d. Deserved. | /r/askMRP | 04/08/22 11:43 PM |
| -2 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishIn short, I shouldn’t have the covert contract of expecting any changes from my wife as she may never come along, and by having this pretense I‘m subconsciously communicating that her lack of change in behavior upsets me, and that further prevents desired change in her. Aka, have no expectations of your wife in response to your changes. Sounds like a load of bullshit. Am I ready to start making demands? Hell no. But if I were a greater man I certainly would covertly imply that my commitment requ… | /r/askMRP | 04/08/22 11:41 PM |
| -2 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishOkay so this entire sub-reddit was composed just so you could answer „read the sidebar“ to every question asked? Sounds retarded. | /r/askMRP | 04/08/22 11:33 PM |
| 4 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishI‘ve been reading a lot of posts new and old (aka lurking) for years now. One comment in particular has really resonated with me concerning this topic. It‘s by jacktenofhearts, it was an excerpt of his pertaining to why sex should not be something your wife considers a favor she‘s doing for you: For example, sexual intercourse. Not a favor. My wife doesn't want to have sex that night? Cool, no sex then. Fuck if I'm gonna let her associate sex with something she's only doing out of some misguided… | /r/askMRP | 04/08/22 11:29 PM |
| 2 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishSince she‘s the breadwinner, and she distrusts me with financial management, rightfully so, she conducts all of the payments/makes sure the animals have food/gets household essentials. Hell, just pointing that out really makes me realize how much I‘m fucking up financially. Although making a lot of money isn’t sexually attractive, being a fool with your money whilst in a marriage is highly unattractive. Also, yes, I‘m pretty muscular. Not natty. Been lifting for 11 years. My coach is currently p… | /r/askMRP | 04/08/22 10:41 PM |
| -6 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishI‘ve read it. This isn‘t helpful. Offer more specific advice. What‘s the point of askMRP if you’re just gonna say something along the lines of „hurr durr read the sidebar“. Hopefully my disrespect is triggering enough for you to go off on me and actually say what I need to hear, then again, maybe not. | /r/askMRP | 04/08/22 10:35 PM |
| 8 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishI‘ve read the original version of this post multiple times, never read this one. I‘d say it‘s mostly an accurate assessment of my sexual life, aside from the major caveat of me never making more than my wife, not owning a car, being a financial drain rather than benefit. She still always puts out despite all that. Of course I absolutely know my financial situation needs to be fixed, but I‘ve begun to believe it isn‘t an attraction problem, because really, what would she lose if she chose to not … | /r/askMRP | 04/08/22 10:32 PM |
| 2 | Wife puts out anytime I ask, but it’s always starfishMoney makes you attractive as a provider, not as a sexual partner. That said, I agree. I need to make more. Working on it. | /r/askMRP | 04/08/22 09:37 PM |
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